Online Dating God #2 - How to Make Girls Contact You First (800% Increase in Girls with "The Chick Crack Story Reel")

0:00 Welcome to the Unapologetic Man Podcast. The only podcast that's all about self-improvement, confidence, success, women, and being a man without making any apologies for it. What is up guys? Thank you for joining me on another episode of the UMP. And today, we are going into episode number two in a multi-part series about how to do online dating. How to leverage the mountain of boredom that these women are trying to scale on a day-to-day basis thanks to this quarantine. And even if you're listening to this after the quarantine has been lifted, I'm still giving all the best tricks, tips, and techniques to leverage online dating to your unfair advantage so you can stand out from the crowd.

0:51 If you haven't listened to episode one yet, please go ahead and find that. It was last week on Wednesday. I'm releasing these every week on Wednesday. And that's called Online Dating God Number One. This is going to be number two. And then every Wednesday, I'm going to release sequentially more and more tips. So today, we are going to talk about what is probably the most powerful way to get curls to contact you first. And that's called the Chick Crack Story Reel. But before we get into that, I want to discuss a little bit about security because I've been working with my clients with this over the past several weeks.

1:26 I've been getting some new clients hiring me to guide them through this specifically for them to do it quickly over one phone call so they could get set up. And one thing I want to mention is that there are a lot of scam artists and catfish and strange people utilizing this tidal wave of people going on to the online dating platforms, and they're doing it to try to scam you. So here's a couple things I want to mention for you guys to look for when you are looking at a chick's profile.

1:56 Okay, first and foremost, if you have a girl hit you up, and she's just so ridiculously hot, you don't think there's any chance whatsoever that a girl this hot would be hitting you up. Then if it sounds too good to be true, it usually is. A lot of the times what people will do is they'll take pictures from models' websites, particularly like models in Europe and stuff like that, and they'll pretend that it's some hot chick living in Seattle, and she's just wanting to meet up with you or whatever it is.

2:24 But really, it's just a scam artist. Like if she's taking a picture of herself in front of the Eiffel Tower, and then she's at the Louvre, and then she's on the beaches of Normandy, and then all her pictures are in France, well then obviously, dude, she's probably not in your hometown or your city. Furthermore, you can tell by chick's style. I mean, there's a really specific way that women dress here in the United States, and there's a way that women dress over in Europe, and oftentimes these scam artist chicks will be chicks in Europe.

2:53 But sometimes there'll be chicks in the United States too, so be realistic, okay? Like if a girl hits you up and she's just retardedly hot, super friendly, could be a number of different things. And one thing that girls often do will try to get you into like chat roulette or to come visit them in their like masturbation station. I don't know how that all works, but I think it's like webcam chicks. They try to get guys to go over and sign up for that, or they even might try to scam you.

3:21 And a lot of times there's fake con men who make women fall in love with them on the online dating sites. And that should tell you something, by the way, that indeed you can get a girl to fall in love with you online, but they'll do that and they'll like have her send him money. But girls do it to guys too, so we need to be really careful of that. If you are suspicious, one really good thing to do is to use Google reverse image search.

3:47 So what you do is you pull a picture of her, probably like the hottest picture, her profile picture, over to your desktop. Then you go to Google.com and what you want to do is click on images and then in images or actually on the homepage, you can click on a little camera. Okay. So when you click on that camera, you can upload a picture into Google. So you upload the picture into Google and then it does what's called a reverse image search. It searches for that image and finds it on different platforms.

4:18 Now, oftentimes these catfish chicks, they're going to be on multiple platforms. That picture is going to be found all over the place. And when you find that, you could be pretty damn sure that it's a scam and you should just ignore the chick moving forward. Another thing I want you guys to be wary of is to, you know, have pictures of compromising information. There was a security guy that was talking about this and he said, look, if you wouldn't put the information up on a billboard in a supermarket where everybody and all the public can see it, then don't put it up on the dating websites.

4:50 Like don't put a picture of your car where you can see the license plate. Obviously don't like have a picture of your driver's license. Obviously don't share information with people, your social security number, credit card numbers, bank account information. I mean, it should be logical sense, but you'd be surprised how easily people get scammed on this kind of thing. And if a chick, you know, ask you to come check out her roulette or her webcam, just be like, nah, not interested. Like it's just scammy as hell.

5:17 And that's part of the reason that I suggest you guys go for the phone number relatively quickly, which I'm going to discuss in my next episode, is to cut out the chicks that are just scam artists or even social validation seekers. And that's another thing I'm going to talk about in a second. You want to cut those chicks out immediately so they don't waste your time. Now with the social validation seekers, we have to be cognizant of the fact that I'd say 30 to 50% potentially different now that this COVID thing is happening because there's a lot of new chicks coming online.

5:47 But we could say about 30 to 50% are chicks who just want to get validated, which means they just want to know that guys want them. They just want attention. They just want to feel like they're wanted, but they have no intention whatsoever of ever dating you, of ever talking to you. And that's why like a chick will hit you up, she'll match with you, and then she'll never freaking write you back. Or she'll write you a little bit and it'll be like ho-hum messages and it's like she's hardly participating.

6:14 It's like trying to bleed blood from a rock. Like you're just not going to get her to engage. So when that happens, you're best to move on. Just drop it, let it go. But also pushing for the phone number quickly separates the chicks that are really interested to the chicks who are just like kicking tires there for social validation or even the ones who are just there to scam you. They're definitely not going to give you their phone number, right? So these are some of the things to consider.

6:42 And when you do this, you can weed out the ones that are serious from the ones who are just playing you and then, you know, move on successfully without all the frustration that I know a lot of you guys have experienced. And that's part of the reason a lot of you guys resist going online. But if you just use these tactics and use a little common sense, you know, if it sounds too good to be true, it probably is. That's a really good motto to live by when you're online.

7:06 Don't take it too seriously. Don't expect too much. And I'm telling you, when you have that mentality, you really can meet some great girls on there because there are some gems on there. You just have to sift through the shit to find them. All right, guys. So now let's jump into what I call the chick crack story reel. All right. So this is something that I created years ago and I first used it on Match.com. And it was so ridiculously effective for girls contacting me that I literally spent about a year just selfishly hoarding it to myself and not sharing with anybody.

7:39 Because I knew that once I shared it, it would get out, then everybody would use it and it would become saturated just like every other tactic is saturated. But, you know, I've taught it for years and I think that it has just enough barrier to entry, just enough hassle to create this thing that it prevents people from doing it. Okay. It's like part of the reason it's fun to be an entrepreneur is because there's such a gigantic barrier to entry that most people start and they get tired and they give up before they're even like 200 yards off the start line.

8:16 So it's kind of the same thing with this, the chick crack story reel. Try saying that five times in a row. I just tried it and that's why I had to rerecord this. But when you use this and you just simply take 30 minutes to do the work, get creative, sit around and try to think about it. You have nothing but time right now. So use that gray matter between your two ears and try to think of how you can utilize this yourself. And I'm telling you, the little bit of effort, like the half an hour of effort that it's going to take to create this thing is going to pay off in dividends.

8:49 I'm telling you, I had girls contacting me two, three, four times a day saying how funny my profile was, how brilliant I am, how creative I am, never seen anything like that before. And I'm telling you guys, if you intend to have success online, you need to differentiate yourself. You need to be creative. You need to make them laugh. So here's how to do it. All right. So story reel. Okay. That basically implies that there's a story being told by your pictures. And that's exactly what you want to do is you want to pick pictures and arrange them in a way where it's like a storyboard.

9:26 Okay. So it's telling the story of you, telling her about you in a fun and interesting way that definitely has to make her laugh. That is the most important thing. Okay. So for sake of example, I'm just going to tell you how mine was set up and then we'll get into some ideas for how you can set up yours. Okay. So my first picture was of me and it would just say, hi, I'm Mark. Now, when I say it would say, what I'm implying here is that you need to go into Photoshop and you need to write text on your picture.

9:59 So just go into Photoshop or any other photo editing software that you happen to have. I mean, I'm sure you could probably do this on your phone now and just choose a font that's easy to read. And at the bottom of the picture, you simply write what I'm going to tell you. So the first one is, hi, I'm Mike. Okay. The second one is something about where you're from. So you could be like me and I'm originally from Newport Beach, California. So I would have a picture of me first, a really good picture.

10:26 Like we talked about good body language, nice smile, preferably being nicely dressed. Hi, I'm Mark. Next one is I'm originally from Newport Beach, California, and that one had a picture of me surfing. So the next picture should be of what you do. Now, for me at the time, when I was online, I was a dating coach at that time. I was still an NLP coach and I had a picture of me on stage speaking in front of like 500 guys. And there was a picture taken from the back where you could see all the backs of their heads and then me up there on the stage.

10:56 And it was like really high value. So I would say that I was a life coach. That's what I said. I'm currently a life coach. Now, the specifics of what you're going to put in your Chick Crack Story Reel depend on you, but it's really important that you be funny. Okay, so the first couple, I just kind of introduced myself. Hi, I'm Mark. I'm originally from Newport Beach, California. Then I might say like what I do and be serious. Like I'm a confidence coach. And then I would get funny with it.

11:23 So this was for me. And you can do this for yourself too. Is I would have a picture of me going over the handlebars on my mountain bike. Just happened to get a picture of me doing that. My buddy was taking pictures of us and I went over the handlebars and there was a perfect picture of me just fucking eating it on my mountain bike. So that picture showed me going over the handlebars and then it said, I'm really good at sports. Then the next picture was me crashing my motorcycle on a motocross race.

11:50 I got, I looped out, totally crashed. I was off the side of the track. The bike was like half on top of me. I'm on my back and I'm just completely blown out. And then the caption for that said, I'm talking really good. Okay. So that makes her laugh. It's like two pictures in a row saying I'm really good at sports, but comedy is ironic. And you want to like say one thing and do the other. I'm talking really good at sports. And there I am crashing.

12:15 And if I had another picture like of me eating shit on my surfboard, which I didn't happen to have, but if I did, I could be like, I'm talking really, really, really good. Right. And she's laughing because I'm just like, keep crashing. Then I had a picture of me, and this is so genius on so many different levels, but I had a picture of me wearing what was at the time my girlfriend's coat. And this coat was really like, like made of fur and it was all fluffy and it had all these like furry things coming off of it.

12:43 It was very clearly a woman's coat. Well, I put on that coat and then I had on these, like these girly glasses that I was wearing. And I was like looking up at the sky, like in this like pose. Right. And then it said at the bottom, I have impeccable fashion sense. So that made her laugh as well. So what I did is I structured these pictures to fall in line. So that first it's kind of serious. It gives her, you know, a real understanding of like who I am and what I do.

13:11 And then boom, it goes into like funny stuff. Okay. Then the next picture I had, um, at the time I had a friend who had this really big Doberman and the Doberman was friendly, but he looked like he was like a real asshole. And he would always chase after me like playfully. Right. Well, what I did is I had my buddy take a picture of his Doberman chasing after me. So I'm running and there's this Doberman following me. It looks like I'm being attacked by a dog.

13:38 And then it said, animals absolutely love me. Okay. So I'm good at sports. I'm talking really good. I also have impeccable fashion sense. Animals absolutely love me. And like, she's totally cracking up as she's looking through this. So then I had a picture of me teaching kindergarten in Japan and in Japan, when you teach kindergarten and you're a big, tall white dude like me from America, all the kids just like pile on top of you. They're the fucking cutest kids in the world, man. Because everything in Japan is 20% smaller, including the people and translate that to a five-year-old kid who's 20% smaller than the kids we have here in the United States.

14:18 It's the cutest fucking thing. Like, rainbows literally want to shoot out of your ass when you walk into these schools. They're so cute. So there's a picture of all these kids like piling on top of me. I fall back and I'm like smiling and there's all these like cute kids piling on top of me. So after the Doberman picture, I say, animals absolutely love me and kids do too. I mean, come on. How powerful was that? So we have these pictures in sequence and then what I do is like, once again, I do like a sandwich where at the end I say, if I strike your interest, then contact me today.

14:55 And it's like a normal picture of me smiling. So how can you do this with you? Okay, this is why the vast majority of guys who I teach this to either procrastinate on it and get zero results or actually like pull themselves up by the bootstraps, go into their files, look at pictures and see how they can do it and actually deploy it. And when they do, their results absolutely skyrocket. Now, part of my coaching, if you hire me as a coach, is you'll send me a bunch of these pictures and I'll do it for you.

15:25 Like I will arrange them. I will write the captions. One of the strange God-given gifts that I was given is the ability to just think of like captions off the top of my head. I'm really good at it. I've helped a lot of my clients create this Chick Crack Story Reel. So that's something that I do offer with my coaching. You can check that out at CoachMarkSingh.com. But if you do this yourself, think about how can I kind of like brag about all the cool shit that I've done, but at the same time make it self-deprecating.

15:55 Because as we discussed in the previous episode, when you show her that you're doing cool things, you don't want to come off as if you're bragging about it, but you kind of do want to brag about it. And what's the best way to do that? It's to be self-deprecating. So I'm like, hey, chick, I go mountain biking at Winter Park in Colorado. I go to Trestle Bike Park and I mountain bike. That's pretty fucking cool. But in this picture, I'm going over the handlebars, totally eating it.

16:22 But still, like I'm in a full DH outfit, which is like full face helmet. You know, I have like a cool looking bike. I'm eating it, but at the same time, it's like high value because I do this shit. Then the next picture is I'm like racing dirt bikes. That's pretty manly. That's pretty dope. Yeah, I'm crashing, which makes it funny. But at the same time, what's really communicated is this guy does cool shit and he can laugh at himself in the process. That's like doubly attractive.

16:51 Okay. And then I'm like being funny about the animals. There's a Doberman chasing me. Clearly, it's kind of a joke, but it's kind of funny. Like animals absolutely love me. And then there's a Doberman chasing me and I'm like running. And then there's a picture of me in Japan. Clearly Japan. You can tell it's a foreign country. All these little kids are piling on top of me and I'm smiling and laughing and they're all laughing. And I say kids love me too. It's like so powerful.

17:16 And then at the very end, once again, you want to sandwich it. There was a nice picture of me with a smile. Hey, if I strike your interest, contact me today. All right. So that's how the Chick Crack Story Reel works. There's a couple other ideas that I've had that I want to deploy that I haven't had the time yet to deploy. So what I was thinking is, you know how in Call of Duty, they have the picture of the guy standing there and then it shows all his statistics.

17:42 Well, I was thinking it would be really cool to have a professional designer or even if you're good at Photoshop yourself, like get a picture of you. If you're ripped, have your shirt off and be like standing there like a soldier, like totally straight. You almost look like an action figure and then give like all your stats like height, six foot two, weight, 185 pounds, punching power, 89 percent, reach 13 inches, power ramp up, six to three percent. And in five seconds, like you can get really creative with it and then you can have another picture of you from the back and then it continues on that method.

18:18 Or I was thinking you could Photoshop like an advertisement and I do copywriting, which is basically writing sales copy. And I was thinking like a Facebook ads type thing, like there's your picture. And then it could say something like, get a date with Mark today and have the time of your life without the hassle, headache and boredom of all the other guys you meet on this website. So that's kind of like a copywriting thing. You say get benefit one and benefit two without hassle one and without hassle two.

18:48 It's a very classic copywriting headline that you could write and you can have that like as a picture in your profile. So I was thinking even like you have the chick crack story reel, funny picture, funny picture, funny picture. And then maybe like that advertisement or it starts like at the call of duty, like picture one is hi, I'm Mark. Here are my statistics. Picture two is like you from the back. And then it carries on with the chick crack story reel. So there's lots of different ways to do this, to pivot it.

19:16 But I'm telling you, if you're creative in this way, if you can do this, just being just a little bit different than everybody else, I'm telling you, girls are going to reach out to you even to tell you, hey, I found your profile. I found your profile extremely funny. Every other guy says the same shit. They have the token picture. Here's me on a mountain. Here's me with the fish. Here's me riding my bike. Here's me with my family. Like it's so freaking overdone. Just like let me check off all the boxes of what girls want to see.

19:46 No, no, no, no. Let's differentiate ourselves and do something like this to really stand out from the crowd. And then, dude, too, when you message her, which we're going to talk about next week, the kinds of messages to send, and then she goes in your profile and sees the shit, it's like on. She's going to want to talk to you. This is why it increases your success rate by as much as 800%. Like we've literally tested this with my clients is that what are you getting every week?

20:11 Ah, one or two matches. Okay, we do this. Now they're getting 16 matches because of this. So take the time. Once again, if you want to hire me to help you out, you can find me on coachmarksing.com. Next week, I'm going to come with messaging, what to send her, how to text with her, how to keep a girl interested that's kind of boring and falling off, how to keep her engaged, and then how to pivot into getting her number, how to pivot into a hangout, which we're going to talk about too.

20:38 All kinds of good stuff to come, guys. I wanted to mention too, I do appreciate all the reviews I'm getting, and yes, my offer is still on the table. If you give me a review anywhere, email me, and I will send you two of my programs, The Conversation Sniper, as well as Guide to the Female Orgasm, or I will go through your pictures if you'd like me to and kind of get my girlfriends to look at them too and tell you which ones are the best ones.

21:03 Just hit me up, man. I'll send you back some stuff, and I tend to give more than even what I say here. So if you could help me out with that, which, by the way, a lot of you guys are doing, and I do appreciate, let me know and I'll hook you back up. I'm really trying to get some reviews for this thing. So far, so good. The reviews have been awesome. Thank you guys all so much. And yeah, thank you for listening, man. I'll come out with some good content next week as well, and stay tuned for that.

21:28 So once again, guys, thanks for your time. Thank you for your patronage, and I will see you in the next episode.

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