How to Take a Girl HOME on The First or Second Date

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1:19 So today we are going to talk about how to pull a girl back to your house on the first or second date when you might be feeling a little bit of trepidation, a little bit of nervousness from her. And I'm going to tell you, first of all, some good tricky methods, and then I'm going to be straight up with you how I don't believe in those methods, how I stopped using them, how I don't think they work as well as the real method to get a girl back to your house, which I'm going to reveal to you as the show continues a little bit more towards the end.

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3:43 Now, dating back to tribal communities, a woman's reputation was really important. And if she was found to be sexually lascivious, sleeping with lots of different people, she could be ostracized from the tribe. She could be punished by the other women. It would just never go well for her. So women are very, very sensitive about hooking up with random dudes. And rightly so. They have a lot more to risk than we do. They could get freaking pregnant and be stuck with this child for 18 years. So we have to really consider, okay, she probably just doesn't want to go have sex with the dude on the first or the second date unless she has some looser morals.

4:18 And personally, I'm going to get into this towards the end. I also don't think you should have sex that early. But if you really want to, I know some of you young bucks out there want to get it in as soon as humanly possible. Here's what I suggest you do. Okay, so considering the fact that she has a slut mechanism, she probably still will want to have sex with you if and only if you build up the attraction enough. You can't force open the petals of a flower, which I said several episodes ago, which means obviously you can't force it on her.

4:48 We need to build attraction. Attraction is always the answer. So you get her super attracted, okay? And let's assume you're at the point where you're like, you know what? I think this chick might be down to knock some boots tonight, so I want to go ahead and try to pull her home. Well, in order to do that, we have to deal, once again, with that slut defense mechanism. And in a way, we have to make an excuse so that she can make an excuse in her own head to go home with you.

5:14 Okay, so never is it, hey, let's head on over to my place and have some sex. It's always like, let's head over to my place and get a drink. Let's stop by my place on the way to XYZ. Or, hey, I want to take you back to my place to show you some videos. So what the point here is, is that there's always an ulterior reason, an ulterior excuse, so that she can make an excuse in her head. Because even if she wants to have sex with you, she won't, oftentimes, unless she's been spending enough time with you, which usually goes beyond the third date.

5:45 But let's say it's like the second date. Most girls, not all, but most girls probably won't that early. Well, some will. But let's just go with the average, like, you know, high moral girl. She probably won't do it. But if she's really turned on and really into you, she'll go to your house. Because, hey, we just went to his house. I didn't know what was going to happen. And it gives her, like, plausible deniability. So when she has that plausible deniability, she can say to her friends or even to herself the next day, well, we were just going over to his house to watch some videos, and the mood struck, and things just happened.

6:21 And that's the way we need to kind of rationalize it to her slut defense mechanism mind. Okay, so the strategy basically is to have an excuse to get her to your place, and it definitely isn't to go have sex, right? When you guys have been dating three or more times, then it's kind of implied, you know, most times, I'm not making any blanket rules here, but most times it's implied around the third date is when you guys have sex. Like, if you invited her to come stay over at your house, you guys had two really good dates, maybe you got a blowjob or something like that, and then the next time you're like, hey, do you want to come stay over, and she says yes, okay, it's implied.

7:00 But what we're working on here is doing it earlier than that. Maybe even getting her to your place from the club, the same night lay, as they call it. So to do that, once again, is the excuse. And the excuse oftentimes for me would be, hey, I want to show you some videos from Japan. As a lot of you guys know, I lived in Japan for four years. I have some really cool videos on my laptop of me teaching English in Japan, me giving speeches, me doing some cool things where translation was concerned.

7:29 And in so doing, I can say, hey, I got those videos on my laptop that I was telling you about. Why don't you swing on through, we'll check it out. And what I would always say is, but you can only stay a minute. I have to get up early the next day. So that's like the perfect excuse. It's completely safe for her. She's like, okay, I'm just going to go over for a little bit. We're going to hang out just a little, and then I'm going to leave.

7:51 And that's what you want to set up, even though it's not necessarily true. And again, to be honest with you, I don't really agree with this. I used to do it and I stopped doing it because I'm going to tell you in a minute, but if that's what you want to do, it's almost like you set it up so sex can't happen. And then it's going to have way less resistance in her mind to get over to your place. Now, once you're at your place, whatever happens, happens.

8:15 And that's where you, you know, ramp up the sexuality. You guys start making out. Once you start making out and turning her on, especially like kissing her neck, rubbing her tits, hopefully you can pop the tits out and start licking on them. Once you get to that point, then it's like all previous plans of, oh, I had to get up early. Oh, you're just going to stay for a minute. Then we'll grab you an Uber, go out the window. And then you just make the same excuse that she's going to make.

8:40 The mood struck. There was so much chemistry between us. We couldn't hold ourselves back. There was just too much attraction there. It was a floodgate. We couldn't do anything about it. And then that also gives her an excuse to her subconscious mind. To her slut defense mechanism that, hey, the mood struck. There was nothing we can do. It was destiny, right? And I've had so many girls tell me that. I'm like, what? You slept with him on the first date? Yeah, but it was just, we had so much chemistry and it just felt like destiny, right?

9:10 And I guarantee you what that dude did right was to not push it, right? We never want to push a woman into sex for various reasons. First of all, from a moral standpoint, obviously, come on, we're not going to be pushy. I hate fucking being pushy. I hate guys that are pushy. It's totally the opposite of the way that I am. Outside of the example I filmed a few podcasts ago about my pushy method, quote unquote, but that's a totally different example. But being pushy for sex, I completely disagree with it.

9:38 Why? Because it goes against my fundamental teaching and my coaching, which is when she's ready, that's when you take her there. Well, the very fact that you're pushing her goes against that because that's implying she's not ready, doesn't it? So you're trying to get her to be like, um, okay. There's no, um, okaying in anywhere in my game. And when I took that all out, that whole like pushiness thing, especially physically pushing, I got so much more sex because that's how female psychology works. As I've been explaining in this podcast over and over again in these episodes is you want to give it to her, take it away.

10:15 You want to be out of her reach. You want her chasing you. And then when she really wants it the most, you take her there. So with this, why are you even trying to push for sex on the first or second date? Just be patient, bro. Go home and polish the dolphin if you have to. But dude, don't always try to push chicks into sex. And I'll tell you guys who do this, I have clients who do this and I always talk them out of it and they get much better results by the way, when I talk them out of it, but guys who do this piss women off and they, they don't get sex is because they're being pushy.

10:47 They're trying, they're trying to manipulate it and do all that stuff. I just don't agree with it. But going back to how to do it, if you want to try this is what I would always do back when I was a dog and I used to do this kind of stuff in my twenties, I would take them to my house first. So let's say you pick her up for the date. I would roll past my place and be like, Hey, I got to stop in. I forgot my this, that, and the third, whatever it may be.

11:13 She comes in, she feels that it's safe, right? All the windows are open. There's a very good, friendly vibe in there. Maybe even my roommate would be there. She uses the bathroom. Okay. She's been there before. So later in the date, when I invite her back to my place, it's not such a scary thing to her because she's already seen it. She's been exposed to it and she's going to be a lot more likely to go there. So first tip is to try to get her to come to your place first, or even in some point during your initial conversation, showing her a video of your place, showing her pictures of your place, making sure she sees it or meet your roommate and you talk about her, your roommate's there.

11:56 You make it seem safe. Okay. The next thing to do is to tell stories during your first or second date where you have to show her things that are back at the apartment, right? Even talking about your dog and how awesome he is. You could be like, oh, you got to come meet my dog, Rocket. The little fucker is so cool. I got to get up early tomorrow morning. So just come over for like 20 minutes, meet them, and then we'll say our goodbyes. We'll get you an Uber and get you going home, right?

12:23 So she comes over with the expectation that she's going to do something outside of sex and she's only going to stay there for a limited time. I had another client who used to say, and I do not agree with this. I would never do it personally, but this is what somebody else did. Try it on to see if it fits for you. If you want to steal it, fine. It's not mine. It's his. What do you do is he'd be like, I know of this amazing restaurant that's open after hours.

12:48 They have the best wine ever. What do you say we go there? And she says yes. Then he takes her to his place and he has like wine and he's like, here's the place. I think it's contrived. I think it's cheesy. I wouldn't do it, but that probably works pretty well. So again, the main point here is we have to get her attracted enough. We're never going to force open the petals of a flower, as they say. We have to make her want it. Now, if she wants it, you have to deal with that slut defense mechanism.

13:16 And this is also what's responsible for what's called LMR, last minute resistance, to which I'll do a podcast episode on that in the future. But the way to get past that last minute resistance is once again to trick both her mind and your mind to say that this was an innocuous thing that happened. The chemistry struck. We couldn't help ourselves. We fell off the couch and my dick landed into her vagina. It wasn't our fault, right? That's like the rationale that both of you are going to make.

13:47 You to her, her to her slut defense mechanism. Now I want to get into what I feel is a far better way to get a girl to come to your place. Okay. First of all, stop putting a time limit on it. You don't give a shit when she comes over. What you're focused on is attraction, attraction, attraction, all the techniques that I teach, being slightly out of her grasp, being that sanctuary, showing her the best time ever. Marissa and I were talking about our dating life before her and I met.

14:19 And she was like, man, she's like, not arrogantly, but she was saying, I can't even remember when a guy blew me out. She's like, I always blew them out. I go on one date with them and just be like, next, go on a date with somebody else at next until like she met a boyfriend and then they would stay together. Well, it was very much the same thing with me. I think I've been blown out a couple times after having dated a girl for a while, but bro, like 99% of the time I would be the one that would blow the girl out.

14:46 Now for a lot of you, that's like mind blowing. You're like, man, I always get blown out. Well, in addition to some of the other attraction things you may be doing wrong, listen to my previous podcast about how to avoid losing a girl in a relationship. What could have happened is you were too thirsty. You were trying too hard to get the sex, trying too hard to hang out with her, being too needy. So I always did the opposite. And what would happen? They'd fucking throw the sex at me.

15:12 They would throw the sex at me like out of the blue, bro. I'll just have a vagina flying at my face. And I'll be like, whoa, easy goes it. Fucking Casanova, Stalker, Texas Ranger. Take it easy. Right? That's how it works. I'm telling you. So the way you do it is stop focusing on how do I get her in my place? How do I get her naked? How do I do that? No. Focus on how do I get her more attracted? And then suddenly, like I said, she's going to be jumping in the air and trying to slide onto your dick.

15:41 Next thing you know, you're walking down the street and here comes a woman flying through the air with her legs coming towards you, spread open, trying to slide onto your dick. And you're going to have to bob and weave just to avoid it. That's what happens when you focus on attraction. That's what happens when you're not thirsty for it. When like you literally don't give a shit. Like, hey, if it comes, it comes. If it doesn't, that's fine. Whatever. When you have that mentality, you do get laid off the first date.

16:08 You do get laid off the second date. But it's when she's ready and she's throwing herself at you, then you're like, okay, let's do this. Come on, little girl. Just like the man does. The masculine leads, but the woman is the barometer. So when she's ready to escalate, you escalate. When she's ready to be your girlfriend, that's when you make her your girlfriend. You never push women into an outcome that you hope will manifest. It's the quickest, most consistent way you guys are getting blown out is you're being too fucking pushy.

16:39 So the whole premise of this podcast is how to get a girl home on the first or second date. But it's switched into don't even try to do it. It's like Jedi level shit, right? Is when you don't try is when it works. You have to unlearn what you have learned. So now, from now on, you are not pushy. You are not outcome dependent. You are not trying to get into her panties. What you're trying to do is not give a shit what happens. You say to yourself, how would I act if I were dating four girls?

17:11 Listen, let me ask you this. If your dick was so sore, it looked like a shriveled burn victim hiding in the corner of your underwear. Would you be trying to have sex with this girl on the first or second date? No, high value guy is screening her. He's seeing if she's good enough to make the cut. So in your mind, you want to think like that. You want to think like a guy who has game, a guy who has abundance. If you have a harem waiting back at your house, are you really going to be like, hey, so I know this restaurant where they serve this amazing wine.

17:40 You want to come and then like trick her to get back to your place? No, you're going to be screening her. You're going to be kind of holding her at arm's length. You'll make out with her a little bit and then look at your watch and say, you know what, that's it for me tonight. Why don't we grab you an Uber? I'm going to go ahead and go home. And then, dude, she's scratching her head being like, I don't get it. Every other guy tries to fuck me.

17:59 Why isn't he doing that? He's different. Hmm. He's probably high value. Yeah, that's it. He's an alpha. He's sexy. And then unconsciously, she gets way more attracted to you. And then, bro, I'm telling you, you get like crazy situations. Girls trying to suck your dick while you're driving. Like you're on the second date and suddenly she's like unzipping your pants. She's telling you where her belt is and how to get it off. Like when you're sitting there at the restaurant eating, all these things will happen to you.

18:27 When again, you're not outcome dependent. You're not thirsty. You're not trying to do anything. And then dealing with her slut defense mechanism, you don't even need to do that because you didn't push it. So her slut defense mechanism has already been rationalized by her in her own way. I really want this guy. He's super sexy. He's super alpha. And you don't have to use trickery and getting her to come over to your place to watch videos on your laptop. She's going to suggest it. She's going to be like, so you live on the east side, right?

18:55 You know, she's going to throw a little hints like that and be like, yeah, you know, why don't you come over? Come on, let's go. And then it's just on. So that's really the way I suggest doing it, guys, is when you push it away, it's going to come back to you that much faster. When you're not trying to get it, she's going to do a barrel roll, launch out of the barrel roll, fly in the air with her legs open towards you, trying to slide onto your penis.

19:20 You're going to have to juke her like an NFL running back and say, whoa, slow down there, Casanova. We just met. Relax. That's where you want to get to. So let's flip the script, okay? Suddenly, you're the hot chick now. You're going to make her wait. You're going to have abundance. You're going to be outcome independent. You're not going to be thirsty. You are the alpha. You are the silverback. You are a rare champion, which is few and far between, one in a thousand. And she's lucky enough to meet you.

19:50 Are you going to try to pull her back to your place? Fuck no. You're going to make her wait. You're going to screen her ass. And then when she's really into it, you'll be like, okay, come on, let's go. And then fucking you're going to destroy it, bro. You're going to make her look like that screaming demon that just got hit with a tornado, give her smashing orgasms. And then is she going to leave you? Is she going to blow you out? No. You're going to blow her out when you're tired of it or she doesn't make the cut.

20:15 This is the new mentality that I want all you guys to have. You are the prize. You are the selector. You are the alpha. And with that being said, that is the end of this podcast. I do appreciate you listening. Once again, if you find value in my content, I very much would appreciate a review on either iTunes or any of the other podcast apps that you can do that on. Email me at CoachMarkSingh at gmail.com and I'll send you a bunch of cool shit.

20:40 Even if you just want to reach out and say, hello, I love hearing from you guys. And or if you tell friends about it, I'll still send you those awesome programs if you're on a podcast app where you cannot leave a review. Lastly, please jump over to my website, CoachMarkSingh.com and grab yourself the approach formula to learn how to approach these girls. Get them on dates so that you can push them away and just watch what happens. Just wait until you write me that email like, bro, Mark, that worked.

21:07 I get emails like that all the time. Like this shit fucking works. I'm like, yeah, flip the fucking script. You're the hot chick. You're the prize. That's today's lesson. Thank you for listening and I'll see you in the next episode. We'll see you in the next episode.

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