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0:00 Welcome to the Unapologetic Man Podcast. The only podcast that's all about self-improvement, confidence, success, women, and being a man without making any apologies for it. What's up guys? Mark Sing here. Thanks for tuning in to another episode. And before we get started, I want to address this ridiculous coronavirus paranoia bullshit. I just want to read a couple facts here. If you two are being paranoid about the coronavirus, I just want to read a couple facts because this is absolutely ridiculous. Coronavirus itself isn't new. Just like the flu, coronavirus is a family of respiratory viruses and there are multiple strains which have the ability to change over time.

0:47 Coronavirus is already common in the United States and has been for years. It just had a big outbreak in Wuhan, China at the at the end of 2019. And according to the World Health Organization, as of February 26th, there have been 2,918 confirmed cases of coronavirus outside of China. Okay, 53 of these are in the United States. There's been less than 50 deaths. Okay, I know maybe when this gets published, there's more. I record these things. I record these things a few days in advance, so don't spaz out on me if I'm not exactly right.

1:23 50 deaths. There's 330 million people in the United States. Now, check this out. The CDC, which is the Center for Disease Control, estimates that the flu flu infects between 29 million and 41 million people in the United States alone during one season, resulting in 16,000 to 41,000 deaths. Okay, 50 deaths for the coronavirus, 41,000 deaths for the flu. And they're very, very similar. They're just a virus. I also heard a story that this 98-year-old woman in China kicked the coronavirus, as people can do. Not everybody dies. When I first heard about this thing, and this is the way you should think too, and this is kind of going to be in line with what we're going to talk about today.

2:15 When I first heard about this shit, I was like, dude, bring that shit on. I'll kick that shit in two days. I will break the world record for fucking kicking a virus. And that's the way you got to think as a man. You got to be like, dude, I'm not afraid of that shit. Bring it. Like sometimes when we're on the airplane and we're traveling, Marissa's like always a little bit scared. And I'm like, dude, if this fucking plane crashes, I will save every motherfucker in here.

2:37 And even if everybody else dies, I'm going to be the one survivor. That's the way you have to think, man. You got to think more of a towards mentality. This whole paranoia. It's just feminine energy. Just people being little bitches and being afraid. I hope I don't catch the coronavirus. Let me go get a goddamn face mask that won't even work to keep out viruses. And a bunch of wipes and toilet paper to do God knows what with. Dude, we're supposed to have germs in us.

3:05 You should be licking doorknobs in your cell phone to build up your immune system. My daughter's in daycare and she's sticking everything in her mouth. And I'm just like, yeah, dude, get after it, man. Like get those germs. You need to build your immune system. So anyway, dude, if you're being paranoid about it, if you're scared about it, let that shit go. Let's focus on more important things like getting women. And furthermore, if you're fat, bald, ugly, or insecure, then this podcast episode is specifically for you.

3:33 Before I get started, I just want to remind you that if you leave me a review on iTunes, I will send you either two of my written programs, The Conversation Sniper and Guide to the Female Orgasm, or I'll send you two videos for my $497 Instant Attraction Videos course, send you a couple videos from there. Just email me, CoachMarkSingh at gmail.com. Once again, that's CoachMarkSingh at gmail.com. And as you know, I do offer coaching, CoachMarkSingh.com. All right, guys, without further ado, let's get into it.

4:04 So there's this interesting concept that I really, really like, and I really resonated with the first time I heard it. Okay, have you guys ever heard of the birds of paradise? So the birds of paradise are these birds that live in some remote island, like the Galapagos Island or something like that. And they have these really long tails. Now, the males with the longest tails are more attractive to the female birds. Why is that? Because when they have these long tails, it's actually something that should prevent them from surviving, right?

4:40 They get caught up in the tree. They make them more obvious to predators. They make it more difficult to hunt food. Everything about these long-ass tails makes it more difficult for them. But when they have the long tails and they're able to survive despite it, it makes the females more attracted to them. So the guys with the biggest tails, the guys who have the biggest hindrance are actually more attractive to females. Okay, well, this actually relates to human beings as well. Now, the bird with the long tail is healthy and he's demonstrating his survivability simply by being alive and having this long-ass tail.

5:18 Well, with humans, when we have a quote-unquote downfall, like being fat, being short, being ugly, being bald, even if you're insecure, that could be a downfall for now. But when you understand this concept, you may want to work more on your confidence. But when we have that downfall and we are confident despite it, women will get way more attracted to us. Have you ever seen like a really ugly dude with a hot girl and maybe you made an excuse to yourself that it's because he has money or he has power or she's a call girl or whatever?

5:54 Had it ever occurred to you that maybe he actually legitimately pulled her? And if so, did you ever wonder why? Why do some dudes who are horribly ugly pull hot girls, where other guys who are much better looking don't? Well, once again, as I always say, dude, it's all in your head, bro. Like the fact that you're fat, the fact that you're short, the fact that you're whatever. And believe me, everybody has an insecurity. Okay, whatever your insecurity is, whatever excuse you're making for not being good with women, If you can flip that, and this is part of frame control, so this goes into this week's theme of frame control.

6:30 If you can flip it and accept it without reservations, without apologies, and accept yourself wholeheartedly for who you are and what you are and what you look like, then women will get actually more attracted to you than they would if you were good looking or tall or ripped or whatever story you're telling yourself in your mind as to why you're not getting chicks. If you could have full 100% acceptance of yourself, which by the way is reflected in your body language and your tonality, girls pick up on it, man.

7:02 Girls are super intuitive to this kind of stuff. When you do that, it's exactly like the birds of paradise who have this long ass cumbersome tail. Well, your tail is being fat or being short or whatever it is, and yet you survive well because of it. Now, that's the thing is that your confidence and your acceptance of it shows your survivability, and that's the thing with confidence. That's the thing with frame control. That's the thing with everything we've been working on is it proves to her your survivability.

7:34 When you show a woman survivability, when you show a woman that you're successful in life despite having something that should hold you back, it shows her like, God damn, this guy is really strong. This guy has an exceptionally strong frame. This guy has an exceptionally strong sense of self-acceptance. Therefore, I'm attracted to him. So going back to this week's theme, which is frame control, and by the way, frame control is not over. I'm going to come back with way more things about it, but this week I kind of did focus on it, right?

8:05 Well, frame, once again, is that picture frame that you look through. It's your interpretation of reality. You're creating it anyway, so you might as well create something that is beneficial for you, right? Well, the concept of reframing means that you take something, such as being short, and you reframe it into something positive based on what I just explained to you, that actually being short can work to your advantage when you demonstrate to women that you don't care about it. In fact, you've completely accepted it in yourself, and in so doing, she has like an aha moment like, oh, shit, this guy is mega alpha because he's short.

8:47 You see, I'm six foot two. I don't have the advantage. Look at that reframe, bro. An advantage of being short. When have you ever heard that? Whoa. It's an advantage? Yeah. Because if you're tall and good looking and ripped, it's like you should be confident. It's like no big deal if you're confident, right? Like I work with good looking dudes. And by the way, I'm going to do a podcast for good looking guys who have everything, dude. They're tall, good looking, they're ripped, they have money.

9:17 And they cannot get laid if they're in a Tijuana whorehouse with $100 bills strapped to their penis. And the reason is, is because women expect them to be ultra confident, ultra good frame, ultra good fill in the blank. But if they don't, it's a hindrance, dude. So it's like they've set the bar higher for themselves on a platform that doesn't matter that much. Looks, money, all that shit doesn't matter that much. It's your frame and your confidence in the inner thing that goes on inside your head.

9:49 So dude, if you're short, you actually have an advantage over taller guys because you guys both have to get to this level of confidence. But your confidence, let's say you get to, say you get to like 20 points of confidence. Let's just 20 out of 20, okay? Whatever. And a woman sees that both in you and in him. It's going to be more potent in you because you shouldn't, quote unquote, shouldn't be confident. You should be insecure because you're short. Everybody says short is not good when it comes to attraction, so you shouldn't be proud of yourself for that.

10:23 But when you are proud of yourself for that, it's like way more potent. So you guys who have these insecurities, and it's funny to me because every dude has insecurities that I talk to. I've talked to guys all over the court, man. Good looking guys, ugly guys, fat guys, ripped guys, whatever. Everybody has some bullshit that they're dealing with, which is curious to me, right? The 6'3 guy wants to be 6'2. The really good looking guy wishes that he had better teeth and he's like focused on his teeth.

10:52 Dude, when you look at people like out in public, everybody, most people, unless they're like seriously working on themselves the way you guys should be and probably are because you're listening to a podcast like this one. But like everybody, dude, has like a major insecurity going on. And I feel that most people have it because that's what society kind of does to us. And unless you get coaching, unless you really work on yourself, unless you become that 0.001% of dudes who literally just accepts yourself fully as if you yourself chose the way you are.

11:27 I want to say that again. Accept yourself as if you chose it. You chose your height. You chose your weird eyebrows. You chose your receding hairline. You chose your fat ass or your body that looks like a chicken McNugget with tits. Okay. Choose it. Say yes to it. Surrender to it. Accept it 100%. When you do that, when you get to that level, this is where you reach the top 0.001% of dudes that just get more ass than a toilet seat. Now, you may be wondering about me.

12:05 Mark, have you accepted yourself completely? No. I'm close. Like, dude, I've come miles, thousands of miles from where I was before. But I still have things, too. Like, my lateral incisor, one of my teeth, is just a little bit, sticks out a little bit. A little insecure about that. I have skinny wrists. A little bit insecure about that. I have skinny calves. A little bit insecure about that. But, like, nowhere near where I used to be. And I'm at the level now where it's like when I talk to chicks, that is a non-issue.

12:37 Because it's like such a small insecurity, and I'm vastly confident about the majority of myself, and I accept myself. And then girls get way more attracted to me because of it. But once in a while, dude, I'll see dudes out who are, like, pulling. And I can tell this isn't an escort. This isn't – she's not just dating him for his money. He legitimately got her. And, like, when I talk to these guys, man, they have that it factor of radical self-acceptance, pure confidence, accepting themselves, being their own hero.

13:11 Be your own hero. Can you get to the point where you are your own hero? Not arrogant. Not narcissistic. Just proud of yourself, dude. Proud of yourself. So if you're fat, ugly, bald, insecure about whatever it is you're insecure about, dude, do not wait for a future time for that to go away. Oh, once I lose the weight, I'll get confident. Once I get just for men and fix my hair, then I'll be confident. No, dude. Right now, we need to start having radical self-acceptance. Okay, now that warrants the obvious question.

13:43 How? How do you do that? Well, to be honest with you, brother, if it's really a deep-seated issue, you probably could use some coaching. Now, I'm not trying to tout my services here or to have this be some advertisement. It's just true, man. It's like we have shit in our brains that needs to get removed. And yes, affirmations will work. Yes, you know, doing these things will work. But do you want to spend three years doing it or one hour? Right? And yes, literally, we can remove a fucking splinter from your brain that quickly.

14:14 But if you don't have the money to do that, I understand. The best thing you can do is start talking to yourself differently. Okay? And that starts today. Listen, I'm going to accept myself for my weird tooth. Okay? I'm just going to accept it. It didn't get properly rotated when I had braces is what it is, man. I accept it as if I've chosen it. And when you do that, slowly over time, you begin to accept yourself. Women pick up on this through your body language, tonality, and actions.

14:45 Then they get attracted to you. So keep this in mind, man. The birds of paradise. This long tail that should be a hindrance is actually an attraction switch that you two have when you can accept your biggest insecurity. All right. One more thing about frame control is when you're speaking to a woman and you're not trying to rush what you're saying, that's communicating to her that you're used to being listened to. And guys who are used to being listened to are often in high power situations.

15:19 Guys who are used to being listened to have strong frames. So one of the things I want to point out as well is don't rush what you're trying to say. Now, I mentioned several episodes ago, this guy, Cassidy Campbell. It was the social pressure episode. I said, go watch his videos. He puts himself under massive social pressure. And you can see how epic he is at taking social pressure. Well, one of the things he had recently was this video about opening lines. And I am going to do a podcast on openers here soon.

15:51 But he had this thing. It's like this long opening line, right? And he's just like talking and just saying the funniest shit, dude. Like this situation, right? Where it's like this long explanation of what he'd do just to get her phone number. So what I want to do is I want to challenge myself to go say that to a girl. And what I'm going to try to do is I'm going to try to get some audio of some of the openings and some of the conversations that I have.

16:16 You know, I've tried that before in the past and it didn't go too well. It just didn't pick up right. And then in the nightclubs, it just like, it was horrible, man. It was so loud in there. So I'd have to do it during day game. But I want to show you this opener. And why it would work is because the way you say it to this girl. Like when he was doing these, he was getting phone numbers every single time. The girl was like, yeah, for sure.

16:39 Because he can take the social pressure of sitting there talking for like 30 seconds on this long opener. And because he had that social pressure, that frame control element, accepting himself fully for who he is. And he does, man. He accepts himself and he would get girls attracted to him. He's not a good looking guy. He just has really good presence. Okay. So this is the opener, dude. I can't wait to try this. And I adjusted it slightly for my own means. Okay, here we go. Hey, real quick, real quick.

17:06 Hey, what's up? What's your name? Oh, it's Sarah. What's up, Sarah? I'm Mark. So I have to be honest with you about something. And she'll be like, what? And I'll be like, I would swim through a 150-yard swimming pool filled with razor-sharp glass, naked with my entire body lathered in lemon juice and salt, with steroid-ridden crocodiles jumping at me from both sides, and angry, pissed-off, revenge-ridden hawks diving at me from the sky and trying to take bites out of my little white butt as I swim through this glass swimming pool with you, with you, Sarah, on the other side of that swimming pool, urging me on, telling me to keep going, and me motivated to get to the end of that swimming pool for the one in three billion chance that you'd say yes to the following question.

18:00 And she'll be like, what's the question? You'd be like, can I have your phone number? Dude, I'm really looking forward to saying this. I'm really looking forward to doing it. I'll have to get some recording equipment set up to do it. But I seriously think if I can do that the same way I just did it to you guys, totally calm, totally confident, taking my time, it will get you a phone number. Why? Because it's frame control, isn't it? You're taking the social pressure. You're not rushing.

18:27 You're confident. It's pretty funny too. But the most important thing is that radical self-acceptance of being able to go up to a chick and say this ridiculous thing that she's just like, what the fuck? I can't believe you're saying this. And that's the thing is like, if you can do something to a chick where she's like, oh my God, I can't believe you just did that. Like, dude, I would run out into like the parking lot and stop cars with chicks in it because of the extreme balls it takes to do that.

18:57 Like, hey, stop, stop, stop. And she'd be like, whoa, what? And roll down the window and be like, hey, I just, I had to meet you. You're super cute. I was going to throw myself in front of your car and risk my life just to meet you. So why don't you toss me your number and we'll catch up somewhere outside the parking lot. I'll get phone numbers that way because you show extreme balls. Go up to a group of chicks and be like, hey, everybody, I hate to interrupt you, but I just have to be honest with you.

19:23 I think you, and you point at the girl, I think you are super cute. And I wanted to ask all your other permission if I could talk to her right now. It's on, dude, because it shows like super balls, right? It shows super frame control. So anyway, I just wanted to share that with you guys. I'll be doing that here in the next few weeks, hopefully. And once again, dude, don't trip out on this coronavirus. Don't be afraid of things. Go towards your goals. Don't run away from things.

19:50 Go towards things. And the thing you should be going towards is radical self-acceptance. So I hope this helps you, my friend. If you do want to coach and hit me up, coachmarksingh.com, or you can email me at coachmarksingh at gmail.com. Leave me a review and I'll send you some programs. All right, guys. Once again, thank you so much for listening and I will see you in the next podcast.

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