How to Seduce Women With The Technique of "Mentoring"

0:00 Welcome to the Unapologetic Man Podcast, the only podcast that's all about self-improvement, confidence, success, women, and being a man without making any apologies for it. What is up guys? Thank you for tuning in to another episode of the UMP and today we are going to talk about mentoring. How to use the power of teaching in order to get girls ridiculously attracted to you. And this is one of those seduction techniques that a lot of guys fail to use or even fail to realize it exists. And I want to give you both the psychological reason as to why this exists, how to use it to your unfair advantage, and also how to put yourself in a position where it happens naturally just by virtue of what you're doing.

0:48 So this is going to be a really good information-packed podcast. I do appreciate you tuning in. I know your guys' time is very valuable. There's a billion things trying to get your attention right now, but you chose to click on this episode. And just to show you how much I appreciate that, I'm really going to try to deliver the goods in this one. Also, if you want to jump over to my website and grab the program that I am currently selling for free 99, you can do so.

1:13 It's absolutely free. It's called the Approach Formula. It'll show you how to attract a woman without rejection and without fear. We're going to take down the fear systematically so that Approach Anxiety doesn't even exist anymore. All right. So in this episode, I want to talk about the thing called mentoring. What is mentoring? Well, it's just like it sounds like you teaching her something. Have you guys ever noticed if you were in college or even in high school or if you've ever done classes or anything like that, the girls always seem to get attracted to the professor?

1:48 You know, if the professor is somewhat attractive, they tend to get attracted to the professor very quickly. Man, if I could do college again, you know what I do? I would put myself in the position where I was one of those like grad students that was teaching one of the classes that to the undergrad students. Oh my God, man, I would have gotten more ass than a toilet seat had I done that. So this concept is derived around the fact that women get attracted to guys who are basically in the power position.

2:15 So this is a deep anthropological phenomenon that happens when girls get attracted to what? That's right, the alpha male. So when you're in the alpha male position, oftentimes you'll be in the position where you're leading and you're teaching. You're showing girls how to do things. Like let's go back to the tribal community, right? The girl would get attracted to the leader of the tribe or the leader of the warriors or the leader of whatever group you want to put the label on. They would get attracted to that guy.

2:42 Well, oftentimes that guy would be showing girls how to do things. Now that sets up the frame and you guys know how much I love frame control, that you're the leader and she's the follower. You're very much controlling the frame. By teaching, by mentoring, you are in essence controlling the frame. She's buying into your frame. You're showing her a good time. And there's also an interesting psychological phenomenon that I'm going to explain in a second that plays into this. So mentoring, what we have to do as guys who are trying to get good with women is to work in this mentoring thing within the first several dates if we can.

3:15 So what I used to do is I used to show girls either one of three things. I used to teach them to drive my stick shift, which wasn't a great idea as far as my stick shifts health was concerned because they burned out my clutch pretty quick. You know, you're teaching four different girls a week how to drive stick. Your clutch gets burned out pretty fast in your lower 2002 Honda Civic, right? That was back in the day. And then I would teach girls how to surf.

3:43 When I lived in Hawaii, I'd take them out surfing. And also when I lived in Arizona, this was probably the best one because it was the easiest. I would teach them how to ride this like longboard skateboard thing. And you can do all kinds of things like whatever it is that you're into, even if you're a nerd, quote unquote, and you're into video games, you could teach girls how to play the video game. Very good. Because again, you're in the alpha position, you're teaching her and make sure it's fun for her.

4:07 So no matter what you do, computer programming, you know, you sell loans, like whatever it is, there's always something to teach a woman. If you can figure out how to leverage it and pivot it in a way where you can teach her and it's fun and exciting for her. My old partner who used to be a pickup coach for me, he was a pilot and he would teach girls, you know, how to fly. I mean, not literally how to fly, but giving them a basics about it.

4:33 I have another client who's a helicopter pilot. And I said, man, you know, if you could figure out a way to explain to girls how to fly a helicopter, how a helicopter works, even maybe bring them up. I don't know if you're allowed to do that or whatever, but that would build tons of attraction. So this mentoring thing, what I want you guys to do is figure out how can I teach her something within the first three dates. And I would often try to do it if I could on the first or second date, because it is that powerful.

4:59 And I'm telling you, man, like as I'd be teaching them, I could just see their attraction for me ramping up in real time. You know, I would be teaching them the stick shift and they would get a little bit nervous and I'd be like, it's all right. Just, just trust me. Okay. Go ahead and put your foot on the gas. Go ahead and put it up to about 2000 RPM. That's right. Now slowly let out your left foot. There you go. There you go. Now, now keep the gas on.

5:22 Okay. Let's stop. Put your left foot in and press the brake. Good job. That was perfect. Now, next time, just let out your foot a little bit slower. Okay. So it's going to be kind of like this and then I'd show her with my hands. Then, I mean, look at that dynamic. Like she's just the little girl and it's almost like she's with daddy again. You know, daddy's going to take care of you. You're going to feel good. And then that releases a lot of important emotions in her brain for her to get attracted to you.

5:48 So as you think about this, I want to give you some other ideas. Now, this is huge. You guys, I cannot overstate just how powerful this is. All right. So look at scuba instructors. Look at yoga teachers. Look at rock climbing instructors. Look at guys who do anything in colleges. Okay. These guys are getting laid like no tomorrow. I have had several friends that have had different positions. One of them was a yoga instructor. Oh my God. Are you kidding me? This guy got so much action.

6:20 It was ridiculous. And eventually he met his wife. And one day we were out to dinner and his wife was giving him shit about all the girls he hooked up with. And he's like, well, I was looking for you. And that's exactly right. Like I really believe that too. And actually in my next episode, I'm going to talk about quote unquote, how to be a player without feeling guilty about it. And the real concept here is that you're looking for the best girl. So it's not your fault.

6:47 You're dating a bunch of girls. You're looking for the best one. That's one way to eliminate the guilt that you feel when you're dating lots of girls. But anyway, he was this yoga instructor and he would just get one girl off the other. Cause look at that. You're teaching the class. You get to go up and like instructor, you get to kind of touch her a little bit. You can flirt with her. It's just the perfect situation after class. You can talk to her. You can like have an Instagram page where, you know, you have your little like yoga Instagram page and you're like, Hey, follow me on Instagram.

7:17 Then on that Instagram page, you can show pre-selection and then like hit her up and be like, Hey, you know, um, are you coming to Saturday's class? Start talking to her. Actually, I had a previous client who was a Zumba instructor and he was really having difficulty with girls. And I was like, are you serious? You're having difficulty with girls and you're a Zumba instructor. I was like, listen, work with me to go through the program. I'm going to show you exactly how to leverage the Zumba class in order to get tons of girls.

7:40 So lo and behold, man, couple of weeks, we figured this out. I helped him come up with this whole concept of giving out business cards because he's like, well, I can't get him to follow me on Instagram because they leave. And I was like, all right, let's produce business cards and pass them out to everybody in the beginning of the class. Hey, follow me on Instagram. I'm trying to grow my following. Look at that. It's an under the radar strategy. All these girls started following him.

8:09 Then we set up his Instagram very methodically to show pre-selection, to show all the right things. He would DM these chicks. And then we look for certain signs that they were attracted to him. Because obviously if you're going to use your business, let's say you're a coach, you're a teacher, you're an instructor of some kind, you don't want to shit where you eat. So you got to be very, very careful. But we did that for him. And then suddenly he just got a pipeline of girls coming into his life.

8:32 Literally, it literally didn't take that long at all to set that up. So I'd love for you to think about how you can fill the top of your pipeline by either getting some kind of job or you're in a mentoring position. Even, you know, as far as starting up a meetup group about something you're interested in. Now, bear in mind, you don't want to start up a meetup group about like Star Wars and Call of Duty and Halo, because what chicks are going to show up to that?

8:59 Like you'll get like one mega nerd chick who maybe isn't that hot. Hey, she might be. But you want to try to do something that girls are actually going to be interested in, right? Like spiritual related, yoga related, cooking related, whatever. Okay. So that's one idea. But if you're pulling chicks from Tinder, cold approach, all the other stuff I talk about, man, you have to build this mentoring into your protocol because it is extremely powerful. Okay. So while you're teaching her, you just need to continue that frame that I'm the leader.

9:27 Hey, I'm going to take care of you. You're going to be okay. Like the cool thing about teaching girls how to ride a skateboard is so basic, right? It was completely free. It wasn't hard at all. I had this cool longboard in Arizona. We used to, we actually used to ride them on a Arizona state university campus and pick up girls on it. And when I say pick up girls, I don't mean girls would get on the skateboard. I meant we would approach girls on them.

9:52 And then like one day I was, I was opening a girl and she's like, I've never ridden one of those before. And I was like, oh, mentoring opportunity. I was like, here, hop on. And then she like holds me around the shoulders. Like she's basically hugging me as I'm showing her this. And I'm like, holy shit, I've been talking to this girl for two minutes. And now I'm like holding her around the way she's holding me around the shoulders. Our faces are right next to each other and she's scared.

10:15 And I'm going to get into that in a second. So continue listening. But I was like, wow, this is a great idea. So then first, second date, whatever it was, I would be like, Hey, have you ever ridden one of these long boards before? Vast majority of girls never had. So then I'd show them how to do it. Same situation would happen. They would be hugging me. I'd be, I'd be like, um, holding them by the hips. And then almost all the time I'd kiss them, right?

10:40 Cause I'm showing them how to do this. They get this influx of attraction because of the mentoring. And they also get an influx of attraction for what I'm about to explain to you. So there was this psychological experiment that was put on several years ago. And basically what it was is proving that fear is often misinterpreted as attraction. Now here's how it worked. Okay. So there was a bunch of guys on a hiking trail and there was a bunch of bridges they had to go over through this hiking trail.

11:06 So what happened is they had a pretty hot girl stand at the end of one of the bridges that was really stable. It was a completely stable bridge. Let's just call it like a concrete bridge. No fear of them falling over. Not a lot of fear going across the bridge. So what happened is they would walk across the bridge and then this girl would do a fake interview, just interviewing about the trail, about the forest, whatever their visit, how long were they hiking? Cool. Have a great day.

11:31 Then they would keep going up the trail and a little bit later, they'd be interviewed again. Hey, uh, real quick, how, how attractive did you find that girl? Like we're, we're doing an experiment, whatever the excuse was, how attractive did you find her? Okay. So when they went across the stable bridge, they weren't scared. They were just normal. And they had a basic attraction for her. Let's call it a seven out of 10. Now the other part of the experiment was the girl would stand at the end of a very swinging bridge, a very sketchy bridge is bridge where they would have a lot of fear going over.

12:03 Okay. So she'd stand at the end of that. They'd go across that bridge. She would interview them. And then the same thing, another mile down the road, they would be asked, well, how attracted were you to this woman? And it went way up. They, they reported way more attraction for this girl. So that teaches us something really interesting. It teaches us that when women and us too, men, when we're in a state of a little bit of fear, we actually feel more attraction for the person who were there with.

12:31 So this is a good thing to think about. And I've often used this in my own seductions is I would kind of drift my car. Like I have a Toyota four runner, it's lifted. And when it snows out here in Colorado, I can drift it pretty epically. I can get that shit completely sideways, fish tailing, bring it back. And I would do that. Like I'd take girls on dates and I'm good at it. I know I'm not going to lose control most of the time. One time, quick story.

13:00 One time I had a friend who was a neighbor and he was a cop and I was doing some drifting practice in my neighborhood. Cause we just got some fresh snow. So I did this epic drift around the corner, man. It was like a freaking 400 foot drift. I'm just like, pop, pop, pop, pop, pop, drifting this thing. And then I straighten it out and I see him sitting in his cop car and his windows down and he's just shaking his head. And I stop and I'm like, like, what's up, Brian?

13:21 How you doing? He's like, bro, don't do that in this neighborhood. He's like, man, I should be arresting you right now. And he's like, just go. It's cool. Just go. And I was like, all right, dude, sorry about that. But drifting is so fun, man. When you get a fresh snow, see, I never lived in a place where it snowed before. Um, all you guys who grew up in snow, you know what I'm talking about. There's some fun shit to do. So anyway, I would take, I would drift my car when these girls were in the car.

13:44 Now, of course, I'd keep it safe. I wouldn't do anything crazy, but I would do that on purpose. Cause I knew it got them attracted to me. So while I don't want you to completely freak them out, this is a good thing to keep in the back of your mind because it gets them attracted for you guys who have motorcycles. You could take a girl on a motorcycle ride for you guys who have like jet skis, ATVs, fast cars, whatever it is. I mean, come on.

14:10 We all know that scene in the movie where the guy takes the girl in his fast car, fucking punches it. All the blood is pulled to the back of her brain because she's going so fast. And then the next thing you know, they're having sex. Well, there's a reason for that because that fear snaps her into attraction. She misinterprets the fear for attraction for you. Once again, be safe. I don't want to be responsible for anything crazy, but it's something I want you to keep at the top of your mind.

14:35 All right. So this mentoring thing, man, you guys got to use it. I really want you to think about what can I teach these girls? Okay. And even better, if you can get yourself into a situation where you have a continuous stream of updating girls coming into your life and you're somehow teaching them something. Okay. Scuba instructor, whitewater river raft instructor. Yeah, sure. I'll just go with it. Rock climbing instructor, whatever, even something more nerdy like computer programming. Although again, you know, we have to try to make it so that hot girls are coming in.

15:10 I mean, that's why yoga instructor is so perfect, right? My buddy had it perfect. I had another friend who was a scuba instructor and he was, uh, down in Dubai or something teaching scuba. And that's how he met his wife. So I remember when I took my scuba course, uh, there was actually a Navy SEAL who taught the scuba class and he was pulling all the girls. We had like one class with two different chicks in it. It was the class that I was in and he got somehow got both those girls.

15:38 And I remember one of the girls smokes and one of the other guys, this is just a weird memory. I have, I was 16 years old. So there's a long time ago, like 1997 or something. Um, she was smoking and the guy says, well, if she smokes, she pokes. And I always thought that was really funny. So anyway, guys, that's the way mentoring works. I really want you to work this into your first, second or third date. I also want you to work in that fear thing that I explained.

16:04 How can I give her a little dose of adrenaline, a little dose of fear, which she's going to misinterpret for attraction for me. You could even take her to a carnival, uh, do go-karts. Things like that are really good to get girls attracted to you. So keep that at the top of your brain, guys. This is really, really powerful stuff. Once again, I really do appreciate you listening. And I hope that this method gives you even more success with women. Stay tuned for my podcast to drop on Wednesday.

16:29 While it may not be the sexiest subject, the guilt that comes with being a player. I think all you guys need to hear it because I guarantee you, a lot of you guys haven't even thought about this is what are the repercussions of getting really good with women? You're going to be dealing with situations you never thought of that you had to deal with before. And if you could get the education from me, then I'm going to drop on Wednesday before you get into these situations, you're going to save yourself a lot of heartache, a lot of keyed cars, a lot of stalker, Texas Rangers knocking down your fucking door and stalking you from their stalking high, bro.

17:00 I've been stalked. You do not want to do that shit. You do not want to deal with it. I've had my car keyed. You do not want to deal with that. I've had my mom get stalked by a girl. Yes. True fucking story. So believe me, chicks fucking lose their shoe to marble. They come completely unpeeled. When you use all these techniques, like you do a little mentoring and the next thing you know, man, their shooter marble is gone and they're freaking stalking you, dude, like showing up at your house, knocking down the door when you're with some other girl.

17:31 So I want to give you some good tips on how to alleviate not only the guilt, but those situations you're going to inevitably encounter when you get really good with girls, which you guys are all doing. All right. Once again, guys, I do thank you for listening. Please show up again on Wednesday as well as Friday and then the next Monday and the next Wednesday, next Friday, continuing on and on into eternity. I'm going to be dropping these podcasts. So please keep showing up. Please keep giving the love.

17:56 And of course, if you want to contact me, direct me, hit me up coachmarksingh at gmail.com. And you can also check out my coaching offer on my website, coachmarksingh.com. All right, guys. Thank you again for listening and I'll see you in the next episode. We'll see you in the next episode. We'll see you in the next episode.

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