The Absolutely GANGSTER Seduction Technique of "Staging"

0:00 Welcome to the Unapologetic Man Podcast, the only podcast that's all about self-improvement, confidence, success, women, and being a man without making any apologies for it. What is up, gentlemen? Thank you for tuning in to another episode of the UMP. I really do appreciate it. And today, we are going to talk about the amazing gangster, what did I call it? Gangster seduction technique. Gangster, how fucking cheesy. But you clicked on it, bro. You got caught in the clickbait, dude. You clicked on that gangster technique of what I call staging.

0:39 Staging is extremely important to attract the hottest of the hot. And if you can do some staging before you actually approach, open, speak to a woman, it is ridiculously effective. Before I jump into the content, I want to read a quick testimonial. I got another one. I keep getting them. They just keep flooding into my inbox. And yes, I have over 100 of them on my website from the last year alone, or maybe it's about a year and a half I've been posting those. They just keep coming in, boys, because I just keep hitting those home runs.

1:10 Every single client who comes into my coaching program and who does the work, who actually follows through, gets the results he's after. So let's go ahead and read this one from Caramello. What Mark teaches in his three-month coaching program works wonders. Before starting Mark's program, I was so nervous talking to girls. I was always worrying about if I was good enough for her standards. After finishing the program, I can approach a 10 and show my intentions by telling her I think she's cute. While I'm talking to her, I'm seeing if she's good enough for my standards.

1:43 This coaching program was easily the best money I've ever spent. Mark's the coolest fucking guy ever. You'll love him on the coaching calls. Really appreciate that, Caramello. And yeah, man, this dude on the first couple of coaching calls was so insecure, stifled, couldn't really speak up. He just had this weird vibe about him. And then by the end of the 12 weeks, I swear, it was a new fucking dude. Super confident, super charismatic, just outgoing. One of my favorite clients for sure. So Caramello, keep going, man.

2:13 Keep going. The pussy avalanche will continue, bro. I'm telling you, man. It's like a snowball. It just gets better and better. So what is this thing we call staging gentlemen? It's basically showing a woman your value before even going to approach her. So what we want to do ideally is be a high value guy in her eyes before she even speaks to us. Now, as I talk about frequently in this podcast, we do that many different ways. One of those ways is with having good energy, simply being in a good state.

2:42 But another way is letting her overhear you speak to somebody else. So what I'll often do, and this is a great example, is in the grocery store. Okay, I see a cute girl. If I haven't approached her by the time she gets into the line to check out, what I'll do is I'll try to get in behind her. Now, as she's about to check out, the checkout lady will say, hey, how are you doing today? She'll say, I'm good. How are you? And they'll do their whole BS conversation.

3:07 And then I'll kind of interject a little bit and I'll talk to the checkout lady. Okay, so rather than speaking to my target, I'll actually open somebody else in her vicinity. So basically what that looks like is be like, hey, what's up, Kelly? How are you doing today? I have to choke anybody out. And that's something I'll often say to checkout ladies, to baristas, to the Subway sandwich maker, whoever is dealing with the general public. They always kind of crack up when I say that. Have to choke anybody out and they always laugh.

3:35 Kind of have a little conversation with them. And this, by the way, is why I'm always super cool to anybody who I frequently see when I'm doing my shopping. Okay, so if I go to Starbucks or something like that, which I don't because coffee is just not my jam. And plus, a lot of those Starbucks coffee, bro, they have nothing but sugar in them, dude. Like, that's why people are so fat is because they're drinking these goddamn sugar-filled drinks. Anyway, I digress. If I were to go into Starbucks, for example, charisma bombs all day long.

4:04 Like, I'm just chatting them up, making them laugh, leaving a good tip. When I go to the grocery store, every single checkout lady just loves me because I crack her up, always telling jokes, always just being the charismatic guy. So that when I get in line, usually they already know me and I can go ahead and speak to them in a very familiar way and they light up. The girl is hearing my voice. She's hearing the funny things I say and then I'll bring her into the conversation.

4:31 So we'll talk about whatever we're talking about and then I'll say, so what do you think? Right? And I'll bring her into the conversation and then we'll all be talking and then she leaves and then I'll quickly check out myself and I'll go out in the parking lot and be like, hey, hey, real quick, had to meet you, da, da, da, da, da, from there. But the essential strategy of staging means that you're demonstrating your charisma to girls before you approach them. Now, I actually took this from women because I've seen women do this to me so many times.

4:59 And a lot of you guys can relate to this where when you're a really attractive guy or you're killing the nightclub or you go out to dinner with your hot girlfriend or whatever it is, chicks always seem to migrate towards you and they always seem to just be around. And what they'll often do is they'll talk loud. They'll flip their hair. They'll try to make movements. They'll laugh really loudly in order to kind of stage and try to get you to notice them. Have you ever noticed like when a girl's attracted to you, suddenly her hair is flipping everywhere.

5:27 It's just like pew, pew, pew. She's just flipping her hair everywhere. It's because she understands, and this is quite unconscious, that the eye sees movement. So when she's like tossing her hair and like moving her legs and making all these big movements, it's staging in order for you to look at her and check her out. She wants you to notice her. Well, we do the same thing, but we do it with our conversation. So if you can have a girl overhear you talk to another girl, better yet, a group of girls, and if you can entertain those people or be funny at the same time, huge for attraction.

6:02 And that's why when guys ask me like, what do I do when I approach a group? I'm like, you have to approach the group as a whole. Don't just approach your target unless it's a time-sensitive thing. You want to approach the group as a whole because you're essentially staging for the girl who you want to get by entertaining the entire crowd. An interesting thing that used to happen when I would teach in-field coaching, and that means I'd take guys into the bars and the nightclubs. I'd have like anywhere from 10 to 15, sometimes 20 dudes with me.

6:30 An interesting thing would be is that the girls would always get attracted to me. Why is that? Is it because I'm better looking? No. Is it because I'm better dressed? No. Is it because I have game and I know how to speak game and talk and everything? Well, maybe, but I never talked to these chicks. What I did is I walked in as the leader of men. All these guys are looking at me. I'm talking. So that's essentially staging. You're showing value without actually opening a girl.

6:59 And this value can be shown if you're playing guitar on stage, for example. If you're leading a rock climbing class, for example, if you're the guy who's in charge of whatever the hell you want to do, if you're the dude who's in charge, if you're the dude who's in the alpha position, you're essentially staging for a girl to become attracted to you so that when you do open her, she's already really attracted to you because you're the leader of men. You're the alpha male. You're the dude in charge.

7:26 Another thing I do is when I'm about to approach a girl, I'll actually walk up to her while I'm speaking to one of my girlfriends on the phone. When I say girlfriends, I obviously just mean friend, right? So I'll be talking to this girl on the phone and I'll have it on speaker. The reason I do this is because it's pre-selection. Pre-selection means a dude who has girls in his life to begin with is probably trustworthy, probably is attractive. And if I could get a girl on the phone who's attracted to me, where my voice is very confident, the way it is now speaking to you guys, her voice is a little bit more in the supplicatory role, meaning like it's pretty obvious just through her voice that she's attracted to me.

8:06 And I'm literally wrapping up the call as I go to approach this girl, it opens so much better. Just by the fact that I've staged that I have women in my life, just by the fact that my tonality is okay while I'm speaking to this woman, and just by the fact that her tonality is in a supplicatory attracted kind of tonality, this girl who I'm opening is going to get way more attracted. I like to do this when I'll walk into like a quiet shop and she's just there alone.

8:33 Like I see her from the outside. I'm like, hey, here's a banging chick. Let me go ahead and call my friend Lindsay. I'm going to chat her up a little bit. And then as I'm walking in, I'll be like, hey, hey, I got to go. Okay, yeah, talk to you later. And she'll be like, okay, bye. Right, and this chick hears it. And then I'll also have my voice dialed in to this new girl that I'm going to open. Because you guys don't realize how horrible your voices go when you suddenly are attracted to a girl and you're trying to open her.

9:00 Like I tell you guys all the time, watch your tonality. Make sure your voice goes down at the end rather than up at the end. Which when it goes up at the end telegraph supplication, even though I tell you guys all that stuff, a lot of you guys still mess up. I hear it all the time. So walking up to a girl who you want to approach while speaking on the phone to a girl who already likes you is a gangster way to not only stage, but to get your voice dialed in.

9:26 One quick thing about cell phones, I've been doing a lot of research about EMF, electromagnetic frequencies. The jury's kind of out for me because there's a lot of contradictory research on whether or not this stuff is carcinogenic or harmful in any way whatsoever. And obviously what it is is your phone connecting to the cell phone tower is the vibration or the energy or whatever carcinogenic or is it bad for you in any way whatsoever, which means could it give you cancer? Okay, so I've been doing a lot of research on it.

9:56 And again, the jury's kind of out. But here's one thing I'd suggest. I'm pretty sure the evidence points to if you have the cell phone to your fucking face up next to your skull for an extended amount of time when you're on a call, it's not good for you. It's akin to maybe smoking a couple cigarettes or something like that. And please don't email me about this if you know a lot. I honestly don't have time to get into a conversation with this. I'm really focusing on my clients right now.

10:22 But what I've learned is that it's probably pretty bad to have that thing pressed up against your head for an extended amount of time. So try to speak on speakerphone when you can or at the very least put your earbuds in, even though they also say that Bluetooth isn't great for you, whatever. But at the very least, get that thing away from your skull. And this is one reason for you to do that. Once again, don't email me. I don't want to hear it. I don't want to hear.

10:44 I just don't have time, man. I got to focus on my clients. That's where I'm putting all my energy. So back to staging. Another element that you guys usually don't consider is when girls see you talking to other girls, they will actually get attracted to you more. A lot of you guys are afraid of approaching girls in public because what if other people see you? Brother, you want other girls to see that. And if they accuse you, asking you something like, oh, what do you just approach all girls?

11:10 What do you do? You agree and amplify. You say, all girls. I hit on all girls. I even hit on my grandma last night. It was a little bit uncomfortable. So you agree with it and you amplify it. But when you're speaking to other girls, you're essentially staging for the other girls that are in the vicinity. And this happens all the time. A lot of you guys can relate to this where you're speaking to a cute girl and you look over her shoulder and there's like six other chicks checking you out because it's staging.

11:36 You're putting on a show before you're going to do the main show. It's like the opening act before the main act. You're showing her that you're high value. You're attractive. Girls like you. Hopefully this girl is laughing at your joke. She's really interested in you. When she is, you're staging. You're setting up that pre-show, that precursor to go in to open this new girl and that gets her way more attracted. So what I want you guys to do is I want you to be overheard. I want you to show value by speaking to girls on your cell phone on speaker mode so they can hear that.

12:09 I want you to speak to other people, even your friends in front of her where she can hear what you're saying. If you're a funny guy, then you can make your friends laugh and she's overhearing this. And she's getting more attracted to you because of it. Lastly, pre-selection. Pre-selection is something I talk about all the time, which means when there's hot girls in your life, other hot girls will want to be in your life. So bringing chicks with you to nightclubs, going out basically with hot girls, having you and hot girls on Instagram, it's all really powerful to stage, to set up this attractive vibe about you before you even approach or talk to girls or even hit them up on Instagram, for example.

12:49 Before you DM a girl, you'd be wise to have some lifestyle pictures on your Instagram, to have some pictures of you doing some cool shit with some hot girls. That shit sets up the stage for her to become attracted to you when you do hit her up. So use this, boys. Really be cognizant of it. My friend Lindsay and I jokingly call it value frequency maximization. I don't even know if maximization is a word. But we always talk about it because she's fine, man. And so are my other girlfriends.

13:18 So when I go out with them, and they know this shit, they know about preselection, and they think it's really funny, but we joke about how it just like maximizes the frequency of your value. Like chicks can pick up on this frequency that you let off by the tonality of your voice, whether or not you're the leader of men, if you're teaching a class, if you're showing charisma to another girl in front of this girl, you're setting up the stage for a successful open. Rather than just opening her cold without her ever seeing you or knowing anything about you.

13:50 So we want as much as possible to stack the chips in our favor before we even approach. Like if I can roll into a club with a bunch of hot chicks, be making my guy friends laugh, be making chicks around the bar laugh, and meanwhile this solid 10 is in the corner and she's seeing all this, by the time I roll up on her, bro, it's going to blow open because I set the stage for that successful opening. Hope this helps you gentlemen, and I do want to say something that I should have said at the start of the show.

14:17 I don't know how much longer I'm going to be doing these free breakthrough sessions where you can meet with me. Frankly, I'm just getting too damn busy. I'm getting too many clients, and I need to focus my efforts completely on my clients. So I'm seriously thinking about not doing that anymore and just working with my clients exclusively. So if you want to meet with me on a free one-on-one breakthrough session where you and I get on the phone and we talk about your issues with women for 30 minutes to an hour, I identify your sticking points.

14:45 I help you understand why it is that you're not getting success and give you a no-BS assessment as to what your issues are and how long it would take you to get success with women. I would do that sooner rather than later, and I'm not just using some sales pitch. This is absolute truth. I'm going to be stepping away from that responsibility. I'm going to be focusing on my clients and my three-month coaching program. So if you want to meet with me, brother, now is definitely the time because this is not going to be around for too much longer.

15:14 Go to my website, CoachMarkSing.com. Click on coaching. Fill in the quick application. You and I will email back and forth a little bit to make sure that you're serious and to make sure that I could even help you. If everything looks good, you and I are going to get on a private one-on-one phone call together on Zoom so I can see you and you can see me. And we're going to chat about your issues. Once again, man, it's not going to be around for much longer.

15:36 So if you've been kind of procrastinating putting it off, pull the trigger, brother, because this is honestly pretty much your last opportunity. Gentlemen, I do appreciate you listening. I drop podcasts on Mondays and Thursdays, so stay tuned for the next one, and I will see you in the next episode. I'll see you in the next episode.

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