How to Get a Girl Back: Mark Sing's Proven Method

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0:33 Go ahead, PayPal yourself. You have my permission. Buy yourself something nice. Today, we're going to talk about how to get a girl back that you've been texting with or that you've been talking to and she ghosts you, she loses interest and we want to talk about how to get her back. Before we jump into the content, I just want to thank all of you for the epic reviews. They just keep coming, man. They just keep coming. Every morning, I wake up and check my cell phone.

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1:23 And of course, I'll tattoo your name on my neck because I really do appreciate you guys. So let's jump into it. All right. So a lot of us get ghosted. It's happened to me. It's happened to you. Hell, it's even happened to me. And that's just part of the game, right? And that's why we want to fill the top of our pipeline with as many girls as possible. Be talking to girls all the time because some of them are going to fall off. There's a myriad of circumstances that play a role into whether or not they're going to fall off or stay on.

1:53 And we have to look at women as like little cats floating through space on a piece of pizza with little stars around them and comets going by going, zoo, zoo. And they're like, meow. And they get very easily distracted. That's kind of like the female mind, right? Gets very easily distracted. So don't put all your eggs in one basket. Don't hope that that one girl is going to be the one who's going to keep going with you because, hey, she may ghost you. And what's the best way to deal with girls?

2:22 Once again, the ultimate principle. Pretend you're dating five girls. What would I do if I were dating five girls? So let's go ahead and apply that to this situation. You're texting a girl and she falls off. Would you give two shits if she fell off if you were talking to five girls? No. So what would you do? You'd stop texting her. Now, here's a way to set up for yourself a situation where you can reel a girl back in who's ghosted you. And you want to do this before you start talking to her.

2:46 I should say while you're talking to her. And that solution is Instagram. On Instagram, straight flexing. So what you want to do with Instagram, as we've talked about a lot in this podcast, is you want to show pre-selection. You want to show that you have a fun life. You're a fun-loving guy. You have lots of women in your life. You have a great lifestyle. And that's going to get women attracted to you just on its own. You know, instead of taking a girl's phone number, a lot of times it's good to take an Instagram.

3:20 She's going to look at it and then you're going to grow in value in her eyes. And then you can send her a DM and then go for her phone number. Then it's a really good way to do it. But even if you get a girl's phone number, you want to try to get the Instagram thing set up as soon as possible. Follow her. She follows you. Boom. You got that set up. Because if she starts ghosting you, what you do is you pull back. Okay.

3:41 Once again, the principle, what would I do if I were dating five girls? I wouldn't care. I'd pull back. I'd stop texting her. So as I mentioned in a recent previous episode, you want to do one for one texting. Then if she stops texting, then you don't text her back for two weeks. Yes. Two weeks. Now, another principle is if she does two one word responses in a row, that to me is the same thing as her not texting back at all. Once again, I wait two weeks.

4:13 So if you say something, then she busts out an LOL. Then you say another great thing. And she says, ha ha ha. Boom. Done. Now you'd be surprised at how well it works when you pull away. See, many of us, what we do when a girl pulls away is we chase more. We chase more. We try harder. We send more texts. We follow up. That is the wrong way to do it. What you want to do is pull back just as much as she does. Now, here's the interesting thing.

4:36 Imagine that cat on a piece of pizza floating through space. She's looking to the right. Oh, a shooting star, right? And shooting star is Brad, the dude who she met at Del Taco three weeks ago, who she's talking to in addition to talking to you. By the way, girls are talking to other guys. Just note that. If you feel bad, like, oh, I'm talking to five girls. She's talking to five dudes, okay? And now she's a little distracted. And so you're okay with it. You're like, meh, whatever.

5:05 Now you're doing your cool thing. Now suddenly Brad is the dude who's getting all the attention. He fucks up. He chases too much. And then her attention goes, oh, what's over here? Now, in the meantime, you haven't been following up with her. You've been posting awesome stuff to your Instagram. You've been showing you're with other girls. You've been showing you've been doing fun stuff. She is going to hit you up. This is the way to bait girls to hit you up is to live a life that she's jealous of.

5:32 Ultimately, that's the best way to do it. Preemptively assume that she's going to end up falling off. Now, it's not a really good assumption from a psychological standpoint of your own self-worth, but it's a good thing to kind of hope for the best, but prepare for the worst kind of thing, right? And setting up the Instagram early on is preparing for the worst. So once again, she starts ghosting. She starts losing interest. Bro, if she's not putting in the same amount of effort that I'm putting in, if she's not really participating in the conversation, then I ghost her.

6:07 And you'd be surprised how powerful no response is, how powerful pulling back is. They will start chasing you. When in doubt, whip it out. Nope, that's not the right advice there. When in doubt, stop texting her. Yeah, that's the right advice. Anytime a girl does anything that you're questioning, bro, almost always the right answer is to stop texting her. And she's going to follow up with you, especially once again, when you get the Instagram in place. Okay. Let's say you don't have Instagram. You don't want to set it up.

6:36 You're stubborn. All right. I understand, especially for some of you older gentlemen, you're like, eh, Instagram, really? I understand. I get it. I'm 43 years old as well. Do I really want to be like posting, you know, me at parties and bathing in a bikini with a margarita on the beach? Not really. Okay. I have a lot better things to do, but I'll tell you what, if I broke up with Marissa, my current girlfriend, and I was back out in the market, I would set up my Instagram very intentionally.

7:03 I mean, I have even had clients hire like models to hang out with them and just get some pictures. That's how powerful it is. And that's something you can do. You could even go out to a random hot girl in a club and be like, Hey, you know, I'm going to be honest with you. I want a cute girl on my Instagram. Would you be willing to take a picture with me? They love that shit. They'll take pictures with you. I've had all kinds of clients do that.

7:28 You know, just go up to a bunch of hot chicks, take pictures. It looks like you have an awesome life. Then when you get whomever's phone number, Sarah's phone number, and you're like, yo, what's your Instagram? Oh, it's this. What's yours? It's this. She's going to look through it. Then suddenly you got all this pre-selection. One quick tip where this is concerned is you don't want to look like you're hooking up with these girls. You want to look like you have a lot of girlfriends and a lot of girls in your life, and you have an awesome, fun lifestyle.

7:52 That's the point. Okay. So back to didn't get the Instagram or even Facebook or Snapchat, whatever, whatever you're into, you didn't get it. Okay. You just got the phone number and you're texting and she falls off. Well, once again, when she starts falling off is when you should pull back. Don't push her until she's like grossed out, like following up a lot, trying to chase her. So that's rule principle number one. When you feel it, and we can feel it, dude, we can feel it. She has ho-hum responses.

8:20 She's not really into it. She's starting to fall off. Boom, pull back. Just stop texting. She'll follow up with you. You'd be surprised. Okay. She's going to follow up with you. Now let's say you made all the mistakes. Okay. You chase too much. You, you admitted your love to her. She saw her picture on your ceiling. When you were video chatting with her, you wrote the poem, left the flowers, confessed your love for her, did everything wrong. Okay. And she goes to you, bro. I'm going to be honest with you, man.

8:54 It's really hard to get a girl like that back. Okay. When you really fucked up or when she's just not into it, it's like trying to bleed blood from a rock. And a lot of guys hit me up like, dude, how can I get this girl back? Tell me what to text her. What's the magic three word phrase to get her back? Brother, isn't any. We have to set things up initially. We have to work smart and preemptively, preemptive, preemptively set it up for our benefit.

9:15 Once again, that's Instagram, pre-selection, dating five girls, having hooks in the water from all kinds of different sources, like seven dating sites, cold approach, that fricking salsa class you're taking, the basket weaving class that you're really into, right? Like we need all kinds of sources to get these girls into our lives so that when that happens, you can pull away confidently without looking thirsty and then she'll come back on her own. But let's say you did everything wrong. Okay. Here's what I suggest you text. Now don't hold it against me if it doesn't work.

9:50 Once again, if she ghosted you and you don't have these other things in place, honestly, bro, it's like trying to shoot a basket from the half court line, probably not going to make it, but here's what I would do. I would just say, so Sarah, dot, dot, dot. Okay. So Sarah, and then she says, yes, Nick. And you say, there's something I just realized about you. Or, you know, depending, I want you guys to kind of adjust this. Uh, there's something about me. You should know.

10:21 Okay. So you could say there's something I just realized about you. Let's go on that thread. She's going to be like, what's that? Okay. Now, what are we doing here? We are baiting her and getting conversational momentum. If you say, so Sarah, there's something interesting about you. I just realized what I realized is this, this, and this, isn't that interesting. She's going to be like, bit, you know, ignore that. I already blew this guy out. Why is he texting me? But if you say, so Sarah, dot, dot, dot, kind of gets her curious.

10:54 And remember, curiosity is equal to attraction. It's basically the same thing. When she's curious, it's building attraction. And everybody's curious about things. Remember, women are addicted to their cell phones. They're addicted to stimulus. So look, you might not get her back with this because she may just be mildly interested in wanting attention in the moment, but at least it's better than nothing. Okay. So, so Sarah, dot, dot, dot. Yes, Nick, there's something real. There's something about you. I just realized. Okay. Now you can say a number of different things.

11:21 Here's what I would usually say. I would say, and she'd say what? And I'd be like, you sure you want to know? She'd be like, yes. Okay. There's so many good things about you and just one bad. All right. She's going to be like, what's the bad? And you'd be like, you have to promise not to get pissed and beat me up. Like you did that girl outside the club the other night when her boob flew out and it looked like a national geographic boob. Okay.

11:46 Something like that. I'm just making that up. I've said that a couple of times, kind of funny. Okay. And she's going to say, yes, I promise. Now, now at some point in this, I want you guys to fall off. Stop texting her when she's really chasing, give her a little taste of her own medicine. Like don't text her when you feel she's into it. She really wants to know. Okay. That whole thing. There's so many good things about you and just one bad really gets girls intrigued.

12:12 And I would suggest you try that when you're texting with the chick. If she's really intrigued, then blow, give her a taste of her own medicine and don't reply. I like to do this a lot. Like when she's really, really interested, I'll like say, okay, here it goes. I'm going to tell you. And then like, I won't text her for like a day, kills them, kills them. And you got to have the balls to do that. So she's going to say, what is that? Then you can say, it's too bad.

12:34 You're flakier than a box of cornflakes. Or you can say, it's too bad. Uh, you don't like to text because I thought you were pretty cool. But then again, I like to look when she's, when she's like ghosted me, I like to come back with a little bit of attitude. Now you have to feel this for yourself, but I'll tell you what, doing the nice guy thing, like it's too bad. You don't live closer. So I can take you home with me, or it's too bad.

12:56 You don't want to hang out. It's just not going to go well for you. So I like to like straight up point out like, it's too bad. You're flakier than cornflakes. Uh, it's too bad. You're a mean girl. Cause if I wanted to watch mean girls, I'd stream it on Netflix, something like that. And all these, by the way, you can get from my book, the conversation sniper to which I will send to you if you leave me a review, but here's the basic principle. And I want you guys to get creative with it on your own is when a girl starts falling off or she goes to you.

13:26 Do not follow up with her two weeks, three weeks, a month. Hopefully yet again, you are able to show some pre-selection. If you're not, when you follow up with her, do the so Sarah dot, dot, dot thing. Yes, Nick, I just realized something about you. What's that? There's so many good things about you and just one bad. And she's like, what's the bad, by the way, she's always going to say, what's the bad. Like I've done it probably 10,364 times. And only three of those times did she not buy into it.

13:56 And funny enough, one of the girls that didn't buy into that was, is upstairs right now. It's my girlfriend, Marissa. One of the reasons I fell for her is because she had massively good game, super strong frame. And it was crazy because like, she didn't buy into a lot of these kinds of things where I would get girls to chase me. Uh, she's just fucking dope like that. Like she's, she's really good at like frame control and stuff. So anyway, quick side note, but when it comes to this, she's always going to say, what's the bad.

14:23 Now you have to think about it. Now, a couple of things. You don't want to straight insult her. You kind of want to make it funny, right? If you say too bad, you're a goddamn flake because I fucking hate flakes and texting with you is more boring than watching paint dry. It's a little bit too much. You can say there's so many good things about you and just one bad. And she'll be like, what's the bad. And you could be like, well, texting with you is more boring than watching paint dry.

14:48 And it puts me to sleep before my bedtime. You could, you could probably say that, but we have to be careful where we want to push a little bit and show we're not to be fucked with, but at the same time, we don't want to piss them off. So there's that dichotomy there. And once again, you guys, this is a fricking free throw from the half court line, probably not going to happen, but it might. And it's even more likely to happen. Once again, if you're able to somehow show the preselection.

15:15 Now, what if you're talking to a girl and you see her at school, you see her at work, you guys go on a couple of dates and that starts falling off. That's okay. That's even better because now she's seeing you. What do you do? You work on yourself, work on yourself, begin working out, wearing new clothes, talking about, you know, girls where she can overhear you doing some of like the preselection stuff that I've talked about in previous podcasts, like showing up with some glitter on your face or like a little bit of makeup on your collar or something like that.

15:48 I know it's petty, but you want to show her like, yo, I'm done with you. I'm not chasing you anymore. I've moved on and I'm improving my life. That is super, super important. When a girl blows you out, you have to go into radical self-improvement, self-improving like no tomorrow, increase your wardrobe, get a new haircut, be happy around her, be like, yo, I don't even care what happened. It's cool. It's chill. And you can even tell her, Hey, listen, you know, I get it. Like we didn't really work out.

16:13 It's totally fine. I hope we can still be friends. And you're like really confident about it. And then you're like, Hey, I gotta, I gotta take this call. And then like, she thinks it's a girl. That's the kind of vibe you want to set up. There's no chasing her. There's pulling away and improving yourself and letting her come back around. Okay. Once again, that cat on a cat, dude, like girls are just like cats. If you go up to a cat and try to pet it and try to chase it and like hold it there and try to try to like really give it a lot of affection, it's going to run from you.

16:45 What's the secret to a cat? You give it a little and then you push it away. Then what happens when the cat starts purring, coming up to you, give it a little bit more, push it away, give it a little bit more, push it away. It's a perfect analogy for girls. And that's how you get a girl interested in you again. Okay. So if you just grab the number, especially online, and then it falls off, very difficult to get back. But that's the principle that I suggest.

17:12 The so Sarah thing, if it's a girl at your work or school or something like that, then the way you get it back is by pulling back, improving yourself, showing preselection without looking like you're trying too hard, being totally fine with it, being charismatic, using some of the lines that I teach in the conversation sniper on her, you know, like give her some charisma and then take it away from her. Say something funny, walk away. Always taking it away from her. Give a little takeaway, give a little takeaway.

17:39 Then she'll start coming back like, so James, you know, like, what have you been up to? What are you up to this weekend? And then still kind of hold her back like, oh, I'm hanging out with some friends. We're going up to the mountains. And this is actually true for me, you guys. This Saturday, I'm going up to the mountains with three girls. And I actually opened a girl in the supermarket with this. I said, hey, do you think that they put the new bread in the front or the back?

18:02 Because I'm going up to the mountains with three girls. And if I bring up some stale Hawaiian bread, they're going to crucify me. See, I worked that into my opener about how I'm hanging out with girls. And that's what you want to do with a girl who you're dating. Like, hey, it's cool. You know what? You lost interest. Totally understand. No hard feelings whatsoever. We just weren't compatible. I'm bettering myself. And yeah, I'm dating other girls. I'm hanging out with these girls. And by the way, I'm doing all this cool shit too.

18:28 And check out my new coif. I got a new haircut. Check it out, right? You want to like show her that you're bettering yourself. So I know it really hurts you guys when a girl you really like kind of starts blowing you out and you came to this podcast hoping to get some answers where you could just say three magical words and she'd just jump right back on your dick. Unfortunately, those don't exist. But that's the best way to do it. And I've done it a few times and it's worked.

18:52 You know, pulling back and showing high value and showing that you're unaffected and you have new girls in your life. I mean, there's really no better way than that. And once again, I want to stress when you first get a girl's number or information, try to exchange the Instagram. And even if you're older, like I am, it's worth the effort to at least show that you have a cool lifestyle, at least show that you have women in your life and you're pre-selected, at least show that you're an attractive guy that she'd want to be with because that preemptive establishment of that high value tool is going to help you possibly in the future when she's the cat floating throughout her space on the pizza and she looks at a comment to her right and she loses interest in you.

19:35 You can bring your attention back, give her a little attention, push her away, give her a little attention, push her away, and then she'll be back into you again. All right, guys, I hope that helped out and I'm going to come with some awesome content on Friday. I got another really good topic to talk about that I think will interest you. So keep checking back in. If you haven't yet, please subscribe. And if you leave me a review, please email me and I will send you all those programs so that you can entertain them and not lose them in the first place.

20:03 All right, guys, thank you so much for listening and I'll see you in the next episode. I'll see you in the next episode.

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