How to Get a Girlfriend FAST: The Tactics of R.T.N. & Chemistry X

0:00 Welcome to The Unapologetic Man Podcast, the only podcast that's all about self-improvement, confidence, success, women, and being a man without making any apologies for it. What is up, you champions? Thank you for tuning in to another episode of the UMP. I really cannot express enough how much I appreciate you goddamn legends. Man, to tune in and download this podcast when you have so many other options. I just, I can't thank you enough, man, and I mean that sincerely. You could be doing a million other things.

0:37 Attention is what everybody is going for. They're trying to get your attention. So it's my job to over-deliver, to cut the fluff, to not do what so many other marketers do, and just give you bullshit that you can't really use. I want to give you something really tangible today, something that really occurred to me when I was trying to get a high-quality girl. And something that, for some of you, might be a little bit of a slap in the face, because this is reality, man. As much as dating coaches want to sugarcoat it and make it seem like the easiest thing ever, if you do just XYZ thing, it's going to be work, man.

1:10 And I'm the one dating coach that's going to cut it to you straight. You have to build the skill set. You have to, as I'm going to talk about today, run the numbers, and there has to be an element of chemistry, all of which I'm going to discuss today. Before I get into the content, I have a few massive, massive announcements about my three-month coaching program. First of all, ladies and gentlemen, actually just gentlemen, I think there's like three ladies that listen to this. First of all, gentlemen, when you join my program, you no longer get one coaching call per week with me personally.

1:40 You now get two. You now get two coaching calls per week. This is something I just added in. You get one with one of my expert resource coaches, where you have unlimited access to a guy who himself went through the program. I got two coaches right now, Austin and Tatlin, what is up my brothers, fucking champions, who went through the program themselves, were complete zeros with women, and of course are now bonafide girl magnets. They went through the program about a year, year and a half ago, trained them up.

2:08 I didn't want to grab somebody who was just a pickup artist friend of mine who I didn't coach personally. I wanted to get somebody who himself was a complete, absolute train wreck when it came to women, went through my program, and is now pulling tens, and who understands the material to a very deep level. So you're going to get one call with them per week, and then you're going to get another call with me per week. Come to both. Come to one. Come to neither. It's completely up to you.

2:34 You choose your own level of involvement, but this is a really exciting announcement that I've been so pumped to tell you guys about. Two coaching calls per week, over-delivering the results. Not only do you get unlimited access to the quote-unquote expert, which is me, your uncle Mark Singh, but you also get access to a dude who is also an expert, but he went through the program himself, so perhaps he can relate a little bit better to your struggle. So two coaching calls per week. Gentlemen, it's a three-month coaching program, 12 weeks.

3:02 That's 24 coaching calls where you're going to get trained up to get a girlfriend who doesn't like a girl that received a face transplant from a canyon mule. Okay? We want to get you the hottest girl possible, and in order to do that in the quickest, easiest way possible, I do have a three-month coaching program to which I just spoke about, two coaching calls per week, a full custom NLP protocol designed just for you, which I talked about in my latest episode, as well as my entire vault full of gambits, tricks, techniques, and secrets to get women attracted to you.

3:33 If you'd like to sign up to meet with us on a free one-on-one breakthrough session, go to my website, CoachMarkSingh.com, click on Coaching, fill in the quick application, submit it, and we will see if we can at least 10x your results with women. All right, gentlemen, without further ado, let's go ahead and get into the content. Okay, so what are these things RTN and Chemistry X? Okay, RTN means running the numbers, and Chemistry X means an X factor that can't be fabricated, it can't be faked, it can't be bullshitted to a girl.

4:03 There just has to be chemistry between you and the women who you're trying to seduce. Now, to start, we're going to talk about RTN, running the numbers. The biggest problem for most guys when they come into this program is that they are chosen by the women rather than choosing the women that they really want. Why is this? Well, first of all, approach anxiety. Secondly, they don't know what to say. They don't know what to talk about. They don't want to get rejected. And the myriad of other excuses that I hear on a day-to-day basis as to why they don't want to approach women.

4:32 So my job as your coach is to remove those belief systems, to remove those fears, and tell you that fear is just false evidence appearing real. It's complete bullshit. And once you get a certain amount of reps under your belt, and when I say reps, I mean, yes, boys, approaching women, you understand that it's completely safe. It's actually really fun. It's super fulfilling. It fills your brain with serotonin and dopamine. And oftentimes, you get laid because of it. Why do you get laid? Running the numbers.

5:01 Think about it. If you roll dice 10 times, don't you think it's going to hit seven at least a couple of times, if not only just once? I would say probably yes. And if you roll it 20 times, let's say 20 times per week, maybe two, three, or even four sevens will hit. Wouldn't you agree? So running the numbers is a very masculine thing to do. Masculinity doesn't take anything personally. It's all about the numbers. It's all about getting results. It doesn't give a shit about what emotional responses he may produce in a woman.

5:31 He gives a shit whether or not he's getting success, and he gives a shit about the numbers. He's very mathematically oriented. And if the math ain't mathin', then he changes his protocol in order to get success. Why wouldn't the math be mathin'? Because you're waiting for a girl to choose you. You're waiting for a girl to get attracted to you, give you this gigantic green light, and then you're like, okay, well, I guess she's good enough. She doesn't exactly look like a face transplant recipient from a canyon mule.

5:59 Perhaps she looks a little bit like a mountain troll. There's a little bit of mountain troll vibes going on, but I can deal with it. She's cool. I get along with her. You know, she really likes me. That's a big thing. So I'm going to settle down with this girl. Well, the problem, of course, is most of us are chosen rather than doing the choosing. I don't know about you, man, but I arrived to a point in my life where I was like, yo, I'm sick of being chosen by these chicks who, frankly, aren't up to my standards.

6:22 So I obviously need to learn how to choose how to develop the skill set so that I can get the girl that I really want. One of the ways to do that is to simply run the numbers. Now, when guys come into my coaching program, there is a huge element of accountability. Accountability means, bro, are you doing your approaches? Because I demand, as your uncle Mark Singh and my two coaches demand, Talyn and Austin, that you're doing 20 approaches a week. Now, immediately, a lot of you guys are like, oh, shit, I'll never join those jackasses.

6:52 I don't want to fucking approach 20 girls a week. Here's the thing. We do it in a way where we systematically bypass the chance of rejection. We first go in, and as I always talk about, we give value. We give good energy, perhaps give a compliment. We don't expect anything. I have people hit me up all the time, and they're like, man, how do you hit on girls? I just don't want to do it. I'm afraid I'm going to get rejected. And I'm like, why are you going to hit on a girl until she's already attracted to you?

7:19 The way we do it in my program is we go up, we have an innocuous conversation, which means innocent, no expectations, give value, crack jokes, make her laugh, push, pull, all the techniques that I teach. Then she gets attracted to us, and only then do we start, quote, unquote, hitting on her. And I don't even like that hitting on her kind of vibe because it makes it sound creepy. I like to call it flirting or showing interest in her. So while we're running the numbers, it's very safe.

7:47 We begin by doing what I call approach and eject, go up, say something real fast, and then get the hell out of there. So you eject before she can reject. And this is how you play the numbers. If you were to come into my three-month coaching program, I work on you from a two-pronged approach. The first prong, of course, is NLP, where we remove and install belief systems that are conducive to attracting women, conducive to believing yourself, conducive to getting you highly into your masculine energy and running the numbers.

8:14 The other prong is running the numbers. Where I have you approach and eject with 20 girls per week. And, boys, you don't have to join my program to do this. You can do this right now, right alongside the unapologetic man army, because we're all doing this together. You're approaching 20 girls per week, approaching and ejecting. Like I said, eject before she can reject. And as you prove to your subconscious mind that approaching women is safe, you no longer have the fear of doing it. Because strangers are friends I haven't met yet.

8:42 That literally becomes your belief system. So you can run the numbers, RTN. Why do we have to run the numbers? Because out of quantity comes quality. The more women you talk to, the more you're going to have chemistry. And that's where chemistry X comes from. I call it chemistry X because it's an X factor that cannot be faked. It cannot be contrived. It cannot be bullshitted through. Although I have tried to do it several times, and I'll tell you the results of that. When you're approaching 20 girls per week, as a lot of you guys know, and some of you don't, so I'm going to tell you, sometimes you just hit a girl who has chemistry with you.

9:17 You guys just jive. I personally believe that every single guy who listens to this podcast, at least for two or three or more episodes, him and I would jive. We would have chemistry. Like if I ran into you in the airport, and please, God, if you ever see me, don't hesitate to come up. Be like, yo, are you Mark Singh? And I'll be like, yeah, man, what's up? And you and I will chat. I guarantee you we're going to get along. Why? Because you like my content.

9:41 And I know that I would like you in turn because that can't be fake. We just have chemistry together. So because this can't be faked, if you're relegated to your friend's group or the girl who you meet at a kickball league or a girl who you happen to meet at a speed dating event, oh, that's a good episode I should do too. Speed dating, dude. Yes. Just thought of an episode. I'll drop that in the next few weeks. You meet her at a speed dating event.

10:04 You're choosing from a very small pool of girls who you may not have chemistry with. Think about your best friend. How many guy friends did you have to run through to meet that guy? I'm guessing probably a lot. And maybe you met him in childhood. Maybe you met him in college, wherever it was. But you and that guy have chemistry and it can't be faked. You've met tons of other dudes who you don't have chemistry with, right? It's the same thing with girls. So if you have the fear of rejection, if you don't know what to say, you're holding yourself back from possibly meeting a girl who could be your future woman, could be your future girlfriend.

10:37 So if somebody asks me, dude, how do I get a girlfriend fast? It's all about the numbers, man. You just got to hit the numbers. And again, I teach you guys how to do it in a way where you can bypass rejection. If you come into my program, I also get a hold of your brain and make you no longer fear rejection where it's not a big deal. You can run the numbers, have a great time doing it. Yeah, have sex with a lot of different women if that's what you choose to do until you meet your queen.

11:03 Now, that begs another question, a little bit off topic. But what if a girl accuses you of being a player, knows that you're dating lots of girls? Well, what I always say is, yeah, I'm trying to find my wife. Can't blame me for that. You're trying to find your soulmate too, aren't you? And she can't help but say, yes, of course she is. So that's always my reasoning. Another thing I want to say is the best way to not blow out your reputation is to be very careful who you have sex with.

11:29 You can date lots of different girls. You can get lots of different phone numbers, be out in the scene. But if you're totally afraid of getting your reputation ruined, which by the way, we can work on that fear as well when it comes to NLP. If you're totally, completely afraid of that, like when you think about it, you fart a little bit, then the best thing to do is hold back a little bit from having sex until you vet the girl, you know who her friends are, so you're not having sex with same girls in the same group, right?

11:55 Which is a big thing to avoid. But dude, going up to people and talking to them, you're a social guy. You like to give value. We've all met people like this who just talk to people, just bullshit with people. Now, some of you are like, yeah, but I'm an introvert and I don't want to put in all that energy. Once you get good at it, it's not a lot of energy. How do I know this is true? Because I too am an introvert and I've gotten to the point where, yeah, I'm just talking to people, man.

12:20 Even if it goes nowhere, I'm just bullshitting around. Every hot girl I see, she's getting talked to. And for 99% of them, I leave them better from having met me, which is what charisma is. So instead of thinking, I'm going to go take something from her, I'm going to inconvenience her, why not think, hey, I'm going to give her something? Even if I just give her good energy or give her a good compliment or give her a good laugh with one of the lines that Uncle Mark's saying, Tommy, wouldn't that be worth it?

12:48 Isn't that the equivalent of going up to her and handing her a $20 bill? I certainly think it is. And that's the way I've reframed it in my mind. NLP is all about reframing shit inside your head so that you can model the behavior of those who are successful and then become successful yourself. So when you're running the numbers, it's just about opening, opening, opening, no expectations. You're not trying to get phone numbers. You're not trying to get laid. That's the worst thing you can do. You need to be outcome dependent.

13:17 You're just talking to people. And even if it's a quick comment, like, hey, that's a really powerful pose you got there. Keep that going, which I say all the time. That's value. She may laugh and say something back to you and boom, you're in a conversation. Then the element of chemistry comes into it. Let me tell you this, boys. I have met probably about two dozen ultra fine girls who were so unbelievably my type that I fucking faked the shit out of the chemistry, but invariably it fell apart.

13:45 I went into the conversations. We just didn't jive. She was just weird in my opinion. Maybe she thought I was weird in her opinion, whatever. I don't give a shit because I'm internally validated, but maybe she thought I was weird. I thought she was weird and I still kind of like faked it to try to jive with her because I wanted to have sex with her. But I knew deep inside of my soul that we were not connecting. We didn't have that chemistry X, that X factor that can't be faked.

14:11 Then other girls, even unattractive ones, I talked to them and we're just vibing, man. We just get along. There's some sort of sexual chemistry there that can't be explained. I kind of noticed the red-helmeted warrior is waking up a little bit in my underwear and I'm like, what? This chick kind of looks like a canyon mule. Why am I feeling this? It's because that spiritual or energetic or whatever you want to call it, chemistry is there and that can't be fabricated. So how do we know who we have chemistry with?

14:39 Unfortunately, you can't really tell. I've gotten to the point where I can kind of read people's vibes, but that's just a vibe. Like, are they going to be cool to talk to? Are they in an upset mood right now? I can kind of feel the vibe. And yes, I prefer to approach girls who have a good vibe, although I'm going to be honest, I approach everybody. But you can kind of tell their vibe, but you can't tell if you're going to have chemistry. So back to RTN, you got to run the numbers.

15:03 If you open 20 girls a week, brother, I can almost guarantee you, you would meet a girl whose girlfriend material within four to six weeks. Now, obviously, my parameters for settling down with a girl are ridiculously exceptionally high. And really, I didn't want to settle down with a girl for probably about two decades because I was having so much fun dating lots of girls and having lots of experiences. But if your objective is to get a girlfriend, brother, it's farming, it's not hunting. And when I say farming, I mean that you have to plant tons of seeds.

15:35 Your net worth is dictated by your net work, which means you're planting lots of seeds. You're watering them. You're talking to lots of people. You're exploring the dating apps. You're doing top of funnel ideas. You're doing cold approach. Hell, you're even going to speed dating events because from quantity comes quality. You do enough approaches. You're on enough dating apps, which I know, within reasonable dental certainty, that you hate the dating apps, as most guys do. But what you're doing is you're putting lots of hooks into the water.

16:04 So by running the numbers, it's exactly that. Put yourself out there. Get into conversations. Run the numbers. And eventually, you're going to meet a girl who you have chemistry with. Whether or not she's hot enough for your standards, that's for you to decide. And of course, to get the hottest of the hot, you need to really develop the skill set, which is exactly what my three-month coaching program is all about, is developing that skill set where you can land the hottest of the hot. If you're dating four girls, then you're not going to make a bad move like double texting a girl or sending some needy-ass text or cuddling with her too long or confessing your love to her too early if you have other girls in the pipeline.

16:51 I have a rule in my coaching. It is, what would I do if I were dating four girls? I call it the golden rule. The reason it's the golden rule is because every decision you make with the female, if you run it through that filter, what would I do if I were dating four girls, you behave correctly. She doesn't text you back one night. Would you follow up with her and say, hey, I noticed you didn't text me. Oh, are you thinking about me? Fuck no, dude.

17:16 You'd be like, whatever. She's probably out doing something with her friends. I'm dating four other girls. So I'm just going to call Kelly or Allison or Amy or Sarah or whoever, bro, tendo, and have her come over. Because this other girl isn't texting me back and really, I don't give a shit. So it's the numbers, numbers, numbers. I cannot express that enough. We have to fill the top of your pipeline with as many girls as possible. Now, once again, some of you are like, oh, but what about my reputation, bro?

17:43 What if I get blown out? Dude, if you're scared of that, just don't have sex with too many of them, okay? Maybe like, I don't know, three or four a month, you should be okay. Especially if you're going out to different cities, cities around you, going to the malls, going to different events. Talking to girls at the baseball stadium, wherever you happen to be, that's when you're going to meet girls from different pools. Many times we blow out a reputation when we just fish from one pool.

18:08 Like you go to your favorite bar on Friday night, bro. Lounge de la Lounge. And then you go to the elbow room, which is two doors down, and that's it. And then you have sex with one girl from the Lounge de la Lounge. The fucking bartender from the elbow room sucks your dick. They talk, and now you're all blown out. You get blown out so hard, your condom launches off your dick when the concussion hits. The way to do that is to broaden your horizons. Run the numbers.

18:32 Be talking to everybody. Yes, even grandmas, sea donkeys, canyon mules, mountain trolls, Nebraska heifers. I don't care. Just talk to everybody. Let's not nick somebody just because they're unattractive. Even I still talk to people who are unattractive. Why? To warm myself up, to get in the flow. And I'm going to tell you this too. I've had so many girlfriends or girls that I've dated come out of girls who I opened who were unattractive. I opened the unattractive girl, kind of chat her up, drop some charisma bombs.

19:02 And then she's like, oh, let me introduce you to my friend. And I'm like, oh shit, her friend's a fucking Betty. She's hot as fuck. Yes. I'm so glad I'm social. I've also opened girls in the most unconventional way ever. I've literally pulled up to supermarkets and have seen girls walking out that were banging, get in their car, drive. And I've run, dude. I've like run across the street like Jim Carrey and Dumb and Dumber. And I stopped their car and I'm like, hey, I had to meet you.

19:27 I thought you were cute. When you're willing to put yourself out there and run the numbers, you're going to get all kinds of girls, brother. It's not just about making yourself as attractive as possible. And then you do the hunting approach where you just snipe one girl. No, no, no, no, no. It's running the numbers and waiting for chemistry. If you want a girlfriend, chemistry is really important because you guys are going to have to relate for far beyond just the first X many months where the sex is good and you guys are really jiving.

19:55 Eventually your personalities, your chemistry, your spiritual connection is going to have to come into play. You're not going to find that girl unless you're willing to run the numbers. She is a needle in the haystack. And I'm the one dating coach that's going to be truthful with you about that. So as you're looking for her, yes, you get to make out with lots of chicks, have lots of experiences, get some sick duck, have some sex, have a really good time. And I'll tell you, it's super addicting so much.

20:21 In fact, I spent two decades doing it, but then eventually you're going to meet your queen and you're going to be like, dude, this chick is down. I really enjoy spending time with her. The sex is amazing. She's just a fucking down ass chick. And I have chosen my queen and you've chosen from abundance, not scarcity because you are TN run the numbers and wait for that X factor, which is chemistry. So gentlemen, that's the way to play it. There's no other way to do it, but there is a shortcut up the mountain.

20:49 And that shortcut is my three month coaching program. I am going to curate all my material and teach it to you within three months. I am going to build a custom three month NLP protocol to you. That's right. You bro tater cuff so that we can reprogram the bullshit inside your head. I'm going to hold you accountable to approach and eject. Remember before she can reject with 20 girls per week over 12 weeks. How many girls is that? That's right. It's about 240, 250, even 300. Imagine how much you change if you could open 300 girls.

21:22 Imagine how much sex you'd be able to have. Imagine how many girls you'd be able to date, how much sick duck you guys would get. And if you haven't figured out yet what sick duck is, just change the S and the D and you'll know all about it. It's all about running the numbers. And that too is what we do in my program. In addition to teaching you the skill set, teaching you ways to put all kinds of hooks in the water so that you're catching fish after fish after fish.

21:46 It's abundance. That's what it's all about. From quantity comes quality. And your girlfriend, I want her to be the highest quality girl you could possibly ever find out there. And that's the way to do it. So if you want to sign up to explore joining my three month coaching program, go to my website. The link is in the description below. Click on coaching, fill in the quick application. You and my team will meet on a free one-on-one NLP breakthrough session. And if you're wondering what the fuck is NLP, check out my last episode.

22:15 I did an entire explanation on it. And personally, I feel it was a pretty good episode. So check that out. And we'll see if we can at least 10x your results with women. I want to fill your pipeline with so many chicks, which happens to a lot of my clients where they're like, Mark, how do I manage this? And then I have to teach you my spreadsheet technique where you're actually running spreadsheets just to keep track of all these women you're dating. That's what the fuck I'm talking about.

22:38 I do appreciate you listening, gentlemen. I draw a podcast on Mondays and Thursdays. So please stay tuned for the next one. And I will see you. That's right. In the next episode. Bye. Bye. Bye.

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