Dissolve Your Approach Anxiety For Good! NLP Swish Pattern!

0:00 Welcome to the Unapologetic Man Podcast, the only podcast that's all about self-improvement, confidence, success, women, and being a man without making any apologies for it. What is up guys? Thank you for tuning in to another episode of the UMP. I really do appreciate it. And today we are going to do an NLP process on your approach anxiety. It seems like every time I get a new client, one of the first things he tells me is, man, I just got this amazing approach anxiety. Can't get over it.

0:36 I'm terrified of getting rejected by women. And as I've talked about in previous podcasts, it's a pretty natural feeling, but we do have some tools in our toolbox to remove that feeling. One of which is the swish pattern. This is a really popular pattern in NLP and it's good to replace behaviors, belief systems, as well as things that make you afraid. And that's called the swish pattern. And we're going to do that today. Needless to say, please don't do this if you're driving a vehicle because it does require your visualization.

1:09 So you need to close your eyes and visualize this. So probably best to do it when you're home safe, you got some quiet time, you're not going to be disturbed and even better to do it right before you fall asleep. One of the big things I suggest is doing these patterns before you fall asleep, because then your subconscious mind can work on it while you sleep and it gets better results for you. But if you just want to listen to this and kind of go through it while you're doing something else and then maybe come back to it, if you want to give it a go, then that will be absolutely fine.

1:39 You can go ahead and do that. You like how that little Australian accent slipped in there? Happens to me sometimes, man. Sometimes I think I'm like 160th Australian and sometimes it just slips in there. All right, guys. So before we jump into the content, I want to thank you once again for the reviews. They have been coming in like a damn tidal wave. I got one today or yesterday. It said Mark is Yoda. And that really made me laugh. I showed it to my girlfriend and we cracked up and I was like, listen to Mark sing.

2:09 You must. All right. So let's go ahead and jump into the swish pattern to begin this process. I want you to imagine the worst situation that you think is going to happen when you approach a woman. You've probably visualized this before without even realizing it, but you have something going on in your head that's preventing you from approaching women. And usually that's a picture of something going wrong. For example, maybe you approach her. She rejects you, scoffs at you, tells you to get lost loser. And then everybody in the room laughs at you.

2:42 And then even worse, you go home and your self-esteem is completely crumbled and you can't even function. And then you become an agoraphobic. You lose your job. You lose your sanity and you end up completely losing your mind. I would say that's pretty damn well a worst case scenario. But what I want you to do is visualize what your worst scenario is and get it into a little movie clip. So a movie clip should be five to 10 seconds long. You going up to the girl, her rejecting you, and then something bad happening.

3:16 Like once again, people laughing at you, ostracizing you, and then you, you know, having to walk out of a nightclub with your tail between your legs. Something like that. Okay. Now that you have that in your imagination, I want you to imagine the best thing that could happen. Now in this movie clip, we're going to create a situation where you're watching yourself. Okay. So in the first situation, you are looking through your own eyes. You are watching yourself go up to the girl, get rejected. It's called being in an associated state.

3:50 In this situation, the best situation that could possibly happen, you're watching yourself as if you're a movie star on the movie screen. Now, like a movie star, I want you to be extremely confident. Chest out, head held high, slight smile on your face. You're walking straight up to the girl and you say something and she cracks up. Maybe you notice a little bit of time go by. She's laughing, sliding her hand down your chest, flipping her hair, licking her lips, leaning into you, maybe even leaning against you.

4:24 And then you might imagine you grabbing her phone number by you giving her your cell phone and her putting her number in it. And then you guys smile and she waves goodbye as she turns and walks away with her perfect little ass, bouncing along as she walks away. So I want you to get two movie scenes. Okay. The first movie scene, once again, should be the worst thing that you typically imagine when you imagine approaching women. And I want that to be in the associated state.

4:53 So be there right now. Watch yourself go up to that girl and visualize what happens to you. Now, the second movie screen is going to be the best thing that could possibly happen. And that's going to be in a dissociated state, which means you are watching yourself from a third person perspective as if you're watching a movie. There you go. You walk up to her. You get the number. And she walks away with a smile on her face. And she's super banging. And you landed the number.

5:21 Now, with that second movie screen, I want you to either speed it up or slow it down. Depending on what you feel will give you the biggest dose of confidence. So in my opinion, slowing it down always works good for me. I'm kind of like in slow motion. You can see me smoothly walking up to her confidence in my step, confidence in my face, confidence in my body language. And then I open her up. She turns and smiles. And it just works out perfectly. And then I kind of fast forward to the end where she gives me her number.

5:55 And then she walks away with a big smile on her face. Also, we want to increase the color and saturation of that movie clip. So go ahead and make the colors vibrant. In fact, I want you to put an energy field around yourself. So you're glowing. What color are you glowing? What color is the background? It seems like almost the brightness and contrast and light has been turned up where it's even more powerful than reality. Also, you might hear music in the background. Maybe you hear a song you really like.

6:29 Or you hear guitars playing. Or you hear like opera singers or whatever works good for you in the background. Like a Viking chant as you walk up to her. Just like the warrior going into battle. You may even want to make yourself a little bit bigger. So if you're like 5'11", 6'5", 5'8", go ahead and make yourself 7'8". Make yourself even bigger in that picture. Now watch it. Watch yourself walking up. Watch yourself open her. She's laughing. She's smiling. You're like the silverback gorilla. You're the alpha male.

7:03 And then at the end, she gives you her number. And she walks away smiling. And she's so attracted, man. She's giddy because of what you just did. Would you have approached anxiety if you felt like that? No. So now what we're going to do is we're going to take that first movie screen of you and the first person walking up through your own eyes and getting rejected. And getting rejected. Okay. So that's a movie screen that you're going to go ahead and put right in front of you.

7:29 And what we're going to do with that second movie screen is we're going to put it 100 miles up into space. And it's just a tiny little speck like a star. And you can't even see what's on that movie screen. But you know what it is. It's that visualization of you walking over to her either in slow motion or fast forward with the music in the background. The colors are amplified. It's almost like you're glowing. And she is just reacting so positively to you. Now we're going to push that all the way out onto the horizon, all the way up into space.

8:02 And it's just a little star. Now on the count of three, what's going to happen is that movie screen that's way up in space, it's going to fly towards you at the speed of light. And it's going to explode that original movie screen of what you fear to happen. It's going to explode as if it's made out of sticks. And the movie screen that's coming in is made out of titanium. It's going to freaking explode it. And then in your face is going to be that new movie screen.

8:33 Now, before we do this, I want you to blow up the first movie screen to be the size of a drive-in movie screen. Okay, it's really big. And there you are. You're in that movie screen and you're approaching the girl. You get rejected and you leave with your tail between your legs or whatever situation that you imagine for yourself. And way out in the distance, you can see a twinkling star over on the right-hand side way off in the distance. And once again, on the count of three, that new movie screen is going to come screaming in and explode that drive-in movie theater screen and replace it.

9:10 And then you're going to see yourself walking up to her with confidence. You're going to see her laughing, giving you her phone number, and then walking away as she's giddy with anticipation and attraction. Does that make sense? All right, get ready. All right, get ready. Three, two, one. Boom! Hits the movie screen and there you see yourself. Hear the music in the background. See yourself walking up. See yourself open to her and her big smile on her face. Watch it unfold as she gives you her phone number and she walks away smiling, flipping her hair, and you feel like a million dollars.

9:47 Okay, now if you're closing your eyes, I want you to open your eyes and I want you to close them again. And now in front of you, you see the old movie screen in front of you. And once again, twinkling in the distance is that new movie screen out in outer space on the horizon waiting to swish in and explode it. So we've reset the picture. On the count of three, you're going to do it again. Three, two, one. Boom! There's the new movie screen right in front of your face.

10:17 You're walking up slowly. You are the champion. You got guitars in the background or opera singers or whatever you decided on. You open her. She's giddy with joy. She gives you her phone number and she walks away and you feel like a million dollars. Look at your body language. Look at the smile on your face. Feel the pride and see what he is feeling in that movie screen. Okay, open your eyes. Now close them again. And once again, we reset it. And right in front of you is that old picture, which funny enough doesn't seem to be as clear anymore, does it?

10:55 Might seem grainy to you. Might seem unclear. As I'm talking about this right now, I'm having a hard time visualizing it. I keep seeing flashes of the new image of me walking confidently up to that girl. But that movie screen is in front of you. See what you can see. And out on the horizon is that twinkling little star. On the count of three, we are going to bring that star in, that movie screen in, and explode the first movie screen with the new movie screen.

11:25 Three, two, one. There you go. You're walking up to her. You hear the music. You see your body language. Confident. She smiles. She laughs. She turns towards you. You're talking to her. She's totally into it. And she gives you her number. And she walks away with a little bounce in her step. And she's so attracted. She's so anticipating having a date with you in the future. And you feel like a million dollars. Open your eyes. Close them again. And once again, we have reset. And you're surprised to see that the movie screen in front of you, you can hardly even notice anymore what's going on on it.

12:04 That anxious approaching of a girl doesn't seem like it's even there anymore. But we're going to do it several more times. So push the small movie screen all the way out onto the horizon. There you go. It's in outer space. On the count of three, we're going to have it slide in and explode, that first movie screen. Three, two, one. Boom. There's the new movie screen. Look at the colors. Hear the music. See the vibrance of it. See your body language. See the confidence. You approaching that girl.

12:37 Her laughing. Her being into it. Her giving you her phone number. And her walking away with attraction and a smile. And you looking like you feel like a million dollars. Open your eyes. Close them again and reset. This is the final one. And this movie screen, the original movie screen of you having the approach anxiety, seems to not even exist. Just in my eye, it's super pixelated. It's almost completely white with just a couple black squares on it, trying to make a picture that I can't even see anymore.

13:11 Push the other movie screen out all the way onto the horizon. It's a twinkling little star on the count of three. It's going to come in and explode it once and for all and dissolve it. When the pieces explode of that first movie screen, they will now dissolve into nothingness and evaporate. Ready? Three, two, one. Boom! And they sizzle and dissolve into nothingness. And in front of you rests the screen of you walking up to that girl confidently. Bouncing your step, glimmering your eye. You approach her.

13:46 She laughs. She smiles. You're confident. The colors are bright. The music is beautiful. And you grab her number. She turns away and walks away with that perfect little ass, little girly walk. Nice perky tits. And you smile to yourself with the accomplishment of having approached that woman. Now, try to get yourself to feel as you did when you were imagining yourself getting rejected. Just try. The vast majority of you will not be able to feel that. If you can, I suggest you hit me up personally, coachmarksingh at gmail.com and let me know.

14:24 I'd like to know what your experience was because it's exceptionally rare for anybody to go through that process and still be able to feel that anxiety that they felt when we started. All right, guys. That is it for me in this podcast. I hope that helped you out. If you'd like to get some one-on-one coaching with me, check me out at coachmarksingh.com. Go ahead and clack on coaching. You can see all the amazing testimonials. I do do these NLP processes one-on-one. I specifically make them for you and for your issues.

14:55 And we remove them just like you'd remove a computer program from a computer. And we replace them with other programs that are more conducive to attracting women. coachmarksingh.com. All right. Once again, thanks for listening and I'll see you in the next episode. Bye.

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