How to Get Girls MASSIVELY ATTRACTED - Push/Pull!

0:00 Welcome to the Unapologetic Man Podcast. The only podcast that's all about self-improvement, confidence, success, money, women, and being a fucking man without making any apologies for it. I'm your host, Mark Singh. And I'm John Anthony. And today we are talking about the all-important concept of push-pull. Now, push-pull is basically mixed signals. And what it is, is it's pushing the girl half the time and pulling her the other half the time. And it's about 50-50, and it should be about 50-50. So I was hoping we could do this podcast with my bird, my bird in my lap.

0:39 Hello, bird. He's being a douche canoe. Go on. Go on my shirt, dude. Check him out. There he goes down and he hangs out. So what you want to do is you want to give mixed signals. Why do we want to do this? Because we don't want her to know too much that we're too into her. So we want to be half the time hot, half the time cold. Half the time pushing her, half the time pulling her. So a real basic example of this would be, you know what?

1:08 It's too bad you're not my type. Push. Because you're really freaking cute. Pull. Right? So it's push-pull. And what we suggest, again, is about 50-50. And there's different ways to do it. You can do it energetically. You can do it physically. You can do it with your words. There's all kinds of different ways to do this. But it's so important to do this because most guys just pull, pull, pull, pull, pull. And then when you learn the game, you're like, oh, being an asshole kind of works.

1:36 And push, push, push, push, push. Now, I have to be honest with you. I'm a lot of push, like in my game. But when I do the pull equally, I notice that they get way more attracted to me. So that's the basic concept of push-pull. And I think I'm going to go put Jack away. Yeah, I can talk. Yeah, I thought he was going to be able to kick it. But he's freaking out a little bit. So I'll be right back. He's pushing you. Relax, dude.

2:03 Look at this fucker. Yeah. Isn't he dope? Relax, bro. He's got too much push, not enough pull. I know, man. Get in there. All right. I'll be right back. All right, guys, so I want to clarify, too, because sometimes this idea of, like, pushing and pulling, it sounds manipulative, right? But it's never meant to hurt a girl. It's just teasing and fun and lighthearted and joking, right? So, you know, when you say these lines that we're going to give you, it's never meant to be something, like, that's going to hurt her feelings or, you know, just be really mean and nasty.

2:36 It's meant to be fun, okay? Game is meant to be fun. So, when you do this push-pull, you want to be very careful because you don't want to, you know, it's not about manipulating. I'm just talking about how this push-pull is meant to be playful. It's meant to be fun, right? The underlying place you want to come from isn't, like, how do I manipulate this girl's emotions, but rather, how do I just have fun and tease her, right? Because keep in mind, again, when most guys meet a really attractive girl, they do way too much pull, right?

3:05 They're so desperate to get laid, they feel like they need it, they're outcome dependent, and that just doesn't work. But what you'll find is that if you even just put a little bit of push into your game, just tease her a little bit, have fun with it, you know, do the neg, as Mark said, right? The backhanded compliment, that old school mystery method PUA shit right there. If you do that kind of stuff really, really frequently, or I guess the right amount of frequency, it works very well, you know, because again, most guys, it's all pull, right?

3:35 It's, hey, let's go back to my place. Hey, you know, I like your dress. Hey, that compliment, compliment, compliment, shower her, and just like, you know, all these compliments, right? And that may have worked in like the 1940s, although even then, I don't think it probably did. But, you know, the best thing is to do some pull and do some push, right? Tease her a little bit, because it shows her that you don't feel like you need to fuck her, right? And that's the most attractive thing is non-neediness, outcome independence.

4:01 Right. So let's go over a couple basic techniques for push-pull. Let's get right into it. So the favorite one that I've been using lately, or one of the ones I've been using lately, is I'll ask her, I'll say, do you like to travel? And she'll say, yes. And then I'll push her, then travel over there. Okay, so after I push her, then I might be like, hey, where are you going? And I'll grab her belt loop, and I'll pull her in. I'll be like, why are you so far away from me?

4:25 And I'll pull her in. And I'll get her right here, and then I'll be like, dude, you're kind of in my personal space a little bit. I don't know if that's the way you were raised, but it's a little close for me. And then I'll push her back out. Literal push and pull. Literal push and pull. No, seriously. Literal push and pull game, yeah. Yeah, and a good way to do it is to grab their belt loop. You got a thing, hook it up. Hook it up.

4:49 Pull her in. Push her. Pull her in. Push her. You could be like, get away from me. You're too close. Where are you going? Hey, why did you leave? And just keep doing it. Push, pull, push, pull. And so that's really good. And another one I do is, it's kind of push, pull. It's like, why don't you have a boyfriend? It's probably because you're a bad kisser, huh? And she says, no, I'm a great kisser. The reason I don't have a boyfriend is because I'm very picky.

5:12 And then you'd be like, yeah, right. You do the helicopter tongue maneuver. I know that's why you don't have a boyfriend. And then oftentimes she'll say, well, why don't you have a girlfriend? And then you say, because I'm a bad kisser. I do the jackhammer tongue maneuver and girls always break up with me because I do that. So self-deprecation, self-deprecation. So that's a little bit push, pull. False disqualifiers are also an example of a push. So, A, you got 20s on your rims. She'll be like, what?

5:40 You'd be like, you got 20 inch rims on your car? Because I only date girls with 20 inch rims. If you don't got 20s, we can't hang out. And she's like, no, I don't have 20s. You'd be like, goodbye, we're done. And then she's like, what the hell? And you'd be like, just kidding. Come here. And then you can pull her back in. So this push-pull thing is super, super effective. It just builds massive attraction. And it says all the right things about you. Because like John said, most guys are so outcome dependent.

6:04 They're trying to get something from her. When you push her away in these ways, falsely, playfully, with jokes, then she knows that you're not so dependent on a good outcome. And consequently, she gets more attracted to you because of it. Yeah. And, you know, there's a lot of different ways you can do it too. I mean, I think it'll happen naturally as you just learn to have fun and not take women and everything else so seriously. You just have fun with people. But, you know, that's a great way to do it is actual physical push-pull with that joke that Mark gave.

6:35 Another one might be, you know, again, the backhanded compliment, right? So like if a girl – one good rule is if a girl has some sort of a characteristic that's like extremely exaggerated, then you can make fun of that and amplify it, right? So for example, if she is like a fitness model, for example, you can jokingly say, oh, sorry, I only date fat girls, right? I don't think you're fat enough for me or like, you know, she's – again, she's like really fit and she's like – you know, she's qualifying herself, which is key because a lot of this is calibration.

7:04 It's when do you push and pull? So she's qualifying herself and saying, oh, well, you know, I got down to 12% body fat this year or something. Just say, oh, I only date girls that are under 8% body fat. Goodbye. And then just kind of jokingly push her away or something. And then as you jokingly push her away, watch her response too, right? If as you move away, she kind of pulls in, walks in, gets closer a little bit, that's good because that means she's in that mindset of, no, I don't want this guy to go.

7:29 He's cool. He's fun. I like him. So that's a really good sign, right? And like we talked about in our last podcast too – I think it was our last one. We talked about how when you're escalating, you want to stop and back away before she stops you because that shows that, one, you have self-control, and, two, it's just so much more effective, right? So there's a lot of different ways we could go with this podcast actually. Mark chose the topic today. But I think this idea of push and pull is so critical because most guys, what they end up doing is they learn game, and they think that being direct and just super straightforward and quote-unquote going for what they want is the best way to do things.

8:07 But then they realize that in addition to that, you also need to not take it so seriously, and that's when you start to like blow up with your game is when you can push-pull. I mean it's like it's literally – it should be the bread and butter of flirting. I think so. And when she – the qualifying also works into this, and we spoke about qualifying in the previous podcast, but when she qualifies herself to you, one thing to say that kind of has a push-pull nature is be like, oh, that's awesome.

8:32 Like if you say, so what would your best friend say is the greatest thing about you? And she says, oh, I'm loyal, and I would do this. You say, oh, really? Like what's an example of you doing that? And she says, well, one time my friend was in a big problem, and I helped rescue her and stuff like that. You'd be like, you know what? That's awesome. High five. And you high five her. And you'd be like, you just went up 25 points in my book. You are now at negative 10.

8:53 Congratulations. So you just went up 25 points in my book. Pull. You are now at negative 10. Push. Push. So she's – you want her off her inner balance point. Your inner balance point is what I call your interstate of centeredness. And as men, we should always be on that interstate of centeredness, right? So oftentimes I'll get my clients emailing me and being – or texting me and being like, dude, Mark, I sent this girl a text two hours ago, and she hasn't replied. What do I do?

9:23 And I'm like, you relax. So off balance. So off balance. You relax and do not freaking text her again for freaking three days unless she texts you. If she doesn't text you in three days, talk to me. Now, what is the girl doing by not replying? She's pushing, isn't she? Now, girls don't do this consciously. They do it subconsciously because they're typically the target. So women will push by not replying back. And that's – by the way, it goes into texting as well, which we'll get into in a moment.

9:53 And then when they text, they pull. And guys are always like so flustered by this. But like I said, you want to be on your inner balance point. So if she does some push-pull to you, it really doesn't affect you. But when you do it to her, you want her off her balance point. You want her like flustered and messed up, you know? And it's not manipulation. It's how you'd act if you were – It's teasing. Yeah. It should be fun. But it's also how you'd act if you were high value.

10:21 If you were dating four girls, would you really be scared to be like, hey, do you like to travel? Yes, I do. Travel over there. No. You'd be perfectly willing to do that. And when you're willing to do these things, when you're willing to push, you get tons of attraction because only an alpha male is willing to push. Only a guy with options is willing to push. Only a guy who has four girls already is willing to break rapport. Now, on the rapport building, okay? What do most guys do?

10:49 They go in and they try to build commonalities. Oh, what do you do? What do you like to do? Oh, I like to ski. Really? I do too. Right? They're trying to – Oh, my God. We have something in common. High five. Yeah. We should go skiing sometime. We really should. Right? No, no, no, no. You'd be like – so what do you do for fun, Kelly? She's like, oh, I like to snowboard. You know, I moved to Colorado because I love to snowboard. And you'd be like, oh, that sucks.

11:17 She's like, why does that suck? And you'd be like, well, I like to snowboard too. And she's like, well, why does that suck? Because I'm so much better than you. I'd just be doing like backflips over you. I'd just be carving the mountain up and you'd feel all – You'd get in my way. Yeah, you'd get in my way. You'd feel all insecure. You'd get all butthurt. We'd get in a big snow fight and we wouldn't be friends anymore. So part of pushing is by making commonalities the reason you two wouldn't get along.

11:44 So most guys, again, when there's a commonality, they freak out about it and they think that she's going to like them more because of it. But she doesn't like you so much because of your commonalities. She likes you on how you flirt with her. So use the commonalities as what's called a false disqualifier. I can't hang out with you because you're into snowboarding just like I am. Sorry, we can't be friends anymore. But you know what? You actually do seem pretty cool. So we can be acquaintances with benefits, which means we can kind of be friends sometimes, but mostly we're just acquaintances.

12:15 All right? Don't be my friend. Don't be my friend now, Kelly. You better stay away from me. I know you're into it. Don't call me at past 2 a.m. I get enough of those as it is. Right? This is the playfulness that we want to generate with women. Super important, man. And most guys don't do it. It's like, where do you work? Oh, really cool. So you want to go out with me sometime? Yeah, sure. Here's my phone number. Boom. Never gets a reply. If you guys aren't getting replies, a big reason could be because you're not doing this kind of flirtiness push-pull.

12:48 Yes. That's a huge fucking thing right there because a lot of the time guys will ask me questions about texting, right? And the strongest leverage point that you can actually have is, did you have a good interaction in person? Because a lot of the time it's not like, oh, I didn't use the texting technique. No, it's your interaction in person was shit. So she's not texting you back. I know. Right? My clients will oftentimes, and God bless my clients, man. I freaking love my clients. Seriously.

13:13 All champions. Love those guys. But they'll often be like, dude, look, the text you told me to send her, the text you wrote for me, she didn't work. She didn't work, right? Well, bro, you didn't fucking generate enough attraction. Okay? I'm going to tell you a story real quick. Last Thursday, I was talking to a girl and I used all the techniques that I just explained and more. Okay? And she was so freaking into it that I was literally trying to convince her why she shouldn't date me or want my phone number.

13:40 And I said, you know what? I have to be honest with you. I'm homeless. I live right outside the bar over here. I live in a cardboard box. These are my nicest clothes. I'm homeless. She's like, I don't care. And I was like, how old are you? She's like 23. And I'm like, I'm 42. I'm literally old enough to be your grandfather. I don't care. I like older guys. Right? I'm like, so next week I'm applying for Colorado's Smelliest Feet Championship because I have like the gnarliest, smelliest feet ever.

14:06 And it's pretty gross. She's like, I don't care. You're a guy. You're supposed to like, bro, if you have enough attraction, they don't give a fuck. You can disqualify yourself all day long. So would she have replied to my text? Yeah, for sure. If I got her number, which she's like, bro, she was like trying to get, she's like, let me get your number. I'm like, I looked at her phone. I'm like, your cell phone is too small to hold my big number. I'm sorry. I can't do it.

14:33 And she's like, why not? Why can't you? I'm like, you know, I'm just, I'm just not into it. Like come back next Thursday. We'll see what we can do for you. Obviously I reject girls because I have a girlfriend and I can be in that position. But what I've learned from that is it just seems like the more I say, no, no, no, push, push, push, the more they just come at me. And like, I will say some shit that's just like, like, dude, I have a, I have a one inch penis.

14:57 You know, I have your name tattooed on it, but it's so small. You probably won't see it because my penis is so small. Oh, I don't care. It's all about the way you use it. Like, bro, they will make excuses for you. Most guys are making excuses for themselves, but when you have enough attraction, they'll make excuses for you. Hey, can you turn up, can you turn up the volume on your, on my end? Just, just a nipple, dude. Just a, that's, this is, this is one nipple.

15:21 Is that better? Yeah, I can hear you a little bit better. Just in the, so, Hey dude, did you put, did you put your inside her? I did. I put my inside her. Hey man, I don't know if you didn't want to bring this up. Didn't you have a threesome the other day? Yeah, I actually did. Cheers. Thank you, man. Thank you. Um, yeah, yeah. So, and the way that I orchestrated that, by the way, guys, is like, I slept with one girl and then I slept with another girl and then one of the girls invited me to a party.

15:52 So I just invited the other girl that I already slept with. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Right. So it's so simple. Like, and it's funny cause it blows guys' minds too. When they see that you can like disqualify and it works, right? Like literally you can just say the dumbest fucking shit, but if she has attraction and it's coming from the right place, it will not even matter. And she will be like, she'll like get furiously attracted. Like she'll be angry that she can't fuck you right now.

16:17 She'll, she'll literally get angry and she'll like want to, she'll start pulling you. She's mad, dude. She's like, I'm leaving. I'm leaving. I was like, all right, bye. See you later. Bro, she came back an hour later and she's standing there. I'm like, I thought you left. And she's like, I came back cause I wanted to get your number. I'm like, I told you we're not getting the number tonight. It's not happening. And she's like, like stomped her foot. Like mad. Like mad. I can't fuck.

16:40 Yeah. It's, it's so funny, dude. Like, I'm trying to remember like some of the lines that I've said that are just really stupid. Um, but the thing is like when I get in that state, I don't even, so I have a lot of like reliance that we, you know, we, we remember them and stuff from going out so much, but I just honestly say what comes to my mind. And you'll notice guys, like when you're in the zone, it just comes so fast and it's like the dumbest shit.

17:02 Like, Oh no, you don't want to go home with me. Uh, I, I have too much water in my place or just something that doesn't make any fucking sense. And she's like, like, why is this? Why? Like, I want to fuck you. Like what the hell? So, um, yeah, it's like when it comes from the right place, it's so powerful. Yeah. I was like, I was talking to her in the. The conversation kind of dropped for a second. And I was like, usually I'll like, I'll put the conversational burden on her.

17:25 You know, I'll be like, say something. But I was just, I wanted to say something really gnarly. I was like, I have to get out of here. And she's like, why? I'm like, cause I think I left the door open on my, on my bathroom. I think I left my bathroom door open. I got to go. She's like, no, you don't. You just want to leave. I'm like, yeah. Cause you like, you're like stalker, Texas ranger, dude. I don't want to get mixed up with you, right?

17:47 Yeah. Yeah. So one thing I'll say too, is like, like, oh no, I actually have AIDS, herpes, gonorrhea, and syphilis. And like four baby mothers or just something like that. Yeah. And like, do that as a social experiment guys. Like when a girl is into you jokingly say that and watch her attraction spike. Yeah. It's like, it's unreal. It's weird how it works. It's so counterintuitive the way females work. So, so push, push, push. Now, if you do too much push, although I don't know, dude, it's like when they're attracted enough, it seems like you can just push to infinity and they don't break.

18:17 And that's, and that's the key is the calibration. Cause like a lot of guys, they're going to, they're going to hear this and they're like, okay. And then they're going to go in and start pushing from the start with zero attraction. Why didn't it work? What the fuck, Mark? This is a stupid podcast, John. You lied to me. Right. But like, you know, go in, use a funny opener or just be, you know, if it's, uh, more of like a, a social circle type thing, just be friendly and just slowly pepper in a little bit of push, a little bit of pull.

18:41 And the thing is too, uh, I got this quote actually from, from Owen cook of RSD good game. It might've been taught actually good game is like plastic surgery. When it's there, you don't know it's there. Right. And that's the key is like, when you start off with this stuff, a lot of times it's going to be over the top. Right. Because you have to go through that awkward phase to learn it. But eventually it'll get to the point where other guys that have game can recognize that you have game and what you're doing.

19:05 But 99% of the population won't even notice. They'll just see a girl is laughing at you and getting attracted to you. And she probably wants to fuck you. And they'll be like, Oh my God, this guy's so cool. She's talking about how he has a one inch dick and she still wants to fuck him. How, how the fuck is this possible? Right. So it's all about the place that it comes from guys. And, uh, yeah, I mean, it's, it's literally, it's, it's that simple. It's the place that it comes from.

19:28 It's meant to be joking, teasing, and fun. And, uh, that's why I say, you know, to guys focus on your purpose, which is what I talk about in my seven strategies, because if you focus on your purpose and like Mark said, you're centered because you're centered and focused on your purpose. A lot of this teasing, it comes naturally. It comes perfectly naturally. Right. Um, you know, so yeah, just, just find like any dumb thing to, to just push and, and push pull. And if you practiced with this a little bit, you will be so fucking good.

19:58 It's unreal. And there's a lot of lines, um, from my book, the conversation sniper that, that talk a lot about this, the push pull stuff. But it's like, um, oftentimes what I'll do is I'll build, I'll build like a big pull and then I'll push it away and it'll be like, just drop it. I'll be like, so, so we should really, we should find you a guy tonight. And she's like, we should. And I'm like, yeah, like somebody you just connect with and just look in his eyes and there's just like this chemistry there.

20:29 And it's like bouncing between you and him and he moves closer to you. And then he looks down at your lips and it's just something about him. You just want to kiss him. There's that energy, that chemistry there between you. You could just feel it like almost like right now. Like you could just feel, and she's just like getting like, right. And then I'm like, we really should find that guy for you right now. Come on. Right. And, and she's just like, like frustration. And that's what push pull does.

20:53 It makes them frustrated, makes them frustrated, like sexually frustrated, angry, horny, that they want to fuck you. And they're angry that you're like so ambiguous about it. Yeah, dude. Yeah. So angry. Yeah. It's, it's funny too. Uh, and again, it's all about the calibration. Cause like if you're, if you're calibrated and you can, so if you have calibration and push pull, that is like 90% of game, you know, obviously there's, there's a lot to it, but like that, that will get you like 90% of the results that you want.

21:21 So literally just learning to read cues, learning to see what state she's in, how attracted she is and basically how much you can get away with. Right. I mean, dude, some of the, some of the dumb fucking shit that I've like done and said, like, I can't even, I can't even remember at the moment, but I'll make jokes about like, I fucking know, like I'm a Nazi or like, I fucking like some, some dumb shit like that, that I'll just like yell out loud and be like, I'm not like whatever, like hail Hitler.

21:46 Something like that normally would be super inoffensive, but that's the thing about a lot of the things that you say sometimes, like when you, so when you say something that's like extremely edgy and people actually laugh at it and don't like basically try to attack you or status check you, it's emphasizes how high status you are. Right. So that's, that's a really important thing to remember too, is a lot of this is just emphasizing your status guys. Like, you know, like Mark said, if you're fucking 10 different girls, if you've got a rotation going, you don't care what some girl that you met out, out at some pizza joint thinks, right?

22:21 You'll say whatever the fuck you want. So, and that's why actually being an asshole works, asshole game works. But you know, don't, don't take it too far. You'll have to find your own balance that works with your personality, but a little bit of push, a little bit of pull works so fucking well. So for newbies, right, though they're coming from scarcity, they don't have 10 girls waiting for them. So what's the solution to that? The solution to that is to go cold approach as many girls as you possibly can.

22:47 Like 25 girls in a night is possible. And it's, it's easy. You just open, open, open all night long for six hours. Some conversations you get in will be 10 minutes. Some you get in will be five minutes, but out of 25 opens, even a newbie should it be expected to get six to 10 phone numbers. Okay. Then from that, you use texting game, which John and I can teach you and we'll potentially come out with a product about that. But basically you do. Let us know down below, by the way, if you guys want that product, let us know in the comment section.

23:17 Yeah. Then you're dating. You probably date like two or three of those girls. Okay. You got two or three girls. So really you ask, you, you look at us and you're like those, those bastards, like they have game and they have abundance already and they're pieces of shit. But we, dude, we started right where you are probably even worse. I was afraid to look at a girl and talk to a girl, but through persistence and through bringing an effing man and just fricking doing it, we were able to build our pipeline.

23:44 Then from the pipeline, that's the first step. You are able to do the push pull because you're able to experiment. Like now that I have a girlfriend, I experiment with gnarly things. I've never said I'm a Nazi. Like that's one level up past where I'm at. But like I say some assholy things to girls sometimes and sometimes it blows up on my face and other times it's fantastic. Remember that one time I told that girl her ass was too big and she was, she had to tuck it in because she was going to trip somebody who was trying to walk by.

24:15 I've said that. She could offend it or something. Yeah, she got offended. I said, I told a girl once she had bad breath, which was true. That was, I don't go, fuck. I'm like, Hey, you want some gum? She's like, no. And I'm like, you need it. Yeah. You need it. I'll do that when girls are out of my house right about to hook up with me. I'll be, I'll like, be like, do you want some mouthwash? Because their breath stinks. Like what? You know? Do you want a dental cleaning?

24:40 Yeah. I have a coupon. Yeah. Oh, dude, if she has bad breath, she's done. Like I wouldn't even talk to her. There was this really cute girl the other night and I opened her and it was funny because she did something that a lot of girls will do. She did a compliance test on me. I don't remember what my opening was. I need a drink. No. She asked me for a lemon. She's like, Hey, can you grab a lemon right there? And what do you say guys when they ask you for a lemon?

25:04 My students will know who are watching this. You make her do something for you first. So I said, ask me in an Australian accent. And she's like, right, mate, can you get me a lemon? I'm like, right away, ma'am. Just wait second place. Like a boomerang. I'll be right back to you. And she just laughs. I get her the lemon and I give it to her. And I think I said, you know, you need that lemon, right? And she's like, what do you mean? I'm like, you got some kicking breath.

25:29 She got pissed. Got some gnarly breath there, mate. You got some gnarly breath there, mate. It's like a wallabite. So she gets pissed. And I was like, yeah, that was miscalibrated. But I don't fucking care, dude. Like, whatever. I've been talking to girls all night. Experiment with things. Some girls would be like, oh, my God, really? Thank you for telling me. And they would get more attracted to you because you have the balls to tell them. So I always like to push the limits, especially with push-pull.

25:55 You and I would never get along. Too bad you're this way. I don't date girls who wear yellow sweaters and black pants. You and my grandma should totally go pick up guys together. You know, all these kinds of things. So I told them, hey, I'm 42, by the way. I'm 42. What are you, like 20-something? She's like, yeah, I'm 23. Well, I'm 42. You're obviously like older men. So you and my grandma should totally go pick up guys together. I can get that in range for you. I like that line.

26:23 Yeah. It's from the Conversation Sniper, by the way. Yes. And you guys can get that, by the way. Go to get7strategies.com. Purchase my seven strategies. And you can buy Conversation Sniper with it. Does it come as an upgrade? No. No, no, no. It's the approach formula. The approach formula is the upsell. So go to… You have a website. Yeah. Get the approach formula. Dude, it's $10. $10. And a lot of these lines are in there and techniques are in there. $10. $10. And then you upgrade to the Conversation Sniper, which I also think is $10.

26:54 Dude, you want that in your back pocket, bro. This has… That's super helpful. All these techniques are in there. Yeah. Because even if you only remember like two or three and you just get the basic principle down, like that will get you such good results. And then you'll have leverage. You'll get more confidence to play with it more. Like I remember this one time I was with this girl. I live in a college town. So there's like a lot of really feminist-y like social justice warrior, liberal girls.

27:20 Yeah, I know. Tell me about it. But I was with this one girl and she was like really into me. And I like to push things like really fucking far in case you can't tell. And so, you know, I knew she was like really liberal. And so I was – we were just talking and I was like, yeah, I voted for Trump. And she was like, oh my god, like but he said he grabs girls by the pussy. And I was like, yeah, I do too.

27:38 She's like, like, nonchalantly, like, don't even care. And I like kept pushing it, right? Like we literally – we got back to my place. The entire time I'm just like, yeah, like these fucking – like we need to build the fucking wall, man. Like sort of – just like push, push, push, push, push. But she's so attracted and I'm so calibrated with it. And I say it in such a way she doesn't know if I'm joking or not that it's just like – like she's like – like she's getting angry and attracted at the same time.

28:00 Yeah. And we got back to my house and my neighbors actually were outside smoking a blunt. And I usually don't smoke, but I was like, hey, what's up, guys? Like, yeah, and I smoked a blunt with them. And, yeah, just like push, push, push, push, push. Make your weight. Push, push, push. Do not give a single fuck. And like Mark said, sometimes you'll get girls that get mad, but that's a part of the risk, right? And that's actually what you want because you – you know, when you're an attractive man, you're naturally polarizing, right?

28:26 So like I've got a buddy right now. We talk about this a lot. His strategy for game is basically very kind of like friendly and then kind of just like sleep with them potentially afterwards, right? And so he has a lot more girls in his social circle than I do, but I've fucked – he's fucked like five girls, and I've fucked like over 100, right? And we talk about this, and I'm like, dude, like the reason I fuck more girls is because I'm polarizing. Like I'm not afraid to just be like, yeah, this is who I am.

28:54 Fuck you if you would disagree, right? Because that – what that does is it screens girls because they know very quickly if they want you or if they don't, so you don't waste your time, right? And there's a time and a place for everything. You can be friendly, et cetera, et cetera. But keep that in mind too. Like a good game and pushing and pulling, it's meant to screen, and it's meant to polarize. So what's the deal with your friend? I mean obviously five, whatever. I don't know how old he is, but what's his game here?

29:20 Like is it friendling them into bed? So no, he just – he's just very friendly. So we've talked about this. I've tried to like give him a little bit of coaching, and funny enough, he actually – he visited me, and he pulled the very night that he came down to visit for the first time. So that was pretty sick. But I was like guiding him the whole time. I was like, dude, like make a move. She wants you. She wants you. He's just – his thing is the escalation is what stops me.

29:43 That's his issue. Okay, I thought you were telling me he had like massively good game by being overtly friendly, and I was like interesting. I want to learn more about that. Yeah, yeah, yeah. There's guys that – there's some guys that – I'm not going to name names, but there's one guy in particular who says like – you know exactly – yeah, I knew you were going to know. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And he's like be friendly, be friendly, be friendly. And that can work if you actually just want to be friends with her.

30:06 But if you're trying to sleep with her, like you're not going to develop attraction by just being friendly. You need to polarize and push-pull and flirt, right? So, you know, again, guys, everything has its own like merits, but there's a reason why he's only slept with five girls, and I'm fucking triple digits, right? Yeah. So – and again, I do take it too far sometimes. So I have one more – when's your client? I want to tell a story. I don't know if – We got 45 minutes, man.

30:30 We're way solid. Oh, perfect. Okay, cool. So I've told this story a few times before because it like – it illustrates this really well. So I was at this one party, you know, just killing it, right? Just killing it with this one girl. And, you know, she was like super fucking into me, like just incredibly into me. And so I was with her, and she had I think two or three friends, right? And her friends, of course, were like, you know, this guy is gaming our friend.

30:52 I don't like him kind of thing, right? So I was like, okay, time to include the friends, right? Win the friends over. Don't view the friends as an obstacle. Win the friends over. So I picked this girl up, spun her around, and she's like laughing, oh, my god, right? Spun her around, and then I just kind of keep her there, like, you know, picked up. And then I like look at her butt, and I tell her friends, like, doesn't this girl have such a nice ass?

31:11 Like such a fucking nice butt. And, of course, her friends aren't going to be, no, she's unattractive, right? They're going to say, yeah, she does. So I tell her friends to spank the girl's ass. They do. I spin the girl around. She's laughing the whole time, having fun. Spin her around, put her down. And then I go in, and I motorboat her tits, right? And she, like, likes it, but she, like, pulls back slightly, and I could sense it, right? So immediately, this is an example of how if you don't have calibration, things get fucked up for you, right?

31:39 I sensed it because I have calibration, backed up immediately, took a giant step back. In that instance, she recognized, oh, shit, this guy knows, right? And so she lunged in and gave me a fucking hug, like, a split second later. And it's because you know when you're going too far, and you can recalibrate and pull back, right? So I'm not recommending you go out and smack every girl's ass and motorboat their tits, but that's an example of how far you can push it sometimes if you've got really, really good calibration.

32:07 You know, and on this whole subject, there's also energetic push-pull, okay, and attention push-pull. So many guys, when they're talking to a girl, they're energetically too into her. There's too much energy and focus and attention going into the woman, right? They're leaning in. They get their smiling. You can see it in their eyes. And I watch this – yeah, it's like – It's kind of a tunnel, like – I'm like, how are – Yeah, a girl. Hey, how are you tonight? Good, good. Do you come here often?

32:41 Yeah, and you just watch them, and you're like, oh, God. I get a creepy feeling, you know? So energetically, okay, there's push-pull. And what I'll do is I will purposely be aloof. I'll start looking around the bar when she's talking, so she has to, like, fight for my attention. And then sometimes I'll be, like, right there with her, particularly when she does a behavior that I want to reward. So, for example, she's like, God, I just want to kiss you so bad right now. Then it's like, whoop, that gets your attention.

33:13 If she's complaining, which I don't like. I don't like negative chicks. I just start kind of looking around energetically, maybe even shift my body language away from her and pull the attention away from her. So it's push-pull again, like some things you reward, some things you punish, and you do that energetically. And now women do this to guys all the time, and I really need to— This is important, too, because, like, a lot of guys hear that. That's so manipulative, but girls do it to us, too.

33:38 Oh, yeah. Like, all this shit, you know? You can say it's manipulative, but girls do it, you know? And girls—I could get into that whole thing, like, girls making themselves prettier, fake tits, and all this stuff. So I'm not going to go down that path. But, you know, girls do this hot-cold thing to us. Why do they do the hot-cold? Okay, if you're listening to this and you're like, fuck, I'm talking to this girl, and, like, half the time she seems interested, other half the time she's not.

34:03 Well, that's it. Half the time she's interested, the other half she's not. She's on the fence about you. Okay? So when girls give mixed signals, it's because they can't make up their freaking minds. Remember, women are emotional. So depending on her emotional peaks and valleys, that's how she's responding to you. So dude sends girl a text. She doesn't reply. She doesn't reply in two hours. Bruh, like, she's probably busy, but if she doesn't reply to you, she's not really into it, dude. You didn't get enough attraction.

34:30 So just remember that if girls are giving you mixed signals and you're like, I just can't figure this girl out. She's so confusing. What's happening in your head is you're getting more attracted to her. Take note of that. She's push-pulling you. She's push-pulling the shit out of you. And you're getting way more attracted and you're getting all buttered about it. This is what happens to girls when you do the same thing to her. So for example, over texting, I'll be like, hey, hey, I got to get going.

34:53 I got to get back to studying. Right? Then that's a push. Hey, stop talking to me. You're texting me too much. Then she'll stop talking for like 10 minutes. I'll be like, hey, where'd you go? I thought we were texting. It's like a pull. She's like, you told me not to text you. I'm like, damn right. Stop texting me. You're texting me too much. You're blowing up my phone. And then like 10 minutes later, hey, where are you? I thought we were kicking it. And she's just like off her balance.

35:14 It's just fucking with her. It's fucking with her. Now you can do this. No response and long response times with women is very powerful. Okay. So if she acts up over texting, no response for like 24 hours. And don't say it. Don't say, oh, if you talk to me like that, I'm not going to respond. Just don't respond. Right. Because when you say, when you say that, that's a beta male trying to say, I'm going to, I'm going to act like an alpha male. If you don't treat me this way, just actually don't do it.

35:44 I'm going to act like an alpha male. If you do not behave in the way of which I want. So you better text me back now. Or dude, if you, if she, if she doesn't text you back and you're like, hey, why aren't you texting me? Are you okay? Done. Blown out. Goodbye. You're done. So dude, go ahead. And in versity too, to put a different spin on that. Sometimes if a girl doesn't text me back for like a week and a half, I'll jokingly send her something like, hey, like I was talking with this cute girl, but like, I haven't heard from her in a week, like I'm just calling to make sure or texting and make sure like she didn't get kidnapped and killed.

36:17 Uh, can you, can you like something like that? Right. But if it's like, like, like we're saying, it's the place it comes from. If you're off your center, like Mark says, and like I say, then that's not going to be a good thing. So literally put your phone down and just meditate for like 20 minutes and go do something else. Yeah. And then just wait. Yeah. And she'll, she'll text back. Usually, you know, a couple of days goes by, uh, there's different tech strategies that I help my students with to get them to get them to come back.

36:41 But really, if you get enough attraction in the first conversation, like bro, she's going to be blowing up your phone. She's going to be texting you so much. So really using these strategies in the first conversation is important and going back even to being a newbie, just open, open, open, open, open, talk to as many sets as you possibly can get over the fear of rejection. Don't be a little bitch. Just go open them and eject. If you have to start getting numbers, start texting with these girls and dude, getting into these conversations and practicing what it's like to get girls attracted to you is just everything.

37:16 It's everything. You know, you can listen to these podcasts and it's like safe, right? Right now you're safe. You're listening to a podcast and you're hoping, you're hoping that Mark and John give you that golden gem. Well, we are giving you the golden gem, but dude, you got to use it. You have to use it. You got to go cash that golden gem in. If you don't use it, we, you can listen to podcasts for the rest of your life. And this is the hardest part with my clients.

37:38 I'm like, bro, you need to go open chicks. And I, I even tell them, I'm like, look, I'm your leader. I will go open 25 girls today. If you just open 10. Deal. Yes. Deal. Then I go open 25 just so they can open 10. And I'll do that because, you know, I lead from the front, but it's really hard to get them to act because people are so afraid of rejection. But dude, she rejected your approach. She didn't reject, reject you. She doesn't know. Exactly. Exactly. Rejection is just feedback.

38:07 It's not even rejection, right? Like feedback, failure, quote unquote, failure is feedback and you learn from it. And eventually, I mean, yeah, you know, Mark and I probably still get a little bit off our center. Sometimes if we're in a bad mood and we get rejected, it's normal, but you want to reach the point where like you really don't care that much. And in fact, you actually view them as being stupid for rejecting you, right? Like I know we're on the same page. You're like, I'll literally, I'll go out sometimes and I'll like, like this one fucking girl that was really rude to me recently.

38:39 I'm like thinking in my head, I'm like, I'm 24. I dropped out of college. I have a business. I've literally fucked over a hundred girls. They all tell me that I'm the best guy they've ever fucked. Like you're retarded. Like you're literally retarded. Like you're over there with some like neckbeard, little scrawny bitch who fucking doesn't listen to the unapologetic man podcast. And like, I'm just like, it's almost like I feel bad for them. Right. So you've reached that point eventually guys, but that's why you have to focus on yourself and get your own shit in order.

39:07 So, and that's the way you should think, man, is that you're the prize, you're a champion. And if it doesn't go well, well, Hey, you're just learning this. This is new for you. You're miscalibrated. We were all there. We were all miscalibrated once. And eventually you get your calibration down, but you need to get over that point of just like not fun, not fun, rejection, rejection, rejection. Then eventually you start getting successes and then it's like this and it becomes really fun, really fun. And it just becomes like just this amazing hobby that you look forward to doing and, and you get more successes than rejections.

39:42 And then when a rejection happens, like what happened with John and the girl who liked the guy with the neck beard, you just laugh it off and say, dude, this, you're an idiot. If you're not attracted to me, literally. Yeah. You're stupid because you, you're just malfunctioning. Obviously you have an issue. Yeah. And it's not even like a bitterness thing. It's just like by all objective metrics, like what, what are you doing with your life? Like you're, you, and you know, I've, it took me forever to learn that, but, uh, some girls are just fucking stupid.

40:10 Some girls are just dumb and they will not see the value that you have to offer them. So definitely keep that in mind guys. Like that's really important. And, um, by the way, too, just real quick. So if you are in that place where you're struggling to take action with women, uh, honestly, and, and, you know, I'm not even trying to plug my products here, but I recommend you literally just get really jacked, go to get the perfect body.com. I have a workout routine, everything get really jacked and then go on Tinder.

40:36 And again, if you go to get seven strategies.com, you get my Tinder ebook for free. When you purchase seven strategies, just get jacked and use my Tinder ebook. And you can literally get laid like once or twice a week. Like it's really easy. So I know that that was definitely really important for me kind of breaking out of my shell and like getting better at approaching. Cause that gave me more confidence to like push the limit a little bit and then pushing the limit, got me more traction back.

41:00 And it's just like this giant upward spiral, right? So, you know what I was thinking about for a Tinder profile is like, okay, you know how sure we go. Yeah. So you know how like, um, your picture is you with your shirt off and you're all ripped up. Yeah. Is that the picture you use for your Tinder? Uh, I experiment right now. It's not, but that's my, usually my go-to. Okay. So if I were ever to get back on Tinder, I would have a picture of me ripped up with my shirt off, same picture as you.

41:24 Then the next picture would be like statistics. Like I'm standing there almost like a soldier, like on call of duty. And there I am standing and it's like six foot two, 175 pounds, penis, penis, like 16 inches long. 8.7 inches. Yeah. And like all the statistics. Networks. Like da, da, da. Yeah. Yeah. Network. And then like a picture of you from behind and like, and like charismatic, charismatic level, 8.9 out of nine. That's really good. I might actually steal that. That's fucking funny. Do it all statistics, right? Cause it's like, it's like super high value with the first pick, like jacked as fuck.

41:56 And it's like, sort of like jokingly like qualifying, but it's like joking. So it's almost like a disqualifier. And it's also, it's also pointing out the fact that Tinder is just a big hookup app. And really we're just looking for looks and just like things. So you're like bicep, bicep ratio, like a 12 inches. Like chest size, this size, like thrust power. Waste to chest ratio. Yeah. Thrust power. 30%, right? Dude, I get, it's funny you say that too. Cause I get guys sometimes who like, I've written a lot of articles and made some videos on why game is more important than looks.

42:30 And the first thing they always fucking say, these dumb motherfuckers is, but John, I made a Tinder and all girls care about his looks. No shit. You're on Tinder, dumb motherfucker. Like, but you know, game is the highest leverage point. So I won't, I won't harp on that, but that just pisses me off. It's like, it's like literally if someone's like, I don't know, telling me like, you need to learn accounting or something. And I'm like, but this guy won the lottery and he's rich. I shouldn't have to learn any financial.

42:57 Like, so I won't harp on that, but yeah. Well, yeah. I mean, Tinder is a place where the looks are the important thing, you know, and so your personality, your looks, dude. But I will tell you, man, when I help my, my clients set up their profiles, on match, bumble, Tinder and stuff like that, what I do is I always am funny, funny, funny, funny, funny, funny, funny. Don't be serious. That's how you display your personality. I love sunsets and walks on the beach and tennis and, and sweaters wrapped around my neck.

43:25 No, dude. Fuck around with it, man. So what I do is I actually have, um, when you work with me, you can send me your pictures and I will put funny captions below them. And dude, like even my not so great looking guys, they're like pulling hot girls off these accounts because they are just hilarious in their, in their profiles. So, uh, it's really important to be funny, but I love the, the statistics thing. Like, you know, like call of duty and like, and you have like bars, like personality, the bars go, dude, that's, that's so dope.

43:57 I'm actually, I'm actually going to probably try that. Let's, um, another few good things about Tinder. Like, let's see if you want to really push it. So here, here's the thing about Tinder. Anytime you push and not just Tinder and anything, it usually displays value, right? It's status, right? Because like Mark said, like we said, people that are, you know, in cells and not sleeping with that many girls, and I'm not judging because I've been there, people like that are the ones that are afraid to push.

44:21 But if, if you push that shows her that you probably have other girls. So like one push you can do, and this, again, I might, I'll, I haven't tried this yet to be fair, but I'm going to actually probably try it is, uh, if you're over X, Y, and Z weight, swipe left, right? So if you're over 140 pounds, swipe left, just blunts, right? And that'll probably honestly get a lot of girls pissed off, but a lot of girls will be attracted to you. Um, another one is like, you know, uh, hit me up if you're a bad bitch or just anything that's like funny and stupid.

44:48 What one thing that I like to do is I break rapport and I push and I do it in a way that shows like, I'm kind of mocking the girls. So like, you know, I'll have these like shredded jacked pictures on Tinder where girls are, you know, they see that they're thinking like, this guy's fucked a hundred girls before. He's probably some cool dude. And I say in my profile, not here for hookups. I'm not that type of girl looking for a relationship, just something stupid.

45:11 Like that to like mock the girls that are saying that. So anytime you like break rapport on like a broad scale of things that girls do, that's really good too. I like that. I like that. Yeah. There's definitely emails that I send out to girls in specific ways, but on, on this, okay, we've been talking a lot about push, push, push there's, there's also pull and there's certain ways to do a pull. Okay. Don't compliment a girl on her looks. First of all, like, Oh my God, you're so beautiful.

45:38 I can't believe how gorgeous you are, especially really hot girls. They freaking hear it all the time. And it frustrates them compliment them instead on like their style or their outfit. One of my most common openers is to approach a girl and just be like, Hey, I just needed to tell you your haircut is so freaking cute. Good job. And then I'll give them a high five opens up every single time. Why? Because it's the place that it's coming. So it's coming from a place of authority.

46:05 My voice is my voice tonality is not supplicating. Hey, I just want to let you know that you're so pretty. No, it's like, Hey, I just want to let you know your outfit is so cute tonight. Good job. High five. And when you say good job, it's like, she's qualifying herself to you qualifying, you know, it's too bad. It's too bad you got to be wearing such a cute outfit because God, you're so not my type. God damn. You're cute, right? Push, pull, push, pull. So you can do that as an opener, but pulling complimenting.

46:35 I have something called the 80, 100 rule. And what it is, is it's really should be called the eight, 10 rule. But what it is, is basically for every 10 compliments she gives or five compliments, you give her eight or four. So 80 to 100, eight to 10. She gives 10 compliments. You give eight compliments. A compliment is a pull, but then you also give eight pushes because it's 50, 50. So if she's like, like the other night, that girl was just like, my God, you're so charismatic. You're so funny. You have a great body.

47:06 I can't believe 42. Like so many compliments. I was like, all right, dude, I can, I can throw out a couple of compliments. And I was like, you know, what's awesome about you. Actually, this is what I said. I'm like, you know, what's awesome about you. And she's like, what? And I was like, it's a question. Dumb, dumb. And she's like, oh, and I was like, no, really? Like you actually really have a good personality. I think it's awesome that you're a nurse because you like to take care of people, don't you?

47:29 You have like that nurturing thing, don't you? She's like, yeah, I got the nurturing thing. Dude, that's awesome. High five, whatever. You just went up 10 points in my book. You're now at negative 8,041. So, but when you pull, make it genuine and make it about something that's not her looks. Like, you know what? I like real talk. I'll often say this. I'll often say real talk, Kelly. You actually are. You actually do have a really good personality. Like you're easy to talk to. You have a genuine energy.

47:55 I really appreciate that about you. And when you can like step back and show that you're real and compliment her on something really nice, that's a big pull. And then you go back to the pushing, right? So you're pushing her, pushing her, fucking with her. And then you're like, hey, like real talk. I just want to let you know you're really fun to talk to. She's just like, oh, and that also spikes the attraction. So it's push, pull for a reason. It's not just push, push, push.

48:21 Even though John and I are kind of assholes and we really like to push a lot, there is a time and a place for pull. And when you do it, be real genuine, look her in the eyes and give a genuine, friendly compliment. Yeah. And that's the key too, is like, you know, guys will ask questions like all the time, like, you know, should I compliment girls, this and that? And generally I say no, because if you're asking that, it's never going to come from the right place, right?

48:48 But if it actually does come from the right place, it's really powerful because A, you know, it's coming from you who have game and B, it actually means something, right? So if you think of like, you know, someone that you really respect in your life, right? They're, they probably didn't give you like compliments all the time and like say, good job, you know, whatever. But like, you may be like a coach or something if you play sports. But like when they told you like great fucking job, it meant something.

49:16 And one genuine, good compliment from someone like that means a thousand times more than a billion compliments from some supplicating dude. So that's a really good point. So at some point in the conversation, um, a good thing to do is show her that you are a genuine, trustworthy, down to earth dude. And that's one way to do it. And also when she asks my name and I never asked her name, I always wait for her to ask my name. I say, my name is Daisuke Matsumoto.

49:43 I'm from a very rare part of Japan where they breed tall white guys. And she laughs and I said, no, I'm just kidding. You know, my name is Mark Singh. What's your name? She's like, Hey, or I always say, what's your name? Let me guess. Cause it's all, it's usually like white chicks that I talk to cause it's Colorado. It's like all white people. So I said, let me guess your name is Shanene or Shaniqua. She's like, no, my name's Jessica. I'm like, what's up, Jessica?

50:05 My name's Mark. And then I, I lay on the genuineness and the approachability and that builds trust. So again, it's calibration. We're telling you all this great stuff. You now have it in your head. Go out and try it. Go out and try it. And dude, if you do get blown out, resist the urge to blame John and Mark, because honestly, bro, it's your calibration. This shit works and it works like fire. When your calibration is correct. So keep practicing. Definitely. Just don't stop guys. So, uh, yeah, I hope this helps.

50:36 Uh, you want to wrap it up, Mark? I'm pretty much done. Yeah. So I offer a NLP coaching. You can find out more about that at coachmarksing.com. M-A-R-K-S-I-N-G.com. NLP is neuro-linguistic programming. So if you have these sticking points that you just can't seem to blast through, uh, neuro-linguistic programming can usually solve that, uh, usually within one session. And then I also offer tactical, uh, lessons on top of that. My students are getting phenomenal results. And if you're a cool guy who wants to really improve, not only with women, but in his life, then contact me.

51:10 I'd love to meet you. John. And I have seven strategies to develop your masculinity, which is my course on becoming a masculine, confident, assertive man. So it fixes a lot of the underlying problems. So if you're finding that techniques aren't working for you that well, it's probably because your masculine energy isn't in check. So I'm not going to say too much more. You get four free bonuses when you buy it. Go to get seven strategies.com and check it out. And I also have body and alpha, which is the workout routine that I use to put my shredded pics on Tinder.

51:42 And you can go to get the perfect body.com. I put up a whole bunch of pictures of myself being jacked on there. So, you know, it works. Got some testimonials, get the perfect body.com. Check it out. And of course, masculinedevelopment.com, my blog with hundreds of free articles. All right, guys. Thank you so much for listening. We will see you in the next podcast. On the next episode. Bye-bye.

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