5 Potent Tricks to Attract More Women with Your MASCULINE ENERGY

0:00 Welcome to the Unapologetic Man Podcast. The only podcast that's all about self-improvement, confidence, success, money, women, and being a fucking man without making any apologies for it. I'm your host, John fucking Anthony. And I'm Mark Sing. And today, we're going to get taken down from YouTube for a violence infringement. So today we're talking about masculine energy. And Mark actually had this idea because I got a tattoo recently. It says, Veni Vidi Vici. Wait, I can't see it. There we go. On my chest. What does that mean?

0:34 Which means, I came, I saw, I conquered. Which is a famous quote from Julius Caesar. Sick. And I think that that quote really encapsulates the essence of masculine energy. But first, we should talk about why you need it. Okay, so here's the thing, guys. Most of the problems in your life happen because you don't have enough masculine energy. You're not making enough money at work. It's because you're not assertive. You're not dominant. You're not confident. You don't know what you want. You don't go for it.

1:03 Masculine energy. If you're not in good shape, it's because you're wishy-washy. Oh, should I hit the gym today? I don't really feel like it. Feminine energy. Feelings, right? Masculine energy. I'm going to go to the fucking gym because I'm going to do it. And I just do it, right? You know, not making, not having enough girls that you're dating, not having the dating life you want. It's because you're a little bitch with all due respect. It's too much feminine energy, not enough assertive, aggressive, decisive energy that women want.

1:29 So if you get this in order, everything in your life will just come together. And you can go to get7strategies.com, which is my definitive guide on how to do it. But we're going to share some tips with you guys today on how to increase your masculine energy. So as I said, you know, Veni, Vidi, Vici, right? That I came, I saw, I conquered. That sort of encapsulates masculine energy as far as I can tell, because it's just a guy who's a fucking conqueror. And by the way, I have some badass stories about Julius Caesar, but he came to the battlefield.

2:02 He saw, saw what was going on and he conquered quick and decisive. He knew what he wanted and he fucking took action to get it. And that fundamentally is masculine energy. And unfortunately, most guys don't have enough masculine energy today, which is why everything's going to shit. It's why people are so offended by everything. It's why people's lives aren't what they should be. It's why women are so unhappy nowadays. I saw a study said that women's happiness has been steadily decreasing since like the 1950s or something like that.

2:32 Why is it? It's because men have been emasculated. They've become effeminate. They're not good partners. They're not good leaders. They're not good spouses. And so when a society doesn't have enough masculine energy, I say, as I'm looking at my fucking screensaver right here of Leonidas, when society doesn't have enough masculine energy, everything goes to fucking shit. Yeah. So there's a, uh, what we want to do in this podcast is you can give you guys some, some really tactile things that you can go and deploy today to boost your masculine energy.

3:06 So as John said, feminine energy is away from energy. Now, away from energy is anxiety. It's being scared. It's caring what people think about you. And that can be good in the proper context. Well, a little bit of away from is okay, right? We want to be about 80, 20 is really what we want to be for men. But all, all I, sorry to interrupt. What I, what I want to say is because I don't want people to think we're just hating on feminine energy, right? Right. Because feminine energy is extremely important in keeping societal, societal bonds, social bonds together, right?

3:43 You know, because, you know, traditionally it was the role of women to keep that sort of structural glue of the tribe together. Right. So, you know, look after the kids. Don't, don't cause any violence. Don't cause any conflict. We're a community here, but too much of that and shit goes wrong. So sorry, Mark. No, you're fine. And you're absolutely right. Like too much of that, like what we have now, women are stepping much more into their masculine energy is a problem. So women represent the feminine energy and you're absolutely right.

4:11 Nurturing, caring for creativity is feminine energy receiving. There's all kinds of great things that feminine energy gives. And frankly, I absolutely love feminine energy. It's like why I love women so much, right? If you, if you hate women, you may want to consider that. Why do you hate women? Maybe there's an issue with your polarities here. So, but as a man, we should be about 80% masculine, 20% feminine. For some guys, it differs. And before I started working with my coach, I was a little bit too feminine, like probably 70, 30.

4:44 And then we hiked it up and I feel way better. So oftentimes, yeah. Oftentimes when you feel kind of out of sorts, it could often just be a simple thing like your testosterone, your masculine energy, things like that. So this podcast is to help you attract more women by stepping into your masculine energy, becoming more masculine and getting those ratios down, right? 80%, 20%, 20%. So the first and most important thing about masculine energy, masculine energy is it's a towards energy. So instead of saying, I want to make a lot of money to avoid being poor, it's, I want to make a lot of money so I can have great experiences and live a baller ass life.

5:23 Yeah. Right. This is so important too. Towards energy. You're going towards your goal, not away from what you don't want. Now, what's interesting is that away from energy is actually a more powerful motivator. And I think that's why we as men oftentimes fall into that. Like, for example, when I write copy, by the way, if you don't know what copy is, what a copywriter is, it's basically sales writing. And what I do is, and you can see sales writing on all of John's pages, get7strategies.com, gettheperfectbody.com.

5:54 And then my offer, coachmarksing.com. That's all sales writing. And what it's meant to do is to motivate you to buy our products. Well, what's interesting, my light just went out. What's interesting is away from motivation is way stronger and conversions will go up when you use away from. Like, don't be alone the rest of your life. Don't, don't like, you know, fail to improve yourself because you're not going to get a girl and it's going to hurt and it's going to be alone. Like pain is way more of a motivator.

6:24 But as men, we want to be motivated by achievement, by reaching our goals and being ambitious. And this is what motivates men. So there's an interesting NLP process. It's called the phase one, two, three model. And I created this here. That's what you're looking at. I was wondering. Yeah. There's a picture of my, my baby girl. Nice. That was about, I think that was like a 20 weeks. Okay. So there's three phases. Okay. And this is, this is really how to get balance with your masculine energy.

7:00 So phase one is testosterone and that represents work. So part of the reason men make more money, more money than women do is because testosterone likes to work. It likes to get after it. It likes to provide. It likes to go after goals. It takes risks. So phase one is testosterone and this is, this is you time. And when I say you, I mean you this way. So not me time, but you time. You're pointing at the other person and it represents work, what you do for other people, what you do for the community, what you do for your career.

7:32 And this should represent 50 to 60% of your time. And I think quite subconsciously society has chosen to make the typical work day eight hours because that's about 50 to 60% of your waking hours, right? There's 24 hours in a day. That's chunked up into three, three, eight hour increments. One, eight hour increment is for sleep. Then you have two late hour increments left. And one of those is left over for work. And the other one is left over for the two other phases. Phase two is estrogen and that's pair bonding.

8:06 So about 20% of your time, you want to be with a girl. You want to be with your boys. It might, phase two or three might be with your friends, but typically with a girl, right? So at night I spend a couple hours with my girlfriend and we kick it, we have sex, we hang out, we cuddle, whatever it may be. And that's phase two time. Phase three time is me time. Now this is your own time for self-development, for doing jujitsu, for going to the gym and developing yourself as a man.

8:38 And that's progesterone is created during me time. And that's about 20% of the time too, or 15 to 20%. It depends on you particularly. Me, I'm actually a little bit higher because I really like self-development. Listening to podcasts, working out, going to jujitsu, improving myself, like learning how to, you know, move tactically with a firearm. These are the things I like to learn. I always tell people, I can't, have you ever seen that movie, Born Identity, John? Yeah. You know when like he wakes up and he doesn't remember anything and then suddenly he has like all these skills.

9:11 Yeah. I love that concept, man. And I want to be kind of like that. I like training everything, like bushcraft. Put me out in the middle of the woods with a knife, I'll fucking survive. Fighting. Put me, put me like in a crowd of people fighting me. And in four more years of training, I will survive. You know, like all these things I want to improve with myself because I really like that me time. So again, phase one is testosterone. That's work, 50 to 60% of your time.

9:36 Phase two is estrogen. That's pair bonding time, 20 to 30% of your time. Phase three, progesterone, me time, 20% of your time. Now, most guys get this completely effed up, right? What they're doing oftentimes is they got all their time commitments out of balance. And so what happens, your testosterone goes down. Maybe you're spending too much time with your girlfriend, too much time trying to get girls, too much time not going after your goals. But when you get this delivered correctly, and particularly when you're an entrepreneur, I think that really boosts your testosterone.

10:10 Your masculinity really comes out because what's more important to a girl than learning how to get girls? Your purpose, your masculine energy, your testosterone, right? So that's why we suggest eight hours a day committed to your work. And when you get this in balance, first of all, 80% towards, 20% away from, and then 50 to 60% on your job, 20% to pair bonding, 20% to working on yourself. Boom. You really get your masculine energy settled, and women become way more attracted to you just by getting these balances corrected. I thought that was really interesting, so I wanted to bring it up.

10:52 No, yeah, that's a great framework for knowing how to design your day and your week and your whole life, right? Because masculine energy gets purpose from work, from doing things, right? And that's why a lot of times when men become unemployed, they get depressed because they don't feel like they have a purpose. They're not serving society in some way. So, you know, you need to have a balanced work, you know, life because if you don't, then if you spend too much time working, you don't get the other benefits of socializing, me time, you know, man cave time, et cetera.

11:23 Right. But too much of those and I'm not working and you just become this little sissy, right? So I've got a story that relates to my tattoo actually that I think really just encapsulates this pure, sheer, unadulterated, 100% masculine energy that we're talking about here. So when Julius Caesar was, when he was a boy, there's actually two stories now that I think about it that I could tell. But the first one is when Julius Caesar was a boy, he was captured by pirates, by cutthroats, right? When he was like 14 or 15, he was captured by these guys and the entire time he literally did not give a shit.

11:58 He would speak down to them, talk to them as if they were his fucking inferiors, as if he was their superior, right? And they were so amused by it, right? That they actually started to like him. And so, you know, he would tell the captain that kidnapped him on this boat in the middle of nowhere, not knowing if he was going to die or not. He told them, you know, hey, motherfucker, when I get free, I'm going to go commandeer and charter a fucking Navy and kill you guys.

12:22 And so they let him free for ransom. And a year later, he got a fucking Navy, hunted them down and crucified every single one of them. So that right there is just that sheer masculine energy. Zero fear, knew what he wanted, and he did it. And another one, too. It's crazy how incredible this guy was. When he was, I think, five or six, there was some barbarian camps camped outside of the walls of Rome, right? And so he snuck out, which, by the way, is a masculine thing to do, seeking adventure.

12:55 So he snuck out, and they ended up capturing him. And, you know, I don't think they knew who he was, right? And so they basically, you know, said, hey, we're going to fucking torture you until you tell us everything about your city, how to get in, the walls, the weaknesses. So the leader took out an iron rod, right, out of the fire that he was about to burn this kid with. And he literally, Julius Caesar, he just grabbed the fucking rod. And as his skin was searing, he said, you can torture me all you want, but I will not fucking betray my country.

13:29 And they were so amused by that that they let him free. And, you know, ten years later, he became the fucking Julius Caesar. So that's a really good example of that pure masculine energy that comes when you're on your purpose. You know, there's no hesitation. He wasn't like, oh, maybe one day I'll hunt these pirates down or, oh, maybe, no, I don't want to be tortured. Maybe I'll try to not, you know, like, no. He knew what he fucking wanted, and he just did it. And when you have that attitude, people can sense it.

13:57 They can feel it. And girls, they can sense it and feel it, too, in the way that you walk, right? Try this as a social experiment sometime. Try, you know, next time you go to the gym. Try, you know, just walking very insecurely, just not knowing where you're going, kind of shuffling around. See how people react. See how they look at you. And then another day, try walking in 1,000% confident. Know exactly which weights you're going to, where you're going, what you're doing. And when you'll do that, you'll see that people actually, they, like, look up and notice you.

14:25 They're like, who's that person? They sense unconsciously that sense of purpose. And so to bring this into the realm of the practical, a few things you can do is visualize your ideal life. That's one thing that I do daily because that gets you to train your subconscious to have that toward motivation, right? So write down goals, write down dreams. And don't think, you know, like Mark said, I want money so I don't go broke. Think, I want money so I can do X, Y, and Z because I want to buy my mom a brand new Mercedes for Christmas because I want to fly out to Hawaii where, you know, Mark lived for a while.

14:59 Think of what you want, not of what you don't want. Another great tip is stop masturbating. Don't masturbate because that, when you do that, you, there's a bunch of scientific studies and reasons I could cite. But to put it in a sort of, uh, you know, abstract way, you're releasing your masculine energy. You're, you're, you're just putting it out there, right? When it could be in a girl or, you know, uh, channeling that libido that drive into something productive. So those are two quick tips that you guys can use.

15:28 Feminine energy wants to be approved of. So if you guys are afraid of rejection, I know you're not going to like to hear this. You're in your feminine energy because you want to be approved of by a girl, but masculine energy approves of itself that the only approval it needs is from within. Why? Because masculine energy produces and puts out just like the penis protrudes, uh, outward and spoo's that's, it gives, it gives, it gives. Whereas the feminine energy receives like the vagina goes inward, receives the calm.

16:03 And that's what feminine energy does. So if you're looking for approval from girls, if you wish girls would approach you and you get, you get sold by copywriting where it says, learn the three secret methods to get girls to approach you and you fall into that. There's a problem with your masculine energy, big time problem with it. Now, what's interesting, John, is you can relate to this. Um, today I was at the gym. And I noticed when my testosterone gets really high, I start almost getting tunnel vision where the only thing that matters is the next set, right?

16:32 Yeah. I got to get to those forties, get out of my way, grab the forties, lay down and fucking do the incline bench, right? I got to put them down and do the next thing. It's one thing after the other. And you'll actually find that when your testosterone is up, you don't really care anymore what people think of you. Like at the gym, you'll see, notice people at the gym, gym's really interesting social experiment as is bars. I love to observe people at the bars and at the gym, but you'll notice people like looking around a lot, like at the gym and, and they're really like focused on what everybody else is thinking.

17:05 Are the girls looking at me? Am I buff enough? Exactly. Yeah. Then you'll have a guy like John. It was funny to me, John, cause you have a video on your channel where you just popped your shirt off, which is not cool. Like that's not legal to do at any gym. They tried to kick us out, but yeah. Yeah. You just pop your shirt off, shirt comes off and you're doing bench press. Now he did it just to fuck around and have fun with it. But because he was so much in his masculine energy, he can do that.

17:29 So when you get, when you get in the bars too, right? When you're in your masculine energy, you're not like, Oh, I wonder what the girls are thinking of me. And you're like, you're adjusting your clothes and like, Oh, do I look fat? Oh, did that girl check me out? No, you're just like a, you're just like the terminator. And you're just like, that's the girl I want to talk to. I'm going to go approach her next girl, next girl, next girl. How many girls have I approached tonight?

17:51 Oh, I'm at, I'm at 20. Let's get 30. Boom, boom, boom. You just go, go, go because you're in a towards mentality to conquer your goals, to, uh, you know, decimate the challenges to overcome them. And you actually look forward to your challenges when you're in a towards mentality, masculine energy, whereas feminine is worried. Now that has its purpose, right? You're sleeping with your girl. She hears a bump in the night and she says, honey, honey, something's outside. I'm scared. And you'd be like, relax, baby. I got this.

18:22 And then you pick up the spear, you grab your six hour P two, two, six, nine millimeter. And you just go shoot that motherfucker. Hey, good timing on the blouse. That was perfect. Um, so masculine energy is that which goes checks on things when it goes bump in the night. Right. If you're like, baby, go, go, go, look, go look outside the tent and see if there's a bear out there. You're not getting laid that night. Yeah. The man is what guaranteed way to turn any wetness off.

18:48 Any wetness, right. Is to give her the masculine role. So oftentimes girls will approach us in the bar. That's actually, to me, a couple of points off in my book because she's taking the masculine role and she's approaching me. Like I like the girls who are like timid, right? They're like sitting there and at the bar and they're timid and they're girly. They're in their feminine energy. And then we start talking to them. You just feel this like feminine energy. And since you're so much in your masculine energy, you're actually going to get those types of girls more attracted to you than the ones that come up to you.

19:21 Because the ones who come up to you are in their masculine, you're in your masculine and it's almost like there's a rubber band between you two. Well, if you're standing right next to each other, both masculine, there's no tension there. But you get a girl who's way under feminine, you're way in your masculine. There's so much sexual tension there. Now, a lot of guys will not approach girls who are in their feminine energy because the feminine energy is receptive. It's waiting, right? It's like the little bunny.

19:48 It's a little bunny shivering in the corner. And it doesn't know what to do. And it might just look at you real quick. Go open her up. And I guarantee you, when you're feeling masculine, you're feeling your testosterone, you're like, hey, who are you? Boom, it opens up because she's feminine. Then you have that like sexual tension between you two. So you want to get girls more attracted to you? Become more masculine. Way more masculine. Do all these things we're talking about. Girls will just become attracted to you by default because typically, although the trend has been going towards the opposite lately, typically women are usually about 80% feminine, 20% masculine.

20:24 And when you get a real feminine one, boom, it's on like Donkey Kong. Yeah. And it's funny too that you said the getting girls to approach you thing because like it's almost a catch 22 because if you don't care about them approaching you because you're so in your masculine energy, then a lot of them will become much more receptive to you and try to talk to you. So it's like you just have to not care in order to get it and a lot of things in life really.

20:51 It's related to business, everything. I think that's a principle of the Tao Te Ching is something along the lines of like he who cares the least will have the most or something like that, right? And it's not that you don't – Sorry to interrupt you, but the line is care about people's opinion of you and you will be their slave. Yeah, that's a really good one because it's true. Everything in that book is good, man. Oh, dude, it's a great – I need to reread it.

21:13 I've read it so many times. Did you do the Stephen Mitchell one? Is that the – I think that – yeah, that's like the best translation, right? Yeah, it's like gray color and it's got black rocks on the front. It's the Tao Te Ching. Yeah, it's like a little – yeah. You guys should check it out. It's T-A-O, new word, T-E, new word, C-H-I-N-G. Greatest book ever written next to the power of now in my opinion. Yeah. And get the Stephen Mitchell translation. It's a little book.

21:39 I have it around here somewhere. But anyway, it's got like black rocks on it. And it's like gray, black, and white on the cover. Beautiful book. Dude, so I have it – what's funny is I have it on an audio book and I've listened to it so often, John. I've literally memorized the first 20 minutes of it, the introduction. Damn. That's crazy, man. It can be translated as the book of the eminence of the way or the book of the way and how it manifests itself in the world or simply the book of the way.

22:12 It goes on and on for 20 minutes. I have it completely memorized because I just listen to it over and over and over and over and over again. Yeah. No, that's a great book because a lot of the things that we talk about, like we give a lot of techniques and everything else because they're helpful. They get you that initial momentum. You use the technique. You get some more confidence because it works. But what you'll find is that there's these underlying principles that govern everything. And another book that's interesting is Transurfing.

22:37 Have you heard of that, Mark? No, I have heard of it. I haven't read it. It's sort of like The Secret, The Law of Attraction. It's like that on fucking steroids. It's like 800 pages long. It's fucking huge, four volumes. And I've read about like 500, 600 pages of it. And one of the core concepts in that book is if you want something too much, you're not going to get it. Because just the act of, quote, unquote, wanting it or needing it, I should say, creates a psychic barrier in your mind.

23:10 Because if you want something so much, what you're unconsciously telling yourself is I don't deserve it. I don't have it. I can't ever have it. Right. It's because it's so far away. You're desperate for it because you don't think you'll ever get it. And that isn't to say you shouldn't set goals. Right. I have a shit ton of goals. But when you sort of just have these goals as something you want, right, but not something you necessarily need, you will be fucking amazed at how fast they come to you.

23:35 Like you just have a plan. You just execute on the steps, you know, and you just do it. You don't expect anything to happen. You treat it as just feedback. You know, you don't think, oh, there's – and this is relevant to us, Mark. You don't think that, oh, this is the one thing. We're finally going to make it. It's finally going to work. You know exactly what we're talking about. And then, blah, it just doesn't work. And you're like, fuck. No, it's all a test.

23:55 It's all just, you know, you have your goal. Your life would be, you know, better with that goal. But you're still pretty fucking happy. And when you take that approach to everything but, you know, for this podcast to women, it's amazing how receptive they become. You can just walk right up. They sense that you don't really need anything from them. You're just talking, having fun. And they become attracted to you. And they're, you know, they'll see their pupils will get wider and wider. Their eyes will grow wide.

24:18 You know, so that's a great feeling. That's addicting, having that feeling of the funny eyes on you. Deer in the headlights look is what I call it. Yeah. Deer in the headlights. I love it. My favorite thing is when they're not attracted initially and then you see it starting to change. And you see them opening up. Like they'll be talking to you like this. Like, yeah, hey, nice to meet you. And then suddenly they'll laugh and it opens up. And then they'll start playing with their hair.

24:43 And then maybe they'll, like, chew on their, like, nail. And then their eyes will get bigger. And then they'll start leaning in. And then they'll touch you. And you're like, I'm getting hurt, dude. I'm getting hurt. Yeah, yeah, yeah. It's addicting because it's like you turned it around. Like there's nothing more masculine than, oh, there's this obstacle. There's this girl who's not, she's not that into me. I turn it around, right? And you feel, you're like, yes, I can do anything. I can do fucking anything.

25:05 That feeling. So when you just learn these principles, it's crazy. I almost like that better than when they already give me the green light. Like, I almost like when they shut me down in the beginning and they're like, man, or they give me, like, a big shit test. And they're just totally closed off to me. And then I make them laugh and it fucking changes. I'm like, it's like the best moment of my night when that happens. It's addicting because when, I'm sure you've had these experiences too where, like, you go out and you get, for whatever reason, it's just a shit night.

25:33 And then you turn it around. Like, it's so weird how you get to the lowest point you can where you're just feeling so insecure, so needy. And then you just get so low that you, like, stop caring and stop wanting an outcome. And then it just turns around like that. Like, it's amazing. Like, you'll be at your lowest and then you'll pull the hottest girl of your life that night. So when you just go through the process, man, it's fucking crazy. You know, you guys probably think that John and I don't get bad nights.

25:59 But I just had a bad night last Thursday. I was just off, man. I just couldn't get a lot going. I mean, a couple things went going, kind of, like, based off what you said. I never care, but I especially didn't care that night. But I just wasn't – sometimes it just doesn't flow and, like, the dynamics of the club and the type of people are there and the energy in there. It's like you try to work it. But that's actually – I learned a lot that night, you know, and we learned a lot too through practicing.

26:27 And it's just – you just got to persevere past it. I was rejected several times. Like, no big whoop. Like, the masculine energy is supposed to go get rejected. It's the woman's job to choose, right? Now, once you get enough girls on your tip, then you get choice. But it's not until you cold approach and approach women. That's your job as the man. You're the hunter. You're supposed to go get that little girl. Again, she's just the quivering little bunny in the bushes. You're supposed to go get her.

26:54 And now there's something to be said about being slimy, about being overly persistent, which a lot of guys are miscalibrated in this respect. But certainly being persistent to me is like trying two to three times and then saying, OK, like, you're obviously not interested. So there's a boundary between being persistent and a man and hunting and then also respecting the woman and not, like, going too far and being a slimeball. A lot of guys have issues with that. But it's important that as the man, as the masculine energy, it's your job, your job to go approach the woman.

27:27 And we will never – John and I will never be perfect. We'll never have 100% out of 100% open to close ratio. We get rejected. Even close, yeah. Not even close because there's a bunch of – a myriad of circumstances you don't know about. She might have a boyfriend. She might be a lesbian. Her cat might have just died. She might have gotten in a fight. She just doesn't like brown hair guys. Like, you never know what it is, so don't take it personally. She listens to the Unapologetic Man podcast and knows all our tricks.

27:53 I'll still get her. You'll still get her. It's funny because they still work, like, even if a girl knows them. Yeah, yeah. And sometimes it's even better because it's like I – you know, when girls find my blog, they'll, you know, they'll, like, read my article on shit tests or something. And they'll be like, you know, like, one said, it sounds like I shit test you a lot or something like that. But they'll, like, get turned on by the fact that you're using the techniques because they're like, oh, my god, he's using the PUA magic.

28:19 Oh, my god, this is so cool. So it's, like, really funny. Marissa always tries to flex up, you know. She's like, I'm the alpha female of the group. And she'll, like, try to have staring contests with me and, like, flex up on me. But she likes it, you know. She understands. She listens. She likes to listen to this podcast and she likes to listen, you know, sometimes to my calls when my clients say it's okay. Oftentimes I'll introduce her to my clients. And she loves it, man.

28:47 She's totally into it. And she's like, yeah, it totally works. Like, this masculine energy thing and these tricks that you teach, like, it worked on her. I'll tell you what. I'll tell you what, boy. That worked real good on her. Yeah. Yeah, man. It's funny. The girls like that. So what else can we teach them about how to do it? I have something to say if you want to think. We should probably wrap up in, like, five minutes. But, yeah. Let's definitely – because I have to go.

29:12 Where are you going? To go be a toward focused on shit. Aren't you traveling somewhere? Yeah. I got a pack. Where are you going? You're not going to tell anybody? Out to California. Oh. Is that where your gay lover is? That's where my 7,532nd plate resides. So I'm going out to see her for the day and then flying back in my private jet. Okay. So anyway, another thing to improve your masculine energy is to learn how to fight. Learn how to defend yourself, man. Because it's amazing.

29:47 It's amazing how not knowing how to defend yourself, which was me up until eight months ago and kind of still is me because I'm just a beginner at jiu-jitsu and Muay Thai. But now that I'm learning how to do these things, it's actually improving my confidence because – That's very real. It is very real. And we don't even know it as guys because we live in such a protected society. There's bouncers. There's police officers. There's everybody around us. But would you be able to defend yourself if John or I jumped you?

30:19 Would you be able to defend yourself if – Buy my products. Buy seven strategies. It's good for you. Yeah. Right? So – but no, it's really interesting because I've been learning all this stuff and I didn't realize just how unbelievably pathetic and helpless I was until I got into jiu-jitsu. So I cannot stress enough how important jiu-jitsu is in particular. Also Muay Thai. Muay Thai is basically Thai kickboxing. It's fucking dope, dude. Like this and shit. Like you throw all those. But it's when you have some confidence – like I've only been doing it for eight months, but already I feel like, okay.

30:56 Like maybe I can at least protect myself a little bit better. But I think that guys who really know how to fight, they have that confidence about them, that masculine confidence that they can protect themselves. And what have we been through all of humanity? We have been a species that needs to protect the woman, right? Our women. So what you do is you learn how to fight and you have that confidence in you. So when you're walking with your little girl in a shady area, you could be like, don't worry, baby.

31:25 I got it. Like I feel very comfortable to protect myself. So I think learning how to fight is something that I only recently discovered, right? And I think it's really essential and I think it's actually helped me even more to develop my masculinity. Now, John, you took jiu-jitsu, right? Yeah. For a while. That's a really good point too because I took BJJ and Muay Thai for two and a half, three years in high school. And like the – just the level of confidence that I got from it was incredible.

31:54 Yeah. And I think I did lose a little bit of that edge once I stopped training because I moved cities and there's not really a good dojo here. But, you know, yeah, man, I just remember being so fucking confident. Like when you just know – like it's not – a lot of guys think, right? They think that they can win a fight. They think – but you don't really know until you've done it. And when you consistently go in for like a year, two years, three years, 20 years and you consistently win, 90 percent of your fucking – they call it rolling, right?

32:24 When you roll with someone, 90 percent of your fights, there's this confidence that gets built within you that's unstoppable, you know? I remember one time I was in like I think a junior in high school and I was training BJJ and this kid took my lunch spot like where I sat at the lunch table next to like a few girls. And I was like mad. I was like, dude, this is my spot. Like you took my spot. And he was like, no, this is my spot now.

32:47 So I like – I put him in a fucking rear naked chokehold and just like picked him up and like put him over there. And like you said, like the deer in the headlights look like immediately the girls were like – they were like – they were so attracted. And that's not to say like you should just be a douchebag and fight people because if you try to fight people over dumb things, it will actually have the opposite effect. But when girls see that like if somebody fucks with you and you can fuck with them back and end it, that's extremely attractive.

33:14 Absolutely. That's where that old like joke came from. It's been on a bunch of like sitcoms where some guy is like on a first date and he pays his friend to like fake mug them so he can like fake beat up the mug when the girl is like, oh my god. It's just so safe. That's where that comes from. So when you show that, it's like super attractive. Speaking of sitcoms, did you know that Al Bundy from Married with Children is a BJJ black belt? I didn't.

33:38 No. Whoa, that's crazy. Ed something? Ed – I don't know what his name is. But you guys know who he is. Al Bundy from Married with Children, the guy who like – like he sits there on the couch. Dude, he's a BJJ black belt. That's crazy. He would fuck you up. It's crazy how you never like – they're so humble. Like you would never know. They're so humble, dude. Like even in my class, you know, you get these high school kids. They're like, hey, Mark. Nice to meet you, man.

34:00 Welcome. And then suddenly I'm just getting like arm barred by these guys. And I'm like – Some like tiny little kid, yeah. Some guy like 120-pound kid, dude. Yeah. I want to learn that. And that's the way – I was doing research on BJJ and I guess like 80 to 90 percent of new white belts quit. And the reason they quit is because it's so unbelievably humbling. It fucks your ego. It fucks your ego up. But my thinking is, dude, I want to harden the fuck up like the poster says back here.

34:26 And also I want to learn that. I want to be able to do that to somebody, right? And if I have to just get my ass kicked for a couple of years to learn it, so be it. Just go twice a week. It's a marathon, not a sprint. Just be consistent and just don't quit. They say a black belt is simply a white belt who didn't quit. Yeah. All right. So I think we gave him four things. Do we have one more we could give? So we did Don't Masturbate Martial Arts.

34:48 We talked about masculine energy, the work-life balance model. Towards energy. Yeah. Yeah. Getting out into the woods has been really good for me. Hunting has been really good for me and getting out into the woods. And just like doing the security around my house really makes me feel masculine. Like I'm the guy who like shuts the door at night and locks it. And last night, this literally happened. Last night, I heard something go bump in the night. So I cleared my house with my gun. With the Sig Sauer?

35:18 Yeah. Yeah. And what you do is you hold the flashlight. You hold the flashlight like that. And then you put the gun over like this and you clear the house. So I was teaching Marissa how to do it. And she doesn't like guns. So I gave her mace. So I'm like, okay, sweetie, hold the flashlight. So she gets the flashlight. And then I'm like, okay, do what I just told you. And she goes like this. Okay, am I ready? Like this. Oh, my God, dude. Something happens.

35:41 Something happens. I better take care of it. Well, you got the Sig Sauer and the masculine energy. Yeah, brother. And the Jiu-Jitsu. The Jiu-Jitsu. I'll get a rear naked choke. Oh, yeah. Yeah. It's crazy how fast people quit too, like in BJJ. Because, you know, like you said, man, it's like 90% of white belts just quit. Like there was this one dude I remember. His name was Zach. And the first day he came in, I was just like, you know, 5'5", like skinny high schooler. He was like 6'2", and he was jacked.

36:08 He was like fucking 6'2", like, you know, 210 pounds, like just solid muscle. Came in. And the first thing he did when he rolled with me is, you know, he just tackled me right away. And like I let him like, you know, because I was way more experienced. I was like, I'm not going to just submit the white belt right off the bat. So I let him get a mount on me. And the first thing he did, he pulled his fist back like he was going to punch me.

36:28 And then he was like, no, like I won't do it. As if like, oh, wow, dude, you're so cool. You could have punched the shit out of a fucking 15-year-old, but you didn't. You're so cool. And then I flipped him and fucking submitted him, you know. But it's the ego like that, that like, that he left after like two months. Like you just, you can't take it. Because he's like, I'm this jacked dude. I should be able to beat everyone. But they just, they fucking fall out.

36:47 So BJJ is a superpower, dude. It really is. It really is. So like, you'll see, you'll see girls on the internet just submitting dudes. Like these little high school girls are just like fucking dudes up. It's looking around them and shit with like flying, fear naked chocos. Yes, I'm definitely putting my daughter into jits, dude, when she's four, man. Definitely. Yeah, so she can take care of herself. So I think this was a good podcast, man. So yeah, guys, increase your masculinity to increase your attractiveness to women.

37:13 And you feel a lot better too. You feel a lot better too. And you'll know, you'll know when it's, when it's hiking up because you'll care less about stupid shit. You'll care less about what people think of you. You'll be like really focused and you'll be a lot calmer too because feminine energy is emotional, right? It gets thrown to and fro by the outside circumstances of your life. Whereas masculine energy is like that brick. It's like, doodum, things come in. It just like, it just goes right over your head.

37:40 You don't give a shit. So pay attention to that, guys. This is gigantic. I think it's something that a lot of teachers don't teach, but it's actually a central tenet to my teaching. And I dare say my clients get absolutely phenomenal results. I mean, these dudes are getting laid all over the place. I got one client. He's getting these, he's getting like the finest fucking girls ever. I'm like, bruh, you're about to pass up the teacher here, man. He's getting like supermodels and shit. So he's doing really well and all my clients are kicking ass.

38:09 So yeah, man, shit works. All right, John, you want to wrap it up? Yeah, so guys, go to masculinedevelopment.com. Got hundreds of free articles, obviously. If you want to take your masculine energy to the next level, go to get7strategies.com. Check out the seven strategies I used in my own life to transform my mindset, my attractiveness to women, everything. And go to gettheperfectbody.com to check out my workout routine. I offer NLP coaching. NLP is Neuro Linguistic Programming. So if you have a sticking point that you can't seem to bust through, you just keep having the same problems with women.

38:42 And even if it is something like anxiety or approach anxiety or, you know, the fear of getting rejected, hey, we've all been there. I'm not going to sit there criticizing you and say, bro, like your masculine energy is not enough. No. Oftentimes it can be a meta program that was written in your childhood where you have issues with being rejected that we can work on, remove, replace it with more. Alpha programming, more masculine programming, and then you'll just be an approach machine. And I give you certain ways to approach women where rejection is completely sidestepped.

39:12 So thanks for listening, guys. We do appreciate it. And we look forward to seeing you in the next podcast.

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