Online Dating God #1: How to Set up Your Profile That Can't Be Ignored

0:00 Welcome to the Unapologetic Man Podcast. The only podcast that's all about self-improvement, confidence, success, women, and being a man without making any apologies for it. What is up guys? Mark Sing here. Thank you for joining me on another episode of the UMP. And today, we are going to talk about online dating. How to set up a profile that can't be ignored. Listen, man, I have to be honest with you about something. Right now is the best time in all of human history to meet chicks online.

0:37 I mean, think about it. These girls are literally being forced into loneliness. They are literally being forced to stay in their home, not associate with their friends, not go out, not get attention from guys. So what the fuck are they going to do? You're absolutely right. They're going to go on the online dating platforms. In fact, I've been researching this and there is a 200% to a 500% increase in women going online because they're forced into loneliness, they're forced into boredom, and they want nothing more than a guy like you to sweep them off their feet.

1:10 So in the last few podcast episodes, I talked about how I'm going to make a product. Well, I decided not to make that product and instead just to give you all the information or almost all the information here in the podcast. So what I'm going to name it is Online Dating God. Kind of a stupid name, but I feel like it's going to get some clicks. Hey, you clicked on it, right? Online Dating God 1, 2, 3, 4, and I think it's going to be up to 5 or 6 or maybe even 7 or 8.

1:37 I haven't hashed out everything yet, but I'm going to go through how to set up your profile. I'm going to go through what to send these chicks. I even have this brilliant way to make it so chicks contact you. I have something called the Chick Crack Story Reel, which is ridiculously potent. It's literally increased the success of my students by 800%, no joke. I'm also going to teach you first email messages, what to say to her when she's ho-humming you, how to get her invested, how to have her stop wasting your time, and other things that cover basically everything.

2:11 And by the way, I have one, another one, another ridiculously potent way to slide into girls' inboxes when they ignored you before. So think about it, man. There's all these really hot girls, okay? They're not able to go to the clubs. They're not able to go party. They're not able to do their little socializing. So what the hell else are they going to do? They're going to go online. And if you stand out from the crowd, if you use the things that I'm going to teach you, yes, even you can get them.

2:40 I'm talking to a girl that a month ago, you'd be like, oh, she's way out of my league. First of all, you need to change your thinking on that. She's not out of your league because the only fact that makes her in your league or not is how you think. So why not think in a way that makes her in your league, right? But, dude, not only can you date girls that were, quote, unquote, out of your league, but they're going to be contacting you. They're going to be super interested in you.

3:02 It's like a simulation that we all dream we can get into where tons of hot babes are flocking to us and stacking into our email inboxes. So if you're already online and you haven't had good results or you've had bad success with online dating in the past, trust me, brother. You want to get back on the dating sites. Just trust what I'm saying. I'm going to release these six to eight podcasts over the next couple months. And if you just trust what I say, do what I tell you, I guarantee you're going to get results.

3:31 How can I guarantee it? Because this is what I teach my clients. Now, obviously, as a coach, I'm going to tout my own services. If you want to cut to the fucking chase and learn this all in one call with me, hit me up, man. And I have specific things that we're going to do for you based on what you look like, based on your style, based on the kind of girl you want. So I'm going to try to help you guys out as generically as I can.

3:52 And there are tons and tons and tons of good tips. But really, if you want the absolute best results in the quickest way possible, hit me up, coachmarksing.com. By the way, I just put a bunch of more testimonials on there. I haven't been really getting to them. I've been kind of procrastinating on it, but I got a bunch of them. I slapped them up on there. And look at what they say, man. Like, these guys are getting laid. I just had a client who's a virgin.

4:16 And he worked with me for a couple months, was a virgin until he was almost 30. And he got laid, lost his virginity. Now, shit you not, a couple days later, he got laid again by a different girl. And that's oftentimes the way it works. I was explaining this to a client today that there's often a tipping point where you're not getting results, not getting results, not getting results. And then once you've worked on yourself enough, once you've dealt with the inner bullshit enough, it just tips.

4:40 And it's like feast or famine, right? You got nothing, nothing, nothing, nothing. Feast time. Feast on all those girls. So my boy is, he's feasting. And I'll tell you what, man, I've never seen him with such an ear-to-ear smile. That is one happy individual. All right, guys. Let's go ahead and jump into the content here. So first of all is your mindset, okay? As I talked about, you need to see this as an opportunity. You need to see this as a reaping day. You need to see this as a modern-day gold rush.

5:08 Tons of girls being forced into loneliness want to connect with you. This is an opportunity. So change your mindset from ho-hum, this sucks, how are we going to hang out? By the way, I'm going to get to that. I'm actually going to give you a method to get her to your house. But you need to stop all that bullshit. Think of this as a positive. We got tons of lonely girls who want to talk to you. As I stated previously, there's up to a 500% increase in women going online.

5:33 So you getting rejected and you not meeting great girls on there and having all these frustrating situations is going to completely change. I've been talking to my students about this. And they're getting like way harder girls to be interested in them. They're getting into much better conversations. These chicks are actually writing them back right now. Especially, dude, especially with the methods I'm going to teach you. It's over, bro. Like they're going to be super into it. It doesn't matter what you look like, by the way.

6:00 I'm going to teach you how to set up your profile pictures so you get the best success. All right. So the most important thing about pictures is you choose ones with the correct body language. They've done studies on this and they've literally taken the same guy, took a picture of him with bad body language. And if you don't know what bad body language is, I suggest you listen to my podcast episode, Make Body Language Your Superpower. It was a couple of months ago that I filmed that.

6:28 But with bad body language, he got four swipes. And then with good body language, which I also discussed in that episode, he got like 14 or 20 swipes. I can't remember which one it was. But really what you look like doesn't matter as much as how you present yourself. So that's a big thing here is that your looks don't matter, but your presentation does. So you want to choose pictures where you have good, open, confident body language. If you don't know what that is, once again, listen to my podcast.

6:55 Or I was thinking, if you want to send me your pictures, I will go through them with a couple of my girlfriends. And we will tell you which ones to select. But I do ask that you tell a friend about this podcast. So if you're honest about it, you say, look, I told my buddy, he's going to listen to it. Then go ahead, send me your pictures. I'll have me and a couple of close girlfriends check them out. We'll tell you the order to put them in.

7:16 But here's a couple interesting principles that you should follow. Okay. So first and foremost is your body language and all your pictures. You want to have good body language and preferably you want to have a smile on your face for the first picture. There's been contradictory information about which kind of profile picture works the absolute best, a growl or a grimace or like a good smile. So just kind of use what works best for you. Where do you look the best and go with that? You want a couple of pictures where you show that you have good style.

7:45 You want a couple of pictures where you show that you're in the know, meaning that you have friends who are cool. You have a cool lifestyle, not try hard where you're trying to like impress them and definitely not like duck face kind of stuff or selfies or any of that crap. But just shows that like you have a cool lifestyle. You go snowboarding, you go surfing, you go on camping trips with your friends. Now, here's another important concept and you should know this by now is pre-selection.

8:12 So if you're going to have girls in your profile pictures, you need to communicate that they're just friends. So it can look like they're attracted to you. One good example is you're smiling and there's a girl like making kissy face towards you, like trying to kiss your cheek. That's perfect. But you definitely don't want those pictures where it's like you've photoshopped a girl out who you were like taking a picture with and you can only see like half her face or something like that. Get rid of those pictures, don't take them because girls don't want to see your ex-girlfriends.

8:42 They just want to see that you have girls in your life. It shows that you're socially intelligent. It shows that you can be trusted and they'll be much more likely to contact you when you have those kinds of pictures. All right. So I suggest having seven pictures, five to seven, five to nine. You don't want to go too many. I believe on some apps like Match.com, et cetera, you can have a lot. But let's keep it at seven. And the final picture should be a humdinger.

9:08 You don't want to just throw in there some random picture of you that you think is okay. I want that one to really hit. So you want it to be like a sandwich. You want the first one to really hit and then the last one to really hit. And if you have some ho-hum ones where, you know, you got like a fat roll hanging over your belt or you just don't look optimal, leave it out. You can, if you want to, set up your phone on the bureau and just do a timer and take a shit ton of pictures of yourself and try to get you in some good poses, right?

9:38 I know it's uncomfortable, but look, if you take a hundred pictures, you're going to get one good one. Wouldn't you agree? And what else are we all doing right now? We're not really doing a lot. So take the time to get good pictures. Don't just throw it in there and hope that my messaging skills and the other things I'm going to teach you are going to work. Your profile pictures are super important. All right. If you're ripped, and this is from my friend, John Anthony, he has his shirt off on his profile picture and he's like holding weights.

10:03 It looks like he's working out, but it was a photo shoot. It's actually on the front of his book, Body of an Alpha, which you can find at gettheperfectbody.com. But he has, that is his profile picture and the dude's ripped. So it's like, yeah, he's going to get a lot of matches. But I think if you're ripped and you're younger and you want to get laid and you're on Tinder, you can do shit like that. And by the way, you can get laid during this coronavirus thing.

10:27 I promise you. In fact, I think you can maybe get laid easier than if it wasn't coronavirus, especially for some of you guys who are terrified of approaching women. This is a great opportunity. So if you're ripped, go ahead and show it. Just avoid the like super obvious selfies. I mean, I've taken them to, you know, you get the lighting perfect and you take this like super obvious selfie that tries to make you look ripped. It's better to make it look like it's off the cuff.

10:52 Like you're playing football with your friends or you just happen to have your shirt off or a towel around your waist and you're walking from point A to point B. And then somebody got a picture of you. This looks pretty good. You slapped it into the profile. But you don't want to look try hard. With women, you never want to communicate that you're trying to impress them. But you always want to try to impress them, if that makes sense. Don't want to get caught doing it, but you want to do it subtly.

11:18 There's different ways to do that, including self-deprecation, which is another thing you can throw into your pictures. And I'm going to discuss that more when we get to our next episode about the Chick Crack Story Reel, how to make girls contact you. Okay, you with children is good. I had a picture once of me teaching my nephew how to play t-ball. I was like standing behind him and that picture got me a ton of love. And then, you know, once again, the last picture, I like to have it of me in a suit looking really good.

11:48 Maybe a nice smile on my face, good open body language. And then I would always get lots of girls contacting me first. But like I said, in the next episode, I'm going to give you the true power of the Chick Crack Story Reel, man. This thing is like ridiculously powerful. All right, so what are some good things to put into the dating profile as far as like what you'll write? Okay, so this really depends on who you are and how you are. So I think for younger guys who are just looking to get laid, now this is such a generalization, so you have to decide what's best for you.

12:21 But I think with kind of like younger dudes in their 20s who are just looking to get some hot girls who are kind of down to just have fun and girls who are still in the mood to have fun, I'd say like from 27 lower, you want to be totally silly with your profile writing or don't write anything at all. Okay, so on Tinder, for example, you can leave it blank. I suggest you leave it blank. Why? Because it builds intrigue. Sometimes with girls, the less you say, the better.

12:49 And I think in this situation, the more you say, the more you can shoot yourself in the foot. That being said, when I was on the dating sites, I had really good success. And I had really good success because I wrote a somewhat serious profile bio that kind of hit on all the marks of what women are attracted to. So for example, you could write something like, Those who know me would probably describe me as happy and extremely confident with few complaints and an immense appreciation for life.

13:17 I have a strong personality, but I prefer to think of myself as someone who knows what he wants and knows how to get it. Okay, so that communicates a lot of alpha male type of things. It's well written and it worked very well for me in the past. But what also worked well for me was to say something like, Ass model during the day, dolphin trafficker at night. I make my living showing other people how to do backflips. Contact me today for a half off coupon or something like that.

13:46 Or I really like this one, not here for hookups. I'm not that kind of girl. Okay, so something totally silly, something that women write. It's going to make them laughing because as we remember, girls want to have fun, especially now they're bored out of their minds. If you can make them chuckle and give them that dopamine hit, they're going to be much more likely to contact you. So I personally lean towards the funny thing. I mean, even now, if I broke up with Marissa and I was back on the market, I would test that first.

14:14 But here's the thing. You got to test. You got to test what's right for you. You got to beta test it. So half the time, I suggest putting something totally silly and funny and writing girls like really funny messages, which we're going to go over in subsequent episodes. And then the other half the time, maybe write something like what I just gave you. That kind of more serious kind of angle that's going to attract women who are looking for more of like a boyfriend type thing.

14:41 So it's also what you want, what you're looking for, things like that. Okay, another kind of serious type sentence is, So, you know, I spent some time as a writer, and I think that's well written. And I got a lot of comments from girls like, Oh my God, your profile was so amazing. It's so well written. But then other chicks would just skip it because it's like too serious. So you need to think, what kind of girl am I trying to attract here? Am I trying to attract a zany party girl who's young and just wants to laugh?

15:33 Or am I trying to get a girlfriend? So that's really what you need to think about. Some online dating profiles make you answer questions about yourself. So what is your height? What is your job? Things like that. Now, once again, you can go on this vein of completely making fun of yourself, or you can be a little bit more serious about it. I once again kind of lean towards just joking around with it. So what you should also do is point out things that are obvious about you.

16:01 If you're short, like it asks what your height is and you're like, fuck dude, that's my height. I'm 5'5". You can make a joke like some of the jokes that I talked about in previous podcasts, which is like, yeah, I'm 5'5". I'm a little bit disappointed by that because my lifelong goal was to become a midget. I'm almost there. I just have 5 inches to shrink. Or I'm a little bit disappointed in that because I really want to be a horse jockey. Just a few more inches to shrink and then I'll be there.

16:25 If you have a bald head, which by the way, one of my clients, you know who you are. What's up, brother? He has a bald head and he's like a good looking dude and he kind of looks like Bruce Willis. And I told him today, I'm like, you do know that women, most women are attracted to bald heads, right? In fact, it's the one haircut style that most women are attracted to. And he's like, oh, I didn't know that. And I was like, there you go.

16:47 We need to start changing your perspective about how you are attractive to women. Anyway, if you have a bald head and you're all butthurt about it and you don't like it, you could say, I want you to make it like agree and amplify, right? Like make it worse than it actually is. My bald head is awesome because it makes me super aerodynamic. I can get from my garage to the mailbox in 30 seconds rather than 35. And literally, guys, I just thought of that off the top of my head.

17:12 And that's what you need to do too is make the things about you funny. If it's obvious you're fat, you could say, you know, I look like a chicken McNugget with tits. Only a short while now before I'll be dancing outside of McDonald's with a come inside sign. Okay. So look, dude, you're not going to hide the fact that you're fat. Personally, I think you should try to lose the weight. I just think that being healthy and being thin is the better option. And if you want help with that, certainly I can do that.

17:42 That's one of the big things my clients hire me for. But look, if you're overweight and you just can't seem to lose it, you've tried everything, you know, like millions of people have, then own it. Accept it. Make fun of it. Make it obvious. That's the way to deal with something you don't like about yourself. All right. So here's your job. I want you to get on all the dating websites. That's right. All of them. At least the ones that are suitable to you. I'm talking Tinder, Match.com, Hinge, Plenty of Fish, Bumble, Coffee Meets Bagel, Grindr.

18:15 That one I specifically suggest to you. Yes, you, brother, who are listening to that right now. Grindr all the way, man. You're going to get tons of ass off of that website. So sign up to all these websites and make a profile that's, you know, unique to each one and figure out what you want to beta test. Okay. So initially, we are going to beta test our pictures and then we're going to beta test our profiles. So you're going to try different profiles on different things.

18:43 I'm telling you, just a slight switch in your profile can have profound results. I've seen guys go from zero messages to like eight overnight because they change their profile. And, you know, while I have my opinion of what's best and I gave you guys some good examples, it really depends on you. Okay. If you're like a doctor who wears glasses and like it's very obvious you're a serious guy, it's just going to come off as incongruent if you say I'm an ass bottle by day, backflip expert by night.

19:11 But if you're like a younger guy who's in college, you got spiky hair and like cool style, maybe you surf or mountain bike, then that kind of shit is going to be congruent with both yourself and perhaps the girls you're trying to attract. So do you. Okay. And what I suggest is do you times a thousand. You want to amplify who you are. You want to magnify it and show it to these girls. Now, the first messages we send them are going to be the most important part of this thing.

19:38 And I'm going to get into that in subsequent episodes. But for now, let's focus on setting up your profiles. Okay. Soon, I will come out with those episodes. But once again, if you want to cut to the chase and dip into this absolute tidal wave of chicks who are going online, then hit me up, dude. Coachmarksingh at gmail.com or coachmarksingh.com. All right, guys, that's it for this episode. Once again, pay attention. Online dating God number two will come out probably next week. I think maybe I'll do one a week and then have two other episodes because, as you know, I release them Monday, Wednesday, Friday.

20:12 So I'll do like one a week. Maybe I'll just do them every Wednesday like this one's landing on Wednesday. And then you guys can get all that great information. So once again, I thank you so much for listening. If you want me to go through your pictures with a couple of my hot friends, I'll be sure to do that. Just as long as you tell somebody else about this podcast, I'm really trying to grow it. And I would appreciate your help with that. All right, guys.

20:33 Thank you so much for listening. And I will see you in the next podcast.

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