Sex & Physicality #1: From First Touch to First Kiss (Mark's bulletproof first kiss method)

0:00 Welcome to the Unapologetic Man Podcast. The only podcast that's all about self-improvement, confidence, success, women, and being a man without making any apologies for it. What's up guys? Thank you so much for tuning in to another episode of the UMP. I really appreciate you coming and listening to this. Tomorrow's the end of the month. It's going to be the 30th and I'm going to post all the amazing reviews that I've been getting on my podcast on my Instagram page. And if you could follow me there, I would appreciate it.

0:36 So far it's moving slower than pond water, but I'm hoping it'll ramp up soon and I'll get more followers. I think I'm only at like 75 right now, which is pathetic. So if you could help me out and follow me, I would appreciate it. Mark Sing, M-A-R-K-S-I-N-G. And if you want to get one-on-one coaching with me, I am an NLP coach. NLP is Neuro Linguistic Programming. I go into that brain of yours and I reprogram you so you can operate effectively with women and in life. Check out the freaking testimonials that I have on my website.

1:08 Unbelievable. I keep getting them, keep slapping them up there. I'm actually getting my website redesigned right now. Perhaps by the time you listen to this, it will be done, but you can check that out at coachmarksing.com. Once again, that's coachmarksing.com. So let's talk about how to get physical with a girl. This is a multi-part series that I'm putting together, sex and other physicality. And what we're going to do today is how to first initially touch a girl and then ramp that up to the first kiss.

1:40 So we need to talk about how to break that physical ice, how to ramp up physical escalations, and then eventually how to give her the first kiss. And I'm going to give you my epic first kiss method. There are other ones that I teach. Oh, I just had an idea. I have a way to kiss a girl in 30 seconds. Dude, that would be an awesome podcast episode. Fuck yeah, dude. I'm doing that. How to kiss a girl in 30 seconds coming up soon in the next couple of months.

2:04 I'm adding that to the queue. That's going to be an awesome one. It works too, man. Just be careful who you use this on because one time I used it, bro. Bad breath, man. Like you start kissing her and then it's like, oh God, what did I get myself into? It was like kissing a dental hygienist. Wet dream, man. Halitosis. Clean your mouth. Jesus. You know what I suggest, guys? Get a water pick. I strongly suggest that. I have two really good friends who are dentists and they suggest it too.

2:31 Water pick, man. It's like flossing with water. I use that every night. It feels like you just went to the dentist. But today's not about water picks, is it? This is about touching her hand and getting physical with her and saying, can I hold your hand, please, Sarah? Oh, I'm sorry. My hands are a little clammy because I'm nervous around you. Well, you're so pretty, that's why. Here, let me wipe it off. Here, give me your hand. Ow, don't squeeze it so hard. It hurts. No, guys, it's not the way to act.

3:02 Gotta be a man. Come here, give me your hand, little girl. Come over here and just grab her. No, I'm just kidding. But we need to touch her a couple times first before we just go for the first kiss. So many guys will go on a first date with a girl and like end up not touching her at all during the first date. And then they're back at her house on the porch and he's like, um, can I kiss you now? And she's like, oh God, yes.

3:26 And then he gives her this like awkward kiss. No, no, no, no, no. We need to seamlessly build up to that. Okay. When a girl has a first kiss with a guy, she wants that shit to be romantic. She wants it to be seamless. She wants it to be like all those damn movies. She watches those Hollywood romantic comedies where they get this beautiful first kiss and her breath gets taken away. She goes, now with the method, I'm going to teach you, you can do this.

3:57 But first let's talk about what I call breaking the physical ice. Okay. Now, obviously we're going to meet the girl on different venues. Right now we're meeting tons of chicks online because we're in quarantine, but lots of times we meet girls in nightclubs. We might meet them in the street. Now, naturally nightclubs are the places where you can get the most touching in, in my opinion, on the first conversation. A little bit less with day game, that is meeting her on the street. And then of course, zero at all with the online stuff.

4:27 So in the nightclubs and stuff, it's very easy to touch girls. Okay. Now, obviously we don't want to be slime balls and touch them in a way that they're uncomfortable with initially. So there's some good spots to start with, one of which is the elbow. Another one is the hand, maybe the shoulder. And then going from that would be like maybe her upper back, lower back, then maybe her side. And then from there would be like, you know, inner thigh, boobs. And then last of all is the, you don't want to just go for the, right off the bat, man.

5:01 You do that, you're going to get slapped in the face. So that's the general progression. And of course, you know, maybe even touching your hand for the first time is just when you shake it. Hey, what's up? I'm Mark. What's your name? What's up, Sarah? And then you shake your hand. Oftentimes what's interesting is you can tell a lot about how sexual a girl is, especially in the bars and nightclubs, because they'll touch you first. Like some girls, when talking to them, they're like scratching my arm.

5:27 They're like leaning in there. Like I've said a million times, rubbing their crotch on mine, always touching me. You're looking for excuses to slap you. So you can get a good feeling for how physical and frankly, in my opinion, you can get a good feeling for how soon a girl's willing to sleep with you just based on how touchy-feely she gets. Now, naturally, some girls are just more affectionate than others. But in my opinion, it's a good way to get a feel for it. So there's different gambits we can do.

5:55 And if you leave me a review, I'll send you my videos. They're called Gambits. It's part of my 43-part video series. I used to sell it for $4.97. Now I make it a part of my coaching when you do hire me as a coach. But if you want information on this, be like, yo, Mark, could I please get the videos Gambits? There's lots of good ways to use these gambits to touch a girl's hand. So a couple of things I suggest is like lemon shooting contest. You grab a couple lemons and then like shoot them at people or shoot them over the bar or see who can shoot them the furthest.

6:28 You know, while handing it to her, you can like touch her hand. There's this one thing where the ring finger has the only vein that goes all the way to the heart without branching off. And you could, you know, look at her rings and then tell her that story like, hey, those are some interesting rings. Let me see. And then grab her hand and then say, did you know that the reason we put the wedding ring on the ring finger is because it's the one vein that goes straight to the heart?

6:53 She may know that. She may not. But that's one way to touch her hand. Reading her palm, a little bit cheesy. What I do oftentimes is I'll spin them like a ballerina. In my frame control lessons, I talk about requests. And requests are where girls ask you for favors to see if you're going to be their lapdog and work for their favor. Well, obviously, you don't want to do that. You want to make a do a favor for you first. And what I always do is have them ask me in an Australian accent.

7:22 So she says, hey, will you get me a napkin at the bar? I'll often say, yeah, if you ask me in an Australian accent. And she'll be like, right, will you get me a napkin from the bar? And be like, right away, mom. Like a boomerang, I'll be right back. Right? Laugh, ha, ha, ha. Or I'll have them spin like a ballerina. I'll be like, yeah, sure. But you got to spin like a ballerina first. Take her hand. Boom. Spin her around. And then say, that was awesome.

7:44 High five. Then you can high five her. Now you're touching a little bit. Obviously, the touching is a natural progression of the conversation. Sometimes when I can tell she's getting attracted to me, I'll be like, so do you like to travel? And she'll say yes. And then I'll push her, which means touching her, push her away from me, travel over there. And then she'll be like, you jerk. And she'll often like hit me, hit me in the arm. And then I'll like jokingly maybe hit her in the arm.

8:10 And then we can like play a fight. I often will play a fight with girls to get to touch them. But oftentimes, you know, when you're dropping a lot of this value that I teach in my coaching, and I've talked a lot about on this podcast, they'll just start naturally touching you, getting closer. It's almost hard not to touch, even when talking to them in the club. And one good benefit of the loud music is that you can like lean down and whisper in their ear.

8:37 Now, some pickup artists say don't lean because it's called fidgeting, or as some used to call it back in the early 2000s, pecking. But I personally advocate for it, because then I can get close to her and whisper in her ear. Oftentimes, when I'm messing around with her, I'll like flip her hair. Like, you know, like if you take your hand, the back of your hand just over her shoulder, you can like hit her hair. Or like I'll imitate her. I'll be like, oh my God, I'm so beautiful.

9:03 And I'll imitate like me flipping my hair. And then I'll like, I'll kind of hit her hair and flip her hair, push her, dance with her. Dancing is really good. I used to be really into country swing dancing. And I know a lot of my clients do swing dancing. Not a lot, but a couple. And that's a great way to touch girls. I mean, you're touching all over them when you're dancing with them. And then the physical ice is broken. Okay. So those are some ways to ramp it up initially.

9:28 Now, what if you meet her online? Well, in my opinion, it's the same thing. You have to break the physical ice as soon as possible. So no matter what situation you're in, whether you're meeting her at the venue or she's getting into your car, you want to give her a hug. Even if it's like an awkward hug, like you're in your car and she gets in and you're like all seat belted in and shit. Just like, just do it, man. Like just hug her because it breaks that physical ice.

9:54 You don't want that looming physical ice to be haunting you for your entire date. What you want is to break the ice so you can move forward with it. Now, let's say you do pick her up. Okay. There's a myriad of situations, but I'm just going to explain the typical one. You guys meet online. You decide to hang out. You use my epic way to text her onto a hangout. In so doing, you find that she's comfortable with you picking her up. You pull up in your car.

10:20 She gets in. Hey, what's up, Sarah? Good to meet you. Or you go to her door. Hey, what's up? Sometimes I'll say, hey, come here. Give me a hug. I'm a hug dealer. H-U-D hug. H-U-D. H-U-G hug dealer. Hey, I'm a hug dealer. Come here. Give me a hug. If you feel some trepidation, you can give her what I call the side hug. And I'll do this to fat chicks a lot, is you like kind of put your hip into them, right? Like you just hug them with your right arm and then your right hip hits their left hip.

10:50 I call that the side hug. Come here. Give me a side hug. I do that to fat chicks and ugly chicks just because I don't want to hug them. Do I need to be hugging a pillow, a living pillow? No, thank you very much. I have pillows in my bed. I want to be hugging fine girls and I'll be a hug dealer when they're around. So when she gets in your car, blow, you deploy the hug. You guys are good. You're joking. If you've been studying my content or you get training with me, you're going to have epic conversation in the car, cracking her up, building up that attraction.

11:20 Then you know what? If it's on while you guys are walking to whichever venue you're going to, you can hold her hand. If not, you can joke with her, push her. Do you like to travel? Travel over there. Open the door for her. You know, you guys go sit down. I have a whole first date thing that I deploy, but right now is about getting physical. Okay, so you've hugged her. You've hopefully held her hand. Now, if you haven't held her hand before you go to the venue, and I suggest going to several different venues on a date.

11:50 Once again, I'll get into that later when I do my dating seminar, but you're going to several different places. Somewhere in there, you should be holding her hand. You guys should be touching. You should be building up the attraction. If you use the techniques that I teach, even in gambits, which once again, I'll send you, preferably if you leave me a review. But if not, if you just want the material, hit me up. And in there, there's lots of great conversational topics to get her attracted, build the intrigue, get her curious, get her chasing, right?

12:24 All these things that build attraction. Dude, touching is just going to happen. Okay, so touched her hand. You've given her a hug. You guys have touched each other's arms. You've maybe – there's one thing I do where it's like – this is more like back at the house, maybe a little bit more, right before you're going to kiss her. But you know that thing we used to do as kids where it's like, tell me when I've reached your elbow pit? I don't know what that thing is called, but it's basically the bend in your arm that's opposite your elbow.

12:54 Let's call it the elbow pit for the sake of example. So you start down at her wrist and then you like scratch and you go to the elbow pit. We used to do that as kids in elementary school. And then she says, stop. It's a pretty good way to touch her. Okay, so on the date, some point during the date, what I would usually like to do is go to a lookout or somewhere where she could be a little bit cold and we could like get cuddled up with each other.

13:21 So what I had strategically located in my city right next to where I would do the date is this like lookout point and it was in Tempe, Arizona. There's lots of lookouts out there. There's also lots of really good lookouts on the coast of California. Bro, I'm sure wherever you live, there's a lookout somewhere. You guys can go out there. If she's down to go with you, she knows what's about to happen. You know, it's not a big deal, honestly, kissing. In fact, kissing should typically be just part of your ramp up attraction building routine.

13:51 It usually falls somewhere in attraction. And if you're doing a good job, like you could kiss girls all the time in the nightclub. Like I said, you can kiss a girl in 30 seconds in the nightclub. I can't wait to do that podcast. I forgot I wrote a book about it. It's so sick. It works too, which is crazy. You got to be like ultra fucking confident. You got to be ultra in state. But you can do it, man. I've done it several times myself. Kiss a girl before you hear her voice.

14:15 Done it. Been there. Can be done. All right. So let's say you're at the lookout point. Now, here is my first kiss technique. This is really, really baller. Do this. It works really well. So let's say you're at the lookout point or even you go back to her car or you're in your house. Like I would always pull girls back to my house. Talk about that in the first date as well. We're on the couch watching some videos. So what you do is you say, so Kelly, I have to be honest with you about something.

14:45 And she's like, what? And you'd be like, God, just this whole time we've been hanging out tonight, I noticed something about you. And she'd be like, what? You'd be like, no, you don't want to know. She's like, what? And you'd be like, you do this one thing that's so cute. I don't know if I want to tell you what it is because I'm afraid you'll stop doing it. She'll be like, I won't stop doing it. And I'll be like, yeah, pretty sure you will if I tell you.

15:06 And she'd be like, I won't. You'd be like, okay, do you pinky swear, Kelly, that no matter what it is, you're not going to stop doing it. She's like, I pinky swear. And then you lock up the pinky swears. Okay. Then as you're locked up, bring her in a little closer, pull her in and be like, okay, because you do understand that the pinky swear is upheld by the United States Supreme Court and it is legally binding. And she laughs. She says, yeah, I understand. You'd be like, okay, come here.

15:31 And you're going to whisper in her ear. Now, if you have to explain why you're going to whisper in her ear, you can say, I'm going to whisper in your ear because I don't want anybody else to hear it. You'll be embarrassed, whatever. But usually when you pull her in with the pinky swear, which is a baller way to get her close to you. And you know, you're going to deploy the kiss when like the attraction is high. So she's going to kind of know what's up.

15:55 She wants to go with it. She wants it to happen too, hopefully. So when the attraction's up, how do you know the attraction's up? She's laughing your jokes. She's, she's open. She's interested. She's asking you questions. You know, learn the basic signs of when a girl's attracted. Boom. You're getting those. Okay. You guys pinky swear, pull her in. Then you whisper in her ear, a non-typical compliment. Okay. When I say non-typical compliment, I say that if she has blazing hot tits, you don't want to say, my God, you have the rack of a goddess.

16:30 Obviously, right? You don't want to compliment things that she hears all the time. Usually you don't want to compliment her looks, especially if she's hot. Hot girls hate getting complimented on their looks. It's like, yeah, yeah, yeah. I have heard that a million times. I've literally seen girls get pissed when a dude will compliment her looks. So just make it a policy. Don't do it. Don't compliment her looks ever. That should be in your heads, at least initially. One thing I want to say too, I know it's a little bit off topic, but like, bro, don't ever fucking comment on a girl's picture on Instagram or Facebook or like her comments.

17:07 Don't. As a lay down policy, Uncle Mark Singh is telling you, you are to stop commenting and liking girls' posts on Instagram and Facebook. Blanket fucking statement. Start today. Okay. Back to the point. So you do this one thing that's so cute. I don't want to tell you what it is because then you stop doing it. Tell me, tell me, tell me. No, no, no. Okay. Pinky swear. Pull her in. Then you lean in and you whisper in her ear. Now, before you whisper in her ear, what I like to do is to take my hand and I'll lift the hair over the ear, right?

17:40 So you move the hair out of the way of the ear. And if you're a real fucking baller, if you're feeling really good and she's attracted, you can put your fingers up kind of her, the base of her skull up into her hair and just like bring your hand under her hair like that and maybe even grab it just a little bit. It depends how on the attraction is, but like you can put your hand there or if you're not comfortable with that, you can bring your hand down to her hips or her shoulders.

18:08 I like to put it right up there in the back of the hair. Oh my God. It gets them turned on. Now she knows what's coming. Okay. She's about to get kissed and she's going to get kissed well by the fucking champion. Who is you, bro? You're going to do this. You're the champion. That's the way you have to think confidence. I'm going to freaking lay this girl out with my charms, charisma and kissing style. So then you give her the non-typical compliment. Now, here's the one I suggest is you say, after you smile, you get this little wink in your eye.

18:42 I don't know if anyone's ever told you that, but you get this little wink in your right eye and it's so cute, Kelly. Now, when you say that, you're whispering in her ear, right? And we all know what it's like to have someone you're attracted to whisper in your ear. Are you kidding me? She's going to be melting before you even melt her. It's the pre-melt sequence. So you breathe out just a little bit. You'd be like, when you smile, after you laugh, so cute. You get this little wink in your right eye.

19:11 And every time you do that, it's just like my legs want to go out. And then she's going to let out a little giggle. Right? Because, like, they love that shit. Then what you do is what I call the slide and kiss. So you're going to slide down from her ear to her lips and kiss her. Okay? Now, if you want to go baller 2.0, what you do then is, oh my God, I love doing this to girls, is you slide down and you make like you're going to kiss her and you just brush her lips with yours.

19:42 And then you slide to her other ear and you start kissing her ear a little bit. Start kissing her neck a little bit. Slide back down to around her mouth. Pretend you're going to kiss her, then pull away. And then you can maybe even push her away or she'll be like, ah, just kiss me. I've had girls yell at me. Fucking kiss me. Okay. What's better? That buildup of anticipation or sitting on her porch being like, so can I get a kiss goodnight? Obviously, you want to deploy this because it builds it up, builds it up, builds it up.

20:14 And with women, it's all about the buildup. Okay. So when you kiss her, should you use tongue? Yes or no? Yes, but just a little bit. The way I had it explained to me once by a girl is you just want to caress her tongue with yours. Don't stick your tongue down her throat. You just want to gently touch your tongue to hers, right? It's kind of like first the lips hit, then you open your mouth a little bit, caress each other's tongues, and the lips come together.

20:42 You may continue kissing like that for a few moments, or it may be just one kiss and then you stop. Now, here's the ultimate awesome part of this is after you kiss her, she's hopefully going to get that breathlessness, right? After she gets that breathlessness, she's going to smile. And then you're going to be like, oh, you didn't stop doing it. Your eye just did that thing. And then that's going to like kill her. So this whole sequence is really, really good because that's what women want.

21:09 They want that breathlessness. Now, a lot of you guys who aren't getting second dates, maybe you're losing girls after a while. Well, this is going to ramp up your success rates because now you're deploying kisses that really get them like shuddering and it's going to make them remember you, want to see you more. That first kiss, that's everything to women. They dream about that shit. They want the guy who they marry to have like the most amazing first kiss. They were breathless. It was awesome. The makeout session was amazing.

21:40 Now, look, if a lot of you guys are starting out in this, which I know you are, I don't expect you to hit a home run on the first go, but ramp up to this, practice it, listen to this podcast again, get the training, think about it, try to deploy it. You'll probably botch it a couple of times. I mean, even I did, but then you get so good at it. You start teasing girls, you know, you're kissing on her ear and then you brush her lips and then you're like pushing her and pulling her back in and she's, she's like slapping your arm and like, I've had girls like fucking grab me and kiss me when I did this.

22:10 So it's extremely, extremely powerful. All right, guys. So that was how to break the physical ice all the way to the first kiss. Next up, we're going to get a little bit more into, you know, touching the boobs, uh, blow jobs, stuff like that. And then finally we're going to get to sex. I think this is going to be a three part series, but it may be four. I kind of haven't mapped it out completely yet, but I'm going to give you lots of great physical secrets to how to ramp this up.

22:38 So I hope that helps you. Um, if you want more information about my coaching, check me out at coachmarksing.com. And once again, I'd appreciate a review and follow me on Instagram coachmarksing. All right, guys, thank you so much for listening and I'll see you in the next episode.

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