2 MASSIVE Attraction Building Gambits to Use on Girls

0:00 Welcome to The Unapologetic Man Podcast, the only podcast that's all about self-improvement, confidence, success, women, and being a man without making any apologies for it. What is up, guys? Welcome to another episode of the UMP. Happy Monday. I hope the weekend treated you well. Today, we are going to talk about some attraction-building secrets that chicks go after like catnip. So if you're talking to a girl and you want to get some things to talk about that will get her attracted to you, then this episode is specifically for you.

0:38 I'm going to give you two really good things to talk about with girls that will wow them, get them emotionally invested in you, and build up their attraction for you. And in this game, you'll learn very quickly that boring topics are just going to do that. They're going to bore her. So what we need to do as the man, it's our responsibility to bring up interesting conversational topics that she could seek her teeth into that get her interested, that get her intrigued, and then make you look interesting.

1:06 Well, a lot of us, what we do is we fall into interview mode. We just say, where are you from? You know, how old are you? Do you like soccer? Like all this kind of boring bullshit. So a big part of my coaching, probably even the biggest part next to things like frame control is to give her good conversational topics for her to get interested in and how to talk to girls in a way that gets them interested in you. So what I want to give you here are what I call gambits.

1:31 And gambits are basically interesting psychological tests, facts about the world, games you can play with a girl, cool things that she probably doesn't know about, metaphysical stuff. And in my coaching, I give a litany of these, man. I just got one after the other, after the other, so that when you hire me as a coach, you get access to this and you get access to all these cool things to talk about with chicks. And today I want to give you two of them. The first one is called messages in water.

1:57 And the next one is called the human body is a lie detector. So before I jump into the content, if you too are like many of the guys that I work with and just to have been having problems with women, feel like maybe you got one foot on the gas, one foot on the brake, really want somebody to take you to the next level. You feel like you just need that little reprogramming in your brain, that little push. You need techniques like these, but also maybe you have belief systems that aren't conducive, aren't beneficial to attracting women.

2:30 Like I'm not enough. I'm not enough for a hot girl. She's too good for me. I don't want to bother her. This, that, and the third, right? You get these belief systems. So what I do as an NLP coach, NLP is neuro-linguistic programming, is I go in there and with these cool visualization processes, I reprogram your brain. So if you come into the session feeling like I'm not enough, you're going to leave the session feeling like I'm more than enough. And when you feel that way, it's telegraphed in your body language, your mannerisms, your tonal voice, girls pick up on it and girls get attracted to you like never before.

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3:29 My clients are getting absolutely phenomenal results and you get access to cool shit like this. So what do you say we jump into it? All right. The first thing I want to talk about is messages in water. So there was a Japanese scientist several years ago who took water from many different places and he froze them and looked at them underneath the microscope. What he found is that each individual sample, whether it be from a contaminated dam or some holy water or wherever it was from, had different crystalline shapes.

4:03 So this made him pretty curious. And what he did is he took a bunch of different samples of water and he wrote on the bottles a different word. So on one bottle he wrote love, the next bottle he wrote harmony, the next bottle he wrote peace, and then he wrote things like hate, I will kill you, Adolf Hitler, and like really negative things. Well, what he did is he froze them and then he looked at them underneath a microscope and he found something really interesting. That depending on what was written on these bottles, depending on what thought was sent into the water, its crystalline shape changed.

4:42 Okay. So love looked like this beautiful snowflake. Peace looked very similar, but slightly different. Harmony, same kind of thing. Like these really cool snowflakes, these cool geometric shapes, all very geometrical, very aligned, very beautiful. They look like great snowflakes. Mother Teresa is really cool because they had like a heart in the middle. It was really cool stuff. So as you expect, the negative things, I will hate you, Adolf Hitler, also hardcore music, which is actually what I listened to, which is kind of funny. They had very asymmetrical looking shapes.

5:12 It didn't look like snowflakes at all. It just looked like crap, really. So he was like, what the hell is going on here? So he continued to test this. And what he found is that our thoughts actually change the molecular structure of water. So if you're thinking positive thoughts a lot, or if you send, say for an example, a positive thought into your water, then what he postulates is that it changes the crystalline form. And what he also says, I don't know if this is true or not, but you can say this to girls, they love this shit, is that when you have geometrically symmetrical molecules, crystalline shapes, it works better with your body.

5:53 Now, what I would always say to girls is, isn't it interesting that our bodies are, what is it, 75% water? Just imagine what your thoughts are doing to your body. If your thoughts can do that to water outside your body, just imagine what thoughts are doing to inside your body. So this would really wow girls. They'd be like, oh my God. And the really cool thing is you can find this on YouTube. It's called Messages in Water by Dr. Emoto, E-M-O-T-O, Emoto. And you can show her the video.

6:21 So what you do, and this is a gambit. Gambit is basically like, bro, you run out of things to talk about. What the hell should I talk about with these chicks? This is the kind of thing. And like I said, in my coaching, I basically just give you a litany of these, just a freaking vault full of these kinds of things that girls go crazy over. I mean, this Messages in Water thing, I would say it mostly on the first date, sometimes on the second. And it would really build up her attraction for me because I would get really into it.

6:46 You know, I'd be like, dude, check this out. Isn't this cool? Show her the video. Or sometimes I would even have a video on my computer at home and it would be a reason for me to take her back. Like, yeah, there's some videos on YouTube, but I have a really good one on my hard drive that I got from like this spiritual seminar or whatever. You should really check it out. That's a way I would get girls to come over to my place usually. I would show her pictures of me on my computer.

7:10 Like, hey, I have all these pictures from my childhood, from when I lived in Japan, all these different situations. So that would give me an excuse to bring her over to my house. Well, Messages in Water was one such excuse among many. So when you think about it, your thoughts, and it's pretty cool. Like, even between you and me, I mean, we're dudes. We don't really care too much about this stuff. But if you think about it, that's pretty trippy, right? And it really has been proven.

7:33 This is not bullshit. Our thoughts are literally changing water. And when you're thinking positive thoughts, the water inside your body is actually changing. Like, the molecular shape, the crystalline shape, I don't know how it works. I'm not a scientist, but think about it. And I think it's kind of a sign from God, if you believe in God. If you don't, that's fine. Or a higher being, or whatever the fuck created us. That's a whole different podcast. But like, to me, it's kind of a sign, isn't it?

7:59 Like, think about that. Our thoughts change the shape of water. And when we have positive thoughts, it makes the water beautiful. So, like, what does that tell you, right? It's pretty cool, if you think about it. And chicks just eat this shit up. So, add that to your repertoire. I would suggest going to YouTube, checking out some of the videos. It's really cool stuff. And as far as I know, it's been proven over and over again. So, messages in water. That's gambit number one. All right, gambit number two is the human body is a lie detector.

8:29 You guys may know this, or you may not. But your body actually becomes weaker when you're telling a lie. So, what you can do with your friends, or obviously a girl, is you have her put out her arm, okay? And then you ask her a question to which she tells the truth to. So, you say, okay, Sarah, I'm going to show you this really cool thing. Have you ever heard of this? The human body is a lie detector? And she's like, no, I've never heard of it.

8:51 And you'd be like, okay, put out your arm. And I'm going to pull down on it after you tell me the truth, okay? So, I'm going to ask you a question. And I want you to tell me the truth. And we're going to see how strong your arm is. Got it? She's like, got it. Okay, what is your name? She's like, Sarah. And it's the truth. Her name is Sarah. And you pull down on her arm. You'll see it's really strong, okay? And then you tell her, when you have a lie in your head, your body actually becomes weaker.

9:15 Okay, pull out your arm. I'm going to ask you the same question. I want you to lie. So, you're like, what's your name? She's like, Jessica. Pull down her arm. Her arm just goes down really easily. And if you guys try this yourself, it actually kind of works. I don't know if it's a placebo thing, like she just expects it to be worse or you just expect it to be worse and you're holding a lie in your head. But I've kind of found it to be true.

9:36 Like, you get really weak when you feel like you're lying. So, what you do then is you ask her some more questions. Now, this is really cool because this is a way to line up the first kiss. So, you ask her some funny questions, like, have you ever participated in a sniper competition in Finland when you're on skis? And she laughs. She says no. And then her arm is really strong. And then you continue to ask these funny questions. And then, boys, this is really powerful.

10:03 I've done this hundreds of times. You say, do you want to kiss me? Okay, she says no. Like, she's always going to lie and say, no, I don't want to. Then her arm is going to go down really easily. Boom, you grab her and kiss her. See how that works? Because, once again, your body gets weaker when you hold a lie. So, you ask her, do you want to kiss me? She says no. Her arm gets weak. You can kiss her. You say, do you want to kiss me?

10:26 She says yes. And then you can, like, I can't get your arm down. You guys laugh and then you kiss. So, no matter what she says, hopefully she wants to kiss you at this point. Please use social intelligence and make sure she's probably down to do that before you deploy this technique. But if you're pretty sure, okay, this chick wants to kiss me. I don't really know how to get close to her to kiss her. And that's a big problem with a lot of my clients is like, dude, I'm sitting on the bed with her.

10:51 I'm sitting on the couch with her. How do I get her to kiss me? How do I get her close enough? Well, that's what these gambits are for. And I have a lot of such things to get the first kiss. I have a lot of these kinds of techniques, but this is one really good one. So, you say, hey, have you ever heard of the human body's a lie detector? No. Tell her how it works. Your body becomes weaker when you're telling a lie. Then have her tell some lies about things.

11:13 Have her tell the truth about some things. You know, and you want to make it funny. So, I'm like, were you the one that put that $100 million in that offshore account and then you blew it up with a missile from a predator drone when you found that the DEA and the FBI was closing in on your stash? And she laughs. She's like, no. And then her arm is really strong. Or she's like, yes. And then her arm goes down because she's lying. Right? So, it's really fun.

11:38 It's a really cool thing that you can do with a girl. And once again, it's a really good way to line up the first kiss. So, as you're getting better with women, what I want you guys to do is I want you to actually write these down on a piece of paper and keep them in your back pocket when you go on a date. Why is that? Because time and time again, I teach my clients these things, right? I teach them all this cool shit. Then what happens?

12:01 They're on the date. They're talking to a girl for the first time and they freaking forget all of it. And, you know, it happened to me too until I got really good and practiced a lot and made it a part of my daily repertoire. I forget about all this stuff. So, seriously, like, you guys need to use this. Don't just be like, oh, that's cool. Yeah, I'll use it. And then you go out on a date and you don't use it. And then you wonder why she's not attracted to you.

12:24 It's because you, my friend, need to bring the conversational topic. So, what you want to have is a whole litany of these things, okay? Just ready. And what I always suggest to my clients, for some reason this works in the unconscious mind, is when you literally get a piece of paper and a pen and you write down, the human body is a lie detector, number two, messages in water, number three, the cube, number four, the pig, number five, handwriting analysis, number six, on and on and on and on and on.

12:55 Then you will be able to not only go to the bathroom and reference that stuff, but just having that piece of paper in your pocket will make it just like, I don't know, it makes it tangible to you and you're going to remember it. It's almost like you have a tie-in between your unconscious mind and your pocket down there. And when you're talking to the girl, you're like, oh yeah, dude, messages in water. And then you're like, hey, have you ever heard of this thing, messages in water?

13:17 Boom. You just got five to 10 minutes of content. You guys are going to pull up a video on your phone, which means she's going to get close to you to watch it. Or you say, have you ever heard the human body's a lie detector when you're like, man, I want to kiss this chick. I think she wants to kiss me, but I don't know how to line it up. Boom. You got that gambit in your back pocket. Look, part of being successful with women is part of being successful with anything in life.

13:42 The five Ps, prior preparation prevents poor performance. I'm big on the five Ps. If you just go in and wing it, yeah, you can do okay, especially as you get better. But you guys who are beginning, you guys who are listening to this because you really want to get better, dude, you have to prepare. That means preparing your first date, preparing what you're going to talk about, preparing for the obvious questions she's going to ask you. Like if I ask you, bro, what do you do?

14:08 You should make me laugh immediately. And if you listen to this podcast for any amount of time, you bastard, you better make me laugh with that. You better tell me you're an ass model. You better tell me you work at Hillshire Pharmaceuticals. You better tell me you work at the zoo and pick up penguins because penguins can't pick up themselves. And then also if you listen to this podcast or you've been my client and you've gotten coaching, you should know what to do after that. So that when she asks you the boring ass questions that she's going to ask you, you're freaking ready.

14:37 You can make her laugh. Then you can build her intrigue. Then you can get her interested and show some vulnerability, tell a cool story. Boom. Her attraction for you just went up a hundred points. But a lot of guys are like, yeah, yeah, yeah. That's a cool technique, dude. Maybe someday I'll do that. No, no, no, no. If you want to get better with women, this is a big part of it is memorizing this shit, creating gambits or learning them from me where you can deploy them on girls over and over again.

15:04 Like when I would go out with girls, I would just hit them one after the other. Boom, boom, boom. And yeah, sometimes they'd be like, man, you're like, you're like the most interesting. I've had so many girls tell me this. You're the most interesting guy I've ever met. How could that possibly be bad when a girl tells you that? It can't. So don't be afraid. These are contrived or they seem planned or anything like that. And if she calls you out on it, what is that?

15:27 If you guys listen to my podcast, you know, that's a frame check. If you haven't heard it yet, listen to my podcast episode frame control. How do you overcome frame control challenges? You should know this. If you don't, well, once again, I suggest you listen to that podcast episode or continue listening because I'll definitely circle back to that as we continue to go. So that's it, you guys. Those are two really powerful techniques to get women attracted to you. Once again, it's your job, brother, your job to bring up the conversational topics, to keep the conversation fun.

16:00 And even if she's leading it down a boring road, it's your job to lead her into a fun road. She starts talking about the 2020 or was it 2021 presidential election? No, no, no. You're not fucking talking about that. You'd be like, yeah, yeah. I see what you mean about Biden. Yeah. Yeah. Hey, have you heard of messages in water? Oh my God. My friend Jessica was telling me about this. Check this out. Boom. You just changed the conversational topic into a topic that's actually going to produce attraction rather than get her bored.

16:32 And you're allowed to change the topic as a man. And finally, the last thing is sometimes these things that get women attracted seem to us as silly, contrived, airy, fairy, metaphysical kind of lame, right? Like messages in water, I think is pretty cool. But some of the other stuff, it's like, did you know that trees actually react to our intentions? That's a whole different episode right there. Pretty fucking cool. You know, sometimes they're a little cheesy, but bro, you need to provide her content that she's going to enjoy.

17:02 You're probably the guy who gets all dressed up and goes to the clubs, even though you hate going to the clubs, just like I do. I don't really enjoy the clubs, but that's what chicks enjoy. So I put myself in that environment in order to get women. So if you're like, oh, I don't want to talk about that stuff. That's just stupid. That's cheesy. Well, honestly, bro, like you're pissing attraction out the window. So sometimes we have to bring up content that chicks are interested in.

17:28 Yes, we can talk about what we're interested into. I'm not asking you to curtail your personality or be something you're not, but we need to bring them stuff that they're interested in. We need to show them that good time. And these gambits are one way to do that. I'll be coming up weeks or months down the road with more of these gambits. But if you want all the premium stuff right up front, given to you on a silver platter and taught to you how to use them in the most effective way possible, once again, check out my coaching offer, marksingcoaching.com.

18:00 Check out the testimonials. There's a reason I get such amazing results from my clients is because I know what chicks eat up. And this, my friend, was some chick crack that I just gave you. So once again, guys, I do appreciate you listening. I'll be coming swinging with another epic podcast on Wednesday. So I'll see you in the next episode. Thank you.

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