Attraction & Seduction Powerhouses: False Disqualifiers & Push Pull

0:00 Welcome to the Unapologetic Man Podcast, the only podcast that's all about self-improvement, confidence, success, women, and being a man without making any apologies for it. What is up, guys? Thank you for tuning in to another episode of the UNP and Bo-Oh-Boy, do I got a good one for you today. False disqualifiers. Before I sat down to record this, I took a bunch of notes and I was like, God bless America. I use this shit a lot and I'm happy to introduce you guys to it because this is an awesome way to get a woman more attracted to you during the first conversation, which I know a lot of you guys struggle with.

0:42 So this is a first conversation technique and just to make sure that I deliver the goods, which is my nature and which I try to do in every single episode. I'm also going to share with you the 8100 rule as well as some things about push-pull. Now those two I've already spoken about a little bit in previous podcasts. I know it's been a long time since I mentioned push-pull, but all of these things work together. So it's really important that you understand the general dynamic of how to use false disqualifiers, when to push, when to pull.

1:14 And I have a really cool rule to manage how much you pull the girl into you. That means giving her compliments, having statements of intention, showing her that you're interested in her, showing her that you want to date her more, etc. And we have a very awesome rule to manage that. And I'm going to share that with you today. Before I jump into all that awesome content, a few housekeeping things are in order. First and foremost, I get emails every day from you guys, most of which are full of love.

1:42 And if you've written me before and you've left me a review, thank you so much. I really, really appreciate it from the bottom of my heart. Each of you guys who write me, I seriously read every single word that you write and I send you a silent thank you. I feel like we're brothers only removed because of geography. If you and I were in the same city, we would be homies. We'd be going to get girls. We'd be doing all kinds of awesome things together. And seriously, man, I really, really do appreciate it.

2:14 But also it's funny to me because lately, and these things happen in waves. I get these guys who are like, Mark, dude, I've been using your tactics or Mark, I went through your coaching program and now I'm pulling tens, man. I'm pulling nothing but tens. Look at these chicks that I'm pulling and they'll like send me pictures. And yeah, you know, they're cute. Okay. I don't want to harsh on you guys who wrote me this, but bro, Oh, be easy with how easily you throw 10 around.

2:39 Jesus. Wouldn't even believe this. You guys are throwing tens around so haphazardly. I feel like you're going to dance a little jig and throw out your hip. Take it easy, bro. Okay. Look, a 10 is a girl. You see employee boy magazine. A 10 is a girl. You see a maximum a 10. You see like once every three months. And that's if you're going to the clubs and the bars regularly. Okay. What these guys are given tens to is so funny to me. There's a couple eights being tossed around maybe once in a while, a nine, but take it easy with a 10.

3:09 How do you know she's a 10? It's very simple. Is she getting paid for her hotness? I'm going to tell you what, if you were a super hot chick and all you had to do was wake up hot in the morning and go get paid to be hot. You and I both know that's exactly what you'd be doing. Right? So that's what hot girls do. So that's why chicks always try to tell you they're a model. They're an Instagram model, a celebrity. Yeah, right. The tens are the chicks that are getting paid for their hotness.

3:36 So she's not getting paid for her hotness. Slow your roll, bro. Drop it down a gear. Don't come unpeeled, but she's not a 10. She's probably an eight or a nine. Come on, boys. Let's up our standards a little bit. It's the same thing. Have you ever seen a one? I don't know. I've seen maybe a couple ones in my life. One time I saw this one at the carnival. She was a carny. Oh my hell. You just look at her and you want to throw up.

3:57 That's a one. And it's almost the same as a 10. When you see a 10, you look at her and you barf. That's the way you know you're really looking at a 10. So slow your roll, boys. These chicks aren't 10s, but I want to get you 10s. And one of the ways we're going to do that is by showing you this thing, false disqualifiers. There's one more thing I want to mention. Actually, two more things. I got a new microphone. Can you tell? I got the same microphone that Joe Rogan uses because I wanted to up my game.

4:20 So I was like, who's the best podcaster, the most popular guy out there? Joe Rogan. I actually hired an audio engineer to walk me through this. Now I don't have the same equipment as Joe Rogan as far as like his mixer boards and his after recording technology, but I did pretty good. I hired a really awesome sound engineer Julian. What is up, my dude? Thank you so much for your time. I really appreciate it. And he got me all set up. So I got all this like cool equipment now on my desk and I don't have to talk into an audio acoustic box anymore, but instead I have one of those cool microphone booms that I can like move to and fro my face.

5:02 It's pretty sick, man. I'm pretty happy. I feel like Joe Rogan over here and I'm liking it. One other thing, you guys, thank you so much for all the testimonials and also all the reviews on iTunes. All you guys who are following me on the different podcast apps, I really, really appreciate it. If you do leave me an iTunes review, preferably a five-star one with writing behind it. Tell the guys what you found interesting. Tell them how this has helped you. Email me at coachmarksing at gmail.com and I will send you three awesome programs.

5:31 The Conversation Sniper, 150 Deadly One-Liners for Building Attraction, Guide to the Female Orgasm, How to Make Her Look Like a Screaming Demon That Just Got Launched Off a Roller Coaster, and three texts to build massive attraction in women. Impress your friends, baffle your enemies. All right, you guys, let's go ahead and jump into the content. So what the hell is this thing? False disqualifiers. Okay, so false disqualifier is basically when you say something to her that disqualifies her, but it's not really disqualifying her. Like basically telling her that you don't date girls who wear black pants and yellow jackets.

6:14 You don't date girls who were born in the month of February because your dad was killed by a stalker who was born in the month of February. Just something stupid and funny like that to basically disqualify her in a false kind of way. It's funny. It shows you the prize and it gets girls really, really attracted to you. So in this episode, I'm going to give you a bunch of false disqualifiers that you can use with chicks. But before I do that, I want to lay the premise of how this works.

6:42 And this is so important. I literally want you to take notes on this. If you're driving right now, you're walking, you're in the gym, this may be a very good episode to go back to and take notes on it because this is so unbelievably important. And when I figured this out, this changed my game so radically that I want each of you guys to fully understand this, fully master it and fully deploy it when you're attempting to attract a woman. Okay. So first and foremost is the 80 100 rule.

7:10 I did a podcast episode about this a little while ago, but it's so important. It bears repeating. The 80 100 rule states this. If she gives you 10 compliments, you essentially give her eight. Okay. So she gives you 10 compliments or let's say five compliments, four, three, two, one compliment. You're doing 80% of what she does. So let's say she just happens to give you 10 compliments. You give her eight. She gives you five compliments. You give her four. She gives you three. You can give her two. She gives you two.

7:39 You give her one. Now, not only does this work with compliments, but this also works with her pulling you into her. And when I say pulling, and this is going to be important for a little bit further on in this episode, when I say pulling, that means pulling towards you, pulling towards her. So she wants you. She's stating interest. She's stating an objective to be closer to you, to commit to you, to hang out with you more, basically statements of interest that show. She's extremely interested in you.

8:08 So anytime you get one of those, you work it within this 80, 100 rule. Now it really should be called the eight, 10 rule, but I'm an American and as an American, bigger is better. I should have called it the 800, 1000 rule, but I'm not really cool enough for that. So I had to just go with the 80, 100 rule. So once again, 80% of how much she's into you, how much she's chasing you, how much she's complimenting you. That's how much you want to give back to her. Okay. Got it. What is it?

8:37 That's right. 80%. All right. Now the concept of push pull works into this. Okay. So like I said, let's say she gives you 10 compliments. We're just going to work with 10 compliments. I know that's a lot. Just go with it. Relax, bro. Just go with it. Okay. She gives you 10 compliments. How many compliments do you give her? That's right. Eight. Now, in addition to that, you also want to give her eight pushes. Okay. So you're giving her eight pulls. You're complimenting her. You're showing her that you're interested in her.

9:05 You're inviting her over. You're doing statements of interest, not needy now. And this is nice because you see how this works. Like she already gave you 10. So if you give her eight, you're not going to look needy. You're not going to look thirsty, but you're giving her what she really wants to hear. Especially dude, if she's throwing 10 compliments at you, bro, she wants you to be into her, but you don't want to do more than she does. Cause then you look thirsty and try hard. And like I always say in this podcast, she needs to like you more than you like her.

9:35 It's just the way it works. I know it's a little bit fucked up. It's just the way it is. So just trust your uncle Mark Singh. I've done many laps around this track. I've ridden many Broncos in this rodeo. So trust me. I know what I'm talking about. Okay. 80%. Now push, pull, you pull her in with the compliment, right? So she gives you two compliments. Let's say you give her one and it's a pull. Hey, I just want to let you know, you're an awesome conversationalist.

10:02 I'm really enjoying speaking to you, but there's a big problem. And she's like, what's that? And you're like, God, I just don't want to tell you. She's like, what is it? And you're like, dude, I can't date girls who wear the black pants and the yellow jacket. You know, I was attacked once by a flying girl who flew over the bar in black plants and yellow jacket. And I just have this image of this woman flying at my neck and the yellow jacket was flapping in the breeze like a cape.

10:28 And she was going to kill me. And I just have so much trauma. I can't talk to you anymore. Goodbye. We're broken up. Okay. See how that works. It's fun. It's joking. It's not really a push away. Okay. Because it's just playful and that's called a false disqualifier. You're falsely disqualifying her. See how that works? Huh? Okay. So let's look at some push pulls. Okay. So once again, let me repeat pushes, you're pushing her half the time, you're pulling her in half the time and the amount that you pull, that's right.

10:57 It's based on the 8,100 rule. She pulls 10, you pull eight, but you also push eight. Okay. I want to say that again. She pulls 10, you pull eight in response to that. And you also push eight in response to that with a false disqualifier. You don't want to actually disqualify her. Like too bad you're fat because I don't date fat chicks. You fucking mountain troll hand planted fatty. If you wear a Malcolm X shirt, helicopters are going to land on your back. Fucking Canyon mule. No, we don't want to say that.

11:27 All right. It's false. Okay. And it can even be a compliment. So let's go into some of the push pulls. Okay. Too bad you're not my type because you're really cute. Say that all the time to girls. They absolutely eat it up. You should see just wait until you do this, dude. They go into like fucking screensaver mode, like blah, blah, blah. Like their right eye is pointing towards their nose and their left eye is straight. They're just like, can't compute screensaver mode, dysfunction, dysfunction, restart, reboot.

11:53 That's what they go into. Too bad you're not my type because you're really cute. I got Kelly. You know, I'm sitting here talking to you. I'm just looking at you right now and I'm fucking so bummed. Why? Because it's like, it's too bad you're not my type because you're so cute, Kelly. Oh my God, man. That works every time. I might say something like, God, Kelly, you're so easy to talk to. Too bad. I never date girls who I meet at bars. Just one of my rules.

12:23 I don't do it. Now that's a false disqualifier because obviously you can go back against your rule. And what I really like about that one is if she thinks you never date girls who you meet at bars, which you and I know is kind of bullshit. I would say this all the time. She thinks she's going to be that one girl who convinces you to date her and then she feels special. And going back to my other podcast, the T and C rule, Tango and Charlie rule, if you will.

12:50 And if you haven't listened to that, I strongly suggest you do so. Going back to that, you want to make her feel like she's special among all the other girls. Like girls always attack me because I'm talking to a bunch of different chicks at once. And I just say, but yeah, have you seen me grab their phone number? No. Do you see me making out with a bunch of girls? No. Yeah. Just because I don't date girls who I meet at the bar. And so she's going to try to win you over, which makes her chase you.

13:13 And when we chase something, we like it more genius stuff. And I want to repeat it. God, Kelly, you're so easy to talk to. I'm so bombed. Why? Because I don't date girls that I meet at the bar. It's just one of my rules. I don't do it. And then she's going to spend the rest of the night trying to convince you to date her. And that's exactly what you want. All right. One more push pull. I do this one all the time as well. You know what, Kelly?

13:38 I'm sitting here talking to you and I'm so bombed. She's like, why? And I'm like, it's just too bad you're a player. Talking to all the dudes, getting all kinds of numbers, being a little Miss Casanova, running your game. So much game that Kelly. Because if you weren't such a player, I definitely ask for your number because God, you're fun to talk to. Oh, my hell boys, that works so damn good. Smack yourself on the ass. Put that one in your quiver because when you deploy it, when you launch that arrow across the prairie, man, you're going to hit that buffalo right in the heart.

14:08 She is done for when you use these. So let's repeat them real quick. Too bad you're not my type because you're really cute. God, you're so easy to talk to. Too bad I don't date girls who I meet at the bars. Too bad you're a player. Talking to all the dudes, being little Mrs. Casanova over there. Because if you weren't, I'd definitely ask for your phone number. Genius, boys. Genius. All right. So let's go ahead and jump into false disqualifiers. Okay. Once again, and I'm testing you here.

14:34 What's the 8100 rule say? She gives you 10 compliments. How many compliments do you give her? That's right. Eight. Good job. Smack yourself on the ass. That is correct. Now you've given her eight pulls. How many pushes do you give her? That's right, bro. You're a smart motherfucker. Check out the brain on you. That is absolutely right. You give her eight pushes. Okay. Eight pulls, eight pushes, but it's all working within her barometer. Whatever she gives you, that's who you give her back. Now you may be thinking, well, what if she gives me no compliments?

15:06 What if she gives me no statements of interest? Well, I'll tell you what, you know, statements of interest. The best ones are compliments. Let's be honest, but you're probably not going to get those super early on unless you're a mega champion, like the dude listening right now, which you know, you are, but any statements of interest, man, like if she's just sitting there talking to you, her body language is turned towards you. She's laughing at your jokes. You can throw out little things. Just gauge basically what she gives you.

15:29 Give that back to her 80%. And these false disqualifiers can be used immediately. Really? If you want to. So here's some false disqualifiers that I always use in this one, this one's really funny. I stole this from a pickup artist, like back in like 2000, I listened to this thing way back in the day and I really liked it. And I've literally been using this for 20 years. He would always say, uh, so you got 20 inch rims on your car. And she'd be like, what? And you'd be like 20 inch rims.

15:57 Do you have twenties on your car or not? And they're always like, no, you'd be like, Oh my God, I cannot talk to you. I only talk to girls who have 21 inch rims on their cars. And frankly, if they're not spinning, you and I definitely cannot be friends. Okay. False disqualifier. Obviously it's a joke. You're not going to disqualify a girl because she doesn't have 20 inch spinning rims on her car. I haven't even seen spinning rims lately. Have you guys? It's been like 15 years since I've seen those.

16:23 So that one is especially funny. This next one was actually created by a client of mine, Seth. What is up Seth? How many licks does it take to get to the bottom of a Tootsie roll? Now she's going to say, I don't know, like 150. You'd be like wrong. Oh my God. I cannot even believe you don't know how many licks it takes to get to the bottom of a Tootsie roll. We are so broken up now. I want my CDs back or we're so broken up now.

16:47 Give me back the pillow that you borrowed. And I also want my sweatshirt back. My favorite sweatshirt, the pink one. I also want my pink sweats back that say juicy on the butt. And by the way, that was also a Seth creation. Seth, you are fucking genius. May your infinite wisdom and boundless compassion heal the suffering of all sentient beings. That one's for you, Seth. All right. What's your favorite color? You ask her. So, so I have a really important question. She's going to be like, what?

17:20 You'd be like, okay, this is, this is a life changer. You ready? She's like, yeah. You'd be like, what's your favorite color? She'll chuckle. And she'd be like, uh, pink. You'd be like wrong. I can't even believe this girl doesn't even know her own favorite color. What a turnoff. We are broken up now and going back to you, Seth. I want my pink juicy pants with juicy right on the butt cheeks back to me. And I want them back by tomorrow morning, young lady. She laughs.

17:40 She hits you in the arm and attraction results because of it. All right. Now this is my favorite one ever. I do this all the time. And I've talked about it a lot on this podcast. Do you like to travel? If this is your first time hearing this, God, you got to deploy this. This works so well on about 80% of girls, 20% get pissed. If you want to know how to handle a girl who gets pissed, I should actually do a podcast on that. How to, how to treat a girl who gets pissed with your sarcasm.

18:08 But, uh, I do talk about it here and there in my previous podcast, or you could just jump to the chase and get coaching with me. Check out my coaching offer. Marksingcoaching.com. I'm going to turn you into such a girl magnet. You'll be walking down the street and won't be able to see. Do you know why? Because there's going to be fucking panties and bras flying at your face. You're not going to even be able to see where you're going. That's how much game you're going to have.

18:33 All right. So do you like to travel? She says, yes. And then you push her gently, boys, gently push her away and say, travel over there. Oh, oh, that gets a lot of attraction. You especially want to do this when you can tell she's a little bit attracted or better yet when she's really attracted. Oh my hell, this works so damn well. Okay. Like I said before, I don't talk to girls who wear black plants with yellow jackets or anything she's wearing or anything she happens to have on her.

18:59 Now, if it could be something that's embarrassing, like a lip ring, a nose ring, something you think she might be sensitive about, you have to calibrate. And that's a caveat to this entire episode. You guys use your social intelligence. If you feel like she doesn't like being teased, then don't tease her. You know, I had a client write me the other day. I can't remember. I think I put on Instagram, you put the ass and assertive now. And she replied back, which I thought was awesome.

19:25 She's like, you put the dick and dickhead. I was like, yeah, awesome reply. And actually to the dude who wrote me that you should have laughed and given her a high five. Like, yes, that was an awesome reply to congratulate her and make her see that it didn't affect your frame. But his miscalibration was, he probably didn't show her that he was sarcastic. And he said it too early before she was attracted and, or she just gets buttered easily. So you need to really read the chick.

19:54 And what I do is I ease into these like an old man into a warm bath. I throw out an innocuous one. Like, dude, we so cannot be friends now. I cannot believe you just said that. Okay. That's another false disqualifier. I'll do that early to see how she takes it. If she gets butt hurt, she gets quiet. She turns away. I'm like, okay, these false disqualifiers don't work. But if she lights up and says, shut up and hits me on the arm, dude, I'm going to do more false disqualifiers.

20:21 Cause I've proven I've beta tested that these work and I'm going to continue deploying them. So one last one that I always use that I think is kind of funny. I'll look at her kind of like with wrinkled eyebrows and I'll be like, ah, okay, here comes the question. She'll be like, what? And I'll be like, this is an important one. If you can't do this, we definitely can't be friends. She's like, what? Be like, do you know how to do the ancient Celtic shuffle step?

20:46 Cause if you can't do that shuffle step, young lady, we are done. And then a lot of times she'll pretend to do this little shuffle step. And what just happened? She jumped through my hoop. She's now working for me. And as I teach in my coaching, cognitive dissonance, we appreciate what we work for. So you throw out a little hoop. That's also a false disqualifier. She jumps through your hoop. She tries to prove to you she can do it. Bam. Attraction is being built. Okay. So to review, okay.

21:12 8,100 rule. What is it? She gives you 10 compliments. You give her eight, but you also give her eight pushes. A push is a false disqualifier. You're not going to truly disqualify her because she voted for Trump. You're not going to truly disqualify her because she's fat and you're not going to truly disqualify her over something that you think she may be insecure about, but instead it's false. What she's wearing, the fact that she's super cute and you can't focus when you're talking to her. The fact that she was born at a month and day that makes her an Aquarius and you're a Libra and you guys don't match.

21:43 Like I would do it all the time. I'd be like, wait, wait, wait, wait, what's your birthday? She'd be like, I don't know, July 7th. And I'd be like, Oh, what is that? Is like cancer? She'd be like, yeah, it's a cancer. Forgive me. I don't know if July 7th is a cancer. I think it is. If it's not, forgive me. Just doing an example. I'm like, Oh my hell, we definitely cannot talk. I'm an Aquarius. You're a cancer. Do you know what happens with those two?

22:05 She'll be like, what? You'd be like, well, you get into the worst fights. Like Aquarius is a cancer. It's like oil and water. You guys are constantly fighting, but there is something good about it. She's like, what? Well, after you fight, you know what you get to do, right? She's like, what? And you're like, you get to make up. You know what the good thing about making up is, right? And now you've turned that false disqualifier into sexual attention. You're now implying sexual stuff. If she jumps on it and talks about it, boom, you're in the fable cat bird seat.

22:36 All right, boys. So that's it for false disqualifiers. Push, pull on the 8,100 rule. The 8,100 rule is extremely important. I want you guys to use it to manage all your pulls when it comes to women. So if you're ever wondering like, dude, am I chasing her too much? Am I showing her too much interest? Bro, just put this through the 8,100 rule. How much interest is she showing to you? How much is she complimenting you? How much is she chasing you? When you put it through that filter, you always know where to land and that's always going to result in attraction.

23:09 All right. So I appreciate you guys listening. Once again, if you found value in my content and you think that I give some pretty decent advice, I'd really appreciate a review. You know, I try to do my best for you guys, give you premium content. If you want to help me out, if I've helped you out at all and you want to help me out, giving a review, telling a friend, subscribing, helping me grow this thing is the absolute best thing you can do for me.

23:34 I also love those emails where you guys say, I've been changing your life and helping you out a lot. Believe me, that means the world to me and keeps me motivated. But dude, I really want to reach a million men. And yes, this podcast is growing quickly, but as a masculine, unapologetic man, I want it to grow faster. It's not enough. It's never going to be enough. I want it more. I want more listeners. I want more downloads. I want to reach more men because I think this is such a valuable message, this unapologetic man message that I'm putting out there that I want every single man to hear it.

24:04 And once I reach a million, I'm going to go for 2 million, 5 million shit. I could be like Joe Rogan. And I think they said he gets like 190 million downloads a month. Like what the fuck, dude, that is crazy how big his podcast is. And I really respect the guy because he gives good information. He's got a good head on his shoulders. And now I have the same microphone as he does. So I'm hoping some of that mojo is going to help this podcast grow. So once again, dudes, I really do appreciate you.

24:29 If you do leave me a review, make sure to email me at coachmarksingh at gmail.com. And if you want to get some coaching, yeah, I have a long waiting list right now. But as some of you know, I do open some spots for guys who come to me from this podcast. And I'll ask you where you found me and just make sure to say that you found me on the unapologetic man podcast so that I can push you up because everybody else right now is out to a 13 week waiting list.

24:52 So I'll get you in within the next few weeks. I think I have a couple spots still open in December. So hit me up if you're interested in coaching to get this part of your life settled once and for all to start the new year as a girl magnet, not just repeating the same results that you've had in the past. All right, guys, I have another one coming on Monday. That's really good. So please stay tuned and I will see you in the next episode.

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