How to Get Friends With Benefits and a Harem

0:00 Welcome to the Unapologetic Man Podcast. The only podcast that's all about self-improvement, confidence, success, women, and being a man without making any apologies for it. What is up guys? Thank you so much for tuning in to another episode of the UMP and today we are going to talk about how to get yourself a fuck buddy or friends with benefits or how to get yourself a little harem where you're having sex with all kinds of different girls without any repercussions whatsoever. Yeah, right. Before we get started, I really wanted to say thank you and I appreciate you to all you guys for coming to this podcast.

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2:35 So one more time, guys, from the bottom of my heart, I do appreciate you. Thank you so much for listening, and I want to deliver the goods. So let's teach you how to get friends with benefits. All right. So I've been in this game for a long time. I've done all kinds of things with women, have had the quote unquote harem where I'm sleeping with lots of different girls, have had lots of different relationships. And frankly, just my opinion, just having sex with a bunch of different girls really isn't that fulfilling.

3:04 But if that's what you want to pull off, here's how you do it. So first and foremost, you need to question your own moral standing. There's an easy way to sleep with a lot of different girls by freaking lying to them, by basically saying, hey, I'm looking for a girlfriend. I'm looking for a long term relationship and then dating them, sleeping with them, and then just never committing to them. Like it's very easy to do that. It does require lying. You can get caught. And I dare say I've done it myself.

3:30 And you know what's resulted in? It resulted in my car getting keyed, girls yelling at me in front of everybody in the club, just looking like a total asshole because that's what I was. I was an asshole. But then there's a different way to do it where you're completely honest with all the girls who you're doing this with. And when you're completely honest, some girls just aren't going to be able to ride on that program. So it's a matter of quantity to find the quality. So if you date enough girls and you say, hey, listen, I'm not looking for anything right now.

4:00 I really like you. I have a great time with you. Who knows what could happen in the future, which is true, right? You're not straight up lying to her, but you're like, who knows what could happen in the future, but I'm just being honest with you. I'm not looking for anything. Then the inevitable question she asks is, well, are you sleeping with other girls? Now, this is where you could be a liar or you could be straight up and you can say, yeah. Now, a lot of girls are going to be like, deal breaker.

4:23 Goodbye. I'm gone. Okay. I'm just being honest with you. A lot of girls aren't going to be able to hang with that program, but some girls are. But here's the thing too. If she's able to hang with that program, she's fucking other dudes. And do you want to be going down on her and like tasting some other dude's dick? I don't. So that's the conundrum, isn't it? It's like, do I rock this program? Be totally honest. Do I lie? I mean, that's up to you guys, but here's some basic fundamentals.

4:51 Okay. When you start dating a girl, you know, she may ask you, what are you looking for? Now, when a woman asks that, what are you looking for? That's a question that says, hey, are you just a fuck boy? Are you just trying to get it in and you're not serious about a relationship? Or are you actually looking for something that might end long term? Now, oftentimes girls who are a little bit older, and when I say older, I mean 28 and above, will ask this question because they know that their sexual marketplace value, their SMV, which means their attractiveness and their ability to attract a quality guy, is literally going down with each passing day.

5:31 So they don't want to waste their time with the dude who's just trying to have sex. Because look, girls can have sex anytime they want to. It's like no big deal with them. It's like as easy as turning on the faucet in our kitchen, right? That's how easy it is. So it's like they're not going to waste their time with a dude who just wants to have sex if they're looking for something more serious. So they're going to come straight out and ask you guys this.

5:51 And I know, especially you dudes who are on the online dating platforms right now, I know you get this question. What are you looking for? The correct answer to that is, I'm looking for a long-term relationship, but relationships that start fast and fast, so I prefer to take it slow and see where it goes. If that's a deal breaker for you, I totally understand. Let me know what you think. And 90% of the time, they're going to be like, no, that's cool. I understand. So you're dating the chick, and as you're dating, sex comes before relationship, almost with all chicks.

6:26 So even if they have the intention to, like, get you into a relationship, they're going to fuck you for a while before they push that on you. It usually takes girls two to three months before they start popping that question. Now, obviously, it goes without saying, you're not going to bring it up, okay? So you're going to start dating a chick. You're going to have sex with her. You're going to be having a good time. You guys are going to be getting closer. And then she's going to ask that question, what are we?

6:51 Now, this is where you could either lie or you could tell the truth. You could say, hey, I love spending time with you. And this is really important, guys. You have to, even when you try to get a girl as a fuck buddy, you have to say, dude, like, spending time with you is awesome. Because when you tell her that, she's going to think, oh, there's a chance I can change him. Now, that's a big meta program in the minds of many women, which is maybe I can change this guy even though he's not willing to get into a relationship with me now.

7:19 Maybe if I just hang in there and keep having sex with him and even be the best sex ever and even show up at 3 a.m. when I'm sleeping and he calls me and he wants me to come over, maybe I can change his mind. And this is how you get a girl to be, like, really part of your harem and make her like a fuck buddy because she's trying to win you over, but you say, ah, I'm not really into that. So that's one strategy or you could lie and say, hey, let's just – let's keep it going.

7:48 Who knows what will happen in the future. I'm liking you more than more. And if you are having sex with other girls and she asks you, hey, if you want to lie, I personally don't recommend it. I don't like lying to chicks. I think it's bad juju. I think it's bad karma. So going back to what I was saying is you kind of keep her at arm's length. All the strategies that I've been talking about in my podcast up until now, using all the same strategies, right?

8:14 Building massive attraction, being that sanctuary for her, giving her space, keeping her at arm's length, being hard to nail down, having your purpose as number one. Dude, you deploy that all. You don't go up to a girl on Tinder and say, hey, you want to be fuck buddies. Okay? This is what guys think a lot of the times and like some of the shit that I see guys write to girls like being super upfront. Hey, you want to fuck? It doesn't work like that, bro. You have to come in under the radar.

8:41 And listen, even if she is DTF and she just wants a fuck buddy, she's very rarely going to say it. And if she does say it, might want to get a chlamydia check because she's probably getting it on with lots of dudes. So, what you do is you approach it exactly as I explained. Getting a girl fuck buddy is exactly what I've been talking about, but you just don't commit to her. And then when it comes time when she's pushing you, you have the choice to either be honest with her or to lie to her.

9:10 I would always be honest. And honestly, probably 50%, 60% would bail. But here's the thing. If you can get them into you enough to when they finally say, hey, what are we? And you say, you know, I'm not looking for anything. Who knows what could happen in the future, but right now, I'd just rather like keep what we're doing. If she's enough into you, she's going to rock with that program because like I said, she may try to change your mind. And then if she asks, well, are you having sex with other girls?

9:40 And you say, honestly, like, I mean, I haven't in the past few days, but yeah, like I am. If she's into you enough, like if she's in love with you, it's sad. I mean, it's fucked up because you're manipulating her. But if she's into you enough, she'll stick around. And I'm talking like if you use all the shit that I've taught you guys, right? You could get girls into you enough where you call them at 3 a.m. and say, hey, you want to come over? And she's like, yeah, yeah.

10:07 And she's sleeping. She has to work the next day. She gets up, puts on her makeup, drives to your house, which is an hour away and gives you a blow job. And then you fall asleep. And then she has to she gets two hours of sleep and goes to work. And she's in love with you and she can't get over you. But here's the thing again is like you could get a girl to do that with all the techniques and strategies. But it's fucked up. Can you live with yourself doing this?

10:33 So, again, this is a big kind of argument that always took place in my mind is I wanted to have lots of girls in my life who I'm having sex with. And that's what all you guys tell me. I know like you dudes listening. Most of you want to have sex with all kinds of hot girls and then choose the best one. OK, I get that. But then we start getting into the weeds, don't we? Because you're going to get girls like you're going to hurt them.

10:58 There's no way around it. I have hurt so many girls and I feel really bad about it. You're going to hurt them. You're going to kind of have to lie. You're going to have to like lint roll your bed to make sure the blonde hairs get picked up when the brunette's coming over. You're going to have to get like STD checks. It's just a mess, bro. And then like to be texting with all these chicks, how many girls do you think you can text with at one time and still be able to have a life?

11:24 I'm going to tell you from experience. It's three. If you're texting with more than three chicks, honestly, it's like a full-time fucking job. I used to have an Excel spreadsheet where I'd mark down what I said to who, what story I said so that I wouldn't repeat a story or like mistake one girl for another girl. It gets messy. And then, bro, like they find out about each other. You're at the nightclub. Two of them that you're sleeping with show up. One of them is like dancing really sexually on your leg.

11:52 The other one comes up. It's like, what the fuck is that bitch doing? You'd be like, ah, and then you're like in a weird, weird situation, right? So this is what I did, OK? Is I would just date one chick at a time. I would, if I was going to start sleeping with a girl, I would sleep with her. I may be talking to other chicks, but I wouldn't be having sex with more than one girl at a time. That's what I found would always keep things clear for me.

12:15 Because when they ask me, are you having sex with other girls? I'd be like, no, no, I'm not. Only you. Are you talking to other girls? Yeah. You know, I'm talking to girls. And she can get kind of buttered about that. But it's like, she can't really have the foundation to break up with you and break it off. I mean, she might. But really, it's like, if she did that, she's kind of overreacting. So that was always my strategy. And dude, you could still sleep with, you know, five, six, seven, ten girls a month.

12:42 Really, you just sleep with one, really not into it. Get rid of her next up. And you're always talking to girls. You're going on dates. But like having sex, that's the way I'd play it. So to reiterate, okay, this is how you do it. Is you do it the exact same way as you would do it if you're trying to get a girlfriend. The only difference is when she says, what are we? You don't make her your girlfriend. You say we are human beings living on a spinning rock through space who are very close to monkeys.

13:13 And it's insane that we haven't blown up this rock floating through space yet. She says, ha, ha, ha. No, seriously, what are we? Well, to be honest with you, I think that relationships that start fast, end fast. So we've been dating for a couple months. I really like you. I have a great time with you. I think you're an amazing girl. I mean, let's be honest. The sex is amazing. I think we have great chemistry. So who knows what could happen in the future. But right now, you know, I kind of want to keep it this way.

13:39 And she's like, okay, well, are you sleeping with other girls? Once again, if you are, good chance of losing her. But if you're not, then you're fine, pretty much. So that's the way I would always do it. Now, to maintain a harem, it's inevitable, brother. Like, you have to just be honest or you're going to literally shit where you eat. Now, the majority of us get girls from the same locations. Even myself, I would have certain bars that I'd go to. I would pick up girls from the same area.

14:10 Like, you know, we tend to go to the same kind of area and same kind of venues to get girls. And that shit comes back and bites you in the ass big time. And then, dude, like, girls come and try to get you jealous. They're making out with the other dudes in front of you. And, like, if you like her, like, I kind of get jealous a little bit easier than I want to. And if a girl's making out with the dude in front of me because she's pissed at me, that fucking hurts, bro.

14:34 I've been in a lot of situations where it's, like, just shitty situations because I was being an asshole. All right. Now, a very low percentage of the time, you actually will have a friend who just wants to have sex with you. Maybe it's a girl at work or a neighbor or somebody who you're friends with or whatever it may be. And she just wants to have sex with you. Well, how do you do that? Okay. Is it some different strategy? What do you think I'm going to say right now?

15:01 You're absolutely right. It's the same damn strategy. You have to get her attracted to you. She's not going to want to have sex with you unless she's attracted to you. Now, does she want to get into a relationship with you? Well, here's the thing about female psychology is oftentimes even girls who say, hey, I'm not looking for anything myself. I just want to be friends with benefits. They're going to eventually catch feelings for you most of the time because women are very emotional. So even if, let's say, a work colleague or a friend says, hey, do you want to have sex because she's attracted to you?

15:35 She wants to get laid, whatever it may be. You guys start having sex. Sooner or later, she's probably going to catch feelings, especially if you destroy it in the bedroom. Like what I'll teach you to do if you get guided to the female orgasm by leaving me a review and emailing me at coachmarksing at gmail.com. But, dude, you have sex with the girl you're friends with. Eventually, it's going to get messy. It always does. You can't have your cake and eat it, too. For all of human history, guys have wished they could do this, but it just isn't that possible.

16:06 The only way to do it is to game it up, game it up, game it up, make her wait, and then maybe if you're lucky, you can have a girl that's DTF and isn't trying to get you into a relationship. But then, once again, she's probably having sex with other dudes, and that would always gross me out, man. I'd be like, oh, God. Is she – like I would be like at home or like on a date with another girl, and then I'd be thinking about like, you know, Susan.

16:33 Like is she boning a dude right now? And like it would make me feel gross. And oftentimes if I'm boning a girl, I don't want her boning some other dude. I just don't like that. I feel like that's part of our human psychology as men is we don't want the girls we're boning to bone other dudes. It's that whole like protecting our seed, right? We don't want some other guy to impregnate her. We want to be the one so that we can procreate our own DNA.

16:57 But anyway, friends with benefits, in my opinion, is a whole messy situation. So why not just date lots of different girls, have sex with them? And listen, if they don't make the cut, they don't make the cut. Sex, in my opinion, is another attribute that you guys should have chemistry, right? So it's like if you kiss a girl or you talk to a girl or you have different attitudes than a girl and it just doesn't work, there's no chemistry there. And it's a deal breaker, isn't it?

17:25 Well, it's the same thing with sex. Sex, in my opinion, needs to be good. And it just isn't going to be good with every single girl you do it with. Even if you read Guide to the Female Orgasm, dude, you're not going to have chemistry with every single chick. So you can have sex with lots of different girls and then if it doesn't work out and you say, hey, listen – and here's, by the way, the way to break it off with a girl. Just be like, hey, listen, I really had a great time with you but I don't want to waste your time.

17:52 I don't feel like there's chemistry between us so I think it's best that we part ways, right? I think you're awesome but I just didn't feel the chemistry there so I think it's best that I let you go. I don't want to waste your time. So best of luck to you. And I've had girls like argue, like try to rationalize, but it can change and like it's so funny. But most of the time they're just like, yeah, I understand. They get a little bit butthurt but look, you have sex with a girl.

18:20 Boom, you go on to the next girl. So that's the way I suggest it. I know this isn't like the perfect answer. How to say the three magic words that makes any girlfriend turn into your fuck buddy with absolutely no strings attached, no emotions whatsoever. And she isn't sucking another guy's dick. Doesn't freaking exist. So that's the best way to play it, my friends. If you have any questions, thoughts, concerns, feel free to hit me up. CoachMarkSingh at gmail.com. Or if you want to get one-on-one NLP coaching and let me get into that brain of yours and rewire your program so you can operate effectively with women and in life and actually attract to yourself enough chicks into the top of your funnel that the quality ones come out the bottom while you're getting laid consistently, then look at my website, CoachMarkSingh.com.

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