Mark Sing's "Pushy Method" For Getting Girls

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2:55 I thought you were really kind of standoffish. You build a lot of attraction first and then you let the girl come to you. Well, there's definitely that way of doing it. And usually that would be my preferred way to do it. But I also had a different way, which I called the pushy method. Now, it's not as it sounds. We're not being creepy. We're not trying to push girls into doing something they don't want to do. But we're being very persistent in a charming kind of way.

3:21 So what I call it is persistently charming. And you express your desire for her. You let her know you want her. But you do it in a very, very charming way, a very charismatic way where you slowly break down her defenses. So there's different ways to skin a cat, right? You could do the under the radar technique. You could do the mystery technique, which I talked about in a previous podcast. Or you can do this technique. And honestly, I'd use all of them through the years.

3:48 And it kind of depends on the vibe that I have going with the girl. And also the way I'm feeling in that particular moment. So one good example of this is from Hollywood. Now, when it comes to Hollywood, 90% of the time what they teach us is complete bullshit as far as like attracting women. It's written by dudes who don't get girls and who want it to be a certain way. Leave flowers on her car, write her poems, that kind of method. And it blows up in our faces.

4:14 And we wonder why it didn't work. But one thing they got right, and occasionally I'll see it in movies, is again that persistently charming character. Now, the one place I know you guys have definitely seen this is that show Friends. Remember that show Friends? And remember Joey? And Joey would be like, how you doing, right? And he was very, very charming. And he would be very forward with his intentions. I'm attracted to you. I want you. You're beautiful. But see, the way he did it was in a very charming way.

4:45 So if you're one of these guys that kind of isn't charming, doesn't have a lot of charisma, which is fine. This probably isn't the best method for you. But if you're naturally funny, you're charismatic, you have a good energy about you, which I know a lot of you guys do, this technique could work really well for you. Another place I saw this was in that movie Police Academy. You guys ever seen that? It's from the 80s. Hey, I was born in 1977, so these are kind of movies in my generation.

5:12 But it's actually a pretty funny movie. And I was watching it the other day. And the main character, he's applying to become a cop, and he's very forward towards this girl. He's like, I'm attracted to you. I'm into you. I want to see you again. And he's very forward about it. But he has that charm about him, right? That like wry smile, that deep, deep confidence. And that's what needs to be paired with charisma, is a deep confidence that, listen, girl, I know that I would be awesome for you.

5:41 I know you would have a great time with me. So come on, let's do this. I want you. I think you're gorgeous. Come on, let's go. And you're kind of like funny, charismatic about it. Now, this piggybacks off of a very important concept when it comes to seduction. And here's the concept. What is it that a woman wants more than anything else from a man? Okay, think about it for a second. What is it that a woman wants more than anything from a man romantically? She wants to be wanted.

6:11 She wants to be desired. She wants to be pursued. She wants to be desired more than anything in the world. But here's the trick. Okay, here's the caveat to that. She wants to be desired by a man who she already desires. And that's why I always say, and I recently did a podcast about this, how to escalate with women. That's why I always say you wait until they're attracted for you to escalate. You wait until they want to be your girlfriend until you ask them to be your girlfriend.

6:42 So a lot of times females, older females, will give us advice. Oh, just leave flowers in her car, write her a poem. And that's where this Hollywood bullshit comes from, right? But what the real thing is, is you have to get her really attracted to you first, then you show your intentions. But with this forcefully charismatic method is you're breaking down her wall slowly in a very certain way. And this needs to be pulled off in the right way because this can very easily come off as creepy.

7:10 If she's not interested, she's not going to like it. But deep down inside, she's like, oh, I love this because women want to be desired. So even if she isn't immediately attracted to you, if you have just a hint of attraction, right? Like she kind of has a little smile. She's kind of digging it. Then you can really make some good progress with this. And this is why sometimes I do it this way. Sometimes I wouldn't. Admittedly, it takes a level of experience to know when you can pull this off.

7:38 But let's say there's a girl at work who you can just tell there's kind of a little bit of attraction for you. And you can tell she likes your charms. She likes it when you're funny. She laughs at your jokes. You can tell she's kind of into that. I bet you anything that this would work. So you let her know, listen, I'm attracted to you. And you know what? If you don't go on a date with me tonight, Kelly, I am going to be on the corner of my bed in the cannonball position crying like a schoolgirl.

8:05 And then she laughs and then I'll be like, look, so I got a statue of you made. It's going to be delivered next week, okay? It's going to go out in my backyard. And what I'm going to do is I'm going to take pictures of it and send you a picture every night of the statue of you from different angles because it's a shrine to the beauty of Kelly. And then when you reject me again and again, over and over again, I'm going to be crying so much on the corner of my bed that there's going to be a wet puddle right there on the floor.

8:35 And you are going to cause structural damage, Kelly, to the integrity of my home, okay? So that's kind of how it works. And guys, I literally just pulled that out of my ass right now. But this is the kind of bullshit that I would spit at girls. I would also say things like, you know what? When you walked in tonight, like a lot of times I'd be at the bars, right? I'd be like, when you walked in tonight, when I saw your beauty, it freaking hit me in the legs.

8:58 My legs went out. I was on the floor like a fucking Vietnam vet who just got his legs blown off. I'm crawling on the floor and people are stepping on me. I had my hand stepped on. Freaking got my neck stepped on. I'm dying. I'm dying, Kelly. And I said, what is it that can reinvigorate me? What can bring me back to my strength? It was you. It was you, Kelly. So I look. I look for you. I look for you. And finally, I see you around the bar.

9:22 And I pull myself up on a barstool. And I look. And I see your beauty. Majestic beauty. Be like an angel. And I get right back to my feet. And my strength is renewed, right? And she's sitting there being like, shut up. Oh, my God. You're so stupid. Like hitting you in the arm. This gets a lot of attraction. So this is the charismatically forward way to do this. Because again, women want to be desired. But big caveat to this. They want to be desired by guys who they themselves desire.

9:53 So I always want you guys to go for attraction first. Now, you can kind of do this in two ways. You can do it. You already feel like your foot's in the door. She's a little bit attracted to you. You know that you're a charismatic, fun-loving guy. You're funny. You have a great smile. This really helps when you kind of have like a great smile about you, a great vibe about you, right? That really helps. So do an honest assessment. Then you can just admit it.

10:19 But you have to do it in a charming way. Don't do it in a way where it's like creepy. You almost want to do it in a joking way, the way that I explained. Because this can very easily come off as creepy. Hey, I'm into you. I'm going to be on the corner of my bed in the cannonball position crying if you don't give me your number. See how like that delivery alone changes the entire meaning of the interaction? You got to have that charm. You got to have charisma.

10:45 And this is how you get pushy with certain girls. And I've closed a lot of different girls this way. It's really, really effective if you can pull it off correctly. So if you feel like that's your kind of personality, then you can definitely pull that off. Another thing I want to say about this is what is a man's deepest desire? So think about your deepest desire when it comes to a woman. You know, a lot of us, we want to have sex with a bunch of girls immediately.

11:10 But ultimately, when it all boils down, we want to meet a great girl who we can settle down with and be with for a long time. You know, I talk to clients all day long, all the time, almost to a man. I'm talking like 99% of you guys, that's what you want. What do you really want? Okay, what you really want is to be needed. You want to feel like you're needed, like your hands are there to protect her. You're the man of the house. You want to feel like she needs you and she's relying on you.

11:38 Well, she wants to feel like you want her. And even with my own girlfriend, I'm in a relationship right now. I always make sure that I want her. I sexually desire her. Freaking smack her ass when she walks by, right? She loves that crap because she likes to feel sexy. So remember that with women, right? When you get into a relationship, you have to make sure that she knows that you desire her. Hopefully, she takes care of herself. That's a whole different podcast episode. And how does she need to make you feel?

12:07 She needs to make you feel like she needs you. And that's the way my girlfriend makes me feel, right? Is that I'm the man of the house. She needs me. She really doesn't want to lose me. She could live without me, but she says she couldn't. That kind of thing. And then I want to have sex with her. That's the male-female interaction. And this is the way to keep a girl in love with you, to keep a girl interested in you, is let her know that you desire her.

12:32 You think about her when she's not there. Marissa knows that there's this really sexy video of her on YouTube, and I'll never share it with you guys, because I don't need you beating off to my girlfriend. Fuck that. But anyway, I watch it sometimes, because she's fucking super sexy in it. I'm like, yeah, I watched the video today. She's like, you did? I'm like, dude, it got me so turned on. Just watch out. Watch out. You're going to get attacked later tonight. And she's like, I am, right?

12:55 She loves that kind of shit. And I love it when, again, she needs me. So if you have this kind of charisma about you, leverage that shit, man. And if you know that women sometimes get attracted to you, you can do this very forward technique. And what I like to do is make it like my life will be destroyed without her. I'm going to be crying like a schoolgirl. My life will never be the same. I can't walk straight. I like to make it very over the top.

13:21 So you're expressing here your desire for her, but it's always over the top, kind of like joking and like with a rye smile and charisma. And man, to make this even more powerful, you still leave some mystery about you and you still pull away sometimes and you're still not completely able to be gotten by her. I mean, that is such the way to do it. Like you bust her charisma, bust, bust, bust, and then take it away for a minute. Then hit it, hit it, hit it again.

13:48 Take it away. God, that gets attraction so fast. So a lot of my stuff is under the radar kind of stuff. I love it when women get attracted to me first and kind of pursue me in a way and express their intentions to me first. But there's definitely a method where you can be very forward and express your interest in her in the right way with the right charisma. So this is the way to be pushy. You can be persistent. Some guys even tell women, I hear this all the time, like, I'm going to marry you on the second date.

14:16 They tell her that now think about it, bro, that would creep out a ton of chicks, but sometimes it works. And the reason it works is because they have that certain certainty about them, that certain confidence, that certain charisma. It's not creepy. It's taking her to where she wants to be led, being severely desired, but not in a creepy way. And it's almost the creepy way is like you're trying to get something from her, but the charming way is like you want to give her this amazing life and you want to desire her forward.

14:46 If that makes sense, you want to, you don't want to desire her for yourself. Really? You want to desire her for her if that hits with you guys. So it's like when I tell girls, I have a statue in my backyard of them. And I also, I also tell girls that a statue of me will be delivered. I'm like, look, I got a statue of you. Okay. It's a little bit embarrassing. Couldn't help myself. It matches the poster that I have of you on my ceiling.

15:09 Anyway, it's, it's like a seven foot tall statue of you naked, by the way, very naked. Well, you know, it was a two for one deal. So what I did is I ordered a statue of me naked. Now, fortunately I'm rocking the angry inch. So they didn't have to waste a lot of plaster on that part of my body. But anyway, it's going to be delivered. Go ahead and put it in the foyer. You can worship it five days a week. I'm going to worship yours seven days a week, but take it easy stalker, Texas ranger.

15:36 I just want you worshiping me five days a week. Deal? Deal. And that's like the charming, I really want you kind of vibe that I throw out there. All right, guys. So that's it for me in this podcast. I hope you've gotten something from it. If you want, you can watch that show Friends. Pay attention to Joey. I think he was on some other sitcom too that I saw him on where he was very forward. And I think Two and a Half Men. I've only seen a couple episodes of that.

16:00 But I think Charlie Sheen, I think he had that same kind of vibe about it. I'm sure there's different shows too who have that vibe. So pay attention to that. But most of the time, Hollywood gets it wrong. In this instance, they got it right. So check it out. And if you want to, you can watch Police Academy. Pretty damn funny. But that guy, there is one thing he says that I don't agree with. He was too forward. He's like, I'd love to see you in those pants or something like that.

16:24 I would never say that. But other than that, he did a great job. And I think it really would have worked. And look at the smile on these guys' faces. Look how they're charming in that way. This is a really good way to game. And hey, this might be the way that works best for you. All right. Thanks so much for listening. I'm coming swinging with another one on Monday. So please stay tuned. If you do give me a review, please email me at coachmarksing at gmail.com.

16:47 And I will send you so much stuff. Your pants are going to fly off when the concussion hits. I'm going to get your name tattooed on my butt. And a picture of you on the side of my car that says Le Champion underneath it. Thanks again for listening. And I will see you in the next episode. We'll see you in the next episode.

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