How to Fix Premature Ejaculation & Erectile Dysfunction FOR GOOD

0:00 Welcome to The Unapologetic Man Podcast. The only podcast that's all about self-improvement, confidence, success, women, and being a man without making any apologies for it. What is up, guys? Thank you for tuning in to another episode of the UMP. I really do appreciate it. And today, we are going to talk about premature ejaculation as well as erectile dysfunction, psychological issues that create these physical phenomenons that most of you guys don't even know why it happens. And I'm going to give you a lot of great tips as to why this may be happening to you and let you know that I suffered from both for a good long time, especially the premature ejaculation thing for a good long time during my 20s.

0:48 And it happens to a lot of my clients. I actually just got an email from a client who says, Mark, I've been attracting more women than I have time to deal with due to your program. There is one thing that totally slipped my mind to mention in my NLP intake form, though. It's that I suffer from psychological erectile dysfunction, and I think it's related to performance anxiety. Can you please help me out? Well, when you join my three-month coaching program, I create for you a custom three-month NLP protocol that you go through over those 12 weeks.

1:21 And yes, I do actually have a lot of protocols for erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation. So this gentleman obviously forgot to talk about it. So what I did is I crafted up for him a custom NLP protocol, sent that to him, and he's good to go. So if you want to get on a free one-on-one breakthrough session with me, and if you're suffering from something embarrassing like erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation, trust me, bro, I've heard it all before. And yes, I do have tools to help my guys get over them, just as I was able to get over them, so that I can last literally as long as I want to, and I can come on command, which isn't really that hard.

1:59 It's just all about belief systems. Now, some of you guys, a little caveat to this, may be suffering from something more physical, something that I'm not qualified to coach you through. What I'm coaching on is completely psychological. And I will take a guess that probably 90% of people who have issues with erectile dysfunction and specifically premature ejaculation, actually both of them, it's usually psychological. I mean, it definitely was for me. I had major issues, as a lot of you guys know, especially during my 20s, issues with anxiety, issues with my confidence, not feeling like enough, feeling like a beta cuck.

2:36 And that was the cause of my premature ejaculation. In fact, I used to get with really, really hot girls, and I wouldn't be able to get it up. And you may ask yourself, well, why wouldn't you be able to get it up with a super fucking attractive girl? I'm going to explain that, but it's all psychological. It's all psychological. So if you're suffering from this, first of all, I want to give you hope this can be fixed. And listen, if it's not with me, I highly suggest you go find an NLP coach.

3:03 NLP is Neural Linguistic Programming. If you Google it, you can find people who use NLP specifically. And these protocols, these visualizations that we take our clients through are extremely powerful. So if you don't want to work with me, I really don't give a shit. I have a long waiting list. I got plenty of dudes who want to work with me. I just want you to get help, and I don't want you to suffer from this the way that I did. Because I know how debilitating it is.

3:29 I know how much anxiety there is going into a situation when you know you're going to come faster than a beta cuck monkey trying to get his load off so the alpha doesn't catch him. Which, by the way, is one of the reasons for premature ejaculation. I know what it's like. And it freaking sucks, man. Like, you're about to put it into the girl, and you don't want to rub your dick accidentally along the pillow. Because if you do, you just lost 10 pumps, and you know you're going to come even faster.

3:54 It's just a really anxiety-provoking situation. And then what happens? The anxiety makes it worse. And it's just a snowball effect where it just gets worse and worse and worse. And before you know it, you don't even want to have sex anymore because either you can't get it up or you come too quickly or maybe even some other issue that you guys are facing when it comes to sex, it's all psychological. Or I should say, most of it is psychological. What's all psychological is what I'm going to talk about in this episode.

4:24 So if it's not psychological for you, if you have some physical malady that prevents you from being able to get it up or you come too quickly, I'm sorry this episode is not going to help you with that. This is for 90% of the guys listening where it's psychological. And you know what's interesting is I bet most of my listeners are going to listen to this because they've suffered from it in one form or another. I get on coaching calls all the time with my guys. I create NLP protocols for what's now thousands of different men.

4:53 Usually they have some sort of issue with this, so it's nothing to be ashamed of. It's completely natural. All right. So the first reason for premature ejaculation as well as erectile dysfunction is you think the girl is out of your league. Okay. So if you give yourself a seven and you hook up with an eight, a nine, or a 10, and you think she's hotter than you are, then you feel that you don't deserve a woman of that caliber. You feel that you're not up to her level.

5:22 Therefore, you want to get sex over with quickly or not have sex at all because you don't feel you're worth it. And you don't feel you got what it takes to be able to satisfy that woman. So it's like a self-fulfilling prophecy. You are purposely, at least subconsciously so, shooting yourself in the foot to prevent yourself from making a fool of yourself as it were, or prevent her from finding out that in fact, you don't feel you're worth enough to be with her. But what's interesting is it actually causes that thing you're trying to avoid in the first place.

5:54 So you feel like you're a seven, okay? And you're hooking up with, let's say, an eight and you can't get it up. Well, what's happening? Okay. What's happening is you don't want to have sex with her and for her to find out that you're actually less of a man than she is a woman, so your dick will actually not get hard to prevent you from having sex. But then what happens? She gets disappointed, obviously, because she wants to have sex with you. You get disappointed. And then every time thereafter, you're fearing that happening again, which actually makes it happen again, doesn't it?

6:25 I've been there, man. Like, I know a lot of you guys are nodding your head right now, being like, damn, this guy really understands me. I've been there. You and I have been in the same situation where I'm about to have sex with this fucking 10, and my goddamn red-helmeted warrior won't get up ready for battle. The thing's just limp, hanging in my underwear like a fried noodle, and I'm like, come on, you motherfucker, let's do this. And then one time, man, I knew I was going to get with this fucking 10.

6:49 And at that time, I didn't have the confidence that I have now. And by the way, I think I'm a 10 now, so no girl's out of my league. That's the way that I think, and that's why I didn't get it up with any girl. But I remember this one time I was about to hook up with this super hot girl, and so I took one of those boner biscuits, and that thing gave me a painful, debilitating erection that lasted something like eight hours. That was the most painful fucking thing I've ever been through.

7:14 Never took one of those biscuits since. God damn, man. It gave me like a bad headache, too. It was a horrible, horrible day, bro. I got a boner the size of the Statue of Liberty that wouldn't fucking quit, man. The thing just kept going and going, and it really starts to hurt, man. It's like blue balls. I'm sure a lot of you guys have been there, too. So you got to mess with the dosages a little bit. But when that happened, I worked on it with NLP, and I got over these issues.

7:38 Because when you work with a coach, especially the way I've been working with my coach, you don't always realize what your situations are until they happen, and then fortunately, you have the NLP to be able to work on it. And what's really cool about my program is I actually teach my clients how to do NLP, which means after the three months, they have lifetime access to all the NLP protocols that I have. So when a situation happens in the future, say with something completely unrelated to women and dating, they're able to use the NLP in the way that I've taught them to deal with that situation.

8:14 So for example, you're really into golf, right? And we worked together for three months. You don't think about golf. You're only working on women. But it turns out that you have belief systems. You have issues. You have metaprograms, schemas, archetypes, even a trauma. When it comes to something related to golf, as strange as that might sound, you're able to fix it, and we can improve literally anything that you do. That's why there's a saying, a high tide raises all boats, is because when you improve with women, you improve in all aspects of your life.

8:45 And that's why I love what I do, which is neuro-linguistic programming. I add in the inner game element of helping men become attractive to women because a high tide raises all boats. They make more money. They become more successful in everything that they do, which is why I really love it. So when I was with that super hot girl and I couldn't get it up, I started working on my belief systems that I was just an eight. I've always felt that I was an eight ever since I was like 20 years old.

9:12 I'm like, okay looking. You guys have seen my picture, but I'm not like super good looking. I'm over six foot. I'm pretty ripped. I give myself a solid eight when it all comes down to it. But a belief system is just a belief system. It's BS. And you can literally believe whatever the hell you want to believe. So I chose to believe I was a 10. Now when I get with 10 and my fucking girlfriend's a 10, man, I get a boner the size of the Statue of Liberty without having to take the boner pills and I can go literally as long as I want to, come when I want to, and then the fucking thing goes down so I don't have that debilitating, painful erection that lasts more than 15 hours.

9:50 God, that hurt. God bless America that that fucking thing hurt. So one of the reasons is you think you're a seven or you think you're a six or a five. The key is to think that you're a 10 so that no matter what happens with whatever girl, you know that you're enough and you're going to put it to her like a goddamn champion and give her an amazing sexual experience. The next reason a lot of guys have issues, and this is probably the biggest reason, is because of shame or taboo around sexuality itself.

10:21 So there may be a meta program in your brain that says sex is wrong, sex is dirty, sex is shameful, your own sexuality is shameful, and or you're disgusting when you're having sex, you think you look gross, you think you make weird noises, you think you make weird faces when you're coming, you turn into a troll on the Lord of the Rings when you're coming and you don't want her to see you do that. So of course, you're going to either come quickly or not be able to get it up in order to avoid sex altogether.

10:50 So if you think sex is shameful, right, you have this banging girl on your bed, and by the way, you think you're an eight and she's a 10, let's say, she's got her legs spread and you're like, oh my God, I can't wait to get into this. What's going to happen is subconsciously, you're going to make yourself come faster so that you could get it over with because you think sex is shameful and or you think you're an eight and she's a 10. So of course, if we think something is bad, if we think something is gross, if we think something is shameful, something to be ashamed of, our own sexuality, for example, we're going to try to get it over with or not do it at all.

11:25 So if you think like sex is a sin, right, and this happens tons with people who come from Christian families, people who were born in the Bible belt, or even for me, man, like I had a little bit of exposure to Christianity when I was a kid and it got into my mind that like sex is sinful, sex before marriage is sinful. So what's going to happen? You're not going to be able to get a boner because your body is literally preventing you from having sex because you think it's sinful.

11:50 You think it's wrong. You think you're going to be punished for it. You're going to go to hell for having sex before marriage. Therefore, you're not going to have sex. Your body's going to prevent you from doing it. All right. And the third reason for things like erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation is because you believe you are beta. So in all social circumstances, whether it's with human beings or monkeys or fish or chickens or whatever, there's always a pecking order that develops. Okay. So with chickens, for example, pecking order literally comes from chickens because they align themselves based on who's the most powerful.

12:25 And then it goes all the way down to the final dude who's like the gamma cuck, right? And that's where cuck comes from as well. It comes from chickens. So there's always a pecking order that's developed. Now, whether you like it or not, you have an idea of where you land in the pecking order of humans, where you land against me, where you land against your friends, where you land against the alpha quote unquote, Chad, who's better than you. Captain of the football team makes more money, is taller, more ripped, better looking.

12:55 Everything is better than you. So you believe you're beta to that guy. So anytime we believe that we're beta to somebody else, and if you believe this, and a lot of you guys do, that is a major fucking problem. I want you feeling like that alpha quote unquote, Chad. And that's what my coaching program does. It's not even lying to yourself. It's just fully accepting yourself as if you chose the way you are. And that's exactly how you want to be. See, it's not the circumstances that matter.

13:23 For example, how tall you are, how good looking you are, how much money you make. It's how you think about those circumstances that matter. So even if you are five, five, a little bit fat, balding, I can still have you believe that you're a fucking 10, not by virtue necessarily of how you look, but just who you are as a fucking dude. And even in some ways, yeah, we can get you to feel like the way you look is the best way to look. Even if you are, for example, five, five, fat and balding, there's a girl out there who's super attracted to that type of guy.

13:55 So why can't every girl be attracted to that type of guy? Why can't you feel like a 10? Why are you telling yourself that you're beta and the other dude is the alpha? Well, what happens is when you have sex with a girl, when you feel like you're a beta, you try to get the sex over with quicker or avoid it altogether so that you don't get caught by the alpha male. This literally happens in monkey societies or monkey tribes or whatever they're called, monkey clans. Okay.

14:21 So the beta cock will be there. The alpha male will be distracted. The female will be attracted to the beta cock for whatever reason. And he'll have sex with her and he'll come super fast to avoid getting caught by the alpha. This happens with us too. And I'm pretty sure this was the situation with me where when I would have sex with a really hot girl, I'd come super fast because subconsciously it's almost like that alpha Chad is in the next room. And if he walks in and catches you, you're going to get beat up and maybe even killed.

14:50 So this is really a survival mechanism that a lot of guys impose on themselves without even realizing it. So let me ask you, man, do you think that there's other guys out there that are more attractive than you are, better than you are for women? Do you think sometimes why would she want to be with me? She'd probably want to be with a guy who's much more handsome, taller, makes more money. Whatever reason you have in your head, admit to yourself right now. Do you think that way?

15:16 If you do, this could be a major reason for premature ejaculation or even erectile dysfunction. And I don't want to put you in a post-hypnotic trance or anything, but if you think that way, I want to let you know that the possibility of you suffering from erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation is still there when you think this way. So while some of you may have not had problems with it in the past, it could come in the future if you think that you're beta. What's the solution to this?

15:43 Just start convincing yourself that you're fucking alpha, that you're a catch, that you're a 10, that you're the prize, as I spoke about recently in a previous episode. Okay, now, I will admit to you that this episode is really identifying the problem, and for a lot of you, awareness alone is curative. But for some of you, it takes intrusive NLP work to be able to remove this shit. This is why I suggested to you to go hire an NLP coach, even if it's not me. Now, obviously, in my three-month coaching program, I have a multi-tiered system where I teach you not only all my best, most elite, amazing techniques, tricks, and tactics to attract women, but I also reprogram your brain with NLP, and this is definitely something that gets worked on.

16:26 Even if we don't tackle it directly, it's something that gets worked on because I make you feel like a 10. I make you feel like the alpha. No longer are you a beta. That lexicon is not even in your brain anymore. You're like, beta, what does that even mean? That other guy over there is a beta cuck. Not me. I'm a fucking alpha, silverback, elite man, and a girl would be absolutely lucky to have sex with me. So like me, right? When I'm born in a hot girl, I don't feel like I'm going to get caught.

16:52 I feel like I am that dude. I'm the fucking alpha that she's lucky enough to be with. That's why I can go literally as long as I want to and then come on command. And this come on command thing, I personally believe that when you get your belief systems right, you get the ability to do so. Because you feel so worth it. You feel so in control of not only yourself, but also the situation of sex that you can control when you come. And you guys can.

17:17 It really is just psychological. At first blush, it seems like, oh, it's feeling really good. Here it comes. It's out of my control. It's not. You can psychologically control that shit. And when you feel like you're the alpha, you are able to do that. As crazy as it may sound, that is literally how it works. All right, and the final reason, which kind of goes into some of the other reasons that I gave was lacking confidence in how you look, lack of confidence in your skills with sex.

17:43 Like you may not think that you know how to move correctly, lack of confidence in the size of your penis or the way it's shaped or the way it looks. You don't want to get it up because when it's a boner, it looks like a mushroom in the forest where something went drastically wrong and the head isn't even as big as the shaft and there's a big old bubble at the base of it. And you're like, man, I don't want girls to see this weird looking penis.

18:03 I get it, bro. I get it. A lot of my guys suffer from that. But I'll tell you, when it comes to women, they often don't give a shit how big your penis is. They don't really give a shit what it looks like. They just want you to give them the experience of feeling wanted. They want to feel sexy. They probably want to get off. They just want to have that experience with you. They just want to bond with you, connect with you. And so many guys get caught up in like, oh, my dick isn't big enough.

18:27 Oh, it looks weird. It's got a bend in it. It looks like a red-helmeted warrior that's been beat up so many times. It's just a fraction of its former self. I get it, man. I've heard all this stuff before. I want you to know there's literally millions of dudes out there who suffer from the same thing. So whatever the reason is, awareness alone is curative. Just you realizing why you may suffer from premature ejaculation or erectile dysfunction will oftentimes be enough to cure it in itself.

18:55 If you were listening to this episode and you're like, damn, he's right, dude. I do feel like I'm a seven so that every time I hook up with an eight or a nine or a ten, it happens. Yet when I hook up with a girl who I feel is less than I am, it doesn't seem to happen. Well, right there, you know it's because of that. Or you have issues with feeling sex is wrong, feeling it's shameful, feeling it's a sin in some sort of way, and you're like, damn, he's right.

19:17 This religion that my parents preached to me when I was a kid is really screwing me up. Or maybe you were caught masturbating and your mom shamed the shit out of you. So now you have shame wrapped up into sex. So anytime you're about to have sex with a girl, you can't get it up. And some guys can't even get it up when they masturbate. Think about that. Or they ejaculate very quickly when they masturbate. Like they get there in seven seconds flat because in their own head, they're like, well, it's because I know how to touch myself.

19:42 No, it's not. It's because you have issues with it. You feel it's shameful. So you come super quick in order to get it over with. And then you feel this huge sense of guilt after you do it. God, that used to be me. I used to feel so guilty after I masturbate. Now it's like, whatever, man, it's totally natural. I have no shame in the game. I do it and then move on with my fucking day without being dragged down by the sense of guilt. So if that's you, bro, you got to work on your belief systems.

20:09 You got to work on those programs that somebody else gave you before you can defend yourself. How stupid is that, that all of us, and not just you, this includes me, actually mostly me, we're working, and I say we're for me, maybe with you, the right word is are, but we're working with programs that somebody else gave to me before I could defend myself. Fuck that, man. Fuck that. I'm going to choose what I want to believe. And I choose to believe sex is beautiful. Sex is right.

20:36 It's a way to connect. It's totally healthy. Consturbation is healthy. I feel like I'm a fucking 10. I can go as long as I want to. And maybe some past insecurities about the way my penis looked and whatever insecurities I may have suffered from in the past, maybe the way my body looks, oh, my legs are too skinny. I fucking throw those to the side because I know that it's only hindering me. Everybody has something they don't like about themselves. So stop dwelling on it and just accept it.

21:01 And when you do, oftentimes that alone is enough to cure it. Also, be completely 100% honest with yourself. Do you think that you're a beta? Do you think that you're gross when you're naked? Do you think you're bad at sex? Do you think you couldn't pleasure her with what you're working with? All these things take an absolutely realistic, honest self-assessment. And when you identify them, sometimes for some of you, that alone will be curative. But if you want more intrusive NLP coaching on how to get through these with these NLP protocols that have completely changed my life, as well as the lives of others, as you heard in that first email I read, he's like, yo, I'm getting more girls than I ever have before, but I forgot to tell you about this whole thing.

21:44 This shit really works. My program really works. It's super fucking effective. So if you want to jump on the call with me, I suggest you do so sooner rather than later, because as I've mentioned in previous episodes, January, February, and probably even March are going to be absolutely slammed with all those people who are going to change their lives in 2022. And I'm for it, man. I like people who want to change their lives. Why they had to wait until 2022, I don't really understand. So for those of you who don't need the New Year's to motivate you to change, get on the call with me now, because the tsunami of people applying for my free one-on-one breakthrough session is coming.

22:21 And if you don't get in before the wave hits, you're going to have to wait months and months to meet with me. So if you have these issues, I'm here for you, man. This is what I do. I work with guys every fucking day that have these issues, and yes, I get them over them. I get emails all the time of, bro, that absolutely worked. I hit it like a goddamn champion. I lasted 20 minutes. I absolutely killed it, and she wanted more, dude. We did it again the next morning.

22:45 I hear that shit all the time because the stuff really does work. So if you're suffering from this and, and I have to say this, I don't just do NLP. Just so you guys know, I also teach how to get women. This is an all-inclusive, two-tiered package. This three-month coaching program is specifically designed to get you women. So if you're married, have a girlfriend, or don't want to get hundreds of new women into your life over the next three months, don't contact me. Go hire some other NLP coach.

23:11 But if you're ready to get women, have tons of experience, and yes, have tons of sex, while at the same time letting me fix your issues with premature ejaculation or erectile dysfunction, hit me up at coachmarksing.com. Click on coaching, fill in the goddamn slap in the Jesus, and you and I will get on that free one-on-one breakthrough session together. All right, gentlemen, I got an awesome one dropping on Thursday, so make sure to stay tuned for that one, and I will see you in the next episode.

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