Sex & Physicality #4: Cunnilingus; Slide Your Tongue Like This!

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1:26 But all you guys who have left a review thus far, I really, really appreciate it. You know who you are. I read all of them. Thank you so much. Some of them are pretty funny, too, so it always gets a chuckle out of me. I do really appreciate that. All right, so today's content is going to be about how to go down on a girl, cunnilingus. Now, a couple months ago, I had a few guests on, Monica and Sean Lee, and they talked about how to go down on a girl.

1:52 And while I agree with the vast majority of what they said, I have a slightly different approach. Now, some of the things they said, I actually don't agree with, and it's kind of a juxtaposition because I'm a dude who's been with many girls, so I have my ways and I have my evidence just based on the myriad of women that I've done this to. But then they are women, so it's like, can you really question what they say because they understand their own bodies, and I think they've even been with girls.

2:20 I know at least one of them has. So, you know, so take it for what it's worth. This has just been my experience. The vast majority of what I'm about to tell you works like gangbusters. I mean, not to brag, but I've had girls tell me no other guy could hold a candle to me. I'm the best they've ever had. Many, many, many girls have told me that. So I feel like what I'm about to tell you here is the cream of the crop. And not only that, but girls have told me, you know, I'm a dating coach, so I'm like, look, be straight up with me.

2:47 Was that good? What could I do better? And I've talked to girls, hundreds of girls about this. So I personally feel I'm an authority on this. And I'll tell you exactly where I disagree with Monica and Sean Lee, and then we'll go into why that is. So, first and foremost, okay, is the female brain is her biggest sexual organ. So if you're going to go down on a girl, you need to start well before you get her into the bedroom. Now, in the previous installment of this series, Sex and Physicality, we talked about first you want to make out with her.

3:21 Then you grab the boobs, then you slap the karate chop in there, and then maybe even do a flyby, meaning you kiss down by her underwear to make sure it doesn't smell like a burnt taco mixed with a homeless man's armpit. And if it's good to go, then, you know, the panties come off and you're going to give it a go. Now, as I stated, you have to start the cunnilingus project before you even get her in bed. So, in one of my previous episodes, I talked about how you want to start getting talking sexually with her.

3:52 I think it was the blowjob one, where you get her talking about giving you a blowjob. You talk about going down on her and how softly you're going to lick it and how good you are at it. And most importantly here, guys, how much you love it. So what we have to communicate to her is that we actually really like doing it. And for those of you who have never done it before or don't enjoy doing it, admittedly, it's an acquired taste. You know, it's a scary thing to go down there.

4:17 It looks like some kind of sea creature that's going to squirt venom at you and kill you or even eat you alive. But I guarantee you, it's quite harmless. And once you get used to doing it, it gets really, really enjoyable. So you have to act like it's one of the greatest things ever. You really enjoy doing it. You got to make her feel beautiful. You got to compliment her and say, God, your body's so sexy. You love kissing her down here. When the thing first comes out and she knows that you see it, you got to like compliment it and be, oh, my God, this is so fucking hot right now.

4:49 This is so turning me on. And like I'm getting so hard. Like you got to let her know that you're really into it. Because if you want to give her an orgasm, an orgasm is all mental, isn't it? If she thinks you're grossed out or it's some project or you go down there holding your nose while you're licking on her pussy, it's like she's not going to get into it. So many of us have had the experience where a girl's going down on us and it's like the worst thing she's ever done in her life.

5:13 You're just like, dude, stop. Like come back up here. And that's going to be the same thing with you guys. So even if you have to act, this is like the best thing ever. Okay. As you're making out with her, licking her tits, you start slowly kissing down by her belly. Hopefully her tight, toned belly, not a fat old pork chop, but instead a girl who takes care of herself, nice, sexy belly. And then like you might pull down her panties a little bit and kind of kiss down there and then go back up and kind of kiss her tits and make out with her.

5:43 And you can use the pressure of your body to like lay on her and then lift your body up and maybe even like rub your heart on, on her vagina a little bit. And you're, you're really using your whole body to get her turned on. Well, as you go down, eventually, of course, you're going to pull off the panties. And I mean, you guys can probably all relate. Like one of the best moments in a man's life is where like those panties come down and you bring them down over her knees and then off her ankles.

6:09 And then you just shoot that thing across the room, make it land on the lampshade and then go at it. Right. That's one of the best moments. Just taking down those panties. Great moment, especially when she's hot. And we're doing this because we want to get hot girls. That's why we're training up, aren't we? We don't, we don't want those beefers in our bed. We want hot girls. So you got a hot girl in your bed. Now, what you want to do is start licking on her inner thigh.

6:32 You can kind of start kissing your inner thigh. Make sure to say a few comments like, God, you're so sexy. This is turning me on so much. And I'll even say sometimes like, hey, like I want to take my time down here. So don't come too quickly or at all. Like I really want to take my time. And that takes the pressure off of her to feel like she has to come quickly. Now, the first time you do this to a girl, some girls are insecure.

6:58 Even the hot ones about like being naked with their legs spread in your bed. So it's kind of good to have it a little bit dark in your room, not pitch black, but just like a light on in the hallway that's kind of shining in. Or if you're of the romantic sort, maybe you have some candles lit, depending on like what happens, right? Maybe some music going. So she feels that she can be a little bit covered up by the darkness and maybe even a sound.

7:22 Maybe she's afraid of doing a queef. So you have some music on, right? Like give her some coverage. I've done it before with the lights totally on. And several times they've been like, hey, can we turn these lights down? And that was my mistake initially. And then I started doing it with like a dimmer switch, you know, make the lights go down a little bit. Put on some music if you can and create the mood. So now you're kissing on her inner thighs. And what you want to do is like as you're kissing on her inner thighs, you can just kind of go over it with your tongue.

7:50 And what I mean is from like the right side to the left side and just go over the lips. Now, typically the lips will kind of be stuck together. So you can just kind of go over it with your lips and then kiss down the left side of her thigh, come back, go over it again with your lips and your tongue. And like as she's getting turned on, it'll start kind of swelling up. But most of the time you have to kind of use your two fingers to like kind of pop the lips open, I guess, or peel them apart, right?

8:18 It's like when your ball sack is stuck to your leg, you got to peel that thing off. It's kind of similar. It's basically the same kind of skin. So you got to like peel it apart a little bit. Now, maybe you want to like lick her lips. And do I suggest like licking the hole? I mean, you can, but in my opinion, it's not really that necessary. Really, we're going to focus on the clitoris because that's where the sexual nerves are in the vagina. So the clitoris is at the top.

8:44 So for you guys who have never done this before, don't worry. It's not like you just want a pie eating contest. You're going to come up with like all this, like, you know, vagina juice all over your face. Like really, you can keep it pretty clean. You're going to get a little bit on your face. But dude, compare that to what she has to go through. I mean, Jesus, who would want to do that shit, right? Get a big old mouthful of cum. Gross. The least you can do is get in there a little bit and, you know, lick around.

9:10 And it does have a little bit of a, I don't know, it's kind of like a, depends on the girl, but it could be just a little bit of a tart taste, I guess. Sour isn't really the right word. It's kind of like sometimes licking a battery, I guess, a little bit sometimes, depending on the girl. And by the way, the smell fucking changes too from girl to girl. All depends on her pH balance. I mean, there's bacteria down there and some girls have zero smell whatsoever.

9:34 Well, other girls, as I said, smell like some trash can from Taco Bell in which you want to abort mission, eject, pull the eject cord and parachute the hell out of there. Okay. So you're licking on it. Obviously passes the smell test. And for me, dude, it's like, I don't even go down there unless it's like smelling fresh or no smell at all. Hopefully, but you know, it is what it is. So you're looking around and what you want to do is deploy one long lick.

10:01 You could do it from the hole all the way up past the clit and even just above the clit, like do one long lick, or you could just lick the clit, like really long lick with your entire tongue very softly, very, very, very softly. Don't want to go hard until later, right? You want to start super soft. Remember the thing is sensitive. The clitoris has as many nerves in it as your penis does. And it's about the size of a bean or sometimes even like a small piece of rice.

10:33 Like they can get pretty small depending on the girl. So you just, you lick it and then you let that kind of reverberate for a moment. And you can look at her or you can like start kissing on her bell and kiss on her inner thighs again. And then after a few moments, you do it again, a little bit harder, but still pretty soft, right? You lick up it. So you kind of want to like just start teasing her a little bit. Like imagine when a girl starts going down on you, if she just licked from the bottom of your dick all the way up the top, like real slowly and softly with the soft part of her tongue, that's, that's going to be really satisfying.

11:06 Instead of just fucking going down and just cranking on it, you want to start slowly and deliberately and build up the anticipation. With girls, it's always about anticipation. Anticipation is everything. That's why even when I talk to girls, I use what I call bridges. Like, Hey Kelly, there's, there's something I just realized about you. And she's like, what? Because curiosity equals attraction. Well, anticipation equals orgasm. So we want to build it, build it, build it. And this starts all the way back from when we're on like the second or third date, doesn't it?

11:38 We talk about how good it's going to feel. We get her sexually turned on. This starts all the way back then. So finally we're here. We don't want to just dive in. We want to savor it. Imagine eating like a beautiful banana split. You don't just devour it. You eat it slowly and savor every bite. And that's what you got to do. Even if it's like annoying you and you got to act, you know, we're dudes. We just want to get it in, man. I understand that.

12:05 Or we just want to get our blow job, but bro, like have some patience, dude. Take your time. This is a special moment right now. You've been working for this. So you want to satisfy her because when you do, she's going to stick around. Okay. So you look at a couple of times slowly, then you want to start licking on it consistently. And once again, you start real soft and have like a rhythm. And basically you want to use the softest part of your tongue. Now, typically that's like about an inch back from the tip and you make your tongue very soft and buttery.

12:40 You make it as soft as possible. And you just lick up and then down, like up and then down. Now, you can also lick with the side of your tongue. If you were to feel the side of your tongue, you'll feel that it's a lot softer. And I've had girls tell me they can tell the difference. Okay. Now here is where I disagree with Monica and Sean Lee. They said, don't pull up the clitoral hood until like she's really, really, really turned on or about to orgasm or never at all.

13:08 Okay. I'm just being honest. That has not been my experience. And I'm pretty sure I've been with more girls than they have. So take whose advice you want. But I lift up the hood. Now, have I ever had a girl like spaz out and say, don't do that? No, I just haven't. So when they said that on the podcast, I was like, really? I don't know. Maybe they're just two rare girls who happen to get together, but I doubt it. I mean, I'm sure they know what they're talking about.

13:33 They do have a sex podcast. So hell, you got to believe who you got to believe and experiment with it. But what I do to lift up the hood is I'll have my left arm go under her right leg and then swing around. And then I basically have the palm of my hand, palm face down on her monus pubis, which is the area above the vagina. And then I use my thumb to kind of pull the skin up. Now, I'm going really soft on it, and I'm going rhythmically, okay?

14:01 And we haven't used our fingers yet, by the way. We're going to do that in a moment, but we haven't done that yet. So you use that soft part of your tongue, and sometimes I'll go for like a minute or two, and then I'll stop and kind of like kiss on their inner thighs and like compliment, right? Like, God, you're so fucking sexy. This is turning me on so much. It's like making out with your nucleus. It's like making out with your flower or some shit like that, whatever you think of.

14:26 And you're really into it. This is going to make her feel comfortable. She's starting to get into it. If you're a drummer like I am, you can do limb independence, which means you can do this with your right hand, this with your left hand, this with your tongue, and this with your foot. As you're going down on her, you're holding that all-important beat. And what you can do with your right hand is maybe like rubber tits, right? So you're deploying all your limbs in order to turn her on because right now it's all about her and you need to make it all about her.

14:56 I know you've got a boner the size of the Statue of Liberty, but just tuck that fucker to the side and be unselfish for 10, 15 minutes. Now, another thing that they said is it takes girls 20 minutes to orgasm with going down. That hasn't been my experience either. I've made girls calm three minutes, five minutes, typically about 10 minutes has been my experience. Now, some girls take longer. Like Monica said, she takes 20 minutes. And I distinctly remember telling a story of a dude who went down on her for like 10 minutes and then he came up and he's like, well, I tried.

15:31 And she's like, you tried? You didn't even get me close. And it's funny. Me and Monica are homies now. Like we're friends. And so she'll laugh at this when she hears it. But, you know, she gave him some shit. So if it seems like it's going slow, like set your watch, bro. Like it could take 20 plus minutes. It really could. So get comfortable. I'm really tall. So it's like, like half my fucking body is across the room. And like I might like have my feet against the wall or something, you know, because like by the time she's laying on the bed and then I'm like down there with my head near her vagina, it's like my goddamn long ass circus legs are like in the bathroom, dude, sometimes.

16:12 So you want to be comfortable, man. Bring your knee pads. No, I'm just kidding. So, okay, you're going down on here rhythmically. Right. You're keeping a rhythm, adjusting to her responses. So, dude, if you lift the hood and you look on it, she's like, ah, and she like pulls away. Of course, drop the hood, bro. Drop the hood on that car. She doesn't want you peeking inside on the engine. But if she's into it, which again has been my experience, then you can do that. Now, a really good method that I would do is lick with my tongue up, right?

16:43 Like up the clit with my tongue. Then I'd follow it with my lower lip. Then once my lower lip gets above the clit, then I go down with my lower lip, down with my tongue, down with my upper lip, and then back again. So, it's like you have four different soft things rubbing on her clit. And man, I've made girls spray that way. And by the way, if you got your COVID-19 mask, you may want to deploy that thing if you get a sprayer. Like I've been sprayed.

17:10 Different podcasts, but you can make girls really come hard that way. But you want to just do something consistently. Don't switch it up too much. The alphabet, sure, it can work. But I found like up and down, just consistent, right? Think about when a girl gives you a blowjob. If she hits the right cadence and it's like hitting the right parts of your dick correctly, she'll make you come quickly, right? But if she's all over the court, freaking slibbering and slobbering, sliding and weaving, you don't know what the hell is going on.

17:40 Sometimes it can be hard. So like the consistency is good, but in the initial beginnings, you kind of want to tease a little bit, compliment, okay? But now she's ramping up. Now you may be wondering, when do I deploy my fingers? I deploy them when I can tell she's getting really turned on. And it's interesting because there's a point, it seems, with the vagina where it kind of like the whole thing kind of gets wet. Like it even seems like the lips get wet. It just like, it seems like one minute it's like it was when you first started and the next minute it just like hits this, this point and you'll notice it.

18:13 And that's when I insert my finger. So you want to lick your finger and insert it. Now you just don't jam the fucking thing up there. And I suggest using one finger initially to maybe if she's a little bit loose, but most girls don't need to one. And you just want to insert it in the entrance of the hole at first, an inch in, out, an inch and a quarter in, out, an inch and a quarter in, again, out, right? And slowly work it in. You don't need to freaking jam her cervix with your finger.

18:42 You want to ease it in slowly, just like with everything with women. It's all about slow, patient, soft at first. Then we, then we ease up the pressure. Now here, here's an example, dude. Like I've had a chick where I had her hood up and I was fucking licking the hell out of the thing. Cause she kept going harder and harder and harder. And like her vagina or her clitoris was so desensitized from masturbating all the time that like I had to lick that thing hard as hell just to get her off.

19:08 So again, you know, some chicks are super duper sensitive. Some chicks require it harder. How do you know? Ask, just be like, how's the pressure? Is this, is this cool for you? Right? Is this, is this good? You want it harder? You want softer? How is it? And, and they'll usually tell you. So one other way to do this is to see how they make out with you. And God forbid, if they go down on you and they're slamming the thing, like they're trying to milk it, then, you know, okay, she probably wants it hard, but I always err on the side of caution starting softly.

19:38 So as your finger goes in, you know, you're getting it deeper there. The G spot is on the top and you can work that, but I usually work it when she's just about to orgasm or she's orgasming. I'll start bringing that in or like a minute before. So now you start to hold like a rhythm. Okay. So you're like going up and down with your tongue and lips or just your tongue, whatever you decide. And then your finger is going in and out at the same time.

20:04 It's like, like a train going on the tracks. You want to keep that rhythm and you want to like slide, slide your finger in. And as I said, you can go for the G spot. Now the G spot is on the top. So let's say you stick your finger in with the pad of your index finger facing upwards towards her belly. What you would do is you would curl your finger upwards and the G spot is on a kind of rough patch of skin. You can feel it just in there, probably two inches in.

20:36 I don't know how many inches it is. It's in. I'm not a doctor. I haven't studied analogy, uh, analogy anatomy, but to me, it's like when I think about it right now, it's like a couple inches in and you can rub on that with your finger. It's like the come hither move. But what instead of like do the come hither move right now, like, Hey, come here, come here, come here. You don't want to do that. You want to curl your finger up and like use your arm to rub it.

20:59 Kind of like aren't your arm is making your finger go in and out. So it's not like you're scraping it with your fingernail. You're rubbing the pad of your finger on it and you can rub it, uh, backwards and forwards. Maybe you can do a little circles on it, but whatever you do, you want to be consistent. And bro, she is the barometer. So if you do that and she's like, Oh, and she's like really likes it, then, then keep doing it. Like you can tell she's liking it.

21:23 If she's, if she's like, Whoa, and she's like, don't touch that. Obviously don't do it. So she is the barometer. And this is a very important concept for all physical escalations. She's the barometer and you lead her to where she wants to be led. You are the man you are in control, quote unquote, you're leading it, but you're leading her to where she wants to be led. It's like, you're taking her under your wing and leading her to the promised land of orgasm bliss. Okay. So you need to see what she wants.

21:53 All right. Now, as you're going, you're doing your thing. She's going to get closer and closer to orgasm. Do not stop. Like after a certain point, you can see when they're ramping up, right? It's fucking hot, dude. Like they're, they're panting and maybe screaming a little bit, like feeling their own tits. Like it's, it's super dope, dude. I don't understand why guys don't like this. Super fucking sexy. And you're licking on it and you just keep consistent, consistent, consistent. Keep that pace. She says harder. You do it harder.

22:20 She says softer. You do it harder. You do it harder. Yeah. She says softer. Just go harder. You, if she says softer, you go softer. Do what she says. If she moves, don't move with it because she's moving to where she wants to be. So, so like I've had girls like kind of push it into my face and then back away, push it into my face and back away. Bro, just keep your face there. Let them fuck your face. Like, what are you doing, chick? Who cares?

22:46 Whatever you're doing, I'm just going to keep doing it. Then what's interesting is right before orgasm, that little fucker, that little bean seems to disappear. Cause it goes like back under the clitoral hood. Don't like try to fight it out, like pull up harder on the clitoral hood. It goes away right before orgasm. And that's when, you know, she's about to come keep the pace. It gets really slippery. It's like being on a slip and slide mixed with, um, astro glide. And you're just like, God damn, I can't keep a grip on this, but try your best to keep your tongue going on it.

23:16 Keep your finger going. And then when she comes, man, it's going to be like a goddamn demon just awoken from the dead. She's going to freak out, arch her back, move to most orgasms last for women pretty long time. So two to three to four to five to six times longer than ours. I mean, I've had girls orgasm like, damn, dude, you're still fucking going. How lucky are you? Ours lasts like a handful of seconds. Theirs is just like half the damn day. But no, literally they last, I don't know, 20 seconds would have to be my guess.

23:49 I've never timed it. I'm not a doctor. So if you're listening to this and you have some like statistic, don't spaz out on me. I'm just going from my personal experience here. But yeah, they last a while. And you want to kind of, you want to definitely keep doing what you're doing through the orgasm. Just keep doing what you're doing through the orgasm. Don't change. Don't suddenly like do the come hither mood twice as hard. Keep doing what you're doing. But as the orgasm slows down, you can see it.

24:15 I slow down along with it, slow down, slow down. And then most girls will say, just stop. If you know the girl well, you know when to stop. And then when you're done with that, you want to just fuck the shit out of her. Just I immediately like put it in and give it a go. I've seen girls really like that. And you know, you've worked hard for it, dude. So you deserve it. All right. So the main points here were make her feel beautiful. Make it like you love doing it.

24:41 Start off very soft. Let her be the barometer for what you're doing. Lift up the hood when she's good and warmed up. Also stick your finger in when she's good and warmed up. And I have to say, you've got to really warm it up. Like foreplay should last anywhere from 30 minutes to hours. Making out, you know, playing with each other, playing with their tits, scratching her back, kissing her boobs. Like, hey, sometimes sex happens faster and you don't have freaking all night to put into it.

25:13 But usually the first go, you know, you want to take your time, man. And really, really show her that you're into her body. Even if her body is like not perfect, don't say nothing. And don't kiss on her fat, as we've said. And do that and you'll be the cunnilingus master on Facebook. Next day, you'll get a post. You are the cunnilingus master of 2020. Congratulations. And then all those like flowers will come up. Everybody will leave messages on your Facebook page. Bro, congratulations, man. Congratulations. Change your status.

25:46 And then you'll change your status to cunnilingus master. You'll get a trophy in the mail. It's just going to be the best day of your life. And it's worth it, man. It's worth it to put that extra effort in. If you've ever been left because you couldn't deliver in the bedroom. Or if you're afraid of not being good at sex. Well, you could get good at this. And honestly, if you're good at this, it doesn't really matter how good you are at sex. Right? This is where you can really separate yourself.

26:10 Really make her into you and into your sex. You know, when a girl tells you no one's even held a candle to you and like she can't believe how freaking good you are and she thinks about it when she's at work and she tells her friends about it, it's a good feeling. So it's worth that extra effort. Now, if you want to get my book, Guide to the Female Orgasm, which goes even deeper into this than I did just now, leave me a review wherever you can.

26:36 And then email me at CoachMarkSingh at gmail.com. I will send you that program. You can really study it. Become the Cunnilingus Master on Facebook and keep a chick interested who might otherwise leave you because you don't deliver in the bedroom. All right, guys. I thank you so much for listening. Next week, we are going to follow up with how to have sex with a girl, how to be a champion in the bedroom and then be the Sex Master on Facebook. Two goddamn trophies, the Cunnilingus Master and the Sex Master all on Facebook.

27:05 That is yours coming up next Wednesday. One other thing I wanted to say, if you listen to this far, do me a favor, bro, and listen to my hundredth episode. I put a shit ton of work into that one and I really like to get the downloads as high as possible. I think it's probably the best episode I've ever done. It gets me super fired up and I hope it will do the same for you. So please check that out if you can and I'll see you in the next episode.

27:27 I got a good one coming up on Friday, so stay tuned. Thanks for listening.

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