How to get your ex-girlfriend back

0:00 Welcome to the Unapologetic Man Podcast. The only podcast that's all about self-improvement, confidence, success, money, women, and being a fucking man without making any apologies for it. I'm your host, Mark Singh. And I'm John Anthony. And today we are going to talk about getting your ex-girlfriend back. So many guys who are listening to this podcast have recently gone through a breakup and they're bummed out. They really want their ex back and we really think that if you're listening to this to begin with, there's already an issue.

0:35 Because if she broke up with you, then you should just move on, forget about her, date other girls, get laid, get on with your life, man. It doesn't matter. Get over this girl. But since you're broken over her, since you want her back, we are going to give you some awesome tips today for how to get her back. We're going to show you the psychology of women to really influence her to ask for you back. And you're not going to even ask for her back. She's going to ask for you back.

1:00 So the first tip, and this is the most important tip, is that getting your ex-girlfriend back requires a completely, utterly counterintuitive approach. So most guys, what they think is going to happen is they're going to beg, supplicate, and chase the girl, ask for her back, say, I'm so sorry. You know, I fucked up. But that is the absolute wrong way to do it. So a lot of things with seduction, the way the female mind works is absolutely counterintuitive. So the first thing you want to do is move on.

1:29 Now, I know that's not what you want to hear. You want me to tell you, oh, dude, you're going to have her back in 24 hours. No, it's going to take a few weeks. It's going to take possibly a few months. It could even take a year. But what you got to do is you move on and you date other girls. I want you to go out there and get laid as soon as possible, and I want her to find out about it. I want her to know all about it on Instagram, on Facebook.

1:54 You have moved on with your life. You're completely over it. You don't have to tell this to her verbatim. Show it through your actions, and one really good way to do that is through social media. She's checking up on you. She knows what's going on. You guys have mutual friends. She's going to hear that like, holy shit, he's already dating somebody else. Now, you would think that that would be bad because she's going to get upset that you're like some asshole who's just going to sleeping with other girls.

2:19 But remember, women work on an emotional level, and when you're dating other girls, she's going to feel that jealousy. She's going to realize what she lost. She's going to miss you, and it's going to make it that much more likely that she's going to come back. So the very first thing is to move on and date other girls and set it up so she finds out. Without you being obvious about it, you want her to find it out. For sure. Yeah, I'm a huge proponent of leveraging social media to sort of get this idea out of your pre-selection.

2:50 So since I've been – I mean there's obviously a lot of social media platforms, right? Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, Snapchat, et cetera. I personally recommend using Snapchat. That's the one that I use. So it's gotten to the point where I'll actually close girls on Snapchat. I prefer getting their Snapchat than getting their number, and the reason why is because when you get a girl's number, like she just has a number. She doesn't know who you are. She might not even remember. But with Snapchat, she can get a glimpse into your life, and that's what it's all about, guys.

3:21 It's like I know that this isn't the answer you want to hear, and I actually recently went through a breakup too, so I know this isn't the answer you guys want to hear. But there really is only one path as a man, and that's just sacking up and moving on and going forward, you know? So if you really do want to – say that you break up with your ex or she breaks up with you, and you have two options, right? So either you want to get a new girlfriend or you want to get her back.

3:46 Well, if you want to get a new girlfriend, what do you do? You probably go to the gym more. You should start working out more. You should start eating healthier. You should start trying to make more money. You should build more confidence. If you want to get your ex-girlfriend back, what should you do? You should go to the gym more. Start working out more. Start eating healthier. Start making more money. Start building more confidence. Like the same path that will get you all the other girls is the same one that's going to get you your ex back.

4:11 And a lot of the time what happens is when she breaks up with you, if she sees that in a couple of weeks or in a month or in even a year – I've had exes hit me back after years. If she sees that you're on this long-term trajectory of becoming a better and better man and she looks at all the other guys around you and all she sees is like fucking chumps, which is 99% of men, let's be real, then she's going to crave you back.

4:36 Like she will message you years after and fucking try and get back with you because time is the great separator of men. You can judge a tree by the fruit that it bears. And if your tree in two years or in a few months is fucking bearing all kinds of fruit and all these other guys aren't bearing shit, like the choice is obvious for her. Right now you're in pain because you've been broken up with by your ex-girlfriend. Pain is a gigantic energy supply for you to take that pain and just like what John said, improve your life, go to the gym, fix your diet, get a new haircut, change your style up.

5:17 Like this is a great opportunity. You know, like the kanji in Japanese for crisis, one of the – or it's Chinese maybe. One of the kanji in there is opportunity. And that's true. When you're in a crisis, you have so much energy to improve yourself and to get that new girl. And it's a little bit exciting, isn't it? I mean think about all the potential girls that you could get now because you don't have a girlfriend anymore. I mean I bet you anything when you were with this girlfriend, no matter how much you were in love with her, you had a wandering eye.

5:45 You thought about other girls. So now is your opportunity. Go get those other girls. Have fun. Improve your life. Use that energy. Harness it and channel it into a good direction. Don't just lay on the corner of your bed in the cannonball position crying like a schoolgirl. Use that energy to go get a gym membership, to start running, to dial in your diet. And then again, like John said, use social media to your advantage. I prefer Instagram. John likes Snapchat. Instagram, you can have these funny videos.

6:16 And she's going to check it. You know she's checking it. She's stalking you. Even if she broke up with you and she said, I never want to see you again. You're a piece of shit. She's totally stalking you. She's totally stalking you. Yeah, yeah, yeah. So when you show that you're moving on with your life, it's going to get a girl back so much faster than like supplicating to her and apologizing. Now, on the basis of an apology, I feel that if you made a mistake, then you should admit it to her and genuinely apologize, like genuine and be like, hey, listen, I totally made a mistake.

6:47 I sincerely apologize. I understand why you broke up with me. Actually, I think you made the right decision. I just want to let you know that I apologize for that. And when you show that to her while being completely unaffected, that shows to her that you're moving on because you have the maturity and the balls to apologize for what you did wrong. A lot of guys who haven't moved on, they're going to be like, well, I'm not going to apologize. It was her fault. And they're like wallowing in their sorrow.

7:13 No. Yeah. Be the bigger man. Apologize for what you did and move on. Accepting what you did to her will show her that you're moving on, and then she's going to be like, well, maybe he has changed, and then she's going to come running back to you. Yeah, Mark, have you heard of those guys in the PUA sphere? So Mark and I are both seduction coaches, and so we're in the PUA sphere. And there's a lot of like weird guys that kind of come into this field that don't really know what they're talking about.

7:38 So, Mark, on that – yeah, like you're laughing because you know what I'm talking about. On that point, do you – have you heard those guys that are like saying you should never apologize for anything to women? Oh, yeah, certainly. Yeah. So I – like that's total bullshit. Like I mean I think what they're getting at is something like you shouldn't apologize if it's coming from a place of supplication. But if you actually did something that's fucked up and you realize it and you genuinely feel sorry for it, apologizing is actually a good thing.

8:05 Like it shows emotional maturity. It shows that you're not a fucking kid who's like insecure and afraid to feel weak. Like no, when you apologize for something, that shows that like you're manning up and owning up to your actions, right? It's just – it's a good thing to do. So I like that point that you said, Mark. Like if you did do something bad and fucked something up, definitely do apologize. Now, don't wallow in guilt. You know, don't be a fucking pussy and wallow in guilt for three months.

8:34 And on that Snapchat versus Instagram point too. So I've been trying to start an Instagram where I've been playing around with that idea for a while. And on that note, let's kind of talk about the differences between Instagram and Snapchat and how you can leverage them to get your ex back or just get girls in general. Because like I've said, the key to getting a single girl isn't just trying to get that single girl. Like that's – like when guys are like, oh, how do I get this one girl?

8:58 What I always say is get good with girls in general. That's like if some fucking guy who's like never played baseball or like never played basketball is like, how do I – like I want to beat Michael Jordan one-on-one. How do I do that? And so I'm like, OK, like start doing drills. Start like – and he's like, no, no, no, no, no. Fuck that. I want to beat Michael Jordan one-on-one. I'm not going to practice anything until I face him one-on-one. And I'm just like, you're going to fucking lose.

9:21 Like the whole point is to practice and get good as a – get that general skill set and then you'll have that general skill set. You can apply to that specific situation. So with women, there's this old saying in the seduction community, go fuck 10 other girls, right? Like literally just go date other girls, meet other women, fuck other women, get good at picking girls up, get good at flirting, get good at seduction. And then you'll have the skill set that makes you attractive to women, right?

9:50 And then maybe your ex can come back into your life if it works for both of you. But until then, just go fuck 10 other girls. Sorry to interrupt, but the interesting thing is is that once you're truly over it, that's when she's going to come back. Yes. So you're going to like pretend it to yourself and be like, I'm over it. I'm over it. Why isn't she coming back? And then that one moment you are over it, she comes back. It's like from that movie Swingers.

10:12 Do you remember? Yeah, that's exactly what I thought of, dude, the very ending scene where he's over and his ex calls back. Exactly. Then that's really how it works. That's why that's such a great movie. If you guys haven't seen that movie, I strongly suggest it. There's actually some pretty accurate things about game. There's a few mistakes, but it's one of the more accurate movies when it comes to talking about game. It's called Swingers. Vegas, baby. Yeah, I think it's from the early 90s or late 90s or something like that, but it's so true because, dude, when you move on, you're going to meet so many other great women.

10:42 You're going to realize, like, why was I so sprung on this girl? Like, why was I so suffering from one-nitis? You know, there's so many other girls. Why would you want to have one nine when you could have ten nines? You know, I mean, eventually you're going to meet a nine who makes it worth it to just stay with her. I happen to have one of those right now, and it's just like it's so great. You know, I don't even want to date anybody else. But, you know, most of the time, having more is a lot better than just having one, and, dude, if she broke up with you, it probably wasn't that great to begin with, right?

11:15 Yeah. Yeah. Exactly. And so that phenomena, that phenomena of, like, your ex coming back as soon as you're over her, again, that just speaks volumes to, like, the pickup psychology that we teach, guys. It's like, have you ever noticed how when you don't – like, when you're obsessed over a girl and crazy to the point where you're, like, putting her on a pedestal, she never fucking wants you back. But the second that, like, you don't really care about a girl, she's chasing the shit out of you.

11:44 I've had that happen millions of times in my life, and I'm sure that everyone else has too. Like, when you're not into a girl and you're just like, okay, like, meh, you know, whatever, she chases the fuck out of you. And that's what it comes down to is, like, when you start feeling that way about your ex, not because you don't like her or because you hate her, but you're just – you know, you're focused on your own life as a man. You have your own abundance of opportunities.

12:05 She will come running back, and it sounds so petty, but if you do just post all of those pictures on Instagram, Snapchat, et cetera, you know, showing that you're on your grind as a man, you're on your path, you're succeeding, you're becoming better and better, she's going to see it, and she's going to realize, holy shit, did I make a mistake. Exactly. And so on that note, Snapchat versus Instagram. Okay, so I've done a lot of research on this, and despite not starting an Instagram, I'm preparing to start one.

12:30 And so the pros and cons of Snapchat are – the pros are that it's a lot more personal. It gives you a Snapchat – it gives a girl a sort of snap glimpse into your day-to-day life. You can also send her, you know, direct images. It's sort of like a texting application that you can use in lieu of actual message texting, and she will get to know you a lot sooner and a lot faster. The con is that it's all deleted in 24 hours. So you have to actually have a cool life to fucking consistently post cool shit on Snapchat, right?

13:03 With Instagram, what's really cool is you can set something up perfectly, like an image of you taking a trip to fucking South America with 10 girls or something. And all you need is one picture, and it's on there forever, and she will see it forever. So Instagram is great for showing pre-selection. You should ideally have both. I've been waiting because I didn't know if I wanted to start one for personal reasons or for my business, for masculine development, or how I wanted to do that, the angle, the marketing, et cetera.

13:32 But ideally, you know, if you really do want to get your ex back, at least use Snapchat. If you can make an Instagram account for personal reasons, you know, do that. Check out Dan Bilzerian and his Instagram account. It's fucking hilarious. So if you guys – Mark, you know Dan Bilzerian? Yeah, I follow him, right? Yeah, yeah. I follow him on Snapchat. He's basically just like the quintessential social media fuckboy, right? That's how I would describe him. Everything he posts is like him with hot girls, just like being a total fucking like workout bro, like shooting guns, lifting weights, hot girls, like smoking weed, playing poker, and his private jet.

14:07 Like that's kind of what you want to emulate. And if you don't have a private jet or a lot of money, that's fine. Look at the style that he posts it with, right? So humor and a lot of high-value stuff is really good because when your ex sees that, she's going to, again, think like, holy shit, did I make a mistake? And she's going to get jealous and want to chase you back. A couple points on that. So when you guys have a good night out, like when you're really killing it and you're meeting lots of girls, well, the next night that you go out, you don't have evidence to show the new girl that you were killing it last night.

14:41 You have no evidence of that because you're just starting fresh. So an Instagram account, rather than asking for her phone number, just be like, hey, do you have an Instagram? First of all, they're going to give it to you a lot easier because for some reason, girls feel more private about their phone number. They feel like it's a direct line to them. But their Instagram account is like, man, whatever. Like I'll give that to them. You can get Instagram accounts from a girl. You're only asking for the Instagram account.

15:04 You haven't even spoken to her yet and just be like, hey, you got an Instagram? I'm trying to get followers. Blau, you get her Instagram. Then what happens is every night you go out, every time you have a good night, you take pictures with girls. And you can't make it obvious that you're trying to like get these pictures with these hot chicks. In fact, you should try to make the chicks so that they're like interrupting your video that you're taking with yourself. And then the girls are like – they come in because once that camera goes on and that light goes on, they just go into like actress mode.

15:34 Yes, they start to perform. They start to perform. They want to be in on the camera. So that's one thing is that you're basically building up your pre-selection to all these girls and to your ex-girlfriend by showing that you're like this fun-loving guy. You're having a great time. You don't give a shit. You have all these hot girls in your life. And like it's not clear if you're sleeping with them or they're just friends but, oh, he's probably sleeping with them. You're not like shoving it in the face.

15:58 And the second thing is, look, I'm a little bit older. Do I really want to be on Instagram making these funny videos with these chicks and stuff like that? No, but it serves a purpose. It serves the purpose of pre-selection, showing that I have hot girls in my life. I have an awesome playboy lifestyle like Dan Bilzerian. And it shows that I'm a high-value guy who's a lot of fun. And women want to have fun. Even your ex-girlfriend, she wants to have fun and she wants to be a part of that.

16:25 And if you're doing it without her, she is going to long for you back. Words cannot even express how much she's going to want you back. So, yeah, it kind of sucks as men. It's like do we really want to like film an Instagram video at the club of us singing to some stupid song? No, but this is what chicks do and this is what chicks respond to. So, in a way, we have to kind of form our social media platform around what's going to get the best results.

16:51 Just like business. We don't always love to do everything we have to do in business, but we do it because it gets results. And I'll tell you, this pre-selection thing, and if you guys don't know, pre-selection is when you already have women in your life. And women will become attracted to you only because you already have women in your life. It's like an evolutionary shortcut for them. Well, if he has girls, he must be sexy, so I'm attracted to him too. So, when you show the pre-selection, you're basically – every night you have a good night, that builds into your pre-selection pipeline.

17:23 And that's all represented on Instagram. So, the first thing, if you got broken up with, dude, set up an Instagram, go out to the clubs, ask for followers, take pictures with hot girls. Eventually, you're going to start getting dates, start filming these funny videos, and these girls are going to jump in on you. And try to get as many different girls as you can to be in these videos with you. Blah, dude, within three, four, five weeks, your girlfriend is going to call you and be like, hey, I want to talk.

17:47 Yeah, and I really like what you said too about how when she sees these videos, she's going to be wondering, is he sleeping with them? Are they just friends? Because, guys, the most powerful – one of the most powerful seduction tools you have at your dispensal – at your dispensal? You just dispense? I was going to say in your arsenal, but in your arsenal is basically a woman's imagination. Like you get – I mean I swear to God, like some of these women that I date, it's like I'll literally just post a picture with a girl.

18:17 That like I – like there's nothing going on, and she's like, oh my god, you must be fucking her. Like I can't – like they just assume. They assume, and because that's how powerful pre-selection is. She assumes that if you have a picture with some girl in you, she just assumes, oh, he must be fucking her. They must be fucking. So that's really powerful is like using her imagination to basically get her attracted to you. And what's funny is like she wants it. Like she wants you to be the high-value guy.

18:42 She wants you to be the catch. So don't be afraid that like you're going to come off as obnoxious or whatever. You will get some hate. Anyone who's successful in any area of life gets fucking hate. But the love and the abundance that you get from your success will so far outweigh the hate that it's just unreal. Yeah, you think taking pictures with other girls, she's going to be like, oh, he's a player. He's a piece of shit. He's a slut. But like John said, that's what they want.

19:07 That's what they want on an attraction level. It's not what they want on a rational level. But attraction is infinitely more powerful than rational. So oftentimes girls will come up to me and like hit on me while they're ripping on me because I'm talking to all these other girls. Oh, you're a player, aren't you? You're an asshole. I saw you talking to all these girls. You're just going around making out with all these chicks. And then at the same time, she's trying to like shove her phone number in my pocket.

19:33 You would think rationally, oh, I don't want other girls to see me with other girls because then I'm a player. And yeah, you might get some hatred. But that hatred is on the rational level. And it means nothing because emotionally more girls are going to want to sleep with you. So it's kind of like they're fucking you while they're slapping you in the face. But they're not going to be slapping you in the face when they're fucking you because they really want to fuck you and they actually like it.

19:56 They like that you're pre-selected and you have other women in your life. So show that. That's the most important thing when you're trying to get your ex back. Yeah, for sure. I mean like when I do different social media posts on Instagram – or not Instagram, on Snapchat, I just try to make it like as obnoxious as possible. Right. And even if it's not something that's like a big deal, you can always frame it in a way that's like really fucking cool. And another thing too is I think we should touch upon, Mark, the difference between how men go through a breakup and how women go through a breakup.

20:30 Because with women, it's like after women break up with a man, her self-esteem is a little bit down. She's not feeling too good. So what happens? Well, all the fucking men in her life, like goddamn wolves, jump on the opportunity because she has low self-esteem and they're trying to get with her. As a man, what happens? You have low self-esteem, right? Same thing as the woman. But when you have low self-esteem and you're not confident, it's hard to get fucking girls. So there's an initial like period where you're going to lose momentum when you go through a breakup.

20:59 But that's where you cultivate that skill of just pushing through it, cultivate that willpower. And then eventually you'll have more momentum than she does. So that's important to touch on too is because like for women, I think it's a lot easier to get over a breakup just because they have so many guys pursuing them. But as a man, like it's going to take a lot more struggle and it's going to be a lot harder. But again, you can do it. It's completely doable. And in fact, that's one of the things that she'll respect you for is that she'll see how well you can bounce back.

21:29 Yeah, yeah, and when she sees that what you want to be is unaffected. Like let's say you run into her or she calls you. If she calls you and she just wants to talk, don't take her back immediately. You need to be convinced because, you know, it didn't go well. You know, you're dating other girls. But at the same time, you don't want to be malicious at all. With women, I really emphasize the point that you don't want any negative energy going into the interactions with women.

21:57 Like even when you're dating them, you want to try to eliminate that negative energy as much as possible. Now, there is a way to reprimand a woman in a certain way and that's a different topic not discussed on this podcast. But when you do run into her, you don't want to like have this little negative, malicious, like, you know, intent behind what you're doing. What you want to be is positive and unaffected. You want to be cool with her and don't show that you're hurt about the breakup.

22:21 Like you could be like, yeah, you know, I'm disappointed, but I understand your perspective and, you know, I apologized and I hope you're doing great and, you know, I wish you all the best. And then you just walk off and she's like, oh, why isn't he fighting for me? And then she stalks you on, you know, Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, whatever it is, and you're like – you're with these other girls. Her imagination, like John said, is just going to go, go, go, and she's going to call you back.

22:45 And again, you don't want to be convinced too easily because you've got to make yourself into the prize, especially if she broke up with you. Probably the reason she broke up with you is because you were doing some beta male thing like being needy, being over-controlling, being, you know, insecure and asking her to fill up your ego by complimenting you and making you feel good, wanting to spend too much time with her or any myriad of other beta male type things. So you need to show her that the breakup actually transformed you into an alpha, that she was the fuel that transformed you into an alpha, and the new version of you is what she's going to want back.

23:22 And to prove to her that you're the new version of you, you need to push her away a little bit and be like, ah, yeah, like we've been there, done that. Like why would we do that again? You know, it obviously didn't work out and kind of push her away a little bit like that. She's going to get so invested into getting you back. She will like crawl over broken glass to kiss your scum-ridden feet just to get you back when you do these methods. Again, they're a little bit manipulative, okay?

23:45 We know some guys are going to come on and comment and be like, whoa, you guys are saying to manipulate girls. But it's like, dude, you want to play the game. You got to play by the rules. And these are the rules. This is what works. You need to move on. It just is. And she's using them on you too. What's that? She's using them on you too. Oh, God. Big time. Big time. It's all – we're all imposters, man. Like I was talking about this to my NLP coach today.

24:08 He's like, when are you not acting like something? You know what I'm saying? Like when you meet your boss, you act like the employee. When you meet a girl, you act like a pimp. When you're at the gym, you act like the rip guy. You're always acting like something. So what's the big fucking deal? No one is 100% genuine all the time. Just the fact that like I shave and I manscape and I do my hair, is that manipulative? We're all doing it. So why not use it to your advantage and go date other girls?

24:35 If you have some issue with this, think about it that way. And what's funny is like it actually – I don't even think it's manipulative. Like I think that guys can use this stuff in a manipulative way. Like if they're like scheming and they're like, oh, like she's going to be hurt and I need to like trap her in. Like no, like fuck that. I mean this is really just about like you just want to like blast your fucking social media with you doing cool shit because you genuinely like doing cool shit.

25:00 And then that's going to draw abundance into your life. Like if you just approach this with an open mind and you just actually trust the process, you'll come out so much stronger on the other side. Like that's one of the biggest fucking things that I get in game, and I'm sure you get it too, Mark, is like the biggest complaint is like isn't this manipulative? Oh, yeah. Yeah, all the time. I mean my – yeah, like my response to that is it's actually the way that guys should normally act when they're fucking men.

25:26 But because our society has made us fucking pussy soy boys, we have to actually learn how to do it. And as you're learning how to do it, it might feel incongruent because you're not used to it. But once you actually do become that man who's a fucking alpha male, who's a boss on his path in life, these things are natural to who you are. You break up with a girl. You're sad. You're like, damn, like this sucks. But then you're like, okay, let's get back at it.

25:51 Let's go to the gym. Let's fucking update my social media. Show people what I'm doing. Go out with friends. Have fun. Just fucking have a fun life. Have an awesome life. And then give my girlfriend, my ex-girlfriend, the opportunity to see how much of an awesome man I am. And if she wants to come back, then she can. If not, then I'll go fuck 100 other girls and find a new girlfriend. Yeah, and the ironic thing about this podcast here is that if you're listening to this trying to get your ex-girlfriend back, you're already in the wrong mindset.

26:22 So it's kind of like the podcast that shouldn't be recorded because it's already coming from the wrong frame. Like we don't really want you to get your ex-girlfriend back because you're suffering from one-itis. And one-itis is you're focusing on one girl. But to be an alpha male, alpha males don't focus on one girl. They have abundance like John was just saying. They're getting after it. Girls are chasing them. So get your ex-girlfriend back. It's like whatever. I mean, okay, she may have been your soulmate, the best girl you've ever met.

26:49 Like so in love. I understand that. I'm in that situation right now. But if like if she broke up with me, you know, I would understand I probably fucked up or there wasn't something right with the relationship. And I have so many girls on my dick right now. It's like, okay, I'm just going to move on. And, you know, if she realizes that she made a mistake, she can come back. But it's like the fact that you're trying to get this one girl, that's the wrong mindset, man.

27:15 You need to have an abundance mindset. That's how women work. The more, the better. Those who have get more. Those who don't have will be taken from. You know, classic principle, classic law of the universe. That really is a classic law of the universe. I mean, you know, the rich get richer and the poor get poorer. And that isn't just applicable to money, which it is. But it's also applicable to dating, to health, to everything. Because when you have more, it's easier to get more. People want to do more deals with you and work with you and be around you because you have more.

27:45 And then you get more because there's more people around you. Get more from them. You know, but when you don't have that much, it's hard to gain momentum because you don't have anything. And then because it's hard to gain momentum, it's hard to get more. So that's so true, you know. And you, like, Mark and I have kind of touched upon this. You want to choose from abundance. Like you, like a lot of guys, I feel like they get into relationships because, you know, they can only get this one girl.

28:10 And they don't choose because they have a lot of girls. They see one that they like out of the 50 that they've been dating. And they're like, damn, like, I really like this one. I just want to spend more time with her. And you start spending more time with her. And the relationship just happens naturally. That's what it should look like. But because, you know, our society is so fucked up, that's not often how it looks like. Right. Absolutely. So one of the ways, guys, you think, okay, John was just saying you have to have to get.

28:38 And it's one of those ironic things about the universe you have to have to get. So how do you start having? Well, again, set up your social media. You can go to the clubs and just be like, hey, throw me your Instagram, yada, yada, yada. You know, you get, like, 50 girls on there. Definitely one is going to hit you up and be like, hey, what are you doing today? And then you can, you know, close her with some of the texting techniques that, you know, we teach in our courses.

29:01 And this is also a good time to give a plug for my course. It's called The Approach Formula. It shows you the step-by-step process to approach a woman, get her phone number, and walk away with the highest chance of her actually texting you back. And it's based on 10,000 approaches of me and my team. It's all the best stuff that we've come up with. And it's a formula to actually open a girl in a way where you're not being creepy. You're not being needy. It's totally natural.

29:26 It's under the radar. And getting her engaged and attracted to you so that you can walk away with a really solid phone number or, like we've been talking about, a really solid Instagram. You can grab that at gettheapproachformula.com. I typically sell it for $33, but you can go ahead and grab it for $10. And I also offer one-on-one coaching. And, John, I don't know if I told you this, but I've been getting a lot of clients off this podcast. It seems like a lot of your audience resonates with what we say.

29:55 And a lot of these guys are really cool guys, and we're getting some great progress with it. And you think studying at home, taking courses, doing all these things on your private time is the best way to do it. But John and I both work with coaches, and we strongly, strongly suggest that you invest in yourself. Because when you work with a coach, he can target your specific sticking points. He can target those specific things that you need to work on and create a blueprint for you on what exactly you need to do to get the results in the quickest, easiest way possible.

30:29 You can get coaching with me. Just go to MarkSingCoaching.com. Again, that's M-A-R-K-S-I-N-G-Coaching.com. You can read all about it there. And, you know, if you just got broken up with your girlfriend, you're devastated right now, I can certainly help you with that. We're giving you some awesome tips here, but there's definitely more where that came from to help you get over her, help you get laid with other girls, find even a better girlfriend, or even get your ex-girlfriend back. So I just wanted to throw in that plug there.

31:01 John, did you have anything else you wanted to say? Because basically, I'm tapped, man. I've said everything I wanted to say about this topic. No, I agree. I mean, ultimately, guys, what this comes down to is just getting back onto your grind and your purpose as a man. And, you know, when she sees that you're doing that, she'll become attracted. It's just – it's plain and simple. It's so simple. She'll see who you are. Yeah. That's really what it is. And guys want some fucking, you know, bullshit, scammy marketing thing.

31:27 Like one secret sentence you can say back to her and she'll fuck you immediately. Like that doesn't exist. It just doesn't exist. Yeah. You know, so if you're looking to get back on your purpose as a man like we recommend, then I recommend my product Seven Strategies to Develop Your Masculinity. It's basically seven very easily implementable strategies into your life that you can start doing right now. They will make you more masculine. They will center you and ground you in who you are and create that primal alpha male masculinity and mindset that women find so attractive.

31:59 It comes with four free bonuses. I cover Tinder, one of these e-books that come for free with this Seven Strategies product is The Art of Tinder where I actually reveal my step-by-step process that I used to sleep with over 100 girls on Tinder. I have one on how to get nudes from girls. I have a whole bunch of different free e-books. Go check it out. It's all in the description down below. And if you're looking to get in better shape, lose weight, build muscle, you know, just build that alpha male physique, I recommend my product Body of an Alpha.

32:31 So that is basically the result of over basically almost 10 years of bodybuilding and strength training and just lifting and trying different diets and everything. So that's my ultimate product on building a better body. It comes with multiple free bonuses as well. I cover nutrition, diet, supplements, you know, the bullshit versus the stuff that actually works. I give you my own workout routine that I use. And you can actually, you know, once you start developing this physique from Body of an Alpha, it's in the description down below, you will notice that girls are so much more receptive to your advances.

33:06 They'll start to chase you. And, you know, like I said, using social media, all I do on Snapchat is fucking post a couple gym update pictures every now and then. And I get like 20 girls fucking hitting me up saying I look good. And then it's so easy to fucking sleep with them from there on. So Body of an Alpha, check it out in the description below. And my last product is actually Bitcoin Millionaire. This is my most coaching heavy product because I actually work with people one-on-one in this product to make a financial plan.

33:34 And I'm not a financial advisor, but it shows you exactly how I'm making six figures a year trading cryptocurrencies. We're not letting anyone in at the moment. But if you actually want to send me an email, maybe I can let you in if there's a spot. We're pretty selective about who we let in the program. But check it out down below. It's in the description. And, yeah, I think that's it, Mark. Well, I will say I did the Body of an Alpha course and looking pretty ripped lately.

33:59 I noticed, John, you did a stack of whatever the hell. Sarms. Yeah, yeah. Dude, you look shredded, bro. I was looking at your blog. I was like, God damn, dude. Take it easy over there, bro. Thank you, bro. Too much deadlifting this guy, man. Cannonball shoulders all shredded. How has the response been from women? Pretty decent? Good, dude. I actually put that picture up on – I've been putting it up every day on Snapchat, just re-uploading it. It's really funny because I'm, like, too lazy to take another picture most of the time.

34:28 Yeah. So – and it's funny because, like, I've been getting all these girls hitting me up. And one girl kept asking. She was like, why did you – like, you posted this, like, three times already. Why? And I'm just like – because I keep getting fucking attention from girls, duh. And she's like, ha, ha, ha. I'm actually going to hang out with that same girl later tonight. But, yeah, it's been working pretty well, dude. It's just – it's so funny. Like, women say, oh, all men care about is fucking a girl's body.

34:48 So they just objectify me. But, like, girls do the same thing. When you have a fucking really good-looking alpha male physique, girls do the same thing. They do. They do. I was going to tell you the other night I was at the bar, and some girl was, like, literally trying to take my shirt off. I'm just standing there, and then suddenly from behind, my shirt starts coming off. And I was like, whoa, whoa, what the fuck? Relax, dude. Ever ask for permission before? What if I did that to you?

35:11 Yeah. You would, like, draw and quarter me. I would be crucified immediately. But, you know, as men, we kind of like that attention. So I always tell my students, while looks don't necessarily matter – If you have good game. If you have good game, they get your foot in the door. It's kind of interesting how it works. They, like, do matter, but they don't. It gets your foot in the door. It gets girls way attracted to you initially, so it buys you extra time with them.

35:35 But more than that, I think the most important thing is – and, John, tell me whether or not you agree with this – is when you're ripped, you feel good, and that's influenced in your body language because you feel good about yourself. So true. So it's like if you can completely accept yourself when you're fat the same way that John can accept himself being ripped, dude, you're fine. Rock the Chicken McNugget with tits look. Like, we're good on that. I personally don't suggest it, but it's like in addition to all the other positive things that come from being ripped, I've found that just the way I feel because I just know I'm shredded.

36:07 Like, I like it when, like, wind will blow on my shirt and it's like the pecs are just popping, you know? Yeah, yeah. Like, the six-pack is, like, very obvious. It just makes you feel so good that women react to that. But then again, also because you look good, they're going to come up to you and, like, touch your arms and, like, touch your chest and, like, you will be molested by women when you get ripped. So it really is worth the hard work for sure.

36:30 Yeah, the double standards are unreal, guys. So the way I see it is, like, if you have, like, really good looks, then you'll sleep with a lot of girls. If you have really good game, then you'll sleep with a lot of girls. But if you have both, then, like – it's like we've used this analogy before. It's like killing an ant with a nuclear bomb. Like, it's just so fucking easy. So, yeah, guys, check it out, Body of an Alpha, 7 Strategies to Develop Your Masculinity. The links are down in the description below.

36:56 And sorry, Mark, what were you going to say? Yeah, just imagine how much your ex-girlfriend is going to, like, want to get you back if you were, like, kind of out of shape when you were with her and then suddenly, bing, like, you're ripped. Oh, she's going to definitely want that back, man. So, yeah, we gave you guys lots of good tips. But ultimately, we suggest taking our courses, working with us one-on-one because that's when you're going to get the real fast track to the results you're looking for.

37:21 But, again, it's just about moving on. It's about showing her that you have other girls in your life. It's about being genuinely, you know, apologetic to her, showing her you're unaffected, showing her you're mature, you've moved on, you've gone from a beta male, and you've crystallized into an alpha male. And she's going to want that back. So, pretty simple podcast here, 37 minutes, but that's how easy it is, guys. So, get after it and let us know if you have any questions. Absolutely. Talk to you guys later.

37:53 All right.

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