Attraction 101: How Female Psychology Works And How to Become Attractive to Women

0:00 Welcome to The Unapologetic Man Podcast, the only podcast that's all about self-improvement, confidence, success, women, and being a man without making any apologies for it. What is up, yo champions? Happy fucking New Year, 2024. My hell. Time goes fast, especially when you become an old grandpa like me, Uncle Mark Sing, the silverback of all silverbacks, your uncle who is here to help you get more ass than a toilet seat. And 2021, 21, what the fuck am I saying? 2024, that is exactly what we are going to do, gentlemen. So what I've decided to do is go back to basics on this first day of 2024 to lay the foundation for a year of intensive coaching.

0:51 I want to teach you guys everything it takes to attract women in 2024 because the times are changing so quickly. The climate is changing. What's acceptable, what isn't, what works and what doesn't work is changing so quickly that honestly, some of the content I've done before doesn't really apply anymore, especially when it comes to texting, the dating apps, and things like that. We need to update that shit. And I want to lay that very solid foundation today with Attraction 101, what it is that women are attracted to, and how to make yourself more attractive to women in the easiest, simplest way possible.

1:25 So we're going to lay that foundation today, and then we're going to build on it in the weeks ahead. A couple quick announcements. First of all, gentlemen, in about two weeks, yes, exactly two weeks from today, I have an absolutely gigantic announcement. I've been working on this for several months. I've been taking the feedback from you guys of something that you want from me that I'm about to give to you. My mentor is like, dude, I can't even believe you're going to give this to these guys.

1:52 But gentlemen, I like to give more than I ask for in return. So here's my request for you. Come back over the next few weeks, listen to the content. You know, I'm going to try to do my best to deliver the goods and check out the announcement that I'm going to make not next Monday, but the Monday after that. So with that being said, let's go ahead and jump into the content. Now, when we look at your attraction for a woman, what do you think that's based on?

2:11 I'm going to tell you it's based on her ability to have a baby. Now, I've talked about this many times in this podcast, but if you're a new listener, and I suspect I'll get a lot of new listeners based on the title. If you're a new listener, it may come as a shock to you to know that your attraction to a woman is based on her ability to have a baby. Why is that? Because our entire point here as a species is to survive. So the reason a woman's looks are so important to you is because it's all health signals of how healthy she is to have a baby.

2:45 Think about it. Healthy skin, sexy as hell, right? Healthy eyes, good teeth, good hair, good hip to breast ratio, nice proportional body with a healthy glowing skin and a high immune system. When you see those things, you're physically attracted to her, but it's only because she can have a healthy baby. Now, what do you think her attraction for you is based on? A lot of you guys who have been listening for a long time, you know the answer to this. So I'm just going to say it.

3:16 It's your survivability. How apt you are to survive in today's environment and even better, how likely it is that you're going to be successful. Why does that matter? Again, the kids. If she knows that you can have a healthy baby, that means that that baby too has a high chance of survivability. What is a high chance of survivability? Social intelligence, humor, keeping yourself in shape, having a good immune system, being successful monetarily, although it's not absolutely necessary, it is an indicator. Somebody who's ambitious, somebody who's passionate, somebody who takes risks, somebody who's highly masculine.

3:53 These are all attractive to women because they're indicators of you being successful. Now again, it's not necessarily you being successful so you can take care of her. It's more you being successful so you can pass on those successful genes to her children. And that's why too, women will sleep with a guy on her wedding night who is a quote unquote alpha male who has ambition, passion, who's a fucking champion, and settle down with the beta cuck to raise the children. As long as the children have those genes, she's going to get attracted to you.

4:28 So we understand that women's attraction for you is based on survivability. And the reason that is, again, is for the children. So when we're looking at you, how many of those attributes are you communicating? First of all, ambition. How ambitious are you? Are you showing women that you're ambitious in your pictures, your dating profiles, while you're speaking to them in the first conversation, in the first date? Secondly, how confident you are. What is the most likely indicator of a successful man? Confidence, masculinity, being the leader of men, and that's why the women will follow.

5:04 So when you portray confidence, it shows immediately like, okay, this guy can survive. This guy's a champion. He's an alpha male. I'm attracted to him. Now, attraction isn't a choice. Attraction is completely unconscious. This too, gentlemen, is why what women think rationally attracts them actually doesn't. So let's look at the typical thing that women say they're attracted to. They say they're attracted to a guy who's over six feet, makes over six figures, has a six-pack and a six-inch penis. We all know the 666 rule, don't we?

5:35 Complete bullshit. I have taken guys into my program that look like fucking unfrozen cavemen, look like mountain trolls, look like midgets with a peg leg and a mullet, and gotten them more ass than a toilet seat, which is what I want to do for you too in 2024. I don't know why you haven't signed up yet, you idiot. Come and join the goddamn program. So I'll take that guy and make him into a girl magnet. Why? Because the way you look doesn't matter. How much you make doesn't matter.

6:02 How big your penis is doesn't matter. And you can look like a chicken McNugget with tits or a potato with a bathing suit on it and still get more ass than a toilet seat because the way you look doesn't fucking matter, gentlemen. It's all about communicating those high value traits that do what? That's right. Communicate survivability. So you get a lot of females that say, this is the guy that I want. And then they'll go sleep with the dude who doesn't match it in any way whatsoever.

6:30 Meanwhile, you're sitting there being like, why is she with this dude? Oh, it must be because he has money. Bullshit. You know what money does? It points to attributes of success. Because I'm not going to lie, as a guy who is very monetarily successful, and I'm not ashamed to admit it. It takes intelligence, discipline, and a fucking plan to get that kind of money. And a lot of people who have that intelligence, discipline, communication strengths, and a plan to do that are naturally going to be successful and are naturally going to communicate to women subconsciously that they have survivability.

7:05 But I'm still the same guy I was when I was poor as fuck. Now I'm a rich prick before I was a poor schmuck. Not a lot of difference. The only difference is the current result. I still pulled lots of chicks when I was a poor schmuck living in my mom's basement and fucking wearing the same underwear twice on one side, flip it inside out, twice on the other side, rotate it twice on that side, flip it inside out again, twice on that side. It's a joke.

7:28 I didn't actually do that. Maybe. But it communicates that, bro, I will live in my mom's basement. I will be making zero dollars and still, yes, get more ass than a toilet seat. In fact, my best friend growing up, who I learned a lot of this stuff from, used to call bonafide nines and tens. And I'm not talking nines and tens that most guys say, oh, she was a solid nine. I'm talking Maxim models, IG models, famous fucking cheerleaders, famous actresses. Call them on the phone and be like, hey, listen, my monetary situation is not really good right now.

8:01 So if we hang out, I'm going to need you to pay. What do you think? And I'd hear him on the other side of the phone being like, oh, that's okay. I'll take care of everything. They would drive him everywhere. They would pay for everything. And no, he wasn't good looking. He certainly wasn't rich and he didn't have a donkey dick. He had game. Why? Because women are programmed to become attracted to those attributes, to those personality signals that this guy's an alpha male and he has high survivability genes.

8:26 You don't have to be successful now in order to show that you can be successful later. And that's all she cares about. Does he have the potential to become an amazing success? Yes, he does. Men are concerned about a woman's past. Women are concerned about a man's future. Think about that one. We care how many dudes she slept with. We care how many dicks she sucked of the football team in high school. She cares about how much potential success we could have in the future and whether or not we can pass those genes on to her kids.

9:04 But once again, it's completely subconscious. She doesn't know that's what she wants. That's why I hate it when you guys buy into the bullshit that women are only attracted to this, that, and the other, right? Being tall, good looking. Oh, that guy's better than me because he drives a Ferrari and he's six foot two and he has a six pack. Bullshit. I have yanked chicks off of super rich guys when I was living in my mom's basement, couldn't rub two nickels together. I yanked so many girls off those guys.

9:33 It's not even funny because oftentimes when a guy does have that success, but doesn't have confidence in game, it looks worse because he should have confidence in game. This is why when I see a guy with money who's rocking a super hot girlfriend, I watch him for a while and I see how his voice is wrong. I see how he carries himself as insecure. I'm like, dude, I will yank her off of him so quick. Even if yes, gentlemen, I don't have two nickels to rub together.

9:56 So the reason why women say they want one thing, but then go chase another thing is because they don't know why they're attracted to what they're attracted to, which is why I love this game. This is what I tell my clients all the time. The fact that you're learning this shit, the fact that you're in this program trying to better yourself, trying to understand female psychology, trying to learn the game and build your confidence puts you 10,000 steps ahead of any hot girl in a nightclub who thinks she's the best because she's good looking.

10:25 She doesn't understand how attraction works. So you can go in there with the upper hand, almost like playing a video game with the cheat codes on and win that game with her, even though she's quote unquote high value because she's good looking. They don't know what they want most of the time. Some of them have studied the shit. Some of them listen to podcasts like this one and get the insight, which I really respect, but most of them don't fucking know. They just think I'm hot.

10:51 It should just work out for me. This is what I want. This is what he must be. And then they'll go sleep with the midget with the guy and a fucking 1984 mullet because he has game. I have seen the hottest, most amazing chicks making out with fucking Canyon mule dudes. And I'm like, that's because he has game. Doesn't surprise me. Meanwhile, my friends are like, dude, what the hell? He must have money. Bullshit. Or they're like, dude, he must have the three magic words. I have cocaine.

11:18 And I say bullshit. He has game and frame. Game and frame. Now, here's one of the most fascinating things about female psychology. They don't know what they want because they can't rationally understand what emotionally attracts them, but they can look through you like goddamn radar systems to see how much self-value you have inside your head. So while they may not logically know why they do what they do, they consistently and predictably always do the same thing. And I don't care if we're talking about American chicks, Australian chicks, English chicks, Canadian chicks, Indian chicks, Japanese chicks, African chicks, fucking Scandinavian chicks.

12:04 I don't care. They all work the same way. We are human beings. We are wired to be attracted to the same things. Do you really think a Japanese dude is going to be attracted to a different type of girl than an African dude? Hell no. They like tits. They like good skin. They like good asses, a freaking thigh gap that you could park a Volkswagen bug between, and a fucking hot face with thick lips because they imagine it giving them a blowjob. What do all these things communicate?

12:29 They communicate that she can have a healthy baby. Do you think a Japanese woman and an African woman are attracted to different things? Like the Japanese woman is just attracted to a beta cuck guy who's always the follower and who's insecure and who thinks his tears will be lubricant for sex? Fuck no. Japanese chicks are attracted to the leader of men, the head of the Yakuza, let's say, just as an African woman is attracted to the head of her tribe, for example. It all works the same.

12:59 So in so doing, every single woman in the world can look right through you. Even if you're a Japanese guy walking in an African city, the way you hold yourself, the way you talk, your tonality, the way you have your bearing will dictate whether or not she gets attracted to you. So all of this is consistent across the entire world. And guys, I want to drum this into your head, especially if this is the first time you're listening to me. It does not effing matter how you look, how much money you make, how tall you are, or how ugly you are, short you are, bald you are, fat you are, or how much your peg leg looks like it was taken off an 18th century pirate.

13:42 Does not matter. It's all about game and frame. The way you hold yourself, your tone of voice, the things you talk about, how funny you are, how much you let her affect you if she tests you, how confident you are, how ambitious and passionate you are about your future, what your plans are for the future, how much you let other people push you around, how much you stand up for yourself, how unapologetic you are. All these attributes will make her unconsciously attracted to you. Yes. Even if you don't typically fit her archetype of what she thinks she wants.

14:12 Guys, I'm in my mid forties. I talk to girls all the time who say, Oh my God, I would never date a guy over 30. Then I get my hands on them and I fucking run game for five minutes. And they're like, how old are you? I'm like, I'm 45. Oh my God, you're so old. And say, yeah, I'm so old. I fart dust. If we go anywhere, you're going to have to change my diaper at least three times a day. And I hope you're good at changing tennis balls on the bottom of walkers because I usually need a walker.

14:38 I just happen to have a good night tonight and I'm walking on my own. Surprise, surprise. But usually I use a walker. Okay. And I show her that I'm unaffected by it. I have confidence. I tease her. I show her I don't give a shit what she thinks. I tell stories that shows ambition, shows I have a sick life, shows I have other women in my life, pre-selection. Then they get attracted to me. Now I'm making out with them, a 23 year old girl and I'm 45. And yes, I've done that many times.

15:02 And they're like, Oh my God, I can't believe I'm doing this. And I laugh to myself, female psychology 101 gentlemen, they don't know what they want, but they're always attracted to the same thing. So now here's the big question. How do you become that same thing? I told you in this episode that what goes on in here, and I'm pointing at my head for those of you listening on audio is the most important thing because the way you think about yourself, your attitudes, your belief systems, your self-esteem dictates your behavior, dictates your tone of voice.

15:36 The subtlest thing in your movement is dictated by what goes on inside your head, how you think of yourself, how you think of her. So if you're not fixing what goes on in here, they will see it. They will see it every day of the week and twice on Sunday, as most of you guys can attest. Some of you just feel insecure. You don't know what to talk about. You don't feel like enough. You think that Chad, who's six foot two, makes a million a year, and who has a six inch penis in a six pack is better than you.

16:03 So you go in with a low value vibe and she picks up on that. Because while women may not logically know what attracts them, they are always unconsciously aware of how you behave and what you feel your value is. Now here's the trippy thing. If you convince yourself that you're high value, it will convince them that you're high value. Why? Because a successful man can convince himself that he's high value, even if quote unquote, he shouldn't be, which is complete bullshit. That's why I love being a man in today's age.

16:36 You can work on yourself to the point where you can make yourself successful. Women can't do that. They're pretty much born how they are and how they look is huge when it comes to attraction. Why? Health science to have healthy baby. Yeah, they can get lip injections and titty implants, but that's about it. Really the way a girl is born is kind of the way she looks and she's stuck there. She's a seven. She might be able to get up to an eight, but probably not a 10.

17:03 Whereas with us men, I can take a motherfucking three in his own mind and make him a 10 and have him pulling girls like he wouldn't even believe. I've done it many times. I've seen it thousands of times and I'll do it for you too. If you would just apply. What would your 2024 look like if you got this part of your life fixed? What would you be able to do if you knew the exact psychology of women and how to remap your brain to feel like that bonafide 10 to make women attracted to you on command?

17:35 I'll tell you for all the guys that have been through my program, it fucking works and they are getting what they want, which is sexual choice. No more will you be chosen by some fat chick because she likes you and you're like, well, okay, I'm not really worth a lot. I don't have a lot of confidence. I don't know what to do. So I'm just going to accept this fat chick, marry her and then get on my deathbed and fucking regret it. No, no, no. I'm not living my life like that.

17:58 And I don't want you to live your life like that either. It's 2024 gentlemen. I have a program that will give you those belief systems with NLP, make you feel like a 10, make you feel valuable, make you know that you're the hottest dude in the nightclub and she's lucky to be talking to you. What would happen if you just believe that? And I'll tell you again, it doesn't matter what you look like. It doesn't matter how old you are, whether you've been divorced or you're in foreclosure or you went bankrupt once or your car looks like a fucking hovel on wheels with French fries stuck to the ceiling.

18:32 It doesn't matter, bro, Tendo. If you have the belief system, which I can map into you with NLP, you will attract women because again, women do not know what they're attracted to and attraction is not a choice. She wants to know that you believe in yourself. You're ambitious. You're confident. You're a risk taker. You're masculine. You're a go-getter. You are a protector. You can provide. You can preside. You can lead her into the experience that she wants unapologetically and be that fucking man that she's been fantasizing about since she was nine years old.

19:01 Even if you are bald, got a pot belly and look like a chicken McNugget with tits, it does not matter because attraction, again, is not a choice and it's all mapped into what? Your survivability. So that's attraction 101, gentlemen, how female psychology works and how to become attractive to women. It's all about fixing what's up here. It's all about knowing what to talk about and when to do it, how to lead the frame, how to lead her to where she wants to be led, how to qualify her, make her work for you, what to do on the first date, how to physically escalate, and how to make her fall in love with you.

19:42 You'll never be left again with this formula. But it all starts by knowing, yes, there is hope for you. I promise you, man to man, brother to brother, you can achieve that. I don't care what you look like. I have worked with dudes that, believe me, are probably uglier than you are, and we got them amazing success, just as we'll do for you. To apply to my program, gentlemen, to join us in 2024, click the link in the description below. Fill out the quick application. You and I are going to email back and forth.

20:09 If it all makes sense, you're going to get on a free one-on-one breakthrough session with my brother, my wingman, my partner, Victor Lynch, an NLP expert, who's going to give you a thorough NLP analysis to see why you've been holding yourself back with your fucked up belief systems that somebody gave you before you could defend yourself, those traumas that somebody did to you before you could defend yourself, and those archetypes, schemas, and metaprograms that are not working for you. Throw that shit out. Your brain is malleable.

20:34 This is called neuroplasticity. You can remap that shit, and the time has come to do so. Let's make 2024 a good one, not only for you, but for all the chicks that you're about to have in your bed. For all my clients, that's the reality. Gentlemen, I do appreciate you listening. As a reminder, two weeks from today, I'm dropping huge news that I know every single one of you is going to want to hear. So come back. In the meantime, apply to my program. You and I are going to talk and see if you're a good fit.

21:06 What's the harm in that? I also have a no bullshit guarantee. I will work with you until we at least 10x your results with women. I don't know what else to tell you, bro. I don't know why you guys are procrastinating. Get off the fence and join the program, you idiot. And of course, I say that with love, bro. I just want to meet you, man. Give me the chance to meet you. All right, guys. Thank you again for listening, and I will see you in the next episode.

21:29 So Check, check, check. Don't like that feeling, Liam. Check. Okay. Video's going. That's on. That's on. Hats on. Makeup's on. Yes, Liam. I wear makeup. Not a lot. Don't judge me, bro. Just my eyebrows and a little bit of foundation to prevent glare. All right. I'm not lying either. That's a funny thing. But it's not gay because I'm on camera, Liam. Shit.

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