Horror Stories of Mark's Worst REJECTIONS BY GIRLS

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1:03 CoachMarkSingh.com Alright, without further ado, let's jump into the content. And today are the horror stories about yours truly getting rejected by girls. And trust me, it has happened many, many times. One of the biggest fears that we have as men, and believe me, I had this too, is getting rejected by chicks. We have this vision in our head that she rejects us. She says something that just gets down to this point where we didn't even know we had a vulnerability. And then our entire self-esteem, our entire self-image just crumbles under her power.

1:39 It's the black widow that bites you and then you die. You lose your self-esteem. You lose your life. You're humiliated in front of everybody and you're a laughingstock of the entire club. You're ostracized from the city. You are now homeless. You have no job. And you are masturbating in a pool of your own tears. That's literally what a lot of guys fear. But look, I'm here to tell you it's complete bullshit. I have done thousands and thousands and thousands of openings. And I haven't been rejected many, many, many times.

2:09 In fact, I was just rejected a couple nights ago when I went out. And most of the time, my friend, it is no big deal. But this episode is to tell you my worst stories, the horror stories, I guess, if they can even be called that. And then what I want to do is I want to teach you some turnarounds to the typical rejections. And then at the very end of the episode, I'm going to teach you how to make it look like you rejected her.

2:32 This is some really kick-ass baller stuff that I use all the time. You can walk off like a champ. And even if you are brutally rejected, quote-unquote, when you do these kinds of techniques, it makes you look like a champ. You get to walk off with your dignity intact. And you get to be a pimp of the club, dude. So stick around until the end. All right. This is the worst one, bro. I mean, I hate to disappoint you, but it's really not that big of a deal.

2:55 But this is the worst thing that ever happened to me. Okay. So I opened a group of people. And it was probably like six people. I don't know, like three guys, three girls. And obviously, I'm going for the hot girls. So when you approach groups, and this is a general principle here, you want to first open either the ugly girl or the dudes. So what did I do? I went up to the dudes, and I did the old opener. Hey, did you used to play soccer in this high school?

3:21 No. Oh, la, la, la. And then it opens up. I'd always do that. Hey, did you fucking play basketball at this high school? Hey, don't annoy you from this? Don't annoy you from that? Whatever. Open the dudes. So I start working it, get in with the guys, and then I move over to the girls. Again, start with the ugly ones, move over to the pretty one. So I'm talking to the pretty one. And then this dude walks up, and I guess it was her boyfriend, and he hadn't been in the group originally.

3:48 I guess he just showed up. So he walks up, dude, and he amogs the shit out of me. Now, today, I probably would have been able to handle it better than I did then. But back in the day when this happened, I hadn't quite had the training yet. And by the way, if you haven't listened to my podcast, How to Masterfully Take Social Pressure, I'd strongly suggest that it ties in directly into what I'm talking about here. By the way, amog is alpha male of the group.

4:15 And this dude was alpha. I mean, his girl was super fine. So, you know, obviously, he's going to be a champ. So he walks up, and he's like, hey, bro, I noticed you're kind of into my girlfriend there, man. That's my girlfriend, dude. I noticed you're kind of attracted to her. Why don't you two hook up? Hey, baby, give him your number. This guy's a champion. Look at this guy. He's got on these tight pants. Look at this shirt, man. Look at the shirt he's wearing.

4:34 He just amog the shit out of me. And I was like, uh, and I didn't really know how to handle it. I did all right. I said, hey, man, you know, she's a cool girl. You're a lucky guy. Anyway, have a good night. But as he was amogging me, everybody was laughing at me. Now, I know this is the thing that the majority of you guys fear is being laughed at, being the laughingstock of the club, getting your reputation hindered. Or she might say something that gets at some insecurity that you have deep inside inside of you.

5:02 And then she just makes you crumble. But dude, it's not going to happen like that, man. 99.9% of the time, chicks are really cool about it, especially when you're cool about it. When you go up in the right way, the way that I've explained, when you give her good energy, when you're a go-giver, then most of the time she's just like, oh, I have a boyfriend. Or I'm sorry, I'm not interested. Or thank you so much, but I'm on my way out of here. The worst thing they do is they're aloof.

5:30 They ignore you. Or they might say something mean. Now, if you're weird and you're persistent, that's when they can get mean to you. Like, if you go up, she says no, and then you keep trying and you're a dick about it, that's when girls will like, you know, give you the shoe. Like, get the fuck out of here. Leave us alone. They might push you. I mean, but, dude, like, we're guys with common sense. We understand, like, okay, if she says no, maybe try one more time.

5:56 Maybe come back later. But after that, it's like, dude, two times for me, it's like, okay, you're done. I have fucking 100 other girls I could talk to. Why am I wasting my time with this chick? All right, the second worst story is I was taught – it was with a guy again, dude. Like, when I get amogged, that kind of gives me the most anxiety. And I was talking to this chick, and, dude, she actually – I remember this. She actually said to me, is this what you say to all the girls?

6:22 So is that your pickup line? Dude, I hear that all the time. I'm going to give you the correct response to that. But she did one of those to me, and at that time, I was a little bit more advanced, so I flipped it on her in the way that I'm going to teach you. And then once again, dude, her boyfriend walks up. Now, he put his hand on me. He put, like, his hand on my back. Like, what's up, bro? What's up? And the guys will do that to show dominance, right?

6:45 They'll put their hand on your back. But, dude, he, like, put it on the small of my back. And I was like, bro, like, don't fucking touch me, right? And at that time, I was a little bit more advanced. This was actually pretty recent. It was probably, like, three years ago. But I knew, like, don't be affected. Stay completely still. Speak slower than he does. Move slower than he does. Keep your voice steady. And I just talked to him, and he did the same fucking thing.

7:08 He's like, oh, it's my girlfriend, man. It's my girlfriend, bro. And I was like, it's cool, man. Just relax. So I did the whole, like, relax thing to him. Like, slow down, bro. It's all good, man. I'm just talking to her. No need to be threatened. Wait, you're not threatened, are you? Kind of something like that. I don't know if I said that exact thing, but that's kind of the vibe, right? Is you flip it on him. Because, look, what I've learned is if a dude comes over, let's say you're talking to a chick, and a guy comes over, and he's, like, pissed off.

7:36 As long as you're calmer than he is, you win. Why? Go back to my how to masterfully take social pressure episode. The reason is is because girls understand that the guy with the strongest frame is the dude who is least affected. So if a dude comes up to you and he gets all butthurt about you hitting on his girlfriend, he looks bad. As long as you don't buy into his shit and you stay completely calm, maybe even have a smile on your face, compliment him. Be like, dude, she's a great girl, man.

8:07 You know, I was attracted to her, and I'm talking to her. No need to be threatened. It's all good. So, hey, what's your name, man? And you're cooler than he is. You could actually snake that girl out from under him. If he gets real butthurt about it, like, hey, that's my girlfriend. What are you doing? Dude, that's so low value. That happens a lot, and that's the way I handle it, is I'm just cool as fuck to him. I'm totally chill. I compliment her, right? Like, oh, she's a beautiful girl, bro.

8:33 Like, yeah, I was interested in her, but that's cool. Like, hey, no worries. So what's the deal, man? How you doing, right? And there might be that, like, underlying friction between you and him, but as long as you're more chill than he is, you're least affected. And remember, back to body language, which is another episode I just did. As long as you're least affected by the social interaction in your body language, like, you keep your body language open, vulnerable, as I spoke about in that episode, you're going to win.

9:01 And I've had chicks give me their number. I mean, I kind of feel bad about it, but, like, a lot of times that'll happen, and then I'll be talking to the chick kind of away from the dude. Maybe he's dancing, getting a drink, whatever. And she'll give her cell phone to me, and I'll be like, whoa, okay, well, here's my number, whatever. And chicks are, you know, always looking for the upgrade plan. And, by the way, that's a thing that oftentimes I'll say. If I feel like it, bro, honestly, many times when they're like, I have a boyfriend, I'm like, cool, he's a lucky guy.

9:30 Anyway, have a good night. Because why am I going to try to, like, do a boyfriend destroyer or even bother? I mean, sometimes they say I have a boyfriend as an objection because they're not attracted to you enough yet, in which case, if she's hot enough, if you like her enough, if she's enough of your type, you may be wise to try to plow through that. But most of the time, if they say that, I'm just like, whatever, dude, okay, have a good night. All right, so some other really bad rejections that I've had, always the hot girl, blase, get out of here, get out of here, loser, I've heard many times.

10:04 Not interested, right? You're like, hey, not interested, goodbye. And then they, like, put their palm in your face, which, by the way, I have the most epic turnaround for that. Stay tuned for that. One I get a lot is, did you learn that pickup line from a book? Did you learn that pickup line from a book? Another one I get is, is this what you say to all the girls? I had a girl say to me once, sorry, you're not my type. There's no way it would ever happen.

10:30 And by the way, I made it happen because I was totally unaffected. So when they reject you, if you could actually look like you're amused by their rejection and say, okay, whatever, and walk off, you can go back again and open it and it'll oftentimes open up really nicely. I've had girls reject me and based on my reaction, which is being unaffected, they would be, like, giving me the green light the rest of the night. They'd be, like, staring at me. Because when you're unaffected, she's like, oh, shit, I just rejected an alpha.

10:59 I didn't know. Because maybe you're like me. You're not the most handsome guy in the world. I got a big old schnoz and I kind of have skinny legs. So I don't always look so alpha. But when she rejects me and then I have an alpha reaction to it, she's like, damn it, what did I do here? And then she's, like, trying to give you the green light and then you can go back over there and talk to her. Recently, I walked up to a girl and she had a Lamborghini jacket on.

11:24 And I was like, hey, if I tell you a joke that makes you laugh out loud, will you let me do a 400-foot Brody in your Lamborghini? And she's like, no, get out of here. And I was like, okay. So I walked away. I mean, it just happens all the time, you know. And as long as you're unaffected, as long as you find it humorous and it's actually funny to you, then you have the power. They can't affect you. How can a woman beat you, quote-unquote, beat you, destroy you, if you don't give a shit?

11:54 You win by being unaffected. You win by being amused. Not amused in the butthurt kind of way, like, okay, yeah, whatever. No, no, no. Like, literally amused. Like, she just complimented you. That's the kind of reaction I want you to have. When a girl rejects you, I want you to kind of smile and laugh to yourself as if she just said that you have a fucking nine-inch dick and she wants it in her pussy so bad. It's like, that's the kind of reaction you want to have.

12:22 All right, so that's about the bulk of it, my friends. That's the worst I've been rejected, mostly by the boyfriend. Now, one thing you can do is if you're really scared of being, you know, hurt by the boyfriend is go learn to fight. That's what I've been doing. I've been taking jiu-jitsu and now I feel like I can handle myself. But also, you just pay attention, you know. Like, if you see a cute girl and you're like, I hope she doesn't have a boyfriend that's going to come beat me up, then just watch for a while and see if some dude comes up to her that looks like her boyfriend.

12:53 But honestly, it's like no big deal and when you finally get the balls to just start doing it, you realize it's no big deal. And in a way, I'm so happy that all these dudes are afraid of rejection because it just opens the playing field. It's like when you go surfing and there's nobody out. It's such a rare, beautiful thing and you're enjoying the waves all by yourself and you're like, god damn, I hope nobody learns about this secret spot. Well, it's the same thing. This is your secret spot is rejection.

13:20 All you have to do is get over it and take it from your old uncle, Mark. It's no big whoop. I've been in the trenches thousands of times. I've been rejected probably thousands of times and I'm here. I'm fine. I'm healthy. It's no big deal. All right. Let's go over some of the typical turnarounds that I'll use to some of the rejections that I get typically and then we're going to wrap up with how to turn it around on the girl and make it look like you rejected her.

13:47 Okay, so I'll always get the one, is that your best pickup line or did you learn that from a book? And I remember, dude, the first time I got that. I was living in Hawaii. It destroyed me. She's like, is that your best pickup line or did you get that from a book? I can't remember what she said but I went up to these three blonde chicks and I was like – I just – I reacted totally incorrectly. I was like, fuck you, fuck you, and fuck you and I walked away and I was like, eh, it probably wasn't the best reaction but it hurt because I did learn it from a book, right?

14:19 It's because that's where I did learn it. So now what I say is the real question is, is that what you say to all the guys who come talk to you? So one of the things you can do to chicks, and this is so powerful and it's one of my favorite things to do, is just say the real question is. I mean I do this all the time. Anytime anybody, any girl, anyone questions me, I just say the real question is. So she says, did you learn that pickup line from a book?

14:44 The real question is, did you just learn that from a book? Is that what the girly books I'll tell you to say when a guy comes and approaches you? Now what's interesting is she's testing you. She's testing the size of your balls because you're either incongruent, she's just feeling bitchy, whatever it may be, but she's testing you. When you do that, when you flip it on her, it fucking passes it. It's almost like they get friendly after you do that. I just punked the shit out of you, girl, and now you're getting friendly to me.

15:09 That makes no sense, but that's female psychology. Because you flipped it around on her. Another one you'll get a lot is, sorry, I have a boyfriend. Like you're just approaching and you're like, hey, real quick. And she's like, uh-uh, I have a boyfriend. Now there's something called the boyfriend destroyer, which I used to use. I don't really use it anymore, but it goes like this. You say, really? What's it like to be in the perfect relationship? Right? So you're basically having her explain what it's like to be in the quote-unquote perfect relationship.

15:38 But there is no such thing as a perfect relationship. So she can't really answer that question. Another way to deal with the boyfriend objection is something I do a lot when I'm really in the flow and I'm really feeling it. And I can tell she's attracted to some level, but she's just putting up the token resistance. Now listen, here's a side point, okay? Is a lot of these are just tests and she wants to know how you react. A lot of girls, especially the hot ones, it's just their default to reject the guy in the first one just to see how he reacts.

16:10 I actually think it's a really good way to frame check somebody to see the size of their balls, to see how masculine he is. And frankly, if I was a hot girl, I'd probably do the same thing. So a lot of girls would be like, sorry, I have a boyfriend. Now what I'll say is this. I'll be like, listen, we're running a special promotion here and it's the upgrade plan. Okay, so if you apply, we are accepting applications for a brief period here. If you apply and it turns out that you can take a relationship where you're actually way more attracted to the guy than you are now.

16:41 There's way more chemical exchange. The sex is just way better. Everything's better about this guy and God knows he's so much more alpha. If your application is accepted, I do want to warn you, it is a two-week waiting period and it is difficult to get in. But if it's accepted, we'll go ahead and get you into the upgrade plan. So that being said, how's your night going? Now, when you say that and you say it in a very composed way, right? Your body language is on point.

17:09 You're just in the flow. You've been killing it the whole night. Maybe you have some pre-selection going and she's seen it. That shit will work. Like I fucking destroyed girls with that. Meaning they had the bitch shield up and then the bitch shield was just boom, destroyed, evaporated, annihilated, destroyed. Goodbye. And suddenly she's just right there with me. Because it's like, how much effing confidence does it take to say something like that? Like basically, okay, you have a boyfriend. I'm the upgrade plan. It's time to lose the zero and step up to the hero.

17:40 What's up? Creates massive amounts of attraction. So that's another thing too. This is why I do suggest maybe trying again if she rejects you the first time. Three times, four times, that's kind of up to you based off the initial rejection. You just, with experience, you'll start to tell, is this a legitimate rejection or is this she's just testing me? Once she's just testing you, it's an awesome opportunity to show your frame. Oftentimes, I like it when chicks will test me in this way. I like it when I get bitchiness because it's like, cool, I get to go up 100 points right now.

18:12 Here, look at your watch. In 10 seconds, I'm going to be up 100 points because I'm about to prove to you that I'm alpha. When she doesn't give those rejections outright or when she doesn't give those tests outright, it's kind of a bummer, right? Because not only are they fun, but it's a great opportunity to show the size of your balls, okay? When they say something like really mean to you, what you want to do is agree and amplify. So for example, and I think I've had a girl say this to me a long time ago, is why are you talking to us?

18:42 Do you not have any friends or something? And dude, that's fucking brutal, man. Like a lot of my clients and maybe some of you dudes listening, you'd be like, oh, dude, I really would just get effed up if a girl said that to me. But what I want to teach you is the concept of agree and amplify. If a girl says something like that to you, agree with it and make it worse. Just be like, oh, how did you know? You know, I usually pay people to hang out with me, but I spent all my money on how to win people and influence others.

19:10 And unfortunately, I don't have any more money, so I'm here alone. You just pass the test. When you agree and amplify, if they say to you, what are you like, gay or something? You don't want to say, no, I'm not gay, dude. I like girls because then you're explaining yourself to them. You're qualifying yourself to them. Instead, you want to agree and amplify. Let me give you a test. How would you do that? Somebody says, bro, you're gay. What would you say? Agree? Yes, I am gay.

19:35 And amplify. I sucked 200 dicks yesterday. My jaw is so sore. Fat girls call me gay all the time. Why is your hair like all done stylish like that? Are you gay or something? Oh, yeah, so gay. Every single strand of this hair right there is meticulously placed. Do me a favor. Look at my hair. Strand 831, which is located right here. Is it out of place? It should be at a 45 degree angle and pinned right there to my head, just 13 degrees away from my sideburn. It is that way, right?

20:05 She's laughing, dude. You just passed the test. So a lot of times, again, a rejection is just a shit test. And what do you do? You agree and amplify. You flip it on her. And other ways that I'm going to explain to you in the eagerly awaited, at least by me, episode called Frame Control. All right, now, finally, I want to give you guys some cool turnarounds that I'll often use on chicks. So if a chick's real bitchy to me, dude, I'm going to fucking blast her back.

20:32 And one way I do that is be like, I go up to her and she's like, ew, get away from us, dork. Get out of here. And I'll be like, I didn't want to talk to you anyway. You have some badass breath. You got some stinking breath there, girl. Glad I didn't talk to you. Smells like a dead fish coming out of that pie hole of yours. Now, once again, dude, I don't like to be a dick because then it's like you make enemies in the club.

20:56 But if she's going to be an outright bitch to me, she's going to get a little back in return. Now, here's my favorite one, dude. I love doing this. If she's like, ew, get out of here, weirdo, or piss off, get lost, fuck you, get out of here. You pretend like you didn't hear it. You say, whoa, what was that? What was that? And as she's saying it again, you put your palm up kind of in her face. Not too close, but like a couple feet away.

21:19 And you're like, see ya. And you just walk away. So she's like, get out of here, weirdo. You'd be like, what, what, what? And she's like, get out of here. And you just fucking walk off. Take the palm because you're not the bomb. You stupid ass bitch. That's the way you want to handle it. So those are some stories of my rejections. Been rejected so many times. It's not even funny. Those are some techniques to go ahead and flip the tables on her. And those are some ways to reject her so that you can walk off like a champ with your dignity intact.

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