How to Stop Being Ashamed For Your Sexual Desires and Masturbation

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2:32 So with that out of the way, let's go ahead and talk about the content. All right. So when you read that title, I have a feeling a lot of you guys got excited. And the reason you got excited is because in today's society, there is so much guilt and shame around our sexuality, isn't there? When's the last time somebody told you, which I'm going to tell you right now, that it is absolutely okay to desire a woman. It is absolutely okay to beat off. It is absolutely okay to listen to the UMP and get that debilitating erection that lasts longer than five hours.

3:07 Hey, I'm all okay with that. But in today's society, and largely because we have a lot of religion in this society, we're meant to feel shameful for having sexual desires. I mean, in some cultures, and when I say cultures, I'm talking about individual cultures inside our society as a whole. You can't even have sex until you're married. And some people still believe that sex outside of marriage is like a sin or wrong or shameful. Or for the most of us, we got caught beating off when we were a kid.

3:36 We got caught with porn. We got caught with that playboy under our mattress and our mom or our dad shamed us for it. And because of that, gentlemen, we have a phenomenon that A, men don't want to approach women because they're afraid of what other people think of them. Have you ever thought that the reason you're afraid of what other people think of you is because you have shame around the fact that when you approach a woman, you're basically telegraphing to everybody around you that you want to get laid.

4:02 I mean, think about that. That's really down to the fundamental core of what's happening when you approach a woman. So a lot of guys who have insane approach anxiety, the root of it is the shame around their own sexuality. I shouldn't be sexual. Lusting after a woman is wrong. And dude, even in today's society with this big wave of feminism and anti-masculinity, some of us are made to feel like we're actually violating a woman's personal space by going to speak to her. I mean, remember that Gillette commercial where they talk about like anti-masculinity stuff?

4:38 It was a huge thing a couple of years ago. Well, in one scene, there was a dude who was going to go approach a woman and his friend grabs him by the shoulder. He's like, no, man, don't do it. Not cool. Not cool. I was like, what? Are you kidding me right now? This is the worst fucking message you can give guys because brothers, let me tell you this right now. And if you don't think it, I'm going to help you think it right now. Your sexuality is okay.

5:03 Your sexuality is acceptable. In fact, I want to get you to the point where I'm at, where I'm fucking proud of my sexuality. When I look at a woman and I want to have sex with her, and I'm going to talk about this more in a second. When I would look at a woman, I'm like, man, I would love to have her. I'm like, yeah, brother, that's masculinity right there. You guys, your purpose on this earth is to procreate. That's why anthropologically speaking, you are here.

5:26 I mean, think about it. The number one objective of any species is to proliferate and continue the lineage of their species. Is it not? So if you think about it, your point as a man, and when I say man, I mean you have balls in a penis, is to put that penis into a woman, impregnate her, and carry on the lineage of the species, is it not? So why the fuck are we feeling so goddamn shameful around our sexuality when it's such a strong urge inside every single one of us?

5:57 Believe me, bro, I know exactly how you feel when you see a super hot girl and you're kind of looking at her ass, you're looking at her legs, you're checking out her face, her hair, and you're just like, bro, what I would do to that girl, right? I would eat you alive. Just like Limp Bizkit says. You should listen to the song, Eat You Alive by Limp Bizkit. What he talks about in that song is like the quintessential thought that all us guys have, but at least he had the fucking balls to admit it.

6:23 At least he put it out there into the world and said, yo, I will eat you alive. Hey, you, Mrs. I don't know what the fuck your name is. I'm drawn to you. Something's magnetic here. God, I love that song. It's so true, man. He's like, if I could just get close to you or even smell the scent that you left behind, I'd be fine. Then he's like, hey, you, Mrs. Too Good to Look My Way. That's cool. You want nothing at all to do with me, but I want you ain't nothing wrong with wanting you because I'm a man and I can think what the hell I want.

6:51 You got that straight. Love that shit. I love that shit. Now I'm going to talk about how this can go into creepiness, how it can go into violating women in a minute, but I want to start this off by saying to you, bro, you are supposed to feel that way. You are supposed to lust after women. You are supposed to look at a woman and want to have sex with her. That's how you're designed. So stop feeling so shameful about it. When you stop feeling so shameful about it, do you know what that eliminates?

7:16 It eliminates premature ejaculation. It eliminates erectile dysfunction. It eliminates approach anxiety. It eliminates you feeling guilty after you fucking beat off, which so many of you guys experience. So the first step, okay, is to accept your sexuality, to say, you know what? This was put in me by whatever, God's source energy, or even the species that wants me to proliferate its own DNA so that we can continue to thrive. Whatever your belief is, I don't give a shit. But dude, you were not born with this high testosterone, this high amount of sexuality, this fucking baby batter on the brain.

7:52 You beating off twice a day, you got that Pornhub platinum frequent masturbator card, and you're just hitting it like no tomorrow. You're polishing the dolphin. You're rubbing them out so much. You could start a fucking colony if you really wanted to. That is okay. How many people have told you this, brother? It is okay. The last time you beat off, were you guilty for it? Did you hang your head in shame? Did you say, man, I shouldn't have done that? Well, I'm here to let you know.

8:20 It's okay that you did that, brother. And yes, I do it too. I beat off, boys. Oh, how shameful. I should feel horrible. Fuck that. Everybody does it. Everybody, including most women. And women, if you're listening, which I know I do have some listeners, that's okay too. I want you to be that knuckle dunker. I want you to get that big 12-inch dildo and go to town. It's absolutely natural, boys. And for the gentlemen in particular, it helps your prostate. It helps you relieve stress. You have to get rid of that pressure.

8:45 You guys know how that feels. It's like having to take a big piss, but nowhere to put the damn thing. And it's fun, man. It's a good fucking experience. So the first thing we have to realize is, dude, your sexuality is absolutely okay. The second thing to realize is when you lust after a woman, here's the difference between a creepy guy and a guy like myself, and hopefully you too, that gets women more attracted to you because you're not shameful about your lust. A creepy guy looks at a woman as a piece of meat, as a piece of ass that he just wants to fuck and use and take and throw away to the side.

9:21 A guy like you and me, an unapologetic alpha silverback, looks at women almost like art or a beautiful sunset or something to admire, cherish, and want to take care of. When I look at a woman, and this actually happened today, there was a super fine girl at the gym. Perfect goddamn body, perfect ass. I love that thigh gap. She definitely had that flat tummy with a little belly button ring. I thought to myself, bless you, sweetheart. Bless you. You are fucking beautiful. You are gorgeous. And man, what I would do to you, little girl, make you feel so good.

9:59 This would be amazing if we were to do this together. Now, it's not like I want to take her. I want to give her my masculinity. And look at the penis and the vagina. The penis extends outward and the vagina comes inward, which means the penis gives, gives his desire, gives his sex, gives protection, leads the conversation, leads the frame, leads the energies, the masculine presence, protects her. The female receives, just like the vagina going inward, it receives that masculine energy. It receives the masculine presence.

10:29 So as I look at women, I give them my blessings, if you were. I give them positive energy, positive thoughts. And when I go talk to them, she can feel that from me. That girl today went up to her. I was like, hey, what's up? Never seen you in here before. What's up? What's your name? Her name was Amy. Super cool girl. She was a little young. I'm not going to lie. But I just chatted her up and she could feel that from me that, hey, I'm attracted to you.

10:51 I think you're gorgeous, but I'm not like trying to take your sex. I'm not trying to take that pussy, as so many guys will say. And you see this with your boys, right? They're like, man, I just want to fuck that girl. I had my friend tell me once, I want to fuck that girl till she bleeds. Okay, this is the wrong fucking mentality. You have to be like, I want to take care of her. I want to seduce her. I want to give her this amazing experience.

11:10 And yes, I want to have her, but it's a giving kind of having. Do you see how that works? So as men are shamed for their sexuality, they actually get into this dysfunctional state where they objectify women. They just want to take women and they lose that essence of appreciating women. Like I said, like a sunset or a piece of art or something to be cherished, something to be taken care of. They lose that. And then they become fucking creepy. Women feel that vibe from them.

11:40 They get rejected constantly. They feel shameful about their sexuality. So they don't want to approach anymore because of the compounding effect of all the negativity that their dysfunctional relation to their own sexuality has caused them. And they get in this downward spiral that they almost never get out of. That's why I'm here. I'm here to tell you, dude, be proud of your sexuality. When you wake up in the morning with a boner, the size of the Statue of Liberty, and you're in your bed and the thing is creating a tent over you because your dick is so big and the goddamn sheets are hanging over you like a tent.

12:13 Then you go to the bathroom and you got to take a piss and you actually have to like do a pushup on the back of the toilet so that you're almost parallel to the ground just so you can pee with the thing. Man, I want you to be proud of that boner. Be proud of that bastard. It's masculinity flourishing. But what do most guys do? They're like, oh, how shameful. Oh, I masturbated yesterday. Oh, how shameful. Right? Shame has been associated with that masculine desire for sexuality.

12:39 And I'm here to tell you, it's bullshit. It's a societal fucking lie that you need to throw out immediately. Now, of course, if you were to join my three month coaching program, I have NLP modalities to remove that belief system. Like a belief system, sex is shameful. I bet 90% of you guys have that in there, even if you don't know it's there. We fucking remove it. Then the next time you get a boner that's the size of the Eiffel Tower, you're like, yeah, son, look at that motherfucker, dude.

13:09 Proud of this whip right here, man. The next time I take a girl down to my stabbing cabin, she's going to know all about it. And again, you take care of her, you appreciate her, and you desire her. This leads me to my next point. Do you know what a woman wants more than anything else from a man? Anything else. She wants to be desired sexually by him. This is why women do their makeup, their hair, they work out, they're really into appearance because they know that men are attracted to their appearance.

13:37 And when a man looks at her correctly, again, not like a piece of steak, but with desire and a longing for her, for her femininity, not to take it, but almost to give his seed to her, she wants nothing more, especially and most particularly from a guy she's attracted to. Now, on this vein of thought, do you know what we want more than anything from a woman? To feel like we're needed, to feel like we're needed, to feel like she can rely on us, that we can protect her, that she needs us in her life.

14:07 Women want to be desired, men want to be needed. And this fits perfectly into the archetypes of how we're designed. Women are designed to be nurturers, to give birth, to look beautiful. There's nothing more beautiful than a woman, bro. You know what I mean? Like, you look at a hot girl, you're just like, fuck, dude, thank you, God, for these women. You guys, they're out there every day. Every day I'm driving around, going to the gym, I'm like, God, dude, I live in a utopia of just hot girls everywhere.

14:32 Thank you. And I have that appreciation. They can feel it from me. And a man wants a woman to need him, to protect him, to take care of her, to preside over her, to lead her, right? So that works into the masculinity and femininity. So you are actually suppressing your masculine energy by being shameful and feeling guilty about wanting to have sex. Not only that, but you're telegraphing it to women when you approach them. Okay. So you go up to her, Hey, how's it going? Wanted to come meet you.

15:02 She can just feel it. She can just feel it. This guy feels shame for being attracted to me. And he's so worried about what everybody else thinks. He's so worried about it. But you guys, when I go up to a woman, I have no fucking shame in the game. I'm like, yo, I think you're gorgeous. I wanted to come meet you. What's up? And like, that's like a genuine desire that I have for her and she can feel it from me. And I believe this is a big reason I get good results with women.

15:26 Also because I have frame control and let's not underestimate the vast scope of experience that I've had. Remember, I've been doing this for 10 to 15 years. I've been in set thousands of times, right? So it's like no big deal to me, but also I just have a genuine, genuine desire. All right, brother, let's talk about that Pornhub frequent masturbator platinum plan that you have that you feel super guilty about. Okay. A lot of you guys are addicted to porn. Where does addiction come from? Well, addiction usually comes from some childhood trauma, which by the way, we work on in my three months coaching program.

15:59 And it's basically like a bottomless hole that no matter how much you fill, it'll never be full. It's a dopamine thing. It's a lot to explain. I'm not going to get into it. But another thing is, is when a guy feels guilty about it, it almost becomes like this guilty pleasure where it creates a deeper sense of desire on a different channel of dysfunctionality that makes them masturbate over and over and over again. So the first thing I tell people who are addicted to porn, who feel guilty about masturbating is bro, throw out the guilt, man.

16:31 Be proud of that shit. When you bust it up, be like, hell yeah, dude, I shot my masculinity all over the place. That shit took 10 Kleenexes and two paper towels just to clean up. Yeah, son. That was a lot of baby batter right there. And let's not forget, baby batter is the reason you're here. So don't feel shameful about it. So what? You masturbate once in a while. All of us do, bro. Stop like beating yourself up about it. Who gives a shit? Enjoy it. Have you ever thought about that?

16:57 Like so many of us cower and we're like beta cucks sitting in the corner, like masturbating and trying to have nobody see us. I'm not saying to like go masturbate in public or anything, but when you do it, just be like, yo, this is natural. This is fine. This is healthy. I love women. I desire them. Fuck. I cherish them. And when I see a beautiful woman on the porno, I'm like, damn, dude, like, God, she's so gorgeous. She's so amazing. Now, when it comes to porn, there's a lot of dysfunction.

17:22 I don't know if you guys know this, but most of the girls on porn have been molested or raped. So there's kind of that dysfunctional thing that I struggle with, but let's just say you're watching like a swimsuit competition, better example, which, which I'll do sometimes. Right. And you just want to rub one out real quick. Cause these girls are just super banging, especially quick hint for you guys, the Italian swimsuit competitions. I don't know about you. I like thin women in shape women and the Italian swimsuit competitions.

17:50 Girls are way hotter than the American ones where their ass is bigger than my entire goddamn body times two. It's like, what the fuck, dude? What's with the big ass craze lately guys? Like, calm down. I hate those gigantic asses. It looks like a dude's ass. In my opinion, I know a lot of you guys disagree with me, whatever. That's, what's good though. Right. I have my type. You have your type. So if we ever went out together, I'd get all the thin chicks, you get all the chicks with the badonkadonk butts, and then we can split, divide and conquer.

18:16 But I get off course. Okay. So you see a hot girl, cherish her, admire her, feel good about wanting her. Your desire for a woman is a quintessential part of your masculinity. So embrace it, dude. Embrace that boner every morning. Embrace the masturbation. Embrace lusting after women. And the next time you look at a woman, say, bless you. You are beautiful. God, you're beautiful. Now you don't necessarily want to like come up to them with that creepy kind of like, oh, you're so beautiful. Oh, I just want you so bad.

18:45 Just think it to yourself. Just think it to yourself. And then when you go talk to them, like I always talk about, you don't know this chick from anybody else. Yeah, she's hot, but that's only, you know, one tick off of 10 different boxes that she's met. You can feel it in your heart. Like, damn, this girl's gorgeous. I'm stoked to be talking to her because we get an influx of energy. When we talk to a really hot girl, it's been scientifically proven. But like, don't give her too much credit now, but definitely give her credit.

19:10 And most importantly, appreciation in your own mind when you see a hot girl. So from now on, boys, no more guilt about masturbating. And if you have it, maybe you want to work with me. We can remove that shit immediately like a splinter from your brain. It's probably because of some metaprogram that somebody gave you when you were a kid before you could defend yourself against it. So no shame, right? Be proud of your boner. Be proud of masturbating. You are a fucking man. Be proud of desiring a woman.

19:42 Approach anxiety will go down. Women will feel it from you. You'll have a good vibe about you, and you'll be secure as a man. Because this is what we've done for generations, but only recently, or I should say only since Christianity. God bless Christianity. I think it's done a lot of good. But this is one of the bad things that's come out of it, which is making us feel guilty for being sexual, right? It's like renunciation of your sexuality. Shame, shame on you. It's like, I bought into that shit for so long.

20:06 I felt so guilty after I rub one out. But now I'm like, yeah, dude, it's something I look forward to. I don't do it a ton because I've talked about it before. I think it's something that you need to do in moderation. Plus my girlfriend gives the best sick duck ever. She's got these two pillows for lips. So it's like, I like her sick duck a lot better than beating off. But sometimes, you know, you just want to rub one out real quick, maybe so you can fall asleep or you just are in the mood.

20:32 And you guys, I do it too. I have no fucking shame for it. That's why I'm talking about it right now. It's like, what's the big deal? Everybody does it. Monkeys do it. Hell, my bird, dude. This is funny. I've never talked about this. My bird fucking masturbates. So we have this playpen on top of the refrigerator in the kitchen. I'll put them up there and there's a rope that hangs down. And the rope has little pieces of rope coming off of it. He grabs it with his foot and masturbates himself.

20:57 So we've named his little play stand, the masturbation station. And he, dude, this boy will mock like five hours in a row. I'm like, damn, bro, get some, man. You're going hard in the paint. And the first time I saw him doing it, I walked into the kitchen and I was like, oh, sorry, bro. Sorry. And I like walked away. Oh, that's funny, man. But dude, Jack, my lineulated parakeet, my bird, he beats off. It's like every fucking animal does, dude. You see like dogs humping carpets, pigs humping each other's corpses.

21:26 I saw this thing the other day. This guy was hunting a pig. He killed it. And there was another pig that came up and tried to fuck it. Hey, bro, our sexuality is natural. That's how all of our species exist. So why are we feeling shameful about it? Like, have you ever questioned this? Why am I buying into some other person's bullshit? Some other like fabricated religious belief that's a complete misinterpretation of the Bible, in my opinion. A lot of you disagree. It's cool. We can disagree, bro, and still be friends.

21:55 We can disagree. But I believe it's a gross misinterpretation. It's like, come on, dude. Like, go beat off right now, bro. I give you permission. If I'm telling you not to feel shameful, hopefully that's going to get into your subconscious mind a little bit. You'll feel better about it. And watch, dude. The dysfunction goes away. Your creepiness around women goes away. Your approach anxiety goes away. And you can just be a fucking man without making any apologies for it. All right, gentlemen, I do appreciate you listening.

22:20 Like I said, I'm about to get real busy once Marnie's podcast drops. So if you want to get on that free one-on-one breakthrough session with me, and you know what? If you have issues with erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, approach anxiety, not knowing what to say to women, it could be wrapped up into that. And that's something we would work on in addition to a myriad of different things. That's going to bring you back to your original self-esteem. I don't change you into a little Mark Singh.

22:46 I don't expect you to be anything like me. What my job is to do is to get you comfortable with who you are, the way you were born before other people came and messed you up, before other people came and gave you their bullshit beliefs, their bullshit programs, before you could defend yourself from them. So we're going to get you back to that self-esteem. Women feel that from you. And then you pull girls. In addition to all my tactics, shit works, boys. Shit works. I get messages every day from my clients just being like, holy, I can't even believe this, bro.

23:17 This shit works so good. I'm like, yeah, dog, I got you, bro. I got you. And I got you too, brother. So hit me up. Let's get on that call together. Can't wait to meet you. You are a legend. Songs will be written about you that will be sung around campfires for generations to come. All right, gentlemen, that's it for me. And I will see you in the next episode.

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