ATTRACTION BUILDER 1000: Telling Women What They're Attracted to

0:00 Welcome to The Unapologetic Man Podcast, the only podcast that's all about self-improvement, confidence, success, women, and being a man without making any apologies for it. What is up, gentlemen? Thank you for tuning in to another episode of the UMP. I really do appreciate you joining me. And today, we're going to talk about the, what did I name it, Attraction Builder 1000, telling women what they are attracted to. This is such a powerful way to make women even more attracted to you. And it's exciting because you guys, being listeners of this podcast, are getting all kinds of information about what women are attracted to, what they're looking for in a man.

0:47 And if you simply tell this to women, it makes them even more attracted to you. It's really an exciting way to beef up that attraction, to flip those attraction hot switches. And I'm going to explain to you exactly why that is and the kinds of things that I say to women that not only make them more attracted to me, but make them trust me and make them feel like her and I are kindred spirits. That I'm one of those rare men, which I guess is kind of true, that actually understands women.

1:15 And women love it when you understand them. They want nothing more. Before I jump into the content, I want to let you guys know that my free one-on-one breakthrough session is still available. If you want to jump on the phone with me and discuss your issues with women, discuss your issues with confidence, your issues with the programming that's going on inside your head that was given to yourself before you could defend yourself from it, given to you before you were probably the age of 10, before you had any idea that other people were screwing you up and completely decimating your chances of being good with women.

1:51 If you want to talk about that and let me identify those for you, let me tell you exactly how long I think it would take you to get to your goals with women. Go ahead and apply, brother. I'm a friendly fella. I like to meet with you champions. And like I always say on this podcast, God, the guys who come through the door are so fucking cool. I feel like I have best friends all over the world. And listen, it's not just the United States. It's not just Canada.

2:15 I'm getting guys from Denmark, Sweden, Germany, Russia, Africa. I mean, all over the world. South America had a dude from Brazil. Awesome stuff, guys. I absolutely love meeting with you guys. So don't think that just because you're international that I don't want to meet with you. I absolutely do. And you guys in the United States, of course, I want to meet with you guys. The vast majority of my listeners are American. But dude, it's surprising how many people listen from different countries. India, have a dude from Pakistan.

2:45 I mean, I'm telling you guys, all over the place. It's absolutely awesome. Still waiting for a Japanese client, though. Still waiting for a Japanese client. As some of you guys, I speak that Japanese. So if you're listening from Japan, put in your fucking application and let's talk to one another. All right, gentlemen, let's go ahead and get right into the content. So why is it so important and why is it so valuable to tell women what they're attracted to? Here's the reason, okay? Women want nothing more than for men to understand them.

3:17 In fact, in the mind of a woman, which I know a lot of you guys are frustrated over, but in the mind of a woman, she doesn't understand why you dudes don't understand them. We look like fucking like knuckle-dragging gorillas to these women. Like, are you guys really that stupid that you can't put two and two together and understand what the fuck I want? Why isn't this jackass buying me flowers? Why is this jackass continuing to text me when I don't want to talk to him?

3:43 Why is he being so needy? Why is he doing me favors? Why is he acting weird like this? Guys are so stupid sometimes in the eyes of women. And that's because they haven't been formally educated. Probably because A, they haven't found a podcast like this one. They don't even know it exists. But B, which really irritates me, they think learning this shit is creepy. These ignorant guys are like, oh, you should just know how to get girls. Like this, like 1950s belief system about it should just happen.

4:13 Leave a flower on her car and she'll fall in love with you. You don't need to try to improve yourself in any way. Well, those are the dudes that have to marry those fucking canyon mules because they don't have the skill set to get a high quality girl. And I'm telling you, I know what you guys want. Okay, I hear this every fucking day. It is consistent across all men. I'm literally a psychic right now because here's what I'm going to tell you what you want, bro.

4:35 If you're recently single, recently divorced, or a young buck coming up through the ranks, or you just haven't met the right woman yet, you want to bang a bunch of really hot chicks, hotter girls than you've been getting because right now you've probably been getting sixes and sevens. You want to get eights and nines, and some of you are getting eights and nines, and you want to get some tens in the bucket. You want that ultra hot girl, that same girl who you just masturbated to on Pornhub to be in your bed naked with her leg spread begging you to put it inside of her.

5:04 That is your fantasy, bro, and I get it because I have that same fantasy or I had that same fantasy until I fulfilled it, bro. And let me tell you, it's worth it, dude. It's worth it. But you want to get that really hot girl. You want to get tons of hot girls, have all kinds of experiences, right? Two chicks sick in the duck at once as you check your phone and you got two more girls coming over later. You know you want that. I know you want that.

5:27 Hell, even I know you want that, bro. And listen, I'm glad you want that, and I want you to experience that. But eventually, you want to meet a super high quality girl who's ultra fucking hot, a girl who you're going to be proud to have on your arm, not only because she's hot, but also because she has an amazing personality. When you introduce her to your parents, you don't have to tell her. She has to pretend she's a mute and she can't talk because you're actually proud of her personality.

5:53 It's hard to find. It's hard to find, bro, but they are out there. You want that girl and you want to settle down. So all my guys want that. They want to have the skill set to be able to see any girl they see, walk up to her, attract her with their conversations, snag her phone number, text her with the best chance of her texting back, take her on a date, have sex with her, date her if they want to, and be able to do that consistently and just print on that, right?

6:17 Over and over again. Any girl you see, go get her. And then from that abundance, you pick your queen. That's what you want. But here's the problem is, if you don't understand the psychology of women, you're not going to be able to do that. And women, that super hot woman who you want to settle down with, she wants you to understand her, okay? You have to almost be like a mind reader that you understand her so well. You're buying flowers for her before she has to ask.

6:45 You're leading her to where she wants to be led. You have a certain charisma and confidence about you that meets all the criteria that she too has in her head, bro. You have the thought in your head, I want that fucking solid tan with a great personality. She has the thought in her head that she wants her Prince Charming. She wants the dude who's going to sweep her off her feet and just understand her. Because the biggest frustration about being a woman is that men don't understand them.

7:12 I hear this from my girlfriends all the time. Now, on that note of girlfriends, here's the first step. If you don't have girlfriends in your life, that tells me a lot of what I need to know about you. You probably don't understand women. So as you become better as an alpha male, as you become this unapologetic alpha silverback, I want you to consider that having girlfriends in your life is the best first step you can make to having an abundance of super hot girls. If you literally want that 10, bro, like I'm going to sing you no delusions here.

7:45 You have to understand women. You have to be extremely good at just being normal around women and understand their psychology. Because as a woman is looking for a man, one of her biggest prerequisites is that he just understands her and he's not weird and he doesn't do fucked up shit and he isn't a sea bass as so many guys are. He's not an asshole. He's not going to just use her. But at the same time, let's not forget what I always talk about that women don't necessarily know what they're attracted to.

8:12 So they want you to understand them. But at the same time, you have to take them on this experience where the attraction is ramped up, which is completely out of their power. Attraction is not a choice. But if you can prove to her that you're socially savvy, you understand women, you understand how attraction works, you understand what she really wants in a man, she's going to get infinitely more attracted to you because you're meeting a certain criteria. She's going to be thinking to herself, oh my God, this guy gets it.

8:41 This guy actually understands how attraction works. Guys, I have yanked girls out of the nightclub, took them home, did what we did and literally had them thank me afterwards because I took them on an experience that they've been fantasizing about for years only because I understand women. And a little bit of that experience was me telling them what they're attracted to. It's like when you're explaining to a woman what they're attracted to, it's almost like a girl walks up to you and she looks like a seven to begin with and then you turn around and you look at her again and she's suddenly a 10.

9:15 And you're like, oh my God, there she is and she's into you. How stoked would you be if you had a solid 10, again, the last girl you jerked off to on Pornhub who was totally in love with you? That would be the best thing ever, right? That's what we want as men. Well, from a woman, she just wants a dude who understands women and understands what she's attracted to because then that tells her you have the better chance of leading her to that experience which she's been dreaming about since she was a kid.

9:42 You know, I hear guys say all the time, it's so easy to be a woman. You could just go out and get laid. You could just throw a rock out the window and hit a dude in the head that would probably have sex with you. Yeah, but as I talked about in a previous podcast, probably like a year ago, I said this. Imagine being at a baseball stadium and you really want some French fries, right? You're like super hungry for French fries. You really want them bad.

10:04 And there's French fries everywhere, but they're the cold, soggy, limp kind of French fries that we all hate eating at the ballpark, right? They've been sitting under the heat lamp for like an hour. They're all cold and limp and like wet and disgusting. And yeah, there's tons of French fries in the ballpark, but what you want is some like fresh McDonald's fries right out of the fryer, super hot with like just the perfect amount of salt on them. That's what you want, but you can't fucking find them.

10:32 That's what it's like to be a woman is there's so many dudes out there that would have sex with her, but she wants the certain kind of dude and she can't find him. Well, when you explain to a woman what they're attracted to, they see that you are that fresh out of the fryer French fries that they really want to be with and they're going to get way more attracted to you, way more invested in the conversation and they're going to be way more into you.

10:56 So what is it that women are attracted to? Okay, if you don't know this, it's okay. I don't hold it against you, but if you've been listening to my podcast for any amount of time, you should know at least some of these. Okay, so obviously confidence. Okay, confidence is super important. Having a strong frame, that is to say leading her where she wants to be led, controlling the conversation, not letting her affect you with her tests and with her bitchy replies, which is a whole different podcast.

11:24 She's designed to do it. Don't get butthurt about it. Okay, guys who are attractive are decisive. They're ambitious. They're passionate. They know what they want, know how to get it. They're unapologetic. They're internally validated, which means they don't give a shit what she thinks. They're charismatic. They leave her feeling better from having met him. Okay, so right there, if you could just get those nine or so down, right there, that's all you have to say to her. And I'll literally do this to girls. I'll say something like, so listen, Kelly, I've been talking to you for like 10 minutes and I kind of get the feeling of what you're attracted to.

11:56 You want to know what I think? And she's like, yeah, I'll be like, okay, so you want a guy who's really confident, okay, but he's not like a douche about it. He's confident in himself to the point where he's kind of genuine, right? He doesn't feel like he has to push it over you or be a dick to you. And she's like, yeah, exactly. You want a guy who's decisive, okay? He knows what he wants, knows how to get it, isn't apologetic for what he wants, but at the same time, he's like cool about it and he's not a dick to you about it, right?

12:22 She's like, oh yeah, totally. Okay, you want a guy who can lead you to where you want to be led. You just kind of want him to know what you want and for him to take you there without you having to say it. Okay, at this point, guys, girls are like, their eyes are like getting big and they're like, yeah, yeah, yeah, that's it. That's it. You want a guy who's in control but not controlling, right? And it's so hard to meet a guy like that who has the confidence, is in control, kind of has that like cockiness about him but doesn't have to like push it on you and he's definitely not controlling with you about it.

12:52 Isn't that true? Yeah, that's so true. Now she's like freaking out, bro. Like her panties are half off. Why? Again, because she wants to be understood but she wants a dude who just gets it. A dude who's socially savvy. Now this also goes into pre-selection. When I roll in with a bunch of hot girls in the nightclub or if I'm with Marissa walking into an Italian restaurant which just happened the other day and all the chicks at the bar see me with the super hot girl who's super banging and like, I'm like average looking, right?

13:22 I'm like, okay, but I'm definitely not as good looking as she is. What does that say about me? It says I understand women. It says I understand how to get them attracted, how to lead them, how to be decisive, ambitious, passionate, enthusiastic, charismatic, all the things I talk about and this girl has chosen me so of course those other girls are going to get attracted to me and this is why I always tell you guys, dude, pre-selection is so powerful because it basically states what I just stated to this girl at the nightclub for me.

13:51 I don't even have to say anything. It just does it for me and that's why I want you to have hot girls on your Instagram. Remember, just friends, not hooking up with them but this is why we do it because women want to be understood. They want that dude that understands how to take them through this experience that they've been dreaming about since they were a kid. Let's think about things from women's perspective, okay? What do women fantasize about when you and I were in the dirt playing G.I.

14:16 Joes and karate and pretending to be in the Marines? They are fantasizing their fucking wedding. I have talked to multiple girls about this. They talk about that being swept off their feet experience, having the most amazing wedding ever, having the home with the white picket fence and the children and the dog and all that stuff. This is what women are based on. They're based on relationships. So when you communicate to her that you understand it, that you understand what she wants and how a guy is out there that's going to take her there and this is really gangster and I'm going to explain this in a minute.

14:49 A guy is out there. It's not you. Some other guy is out there who's going to explain this to her. Oh my God, man. This is an attraction booster 1000, bro. This fucking boosts attraction so quickly, especially when you can say it the way I just said it, the way you can spit it. I suggest you guys practice it, but more importantly, when you come into my three-month coaching program, I give a master class on what women are attracted to and what they're not attracted to and that, by the way, is something good to say too.

15:17 You don't want a guy who's thirsty, who's following up with you all the time, who wants to hang out like way more than you do, like 120% versus your 100%, that's how much he wants to hang out. A guy who's like insecure and needs you to validate him. A guy who basically follows you around like a puppy dog, right? Oh yeah, totally, totally. And this like, bro, it boosts attraction so much. Well, again, the reason it is is because they've been fantasizing about this since they were kids and it's the fucking wet noodle french fry analogy.

15:45 You've been fantasizing about this. All you need to do is find a dude who understands it and you'll probably get it but all there are out there are the wet noodle french fries and occasionally you'll get lucky to find some good fresh McDonald's french fries but it's very hard to find. So when you can explain this to her, you're basically showing her that you're those fresh french fries that just came out of the freaking grease, man, with the perfect amount of salt on them and then let's throw in some soda because God knows and I don't understand it but like french fries and soda together, are you kidding me?

16:17 It's like, I don't know who designed that shit but he was a fucking genius because that shit's delicious. That's what you become. Okay, so what I suggest for you is get very, very educated on what women are attracted to and what they're not attracted to and in my program I do a deep dive on this. Okay, I explain everything. My guys get it very much down and when you understand the quote unquote opponent you can more successfully beat the quote unquote game, right? Women aren't our opponents.

16:46 It's more of a collaboration thing. It's just an analogy. Everybody be calm. Don't hyper extend your anus. Relax, bro. It's just an analogy but when you can understand the enemy, the opponent, you have that much more chance of beating them because you get into their minds and you understand what they desire. So simply telling a girl this, I suggest you guys do this in your next conversation and I just start it like this. I'm like, so let me guess. Like, I kind of have a feeling about you.

17:11 Kind of have a feeling about what you're attracted to. Are you curious? And she'll be like, oh yeah. And then I'll explain all these things and then I'll say, let's go get you that guy, right? I'll say, you want a guy who can just talk to you in a certain way. He can lead you to where you want to be led. He's in control but not controlling. He just kind of makes you feel like you're handled, right? Like he's not really controlling you but you feel safe to just let go and trust in his masculinity.

17:35 He talks to you in a certain way as a certain tonality but he's not really too thirsty, right? He doesn't need you to validate him. He doesn't need you to motivate him. He's super self-motivated, super ambitious. This is the kind of guy you want, am I right? She's like, yeah. And she knows it's you. She knows it's you because you're saying it but then you say, come on, let's go get you the guy and then you grab her hand and you walk around the bar and you like point at dudes.

17:56 You're like, how about that dude? Right there, dude. He looks awesome, right? No, that's not him and she's getting more and more attracted. She's holding your hand. She's smacking you on the shoulder. You're that dude and she knows it. You know it. I know it. Hell, even she knows it, bro. So I want you to become that guy. So add this to your quiver, gentlemen. This is really powerful stuff. Telling women what they're attracted to. Attraction Builder 1000. Once again, if you want to get on that call with me and reprogram the bullshit in your head that was put there by somebody else before you could defend yourself, what a crock of shit, right?

18:29 Like you got screwed, bro. You took the loss, dude. And like you're going to live the rest of your life with this programming. Come on, man. I took the loss too. Believe me. I was emasculated. I was the biggest pussy that ever walked this earth. But see, I had the courage, the warrior spirit in my heart to face my fears directly, to go into pain willingly. And now I'm proud to say I'm a pretty damn happy fella. Pretty much at peace, pretty much in a state where I feel like I'm living a life that could be summed up as heaven every single day.

18:59 And what is heaven and hell? It's right here on earth and it's all created by your mind. It's all created by how much you're willing to go into pain. Because the more you avoid pain, the more you avoid your fears, the deeper you sink into hell. The more you go into your pain, follow your fears, the more you go into heaven, my personal belief. So if you want to get on that call with me, chat it up like two boys around the campfire, don't be afraid, brother.

19:23 Hit me up. I want to meet you just as much as you'd like to meet me. And I know we're going to get along like two long lost best friends that were separated at birth. So go to my website, coachmarksing.com, click on coaching, fill in the goddamn slap in the biscuit. Or you could click the link in the description below. It'll take you right through it. And read my testimonials, man. Like don't just like haphazardly apply, forget to like leave out your last name, put that you're a six out of 10 commitment.

19:49 Like I'm not going to hit you up if you do that. I'm going to be like, sorry, bro. Like you need to be fucking committed and not committed to the program. It's not even committed to me. It's committed to getting this part of your life fixed, to getting the shit in your head solved, to getting the ability to get so many women. Like I said, man, date tons and tons and nines and tens so that you can pick the best one for you. So that like me, bro, like I walked into the Italian restaurant the other day with Marissa.

20:14 Guys were like giving me thumbs up and shit. And then I sat down with her and had like the best conversation ever. That's what I'm fucking talking about. That's what you deserve. You deserve it when you earn it. And the way to earn it is to go into pain willingly, to face your fears, to sign up with a coach who's been there before, who has helped other men up the mountain, who knows the shortcuts and who's going to get you there in the quickest, easiest way possible so that you too can get that solid 10, that last girl that you spanked the monkey to, bro.

20:43 It's like, come on, man. Let's stop beating off to these chicks and let's actually get one. How are you going to feel if you get to the end of your life and you haven't had that experience and didn't pay for it either? Like didn't get a prostitute? I don't know, man. Like I don't understand you dudes who don't sign up. Like honestly, not trying to hate on you. I know some of you guys don't have any money, whatever, but it's like, are you really going to get to the end of your life and not get this fixed?

21:05 Like I don't fucking get that. I just don't get it. I like look at my friends who like are horrible with women. I'm like, bro, I'll give this to you, man. I'll give this to you. No, bro. Like excuses and all your excuses are lies. You know what I think about them? I'm like, dude, you're being a pussy. I don't say you are a pussy because everybody can change and God knows I was being a pussy at one point too but bro, you're being a fucking pussy.

21:28 Man the fuck up and face this shit. It's like, come on guys. Let's fucking tighten up our battleship. Let's face our fears. It's not that big of a deal. It's just a girl. Everybody be calling. But anyway, you're going to do what you need to do, bro. But I'm saying, I'm here for you, man. And like I really don't get it why more of you guys don't hit me up. I'm getting a shit ton of guys through the door. Don't get me wrong. I know other coaches.

21:52 I talk to them and I'm definitely probably 25 to 50 times more busy than they are but still, you know, you can tell I want to help you so fucking sign up. Stop procrastinating. Jesus. Wouldn't even believe this. All right, gentlemen. That's it for me. I really do appreciate your listening. I drop podcasts on Mondays and Thursdays. My next one is going to be about eight signs that you're doing well in life. I actually recorded it right before I did this one and I dare say it was a pretty damn good one.

22:20 I was pretty proud of it so stay tuned for that. Once again, gentlemen, thank you so much for listening and I will see you in the next episode. So now. We'll see you next time.

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