Online Dating God #5 - ADVANCED BLACK OP TACTICS to Skyrocket Your Results!

0:00 Welcome to the Unapologetic Man Podcast. The only podcast that's all about self-improvement, confidence, success, women, and being a man without making any apologies for it. What's up guys, Mark Sing here. Thanks for tuning in to another episode and this is Online Dating God number 5. If you haven't listened to the other Online Dating Gods, it goes 1 through 4. This is a 5 part series. And today we're going to talk about advanced black op tactics. I have some really good stuff here for you. One thing in particular works retardedly well, especially like social media gaming.

0:38 So we're going to get into that. Before we get started, I wanted to quickly share with you a funny story about one of my coaching clients. I was talking to him and he's doing the online dating thing, especially now during COVID. And he's like, man, I'm talking to 15 girls. And I was like, 15 girls? How would you do that? And he's like, by doing what you told me, you idiot. And I was laughing because I was like, oh yeah, that's right. Basically, I walk you through exactly how to set up your account, what pictures to use, in what order, how to write your profile, what kind of messages to send.

1:14 And then I also give you texting access to me and I basically text girls for you. So my clients have been having some great success online. So if you want to learn more about that, go to CoachMarkSing.com. That's Coach, M-A-R-K-S-I-N-G.com. And you can learn more about that. All right, let's dive into the content. Now, in the last episode, I talked about how to build a harem. I know a lot of you guys skip around between podcasts, so I'm going to repeat something here that I said in there.

1:41 And that's when a girl asks you, what are you looking for? So what are you looking for is a warning sign that this girl is looking for a relationship. She's getting older. Her sexual marketplace value, also known as SMV, is going down on each passing day. And she knows that the uglier she gets, the less likely chance she has of meeting a great guy. So she doesn't want to mess with you if you're just looking to screw around. So she's just going to cut to the chase and say, what are you looking for?

2:10 Now, what that really means is, are you just looking to get laid or are you actually looking for a relationship? She's looking for a relationship. She has plenty of options. So she's just going to cut to the chase and let you know what she's looking for. But little does she know that most of the ways you answer that question or most of the ways guys would answer that question are going to turn her off. So it's kind of like, here, let me ask you a question.

2:34 To where 90% of the answers are going to make me lose attraction for you. Total female psychology kind of thing to do, but they don't care. They just want to know what you're looking for and they want you to have the right answer. So here is the right answer. Ultimately, I'm looking for a long-term relationship. But I found that relationships that start fast, end fast. So I'm looking to take things slow. If that's a deal breaker for you, I totally understand. Let me know what you think.

3:01 So that's the perfect way to handle it, to calm her down. Let her know that, hey, you're open to it. And I know most of you guys are open to it. You want to get laid a lot. But eventually, you want to meet the girl of your dreams. And if she's the girl of your dreams, you'll probably settle down with her. So it's not necessarily a lie and it's going to tell her what she wants to hear without being needy. And that's why I say that it's like a double-edged question, right?

3:24 She asks you, what are you looking for? Most guys would say a long-term relationship. And then they shoot themselves in the foot because it's like they look needy. It's like you're going to show up to her house with a moving truck and a wedding ring. But when you say, yeah, I'm looking for a long-term relationship. But, you know, honestly, it's going to take some time because I know it takes a while to get to know somebody. I feel like you have to change with somebody to really get to know them.

3:47 So I'm down to get to know you. But I'm not looking to hire the wedding photographer for a little while here because I need to get to know you. So that's the way I suggest handling that. All right. So let's get into some of the black op tactics that we can use on online dating and how we can really separate ourselves from the mountain of boredom that women are dealing with with all the other guys. And ultimately, that's all you have to do is separate yourself from your competition.

4:14 If you've listened to the series, you already have a number of ways to do that. But, of course, if you hired me, then not only will you separate yourself from the competition, but you absolutely blow those guys out of the water and be talking to 15 girls like my client is. And by the way, he's older, too. He's like 55. So, bro, if he can do it, trust me, you can do it. You can be probably talking to 30 girls. All right. As mentioned in a previous episode, I believe it was about messaging.

4:41 You want to try to get her phone number as quickly as you can. Why do we do this? Because many girls are just there for social validation. They're trying to get you to come join their chat room, their masturbation station. And what you want to do is see their seriousness by grabbing their phone number. So what I would always say is, hey, I don't really enjoy texting on this app, like Tinder or whatever it is. Why don't you toss me your number? We'll move this over to texting.

5:07 Or would you be comfortable giving me your number and we can move this over to texting? Whatever way you want to say it. So you get her number and then you move it over to texting. Now, once you get her number, you know, okay, she's marginally serious about hanging out. She's marginally serious. She's probably real because no fake masturbation station woman is going to give you her number. She's just going to try to get you to go over to her chat room. Okay, so we got her number.

5:34 And now that we have her number, we have an interesting opportunity. And that opportunity is we can send her a video or we can send her a voice message. Now, there's ways to text with women that, of course, are extremely powerful. But as our mission is to separate ourselves from the other dudes, when we make a video or we do a voice memo, that separates us and makes her feel a level of rapport for us. It also makes her trust us more because she feels like she knows us better than some random dude who she's texting with.

6:07 So this is really, really powerful. And if you have an iPhone or a Samsung or whatever the hell you have, you have the ability to do this. You can work on it for many hours. Although, of course, it should look like you just filmed it quickly. You can edit it together. And the cool thing is, is you can send it to tons of chicks. We're going to leave it very generalized so that you can send it to a bunch of girls. So I want to talk about the video.

6:32 And in this, I'm going to go ahead and give you a script. A lot of my clients have done this. They've used this script and it's come out really, really good. And they're getting absolutely phenomenal results with it. So here's how the script goes. And then afterwards, I'm going to tell you how to pivot that into a date. Okay. So what you want to do is you want to just film yourself. Now, most apps like Instagram and stuff won't let you send a video that's over, I think, a minute.

6:59 And you don't want to go over a minute because women's attention spans are very short. So we're not going to do a long ass video here. We're going to do a quick video of you introducing yourself. And what you want to do is just hold the phone in your own hand. And it's like a selfie, but you're doing a video, right? Now, obviously, as with everything with women, we are very, very intentional with this. We prepare it. We make sure it's on point. We make sure it's good.

7:24 We look good. We look confident. We do all the right body language. Obviously, that's all a part of it. But as this is the same with texting and is also the same with messaging with girls on these dating apps, you want to make it look like you just threw it together really quickly. Like you literally did it in just a couple takes or in even one take, and you did it, and you did it specifically for her. Now, of course, we're going to be sending this to hopefully hundreds of girls, and I'm going to get into how to do that in a moment.

7:54 But it looks like it's specifically for her. So you don't want to say anybody's name. You just want to leave it general. All right. Now, one more thing before I give you this script. There's two different ways we can use this, one of which is to send it to girls where we landed them off the dating sites. And the other way is to send it to a girl cold on, like, Instagram. Okay. So the script I'm going to give you right now is the cold one where we're just sending it to a girl on Instagram.

8:22 But if you're going to be sending this to girls who you've met on the dating apps, which I do suggest as well, you just want to tweak it slightly so it fits that. So, for example, the first line is, hey, what's up? I'm Mark. I saw your profile, and I decided to make you a short video introducing myself. Okay. That would be for cold approach, approaching girls on Instagram who you've really never talked to, who you've never messaged, but you guys are connected. Now, if you got her phone number off the dating apps, then you'd be like, hey, what's up?

8:52 It's Mark. I just wanted to send you this video because every other guy is texting with you, and I figured it would be a good way to stand out from the crowd. So, all right, let me quickly show you around, and then it goes on from there. Okay. So once again, I'm going to give you the script for the cold approach. What you want to do is just tweak it slightly for the online girls. Guys, I know this is a hassle-off. You're thinking, man, this is a lot of work.

9:17 But bro, 80% reply rate, 80%. What is a texting reply rate? Like, especially to a cold text to a girl on Instagram, what is it, like 10%? Think about that. You're going from 10% to 80%. Is it worth it now to spend a couple hours to make this video? Yes, obviously. I mean, the question is so obvious. So just do this. Take a moment. If you're not comfortable on camera, then just practice. This is a great way to build your confidence, get more comfortable with social pressure. All the things that come out of this will be a positive for you.

9:53 So I suggest you take a few hours, you make this video, and you get it done. Okay, here finally is the script, and I want you to change it to adjust for you. But this is how I wrote it, and this is how I do it. A lot of my clients have done it exactly like this, and they've been getting a great success. Okay, here it goes. Hey, what's up? I'm Mark. I saw your profile, and I decided to make you a short video introducing myself.

10:16 I know how many messages you get every day from guys, so I figured this is a good way to stand out from the crowd. All right, let me quickly show you around. So this is my house, and now as you say that, you're doing a quick panorama of your living space. As you can see, I haven't accidentally burned it down yet. I know, I know. You're already so impressed with how responsible I am. All right, now you're going to be walking into the kitchen, and then you'll be like, this is my kitchen.

10:42 As you can see, I'm a world-class chef, and you're going to say that as you're like pouring a bowl of cereal or flinging lettuce into a bowl, right? Obviously, it's sarcastic. And you say, I even make what I call my semi-famous spaghetti. It's semi-famous because it only comes out good half the time. Maybe if we hit it off, you'll one day get to experience my culinary half genius. Okay, now you walk back to some other place in the house, or at this point, you can introduce your pet.

11:11 A lot of us have dogs, cats. I personally have a bird. So you can say something along the lines of, this is my bird, Jack. If you ever met him in person, he's so freaking cute. He's going to cuddle up with you on your chin. It's going to be so cute that rainbows are going to shoot out of your ass. Be prepared because the rainbow shooting, I hear, is very, very painful. Something like that, right? I just made that up off the cuff. But if you have a dog, you'd be like, this is my little dog, Milo.

11:38 He's so cute that when you meet him, rainbows are going to shoot out of your butt. So I suggest you prepare for that. I hear it's very traumatic. Ha ha ha. Okay, now you walk into a different part of the house, or where you started the video to begin with. Then you just say, anyway, text me back if this video has piqued your interest. As you can see, I spent 26 hours making it. I hired a professional crew to film it. I went into bankruptcy to fund it.

12:05 And I spent 10 hours in the makeup department getting all dolled up. Just for you. So write me back. We might just get along. All right. Talk to you soon. Boom. Video's over. Okay, so it's charming. It's brave. It lets her see what you're like. It introduces her to your house, which will make her feel safer going over to your house. It piques her interest. It just does all the right things. Now, you might be thinking, but Mark, I'm not a good speaker. Like saying, I spent 26 hours making it.

12:32 I hired a professional crew to film it. I went into bankruptcy to fund it. It's going to be really hard to say that correctly. Well, brother, you have time right now. You're literally in quarantine. And even if you're not in quarantine, if that has been lifted, it's worth doing like 20 takes to get it right. What you can do with video editing software, just like what I'm able to do with this podcast with audio editing software is really, really phenomenal. This is really easy to do with many video programs that you already have on your phone, or you could transfer it over to your computer and use like Final Cut Pro and really get this dialed in.

13:09 This, my friend, is your ticket to getting action, to getting a sexy girl in your bed. So I'm telling you it's so worth it. All right. So just to reiterate a little bit, okay, when you're on the dating sites, grab her phone number. Then once you got her phone number, you can send her this video that you made. She's going to totally reply back. Oh my God, that was awesome. Da, da, da. And then bro, from there, you can go for the hangout. How do you go for the hangout?

13:34 Listen to, I think it was number four, the previous one, online dating got number four. I give the exact protocol for how to do the hangout. All you do is segue right into that. It's going to work like gangbusters. Now, with the script that I just told you, that's to be used on things like Instagram. So a couple points about Instagram. If you guys have listened to my podcast for a while, you know how much I tout pre-selection. And pre-selection means that you have girls in your life, you're a fun-loving guy, you have a great lifestyle, and women are attracted to you.

14:10 So a couple points about pre-selection and how to use it effectively on Instagram. So with Instagram, you want to show that chicks want you, but you don't want to show that you're hooking up with all these girls. So it needs to look like you have a bunch of girl friends, and it's kind of ambiguous as to whether or not you're actually hooking up with them. So you have girls around you. You have funny videos on there. You have pictures of you doing cool shit. And then what you want to do is just build your Instagram following.

14:40 You want to follow other people. Many times when you follow a girl, she'll follow you back. So just start following a ton of people. You can do like what I'm doing. I have an Instagram page, by the way. I'd appreciate it if you followed me. It's Coach Mark Singh. And on your Instagram page, once again, it's all about lifestyle. It's all about demonstrating pre-selection. Then as you get more girls to follow you and you're following more girls, if you blast them, this DM, this is the way to slide into her inbox.

15:11 How many dudes are hitting her up? Tons. But you make this video. It looks like you made it for her because, once again, you keep it general. And then, okay, here's a question too. What if she calls you out and says, oh, how many girls have you sent this to? Now, once again, if you've been following my content, you know what to do when a girl challenges you, right? Agree and amplify. Say, yes, I've sent it to 10,000 girls. I actually got one reply out of 10,000 emails, including yours.

15:38 So I think I'm doing pretty damn good. Ha, ha, ha. Just agree and amplify with it. She'll probably pick up on the fact that it's generalized, but it's so charming and so well done that it's going to get you the results. Now, when you do it to a girl who you met off the dating channels, it's over. She's going to feel close to you, build rapport with you, want to hang out with you. And you can even do, and I've done this before too, is we would send videos back and forth to each other or even voice memos.

16:07 Now, on your phone, you have a way to record voice memos where she can hear your voice. And one exercise to get your voice dialed in is to stretch your vocal cords before you film a voice memo. I do this every time before I film a podcast. I do this before I go out at night and open girls. I do this all the time. And what it is, is it's like yawning with your mouth closed. So if you keep your mouth closed and kind of do the yawning gesture with your throat, you can actually open up the vocal cords.

16:38 You can stretch them inside your throat. You can try that now. And what happens when you do that is your voice drops a couple octaves. And as we've talked about, when speaking to a girl, specifically when leaving a voice memo, you want to act like you're talking to a 13-year-old girl on your soccer team. Hey, what's up, Kelly? Loved your profile. That one picture was so funny. Anyway, I have a quick question for you. So, and send me a voice memo back, by the way. So if I gave you $90 million, what would you do with your life?

17:09 Like, let's say COVID was lifted. You could fly anywhere. What would you do right now if I gave you $90 million? And then she replies back with another voice memo. And this is a fun, interesting, differentiating way to build rapport with a girl, you know, without doing all the same crap that everybody else does. Then, obviously, on a high note, you could even do a close with a voice memo. So, Kelly, I have to be completely honest with you about something. I think we get along pretty well.

17:38 Seems like we have pretty decent chemistry. So I think we owe it to ourselves to hang out sometime. Do you, Kelly, agree with this brilliant conclusion? She'll write back, ha, ha, ha, yes, definitely. What were you thinking? And then you guys can have fun doing the voice memos back and forth. I've even had girls send me videos back when I sent her this video. And guys that I'm coaching have also had girls send them videos back. So these are some really powerful techniques, guys, and I really suggest you deploy them.

18:07 Once again, I know it's a pain in the ass to make these videos. You may be embarrassed. You may not like the way you look. But, dude, I'm telling you, it works. It really works. And it's worth the little bit of effort. All right, this wraps up Online Dating God series. I think I'm going to continue doing series. Like, I had an idea to do one about sex and physical escalations. I have another idea to do a series about texting. Because there's so much information to be said about certain topics, you can't just get it in in one podcast unless you're going to do like a three-hour podcast.

18:38 So I really like this series thing. If you agree or even disagree, feel free to email me and let me know. Tell me what you think. And also, guys, I always take recommendations about what to speak about. So if you have some ideas about something you want to hear, don't hesitate to email me. I'm very friendly. I'm very approachable. I'm a nice guy like that. And I'll hit you back. And I'll probably even send you some programs. So don't be a stranger. I want to meet all you guys if I can.

19:06 Really, really appreciate you listening. And once again, if you do want to get one-on-one coaching with me, hit me up, CoachMarkSingh.com. All right, guys. Thank you so much for listening. And I will see you in the next podcast.

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