TEXTING POWER MOVE: The Magic Technique of "N.R." with Girls and Attraction

0:00 Welcome to the Unapologetic Man Podcast. The only podcast that's all about self-improvement, confidence, success, women, and being a man without making any apologies for it. What is up, guys? Welcome to another episode of the UNP. I really do appreciate you joining me. And today, we are going to talk about the power of no response when dealing with women, particularly over texting. Now, I did a podcast about a week ago, which was about being persistent when it comes to women. And as with all things that are difficult, there's always a balance.

0:41 You always have a little bit of push. You have a little bit of pull. And in that episode, it was a big-time pull episode, being persistent. I talked about convincer mode and how some women, it just takes more than one try to try to get their phone number. But I don't want you guys to misinterpret what I was talking about. So in this one, we're going to talk about pushing her away like an absolute champion and specifically how to do so when texting with her. So when it comes to being persistent, a little side note I want to make about that episode is, do I think you should be super persistent once you're dating her, once you're talking to her?

1:14 No, no, I really don't. And in fact, I would do a lot more pushing than I do pulling when it came to trying to get her more attracted to me once it hooked, once it stuck, right? So in the beginning, yeah, sometimes you have to be persistent. You have to approach her more than one time to convince her that you're an alpha silverback champion and she would be an idiot unless she gave you her number. But after that, I really actually suggest a little bit more push than I do pull.

1:43 So I do not suggest chasing her. I do not suggest following up. Absolutely not. Do not suggest too many compliments, stuff like that. So in today's episode, we're going to talk about how to have that balance and no response. It is amazing how effective this is. To put a girl on ice, as my client Victor always says, what is up, Victor? And speaking of clients, Dorian, this one's for you, my dude. Recording this specifically for you, Dorian, the other day is like, dude, you know, every time you give a shout out on your podcast to one of your clients, I was like, man, I wish one day I could be one of those clients.

2:17 Well, Dorian, today's your day, my friend. Not only are you one of my favorite clients, but bro, you are going to be crushing so much ass in the next two months. It's going to be ridiculous. The guy just started. Oh my hell, it's going to be over, bro. Buy condoms. Also want to give a shout out. Well, we are on the shout out train to my boys in New Zealand who filmed a recording of themselves doing burpees in the middle of an intersection in Auckland, New Zealand.

2:42 They actually put it on YouTube and they kind of did it for me. I think they did it for me in my honor. I'm just going to claim it. It was in my honor, 100%. And they did this and they sent it to me and I was super stoked. So shout out to you boys in New Zealand. What I want to know about New Zealand is this. Do they teach you guys all the haka? Are you guys, you other listeners, are you familiar with what the haka is?

3:02 It's like this war chant that the New Zealand rugby team does. Actually, all the New Zealand teams do before they play the game. I think it's the sickest thing I've ever seen in my life. And I'm so bummed that us Americans, the only thing they give us is a gun, a horse, and a cowboy hat. We don't get to learn the haka. And I think in New Zealand, they teach it to all you boys out there. So I'm super jealous. I would love to one day participate in that, man.

3:26 That's fucking war, dude. That's masculinity. So a shout out to my boys in New Zealand. All right, guys. So without further ado, what do you say we jump into the content? So no response. What does this mean? Well, it's exactly as it sounds like. You simply don't respond to her. Now we do this when she's not behaving in the way that we want her to behave. She's acting up. She's being a bitch. She's giving us the ho-hum one-word replies. She's not addressing the conversation. She's not participating.

3:56 She's being basically an idiot. And we are going to not respond to her in order to push her away. Now, the interesting thing about female psychology is it's highly based on women want what they can't have. So if you're too easy, if you're too persistent, especially after you've gotten her number and you're texting with her, in my opinion, that's when you drop persistence and you start pulling away, particularly when she's not behaving to how you want her to behave. Okay, so for example, taking forever to reply to your texts, doing the one-word answers, not even really participating in the conversation.

4:31 You can tell she's just rushing it and she's not really that interested. Bro, if you just test this, if you just get over your fear, your scarcity mindset of losing these girls and you simply test it and don't respond to them, like just fall off the map. Because no guy falls off the map. All guys always consistently follow up, text her twice in a row. They're super needy. They're chasing her. I want you to do the opposite, specifically when she has bad behavior. So here's a concept I want to introduce to you.

5:00 And now this may sound condescending and degrading to women. It absolutely isn't. It's just a really good analogy. So I only want you to take this on the level of analogy, not take it on the level of how I think of women. Okay, but here it is. Is that dealing with women is a lot like dog training. Okay, when she's good, when she's behaving in the way that you want her to behave, she gets rewarded. Okay, you text her back quickly. You use exclamation points, let's say.

5:27 You reward that behavior. For example, if she says to you, which a lot of girls will do, like I just shade for you. It would be so awesome if we had sex right now. Or for example, she sends you some naked pics. Bro, you need to respond quickly and like use exclamation points. So a lot of times girls will say like, I'd love to have sex with you right now. Your dick would feel so good in my mouth. I just want you to get me from behind.

5:50 You need to be Johnny on the spot and reply to that immediately and say, yes, I love it when you talk like that. Now, if she's not participating, then you simply don't respond or take longer to respond. So you should constantly think of this as like rewarding and punishing behavior. Is she acting the way I want her to act? Is she interested in this conversation? Is she participating? If the answer is no, then you pull away. Because if you keep sending her texts, if you keep trying to chase her, if you keep trying to pull conversation out of what is essentially a dead conversation, she's just going to lose more attraction for you.

6:24 And you're going to get ghosted, as a lot of you guys know. Never under any circumstance follow up with a girl ever, you guys. This is like texting 101 where you send a text and you're like, oh, I was wondering if you saw my text. Did you see it? Never do that. Never do that. It's one for one every single time. If she doesn't reply to you, fine, cool, let it go. And then I have this thing called the black hole follow up, which I tell my clients to do after two weeks.

6:52 And this works, right? They're talking with the girl. She drops off. Then what happens is they ask me like, what do I do, bro? Like, what can I say? You don't say anything, bro. She dropped off. So now you drop off. If a girl pulls away from you, I want you to pull away from her, right? I always say women are the barometer to dictate your escalations. Well, it's not only escalations. It's also pullaways. So if she is not participating, she doesn't reply, then boom, you're gone, dude.

7:19 You're out like sauerkraut, bro. Like, you don't even give a shit. You're off like a prom dress. You don't even care. You forgot about her. Because again, this comes from the concept, which is a core tenet of my teaching. What would I do if I were dating four girls? I want you to say that. I want you to have your little, what would Mark Singh bracelet on and look at that and say, what would Mark Singh do here? He's dating four girls at all times. So he wouldn't reply.

7:44 If she didn't reply to a text, you forgot about it. You didn't even realize you sent it. And that, by the way, is why we make our text look rushed. We make it look like we didn't put much thought into it, but always, it's always very calibrated. You're always trying to make her laugh. You're like a chess player thinking five steps ahead. But listen, if she's acting in a way that isn't conducive to attraction, it isn't conducive to you guys getting a hangout, you're gone. Okay, now you think, but dude, if I'm gone, how do I get her?

8:13 Because she comes back. Now, am I guaranteeing she's going to come back every single time? No. It depends a lot on, you know, what you did in the first conversation. It depends on a myriad of things. Okay, but I guarantee you, you're going to have a better chance of her coming back if you pull away, no response, than if you follow up with her every single time. And it's crazy how it works in the female mind. Like Victor said, he's like, yeah, I put this chick on ice for a couple of weeks because my client, Victor, is dating four girls.

8:41 So I was like, yeah, I put her on ice and she came back a week later. And I was like, oh yeah, standard, right? Standard issue. Now, a lot of guys hear that and they're like, really, bro, this really works? Yes. But you have to control that red helmeted warrior in your pants who's going to be like, bro, I just want to dip in, man. I just want to see her. I just need that feminine energy. Does she like me? And you're sitting around crying like a school girl in the corner of your bed in the cannonball position acting like a little bitch.

9:06 Bro, what would I do? What would Mark Singh do? I want you to imagine me next to you smacking you upside the head and being like, bitch, get the fuck out there. Go meet four other girls. Forget about this girl. She's done. If she's not participating, she's not into it. How do I get her more into it? By showing her I don't give a shit. That's the only play. That's the only play. Actually, there's a few more other plays. We'll do a podcast on that later.

9:29 But that's basically the only play. Okay. As you pull back, no response. This also has to do is if she's acting up. If she's acting like a bitch, you guys are like fighting and she says some really mean thing. The best thing you can do is not respond. You don't have to get the last word in. You don't want to like always have the upper hand always reacting to what women say. You simply don't respond. This is infinitely more powerful than you replying back with some snide remark, which let's be honest with each other.

9:59 It comes from your feminine energy because you're being emotional. Infinitely better than you replying back and saying, oh, but this and this and fuck you and la la la. No, no response. Because now she's creating situations in her head. She's like, oh, is he pissed? Like, what does he think about this? Oh, God. Oh, God. And then she's going to break down and text you. And then if you act like it's like no big whoop, like, oh, yeah, whatever. No big deal. And you continue on the conversation.

10:23 Dude, you just went up like 300 percent in her book. In fact, sometimes it's good when women act up. In fact, I would get excited when they would do some shit that I could use this on because it's so unbelievably powerful for attraction. I'll be like, oh, that's some bitchy shit she just said. You're done. Goodbye. And literally, bro, like, I want you to get this in your head. In your head, you are dropping her. She is done. You are broken up with her, but you're just not telling her about it.

10:50 You're like, whatever, girl. Like, whatever. You ghost me, you're getting ghost 10 times as hard. You're acting up. I'm gone. I'm out. Why would a guy who's dating four different girls deal with their bullshit? He wouldn't. See, this is the thing is like when you start to get women in your life, you just do this she it naturally. And this is how a lot of guys who are naturals discovered it and now teach it to us guys who weren't naturals, which was me and maybe you. And then we learn it and then we become it and we're like, God, it makes sense.

11:20 What would I do if I was super high in demand? Would I really get emotional and butthurt? I was watching this thing the other night about this guy who, like, dates a ton of chicks off of Tinder. I think it was on Netflix. And he's like 40 years old and he's dating this 25-year-old chick and he really likes her. And so he's at a party getting drunk with his friends on a Monday. So he says, hey, why don't you come drink with us? And she's like, um, you're 40 and you're drinking right now and I'm 25.

11:47 Shouldn't this conversation be the opposite way around? Now he replied back all emotional like, dude, is that really cool of you to be like attacking me like that? Goodbye. We're done. Okay. That's the wrong way to do it because you see he put emotion into it. And now what happened? He lost the girl. In the episode, he lost the girl. What I would have done? No response. Goodbye. You're done. There's 100,000 other chicks in my city. I'm going to go meet them. Goodbye. Then what happens? And I've had this happen so many times, guys.

12:15 I just want to like shake you by the shoulders and be like, bro, you got to listen to me, bro. I'm telling you, this is how it works. No response. Pull back. Don't give a shit. It's absolutely effective when it comes to attraction. The next point I want to make on this is about her ability to banter over texting. Okay. So a lot of the times, as a lot of you guys know, women speaking to them, particularly over texting is about as interesting as watching paint dry, particularly the hot ones.

12:43 Why would a hot girl have to develop her banter and her personality? Oftentimes, they don't have to develop that. That's why it's so hard to find a super high quality girl with a great sense of humor who's also ridiculously hot. Unfortunately, a lot of the times when a girl is extremely attractive, she never had to rely on any kind of personality. She just got off on her looks, right? Like she goes into Subway and she's like, oh, can I have some free chips? And the guy's like, yeah, right?

13:10 She didn't have to like negotiate it or use charms or charisma. So why would she have to develop that? So unfortunately, when it comes to texting them, and you probably know this just as well as I do, it's like trying to pull teeth. It's like trying to bleed blood from a rock. It's like, come on, dude. You are so fucking boring to talk to. Well, when they're being boring, I'll just pull away. I won't respond. I'm gone. I'm done. So I'll say some like awesome shit, right?

13:35 Or I'll throw her a softball that she can easily hit out of the park. And she comes back with just some meager ass fucking no thought, no personality reply. I won't respond to it. Okay. So now what goes on in her head? Well, as a fucking champion, I'm able to put myself in her shoes. And I know she's over there tripping, especially women, bro. They were always on their phones. They're always looking for validation. They are so addicted to texting, to Instagram likes, to Facebook likes that you really think she just forgot about your text.

14:06 No, especially when you pull back and she wasn't that interested. When you start pulling back, it's like pumping up her interest. That's really what it's doing. So she's sitting over there thinking like, oh God, like, why isn't he replying? What happened? It's been like six hours. She's going to read her reply and be like, oh, okay. I wasn't really participating in this. I will have girls literally text me a different reply to the same thing that I said and like give it another try. And then when she does, boom, reward that good behavior.

14:35 So again, it's like dog training. When she's acting poorly, you punish the behavior by pulling away. Pulling away is like one of the best things you can do. That means no response. When she's acting well, she's trying, she's participating, you reward that behavior. By replying quickly, saying, dude, that was an awesome reply. In that situation, I would ignore her meager attempt and focus on the good attempt and reward that. Now, my final point has to do with girls who are too into it because you guys are going to run into this as well.

15:05 Where a girl is too invested. She's hitting you up all the time. She's just too damn into it. Well, here's the deal. I have something called the 8,100 rule. Now, the 8,100 rule says that you should give her about 80% of what she gives you. Okay. So let's say there's an easy example. She wants to hang out about five times a week. Well, if you're going to give her 80% of what she wants, then how many times would you hang out with her? That's right. Four times a week. Okay.

15:31 So you're giving your 80% of what she wants. 80% of her participation. I would even break it down to 80% length of her texts. Although sometimes that's hard with some of the meager replies that women throw over. But let's just keep that as a rule. Okay. So like 80% of her effort, that's what you're going to give her. So if she's texting you way more than you want to, and even if you were to text her back 80% of what she's texting you, that's still too much. Here's what I want you to do.

15:59 I want you to text her exactly how much you want to text her. So to reiterate, what this means is you always want to give her 80%. Like even if you want to give her 120%, like she's not really texting you that much. She really doesn't want to see you as much as you want to see her. You have to hold yourself back and only see her 80% of what she wants. Now that begs the question, well, Mark, what if I only want to see her 50% of what she wants?

16:24 Then do that. What if I only want to see her 40% of what she wants? Then do that. So as long as you're not going over the 80%, then just do it. Don't feel like you have to like keep up with her texting. Now, inevitably, she's going to be like, what's wrong? What's going on? And then you just approach her just completely calm, completely rational and say, listen, I know you're really into texting or I know you want to hang out a lot, but this is what I'm comfortable doing.

16:48 Okay. So you can do that and you'll probably still keep the girl because ironically, the way it works is this. The person who wants less is the person who's in the power position. You as the man always have to be in the power position in order to keep her attracted to you. I want to say that again. The person who wants less is the one in the power position. You have to be in the power position for her to be attracted to you. It's all about frame control.

17:13 So if you keep yourself back and only give her 80% of what she wants, and even if it's only 60% of what she wants or 50% of what she wants, that's still okay. Now, 80% is the perfect calibration to make her fall in love with you. But bro, I'm not going to have you like hang out with the girl more than you want to text with the girl more than what you want to, because this is your life. You're number one for you. But I'm telling you, if you want a girl to fall really deeply in love with you and not get pissed off at you because you're not available enough, which a lot of you guys have experienced as well, it's about 80%.

17:46 She's still going to be slightly unsatisfied, but it's just enough unsatisfaction to keep her interested. Now, no response plays into this as well. If she's just texting you too fucking much and you're like, God bless America, I don't want to deal with this chick anymore, then don't do exactly what you want to do. And this is why assholes get girls is because they usually want less than the chick. They usually are dating four other girls. So if you're dating four other girls, can you really afford to spend all this time texting a girl who's blasting your phone all the time?

18:18 No, you can't. So you're going to do exactly what the fuck you want to do. Now, some girls, their psychology is so weird that you could like pull away, pull away, pull away. I've broken up with girls and it's like they didn't even hear me break up with them. And two days later, they're like, I'm so in love with you. I want to take this to the next level. Like they literally didn't hear it because I broke up with them. I stopped responding to them. I pulled away.

18:41 So pulling away is super powerful, especially when they're already really into you. If a girl's already really into you and then you start pulling away, bro, this is like nuclear power and attraction building material to get them to super fall in love with you. So again, no response. We do it when she's behaving badly. We do it when she's ghosting us. We do it when her replies are meager. And we do it when she's doing too much, when she's texting us too much, wanting to hang out too much.

19:09 We just pull away. Now, invariably, she's going to ask what's wrong to which again, you rationalize, hey, listen, you know, I know you want to text all the time. I know you want to hang out five times a week, but I'm so busy with my business. I'm so busy with my friends. This is what I'm able to do. I could text a couple of times a day. I can hang out with you like three times a week. If that's a deal breaker, cool. Just let me know.

19:30 That's what I would always say, guys. If that's a deal breaker, just let me know. I'm cool with it. And they'd always be like, no, it's okay. I just really like you. I get it. I like you too. But this is where I'm at. And she's like, okay. And now guys, even going into relationship, as I always say, don't ask her, wait for her to ask you. If you're delivering 80% of what she wants, if you're clicking off awesome hangouts, if you're being the sanctuary for her, if you're giving her amazing sex, smashing orgasms, where yes, she looks like a screaming demon that just got hit with a tornado.

20:02 It's just a matter of time before she asks you to be your girlfriend. I'll do another podcast on that in the future. I've done a couple things about it in the past, but you always want to wait for her to bring that stuff up. So no response is extremely powerful. This is a balance point to my being persistent episode. And everything about attracting women is about balance. Just like life is balance. You have to balance both the vacation time with the working hard, meditation with kicking ass in the gym.

20:30 It's all about balance if you want to be an unapologetic silverback alpha male. All right, boys, that's it for me in this podcast. I do appreciate you listening. If you want to get the skill set to be able to attract a woman who can ride in a hang glider with you without making it lose altitude and crash into the side of a mountain, then I'm the dude for you. I have a coaching program that's three months long, and you can meet with me on a free one on one consultation for me to tell you exactly how long I think it would take you to get to your goals with women.

20:59 If you were to go through my coaching program, I just signed up a dude today. What is up, Fernando? I've been meeting with guys every day of the week on these breakthrough sessions, and I keep meeting these awesome dudes who really, if we were in the same town, we'd probably be best friends. It's weird how guys who resonate with my podcast, I always jive with them. It's really, really cool. So we get on Zoom. We bro out like a couple of brothers, and then I tell them honestly what I think it would take for them to get to the results that they want with women.

21:25 And in the coaching program, we do get deep into concepts like this one, because once you understand female psychology, once you understand what really gets attraction, and once you put rules in place to manage that spazziness that all of us have inside of us, like, oh, I just want to call her, bro. I just need her so bad. Once you manage that and you understand the shit, it fucking explodes, bro. It's like gangbusters, and girls will thank you for seducing them, literally. Or, which has happened to me, and I'm sure has happened to you guys, you break up with them, and then a couple of days later, they're like, hey, I need to see you.

21:57 I'm in love. I think we need to move in together. And you're like, what the fuck? I just broke up with this chick. What is she doing? You're like, show up on your doorstep. Crazy shit, bro. Girls go nuts when you push them away in this way. So yes, you want to be persistent, but once you get the girl and you're dating her, I advise push her away. 8,100 though, because there also has to be 80% of you pulling her. So it's really a calibration thing, and I teach that in my three-month coaching program.

22:22 But anyway, if you're interested, hit me up. Go to CoachMarkSingh.com. Click on the upper right-hand corner. It's called Coaching. Click the red button. Fill in the goddamn, slap in the biscuit, and you and I will get on that free one-on-one breakthrough session together. All right, gentlemen, I have another awesome podcast dropping on Wednesday, so stay tuned for that, and I will see you in the next episode. We'll see you in the next episode. We'll see you in the next episode.

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