Sex & Physicality #3: How to Get a Blowjob, How to Get Head

0:00 Welcome to the Unapologetic Man Podcast, the only podcast that's all about self-improvement, confidence, success, women, and being a man without making any apologies for it. What is up guys, Mark Sing here. Thank you for tuning in to another episode. And if you've been writing for us for a long time, I do appreciate you. And if you're new here, welcome. Try to give the best advice possible on these episodes and squeeze them into 20 minute sessions. So what do you say we jump right into it? Now, a lot of you guys clicked on this because you want to know how to get a blowjob.

0:37 Well, first and foremost, it's important to know how to get the girl first before you can get the blowjob. Unfortunately, this isn't, I'll email you a blowjob in the mail and you'll wake up in the morning with a girl sucking your dick. This happens when you're on the first or probably second date with the girl. So we're going to talk about how to line that up. If you want to get better with women, I strongly suggest you check out my previous podcasts, one of which specifically is going to work seamlessly into this podcast.

1:04 And this is the third of a multi-part series where we talk about sex and physicality, but I want you to check out the podcast that I filmed on January 15th. It's called the four pillars of attraction. And in that pillar, I talk about how to build sexual tension with the woman. So we're going to talk about how to line up the blowjob for yourself the best way possible. Of course, there's no guarantee. You know, we can't make a girl give us a blowjob and we're certainly not here to be creepy nor try to do that.

1:32 But what we want to do is install little hints. We want to get her thinking about it. And this is how we do it. Okay. So while we're building sexual tension and I'm not going to go over content that I've talked about before, but there's ways to build sexual tension. And it's outlined in that podcast. Once again, that was filmed on January 15th. But while you guys are talking about sex, which is partially your objective to do if you can with a woman before you guys have sex.

1:56 So one of the best ways to line up a blowjob for yourself is to get her to admit that she likes doing it or she's good at doing it. Now there's a psychological phenomenon called the norm of reciprocity. And we're going to use that here. So what I would always do is I would talk about how I like going down. Now I wouldn't just bring it up like, by the way, I really like going down on girls. No, I would line it up with the sexual tension that I talked about in that previous episode.

2:24 Okay. We're talking about sex. And then I might say something like, you know what I really like to do? And I'd be like, I really, really like going down, like just licking it so softly. And I've found that girls really like it when I lick with the side of my tongue. Cause that's like the softest part of the tongue. And I like to be really soft in the beginning and then slowly ramp up and just lick on it. And I think like licking the clit in a way where it's like, you're making out with it.

2:53 Like you lick with your tongue and then your bottom lip goes over it. Your bottom lip comes down, then your tongue comes over it. And then your upper lip goes over it. And then back again is so effective. So what I'll do is I'll start talking about going down on her. Now the norm of reciprocity means reciprocity, which is she's going to feel obligated to potentially talk about it too. I mean, it's a better chance than not bringing it up at all. So she's going to say whether or not she likes to go down on guys.

3:21 Now she's attracted to you. If she's into you telling her about how you go down on her, she's going to talk about how she's going to go down on you. She's going to be like, I'm going to lick the bottom from the very base to the tip. And then I'm going to do this with my tongue and that with my hand. And you want to encourage that, right? So with women, and I hate to make this analogy and I promise you it's not condescending. It's just kind of how it works is it's a little bit like dog training in the way that you want to reward good behavior and punish bad behavior.

3:53 Well, certainly when she starts talking about anything sexual, you want to reward that shit, turn your body language towards her, like get interested, make it like she's really interesting you, right? And she's going to be like, okay, I get a good reaction out of him when I talk in this way. So I'm going to continue now from an NLP perspective and NLP once again is neuro linguistic programming. That's what I am. I'm an NLP dating coach. You can check out my coaching offers on coachmarksingh.com.

4:21 You can also contact me directly if you ever want to, by the way, at coachmarksingh at gmail.com. But in NLP, we teach what are called embedded commands. So one embedded command that I'll often use is don't fall in love with me now. Anytime you say don't in front of a sentence, it actually is interpreted as a command, like you should do that. So when you tell a kid, don't stick the fork into the outlet, that's what the kid immediately wants to do. So there's better ways to say that.

4:51 But if you say, Hey, like, don't go down on me in that way, because it's going to drive me so crazy. Like do not use your tongue like that ever. If this ever turns into anything sexual, if you do that, it's going to be crazy, right? So you tell her, don't do it. She's actually going to want to do it. When you talk about it, make her talk about it. She's thinking about sex. So that's the best way to line it up, man, is if you can get it sexual.

5:19 And how do we do it? Once again, in that episode, you can find out how you start it by having two commonalities. And then you turn the commonalities into the reason you wouldn't get along, you get into a fight, you guys would have makeup sex, boom, you're talking about sex. There's other ways to do it too, that I explained on that podcast. And I think, forgive my 89 year old man memory here, but I'm pretty sure I have another episode about how to build sexual tension. I'm pretty sure I do.

5:42 I was just looking through my previous episodes and I found that one on January 15th, but I'm pretty sure I made one about sexual tension, right? You guys who have been listening for a long time can tell me yes or no. I'm pretty sure I have one. So go check it out if you can. I give all kinds of tips for how to do that. Like in the first conversation, I'll tell you, getting the sexual tension going is really freaking important. So you want to do this.

6:07 All right. So you've laid the basis. Okay. She's talking about giving you head. Now, another thing we do, which by the way, is also in that episode, the four pillars of attraction. One of the pillars is qualifying. Qualifying is asking her basically, what's good about you beyond your looks? What are you awesome at? Why are you like a cool chick to hang out with? And I swear to God chicks will often say to that. I give good head, like probably I would say 30 to 40% of the time they just come out with it.

6:38 So when she's really attracted to you, she wants to pull out the Trump card. She wants to pull out something that she believes all guys love. And God forbid, if you don't love head, you should have your head examined pun intended, right? Is head is fucking awesome. Every guy likes that. And women aren't stupid. They know that. So they're going to say, oh, I'm awesome at giving head. Well, you are like, what, what do you do? Right. Get her to explain it, get her even better.

7:06 Get her to picture her doing it to you. Like if you were doing it to me, what, what would you do? So like you do that with your hand. God, that probably actually does feel good. What, what is it that you do with your tongue now? Okay. Stop, stop. I'm kind of getting turned on. Stop that. Now, again, we're rewarding her good behavior. You're showing her she's having an effect on you and she wants to have that effect on you. So once again, it's like that dog training analogy.

7:34 No condescension. It's just an analogy. Everybody be calm, but it's kind of similar. You're rewarding that good behavior. She's talking about it. She's thinking about it. If you're good at talking, you can explain what it would be like when you go down on her. This is all really good stuff. Okay. So as we talked about in the previous episode, you guys are making out back at your house or maybe in your car somewhere more private. Obviously you got a boner that's 10 times the size of God and you want to get that fucker out.

8:01 Now, here's a piece of advice too. Don't just take your dick out for God's sakes. I was talking to my friend and she had listened to my previous podcast. She's like, God, you should have told guys not to just take their dick out. So what I said in that previous episode is you kind of want to make like, it's a comfortable, you can put your hand down there and adjust it, but don't take it out. I mean, unless she asked you to like, like take it out.

8:25 Right. Um, a lot of guys will do that. You know, like in that old Seinfeld episode, he took it out. I don't know if you guys ever saw that one, but it's pretty funny. So don't, don't take it out. Let her take it out once it's out. Okay. I don't suggest this, but this is something I used to do. It's so cheesy. This is like what I did in my kind of in my twenties when I was first starting out is I do the old hands behind the head maneuver.

8:45 So like you're making out with her and then she's like kissing on your tummy and she's kind of starting to kiss by your underwear. And you know how that happens. She'll like lift up the underwear, pull it down a little bit and like kiss down there. And you should do the same thing to her, by the way, as kind of like move the underwear down, kiss, pull it back up. But what I do is like, I put both my hands behind my head. So cheesy. I don't really do that anymore, but Hey, it helps dude.

9:10 Cause it kind of shows like, all right, time to pleasure me. Right? So, uh, the, put the hands behind the head maneuver. But again, if you guys talked about it, it's probably going to happen. Now, another way to use what's called the norm of reciprocity and reciprocity is I scratch your back. You scratch mine is you go down on her first. It's kind of implied like, Hey, I just went down on you. Most girls will reciprocate that. Now you don't ever, ever fucking shove a girl's head down there or say, Hey, aren't you going to do it to me now?

9:44 Like, don't be a douche. This is what douchey guys do. If she's willing to, that's cool. You'll take it, but don't like force it. Don't imply it by going down on her, by talking about it beforehand, by doing like a few embedded commands. Um, you, you're probably going to get it right. Another thing that another NLP coach talks about is how good it tastes to like suck on candy. And he starts making like mouth references. So you could go into that like dark level black magic kind of shit that they do in NLP.

10:12 Like, what does it feel like to have that candy in your mouth? Just like going over your tongue and you can taste it and it feels really good. Or like you're licking an ice cream cone. Like you could do that. But to me, it's, it's a little bit cheesy, contrived and manipulative in my opinion, but just getting her to talk about it beforehand and you talking about it first and foremost is the way to do it. So another tip I want to say here is bro, keep that shit clean for God's sakes.

10:37 If you think you're going to get ahead, bro, even if you don't think you're going to get ahead, you need to wash your balls several times before you go out and shave that shit. Now I don't suggest personally, I mean, run the battleship that you want to run, right? But I don't suggest completely shaving it bald. Just a little bit is okay. You want to keep it trimmed, keep it tidy. Like you want to, you want to run a tight battleship, but you don't want to like look like a five-year-old boy.

11:06 And I've had girls say that they don't like it completely bald cause it's like a child. So just a little bit, just a little bit, just like we want with girls. If you pull down her panties and it's a fricking 1970s, but she just goes, then it comes out and you're like, Oh my God, how many goddamn ferrets are living in that thing. It's a turnoff. Just a big old bush is a turnoff. I personally like it bald. I'm sure you guys do too. Just based on the amount of porn that everybody's watching, we kind of get used to it.

11:36 But like for dudes, I think just a little bit is good, you know, shave the pubes. You don't want her to end up with a pube in her teeth. You know, it's, it's just not good, man. She's not going to want to do it. Make sure you watch your, wash your balls and, uh, any from under cheese that you have under there. Be sure to clean that out. Oh God, man. I mean, at least a shower a day, you know, if you take a shower in the morning and you have a date at night, take a shower before the date, clean that shit, make it clean.

12:01 Okay. So when it's revealed, when the beast comes out of its cage, it looks good. And let me ask you this too. What looks taller, a sheep standing in three feet of grass or a sheep standing in a half a foot of grass? Ah, ah, look at that analogy, dude. If you're, if you're rocking a millimeter, Peter, well, you make that fucker look bigger by, uh, having the shaved bush. And by the way, another thing one of my friends said is, uh, when it comes to blowjobs, like size absolutely doesn't matter.

12:28 In fact, they kind of prefer obviously average size and average, I think is six or five and a half, something like that. But if you have a small dick, some chicks like that, cause they can do more things with it. And if you have a big dick, it could be a little bit of a disadvantage. And that's another thing this girl said is that getting fucked with a gigantic dick is sometimes painful. So, uh, actually she was saying now all girls have different opinions. So calm down.

12:56 But she was saying that a smaller dick as compared to average is actually preferable for sex than a huge dick compared to average. Now, dude, depends on the girl. And as they say, it's the motion of the ocean, not the size of the dinghy. So we're going to talk about that in the next episode. But if you're afraid of getting head because you have a small penis, just rock it, man. If she's attracted to you, size doesn't matter. And if you get my book guide to the female orgasm, which will be yours, if you leave me a review, I will send it to you.

13:30 Just leave me a review on any of the apps that you're listening to, preferably a good review and preferably with some text behind it. A couple sentences would be appreciated. Email me at coachmarksingh at gmail.com and I'll send you guide to the female orgasm as well as the conversation sniper, three texts to build massive attraction in women, as well as several videos. So that will be yours. It looks like we're running at about 15 minutes. So I think what I'm going to do is probably do how to go down on a girl next, because I have a lot to say about that.

13:56 I really want to give you guys some good advice and I don't want to rush it. I try to keep these podcasts is about 20 minutes. And I do that because most people's attention span is about 20 minutes. So that's why I've done that. Anyway, back to the head. Okay. So when she starts, what you want to do is enjoy it. Even if she's kind of shit at it, which does happen, you want to make like, it's good. Now, now why do you do this? Because while you can give her tips, like, don't use your teeth or God damn, like, like, you know, the calluses on your hand are a little bit painful.

14:31 I mean, you can give her certain tips. You don't want to like, be like, ah, God, like that really hurts. Oh, stop. Because then it's like giving her the negative feedback. And as we talked about back to the rewarding and punishing behavior, she's doing a good behavior. Okay. So you want to reward that even if it kind of sucks. Well, you can adjust her down the road. If you guys continue dating. Now for me, if she was bad at that, it's kind of a couple of points against her, but I'm not really going to correct her too much unless it's like horrendous.

15:02 Like she's fucking biting the thing during the first one. I want to reward it initially because I want her to do it again. And if she does it again, she's going to get better because she's going to find out what I like. Hell, maybe her previous boyfriend loved it. Like she jackhammered the thing. Like it was a shake weight and she was trying to work out with it. But you know, personally, not my style, but again, reward it. Be like, oh, that feels good. Like be really into it.

15:27 Don't fucking shove her head down there. Don't thrust and like fuck her face. Chicks hate that. What you can do is kind of like play with her hair a little bit, like put your hands through her hair or like scratch her shoulders a little bit or something like that. And just stay still and let her do it. Now, if she's moving horribly, once again, you can say, Hey, you know, a little bit harder with your hand, a little bit faster, whatever, so that you can come.

15:46 That's fine. But dude, don't put your hand on her head and start like fucking it. Don't push her down to get the blow job. Let's be respectful here. Okay. So whether or not to come in her mouth, I would ask her when I would be getting close, like, Hey, is it okay if I come in your mouth or would you rather I come on my stomach? What do you want? And that's really respectful because some chicks don't want that shit in their mouth. Would you want it in your mouth?

16:12 Hell no. Oh, I can't believe some of them doing some swallow too. It's like, really? I mean, God bless bro. Like just thinking that, like we got to go down on girls and get a little bit of their stank on our tongue, but dude, swallowing will gross me out every time, but you know, it is nice. It's nice. And chicks who do it, it's, it's pretty dope. But, um, ask her be, be a gentleman, ask her, Hey, would you rather I come with my tummy or what do you want to do here?

16:41 Cause I'm getting close. And she'll be like, Oh, I want to do a or B. So you say, cool. I'll let you know when it happens. Then if she wants you to pull off, you want to actually like kind of pull her off of you be like, I'm coming, I'm coming in like, let her know. Because dude, it just, I've had girls tell me it sucks when dudes will just come in their mouth without warning them. And once again, you know, if we're going to let a girl give us a blow job, most of the time we like her to some respect.

17:06 We should be respectful of women just as a general principle. And these are some of the ways to do it. I definitely wouldn't suggest like coming on her face or something like that, or in her hair or any of those like porno type things. I mean, it's just, you know, do what you want, bro. Like you're into what you're into and I'm not here to judge it. But in my opinion, like in, in my opinion, any self-respecting girl isn't going to want cum shot all over her face.

17:33 Hell she might dude. So you know what? I'm taking that back. Who the fuck knows? But certainly don't assume it and don't just grab her head and fucking start coming all over her face. Such a dick move. But if she's like, I want you to come on my face and you're like, okay, and you can do it. Or you can Superman a hoe come on her back and slap a fucking sheet on her back. And then she's got a cape on. Just kidding. Don't do that either.

17:54 But that's funny, right? It's called Superman a hoe. Don't do it unless she wants you to. We'll talk about that in the episode where we go over sex. So we're just about to hit 20 minutes here. We're getting close. So I'm going to go ahead and wrap this up. But that's how essentially you want to get a blowjob. You'll get a lot more blowjobs if you try to angle the conversations into sexual talk on the first or second date. Once again, if you listen to my material, I give tons of good ways to do that.

18:21 Or if you want to cut straight to the point and get some coaching, I have tons of great ways to do it that I'll teach you one-on-one how to do this. And you can get way more blowjobs than you ever have before. In the next episode, we're going to talk about cunnilingus, how to go down on a girl. I have tons of information about that one too. So please stay tuned. Please come back. And once again, if you leave me a review, I'll get your name tattooed on my neck and your face slapped on the door of my car.

18:52 Thank you so much for listening. I do appreciate it. And I'll see you in the next episode. We'll see you in the next episode.

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