What!? Guide Women to Date You Correctly?! YUUUUUP!!

0:00 Welcome to The Unapologetic Man Podcast, the only podcast that's all about self-improvement, confidence, success, women, and being a man without making any apologies for it. What is up, gentlemen? Thank you for tuning in to another episode of the UMP. I really do appreciate you listening. And today, we are going to talk about how to teach girls how to date you. That's right, man. If chicks are doing some shit that you don't like straight, tell them, bro. Tell them, like, this is the way you date me.

0:24 This is the way you communicate. This is the way you're effective in the dating scene. So many guys are afraid to be confrontational and to tell girls exactly what they think. And you'd be amazed when you actually coach girls through this kind of stuff, which I call mentoring in my coaching. They get way more attracted to you. So we're going to jump into that today, boys. I really want you to lead these girls to where they want to be led, because oftentimes, they don't know what they're doing, man.

1:01 They're just acting on instinct. They're just acting the way they think they should act. And when you tell them, when you put them in check, when you show them you're not to be fucked with, that's when you get their respect. And that's when you get them insanely attracted to you. So stand by, because I'm about to drop the goods. I'm rolling up the siege tower to your home, and I'm going to drop some massive boulders of knowledge right through your fucking roof, bro. So stand by to get some.

1:24 All right. Before I jump into the content, I want to read yet another testimonial for my three-month coaching program. They keep coming, bro. They just keep coming. What can I do, man? I literally have 168 freaking testimonials on my website. Go check them out yourself. All of them are very similar to this one I'm going to read here. I'm not going to share this client's first name because he asked to remain anonymous, but I do have his permission to share his last name, and his last name is Howard.

1:52 So, Mr. Howard, this one's from you, and I really, really appreciate this. Hi, Mark. What a wild ride the last three months have been. You have made a man out of me, and I thank you with every molecule in my supercharged body. Boys, I'm not making this up. This is what the dude said. Okay, yeah, he's a little over top, but I appreciate you, Mr. Howard. Let's continue. Personally, I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for creating this program and for believing in me.

2:18 I am light years away from the person I used to be, thanks to you. Thank you for your contagious charisma on our coaching calls and leading by example. Thank you for your patience in answering all our questions. I learned so many things listening to you coach the brothers, and watching the video calls from the other groups was so effective. Thank you for being exactly who you are, a thoughtful, giving soul, a supernatural guide for alphas, and a solid, kick-ass person. You've changed my life, and I will never forget this.

2:48 Damn, Mr. Howard, I don't know what to say to that other than thank you. A sincere debt of gratitude towards you, and it was you who did the work, man. Like, I can't do the work for you guys. As long as you show up, I'm going to point you up the mountain, the quickest, easiest way up the mountain. I'm going to reprogram your brain. I'm going to teach you what to talk about with these girls. I'm going to teach you how to elicit attraction where girls literally jump in the air and slide right onto your dick.

3:15 I'm joking, of course, but, dude, like some of my guys, the results they get, I actually just got another email from Aaron. What is up, Aaron? He's like, bro, I rolled up on a nine last night, talked to her for two minutes, and was making out with her under five minutes. And, boys, if you saw Aaron when he first started this program, this guy did not get girls. This guy was super insecure, and now he's rolling up on nines in nightclubs and making out with them.

3:38 And he said, dude, the dating apps are a fucking joke, bro. Why would I deal with the dating apps when I can go talk to any girl, any time, get her attracted to me, make out with her, grab her phone number and date her? Like, what's even the point of fucking with the dating apps that are such a nightmare for you guys when you can build the skill set to do this stuff in person? So if you want to join us, if you want to kick off your 2023 the right way, go to my website, CoachMarkSing.com.

4:02 It's also in the link below. Click on coaching. Fill out the quick application, and you are going to meet with my wingman and very good friend, Victor Lynch. To see if you're a good fit for my program. I had a guy ask me the other day, he's like, is Victor going to be my coach in the three months, or are you? I'm like, bro, I'm going to be your coach. You're going to work with me personally. Victor is just there to meet with you to see if you're a good fit to come into the program.

4:26 Victor has been through the program himself. He knows exactly what it entails. He was a zero with women when he started. Now the dude's pulling dines and tens. And if you want to meet with him to see if you're a good fit for my program, you can meet with him anytime. Just sign up on my website. All right, gentlemen, let's go into this concept of telling girls how to date you. So the other day, my client reaches out to me, and he's like, Mark, I'm texting with this girl.

4:49 She's being so ridiculously boring. I'm asking her tons of questions to which she's answering. She seems really interested, but she's not asking me questions back. What do I do? And I said, tell her, tell her that, listen, the way you communicate in a conversation requires asking each other questions. So if I'm talking to a girl and she's being really boring, she has uninteresting answers. She's not asking me questions. She's being more boring than watching paint dry. I'm going to straight point out to her. Hey, listen, in a conversation, it's usually a give and take kind of thing, right?

5:25 So I'm asking you lots of questions. I'm telling lots of stories, but honestly, I'm not getting a lot back from you. Have you not really been trained in how to have conversations? Have you not had a lot of experience with this? Because honestly, this conversation feels very one way. So why don't you ask me a question about myself and I'll tell you something, okay? So I know it sounds very counterintuitive and you guys are going to think, dude, she's going to get pissed. She's going to blow me out.

5:49 She's going to ghost me. 99% of the time they don't because they don't even realize what they're doing. And it may even be because of nervousness that they're doing this. And by you calling it out and making no apologies whatsoever to correct her and how she's going about conversating with you, texting with you, even dating you, she oftentimes will kind of wake up to it. She'll sometimes apologize to you for it. And oftentimes she'll say, hey, listen, sorry, I didn't know. I'm not very good at this.

6:19 And you'd be like, it's okay. Like, I'll help you out. Okay. So I asked you like what you do for a living, right? You told me you're a veterinarian. You told a cool story about it. So usually in this situation, you would ask me the same question back. So go for it. Okay. So what I'm doing, boys, is I'm kind of teaching her those things she's doing, which are socially unintelligent and how to do them more intelligently. And this falls into what I call mentoring, which is teaching girls something.

6:45 For example, have you ever taught a girl something and she got more attracted to you because of it? I like to teach girls how to drive stick shift. I like to teach them how to ride on this like longboard skateboard that I have. I've taught some girls how to surf. I've taught some girls how to mountain bike. I've taught a ton of girls about NLP and spirituality. Taking them under your wing and teaching them what you're an expert in is extremely powerful for attraction. So why don't we expand and apply this to situations in dating?

7:17 She's being boring over text. So I've said this before in a previous podcast. Call her out on it. Don't just accept the way she's behaving when her behavior is unacceptable to you. See, part of being an unapologetic man is being completely blunt and being willing to tell people that their behavior is not working for you. And unless they change it, they're out like an abortion. Like kick Roxy through your head down. Don't let the door hit you where the good Lord splits you. You're all blown out, you fucking sea bass.

7:47 When you do that, yeah, sometimes girls are going to get pissed, especially if you have bad delivery. And I need to really enunciate that your delivery is super important, which I'm going to get to in a second. But when you do that, they'll often wake up, they'll go into the feminine role, which is basically the follower role. And I know for some women listening that may piss in your river, but if you think about it deeply, the man needs to lead the interaction, the woman needs to follow the interaction in order for there to be attraction.

8:15 This doesn't mean men are control freaks and telling her to shut up and get in the fucking kitchen. It simply means putting her in her feminine energy, leading her to where she wants to be led. Because I guarantee you, she wants to have a good conversation with you. She wants to feel those emotions. So if her behavior is not creating the emotions that she wants to experience, it's your job as the man to point that out. So in a previous episode about texting, when a girl is ho-hum, not really into it, not really participating, you can say something like, so, hey, my back's been really hurting me lately.

8:49 Want to know why? And she says, why? And you say, from carrying this conversation. Now, as I spoke about in that episode, sometimes they get pissed. Sometimes they ghost you. But better they ghost you than you continue dealing with a girl who isn't participating. Now, when it comes to this stuff, it would behoove you to deliver it in a very friendly, kind of funny way. So, for example, when I write that text, so, hey, my back's been killing me lately. Want to know why? And she's like, why is that?

9:18 I'll say, because I'm carrying this conversation. And then, although I don't like to use emojis, this is one situation where I might use an emoji with, like, the laughing, smiling face thing, with the tears coming out the eyes. That may be something that I'll drop in there to let her know, hey, I'm kind of fucking with you. I'm just busting your chops. I'm teasing you, so don't get butthurt. But at the same time, wake up to the fact that you are being boring as hell. Literally, watching grass grow is more interesting than this conversation.

9:47 Another thing I say is, so, hey, I found an awesome new way to fall asleep. Want to know what it is? She's like, what's that? Texting with you. And then, once again, I'll slap that laughing, smiley face emoji on there to communicate that I'm kind of fucking with you. Don't get butthurt. Everybody relax. Now, when it comes to in-person kind of stuff, the way you mentor a girl, especially when her behavior isn't conducive to attraction, is to do so very kindly as if you're compassionate and you're trying to, like, help her through a problem.

10:18 For example, you go on a date with a girl. She's being super negative. She's complaining about her mom. She's complaining about her boss. She's complaining about this, that, and the third. You can point out to her in a very mentoring way that her behavior isn't conducive to having a good time. So, I've done this many times, and this is exactly what I say. I'll be like, so, hey, Kelly, we're sitting here talking, and I notice you're kind of negative right now. Like, you're complaining a lot about your boss.

10:45 You're complaining a lot about your mom, whatever it is. Do you feel that's conducive to making yourself feel good? Do you think that, like, by complaining about this stuff, it's actually making you feel better? Or do you think it's making you feel worse? Now, if she says, oh, I think it's making me feel better, you'd be like, really? Because right now, you don't look really happy. You've been complaining for the last five minutes about your boss, let's just say, and you seem pretty upset. Like, your eyebrows are wrinkled.

11:12 You've got a frown on your face. Like, do you think that works for you? And she'll be like, well, I guess not. And you'd be like, well, what if we focused on some positive stuff, tried to have a good time? Don't you think that would make a better experience tonight? So, see, boys, what I'm doing is I'm rationalizing her into understanding that her behavior is causing not only a negative experience for her, but then, by default, it's creating a negative experience for me. So, by explaining these things to women when they're not behaving in a way that you want her to behave, it will often change the behavior.

11:46 And if it doesn't, then you probably have a dumpster fire on your hands, a girl who you'd be better off not dealing with in the first place. Another technique I like to use is to tell her, it makes me lose attraction for you when you do that. Okay. Now, this, too, is very delicate. And I know, like, a lot of people listening might be getting mad at me right now because they're like, how dare you do that? But what I'm doing is I'm being honest with the person.

12:10 I'm letting them know that their behavior does not stand with me. I don't want to deal with it anymore. It's only creating negativity both for herself and for me. So, unless we rectify that situation, I'm not going to get attracted to her. The relationship is not going to go anywhere. I'm not going to really like her. And unless she changes, and again, I'm changing her for the better, right? I'm trying to help her grow into the next best version of herself, which is the entire purpose of life, is to evolve into that next best version.

12:42 If I'm able to help her, coach her into better social intelligence, coach her into positive conversations, coach her into how to text better, how could that be bad for her? How could that be me manipulating her? I'm being fucking honest. I'm putting everything on the table and saying, hey, listen, this isn't working for me, including, for example, she comes late to dates. She doesn't do what she says she's going to do. And I tell her, hey, listen, just to let you know, and if you want to keep doing it, you can.

13:12 But this is the way I work, and I'm going to be completely honest with you. So just to let you know, when you show up late to our dates, it kind of makes me lose attraction for you. Now, here's the reason this is. To me, integrity is really important. Keeping your word is really important. In the first few dates, you know, you showed up on time. That was so attractive to me. I was like, dude, Amy is a girl of her word. I love that shit.

13:33 Last few dates, you've been late. You know, and the last time I understand, you know, your cat got sick, was spraying diarrhea, was fucking rotating in the kitchen, spraying diarrhea out of her ass and fucking spinning around like a top. I get it. Took you two hours to clean that shit up. I got you. But this time, you know, I feel like this is kind of becoming a trend. And I'm letting you know the way I work, it kind of makes me lose attraction for you.

13:57 Keep doing it if you want to. I'm just letting you know how I work so that you don't have any questions about it. So, boys, am I manipulating her by being straight up and telling her what does and does not work for me when you date me? No. I'm being honest, therefore actually giving her the key to my heart. If a girl told you, hey, it's super attractive to me when a guy leads, when a guy is confident, when a guy has ambition, when a guy is passionate about what he does, which, by the way, are all attractive traits, and every single woman you talk to would agree that that's attractive.

14:32 If she told you that, don't you think it would benefit you rather than try to like hold you down because you're unambitious and you're playing video games and you look like a Chicken McNugget with tits? No, she's trying to ameliorate you, to make you better so that you can live up to not only her standards, but more importantly, the standards that you should set for yourself. So, we're doing the same thing to girls. Don't be afraid to confront them, boys. Let them know their behavior does not stand.

14:59 And listen, if by telling them that it's a deal breaker for them, then fucking kick rocks. Now, don't say that outright, but that's what happens in your mind. I want you to be so comfortable to drop these chicks at a fucking moment's notice that it's communicated in your actions. Again, not being malicious because being malicious and putting negative energy behind anything that you do shows that you're being affected. And it's not the quality of a high-value man. A high-value man knows his standards, knows his boundaries, know what he will and will not accept with women, and he stands by them.

15:35 And if you don't communicate those to her, then she's not going to know. So, it's your job to say, hey, listen, what you're doing right now is kind of a problem for me. Here's how to do it better. If that's a deal breaker for you, let's go ahead and part ways. So, that's the philosophy I want you boys to execute from this day forward. Teach girls how to date you. Confront them on the bullshit that they do. And if they blow you out because of it, better now than later where that behavior continues and it drives you fucking crazy.

16:06 And this is why guys get into relationships with women where they're driving them completely insane. And by the way, women getting into relationships with men where the man is driving them insane because they don't say anything. They don't express their truth. They're not up front with the girl and tell her, hey, this is the way to be with me. If you can't be that way or if you refuse to be that way or if it's not congruent with you to be that way, then let's part ways.

16:31 But teaching a girl how to, for example, text better, conversate better, in my opinion, I'm actually doing her a favor. If I'm talking to a girl at a bar or Starbucks or wherever the fuck I meet her and she's not asking questions, she's not engaging, she's not telling stories, I'm going to coach her how to have better conversations. I'm going to leave her better from having met me and at the same time showing her that I have standards and my respect must be earned. And if she tries to flex up and go outside those boundaries, I'm going to put her back in place.

17:01 And if that's a deal breaker for her, she could kick rocks with her head down. This is the way you behave when you have options. This is the way you behave when you're an unapologetic alpha silverback. Gentlemen, I do appreciate you listening. I want you to stand by because on Monday, I'm dropping a super interesting podcast about this thing called negging, which is something that comes from OG Pickup Artist Mystery Method. It's really interesting and I kind of have a certain spin on it that actually applies to that which I spoke about today.

17:31 So definitely stay tuned on Monday. Hopefully my voice heals up by then. Been out in the nightclubs, been killing it and I'm a little froggy. But I'm sure by that episode, my voice will be back to its old self. And I hope you join me on that one because it's super interesting. And I'll tell you, it's a super effective attraction building technique if you do it the right way, which I'm going to explain on Monday. So stay tuned for that. In the meantime, if you'd like to get on a call with Victor to see if you're a good fit for my three-month coaching program so you can get the same results that Mr.

17:53 Howard did and write me an email that says you have changed my life and I will never forget this. Sign up on my website, CoachMarkSing.com. Fill in the quick application, slap in the biscuit, and you will get on a free one-on-one NLP breakthrough session with my boy, Victor Lynch, to see if you are a good fit for my three-month coaching program. Thank you again for listening, gentlemen, and I will see you in the next episode. We'll see you in the next episode.

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