Do THIS to Get WAY MORE WOMEN Into Your Life! (It's Absolutely Genius)

0:00 Welcome to the Unapologetic Man Podcast, the only podcast that's all about self-improvement, confidence, success, women, and being a man without making any apologies for it. What is up, gentlemen? Thank you for tuning in to another episode of the UMP. I really do appreciate you joining me. And today, we are going to talk about the one thing you can do to get more women into your life. This is absolutely genius. And I'm excited to record this episode because it talks about one of the things that I'm most interested in as a dating coach, but more specifically as a student of life, as a guy who wants to master what I call the art of living, and that is how to be happy.

0:42 So what I'm going to do is I'm going to weave together, first of all, something that came from eight decades of research as to what makes people happy, what makes a fulfilling life. And then I'm going to talk about how we're going to actually leverage this with women to not only make ourselves more fulfilled, but bring more women into our lives. Before I jump into that, I want to tell you guys a quick story. I was in the nightclubs the other night, and this AMOG, which is called Alpha Male of the Group, came into my group and started flexing up on me.

1:11 And this thing came out of nowhere. I don't remember where I heard it, but the thing with me is like random shit comes into my mind, as you've probably noticed on my podcast. I say a lot of random shit. And I was like talking to him and he's being a real dick to me. And I was like, don't give up, kid. Whatever disease you have, you can beat it. And everybody lost their minds laughing so hard. And that took the air out of his balloon big time.

1:35 But it's kind of funny. Don't give up, kid. Whatever disease you have, you can beat it. I believe in you, buddy. I thought that was pretty funny. So let's go ahead and jump right into the content on this one. So there's this scientist I like to follow who studies the art of happiness, what it is that makes people happy. And they actually did eight decades of research, which is 80 years of research on what is the one factor? What is the one element that separates happy people from unhappy people?

2:05 Is it the amount of money they make? Like, I want you to take a guess. Do you think it's the amount of money they make? Obviously not, right? You're probably saying no. Is it the amount of chicks you've banked? Probably not, because I can speak from experience and hopefully some of you guys can too, that once you get a certain number under your belt, it's pretty unfulfilling. I'm going to talk about that more as we get into this episode. Is it the amount of possessions you acquire?

2:27 No. Is it the amount of success you get? Nope. It's not that either. Is it where you live? Nope. Is it when you were born? Nope. Is it your ethnicity, socioeconomic position, your soccer team, or anything like that? No. Here's what it is. It's a little feminine. I'm not going to lie to you, but here's what it is. It's relationships. So they've studied tens of thousands of people. And the one thing that separates happy people from unhappy people is whether or not they have quote unquote warm relationships.

3:00 Okay. So if you have warm relationships, which means you have people in your life who care about you, you have perhaps a woman who you can settle down with and create a family with, you are not only going to be happier, but also longevity is tied into that. So people who have a community around them typically live longer. They're more fulfilled. They're more happy and at peace generally. Why is this? Well, because we come from tribal communities. I talk about it all the time, but we as human beings are social animals.

3:26 We come from tribes where when we have good relationships with people, we're actually rewarded with dopamine. We're rewarded with a stronger immune system. We are rewarded. That's really hard to say, by the way, try that. We're rewarded. It's really weird. We are rewarded with a cocktail of chemicals that make us look younger, keep our immune system strong, make us happier, give us dopamine, serotonin, increases our testosterone. All those things are tied into having relationships because that's how we're designed. Now, I know as men, relationships are far less important to us than women, but women have this thing, right?

4:03 And I'm going to talk about how we're going to leverage this to get more women into your life. But not only that, to build a relationship, to build friendships and a community and a tribe of your own, that's going to keep you happy and keep you getting laid, which I'm going to talk about in a second. So if you're like me, you're very much an individualistic kind of guy, right? I come from a family that's extremely small. I only have a brother and a cousin and that's it.

4:33 All my grandparents have died. I only literally have one cousin. I just have a tiny, tiny family. And as a lot of you guys know, I've since been dating Marissa and we're really, really close. We've been together for a few years now and I'm getting close to her family and they've kind of adopted me into their family. Her mom calls me her Colorado son. I'm really close to her sister and her sister's husband. I'm a godfather to her sister's kid. The tribe that I've been able to step into has made me so much happier.

5:04 And there's been so many times where people have let me down in the past, where I arrived to a point where I said, fuck everybody. I can't trust anybody else. The only person I can trust is myself. Love isn't dependable. So I'm not going to even go after it. And this is part of the reason I became a player is because, and I admit forthright to you guys that this was dysfunctional. And I'm sure a lot of you guys suffer from this as well. I was rejected a lot when I was a kid.

5:27 My dad died when I was 10. I felt my mom neglected me because after he died, she was dating other men when I needed her most. My first girlfriend cheated on me. Another girl I fell in love with left me. I mean, we all have that story, right? It's like boo-hoo, poor me. Who doesn't have a story like this? But a lot of us arrived to the conclusion that I'm not lovable. So what do we do? We try to make girls fall in love with us, which was the weird dysfunctional path that I took where I wanted to get so good at seducing women that I can make them fall in love with me and I would never lose another girl again.

6:04 I wouldn't lose love. I wouldn't lose that attention. I wanted to feel like I was wanted because deep inside of who I was, I didn't feel like enough. I felt incomplete. I felt wholly unlovable. And it wasn't until I worked on this quite intensively through NLP, which of course I offer in my three-month coaching program. And I offer it to guys because most of us have gone through this shit. Most of us have arrived to a place where we feel we can't depend on other people.

6:31 So fuck them. I'm only going to depend on myself. But as we found through this research, relationships are imperative for your happiness. Did you know that being alone is akin to smoking 12 cigarettes a day? So if you live alone, if you don't have anybody around you, maybe you have a couple of friends, but you don't have any like really strong relationships. Somebody who, let's say at two in the morning, your house lights on fire and you need to be rescued by this person. Could you call that person and then be there at the drop of a hat to help you?

7:03 When you don't have somebody like that, it is extremely bad for your health. And of course, it makes us unhappy. So over the last 15 years, I've been with tons and tons and tons of girls, which is why I'm a good dating coach because I understand them to a very deep level. I understand what attracts them. And yes, I understand how to make girls fall in love with me because I was obsessed with it. And it was a bottomless hole. No matter how many girls I got, no matter how much sex I got, no matter how hot they were, it never felt like enough.

7:28 So it wasn't until I actually realized the shit and worked on it, was I able to get over it? And was I able to actually settle down with a girl who in my eyes is a solid fucking 10? Now, with all this being said, I'm not trying to convince you not to go out there and be a quote unquote player. I think it's important that you guys get a skillset to be able to attract any girl you want at will, because when your future wife or your future partner or whoever she is comes along, I want you to be able to have the skillset to get her.

8:04 How many times have you seen the hottest chick of the year and you don't know what to say to her? You talk yourself out of approaching her because you don't think you're enough. You don't know what to say. You don't know what to do because you haven't built the skillset. So the whole purpose of my coaching, the whole purpose of my three month coaching program is to get guys into reps after reps after reps, which invariably means banging a lot of girls. And I'm not trying to talk around it.

8:30 I'm not making excuses for it. This is what I want you guys to do. First of all, it's fun. Okay. I'm not going to blow smoke up your ass. It's a great fucking time. Like being able to get girls at will is the best. It's the best thing ever. Next to what I'm going to talk about in a minute. Also being able to have choice, choose rather than be chosen is the best. And I want you guys to have lots of sex, figure out what you like, right?

8:51 Like every girl's a little bit different. So I want you to get out there and be a player and go get that skillset developed. But inevitably, if we're doing like two decades of that, like I was doing, and we're still out there in the nightclubs hitting on girls and trying to get laid, we have to be honest with ourselves. There's an issue there. And I arrived to that place where I knew there was an issue. I worked on it. And I said to myself, all right, man, it's time to start looking for my girl.

9:17 The second I started doing that, I approached everything from a different perspective. And not only did I meet higher quality women, but I also surrounded myself with female friends that really fulfilled that human need for us to have those relationships. So as soon as I changed my mindset from, look, I just want to fuck every single girl in the city. And boys, I'm not proud of it, but I'm being honest with you. That was my whole modus operandi. That's all I wanted to do was just game girls, get them to fall in love with me and then leave them and deny them.

9:46 Like I was fucked up and it was fucked up. And sincerely, I apologize to all the women I've hurt. But I realized again that, look, I want to look for my wife now. How do I do that? I develop a skillset to get girls at will. And then I surround myself with girls, which is pre-selection. When you have girls around you, more girls will want to be around you, which fulfilled not only my ability to pull a 10, but also gave me those warm relationships that are all important for our peace and happiness.

10:21 So I'm going to be honest with you, man. Now that I'm in a family, it is the most fulfilling thing, but it's not the only fulfilling thing because getting good with women is fulfilling as well. As long as you don't go down the dysfunctional path that I went down, I strongly suggest if you're going down that path to really look at yourself, you can come join us in the three month coaching program. And through NLP, I will make you feel lovable deep inside of who you are as well as self-validated.

10:47 So you don't need to game all these girls and break 10,000 hearts the way I did. Believe me, I left a trail of tears in my wake and I do not feel good about it. And I do not suggest it. What I do suggest is you build a skill set, date tons of girls. Yep. You can have sex with them. As I've talked about, just because you have sex with the girl, it doesn't mean you're taking something from her because we always give, give, give, develop the skill set.

11:08 In the meantime, build a network of female friends, guy friends, a community around you so that not only do you have that community to fulfill your happiness, but through that, you're going to meet other hot chicks, which is how I got all my hot female friends. So female friends, as I alluded to earlier, are massive for being able to attract new females into your life. How do you get female friends? So this is why you clicked on this episode is if you do this one thing, you're going to get an abundance of women in life.

11:39 This is genius. What you want to do when you're trying to make friends, be it male friends or female friends is to put yourself in hobbies that girls typically do. If I wanted to meet guy friends, I would go out there and do Brazilian jujitsu, rock climbing, scuba diving. I joined a hockey team, a soccer team, whatever your hobby is that you're into mountain biking, for example, that hobby will inevitably bring friends into your life. Well, it's the same way I get hot girlfriends. You have to do shit that girls do.

12:13 What do girls do? The biggest thing, swing dancing, country swing dancing, East Coast swing dancing or West Coast swing dancing, including salsa, including if you want hip hop dancing, ballroom, whatever you want to try. Listen, I know 90% of you guys have a look on your face like I just sprayed your entire face with fart mist. But I'm telling you, not only is it less painful, significantly less painful than you think it is, this shit works. I have built the best social circle from country swing dancing.

12:46 When I lived in Colorado, when I was in Arizona, I got into yoga. That shit got me so many hot girlfriends. And when it comes to making girlfriends, you basically want to use the F word with them as much as possible. And if they get attracted to you, it's fine. But you want to friend zone them and you want to treat them like gold. It's really, really important. So for example, my hot friends in Colorado took me a while to meet them, but I had my eye on these couple of nines that I'd always see swing dancing.

13:15 I got good at swing dancing, had my cowboy hat on, went up to them, approached them, not necessarily with the goal to get them attracted to me. Although if they're attracted to me, and frankly, they are, that's okay. I actually like it when my girlfriends are attracted to me, because then they're more motivated to introduce me to their friends. So these two chicks, Lindsay and Alicia, were swing dancing, and I got into their little circle. I swung dance with them. I wasn't pushy. I didn't try to yank their number.

13:40 I did what I call a campaign on them. So I would see them out like once a week or once every two weeks. I go up, dance with them, make them laugh, always leave on a high note, very similar to the campaigns that I'll run on chicks when I'm attracted to them. But I use the F word. I'll tell them sometimes that they remind me of their cousin or they remind me of their sister. And I did that to these chicks immediately. It's funny. They're probably listening right now.

14:05 I'm going to get a text like, oh my God, you planned all that. Of course I did. I'm not stupid. I know what the fuck I'm doing. And I knew that by having hot girls around me, other hot girls would come. So eventually I yanked their number. We started our own little dance group. Now I'm walking into not only country swing dance places. And for you guys who live on the West Coast or East Coast or Australia, wherever you are, there's different dancing styles depending on where you might be.

14:31 So what I want you guys to do is look into what kind of dancing you could go do, what kind of yoga you want to do. Pilates is really good. Sometimes like meetup groups are okay. But honestly, like I haven't really seen too many nines and tens going to a meetup where everybody does a hike together. It's usually a bunch of Canyon mules. You probably want to avoid that. But when you use that gray matter between your two ears, you can fill your life with hot girls.

14:54 And guys, I cannot overemphasize how powerful this is to not only give you pre-selection, but also to start having relationships because girls are into relationships. And some of my best friends are girls. Now, honestly, hanging out with my boys is a lot funner because no girl can make me laugh the way my guy friends can, except for my girlfriend, Marissa. She's the only one who can genuinely make me laugh where it hurts in my stomach. And that's part of the reason I settled down with her, which I'm going to get to in a second.

15:27 So pick a hobby where you can meet hot girls. Do a campaign on them where immediately you're using the F word saying friend. You're being cool to them, leaving them on a high note, not being thirsty, not being needy, not trying to yank phone numbers. You can even talk about a different girl who you're dating and ask them for advice, which by the way, all the stuff I'm teaching you to do here is the same way to get a girl attracted to you, except for using the F word.

15:53 And even then, sometimes I'll do that to get a girl attracted to me. But it doesn't matter if she's attracted to you or not. In fact, like I said, it's better when she is because then she wants to be near you. But if you friend zone her, what's the difference between that and a girl friend zoning you, which has happened to 99% of us, right? We've all been in the friend zone prison, relegated to not having sex with a girl we're super attracted to. It's the worst.

16:15 It's the worst thing ever. We're just going to do it back to her. So I'm here to put the battery in your back and try to get you motivated to go out there and meet girlfriends. Because when you have a friend, it's like me handing you a fishing pole. You catch a lot more fish with the fishing pole than if I handed you a fish. Wouldn't you agree? So we're going out there trying to build relationships with females. And then from that, you meet other females.

16:40 Every single hot female friend I've ever made, I made three other hot female friends from them. And then I met like 24 different chicks who I could be romantically involved with. When it comes to my girlfriend, I met her at a fucking supermarket. So it does not relate at all to this. But had I not gone through those years of honing my skills, I would definitely not have been able to get her. Like when I walked in and I saw her, I was like, right? I just followed my dick straight to her because it's pointing right at her.

17:09 She was so banging, perfect ass. The haircut I love, like her back was sexy. She was wearing this shirt that showed her back. And I love sexy backs that are nice and thin. And she was just completely my type. So I went in there, just focused, man. I was like, all right, I need to do my best here. I need to really kill it. And I did. And I yanked her number. And then from her, I've met even more girls. And perhaps more importantly, I was adopted into her family, which goes to my final point.

17:35 When it comes to the girl who you're going to choose to settle down with, I want to give you a big, nasty spoonful of reality. She's not going to be perfect. You have in your head, this image of this girl who's absolutely perfect, but she doesn't exist. Okay. Marissa shits. She farts. Her farts are horrible. Clean out of fucking room. Right now she's upstairs sick. Cause my daughter just got us sick. As I told you guys, and she's coughing every 30 seconds. And it's like a goddamn blow horn in my ear.

18:03 I can't even hang out with her. She's human. And that's what I want to communicate to you guys. But the one question I always ask is this. If I had to spend the rest of my life on a desert Island with just one person, who would that person be? If that person is her, meaning the girl who you're dating, the girl who you're thinking about settling down with, that's the right girl for you. In my opinion. Now I make no illusions. Marissa is super fucking sexy.

18:31 She's banging because that's important to me. But at the same time, if I stay with her, age is inevitably going to ravish her beauty. And you have to accept that. And another thing that my coach said to me once when I was just going out and banging as many girls as I could, we were talking about settling down. And I said, I don't know, man, like I love different girls. I love the different energies. I love to have sex with a bunch of different, you know, for lack of a better way to explain it.

18:58 Vaginas. And he very crudely said to me, and I want to say to you guys the same thing, not being degrading to women, but just to get into your subconscious mind. He said to me, he's like, dude, when it all boils down to it, one vagina is just like the next one. So you going out and trying to get as many as you can isn't because you love the variety. It's because you have an issue and you're trying to fill a black hole inside of you of lack.

19:21 And that really hit me. And again, I'm not trying to be crude to women. You guys know, I absolutely love and respect women, but the way he phrased that was the perfect way to say it to me at the time to get into my subconscious mind and wake me the fuck up. And it's true, boys. Once you get that shit out of your system, you realize it's all pretty much the same thing. And the thing that really matters is who is this girl? What is her heart like?

19:46 What is her personality like? Do I jive with her? Do we have the same attitudes? If again, I was stuck on a desert island, is she the one I choose? And when it comes to Marissa, you're damn fucking right. She's the one person I choose even over my best friends. No offense, brothers, but I just relate to her and I would get half sex right on that desert island and get a little sick duck. If you don't know what that means, flip the S and the D and you'll know all about it.

20:12 So gentlemen, having warm relationships is important. So my suggestion to you and to all my clients is this. Come into my program or if you're not interested, you can think that you can master this. Just listen to podcasts. And if that's what you believe, that's fine. I don't agree. I think most of us need intensive NLP and you need a coach to smack you upside the head and get you to the top of the mountain. But if that's what you think, and if you think my podcast can get you there, it's fine.

20:36 Keep listening to my podcast. Get good with girls. Learn how to attract any girl anytime. You see a girl, walk up to her, get her attracted to you, yank her phone number and date her just like I did Marissa. Then once you've mastered that skill, shift into finding the right girl for you and ask yourself that question. Is this woman the one person I'd spend the rest of my life with on a desert island? If that answer is no, then abort mission and use your skill set to get another girl.

21:03 But don't be under the illusion that you can bang pussy after pussy after pussy. And again, I'm being crude because I'm trying to get into your subconscious mind and reach fulfillment. Just like buying things or doing drugs or eating a bunch of food, it will never fulfill you. It's a bottomless pit. It's a bottomless pit of emptiness. So my advice is again, to get good with women, build yourself a female friend group. Having females in your life is amazing. They bring that warm relationship element that's going to make you happy.

21:34 And then go pick your queen, man. What I want you to do is maximize yourself as much as possible so that the girl you get is from abundance, not scarcity. You choose her rather than being chosen by her. And I want to wrap it up with one last thing. A lot of you guys have the excuse of, once I reach XYZ point, then I'll go get good with girls. Once I get this ripped, once I develop all these skills, once I listen to enough of Mark's podcast, then I'll go get girls.

22:03 But it's backwards. You have to start practicing with girls in order to develop not only your skill set, but also to develop as a man. Getting women and learning the skill set to do so is one of the best ways to grow yourself as a man, because it makes you face your fears. It makes you face issues inside your subconscious mind, such as I'm not lovable. I'm not worthy of love or worse. If she rejects me, that somehow minimizes me as a man, which is the worst belief.

22:27 So until you actually go into it and face your fears, you're not going to develop that much, which is why I know a lot of you guys procrastinating. You're thinking, once I get to this point, then I can join Mark's program and like get to the top. No, no, no, no. The way you get to the top is by doing it fucking now, starting with where you are right now. Go open that girl. Start developing the skill set by actually doing the thing you're afraid to do.

22:52 Move into your fears and develop those warm relationships that are not only going to make you live longer, but that are going to make you infinitely happier than you are today. Warm relationships, gentlemen. I cannot stress the importance of that. Guys, I have openings in my program right now. So if anything I said resonated with you and you're sick and tired of getting the same fucking results you're getting now, come join us. Nobody's ready, right? Every single guy that comes into my program, he's always like, I don't really feel ready for this, but I'm just doing it.

23:21 And then they realize I'll never be ready. No matter what situation changes or how I feel here and there or what I can develop within myself in a year from now, bullshit. All your excuses are lies. You're never ready to start a program like this. You're never ready to have a kid. And like me, you're never ready to settle down with a girl until you really realize she's the right one for you. And you just sack the fuck up and do it. Settling down with Marissa was one of the scariest things I've ever done.

23:49 But that's why I feel like I'm a good coach. I've been on both sides of the coin, pickup artist and relationship guy, family guy. And I understand the entire sphere of experience, which is why I feel I'm by far the best coach when it comes to learning how to not only seduce women, but settle down with them and have a successful long-term relationship. So if you want to come join us, go to my website, coachmarksing.com. Click on coaching, fill in the quick application. You and I are going to email back and forth a little bit to get to know each other.

24:21 Then if it seems like a good fit, you're going to meet with my partner and wingman, Victor Lynch, an absolute champion that's going to speak to you about your goals, your issues, and whether or not we think we can help you. And as I always say, we will not take you unless we can 10X your results. So get on a call with us and let's figure that out together, man. We're here for you. We're not pushy. We just want to meet you. So please sign up today.

24:40 All right, gentlemen, I draw a podcast on Mondays and Thursdays, so please stay tuned for the next one. And I will see you in the next episode.

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