How to Get Your Masculine and Feminine Parts in Alignment: NLP Process Visual Squash

0:00 Welcome to the Unapologetic Man Podcast, the only podcast that's all about self-improvement, confidence, success, women, and being a man without making any apologies for it. What is up, guys? Thank you for tuning in to another episode of the UMP. I really do appreciate it. If you've been writing with me for a long time, you know what to do, man. The obligatory, smack yourself on the ass because you are a champion. And if you're new to the show, welcome. What I try to do here is give the best information in the fastest way possible because your time is valuable, my time is valuable, and your time is valuable too.

0:43 So I try to respect that time and give you tangible, usable, useful things that are going to change you into the alpha unapologetic man that both you and I know you are trying to become. And today, we are going to do an awesome NLP process called Visual Squash. Now, what this process is designed to do is it will get both your masculine and the feminine inside of you working in alignment. What happens to a lot of guys is the feminine wants one thing inside of them, the masculine wants another thing, and they're at odds with each other.

1:17 For example, go approach that girl. No, don't approach that girl. You might get hurt. So in this process, we are going to have those two parts work together. Now, typically with NLP, what you do is you lay down or sit down comfortably in a couch and close your eyes and just let me guide you through this guided visualization. But in this one, you're actually going to be standing up with your eyes closed. And it's important, obviously, that you're not operating any heavy machinery. Probably best not to do it while you're scuba diving, skydiving, and or having sex, although that third one is totally optional.

1:52 But what you're going to be doing is you're going to stand up, you're going to put your hands out in front of you, and I'm basically going to guide you through this to make sure that your masculine and feminine parts are working together. I've done this many times with myself where I had two parts of me that were at odds with each other. And you could even do this too, where part of you wants one thing, the other part of you wants something else. And what this does is it basically gets them working together, gets them working in unison, gets them seeing that they're a team who essentially want the same thing, but we're thinking about getting that thing in different ways.

2:25 So when we do this process, they get to work together, and the how will pop into your mind. I explain it during the process itself, so stay tuned for that. Now, if you're working out right now, you're driving, most of you guys listen to this while you're kind of doing something else, and you find it's something you want to try on your off time, then go ahead and do it tonight or tomorrow or anytime you have like 15 minutes. And go through it, man. It really works to get your masculine and feminine parts in order.

2:53 Now, for those of you who don't know, and certainly those who have been listening for a long time do know, but for those of you who are slightly new to this podcast, I'm an NLP dating coach, okay? So NLP stands for Neuro Linguistic Programming. And the basic premise is, is that we have programs operating in our head that were given to us deep in childhood before we can defend ourselves. So somebody came along, gave you their shit toxic programming, and you're basically a 1983 super crap computer that's working with equally crap programming, and you're wondering why you're getting the same results over and over again.

3:29 It's because you're basically pressing print on that computer and the same results come out. So when we reprogram the computer, we get better results. And we do that by literally deleting programs, taking away the trauma of programs, reinstalling new schemas. And in today's NLP process, we are going to basically have two different programs that were once fighting against each other, now working in unison. So the reason this works so well with attracting women is because women are little radar systems that are designed to basically see right through you.

4:02 So if you have insecurities, if you have bad programming, if you have a belief system, for example, I'm not enough, they're going to see it immediately in your body language, your mannerisms, the way you talk. It's just demonstrated fully through how you behave. So when we change the programming, we actually change the behavior. So we work from the inside out. When we change the programming, we change the behavior. And when the behavior change, everything changes. Now, in addition to this, I call myself an NLP dating coach because as many of you have found in my podcast, and if you haven't realized this yet, please listen to my other episodes, I give away a lot of tactical advice as well.

4:39 How to get girls attracted to you, what to talk about in the first conversation, frame control, cold reading, push-pull, all this stuff that I teach that's extremely effective. So when you work both from the inner and the outer, the results are absolutely devastating. I mean, girls don't know what hit them when you come along after I'm done with you. So if you're interested in getting coaching with me, what I suggest is go through this process, try it on. Certainly, this is a process that I'll do on this podcast comfortably because I can do it for the masses.

5:08 Whereas when I work one-on-one with you, I can get way more specific based on what you specifically need. So this is kind of like a general thing that, you know, you guys will have great success with. But when you hire me, we make it one-on-one, we make it customizable exactly to you. And I work with you to reprogram the biggest programs, traumas, schemas, and operating systems that aren't conducive to attracting women that you have in your head. So if you're interested in learning more about working with me, you can go to marksingcoaching.com.

5:40 That's M-A-R-K-S-I-N-G coaching.com, or you could click the link in the description below. I also did a podcast about three weeks ago. I've had a lot of people ask me like, hey, what's your NLP coaching like? I actually did a podcast episode about three weeks ago. Check it out. It's called What Mark's NLP Coaching Entails or What Mark's NLP Coaching is Like, something like that. You'll find it. Just scroll down. And that explains everything, all the nitty gritty about what you can expect, what kind of results people get.

6:08 Does it work for everybody? Yes or no? And what are the results that most guys get when they do that session with me? So I'll check that out if you're interested. But again, try this first. See how you feel about the guided visualization. There's going to be some music behind it. And I'm letting you know I'm going to talk slowly because one of the ways we want to get you into state is to get you relaxed. So now I'm going to go ahead and slow down my talking just a little bit in order to ease into this like an old man into a warm bath.

6:38 So when you have some time, brother, go ahead and stand up, prepare yourself. I'm going to have you close your eyes and put out your hands. I will explain it in the following clip. So without further ado, let's go ahead and jump into it. Welcome to Visual Squash. This is a way to get the masculine part of you and the feminine part of you working together. A lot of you guys, when you get into this game, you realize that there's some part of you inside that wants you to go approach women, wants you to be a girl magnet, wants the best for you.

7:10 But then there's something else inside of you that doesn't want that. And it prevents you from approaching. It prevents you from getting success. Almost as if you have one foot on the gas and one foot on the brake. This is usually a dynamic between the masculine and feminine parts of you. The masculine wants you to dominate, wants you to achieve, wants you to go get that girl and get all the success that you truly desire. The feminine wants you to be safe. Wants you to be careful.

7:42 Doesn't want you to get hurt as you've been hurt in the past. And the two are working against each other. But really, what they both want is actually the same thing. They want a sense of happiness. They want a sense of peace. They want a sense of joy. But their ways of attaining those things are at odds. It's like two teammates working together to get a common goal. But one person thinks they should take path A and the other person thinks they should take path B and they're constantly working against each other and therefore making you unhappy.

8:17 What if they could work together? What if they were a team? What if they knew and realized that they both wanted the same thing and all they had to do is put their brilliant minds together in order to achieve it? That would get you success much quicker, wouldn't you agree? There would be less stress inside of you, less resistance. You would know what to do because the subconscious mind takes care of the how. You only have to take care of the why. In this NLP process, we both know the why.

8:48 The why is I want to learn how to attract women because it's going to make me happier. It's going to make me more fulfilled. It's going to allow me to achieve my purpose as a man, which is to procreate, have a family, or if that's not for you, to get laid by a bunch of girls. Whatever your motive is, it's always the same, is that you want to attract women. You're going to do this process standing up. And when you stand up, I want you to put both palms out in front of you, facing up towards the ceiling.

9:21 And I want them to be just a little bit wider than shoulder width apart. Now, I want you to choose in which hand will go the masculine and in which hand will go the feminine. And I want you to create an object right now, the first thing that pops into your head, that represents your masculine side. What is the object? Have it manifest in your chosen hand right now. Many of you guys pick the right hand for the masculine. But if it's in your left hand, that's fine as well.

9:52 Now for the feminine, choose the archetype that represents the feminine. What is the physical object that you see in the palm of your hand that manifests to represent the feminine? Visualize that now. Now you have two different objects in the palms of your hands. Look at those objects. Feel them. Make sure they properly represent to you both the masculine and the feminine. And understand what each one wants. What does the masculine want? I want you to ask that question to yourself right now. To help you along a little bit, I can guess what the masculine wants.

10:31 The masculine wants to dominate. To be a ladies' man. To go get all kinds of girls. Yes, to maybe even have sex. And have lots of it. With tons of different beautiful girls. Or maybe he wants to just get that one amazing dying piece and settle down. Or maybe, which is the case for most of you guys, he wants a combination of both. Play the feel for a while. Find a great girl. Then settle down. I want you to take a few moments and ask that part.

10:59 Literally ask that part. What do you want? What do you want? And keep in your mind what he says. Okay, now that the masculine has spoken, we are going to turn to the feminine side. Now, the feminine side is a lot like your mom. She nurtures. She cares for you. But she also wants to protect you. And she's there in order to rein in the masculine side. An example of this would be your mom telling you not to forget your jacket before you go outside. Don't approach that girl because you could get rejected.

11:42 And that could amount to a lot more heartache than the heartache you have now. You shouldn't inconvenience people because that's rude. But what does she really want for you when she says all these things? Ask her now. What do you really want for me? What are you trying to protect me from? What are you trying to really get me? Now, if I may help you a little bit here. What she ultimately wants for you is peace, safety, happiness. Basically the same thing that the guy wants.

12:12 The masculine side of you. But her means of doing it are different, aren't they? So ask her, what do you want for me? What is your prime motivation? Ask her that and really listen. Take a few moments to really find out. Now that you understand or have some semblance of what both sides want, we are going to do a little ritual here. Now, before we do this ritual, I want you to know that you don't have to know exactly what each side wants. As long as each side is represented, which they are.

12:54 As long as each side was listened to, which they were. Then you're going to get awesome movement from this. And like an arrow, you are finally going to be able to fly uninhibited to your goals. So now what I want you to do is very slowly start moving your hands closer together. I'm talking a quarter inch a second. You're slowly moving those hands closer together. And as you do, the energy from the masculine side is jumping over to the feminine side. The energy from the feminine side is jumping over to the masculine.

13:28 The colors of each of the two objects are starting to mix together. Your hands are getting closer now. They're probably around shoulder width apart. And they're slowly, ever so slowly, inching towards each other. Getting closer, the two energies are starting to exchange. Jumping from one side to the other. You can even start to see a little bit of the masculine and the feminine. And a little bit of the feminine and the masculine. As your hands inch closer together. They're getting closer now. They're probably about six to eight inches apart.

14:02 And as they get closer, you can literally feel the energies bouncing between. You might feel a tingling in your hands. The masculine is vibrating, as is the feminine. And they're jumping back and forth. Working together now. Coming up with the solution. The how to get you what you want. And now your hands are about three inches apart. Getting closer and closer. They're now two inches apart. Getting closer. The energies are jumping fast. There's a swirling of energy. And a new object is being created. As your hands are an inch apart.

14:37 And now, as you begin to touch your hands together. Bring your palms together. And squeeze them tightly together. And as you do a brand new, self-serving, confident, happy, peaceful, joyous object. Reveals itself as you open up both your palms towards the ceiling. And now you're holding this new object. What is the object? Look at it. Go with the first instinct that you had when you sensed this object being created. See the energy of both the masculine and the feminine working together dynamically to create this object.

15:16 To create this solution for you. To get what you want. To both satisfy the masculine's desire for ultimately which is peace. And to satisfy the feminine desire for ultimately which is peace. But both of them thinking the way to get it was two different strategies. Now they're going to work together. Because a team is stronger than individuals. Especially when that team of individuals was working against each other. Now they are going to work with each other. Because the feminine knows she needs the masculine. In order to achieve the peace, joy, happiness that she really wants.

15:53 And the masculine knows that he needs the feminine in order to attain the joy, peace, happiness that he really wants. They both want the same thing. And two heads are better than one. Now with your imagination. I want you to bring that object into your chest. There you go. Push it into your chest. And let it envelop into your body. And saturate every cell of your being. The color of that object is painting the inside of your body. And both the masculine and the feminine in a ceremony are stepping back into your subconscious mind.

16:31 They are going into the library of your subconscious mind to create for you the how. The H-O-W. Of how to solve this issue. Of getting you attractive to women. Of getting you the fearlessness you will need in order to approach women. You are going to be shown the how. And much like you've experienced many times in your life. That solution is going to pop into your head as if out of nowhere. Maybe you'll be taking a shower. Maybe you'll be taking a walk. Lifting weights. Sleeping.

17:01 Who knows. The solution is going to come to you. Just that quick. And when it does. You'll know that the masculine and the feminine. This new object. Being represented by it. Has given you the solution. And like an arrow. You're going to fly towards your goals. Because now. The masculine and the feminine inside of you are working together. They both realize they want the same thing. And you are flying like an arrow towards your goals because of it. That ends the process. Visual squash. All right guys.

17:35 I hope you enjoyed that short example of what NLP is. Now that those parts have been invited back into your body to work together. They realize they both have the same goal. They realize they both want the same thing. And they're going to work together rather than against each other to bring you that goal. And usually this will pop into your head as if out of nowhere. Usually in the shower. Or when you're sleeping. Something like that. These ideas are going to come up. You're going to feel way less resistance to approach women.

18:06 So try that on. See how it goes. If it worked for you. If you liked it. If you felt like you jived with it. And you listen to my podcast about what my NLP coaching entails. I'm always searching for new guys to help out. I'm always looking to better this world by bettering you guys. And if you want a black hole shortcut to get women in the quickest, easiest way possible that I've ever found. Check me out, man. Marksingcoaching.com There's over 40 testimonials on my website that state the efficacy of what I do.

18:36 And I'm always looking to meet champions like you guys. I look forward to it every single day. So I hope to talk to you soon. All right, gentlemen. That is it for me. I do appreciate you listening. I got another really good one coming up on Wednesday. So please stay tuned. And I will see you in the next episode.

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