New Year's Resolution Blueprint: 5 Things to STOP Doing in 2021

0:00 Welcome to the Unapologetic Man Podcast, the only podcast that's all about self-improvement, confidence, success, women, and being a man without making any apologies for it. What is up guys? Thank you for tuning in to another episode of the UMP Happy 2021. I want to wish you guys a happy New Year's. I hope last night went as well for you as it did for me. I'm really excited about 2021. I know for a lot of you guys, 2020 stunk worse than a burning tire that got shit on by a sumo wrestler.

0:36 Fortunately for me, I did pretty good in 2020, but I want to do much better in 2021. Blissfully dissatisfied as I spoke about in the last podcast, but in this one, I want to talk about certain things that you as well as myself should be dropping as we go into 2021. And I said five things, but as I am apt to do, as I want to do, I want to over deliver and give you guys about eight things to drop during 2021. And this could be looked at as habits to create in 2021 to give you guys the best chance of success, not only with women, but also in business, money, happiness, peace, everything that we're all trying to go for as alpha, silverback, unapologetic men.

1:18 Before I jump into the content, I want to thank you guys again for the awesome reviews. So I took about a week off. And before I took that week off, some of you will remember that I asked for reviews because I was at 240 reviews on the American iTunes. And as of today, we are at 255. So 15 of you champions hooked me up with the five-star review. I want to let each of you know that I really sincerely appreciate it. And actually on iTunes, they haven't been updating it.

1:41 I think it's because a human has to go through and approve the reviews that actually have writing behind them and they haven't done it in a long time. So it's been stuck on the last one for a while. And then I logged into my analytics website. It's called Chartable. And I saw all the reviews in there, man. And it was just hit me all at once. I just did it today. This morning I woke up, I was like, dude, what the fuck? I got 255 reviews yet.

2:08 None of them are updating. What the hell? So I logged into Chartable and just one after the other, and it was so positive and it was so much love. And each of you, you know who you are, bro. Like, thank you so much for doing that. I read each and every single one, sent you a silent thank you. And a couple of them, man, really got me in the fields, got past the goalie, shed a tear. That's right. And my non-shooting eye. And once again, yo, I just really, really appreciate it, you guys.

2:33 And if you do want to leave me a review, you can do so. And then email me at coachmarksingh at gmail.com and I'll send you a bunch of awesome shit. And if you didn't email me, you know, I got 15 reviews between then and now, yet I only got maybe like eight emails. So the other seven of you guys email me, bro. I want to hook you up with some stuff. Coachmarksingh at gmail.com. Send you three programs, send you some videos, a smack on the ass, get your name tattooed on my neck, and a statue of you put in my backyard.

2:56 Get a screen printed version of your face put on the side of my dog. And thank you from the bottom of my heart for your fantastic gesture of consolidating. So what do you say we go ahead and jump into the content? So New Year's resolution, five things to stop doing in 2021, more like eight things. All right. So first and foremost, I strongly encourage you guys to stop watching the news. Stop following negative news that only wants to feed on your fear. And the way they get people to watch is by scaring them.

3:25 There is so much of a scarcity, negative mindset when it comes to the media that when you guys completely stop watching the news, when you refuse to be inundated with the negativity, which by the way sells, and that's why they do it. Positivity doesn't sell. It's not sexy enough. But the negativity that they constantly monger on the news channels does nothing but drag you down. Now you might say to me, well, how will I keep updated? Trust me, you'll find out about the important things. I never watch the news.

3:54 I stay away from all the gossip on Facebook. And I found out probably just as fast as you did about COVID. I found out about the vaccine. I found out about the Australian wildfires. Remember those? And I don't watch the news ever. My mom and my stepdad, they sit there watching news every single day, almost all day long. And my mom is the biggest stress case you'd ever meet. She's so anxious. She's worried about everything. It's because in her reality, everything goes wrong all the time.

4:22 But the way reality really is, most of the time things work out, right? How many plane crashes do we hear about? How many times have you been in a car accident between the time you started driving and today? Most of the time, 99% of the time shit works out. So when you're inundated with this negativity, which is all news is, you're going to attract negative circumstances in your life. You're going to be way more anxious than you need to be. You're going to be way unhappier. You're not going to be at peace.

4:51 And like the great Mark Twain said, I've had many problems in life, most of which never happened. Those problems, as he said, are created in your mind. Why are they created in your mind? Because you're inundated with negativity. So you're going to continue to think negatively. And when you think negatively, that attracts to you, just like a magnet, negative circumstances, negative thoughts, disease, and everything else that you want to avoid. And by the way, if you look at the word dis-ease, look at what it says, dis away from ease, being comfortable, being peaceful, being at ease in your environment.

5:24 Dis-ease is caused by stress. It's caused by worrying all the time. And that is perpetuated by the media. So in 2021, do as I'm going to do, drop that shit. People start bringing up negative shit. Like I have this hairdresser. God, she's so negative. I actually texted her the other day. I'm like, look, unless we can start I'm sorry, but I'm going to have to leave. And she's like, oh, okay. It's like, she had no idea. But dude, when I sit there, it's just negative thing after negative thing, like COVID this vaccine, that like, this is, this is not safe.

5:57 I'm not going to take it. These idiots, this, this is that. I'm like, bro, just stop doing this. It's like draining me. And you are the sum total of the five people you spend the most time around. So I told her, listen, when we meet, we're going to be positive. If that doesn't work out for you, then I'm afraid we're going to have to part ways. And she's like, I'm so sorry. I didn't even realize. And I'm like, dude, she didn't even realize this chick is so negative.

6:21 She's just spewing negativity. All she does is watch the news. All she does is research these conspiracy theories, why everything's going to go wrong, why we're all going to turn into zombies with this vaccine. Personally, man, and this may be a different opinion than yours. I'm pretty fucking impressed that we were able to create a vaccine in what less than a year. That is a pretty amazing testament to the perseverance and intelligence of mankind to be able to create a vaccine in such a short amount of time.

6:47 It just goes to show when humans put their minds together, when they work together, when we have a single purpose, we can do anything. And I want you to get open to the fact that dude, the world isn't getting worse. It's getting better. There's more abundance. There's more riches. There's more opportunity. There's better things happening and waiting for us in the future. I know that's a controversial view because everybody is saying, Oh, doom and gloom. Society is going to end. The dollar bill is going to collapse.

7:15 It's the end of the world as we know it. They even have entire YouTube channels dedicated to this dude. That is a scarcity victim mentality. I want to know what can, what can happen. What is our potential? Look what Elon Musk is doing. He's sending up 40,000 plus satellites into the atmosphere to create a net around the entire world to give everybody in the world unlimited internet. It's called Starlink. If you haven't checked it out, check that out. That's the kind of thinking I want you guys to get into in 2021.

7:41 Fuck this scarcity mindset. Let's get positive. Let's look at opportunities, abundance. That's what you're here to do. You're here to create. You're here to grow. You're here to show the world what you're capable of. And you'll never do it when you're inundated and seeped in negativity. The next thing is not to gossip. Number two, don't gossip. It's the same fricking concept, the universal law of karma, cause and effect. That negativity that you put out there, you know what it does? It's just like a boomerang. It's going to come right back and hit you in the face.

8:11 Why do we talk shit about people? Because we like to celebrate other people's failures because we are in our own eyes of failure ourself. We're insecure. We're jealous. Nobody who's truly successful is going to talk shit about another person. Now, even me, I have some work to do. I got a little bit left in me, but I've done a ton of work on this. And I can say with utmost humility that I don't nearly talk shit the way I used to. I used to be the biggest piece of shit douche canoe that ever walked this earth.

8:40 Just angry, talking shit, watching the news, gossiping, just a piece of shit. And I realized, dude, why does my life suck so bad? It's because I was putting out so much negativity and just like a boomerang comes back and hits me in the face. So I've changed it to seriously, probably 98% limiting the amount of shit that I talk. Fat chicks I struggle with. Sometimes I still talk shit because it frustrates me to see a hot girl who just let herself get fat, different podcast episode. But once again, when you gossip, when you revel in other people's misery, you're going to get that misery right back to you.

9:13 So if you tend to do that, as I did as well, drop that shit in 2021. Also in 2021, you want to listen to positive material like this podcast. There's so much positivity out there that a lot of us don't even know about because we're so seeped in the negativity. I want you to make a pledge along with me and I'm going to do the same thing. I will only listen to positive podcasts. I will only listen to positive audio books, positive movies, positive radio, positive thoughts. Because again, when you put the positivity out there, it's going to come back to you.

9:50 And this goes into point number four, separate yourself from negative people. This should go without saying, but you guys probably have a few toxic people in your life. And I know sometimes history with this person makes it difficult to separate yourself from them. But unless they're willing to change, just like the text that I sent Katie, my hairdresser, then you have to cut them out. Because if they're constantly being negative, constantly bringing up gloom and doom, woes me, COVID vaccine is going to kill us all.

10:16 It's like, bro, we don't fucking need that shit. We don't need that energy. Remember, you are the sum total of the five people that you hang out with most. So I want to be hanging out with you, dude. You and I are boys. I want to hang out with you and I want you to get positivity from me. Then I want you to go seek people like Ed Milet, Dr. Joe Vitelli, Gary Vee, Eckhart Tolle, Byron Katie, Wayne Dyer, all these positive voices in this world that so many people don't know about because positivity, trying to make the best of yourself isn't as sexy as the whole doom and gloom.

10:51 We're doomed. We're fucked. The collapse is coming. Oh God, China is going to take over. We're going to get invaded. Everybody's going to die of COVID vaccine. It's like, come on, dude, let's fucking let that go. Let all the people who are, I hate to say unhappy and not at peace, have that. You guys can have it. Go ahead and take care of it. You're going to do enough worrying for the rest of us. I'm going to focus on abundance. And I'll tell you, you get the life you choose.

11:17 So choose your thoughts very carefully because your thoughts are what attract to you, the life that you get. It's very simple. Your thoughts equal your reality and you get the reality that you think. So don't let any negativity, neither about yourself or the world or what's happening in the future come into your mind. You have to manage the gate. You have to manage the gate. We're sitting out there with your AR-15 and any of these negative thoughts attack, you fucking do a headshot, dude, like on the walking dead.

11:46 That's what you have to do with your negative thoughts. And number five is to drop all the excuses. As one of my other heroes, Jocko Willink says, all your excuses are lies. Think about that. Every time you make an excuse, it's bullshit because duality of thought, my last podcast, the opposite is also true. So you can make any excuse. This is why I can't get girls. This is why I'm not making money. This is why I'm not happy. This is why I'm not at peace. This is why I'm at a disadvantage compared to this guy.

12:19 Really? Well, I can make the opposite argument. And as an unapologetic, strong alpha male, dude, strength is in positivity. It's easy to be negative. In fact, weakness is negativity. Fear is negativity. It's difficult to be courageous. It's difficult to be positive. It takes a fucking courageous heart to look your problems in the face and say, I'm responsible for these. I'm not going to make excuses. I'm taking extreme ownership. This is all on me. I'm not going to try to talk my way around it. I'm going to face it directly like a man fucking does and deal with it.

12:50 When you stop making excuses, when you choose discipline as your higher motive rather than indulgence as your lesser motive, you no longer make excuses and you fucking get the job done. That's what we're going to do in 2021. All your excuses are lies. The next time you make some excuse, I want you to hear your uncle Mark seeing in your ear saying, brother, all your excuses are lies. I'm not buying it. You not approaching that girl, unacceptable. You not trying to close that sale, unacceptable. You not going to the gym, unacceptable.

13:21 You eating that donut, that ho-ho, that ding-dong, wham-wham, and zip-zip, un-ick-fucking-ceptible. All your excuses are lies. All right, tip number six, and this isn't something to stop doing, this is something to do, is to start a mastermind or be a part of a group of men who are going after the same goal that you are. Whether that includes joining my group coaching program called the brotherhood or whether that means joining some other program, getting together with like-minded people on meetup, meeting people who are into the same things that you are, who have a positive mindset like you do, what you want to do in 2021 is call out the negative people, cut them out from your life, and choose a mastermind of positive men who are going after the same goal you are.

14:01 They are going to hold you accountable. They are going to motivate you. They are going to tell you, just as I am, brother, all your excuses are lies. Why didn't you approach her? There are girls at the airport. There are girls in the supermarket. There are girls at the restaurants. All your excuses are lies. And when you do, we are going to celebrate that success together. And when you do, you are going to move up and become that much more attractive because every girl that you open is one more step up the staircase, getting to that level that I know you want to be at, where you can have none other than sexual choice.

14:36 Choose or be chosen because when you're chosen, it's unsatisfactory and you will make excuses for why you were chosen for the rest of your life. And you will be on your deathbed regretting it. So what are you going to do in 2021? That's right. No fucking excuses. Join a group of like-minded men, commit to your goals and execute them like a fucking alpha silverback unapologetic man. And lastly, guys, in my opinion, the most important thing you can do to hit your goals in 2021 is to get coaching.

15:07 Whether that's coaching with me or another coach, it doesn't matter. Honestly, unless you feel 100% in your heart that I'm the right coach for you, then I don't want you. I want guys who feel good about me, who feel like we're bros, who feel like I'm the older brother than they ever had, who feel like I'm the guy that already got up the mountain and who can show you the shortcut with both the tactical training of how to attract women, as well as significant NLP on all your beliefs, meta programs, traumas, schemas, and all the bullshit running in your head to get you to your goals in the quickest, easiest way possible.

15:41 I don't care if you choose me as your coach or not. I have plenty of clients. I'm in abundance right now, and I love you guys, love you guys. But this is what I suggest. Get a coach in 2021. They will take you to the next level. Show you ways up the mountain that you never even dreamed were there. Show you limitations in your thinking. Point out to you how you're making excuses. Point out to you the fastest, easiest, quickest, most painless way to get to your goals.

16:06 And yes, that does include entering your pain willingly. But I'll tell you, there's a whole shit ton more pain doing it alone when you have somebody who can show you the way. And if you're interested in getting coaching with me, check out my website, MarkSingCoaching.com. You can read all about what I do with my clients. I use NLP, Neuro Linguistic Programming, to reprogram the bullshit in their heads. And you can see some of the testimonials on there. But again, man, it doesn't matter. There's plenty of coaches out there.

16:38 Check out Tripp Kramer. Check out Mike McApinlack. Check out Kevin Ayo. Tripp Kramer does the How to Talk to Girls podcast. Mike McApinlack does the Social Confidence Mastery podcast. And Kevin Ayo does the Alpha Male Coach podcast. Those are my boys. Check them out. I wouldn't suggest them to you unless I believe in them wholeheartedly. But if you believe, no, no, no, no. Mark Singh of the Unapologetic Man podcast is my dude. Brother, check out my website. I want to meet you. If you feel as good about me as I feel about you by committing to a session with me, I want to work with you.

17:06 I want to meet you. I want to be homies with you. Let's get together and get you to your goals in 2021. You can hear it in my voice. I fucking care about you. I want to get you guys to the top of that mountain. And I've done it for many men throughout the years. And I can do it for you too. If you feel that I'm the right coach for you. If you don't, check out my other guys. They are absolutely superb individuals. And I would not suggest them to you unless they were.

17:33 All right, guys. So that's my rant for today. Five things to stop doing in 2021. I think we rifled off about six or seven. But remember, man, you got to separate yourself from that negativity. The news is just such crap, dude. I was just in this house the other day and the news was going and I was like, God, how do people listen to this shit? It's just negativity. And it's almost like they feed off of it. Their pain body, as Eckhart Tolle calls it, the shadow within you of all the negative energy that ever happened in your life.

18:04 It wants to feed. And when it's in control of you, it'll make you turn on that negativity so it can feed and nurture itself. But when you kill that motherfucker, when you get an ice pick and shove it between its eyes, it no longer has control over you. And you finally realize that in positivity is your freedom. But more than that is you are strong and courageous if you choose to be positive because being a little bitch, being negative is so easy. It is the cowardly way out.

18:27 Are you a coward? Every time you have one of those negative thoughts, oh, poor me, I'm a victim. I can't. Excuse, excuse, I can't do it. You are being a little fucking bitch. That's what you're being. Look yourself in the eyes and being, dude, you're being a bitch. But here's the thing. I'm not saying you are a bitch. I'm saying you're being a bitch. And what can you do? You can be a fucking hero. You can be a courageous warrior and face it and be like, yo, yo, yo, I created this.

18:52 I'm making excuses. Stop being a fucking punk. Man up, face it, get it done. And in 2021, if you're with me, that's the New Year's resolution is to have a towards mentality, go towards our goals. Don't get sucked into all the negativity, the scarcity victim mentality. That's for people who aren't successful. And I'll tell you, 95% of people don't have the life they want. Think about that. So we can say, 95% of people are unsuccessful. They're not making the money they want. They're not getting the girls they want.

19:28 They don't have the body they want. They don't have the happiness they want. They don't have the peace that they desperately want. Why? Because they're scared. They're living in fear. Are you going to be that guy? Are you going to be that little bitch that joins the 95% of the population and dies on your deathbed with unhappiness and regrets? I don't fucking think so, man. You're listening to this this far into this episode because you're resonating with what I'm saying. 2021 is about sacking the fuck up, being a warrior, facing your fears, facing your excuses, being unapologetic for desiring what you desire and going and fucking getting it.

19:58 That's what 2021 is about. Be your own fucking hero and don't live the same year 75 times and call it a life. All right, gentlemen, I got another one dropping on Monday. Please stay tuned. Happy New Year and I will see you in the next episode.

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