DOES SIZE MATTER??? (An Interview With My Girlfriend Marissa)

0:00 Welcome to The Unapologetic Man Podcast, the only podcast that's all about self-improvement, confidence, success, women, and being a man without making any apologies for it. What is up, guys? Thank you for tuning in to another episode of the UMP. I really do appreciate it. And today, we are going to talk about whether or not size matters, the ultimate question. And to answer this question, I have who is perhaps the best guest I've ever had, my girlfriend, Marissa. She is going to lay it down for you guys and let you know whether or not that red-helmeted warrior in your pants needs to be of the bigger variety.

0:45 Or is it okay if he is a little bit of a small dude, yet he does extremely well in jungle warfare? The reason I'm recording this podcast is because I always do my podcasts around the typical questions that I get, both from listeners as well as my clients. And what you'd be surprised to hear is that a lot of guys actually really have some insecurity around this. And that insecurity is usually caused because of porn. So guys watch porn a lot. And of course, dudes who are in porn are hung like fucking donkey dicks.

1:16 And they think that they too need to have donkey dicks in order to, you know, satisfy a woman. They also think that they have to perform like the dudes perform in porn. And that's the problem is that porn often gives men as well as women the wrong impression of how things really are. So we're going to hear it from a woman herself about how it really works, whether or not size matters, what you can do to make up if indeed you are packing an angry inch and you're super insecure about it.

1:45 So we're going to jump right into that content. And I am happy to introduce the love of my life, Marissa. How are you doing today, Marissa? I'm good. Okay, bring it in. Get closer, man. All right. All right. So when you talk into it, talk over it. Okay. There you go. All right. So the ultimate question, let's just get it done, get it right off our chest. Does size matter? Yes and no. Okay, let's start with the no part. Let's get the good news out of the way first before we get into the bad news.

2:14 So why does it not matter? I think it doesn't matter in the way that most men think it matters. I hear a lot of guys talking about how bigger is better and that's not always true because the bigger it is, the less likely it is that it's going to fit where it needs to go. And so things can get a little bit painful. Okay, so let's go with averages. So average I think is what, six inches? I think it's like five and a half actually. I think it depends on race actually.

2:46 I've seen studies, I think that for white men at six, black men at seven, I think Asian men at five and I'm not sure where Latinos fit in. Ten, bro, ten, straight up ten, fucking one foot long, dude. Okay, yeah, so it depends on race and then, okay, so average, let's just call it six, that's kind of average. So if it's seven, eight, nine, that could be a problem too, right? I think it depends on the woman because just like there are different sizes of penises, there are also different sizes of vaginas.

3:21 And so I think everybody's a different fit for each other and just because we can't see what size we are on the inside doesn't mean that you're not going to fit. Right, right. So even some smaller dudes might get with a girl who has a smaller squishmitten and then it'll fit better. Get a little closer to the bike. Yeah, there you go, you got to lean close to me, that's right, get away from me. I just like to kiss you though. I know, no kisses during the podcast recording.

3:47 Okay, so it depends, it really depends. Okay, but we're fucking up here. Can we talk about the small squishmitten though for just a second? Go ahead, go with the small squishmitten. Because I think that there are a lot of women who do have pain during intercourse and it's not necessarily because they're small but they've got other things going on. So for those women, a smaller one would actually probably be better because they would experience less pain. So I think that there's like a fit for everybody, honestly.

4:16 Yeah, so I mean unfortunately the question with the answer would kind of be it depends because it depends just like personalities. Do you fit with this person? But okay, let's take a dude and I get this a lot as I told you. And by the way guys, if you join my program, I never tell Marissa about who you are specifically. I'm just talking generalities here. So I want you guys to know that. But when guys- And I support and love you all. Yeah, she does. And she looks at your pictures with her hot friends and she decides which pictures are going to go into your dating profiles.

4:49 It's a service that I very much appreciate because I'm a dude. Like my opinion on that isn't great, even though I kind of know. But when you ladies come over and take care of that, I do appreciate it. So let's really get to the brass tacks here. You get a dude who applies for the program. He has a really bad insecurity about what he sees on porn, right? These guys are rocking like eight inches. They're slamming it home. They're like jackhammering it right off the beginning.

5:15 Marissa's sitting here nodding her head no. And they're feeling insecure because they're- Let's just go with like a dude has like a three or four inch penis. Okay, so straight up. You take down his pants. There it is. Be honest. What is your feeling about that? Honestly, for me, I would have been a little bit disappointed. However, same as what I think goes for on dates or anything else, confidence makes a difference. And so if a man is confident in bed and knows what he's doing and knows how to make you feel good, then it doesn't matter if it's only three to four inches.

5:53 Yeah. If he is embarrassed about it or if he doesn't try, then, you know, it doesn't matter if it's three or four inches or seven or eight inches. It's gonna suck. Yeah. So if he's paying attention and if he's listening and if he is as interested in making the woman feel good as he is about making himself feel good, then three to four inches or six to seven doesn't matter. Right, right, right. It kind of sounds like what you're saying is the size. It's a little bit disappointing, but what's more important is the confidence making you feel sexy.

6:26 And I want to get into cundilingus as well, but really. Come on. But what's really important is that confidence and kind of skill set as and I want to get into that too, which is it's not the size of the dinghy. It's the motion of the ocean. Is that true? That's true. That is 100% true. I know you don't like to talk about this. I don't know how to share this with you. Yeah, be careful, dude. There was an ex one time that had a millimeter Peter, but he had that confidence.

6:57 And so we still did just fine. And it did not turn me off because we were able to work with it. Yeah. But who's with you now? Yeah. Exactly. Get away from me. Okay. So what we've determined is, yeah, it's going to be a little disappointing. And I kind of liken it to like, say, a girl has really small boobs, right? If you take off for me, actually, I don't really care that much about boobs. Thank God you're racked to civil act. But you know, sometimes you take off a girl's bra and it's like, yeah, kind of disappointing.

7:27 But dude, if she's like really hot, really sexy, super feminine, she sucks a mean dick. She's epic in bed. She's got a nice ass and all the other stuff. It's like, who cares? You completely forget about it. So it's the same thing if a dude is confident, he knows how to seduce her. And by the way, the brain is the biggest sexual organ, right? When you get a woman super turned on emotionally, as well as mentally, then it's like the size of the tool doesn't really matter at all.

7:55 In fact, she may get turned on by it. And she may find that it's better for her than some of the bigger dudes. You never know. And then it becomes like, it could even become an infatuation for her, which I can see happening when you really seduce her correctly. You use all the skills I teach. It kind of represents that part of you, which is super sexy. And it starts to turn her on. I could see that happening. So, you know, at first it may seem like a limitation, just like some of you guys are shorter.

8:21 Some of you guys are a little bit chubby. Some of you guys are whatever it may be. But when you overcome it with other attributes, you do just that. You overcome it and it no longer becomes an issue. Okay. I want to go on the other side too. How about the way guys have sex in porn, right? They stick it in, they slam it home. You're sitting there nodding your head. No girl wants that. Okay. Well, what do girls want? I shouldn't say no girl. There are some girls out there who want what we see in porn, but not usually.

8:49 Right. That is not the norm. And it's crazy. Those are all fantasies. They're fantasies. It's not real. Well, for dudes, it's fantasies on the porn, right? Yeah. It's catered to guys. It is. Yes. Because there's not a lot in there for women and what we want. It's hard to find what we want. Thank God. Because I hate it when the camera pans over to the dude. That's why I pull up two screens at once, bro. So I could quickly flip my eyes away. It's like shows the guy like, oh, and then his face goes retarded when he comes.

9:16 He's like, ah. And I'm like, do I really want to be seeing that? Yeah. It's mostly catered to men. It's totally catered to men. So when you have this idea, and it's so weird, I've been getting applications lately where guys are like, you know, I watch porn and I just feel so insecure because the dudes just hammer it home. I'm like, why would that make you feel insecure? It's not what women want at all. And we have a woman, a gorgeous woman right here proving it.

9:38 That's not what women want. What do you want? How do you want to be seduced, Marissa? Hmm? Uh, probably slowly, unless I hate you. Yeah. So slowly, methodically, mentally, right? Get into that. Mine fucked me first. Oh, yeah. That's what I did. Yeah. And we're not going to... Yeah, you did. Yeah, boys. You hear that? All right. So it's all in the mind. Okay, now I want to talk about... And also, let me just add that, like, most of the things that happen in porn, like, those things would hurt unless a woman is really nice and warmed up.

10:18 I mean, yeah, sometimes they go down on the woman to warm her up to, you know, but they're not doing it for her. They're really doing it for themselves so that they can get it in. Yeah. So she doesn't even finish. Yeah. And all of those orgasms that you see, guys, I'm just going to tell you right now, they're faking it. Really? Those are not real. Hmm. Okay. In real life, if you do it the right way, like you do. Easy. Well, you know your track record.

10:47 I know. I know. I know. I'm batting a full thousand, dude. Hell yeah, you are. Yeah. Every lap around the track, every lap around the track, I do a whip and a freaking can-can and a tabletop on my dirt bike. Yeah. Then I finish it off. All right. So when she comes, you know if it's real. Basically, the windows just shatter. Okay. Now I want to talk about, before I get into cundilingus, because that's really important. By the way, get closer to the mic, y'all. Keep inching away from me to have bad breath.

11:14 Okay. Makes me want to kiss you. Yeah, I know. That's the part that you need to, you need to discipline yourself, little girl. First pull. Okay. So how about guys that are too big? Because I'm sure guys are clicking on this who are packing, you know, some heat. So talk to us about that. Well, for guys that are packing heat, I'd say listen to the woman, go slowly at first, figure out where her comfort level is. And I'm sorry to tell you, but if you're that big, then you may not be able to pound all the way.

11:47 But I think you can still find things that feel good for both of you, you know, if, and like maybe give her control, let her sit on top, you lay down, let her sit on top. And then she has total control and she can go to her comfort level at first to figure out where it's at, or just go slowly. If you're the one in control and figure out, you know, where is that limit and how far can you go where it's going to still feel good to her, but listen to her and listen to her body and, and then you, I think you can both feel good.

12:17 Good advice. All right, cool. So what I often say is that, and tell me if I'm right or wrong, Marissa, just straight up, don't worry about filtering yourself. But I often say that going down on her is sometimes more important and more effective than the actual intercourse part. So if you can go down on her really well, like let's say you are packing it like literally an angry inch, but you master the art of the tongue and you're able to really slay it down there. Could that be enough to make up for the lack of size when it comes to sex?

12:53 I think it's a good addition, but I'm not sure that it's everything because there's something about that connection, especially if you care about somebody. Oh, here we go again with the connection. Well, I know I'm messing with you. I like it when you're inside of me. There's going to be a lot to cut from this episode. Oh, you guys, this is why I never have her on. Well, you asked me to talk about penises. What did you want? No, dude, I fucked up. It's my favorite topic.

13:18 I know. What was the question? Oh, is it every, oh, the cunnilingus, going down on a girl. I think it's a really nice addition and I definitely think that you guys should be doing it. All women appreciate it and all women like it unless she has her own insecurities, in which case she might need to go work on something herself. If she doesn't let you go down on her, then I think she has some of her own insecurities and maybe you can help her feel comfortable in that area and reassure her that you enjoy it and that you want to do it.

13:50 That might be helpful too. But I think even if you just have a little bit down there, I think there are ways to still make it enjoyable. If you have a woman who's open to toys, I think that's a really good addition. You could get some toys to help out, whether that's a vibrator that goes inside of her or if it's something small that you just used to stimulate her clitoris or, you know, whatever. You can talk about it. I think, again, everybody is different and everybody has different things that they like, but I think that you can find ways around it.

14:21 And again, I still think that even if it's small, I don't think that that is a deal breaker. And if a woman tells you that it is a deal breaker, then either she's not that into you or she's focusing on the wrong thing and she's selfish and she doesn't want a relationship and she's not going to connect with you anyway. So move on from her. You don't want her anyway. It's kind of like a guy blowing girl out because she has small tits, right? It's so infinitesimally small and doesn't matter in the long run that if you're that shallow to blow somebody out because of that, then fuck yourself.

14:55 Like you don't even deserve, that girl doesn't deserve you anyway. And we all have something that we're insecure about. And when you're having sex with somebody, that's when you're laying it all out there. And you, especially at the beginning, everybody has insecurities. You're worried about what the other person is going to think. Are they going to think my belly's too big? Are they going to think my butt's too big? Are they going to think my butt's too small? Are they going to think, you know, for a man or my arm's too small or whatever?

15:18 You know, everybody's got, your arms are not too small, by the way. Oh, I appreciate it. I'm so insecure about it. But I think everybody has insecurities. And especially the first time that you see each other naked, it's a really vulnerable moment. And so, you know, again, I think if you both just reassure each other and listen to each other and make each other feel like you really want to be there and that you want to make each other feel good, I think that's the most important thing.

15:48 Yep. Yeah. And it's that connection too. You know, I tell you guys from quantity comes quality. And that's absolutely true because you have to find somebody who you fit together with lock and key, right? First of all, emotionally, you guys got to be compatible mentally and then also sexually. And, you know, like with Marissa, not to let them peek too far behind our closed bedroom doors, but it's just we have that energetic connection that when we have sex, it's not about so much the physical feeling of sex, although that is very important.

16:19 It's that connection that we have that like spiritual, it's crazy, right? Like there's a really huge energy exchange. And actually I've heard some more spiritual people say that sex is synergetic energy exchange. And I can see that with Marissa because we have such a pure connection that the size of the dick, the size of her boobs, the whatever, like a girl you're dating who has a little bit of a muffin top. If you really connect with her, those kinds of things can be like, oh, I know as guys, we really want like that perfect 10 physically, but ultimately it's how you fit with the person.

16:55 And the size of your dick, I don't think size matters. With all that being considered, I don't think it matters. That's not the lock and key that you're talking about. Yeah. The perfect fit for the lock and key is a metaphorical one. It's not the lock and key of a penis and a vagina. Those things, there are always workarounds with that. If you've got the metaphoric lock and key, then the other stuff will come with it. Woo, that was good. That was a good way to end this.

17:19 So, you know, like I said, guys, you got to get developed a skill set so that you can meet many women, filter them out, screen them so that you meet one that you connect with. And if you are, you know, packing something that you are insecure about, take Marissa's advice. And first of all, work on other ways to please her, be super confident, accept it. And just like you would accept a girl with slightly smaller tits, if she had everything else going for her, you need to work on those other parts of yourself in order to, quote unquote, make up for it.

17:49 And like I said, it may be a perfect fit for her because like Marissa said, some girls have smaller vaginas. And if you're too huge, it could hurt her. Or even if you're average, it could hurt her. I mean, you have girlfriends, right, that have smaller vaginas and like, oh my God, every single guy hurts me. So you would be a perfect fit for that kind of girl if you are packing small. And if you're packing too big, then you want a girl with a extra large squishminton.

18:13 And or you just ease it in like an old man into a warm bath and do it real slowly and make sure you get her wet first, get super good at cunnilingus. But most importantly, get super good at attracting them and then filter out to get a girl you truly connect with spiritually, emotionally, and energetically. Because I'm telling you, it's that energy exchange that really does make it intense. Wouldn't you agree, young lady? Hell yeah, I would. All right. So any further thoughts or you think we're pretty good?

18:40 Yeah, I think some guys may be a little bit nervous if they're uncircumcised because at least in the United States anyway, I think it's more common to be circumcised. But it's not that important either because everybody looks the same when they're hard. Honestly, it doesn't make a difference. I don't know what else to add. Okay. Yeah. I'm circumcised. I am circumcised. So I don't know what that's like, but whatever. I don't think it really matters. Girls and guys don't really talk about this too much, but I can see a guy who is uncircumcised being insecure about it.

19:16 Since on porn, it seems like the vast majority of guys are circumcised. But I don't think, I haven't talked to a lot of girls about it, but I don't think it really matters to them. So my final question for you, Marissa, you ready? Ready. How can a guy get a girl as high quality as you? Confidence, number one. Okay. Confidence, number two. And confidence, number three. All confidence. There's a difference though, I'll say, between confidence and cockiness. Don't be cocky because that kind of attitude is a major turnoff.

19:50 But confidence where you aren't pushing yourself on other people and you're not pushing yourself on her, but you're just really comfortable with yourself and really sure of yourself and really sure of what you want. Huge turn on, guys. Yeah, yeah. Actually, I don't know, did I tell you, I did a podcast in honor of your nephew. And I didn't mention him by name, by the way, but it's called The Fundamentals of Attracting Women. Really? 101. Yeah, I did it for him. So that when he asked me, I'm going to send it to him.

20:18 And it's all clean and it's all innocent, like, you know, take her to the movies, stuff like that. And the first thing I said, and I never told this to Marissa, guys, the first thing I said is be fun, right? You have to be fun and really be the fun guy to her. And then the second thing was confidence. And then I went on to talk about, like, don't care so much about what happens because then you look needy and stuff like that. But, you know, confidence is so unbelievably important.

20:42 And how do you get confidence? Well, confidence comes through competence. Competence comes by practicing. Practicing comes by committing to this, investing yourself, approaching and ejecting, like I teach in my three-month coaching program. And, you know, you guys think that you can just sit around and listen to podcasts. Some of you think this. And you'll get better with women. But really, it's all about getting out there, putting yourself out there, which is a central part of my three-month coaching program. If you'd like to learn more about that, go to my website, CoachMarcZing.com.

21:12 Click on coaching, fill in the goddamn slap in the biscuit, and you and I will get on a free one-on-one breakthrough session together to talk about, you know, some of these issues. And the thing about me is guys feel comfortable to tell me about things, porn addiction, premature ejaculation, being too small, being too big. And, you know, I tell them straight up what the real deal is about it, like we did in today's episode. So if you want to chat with me, feel free to do so.

21:37 So I do have some slots open in, I think we're into May now, but there are a few slots open there. So hit me up if you're interested in doing that. Marissa, do you have anything else you'd like to say? Great job, guys. The ladies out there want you to do this, so keep on it. Awesome. I love that. Yeah, the ladies out there want you to improve yourself. They love guys who are trying to better themselves. This is super attractive. So you coming to this podcast, listening this far into it, trust me, it's extremely, extremely attractive.

22:07 So Marissa, thank you so much for coming. Thank you for telling us whether or not the Angry Inch is indeed an issue. You guys, get secure about your red-helmeted warrior. It really is not that big of a deal. Focus on the other things instead. And if you aren't packing the quote-unquote perfect penis, you can make up for it definitely with your game and seducing her by the biggest sexual organ of all, which is her brain. All right, gentlemen, I do appreciate you listening. Thank you so much.

22:33 I drop podcasts on Monday, Wednesday, and Friday, so make sure to stay tuned for the next one, and I will see you in the next episode. We'll see you in the next episode.

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