Why You should LOWER YOUR STANDARDS With Women (WHAT?!? Yuuuup!!)

0:00 Welcome to The Unapologetic Man Podcast, the only podcast that's all about self-improvement, confidence, success, women, and being a man without making any apologies for it. What is up, gentlemen? Thank you for tuning in to another episode of the UMP. And today, we are going to talk about why you, my friend, need to lower your standards when it comes to women. That's right. You're sitting here thinking, like, what the fuck is this guy telling me? He's told me a million times to up my standards, have extremely stringent standards, settle for nothing less than the best woman I could possibly get.

0:42 So what the hell is he talking about here? Why would I lower my standards with women? Well, I'm going to tell you exactly what I mean by that. So everybody calm down. Don't come unpeeled. Don't hyperextend your asshole. I'm going to explain that. And I'm going to teach you why this is extremely important, especially when you're trying to get good with women and exactly what I mean by this. So don't just read the title and then scoff at it. Actually listen to what I have to say, because I think I have some really good advice here that is going to seriously help you.

1:10 Before I jump into the content, you know what I got to do, brother. I got yet another testimonial from my coaching program. In fact, this one's about three months old. It's from my boy, Robbie M. Robbie, I apologize. It took me so long to read this, but I'm getting so many damn testimonials. They're just stacking up on my desktop and I don't want to read too many all the time. So they do tend to stack up. But this one's from my boy, Robbie. Here we go.

1:34 Hi, Mark. A couple of months before joining, I had just broken up with my girlfriend of five and a half years and knew it was time to step things up in my life. When I first joined the program, I was a nice guy with enough game to have success occasionally, but never consistently. The growth I experienced in the program is hard to explain. Through the three months I went from not even really understanding frame to controlling the frame completely with girls, my job, and more importantly, what I want out of life.

2:02 I have completely moved on from my last long-term relationship. I've rebounded. I'm back in the dating game. I don't stress nearly as much. I rarely, if ever, get angry while driving. I'm pursuing new job opportunities. I'm going to move and establish myself in an area with more dating opportunities. I relentlessly and unapologetically pursue my goals and I'm excited about all of it. The material, NLP, the community, doing the work, and most important, Mark's leadership will unlock the best version of yourself. You are a true leader, Mark, and I am eternally grateful for the opportunity to join a group of absolute legends that relentlessly pursue their goals.

2:42 Regards, Robbie. Robbie, I do appreciate that and honest and genuine testimonial. I wish you talked about some of the girls you pulled while you were in the program, but that's okay. I'll tell the boys about it for you. The dude was pulling. He was getting more ass than the toilet seat. He was getting chicks fucking stalker Texas Rangers living outside his backyard in stalker hides, watching him as he purposely oiled himself up with baby oil and did a little dance in his window in his speedo.

3:07 I know, Robbie, you're embarrassed about that, but just admit it, man. And your little speedo dance, it brought all the ladies to the backyard when you did your little speedo dance. But gentlemen, if you want to meet with us on a free one-on-one breakthrough session to see if my three-month coaching program can change your life the way it did Robbie's, hit me up at CoachMarkSingh.com forward slash coaching. You can also click the link in the description below. Fill out the quick application, slap in the biscuit, and you and my team will get on a free one-on-one breakthrough session together.

3:33 All right, guys, let's get into the content. So the title says that you should lower your standards, and you should, because oftentimes guys don't even get started because their standards are so ridiculously high that they nix girls before they even approach them. And the reason they do this is because of fear. It's the ego's excuse to prevent you from doing something that might get you rejected and thus hurt your ego. So when guys first come into my program, I explain to them that, listen, brothers, you are building a skill set.

4:03 We're not trying to meet your wife right now. She's coming in the future. We're not even really trying to get a girlfriend right now. She's coming in the future. What you need to do first is you need to build a skill set. How do you build a skill set? Reps upon reps upon reps. I'm talking batting cages, where you're taking 100 swings at 100 different balls, and you're figuring out what you're good at, what you're bad at, what your strengths are, and what your weaknesses are. So if you go around trying to meet the perfect girl on the offset, wouldn't you agree that's a bad strategy?

4:34 So what I tell my boys to do is lower your standards in the beginning a little bit. Swipe right on girls, for example, who you might not date in other circumstances. Text with them, and yes, if they want to go on a date with you, go on a date with them, even if they aren't exactly marriage material. Yes, even if you know, it probably won't last, because I'll tell you what, you'd be surprised sometimes. I've had it, and this is rare, but I'm going to be honest with you, I've had it where the girl showed up, and I was actually more attracted to her in person than I was on the dating apps.

5:06 Now, obviously, I don't have to tell you, and you guys have all experienced this, usually it's the opposite, right? She looks amazing in her photos, and then she shows up, and she's a mountain troll 25 pounds later, and like 10 years later. Okay, that happens all the time, and I understand that, but it doesn't matter. What your whole modus operandi needs to be is building a skill set. That's the only thing that should matter to you. So you should be opening all kinds of women. Yes, even women who you are not attracted to, a girl who you would never open in any other situation.

5:38 Now, based on what I spoke about two episodes ago, when you're not attracted to a girl, you're going to act perfect. So this is another reason to lower our standards when approaching, lower our standards when going on dates. Now, certainly, I'm not telling you to go have sex with these chicks, to relationship them up, nothing like that. What I'm telling you to do is go talk to as many people as you can. Yes, even girls who are unattractive. Okay, sometimes you'll see me talking to ugly girls.

6:05 I admit it, and that's okay. Some of them are the coolest chicks I've ever met. One of my good friends is a girl, and she's not that attractive. No offense, Amy, but I'm sorry, you know it, right? She knows. But it is what it is, because she has a great personality. Now, certainly, most of my girlfriends are extremely attractive, because that helps me with pre-selection. But when I'm out in the nightclubs, I'm talking to everybody, bro. I don't discriminate. And you shouldn't discriminate either, because girls who are unattractive are usually the kindest, most gentle, funniest, most sincere chicks you'll ever meet.

6:38 Why? Because they've had to work on their personalities. Now, this is a sad reality that women have to go through in today's society, but if a woman is hot, she doesn't really have to do much to work on her personality, does she? It's not like she's doing intensive NLP like my boys in the program, and that's another reason I tell my guys, don't be afraid to get rejected by these chicks. Because do you really think they're doing the work like you are? Do you really think they're moving into pain willingly?

7:03 Are they the man in the arena, going back to my other episode, moving into their fears and failing in a space where other people can see them? Probably not. Okay? Probably not. But girls who are unattractive, dude, they're sometimes the funniest, coolest. They have awesome stories, and they're fun to talk to. Who cares? You're building a skill set. If you want to go practice something like cold reading or push-pull, go do it to anybody. Why does it have to be your dream girl? And then what you guys do, and I know you do this, bro, because I used to do it myself, is when she is perfect, that's when you talk yourself out of it.

7:37 So you're talking yourself out of it if she's not perfect, because she's not perfect, and then you're talking yourself out of it when she is perfect, because she's too perfect. And she's probably with another guy, oh, she wouldn't want to be talking to me. So we always have an excuse. The ego always has an out, doesn't it? I'm not going to give you that out. I'm going to tell you to lower your standards for the time being, and I'm going to tell you how long I want you to do this for.

8:01 Lower your standards for the time being. Go open anybody, swipe on girls who you would probably never want to date for long-term, text with them, get them attracted to you through all the techniques I teach, and yeah, even go on a date with them. Now, this obviously brings up the conundrum of, well, dude, if I'm going on a date with her, couldn't I possibly hurt her? Here's the way I look at it, okay? If you take a girl on a date, and you teach her lots of cool shit, she has a great time, you pay for her dinner, which shouldn't be underestimated.

8:31 You pay for her dinner, you take her out and show her a good time. Are you really taking something from her if you kind of know in the back of your mind that it won't work out because she's not attractive enough? I don't think you are. I really don't. In fact, I've done that before, and I met some girls that became good friends. I've met some girls that I hooked up with. I might not be so proud of it, but there was something sexy about them, right?

8:52 And that might happen. She shows up, and her ass is just like, oh, my hell, I need to get that. And then you'll have the opportunity to do so, but always trying to leave her better from having met you. You know, even when it comes to one-night stands, and I don't think I've ever mentioned this, but when we as men have one-night stands, we're often criticized by other people for doing that because we're, like, taking something from the girl, right? Another score, another lay, another notch on the bedpost, big pat on the back for me because I'm a fucking misogynist.

9:22 Really? Do you know how many of my girlfriends go out there just to get laid? They just want to get some sex and just be done with it. The thing about women is they can make out with the dude. They can even sometimes have sex with the dude and have it be no big deal, particularly, like, making out. They can do that without expecting anything at all to come of it. And this often disappoints dudes, doesn't it? Because you'll make out with the chick at a bar, and then she won't return your text, which, by the way, is buyer's remorse, which is why I don't make out with chicks at the bar, is because they'll feel a little bit like a slut, and they won't text you back.

9:55 But am I really taking something from her if she agrees to have sex and we're attracted to one another? I'm going to do my best in the bedroom. I'm going to fucking blow her mind with those techniques that I teach in Guide to the Female Orgasm, which can be yours if you just leave me a review. Email me at coachmarksing at gmail.com, and I will send you Guide to the Female Orgasm, where you're going to make her look like a screaming demon that just got hit with a tornado and then slammed with a tsunami, because you're going to give her such a screaming orgasm.

10:22 So if you do that, are you really taking something from her? I don't think you are. So why not go out there and just date chicks, get experiences, open girls up, try to better them from having met you? When you do that, in my opinion, not only are you building a skill set, but you're also brightening the world because we, as unapologetic men, give value. I want you going out there with the philosophy. I want to make this person's life better from having met me. Okay, so we're practicing on tons and tons of girls, aren't we?

10:53 We're building skill sets. We're repping things out. We're trying on what we like and what we don't like. And in order to do that, yes, sometimes we have to lower our standards a little bit, especially you guys. Sometimes you have the gnarliest standards ever. Like, she has to be a fucking 10, great personality. I get that. I have those standards too, but here's the thing. I have those standards with the chick I'm going to settle down with. When it comes to my girlfriend, when it comes to any girl I'm going to rock with for more than a couple weeks, you're damn right, man.

11:22 I have those standards in place too, and she absolutely must meet them or she's getting blown out so hard her ponytail is going to launch off her head when the concussion hits. This is the philosophy. Lower the standards when it's practice time. When you go to the batting cages, are you, like, analyzing, oh, this bat isn't good enough. I don't know about that ball thrower. The chain link fence looks a little ghetto fantastic. I'm not going to fucking swing the bat here. No, you don't give a shit, man.

11:48 You just step in there, swing the bat for when the real game happens, and here's how it's going to work. I'm guaranteeing you, and when this happens to you, I want you to think back to this episode. Here's what's going to happen. In a year, six months, three months, three weeks, whatever it is, the perfect girl in your eyes is going to walk around the corner, and it's going to be up to your skill set and whether or not you developed it as to whether or not you can get her number.

12:15 The exact same thing happened to me with my current girlfriend, Marissa. I walked into the supermarket. Bam, there she was. Did I develop the skill set by practicing on mountain trolls, practicing on canyon mules, practicing on douche canoes? Of course I did because I lowered my standards during the rep phases, and you'll be surprised because when you lower your standards, you don't really care what happens, and when you don't care what happens, you act correctly. So you go up to a girl who you're not attracted to.

12:43 I'm not attracted to overweight women. It's just my thing. If that's your jam, that's cool. And I will say, some of my clients like that badonkadonk butt. Okay? They slap one ass cheek. There's a wave that goes across, bounces off the other, and comes back. They like that shit and more power to you. I don't. I like thin women who are in shape, tight ass, thigh gap, flat tummy, nice perky tits, healthy looking skin. That's what I'm attracted to. So when I go up to a girl who's overweight, I'm not intimidated at all.

13:11 I act completely naturally. The same exact way, by the way, I'm acting right now. I act with her exactly as I would with a grandma at the old folks home who, I don't care what she thinks of me, I'm just chatting it up. So when I behave that way, she gets attracted to me, and I get practice, real practice, so that when that hot girl comes, which make no mistake, she's going to come at the worst time. You're going to have a fucking bean on your tooth.

13:37 Your hair is going to be fucked up. You're going to be dressed like a homeless man. You're going to have an eye booger the size of a grape that you won't know will be there. And then after you talk to this girl, you're going to rub your eyes, and this thing is going to come off on your hand. And it's funny, in Japanese, eye boogers, you know, those like little crystalline things that form in your eyes, are called mei kuso. Mei means eye, and kuso means shit.

13:59 So they call it eye shit. You're going to have an eye shit the size of a fucking golf ball, dude, hanging off the side of your head. And because of that, you're probably going to make an excuse not to talk to her, unless you have lowered your standards, went after every single girl you see, short, fat, bald, fucking peg leg, BO that just won't stop. It doesn't matter. You just talk to them, dude, and get used to talking to these girls. That is the most important thing.

14:25 Then what happens? That's right. From quantity comes quality. So when you have a lot of quantity coming in, you're just chatting up girls, yeah, you're going on dates with girls you're not really attracted to, you're opening girls that aren't really that hot, it doesn't matter to you. Then when that hot girl comes, you'll have the skill set developed. You'll be warmed up. And you'll also prove to your subconscious mind that there's tons and tons and tons of abundance out there. There are girls everywhere. And just getting that feminine energy from women, and by the way, it's valuable for them to get your masculine energy.

14:58 So yes, you are doing them a service by approaching them. Just getting that femininity is going to make you feel good. I love speaking to women, whether or not they're attractive. Women are women. I'll tell you this. Some of the fattest girls are the most feminine. They have the best energy because they have a lot of estrogen. Fat equals estrogen. And that happens to you guys too. When you have a lot of body fat on you, your estrogen is higher and your testosterone is lower. So women who are a little overweight, sometimes they're the most feminine.

15:27 And you can jive with them. You can flirt with them. Dude, I talked to this girl that looked like she was born in a gas station bathroom last night. It was really bad, but she was cool. You know, we were laughing. I was like, hey, where'd you get that beer? They sell beers in this place. She's like, yeah, it's over there. And we just chatted it up. And it was a great conversation. I made her laugh. I made her friends laugh. And then they took off.

15:47 What's the big deal? I'm not going to be like, oh, no, no, no. You're not attractive enough for me. And I'm certainly not going to be like, no, no, no. You're too attractive for me. Which is what your mind does. And I know 80% of you guys are nodding right now being like, man, this guy's right. You know, I always make an excuse. Not hot enough. Ass is too big. Tits aren't big enough. Hair is weird. Her bra is so tight with the fat folding over in the back, making bat wings.

16:12 I get it. Okay. Especially when you go into Walmart. You know, I understand how it goes, man. I live in the United States too. But I still open. I still practice because it's a skill set. So what I want to encourage you to do, brother, is open, open, open, open. Swipe right on girls who you wouldn't swipe on if you were in a different circumstance. And even go on dates with these chicks. Okay. It doesn't matter. And then when the right one comes along, yeah, bro, have those standards.

16:38 You know, when you're dating her and you see certain red flags, nix her ass. Because you know that there's abundance out there and you should have extremely high standards when it comes to the girl you settle down with. But when just casually dating, texting, talking, even if you want to dip in a couple times, you know, maybe she's like a moped, fun to ride, but you don't want to be seen with her. I get it. I've done that. And I'm allowing you to do it. Don't think that Mark Singh is going to walk around the corner and you're standing there talking to a canyon mule.

17:06 And I'm like, bro, what are you doing? In fact, if I see that, I'm going to be like, good job, man, because you're serious about getting better. You don't discriminate based on appearance. You know that females are females. Their brains work the same when it comes to attraction. So practice on them. Give them value. Leave them better from having met you. That's the philosophy of lowering your standards. Gentlemen, I do appreciate you listening. I draw a podcast on Mondays and Thursdays. As I mentioned, my team and I are giving away a free one-on-one NLP session to see if you're a good fit for my coaching program.

17:40 But of course, most importantly, if we're a good fit for you, if you'd like to meet with us to explore whether or not we can really get you changed. And I always tell my guy, Victor, I say, dude, we have to 10X the results. If we're not going to 10X the results with our solution, then we'll send them to a dating coach who will give them less. Because I'm not going to give you anything less than what Robbie got. Real transformation via NLP. Real differences in his life where he's now getting way more girls.

18:07 He's making more money. He's way more confident. He's less anxious. So much change just because that dude had the balls to invest in himself. And how did he come in originally? He was just exploring. He was like, hey, let me meet with you guys. See what it's like. If it feels right, I'll move forward. If it doesn't feel right, I won't. We're not pushy. We just want dudes who are a good fit. And you could be the perfect fit for us. But you won't know unless you try.

18:29 Will you? So sign up, brother. We'd love to meet you. I drop podcasts on Mondays and Thursdays. And I will see you in the next episode.

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