Let's Talk About Your Appearance, Bro (Every Guy Needs to Hear This!)

0:00 Welcome to the Unapologetic Man Podcast. The only podcast that's all about self-improvement, confidence, success, women, and being a man without making any apologies for it. What is up, gentlemen? Thank you for tuning in to another episode of the UMP. I really do appreciate it. If you've been listening for a long time, you know what to do, brother. That's right. Smack yourself on the ass so hard when the concussion hits, it shoots you upward through a skylight. If this is your first time listening, welcome. What I try to do is give the best information in the most succinct way possible.

0:39 So let's go ahead and jump right into it, boys. No blatant advertising. I do enough of that in my other episodes. But I will say this, if you're interested in learning more about my free one-on-one breakthrough session, listen to the previous episode, the one about how long it takes to get really good with women. Or was it how long does it really take to get good with women? That was the one. And then also listen to some of my other podcast episodes before you do sign up with me.

1:02 I want to make sure that not only you understand exactly what it is that I do, but you're also in deep rapport with me so that when I do NLP on you, it works that much better. So your appearance, bro, you look like a chicken McNugget with tits. You look like a potato that has a bathing suit on it. You look like a douche canoe of the highest order. And you listen to my podcast and you hear that really looks don't matter that much, right? You say, listen, looks don't matter that much.

1:30 I can floss the unibrow. I can have these goddamn hairs jetting out my nose like a forest. I can rock breath that smells like a burning tire that got shit on by a sumo wrestler. And it won't matter because Mark Singh says that frame and game and qualifying and believing in myself, being unapologetic is the most important thing. And you know what? On a large degree, you're right, man. The most important thing is that you have game. The most important thing is that you're confident, self-assured.

1:57 You believe in your reality. You're unapologetic about who you are. You think that you and your life are an absolute champion of the highest order. And you're right, bro. You're right. That is the most important thing. But let's not underestimate the importance of first impressions because I will say this. I have a lot of girlfriends and they are freaking brutal when it comes to picking apart and analyzing the style of dudes. In fact, some girls won't even talk to you if your style and your appearance and most importantly, your hygiene isn't up to snuff.

2:31 Like a couple of weeks ago, we were out and my friend Ashley, she's just, man, she has no filter, boys. She is what we would call a resting bitch face bitch. And she just lets everybody have it, man. So she speaks with no filter and she's just ripping on this dude's shoes. And I was like, relax, chick. I literally said this to her. I was like, yo, you need to relax because you're kind of being a dick. And who cares? That's what he likes. So let him rock it.

2:57 You don't have to make him your boyfriend. You don't have to go home with him. So relax, Ashley, step it down a gear. Jesus wouldn't even believe this. And she's like, well, I just don't like those shoes. They're so ugly. Like, how could anybody ever buy those shoes? And it made me realize girls are actually thinking about this shit and it's really important to them. Now, can you get past your bad appearance with game? Oh, hell yes. Oh, hell yes. I used to look like a chicken McNugget with tits.

3:24 At one point, I got so sick of doing my hair. I'd just go out with bedhead. I'd let the freaking unibrow fill in. I wouldn't shave. And believe me, when I don't shave, I look like Chester the molester because I get this creepy ass mustache and nothing else, just a patchy beard that looks absolutely horrendous. For a while there, man, I was not running a tight battleship, boys. And part of it was because I just wanted to see what I could do with game. But I'll tell you, nowadays, man, I run a tight battleship.

3:51 I keep my hygiene on 1,000 and when I go out, I wear clothes that fit well. So what we first need to realize is that, look, do you want to stack the chips against yourself or in your favor? Well, if you're smart and if you're a good chess player, you're going to stack those chips in your favor, aren't you? And hygiene and the way you look does play an important role. Now, I want to start this with the short caveat and that caveat is you don't necessarily have to be good looking.

4:18 You don't necessarily have to go get facial reconstructive surgery or do something crazy like that. The way you're born is the way you're born. If you're short, you kind of got a weird face. You just don't have really good body proportions. When you go to the doctor, he says that you're a bit obese, but you mishear it and you think he says that you're a beast. If you're that kind of guy, listen, that's okay. Of course, I do strongly suggest that you work on yourself, especially in the gym.

4:43 And then, of course, hygiene, which we're going to talk about. But look, the way you're born is the way you're born. What's important is what you do with it. So what's important to women is how much you try to maintain it, how clean you keep it. The fact that you're trying your best is enough for a woman. And then you spit game on top of that and you're good to go. And I'll tell you, style is so damn important. So damn important. So I'm going to talk about that, too.

5:06 So let's start this at a very 10,000 foot perspective, which is hygiene. OK, so this should be common sense for a lot of you guys. But you'd be amazed, man. Sometimes I get on these calls with these guys, these free breakthrough sessions with me on these calls. And I'm like, man, just give me a pair of tweezers and a bar of soap and I'll clean this dude right up and make him look 200 percent better. And other times I'll see dudes out in the nightclubs, dudes in the gym who it's just like, man, you just need a little bit of attention to your fucking hygiene and to your appearance and you will improve so much.

5:36 So tonight, here's what I want you to do. You're going to take a good, hard look at yourself in the mirror and analyze the following things. OK, first of all, eyebrows. We're just going to start with eyebrows, bro, because that's towards the top of the head. And those are the things that dudes seem to let go more than anything else. Now, you don't have to have perfectly manicured and plucked eyebrows. But dude, if you're rocking a unibrow or your eyebrows are kind of thick and bushy or they're just kind of out of whack and they look weird, just pluck them, man.

6:03 Just dial those in. It's going to make you look so much better. So that's all I'm going to say about that. We're not doing a full fucking show about eyebrow plucking, at least not on this one, man. Maybe on episode 500, it'll be the special eyebrow plucking episode. But that'll never happen because we're fucking men here. And eyebrows only deserve a five second mention. Secondly, your haircut. Sometimes dudes will get on the call with me and I'll be like, bro, what's up with the freaking mop on your head, man?

6:27 You look like you got little animals living in there, bro. Like, let's go ahead and clean that shit up. So if you go to the hairdresser and here's a quick tip. One really good thing to do to meet lots of cute girls is to go to a college that is like a salon college. I think it is or like a beauty college. They do haircuts for really cheap and there's nothing but freaking girls in that place. Me and my buddy used to do that when we lived in Arizona and we got so many numbers out of that place.

6:54 You just get some random girl to cut your hair. They don't always do the best job, but they're always super cute and young and usually single. And it's a great thing to do. But when you go get your haircut, just ask them for a style that fits your face. This is what I always say to my clients. And I'll tell you straight up, like if you join the program and I think your appearance is out of whack, I'm going to tell you because I want to help you and I'm not afraid of hurting somebody's feelings for their benefit, for their help.

7:19 And I'm willing to do that. Of course, I do it in a very tactful way, but I'll tell you straight up, like, bro, what's with the freaking clown hair, man? Let's go ahead and dial that in. Okay, so we got hair. Obviously, clean your ears. You guys, the nose hairs, I see this all the time. It's really interesting and some of you guys may relate. It's like every time I talk to a dude and his nose hairs are jetting out, I don't know why I do this.

7:39 A little bit embarrassing, but I always imagine plucking them. Or like going up there with one of those, um, was those like trimmer things, just knocking it out. I don't know why, but it's like bothers me so much. And I know girls really pay attention to that too. So take a look in the mirror, look up the two bad caves. And if you got some weeds jetting out of that bad Jackson, go ahead and pluck those. Okay, down to the teeth, boys. Teeth are important. Now, if you have jacked up teeth because of a health situation or you smoke a lot or whatever the situation is, there's a lot dentists can do.

8:11 And you'd be surprised by that. Now I know a lot of you guys don't have money for this. You don't want to mess with it. You're afraid of dentists, but part of my coaching is moving into your fears. So if you have the courage to move into your fears and fix your teeth, it's going to pay off tenfold for you. So if there's black in them and particularly bad breath, like, listen, probably about 50% of the chicks that I blow out, I do so because they have bad breath.

8:35 So in the first conversation, I'm definitely checking for that. You need to floss. And I highly suggest a water pick. Water pick has absolutely changed my dental life. Dr. Zach, if you're listening, that one's for you, brother. I do the water pick every single night. I floss every single night. And then of course I use a Braun Oral-B electric toothbrush. And my teeth aren't perfect. You know, I had braces for like five years. They didn't properly rotate one of my canines. So it kind of sticks out weird.

9:03 And I'm thinking about actually getting it fixed, not necessarily for women, but for myself. I want to be the best version of myself. And that includes appearance. But listen, if you have jacked up teeth, there's a lot you can do. So go see your dentist. Be completely upfront with him. Listen, I'm scared or I don't have a lot of money. What can we do? Can you at least clean these things up? Put me under some anesthesia and give me an SRP. That one's for you too, Zach.

9:26 You know what I'm talking about, buddy. How do I know that? Because I had a girlfriend once that was in dental school. So I know a lot about dentistry for some reason. She was pretty hot too. Pretty hot girl. And now she's a dentist. There's a catch right there, boys. But she couldn't have me. She couldn't have me, man. She was way too clingy. So I blew her out. And her freaking dental mask blew off her face when the concussion hit. Now I'm with Marissa. Didn't land me, girl.

9:48 He didn't land me. Too thirsty. Too needy. So anyway, go get some scale and root planing. Tell them to fix you up because the teeth are really important. So get those dialed in, man. You know, a one-year commitment to that will do wonders for your smile. And a smile is really important. Many women say it's one of the most important things to them. So get it dialed in. All right. Now we're going down to your chicken McNugget with tits body. I strongly suggest working out. And I'm not going to launch into it right now.

10:14 But let's go ahead and dial in our diet, boys. Here's a quick thing I want to tell you. My nanny was about 20 pounds overweight. She sees how ripped I am. I'm 44 years old. And she asked me one day, how can I lose this weight? Which was kind of funny to me because it's like, oh my hell, you're asking Mark Singh for advice. Well, Mark Singh is going to give you that advice. So I said two things. I said, cut out sugar, cut out simple carbohydrates, bread, pasta, bagels, and the like, and definitely cut out those damn drinks from Starbucks that you bring in here every morning because those things are chock full of sugar.

10:49 She's like, that's it. I'm like, that's it. Just cut out sugar as much as you can. Now, mind you, sugar is in most things. So you got to be very cognizant and you got to really watch what you're eating and cut out those simple carbohydrates like bread and pasta. Your life will change. She's like, that's it. I'm like, that's it. Now shut the hell up and go cut those things out. So what happens, boys? Two months later, 20 pounds, fucking gone. Fucking gone. Her skin is brighter.

11:15 Her eyes are brighter. She's way happier. She's super stoked. And she's like, thank you so much. And I'm like, yeah, no problem. You could have went and spent a bunch of money on a nutritionist, which I too suggest, boys. I do suggest, you know, how much I'm into coaching and hiring people to help you. But if you guys just want to take the easy route, cut out that sugar, cut out those breads. I will say the only easy thing about it is that it's simple, but it's very hard to do, especially because your gut microbiome is going to be desiring those sugars and breads a lot during those first two weeks.

11:46 But once you're done with that, you'll feel totally fine and everything will clear up. You know, I used to get headaches. I used to be stuffed up. I used to sleep like shit. Again, I look like a chick McNugget with tits or a potato with a bathing suit on it. And because I cut out those sugars and cut out those simple carbohydrates, my life totally changed. I don't get headaches anymore. I'm usually pretty clear and I sleep great. So just do that and dial in your body.

12:10 I also suggest working out. Obviously, being ripped helps so much. Like when I'm winning in the club, I got all these hot chicks around me. I will literally have girls come up and put their hands up my shirt to feel my six pack. I will literally have girls touch my muscles, want to feel me, want to get close to me because I'm ripped and it is attractive. It's not absolutely necessary, but boy, does it help. And why wouldn't we want to help ourselves as much as we can in this situation?

12:37 All right, your penis size. Now, if you have anything less than eight inches, go ahead and get that penis enlargement. We want you at least 12 to 14, preferably two feet so you can lay the pipe like a champion. Just kidding, boys. Don't worry about your penis size. In fact, go listen to the episode that I recorded with my girlfriend, my amazing girlfriend, Marissa, does size matter. She tells you all about it and the answer may surprise you. All right, going down to, let's say, I don't know, the feet.

13:05 Clip your toenails, you know, clip your fingernails. Let's keep things clean. I actually found that women like that I have calluses. Now, some women don't, some women do, but I have calluses on my hands because I work out all the time and I don't wear gloves. Well, I found that a lot of girls find that attractive because it's like manly. Oh, one thing I forgot to mention is beards. Beards. Okay. Most women prefer men who have beards, which is unfortunate for me because as I mentioned, when I try to grow a beard, I look like Chester the molester.

13:34 So I have to run my face clean. But if you can grow beards, what women prefer is kind of like the five o'clock shadow. Now, obviously, a nicely kept beard is really important if you're going to keep a beard. But when they get super long and you look like that wizard from Lord of the Rings or that little midget dude who's also in Lord of the Rings, who is that guy? He's like a troll or something. I don't know. But if you have a big old beard like that, then that's not always ideal.

14:00 Some women like it. But I think that kind of puts you back to the level of clean shaven face. But the most attractive thing to women is kind of like that stubble, that five o'clock shadow. So if you got a beard and you can rock some good stubble, man, you should definitely do so. It helps so much. And again, just keep it clean. Keep it maintained. When it gets out of whack and it looks like a bunch of curly pubes coming out of your cheek, it just is unattractive.

14:24 Girls don't like it. But the vast majority of women are attracted to facial hair. All right, let's get into style now. So what I always say is like on a first date, what I would always wear would be like a nice pair of jeans. I personally prefer the brand Diesel. And then I wear a nice fitting shirt. I get my shirts, my t-shirts from this company called Son of a Tailor. They make custom t-shirts. You measure your body and they make t-shirts to fit your body.

14:50 I'm actually wearing one on the video that's on my sales page on my website, Coach Marksing. If you click on coaching, you'll see a video of me doing some coaching. And in that video, I'm wearing that shirt. It's just a simple black t-shirt. There's no designs on it, but it fits really well. Shows my buys and my tries. Makes my shoulders pop. Really shows the V cut, the V taper that I have because I'm ripped. And if you have a blown out body, well, you can get a custom t-shirt to fit that body to kind of hide some of those bad things.

15:21 But I'll tell you, a good fitting t-shirt is much more important than like a t-shirt with a cool logo on it or something like that. And also women tell me they like collared shirts. And I actually get custom made collared shirts as well. Here in Denver, I found a tailor who custom makes all my shirts and I can pick out the material. I can pick out the colors. So I have several custom shirts that are made. And then also your jeans or your pants, they want to fit right.

15:45 Show your butt. Women oftentimes are attracted to the caboose and they're also attracted to white shoulders and of course arms and all that stuff. So if you have a nice butt, you want to have jeans that fit around your waist. None of this sagging stuff. You know, it's not 1994 anymore. And then also your shoes. Like I said, Ashley was talking shit about that guy because he was wearing like, I don't even know what they were. They were like Dockers or some kind of like cheesy boat brand, which may be good in the East Coast, you know, but over here in Colorado, I guess it didn't fly.

16:15 I like to wear diesel boots and I kind of like that motorcycle look, right? That kind of like cafe rider leather jacket, kind of like blacks and darks and stuff like that and grays. That's really my style and it works really well for me. And then I rock the pompadour, kind of like the coif, as I call it, where on my podcast picture, you can see kind of how my hair is. That works really well for me. I notice I win, which means girls check me out a lot more when I'm rocking the cloth rather than just rocking a hat.

16:45 Although I'll still win in the hat sometimes too, because it kind of looks, kind of looks hard, I guess. Kind of looks masculine. So that's my suggestion when it comes to style. You know, you want to look in style magazines, but more importantly, I would look at the dudes who are pulling the kind of girls that you want to be with. You know, if you're into the granola kinds of girls, then you wouldn't be good to dress like one of those East Coast boat shoe kind of guys who's going to go out on his yacht.

17:09 And if you're into the yacht kind of girls, you don't want to dress like a fucking soap dodger, like a goddamn hippie with dreads wearing a Grateful Dead t-shirt and flip flops. Obviously, you want to dress like a boat dude who's about to go out on his yacht with his flippy floppies, right? So you got to dress for the kind of girl that you like. Like I like fine girls and I think fine girls are often into that kind of like motorcycle bad boy look like I'm clean cut.

17:33 I have really nice tattoos, but then I kind of have like a bad boy edge to me, man, that has worked really well, really, really well. So figure out what your style is, what you kind of want to look like and be yourself, you know, add some personal flair to it. But the fit of the clothing is the most important thing and a little bit the brand too. Like you definitely don't want to go dress from Walmart where you're wearing all these like cheesy brands and like tennis shoes with stonewashed jeans with a belt, like a brown belt and your t-shirts tucked in like that kind of shit, bro.

18:05 Trust me, man. Don't do it. I don't care how good your game is. Although, man, it might be fun for me to dress like that and try to go pick up girls, right? See if I could do it. Ah, that might be fun. I might try that. Anyway, so you want to dress the best you can. And again, look at the dudes who are pulling the chicks you want to get, dress like them, but most importantly, just hygiene, like particularly just fingernails, the unibrow, the teeth, boogers coming out.

18:30 Like you got a big old booger on your forehead that you launched when you were laughing. It's like, come on, boys, let's try to run a tight battleship. Let's present ourselves in the best way we can to women because the first impression is important. Now, again, you take the best looking dude with the best clothing. Like he's totally capped and he looks awesome and amazing. He's ripped and he's got a perfectly tailored suit. And he walks up and he's like, hey, how are you today? She's going to be like, um, no, thanks.

18:56 Right. And then you take me, put me in stonewashed jeans with my t-shirt tucked in with a brown belt with a booger on my forehead. And I'm like, what's up? I saw you standing over here and I wanted to meet you. What's up? What's your name? She's like, oh, I'm Kelly. So game can overcome the style, right? Maybe not a booger on the forehead, but it can overcome a lot. However, you match both of them. You have everything going for you. It's over, bro. Like she's going to be pushing her phone number into your back pocket, which actually happened to me a couple of weeks ago.

19:24 Long story. But this girl was like, I'm like, dude, I have a girlfriend. It's okay. You know, you guys might break up and here's my number. And I was like, roll that shit into a ball and make a free throw into the trash can, which is exactly what I did. But that's what happens, dude, when you have game on top of style and you have nines around you and you're just a legend and an absolute champion. So that's what I want you guys to be. So think about this, man.

19:47 Look in the mirror and give yourself a good hard look and be like, hey, could I take off these glasses and instead get contacts? Could I maybe start water picking and clean up my teeth a little bit? Do I have bad breath? I want a lot of you guys to admit that to yourself. Do you smoke? Are you doing hookah? Are you doing the e-cigs and all that other marijuana stuff? Gives you bad breath, bro. I'm not going to lie. Gives you bad breath. So let's tighten up the battleship, present ourselves effectively to women, and our results will multiply.

20:14 All right, gentlemen, that's it for me in this episode. I drop podcasts on Mondays and Thursdays, so make sure to stay tuned for the next one. And I will see you in the next episode. I'll see you in the next episode.

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