5 Ways to Use The Magic of IGNORING With Girls & Other Alpha Males

0:00 Welcome to the Unapologetic Man Podcast, the only podcast that's all about self-improvement, confidence, success, women, and being a man without making any apologies for it. What is up, guys? Thank you for tuning in to another episode of The Uniform Mike Papa. I really do appreciate it. And today, we are going to talk about the power of ignoring when it comes to women, the power of ignoring when it comes to other alpha males, and how you can use this often underused and extremely powerful concept of both ignoring as well as no response to get women more attracted to you and to control the frame on other alpha males.

0:46 This is a really important concept that I want you guys to get down, to truly understand, and to truly use correctly to give yourself better results with women and with life. Before I jump into that, I want to thank you all for the reviews, but I want to change the subject for a second, because my Instagram is moving slower than pond water, although more and more people are following me. But I've decided to do a massive push on Instagram. I'm going to give you guys tons of good information on Instagram.

1:14 And what I plan to do is make posts about five times a week and let you guys peek behind the curtain of some of my coaching. I want to give you guys really tangible, useful things that you can use, preferably things that you can say to girls on a day-to-day basis. So I'm going to be posting lots of funny comments, lots of cool things on there. So if you want to follow me, jump on over to Instagram and look for Coach Mark Singh, Coach, M-A-R-K-S-I-N-G. And you can follow me there, and I'm going to be posting all kinds of good shit.

1:47 And I hope you guys get a lot of value from it, just like you get some value from this podcast. So with that out of the way, let's go ahead and jump into the content. All right, so ignoring, I want to start by letting you guys know that I know exactly what it's like to be a hot girl. I have literally experienced exactly what hot girls experience. Now, in a previous episode, I talked about how I was a bouncer for five years. And also, to this day, when I go to the nightclubs and the bars, I always have lots of girls with me, and I do pretty damn well.

2:18 I'm always surrounded with girls. I always get lots of action. And what I also get because of that is a bunch of weird dudes who come up to me with weird energy, trying to open me as if I myself were a hot girl and try to become like my best friend. Okay, so I've gotten really good at seeing when guys are going to come and try to talk to me. And it's really weird. There's something about the vibe that guys put off when I can see them looking at me from a couple feet away or like across the room.

2:46 And I'm like, oh shit, this guy's going to come over to me and try to befriend me. There's two very different responses that I have. And I know this is exactly what girls experience when guys like us approach them. There's the response of, fuck, get me the hell out of here. I'm walking away, trying to avoid this guy with every trick in the book to simply not talk to this guy because I can tell he's a taker. I can tell he's going to come over and try to sap my energy.

3:12 Then there's the other guy who, when he comes over, I just got a good feeling about him. I'm like, oh, this is a cool guy. Now, there's two different experiences. A lot of the times, guys would come up to me and be like, bro, you're doing so good with the girls, dude. Fucking, you're getting so much pussy, huh? What's your secret, man? What's your secret? And they like put their arm around me and like really fucking annoying, particularly when they're drunk. And then there's the other dude that comes over and says, hey, bro, like, you know, don't want to disturb you or anything, but just want to let you know I'm really impressed with what you've done.

3:41 You got girls all around you. Obviously, you're a girl magnet. You're fucking killing it, bro. The big differentiator between these two types of energy is one is a taker and one is a giver. And that's why I always say when you go up to women, I want you guys to be a go giver. Go give her good energy. Now, it doesn't even have to be a compliment. It doesn't have to be anything you're giving her like a drink or a good compliment or good conversation. It's simply your energy.

4:09 So going on this thread of ignoring, one of the ways that I would avoid people is I would see them coming and I would simply ignore them. I would pretend to talk to somebody else. I would pretend to get distracted and walk away. I would turn to a girl and like really start talking to her. And this is what chicks do to us, right? Well, the reason they do to us, and I've witnessed it firsthand, I've been in this situation many times myself, is because you can just feel from the person that they want something from you.

4:35 The other people who I invite to come into my group, and by the way, when they do come into the group, I'm often super cool to them. I'll introduce them to all my girlfriends. I'll try to help the guy out. But the difference is, is he's coming over to give value. He's coming over to give something valuable. So when it comes to ignoring, one of the best things you can do to simply avoid people who you don't want to deal with is ignore them. Walk away.

5:01 Turn your head. Like put yourself in situations where they're not there. But on the reverse side of that, the best way to not get ignored is to give value and go up and say, look, I want to give this person good energy. I want to give this person a good experience. That's all I'm doing, is I'm going up to be a giver. And you know, I see it in my business too. Like a lot of guys will write me, and you know what? It's fine. If you're one of these guys, I don't hold it against you.

5:27 But it's really interesting to me because you have the givers and the takers. So a lot of guys will email me and be like, Mark, can you send me your free programs? Not offering anything in return. And bro, that's cool. You know what? I'll give it to you because I'm like that. I'm a giver. But it's just interesting to me because if you're one of these guys, I don't want you to hold it against yourself. I just want you to kind of wake up to this reality that if you're constantly trying to take all the time and not give in return, you're not going to have good results in life.

5:54 Now there's other guys who are like, yo, Mark, told my friends about it, left you an awesome review. You've helped me out tremendously. I especially like this episode. Thank you so much for that. And they didn't even ask for anything. And I'm like, fuck, here you go, brother. You're getting the conversation sniper. You're getting this. You're getting that. Here are some videos. Smack yourself upside the head with this fucking program. Smack yourself on the ass with that program. It's because they have a giving mentality. So ask yourself, am I a giver or a taker?

6:22 If you're a taker, you may want to flip that because while logically it may seem that you get more when you take, take, take, always trying to get, get, get, you actually get more in life when you give first and by the law of attraction, it comes back to you. It's just like with money. Every time I see a homeless person, I give them five bucks and that money comes back to me in fucking waves. I'm going to do a podcast about how to attract money to yourself, but that's an extremely important concept on this thread that when you're a giver, you get back in return.

6:54 Okay. So back to ignoring. Okay. So now we know why chicks ignore us. It's because we're going up trying to get into her underwear. And what is that? That's being a taker. I want to take that pussy, right? Don't get pussy whipped with that pussy name that movie and win yourself a cotton candy goat. But guys try to take, take, take right? In my last podcast, when you want the woman, take the woman. No, when you want the woman, go give, give value to the woman, or she's going to ignore you.

7:26 Okay. So we went on a little tangent there. We went into the cul-de-sac and did a couple of donuts. And now we're coming out of that cul-de-sac and we're about to go into a new cul-de-sac. And this cul-de-sac is ignoring other alpha males who are trying to a-mog you. Okay. A-mog is alpha male of the group. Okay. Ignoring is one of the most powerful things to do. When a guy is clearly being an asshole to you, he's making comments to you with his friends. Like, let's say, I don't know, you're in gym class.

7:54 A lot of you guys are in high school or you're at work and you're doing something and you know there's people talking shit about you. If you react to them and be like, dude, shut up guys. Like, stop doing that. You're going to lose the frame. But if you ignore it and you pretend like you're not even noticing it, it's like it's not even happening. So a lot of times, like, when guys will try to flex up on me, I'll just, like, ignore them. Like, a guy will come up and be like, hey, bro, you can't be over here, man.

8:19 Like, I don't know. You're at a nightclub and the bouncer comes over and it's like, hey, you and your girls can't be here. It's like, whatever, bro. You just, like, turn and walk away. Like, you're a peon, dude. You're a fucking fly on the wall. Like, you're buzzing in my ear. Fuck off. You don't even have the social worth to be talking to me. Now, this comes off as arrogant, but, bro, he came up with you with some aggressive energy. And that could happen in any situation.

8:43 I don't know. You're in McDonald's and let's say you leave some ketchup on the tray. I'm literally thinking of this off the top of my head. And some guy comes up to you and is like, dude, like, fucking clean the ketchup off the tray. If you look at him and be like, who the fuck are you? But don't say anything and just ignore him. Who has the power in that situation? Now, the reason I thought of this and I thought of this years ago is because when I was a bouncer, I remember there was this guy hassling this other guy and this other guy had a lot of chicks with him.

9:12 I could tell he was a girl magnet and actually him and I became friends. Well, this guy was hassling him as guys will often do to girl magnets because he wants to try to get in with his girls. And the guy was just super chill about it. And I go up to the guy. I was the bouncer at the time. And I was like, hey, bro, like, you know, sorry about that guy bothering you. And he's like, oh, it's all good. I just totally ignored him.

9:33 And he went away. And he's like, besides, my life is too good to get wrapped up into negative energy like that. And I was like, whoa, dude, you're a fucking champion. So I was like, what's up, man? What's your name? And we became friends like that because he had that right mentality. It's like, my life is so good. I'm so fucking on track right now that your little negativity that you're bringing into me, I'm not going to even let it into my reality. I'm going to straight ignore it and look over here and be like, I'm focusing on this over here.

10:02 Or ignore you and look at my phone, ignore you, talk to my girlfriends, ignore you. Like, you're a peon. You're a negative fucking energy that I don't want coming into my reality. Shoofly, don't bother me kind of thing, right? So that's how you ignore guys who are trying to flex up on you. All right, now let's go into ignoring when it comes to girls. Now, obviously, you're not going to attract a girl by straight ignoring her, although giving her a little bit less than what she wants is always good.

10:31 But I like to ignore when it comes to two individual things. The first thing is a frame control issue, okay? So as we've talked about ad nauseum in this podcast, girls will like to frame control you, or what I should say, shit test you or frame check you, which basically means they're going to say something mean to you to try to get a reaction out of you. If they get a reaction out of you, they've proved to themselves that you're a beta cuck and they're not going to be attracted to you.

10:58 But if they get zero reaction out of you, or if you ignore it completely, you're going to pass their test. So in frame checks, I teach several different ways to pass them. If you've guys been listening for a long time, you should know them. Misinterpretation, frame reversals called reframing, ignoring, and agree and amplify. So with ignoring, if she says something and you ignore it, it's like she didn't say it. So she's like, oh my God, you're such a player. And you look at her for a second, you're like, Sonya, where were you from?

11:29 Right? You just blow past it, fucking ignore it. That's frame control. Because your interpretation of reality is what's most important to you. You're leading the conversation. And if she brings up some shit that isn't conducive to attraction, you simply blow past it. She's like, oh my God, that debate between fucking Trump and Biden. Trump was such an asshole. So anyway, did you grow up here in Chicago? Right? You just blow past it with a question. Okay, so that's how we use it in a frame control type situation.

11:59 Now, I'm going to teach you how to use it in my absolute favorite way, which is with texting. Okay, so when it comes to women, and I'm saying this with the most amount of trepidation and sensitivity possible, but for lack of a better example, I'm going to go ahead and use this example. Everybody calm down. Don't hyperextend your vagina. I'm not trying to insult women, nor am I saying that we're better than them. But when it comes to women, it's a little bit like, dare I say it, dog training.

12:30 It's a little bit like dog training. Now, slow down. Any women listening to this, hear me out. Okay? The only reason I'm using that analogy is because it's perfect to illustrate that you want to reward good behavior, punish bad behavior. That's it. I'm not saying women are like dogs. Everybody be calm. What I'm saying is you want to reward good behavior, punish bad behavior. Okay. So she does things that are beneficial for attraction, beneficial for you guys getting sexual with each other, beneficial for her being attracted to you.

13:02 You reward that behavior. For example, she texts you and says, oh, I just got out of the shower. I shaved. I'm so soft. You and I would feel amazing together. You know, my vagina is so soft. It would feel so good to have you inside me. You don't want to ignore that. Obviously, you want to respond immediately and be like, yes, I love when you talk that way. But if she sends you some text where she's being a bitch, she's talking about some controversial topic that you don't think is going to really help your attraction.

13:31 She's complaining again, and you've seen that this has been a theme with her in your guys's relationship for the past X many weeks, and you want to put it to sleep, then what you do there is you simply ignore it. Okay. You guys cannot underestimate the power of no response. No response is one of the most powerful ways to not only shape a woman's behavior. And when I say shape a woman's behavior, I'm not being misogynistic. I'm just saying make her act in a way that's conducive to positivity, to a good relationship with you too, and to her getting attracted to you.

14:06 Because yeah, sometimes, you know, as the man, we have to lead her into positivity because a lot of people will go down the negativity path, right? So it's okay that we shape her behavior when it's beneficial for her, isn't it? Wouldn't you agree? I think you would. So she starts bringing up how the weather sucks and how it's so horrible. Fucking ignore it. Don't respond. And she's going to quickly learn, oh, okay, well, when I talk about negative things, he doesn't respond. But when I'm very positive and upbeat and friendly and doing things that are conducive to attraction, he does respond.

14:39 Hmm, what should I do? Well, I'm going to continue doing the positive things because that's what gets a positive response out of him. I'm going to stop complaining about the weather. I'm going to stop complaining about Trump or Biden or whoever she hates. And I'm going to talk about having sex with him. I'm going to talk about how great life is. I'm going to talk about how lucky we are that we were born in the 20th century and we have all these modern devices and all this technology to help us in our lives.

15:05 That's going to get you a response from me. So you guys, the power of no response is so unbelievably important. And this falls directly into ignoring. So let me tell you a story. One time, a client of mine got into a big fight with his girlfriend. Okay. And she kind of came off the handle. She was doing fucking Brody's in his front yard. She was pissing in his river. And so he's like, dude, fuck her, man. Mark, I'm going to tell her this. And I said, nope, you're not.

15:30 You're not responding. And he's like, no, no, no. But I want to say this, dude, because I want to be right. And I'm like, don't respond. Don't respond. Because she's going to be sitting over there wondering like, oh, is he mad? What is he thinking? What did I do? And so a day goes by, no response from her. And he's like, dude, what should I do? And I'm like, relax, don't respond. Another day goes by, no response from her. He's like, man, man, I really should text her, bro.

15:54 What should I do? I said, don't fucking respond. Ignore her. Pull back. Okay. Just like I always tell you guys, when she acts up, no response. All right. So three days goes by and what happens? She texts him. I'm so sorry. I didn't mean to make you mad. Are you breaking up with me? What, what, what's happening here? I just want to apologize. I freaked out. See, that's the thing about women is that they're going to get emotional, right? And they're going to do shit and we can't hold that against them.

16:22 That's how femininity is, is sometimes they fall off the handle, but bro, if she's doing some behavior that isn't positive for your relationship, fucking don't respond. Ignore her. Be like, I'm sorry. You're all blown out. Talk to the palm because you're not the bomb until you come back and apologize. You're all blown out. You're all done. Pack it up. Get out. Right. That's the message you're sending her. But when you don't respond, it's not the message you're sending her because she doesn't know what you're thinking.

16:54 She's like, oh my God, is he mad? Oh my God, did he break up with me? Oh my God, this. Oh my God, that. Let her interpret it. That's the power of ignoring a woman who is acting up in that way. Then she realizes, okay, this guy's not to be fucked with, which as you guys know, is a central tenant of being an unapologetic man, of being a true alpha male, of being a guy who is not to be fucked with in any sense of the word.

17:20 You got to stand your ground. So when she acts up, ignore her, blow her off. And this could even happen in person. She's acting up. She's acting a bitch, whatever it may be. Bro, ignore her. Walk away. Pretend you're distracted. When you do this, it's usually enough to shape her behavior, to realize that the negativity doesn't work on an alpha like you. It just doesn't work. And what does she want to happen? What is usually the desired result of a woman who's acting up, who's playing games, who's doing the bullshit?

17:54 Usually her desired result is to get you more attracted to her, to get you more into her, to get you to chase her. But when you show her it has the opposite effect, what does she think then? She's like, oh, that doesn't work. I better not do that again. So I would literally shape behavior in this way. Now, once again, I'm not trying to turn her into something she isn't. I'm just trying to guide her into the best version of herself. I'm trying to show her that her negativity isn't going to work with me.

18:25 You fucking bring the negativity in, you're straight getting ignored. You're not getting responses on texting. You're getting blown out. We're not hanging out. No, not at all. And this goes back to many examples I've had. Where I've been hanging out with the chick and she'd be fucking acting up, pissed off, whatever it was. Usually, by the way, quick tip, and this probably warrants its own podcast episode, usually girls would get pissed off at me because I wouldn't be spending enough time with them. And that's okay to get them a little frustrated because frustration equals attraction in the right amount.

18:57 So a lot of the times girls would be just a little bitter at me because I would be more independent than what they wanted, which is what I talked about in my other podcast, that aired before this one. But so a lot of times, like I'd pick them up, we'd be hanging out and they'd be like, bitchy towards me. I'd be like, what's going on? What's going on with you? And she'd be like, I don't know. And I'd be like, okay, cool. I'd turn the car around and I'd drive her back home, drop her ass off.

19:22 And I'd be like, beat it. Kick rocks. Go home and have a cuddle session with your dog. Because I ain't going to be the guy you're cuddling with tonight. And she'd be like, oh, no, no, no. I'm so sorry. I'm just upset that it's like you don't want to hang out as much as I do. And I'd be like, look, I understand if my independence is too much for you to handle, then maybe it's best we part ways. Now, that's another fundamental principle is I'd be willing to drop it.

19:47 Like, whatever. Listen, if it's not good for you, let me know. She'd be like, no, it's good. And you guys, I know this sounds fucked up to, like, hold yourself back. Not give her enough of what she wants. Ignore her when she's acting up. But, dude, this is the way to get them into you. This is the way to get them to fall in love with you. This is what you do when you're a natural and you have an abundance of women in your life. Think about it.

20:09 If you had 10 girls that are, like, on your jock, right? Which is what I experience. Girls who want you. A line of women. And I'm not bragging. I went from zero to having a lot of girls in my life. And you can too, bro. Yes, you, the listener. You can too. But when you have 10 girls in your life, are you really going to put up with bullshit? No. You're going to be like, beat it, dude. I'm not dealing with this. Turn around the car. Go ahead and go upstairs and board the cuddle shuttle with your dog.

20:36 Because you're not getting the cuddle shuttle with me tonight. And then she'd be like, no, I'm sorry. And then what happens, dude? They know you're a masculine man. You're unapologetic for who you are. You're assertive. You're not to be fucked with. And you are extremely, ridiculously attractive. And she falls in love with you. This isn't anything than being the guy that women truly want. And they're going to test your boundaries in this way. But when they know that you're not to be fucked with in that way, they're going to stop it.

21:03 And then they're going to be cool. And you guys are going to ride on a perfectly fine program. And you're saying to her, listen, if this is a deal breaker for you, I get it, Kelly. I get it. I know I'm very independent. I know you probably want more than this. I know you want to be my girlfriend. And I'm not, like, ready to commit yet. Listen, if that's no good for you, fine. Just let me know. I want you to be happy. I don't want you to be miserable.

21:28 She's like, no, I just like you so much. And, dude, think about that, bro. That's the way to get them truly, truly sprung on you. Again, it's not manipulation. It's how you'd act anyway when you had game. It's how you'd act anyway when you're a true alpha male. So it's almost like you're faking it until you make it. And then once you make it, bro, I'm telling you, I'm promising you, I'm guaranteeing you, this is how you'd act anyway. So the power of ignoring. You are not to be fucked with.

21:57 So when somebody fucks with you, you ignore them. If it's a guy, it's like, whatever, peon, beat it. Like, bro, I don't want to talk to you. Like, turn away from him. Get your phone. Talk to a girl. Talk to a friend. Like, whatever, dude. It's not an asshole thing. It's because he's coming up to you with the wrong kind of energy. You're not going to do this to a guy who's cool. Just like when you guys email me and you're super cool. I'm like, what's up, bro?

22:22 Fucking come here. Give me a hug, man. Like, let's do this. And you know what? Even the guys who try to be takers, I still give them the programs. Because I'm just thankful that you listen to my content. But I just want you to take these pieces of advice under consideration. Be a giver, not a taker. When you go up to women, if they're ignoring you, it's because you have a bad vibe about you. That's a taker vibe. I can almost guarantee it. So switch that into, what can I give this girl?

22:47 And when you're trying to give her something, it's your energy. When it comes to ignoring, when a guy comes up to you and he's fucking with you, just ignore him. Just be like, shoe fly, don't bother me. And then when it comes to women, the power of no response, the power of ignoring when you get a frame check, extremely powerful. And then finally, letting her know that she's not going to be able to hang out with you if she's acting up is the final cherry on top that sums up this lesson.

23:14 All right, guys, so that's my thoughts when it comes to ignoring and no response. Use this. I'm promising you it's extremely powerful. Once again, it's not manipulation. It's simply how you'd act when you have game. And for you guys who are listening who do have game, you know exactly what the fuck I'm talking about. But if you don't have an abundance of women yet, this is the way to telegraph that you do have that abundance. You're going to get way more women, way more attracted to you.

23:39 So deploy what I said, and you will have amazing success with it. All right, guys, that's it for me in this podcast. I do appreciate you listening. Once again, follow me on Instagram, Coach Mark Singh. Coach, M-A-R-K-S-I-N-G. I'm going to be posting all kinds of cool shit, stuff that you can actually use when you talk to girls, when you text girls, just like little one-line comments that you can say or pieces of advice. I really want to give you guys good content, good value, just like I try to do with this podcast.

24:09 So thanks again for listening, guys, and I'll see you in the next episode. We'll see you in the next episode.

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