6 Pack or Dad Bod? What Women REALLY Want

0:00 Welcome to the Unapologetic Man Podcast, the only podcast that's all about self-improvement, confidence, success, women, and being a man without making any apologies for it. What is up guys? Thank you for tuning in to another episode of the UNP. I really do appreciate it for all of you who have left me a review. Smack yourself on the ass, you are a champion. Again, if you do leave me a review, hit me up coachmarksing at gmail.com and wow, I will send you some epic stuff, dude, a bunch of programs as well as a bunch of videos.

0:34 And I'll personally invite you out to a night on the town in Denver when you come and visit. So please do that for me, brother. I really would appreciate it for all of you who have done it before. Thank you so much. I tip my hat to you. I know it's a hassle to leave those reviews, so I really do appreciate it. All right, let's jump into the content. So today we are going to talk about six pack or dad bod. Now, if you listen to my previous podcast on Friday, my awesome guest, Mike McApinlack mentioned that there was a video he saw where a dude was asking girls, Hey, what do you prefer a six pack or a dad bod?

1:11 And Mike was saying that 75% of those chicks said dad bod. And if you listen to that episode, you could kind of hear me go like that. And I didn't want to like get into it because it wasn't the purpose of the episode, but it's funny because I just listened to it and you can hear it in my voice that I totally didn't agree, but I didn't want to like, you know, go down that whole rabbit hole because that was an episode in itself. And I made a mental note and I said, well, I'll do that episode myself because I do have a lot to say about that.

1:36 So I feel I am an utmost authority on this topic because I've had the dad bod and I currently have the six pack bod. So I have been gaming for probably about 15 years and I've experienced pretty much everything under the sun, as well as having the both different kinds of body types. And my experience has been very, very clear. So I feel I can speak on this with authority. So what I'm going to do is I'm going to tell you what I think women prefer. And then what I'm going to do, if you're interested is tell you how I went from dad bod to six pack bod in a very easy, almost easier way than it was before to have the dad bod.

2:10 All right. So what do you think I'm going to say, brother? You probably know, right? Hands fucking down. Having a six pack is way preferable to women. Okay. Here's the big thing is this is what Mike didn't mention is that every chick who said, I prefer a dad bod. Do you know what she looked like? She was fat. Do you guys want fat chicks? Hell fucking no, you don't. I guarantee you every single one of you listening does not want an unattractive chick. Now the chicks that said, I want a dad bod were 75%.

2:43 Why were the 75%? Because 75% of Americans are overweight. And the reason they want a dad bod and they even said it, I watched the video myself. The reason they want the dad bod is so they're not threatened. I don't want him to pull off his shirt and then he looks better than I do. Who the hell wants a fat chick? None of us. So dude, if you want a fat girl, bro, rock the dad bod. Now that being said, I had a dad bod and I still pulled hot girls because of a few aspects that I'm going to explain here.

3:16 But I just want to make it very abundantly clear. Hot girls who take care of themselves, who have the kinds of bodies that you and I want, do not want a dad bod. They want a dude who also takes care of themselves. So we want hot chicks. I guarantee you, every single one of you listening wants a very attractive girl. If you have a dad bod, that's going to work against you a little bit. If you're ripped and in shape and it's very clear that you take care of yourself, that's going to work for you.

3:46 So there's another important lesson to learn here, okay, is you have to be very careful when you listen to the advice of women about what attracts women. Because what they think they want and what they actually want are two very different things. And I can pretty much assume that you've experienced this too. You have a girl who's a friend and she says, oh, I want a nice guy who treats me like gold and leaves flowers on my car and writes me palms and all that. And then she goes and sleeps with the total asshole, right?

4:17 Or you see a girl who says you are exactly what she wants, but she doesn't want to date you. And then she goes and sleeps with an asshole. So the rational mind and the irrational mind, also known as the emotional mind are two very different things. So when homeboy went up to these girls and said, what are you attracted to? That's what they rationally think they want. Oh, I want a guy who I can cuddle with and he's nice and fluffy and he doesn't care about how he looks.

4:40 Now, A of all, it's because they don't care how they look. They're eating ding-dongs and ho-hos and Doritos and Taco Bell and drinking and going to ladies night and sucking down the sugar-filled alcohol and getting fat. Gross. They want the same thing because they don't want to be threatened. But then you have a chick who's hot, taking care of herself, eating right, doing yoga, working out, running. The hot girls, right? That unfortunately are so few and far between these days in the society of just fat women.

5:09 Those are the chicks who want a guy who's also in shape. Because here's the raw truth of the matter is you personify your beliefs. And your body is the first thing that people see when they see you, isn't it? So if you walk up and you're in good shape, you take care of yourself, it shows that you have a belief of self-development. It shows that you believe in working on yourself, taking care of yourself, and you take growth as one of your number one priorities. As such, that is an attractive quality to women, isn't it?

5:38 Women want guys who are ambitious, go-getters, trying to better themselves. So when you have a good body, it communicates that. Now, there is a level of diminishing returns, which means if you're too ripped, if you're too jacked, if you're on steroids and you have no neck and you're just like all muscles, that's a turnoff. Because women see that that's narcissistic. So there's a point where you can be too ripped. Now, narcissism is a psychological disorder. And the reason it's unattractive to women is because it shows that this guy doesn't have his inner sanctuary together.

6:15 There's an issue inside his brain. And if there's an issue inside his brain, he will be lesser of a man that she wants to be with due to the fact that he won't be as good of a provider for the potentiality of you and her having children together. So there's a very specific look that women are attracted to. And if you want, you can Google it, what body type are women attracted to? And you may be surprised, especially if you never Googled it before. What they're generally attracted to is lean, probably about 10 to 12% body fat, a decent muscle tone, but not too jacked.

6:46 So Brad Pitt in Fight Club and even Troy is a good example. Although even there, he's just a little bit too lean like in Fight Club. But just Google it, you'll see that it's a muscular look that's very like cut, very lean, very just looking like he's in shape. And this is attractive to women because it shows the ideal body of a hunter. So we've developed through 200,000 years of evolution. And the guy who's the most successful hunter has that kind of like lean, athletic, hunter looking body type.

7:14 You can just think of guys in loincloths 10,000 BC, right? They're very lean and cut. They're living on meats and vegetables. They have a paleo type diet, which I'm going to explain in a second. And they're looking really able to hunt down prey and provide for the family. So that's been literally etched in women's brains. That's what's attractive. So there's that balance there. I feel that I too have achieved that balance. I have about a 10% body fat, some decent muscle on me, but it's like when I have a shirt on, I'm not just like gargantuan.

7:45 I'm very cut. You can see how I look with my shirt off on my Instagram page, coachmarksing at Instagram. If you're mildly curious as to what that looks like, well, here's been my experience, brother. I had the dad bot. I had the six pack. I get way better results with the six pack. Now, when I had a dad bot, I'd still pull. But again, that has a level of diminishing returns because ultimately it shows that this guy doesn't truly care about his health. He doesn't truly care about his own self-development.

8:18 So that's a little bit unattractive. Yeah, he accepts himself, but still he's not working on himself in that respect. And it's not the greatest thing. And frankly, I would feel a little bit insecure about it. I mean, have like super banging chicks in my bed who have like zero body fat, six packs with sexy little belly button rings, perky tits, tight ass, thigh gap is what I really like, a nice tight body. And then I peel off my shirt and I look like a chicken McNugget with tits.

8:46 It's like, yeah, I'd accept myself. But when she'd be kissing on that fat, I felt a little insecure about it. I'm not going to lie to you. And that's part of the reason that I got in shape. Actually, the story is, is that Marissa's cousin took a picture of me when I had my shirt off. We were at the lake and I had my shirt off and I was sitting down. It's just like this gut hanging over and like all my muscles were covered up and I look like shit.

9:06 I look like shit. And it was a big wake up call. And then she posted it to Facebook. I couldn't believe it. I was so mad, dude. I was so pissed. I was like, bro, she fucking posted this. Look how bad I look. And Marissa's like, you know, it's all good. And I was like, nah, dude, this is not good. Not because she posted it, because I've let myself turn into that. So then I went rampage Jackson 5000 and I got my diet dialed in. I hired a physique coach and I'm going to tell you guys what he told me.

9:35 And I got that dialed in. I started meal prepping, preparing all my meals. And then the fucking fat just melted off. Like literally probably three to four weeks. I lost, God, it must've been like 20 pounds, man. I was 200. Now I'm about 175 and it was just all fat. And I've even gotten more muscle since then. So it was a lot of fat on me, but it just melts off when you cut out certain things, which I'm going to talk about. So my results have skyrocketed since getting ripped.

10:02 I have chicks trying to like touch my six pack. They put their hands up my shirt when I'm not even looking. They comment on it. They want to see pictures of me before that. I get good attraction, but not like, not like what I get now. And Hey, it could be because I have slightly better game. I know that's a part of it, but it's also because I'm ripped and I'm more comfortable with myself. I'm proud. I'm proud of the way I look, you know, I work hard on it.

10:30 I take pride in it. And that reflects too, in my body language, but like chicks get massively turned on by it. I've gotten way more offers to just like get a blow job in the bathroom. Come on, let's go to my hotel. We can just like knock it out real quick. No one will know. And obviously dude, I have more honor than a fucking phalanx of Spartans. I would never ever cheat on Marissa. She knows that that's why she trusts me. But dude, I get offers, bro.

10:53 I get offers a lot because now that I'm ripped. So definitely, definitely, definitely they prefer six pack. And the chicks who say dad bod are a either not wanting to be threatened because they're fat and who would want a fat chick anyway? Or B, they just don't know what the hell they want. Right? It's like your mom telling you to leave flowers on her car. Like, Billy, just be honest with her with how you feel. But mama, you sure she's going to like that? Oh yeah, Billy.

11:21 Women love it when you leave flowers on the car. Just go do it. All right, mama. He comes back the next day. Mama, it didn't work out so good. What happened, Billy? Well, she told me to fuck off. Oh, Billy, I'm sorry. Plenty of women out there. Just keep at it. Right? Like bad advice, dude. Horrible advice. The only woman who I know that gives good advice to men is Marnie from the Ask Women podcast. It's winggirlmethod.com. I'm actually a partner with her. I think the world of her, her and I are really good friends.

11:55 She gives really good advice, surprisingly good advice. But most women who don't know this seduction thing, horrible advice. Don't listen to it, especially when they're interviewed. What are you attracted to? Oh, I'm attracted to a guy with a good job and he treats me like gold and he compliments me. Yeah, right. It's going to blow you out so fast. Your fucking pants are going to fly off when the concussion hits. Don't take the advice from women. Don't listen to those videos and don't let this whole dad bod thing convince you that having a bad diet and letting yourself go is the way to be.

12:32 Unless, of course, you want fat, ugly chicks. Hey, if that's what you want, bro, lay them out, dude. Go get yourself a double Whopper with cheese, make that shit large and get an ice cream on top of it. Go for it. But if you want to get ripped, this is what I suggest, okay? Is meal prepping. So when I say meal prepping, what I do is I've basically adopted a paleo diet. Paleo means meat, vegetables, nuts, a little bit of fruit. So what I do is I cook all my shit in two hours a week.

13:03 Literally, it takes me two hours to cook myself 42 meals and I weigh them out. There are 130 grams each of meat and then a cup of vegetables in each one. And I don't have to think each day. And this actually diminishes what's called decision fatigue, decision fatigue. Mark Zuckerberg of Facebook wears the same thing every day to work so he doesn't have to decide what to wear. Well, I found when I do my meal prepping, I have X many meals and I just mindlessly go upstairs to the refrigerator, grab a meal, pop it onto the stove, heat that shit up, add a little bit of carbs in the form of rice or sweet potatoes or regular potatoes.

13:42 Boom, I'm done. I didn't have to think about it. It's easier. And also, I get sick less often. I used to get stomach aches a lot. I felt like shit all the time because I was eating sugar. And it just is a much easier way to be. So here's what I suggest you do. And I was so resistant to this, but I've since done it. And I really think it was a great decision. I hired a physique coach. Now, you don't have to go to that extreme to hire a physique coach like this guy trained people for physique competitions.

14:12 You can hire a dietitian. Now, I know dietitian, you think like, oh man, like, well, she's going to put me on a diet. Do I have to eat like, like rice cakes and freaking cardboard disgustingness? No, not at all, man. Like, in fact, I really enjoy my diet. It's, it's a lot of meat. It's a lot of vegetables and you get used to it after a while. But when you hire a dietitian, make sure that she does a blood test on you where you just prick your finger and you send in samples of blood to get what you're allergic to.

14:40 So it turned out that I was allergic to several things that I was actively eating, many of which consisted of sugar. And the second I cut that out, man, I started feeling better. I used to get headaches all the time. Those went away. I slept better. I was much clearer, didn't get the brain fog. So when you hire a dietitian and you do a food allergy test, he or she will create for you a basically weekly diet that lets you stick into things that are good for you, don't make you feel like shit, and then the fat is just going to melt off.

15:10 Especially when you get rid of sugar, which is an everything. It's in yogurt, it's in ketchup, it's in cereals, it's in all the stuff that the American typical diet is. Get rid of that. Get rid of these, uh, these carbohydrates like breads and stuff like that. And instead mix in complex carbohydrates, like I said, like sweet potatoes and things like that. And I'm telling you, it just melts right off. Like I was really bad case. I had a really bad spare tire. It like was gone, man.

15:39 I can't even remember the steps in between. It just felt like one day I had a spare tire with tits. The next day I was ripped. It happened that quickly. It was like a month. And yeah, initially it's hard to get into the new diet because your microbiome and your gut is desiring those shitty foods. So there is a little bit of discipline that you need to deploy, especially in the first few weeks. But once your gut microbiome gets used to it, I don't even really desire breads anymore.

16:06 And like right now, after this podcast, I'm just going to go upstairs. I think I have ground beef with broccoli waiting for me. And then I'm going to mix in some potatoes, some sweet potatoes. Boom. It's done. I don't have to think about it. And I cook that shit in two hours a week. I used to spend two hours a day cooking. Now it's just two hours a week. Reheat that shit. I got it all in glass Tupperwares because, um, plastic lowers your testosterone. Feel fucking amazing.

16:33 So the question is dad bought a six pack, a hundred percent six pack. And as long as you get rid of enough fat around your belly, you will have a six pack. You don't even need to get like super muscular, do a bazillion sit-ups or anything. Six packs are made in the kitchen. How are they made in the kitchen? By not eating sugar and not eating these carbohydrates that are found in bread. I stay away from pasta, um, and, and really like cereals and stuff like that.

16:56 I stay away from dairy personally because I'm allergic to dairy. So it says my blood test. So you get yourself tested. You get that shit set up. You stick to it. You cook all your meals. You keep them in Tupperwares, just reheat the shit. You don't have to think about it. It's so much easier. And then you lift weights on top of it, dude, you know, within, depending on where you're starting within months, you can have the kind of body that women are actually attracted to.

17:25 And rather than having to settle for some fat chick who feels insecure about her own body and therefore only wants a guy who has a shitty body himself, you can actually start really attracting super hot girls. Now, obviously you can still attract super hot girls with the chicken McNugget with tits. Look with the dad bod. You definitely can. I did it. I know lots of other guys who do it. But again, in my opinion, you are a personification of your inner belief system and your inner discipline.

17:55 When you walk into the room and you're shredded, it just says something extra about you. It gets your foot in the door. It makes her know that you're actually committed to your own growth and self-development. And it shows her all the positive things that we want to show to women. Because when you walk up with a spare tire, you're working, you're working at a disadvantage. You really are. Now, if you accept it, you can turn that into an advantage as I've talked about in previous podcasts.

18:21 But it's so much better to have the six pack. You get hotter girls. Girls are just like throwing themselves at you. They're going to be touching you. I mean, dude, I've had girls come up and just like rub my stomach and then like go grab their friends. And all these chicks are like rubbing my tummy and stuff like that. It's like, damn girl, like relax. Can you imagine if a bunch of us guys ever did that to a woman? We went up to her, rubbed her belly and then be like, bros, come over here.

18:43 Check this out. And all these guys are rubbing a chick's belly. We'd be drawn, quartered and unceremoniously shot out of the city from a catapult. That's what would happen. But you know, female hypergamy. And honestly, when you're the center of the attention like that, it's actually kind of fun. I've had girls try to take off my shirt in the club, like all kinds of crazy shit. So totally worth getting ripped, you guys. Not only for girls though, but it's just a matter of self-discipline, self-respect. Your body is your temple.

19:15 So you should be very cognizant of what you're putting into it. It's the only foreign object that you put into your body is food. Unless of course you do drugs, but it's food. So do you want some shitty super processed food that has chemicals in it? Or do you want to treat your body like the temple that it is and put in pure organic, you know, organically raised grass-fed beef, organic turkey, organic chicken, these really good vegetables. Then you eat things like walnuts and other kinds of really good fruit like blueberries.

19:45 And you can still have a very enjoyable diet the way your body was meant to be, the way the foods that your body was meant to process. So anyway, that's my whole thoughts on that. I do want to bring my boy, John Anthony back on the show. He used to be my partner in this podcast and teach you guys how to get the body of an alpha focus a little bit more on like the workout routines and also the diet, because there's so much more we can talk about where this is concerned, but six pack or dad bod six pack all day long.

20:12 I guarantee it. I'm an example of it. Other clients of mine are examples of it. I see ripped dudes get attention from girls. Of course, you have to have game on top of that. And game is actually more important, but it's just another attribute that you can add to your repertoire to make women more attracted to you. All right, my dude, thank you so much for listening. I really do appreciate it. And I'll see you in the next episode. I'll see you in the next episode.

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