How to Lead Women With Your Masculinity

0:00 Welcome to the Unapologetic Man Podcast, the only podcast that's all about self-improvement, confidence, success, women, and being a man without making any apologies for it. What is up guys? Thank you for tuning in to another episode of the UMP. I really do appreciate you. If you've been riding with me for a long time, smack yourself upside the head. You're a goddamn champion. If you're new here, what I try to do is give the best information in the shortest amount of time possible. We got a really interesting one for you today.

0:35 It's how to lead women with your masculinity. And this is interesting because this not only has to do with your dynamic between you and women, but it also has to do with the dynamic between you and yourself. So what I'm going to do is I'm going to talk first from a society level on how masculinity and femininity relate to one another. Then how to lead women with your masculinity. And then finally, what's going on inside yourself and how you can identify exactly what masculinity is happening inside of you as compared to the femininity.

1:10 And how to get that in line so that you can become more attractive to women. We got a really good one for you today. I'm just going to bust it out and hopefully it turns out good. Before I get started, I wanted to ask you guys to jump on over to my website and grab my free program, The Approach Formula, How to Approach a Girl, based on over 10,000 approaches and how to approach her without fear or rejection. You can click my website link in the description below or you can just head on over to CoachMarkSingh.com.

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2:07 All right, so let's go ahead and get started. All right, first and foremost, we have a society that has bounced back against masculinity with this whole femininity, feminism, Me Too movement, things like this. Now, I don't think there's anything inherently wrong with that. But what I do think has happened is that it's bounced too far over to the other side, as things tend to do. And I think it's going to come back, not only because things tend to bounce back naturally, but also because of podcasts like this one.

2:34 I mean, a big purpose of this podcast is to be unapologetic for being a man. And that's why it's called The Unapologetic Man, because I'm unapologetic about my masculinity where so many guys aren't. And we're made to feel guilty. And there's so many things in society and movies and TVs that make us feel guilty for being attracted to women, for approaching women, for being sexual. And basically just being a man. So what's happened is a lot of women are becoming way more masculine and a lot of men are becoming way more feminine.

3:05 Now, that's a bad dynamic to have because attraction specifically works on a polarity. The polarity is the female goes into the feminine role. The man goes into the masculine role. And that's where attraction is. The reason I wanted to do this podcast today is for many reasons, most of which come from my clients. But one of which came from the dental hygienist that was cleaning my teeth today. I went to the dentist and she was cleaning my teeth and she was real doodly, you know, like real manly.

3:32 And I was like, oh, God. And she's like, yeah, my husband, my husband always says to me, like, why do you even need me? Like, you're just you got everything settled yourself. And she's like and she says, stop being a pussy. Like, just suck it up. And I was like, well, man, I didn't say this, of course. But I was like, God damn. Can you imagine how little to zero sex they have? There's no sex in that relationship. Why? Because sex is like a rubber band.

3:56 Sexual tension is like a rubber band. When he's standing on one side of the football field, she's standing on the other side of the field. Polarity. There's sexual tension there. But the way it sounds is almost like they're both at the 50 yard line or even worse, they've switched roles. And that happens to a lot of guys. And this is a big reason that dudes get cheated on is they go into the feminine role. The women goes into the masculine role and she loses attraction and respect for the guy.

4:25 So there's a huge problem here. And there's lots of forces that are trying to prevent you from stepping into your masculinity. They're telling you it's wrong to do so. You should feel shameful for being sexual. You should be shameful because you want to fight and build muscle and be a man and hoist the black flag and start slitting throats. Right? They don't want you to do that. And there's a big movement against it. And if you succumb to that, which many of us have, then you are really doing both yourself a disservice as well as society as a whole a disservice.

4:57 So in my opinion, there needs to be a balance between masculinity and femininity. And both things have their positives. Certainly, there's positives with femininity. Certainly, there's positives with masculinity. I definitely believe that. So as we're bouncing back where there's so much feminine in the world and women are becoming more masculine, they're trying to, you know, take over some of those roles. They're making us feel emasculated and telling us that we're wrong to be sexual. We're wrong to approach women, all these other things. And they're taking over more powerful roles and coming home still in their masculine energy.

5:34 And then they're wondering why there are dudes who don't want to fuck them. It's because it's basically a dude. And it's like that dental hygienist today. Nice lady. I have nothing against her. But I was like, oh, God, dude. Like, I'd rather, like, you know, fuck a fat chick who's feminine, honestly. Femininity. Think about it. Like, if you took a girl who's decent looking and same girl, like, let's do twins, right? And one is very masculine and one's super feminine, which one would you be way more attracted to?

6:01 Well, it works with women, too. If you're a feminine dude, if you're emasculated and you're weak, women aren't going to be attracted to you because it's the same kind of thing. They're attracted to that masculine guy. Now, what is masculinity? Really, what it is is it's a towards mentality. And now we're getting down to what women are attracted to on a one-on-one basis. Okay, so let's take the date, for example, the first date, which I never call date, by the way. I always call it a hangout.

6:30 So we take the first date, for example. A masculine man will plan the date. He'll pick her up. He'll pay for everything. He'll lead it. And he'll be confident in his decision to lead her to a good experience. A feminine man will be wishy-washy, won't know what to do, will put the power in her hands, will ask her things like, are you having a good time? And he'll be afraid to be decisive and to lead her to where she wants to be led. Who's the guy who's going to get the next date?

6:59 The dude who's decisive. The dude who tucks her under his wing and shows her a great time. That's masculinity. Now, what's the overall theme that we see from a guy who does that? He's in a towards mentality. And towards-ism is a big part of masculinity. So you want to know how to lead women with your masculinity? Go towards your goals. Stop being afraid of what will go wrong. And stop running away from what you don't want to happen. Right? So a guy who's in his towards-masculine mentality goes towards that which he wants to achieve.

7:33 He's like a bull on the Serengeti running down a freaking log cabin house and destroying it. He goes after his goals. He doesn't look back. It's always towards, towards, towards. So this is what you do. You plan the date. You offer to pick her up. You show her a good time. You go to several different places and you execute it with confidence and decisiveness. Now, she's going to flex up as oftentimes girls will do, especially in today's society where women are so damn masculine. And she might try to suggest something like, hey, instead of going bowling, what do you think about like going to the arcade?

8:09 And what I'd say is, you know what? That's a good idea. Let's go ahead and do what was planned. And if the mood strikes, then we can definitely do the arcade too. So it's being disagreeable in a way that you're showing her, hey, little girl, I got this planned. I got it covered. Let's go ahead and do what was planned. And if the mood strikes, we could do what you want it to do. Now, you may think like, well, wait a minute, man. That's like not cool.

8:31 You're being a douche. You're being a dick. You're not being equal. Well, bro, that's what gets attraction. That's what the masculine man does. You know, I understand that there's a lot of negatives that come from the traditional 1950s family, right? Like the woman works at from home, or I should say the woman is a homemaker. The man goes to work. She takes care of the kids. He comes home. But I'm going to tell you something. There's also lots of good stuff about that. The sex was probably unbelievably good.

9:00 And it probably lasted through the duration of the relationship because those gender roles are there for a reason. You know, we question them so much, but they're there for a reason. That's what creates polarity. That's what creates sexual attraction. And I'll tell you, that's how you get into your testosterone. And that's how she gets into her estrogen. So Marissa and I, Marissa is my girlfriend. We are very, very aware of this. And our relationship is really good because we have taken on those quote unquote traditional gender roles, which in my opinion, traditional shouldn't even be added to it.

9:34 It's just the way we're designed. It's what we're naturally supposed to do as humans. I don't want to go too far on a tangent, but look at the way we were in tribal communities. The women stay back at the camp, take care of the kids, make the food, and the guys go and hunt. They bring back the freaking game and they provide for their family. So there's something to be said about traditional roles. Now, can you in modern day society be with a woman who does masculine type roles?

10:01 Yes. But when she comes home, in my opinion, and what I've found with my relationship is she has to let go and go into her feminine. Marissa, for example, she's the head of the marketing department at a multi-conglomerate corporation. The chick makes a lot of money. She's got a lot of power. She buys me a lot of shit. Ha ha. But when she comes home, I'm the fucking man. And she lets go and goes into her femininity. And she loves that shit. Every time she comes home, she's the woman, I'm the man, I make the final decision.

10:33 Now, I do weigh her opinion and I weigh what she wants into the final decision, but she's let go and let me lead the relationship because she understands that that's the best thing for the relationship. I'm in my masculine. She's in my feminine. I do do things. When the security needs to happen around the house, I take care of it. When something needs to get fixed, I do it. When it comes to taking care of the baby, it's mostly her. She vents to me every day and I listen quietly without trying to solve her problems.

11:01 That's called Venus Talk. For those of you who are going to get into a relationship, I strongly suggest you look it up. Venus Talk. She talks to me for about five minutes about her problems and then we hug and then I go back to my man cave, fill back up on my testosterone. She goes and does whatever she wants, fills back up on her estrogen. And then the sex is awesome because we're in our polarities. If she came home and berated me and belittled me and emasculated me as so many women do to their men, not because it's the woman's fault necessarily.

11:32 It's the man's fault for letting that happen to him. The sex is shit. The sex is shit and she's going to cheat on him. So when it comes to dating women, bro, you need to be in the lead position. Now let's funnel down into you individually. Okay. All of us have masculinity and femininity within us. We have a certain amount of black marbles and a certain amount of white marbles. For most guys, it's about, or it should be about 75% black marbles, male, 25% female marbles, female. Now female does play a role.

12:05 It's responsible for creativity, bantering, compassion, the ability to communicate well, all those great things. But masculinity is responsible for goal setting, getting shit done, discipline, and being the strong leader in the relationship. Now you have a relationship going on within yourself. Almost all of my clients have an issue with too much femininity. And this is an issue with approach anxiety. When you have approach anxiety, brother, you are solid in your femininity. That feminine role is leading 100% and that's the issue. That's the issue. Why? Because the feminine wants to be validated.

12:46 It wants to be approved of. It's scared of being rejected because it cares too much about what other people think. The masculine doesn't give a shit about what other people think. Its opinion of itself is the only one that matters. So when I see approach anxiety, which by the way, almost all you guys have, because all of us have been emasculated and put into our feminine energy so much by a society that tells us being masculine and fearless and in our testosterone and a fighter is wrong.

13:15 So from the time we're kids, we're in classes where we're told by female teachers to shut up and sit down. From the time we're in high school, we're watching TV shows where the guy is the bumbling baffoon or the rapist or the murderer or the guy who has toxic masculinity. So we stifle it. And what happens? We get massive approach anxiety because suddenly we're in our feminine energy. We got way too much estrogen going on. So now we're afraid we're going to get rejected and it's going to hurt our feelings.

13:44 Dude, fuck that. When you're in your masculine energy, you cannot feel fear. When you're in your masculine energy, you cannot feel fear. Testosterone is the opposite of fear. The next time you have to do something you're scared of, the single best thing you can do is get highly into your masculine energy. What I do is listen to my playlist on Spotify, Mark's Lift Heavy Ass Weights. If you want to check that out, I would strongly suggest it. If that shit doesn't get you into your masculine energy, nothing will.

14:14 Once again, it's Mark's Lift Heavy Ass Weights. It's on Spotify and it's metal and hardcore punk rock. And if you can't resonate with that shit, brother, you got way too much femininity going on. No, I'm just kidding. But when I want to get pumped up, when I want to get my testosterone, I get pumped up. I do pushups. I listen to the music. I put my chest out. I slow my breathing. I stick my chin up. I have a confident silverback posture to me. And then I remember all the times that I was a silverback.

14:46 Look, if you're in your feminine energy, you're thinking about everything that can go wrong. When I interview guys and I say, yo, why do you want to get girls? Well, I don't want to be alone. I'm tired of this pain. I don't want to be lonely and die on my deathbed without getting the best girl I can. There's a lot of away from words in there. What I don't want, I don't want this. I don't want that. That's feminine. Masculine is, dude, I want to crush it.

15:11 I want to get all kinds of girls in my bed. I want all kinds of options. I want to make all kinds of money and have all kinds of experiences. Yeah, bro. Now you're in your masculine energy. How do you get into your masculine energy? Just like I said, action. Because look, masculinity is action-based, isn't it? We go out and we hunt the gazelle. We go out and we freaking shoot the goddamn bear with a bow and kill the grizzly bear and take that meat back to our fucking tribe like a goddamn man does.

15:40 So the next time you're feeling scared and I don't want to get rejected, you got to look at yourself, man. You're too much in your feminine. Sack the fuck up and man the fuck up and go approach her. It's just a little girl. You're afraid of the feminine? Are you kidding me? You're afraid of the feminine because you're in your feminine. Get into the masculine by getting yourself pumped. Testosterone is the opposite of fear. That's why warriors will always get themselves super pumped up before they're going to go to war.

16:10 It's because that adrenaline, that testosterone, that masculine energy is the opposite of fear. It's the opposite of femininity. It's your true masculinity. And I'll tell you what, when you get deep into your masculinity, it puts her in her feminine. She gets slid over to the opposite polarity and then she gets attracted to you. So check your voice, check your posture, check what's going on inside your heart. And this is a big reason I suggest learning to fight. It's a big reason I suggest getting into the woods and chopping some wood.

16:43 It's the big reason I suggest fixing things around the house, maybe your car, getting into man, traditional man things. What does the 1950s man do? And think about him, right? We can all picture him driving home. He's quiet. He listens to his woman. He has a very stern kind of look on his face. He's got good body language. His head is held high. And he walks in and it's like, don't worry, little girl. I'll take care of you. A woman doesn't want to fuck another woman.

17:11 She wants a goddamn man. She wants a guy to sweep her off her feet, protect her, show her a good time, let her feel safe to go into her feminine energy and give her that experience that she's been dreaming about since she was a kid. So the next time you go on a date with a girl, get rid of the fucking pussy inside you, don't hyperextend your pussy by worrying about what's going to happen. Dip into that ball sack of yours, get a big old dose of testosterone and be like, come on, let's go.

17:41 I'm going to show you a good time. Are you sure? Yes, I'm sure. Come on, let's go. Obviously, you want to be cool about it. You don't want to be forceful, all these things. But look, masculinity, just like femininity, is a beautiful thing. And this society is trying to make us feel guilty for going into it. Fuck that. That's where attraction is. That's where women will get really into you. When you can step into that silverback gorilla natural state that we all have within us. You need to access it more than lift weights, learn to shoot a gun, learn to shoot a bow and arrow, go chop some wood, go learn to fight, man.

18:20 Go get choked out in Brazilian jiu-jitsu and you'll know what it means to be a man. And that's how you do it. You want to know how to lead women with your masculinity? Get into your masculinity, be decisive, lead her and stop feeling guilty for being a fucking man. So that's it, brother. You just got to sack the fuck up. You know, when it all comes down to it, sometimes clients complain to me and you know how I am. Like sometimes I'm really compassionate and cool.

18:45 And then other times you just got to tell the guy, yo, stop being a fucking bitch and sack up and go approach her. God, dude, just fucking go do it. How do you jump off a bridge? You just fucking jump. Just go do it. And even if you're terrified to do it, you know what? You're going to get the courage after you do it. One of the best things you can do to get warmed up is to do something that absolutely terrifies you socially. Approaching a super hot girl immediately in the beginning of the night.

19:13 The rest of the night is easy because then you get the courage after you get into your masculine energy. You're like, yeah, dude, I'm a fucking Spartiate warrior and I just approached that girl. What's up now? Ah, that girl over there. Simple. First try gap. I'll get over that easily. Boom. You approach her. So there comes a point, guys, where you just got to be a fucking man. Sack up. Do what's necessary. Approach the girl. Stop being a little bitch. Stop succumbing to the mass pussification of the American male.

19:44 It's a terrible thing. It's a terrible thing. We've swung too far in the opposite direction. And part of my purpose is to bring us back. It's okay to be a man. I want to leave you guys with that. All right. Thank you for listening. Hope you got some value out of this one. If you did, go ahead and jump on over to my website and sign up for that book, The Approach Formula. It'll teach you how to be a goddamn man and approach women without fear.

20:07 How do you do that? Get massively into your testosterone. That's the answer. All right, guys. Thank you again for listening, and I'll see you in the next episode. Bye. We'll see you in the next episode.

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