Let's Be Honest, MONEY Matters to Women, Right?

0:00 Welcome to the Unapologetic Man Podcast. The only podcast that's all about self-improvement, confidence, success, women, and being a man without making any apologies for it. What is up, gentlemen? Thank you for tuning in to another episode of the UMP. I really do appreciate it. And today, we are going to answer the age-old question, does money really matter to women? Like, just be honest with me, man. Cut it with me straight. Because every day, I get on coaching calls with guys, and they're always like, I don't make enough money.

0:36 I don't feel attractive enough. I don't feel successful enough. So, really, guys, I'm going to answer for you straight up. Does money matter to women? And I think that answer will surprise you. Many of you will be pretty pumped to hear what I have to say, because it's the absolute truth. I've interviewed hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of women about this, and it just is the truth. So, you can count on what I'm about to tell you. And for you guys who are stressing about money, you're going to get the God-honest truth, and you never have to question it again.

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2:27 I'll smack you upside the head. I'll get your name tattooed on my left butt cheek, and I'll dress up as a homeless drug addict and lurk outside your home when you get home from a first date with that girl, and I'll let you beat me up so you can impress her and have sex with her as soon as possible. That's what I'm willing to do for you, my friend. All right, so here it comes, man. Does money matter to women? Well, the answer is kind of yes and no.

2:47 Yes and no. Now, here's the real point of this entire episode. Money doesn't necessarily matter to women, but it's an indicator of alpha traits. The most important alpha trait being ambition and drive. So does money matter to women? Not necessarily, but what does really matter to women is whether or not you're ambitious and you're driven. So we can have a guy who makes a shit ton of money but actually does nothing with his life and is a trust fund baby. She's not going to respect that guy.

3:18 In some cases, we have gold diggers who just want a guy for their money, but that's not really what we're talking about here. We're talking about whether or not it's actually attractive, physically attractive, emotionally attractive. Does it make you better looking in her eyes? So if you don't work for your money and you have money, it does nothing. In fact, she'll probably respect you less because you didn't earn that money yourself. If, on the other hand, you're super ambitious and you're going for something but the money hasn't come yet, that is infinitely more attractive than the guy who didn't do shit and still has money.

3:50 Now, the best combination, of course, is having money from being a self-made man, from working your ass off, being super ambitious. But you know what? It doesn't actually matter that much. It's kind of akin to a woman who has a degree from a college. Okay, she has a master's degree in literature. Does that really matter to you? How much does it matter to you? For some of you, it's like, yeah, that's pretty cool. I want an educated woman, somebody who can talk literature with me, talk about that Edgar Allan Poe and get really philosophical.

4:18 So maybe it's important to you. But for most dudes, it's really not that important. What's more important is the way she looks, the way she behaves. Is she feminine? Is she taking care of herself? These are the most important things to us. And the most important thing to a woman is your ambition and your desire to improve yourself. Now, here's the good news. This is what I want you guys to get excited about. Just by listening to this podcast, you have proven already that you're an extremely driven, ambitious man because they've done studies on this.

4:48 People who listen to podcasts are not only more intelligent than the average population, but they're also super driven, especially when you're listening to a podcast like this one. So guys, for example, who come into my three month coaching program, I tell them all the time. I'm like, dude, you guys are the elite right now. You guys are the top 1% of guys who actually invest in themselves to improve themselves. And every single one of those motherfuckers, I just had a coaching call tonight. I'm like, dude, every single one of you guys is going to be an absolute girl magnet simply because of your ambition and your courage to invest in yourself.

5:23 Now, I'm not trying to use some reverse psychology to get you to sign up with me. Most of you guys have made your decision. You're going to do exactly what the fuck you want to do. Why you wouldn't sign up with me is beyond me. Most of you guys, it's because of money or procrastination or more likely fear, although you may use those other excuses. I'm not buying them. But even if you invest in yourself in different ways, such as listen to this podcast, listen to audiobooks, hiring some other coach, that shows the ambition that women really want to see in you.

5:51 Why does a woman want you to be ambitious? Because ambitious is a sign of survivability. And as I always speak about in this podcast, your survivability equals your attractiveness as a man. Now, why would survivability be important? Because unconsciously, she's attracted to a man who can take care of and pass on good genes to her son or daughter. Okay, so she doesn't necessarily want to provide her because if I were to say to you she wants a man who can take care of her son or daughter, well, then the trust fund guy would be attractive, wouldn't he?

6:21 That's not necessarily the case. She wants you to pass on your genes to her son or daughter and be a good example to that child as that child is growing up. So, as I always talk about, frame control is the most important thing when attracting women because a guy who has a strong frame will oftentimes be successful in life. So, as I said previously, money is an indicator of other traits that you probably have, such as frame control, ambition, perseverance, courage, the willingness to take risks, the willingness to embarrass yourself, the willingness to put yourself out there, a fucking work ethic that just won't quit.

7:02 All of those traits are attractive. And by default, most of the time, guys who have alpha traits make a lot of money. So, when you see a guy with a lot of money and he's got a super hot girl with him, don't assume that that girl is just a gold digger. This is such a pigeonhole thing that poor people do to rich people and to quote unquote trophy wives that I completely disagree with. That man probably has certain traits that have made him wealthy by default.

7:29 You don't get the money first and get the traits. You get the traits first and then you get the money. And this is one big secret about money. First, you have to be, then you can have, then you can do. It's not the other way around. Which means you don't get the money and then you're rich. First, you're rich inside your own mind and then you get the money. First, you be rich. You are that rich person. You are that girl magnet. You are that fill in the blank and then you get to experience it.

7:55 So, money, again, is an indicator of higher quality traits that women are attracted to. Now, there is a certain subsection of society of women who are gold diggers. But I'll tell you what, despite what all those YouTube and Facebook and Instagram videos show of these super hot chicks rejecting a guy and then a second later he walks over to his Lamborghini and she's like, oh, that's your Lamborghini? Despite what that message is, I'm telling you, there's a very small section of women who are gold diggers.

8:25 They're out there. Don't get me wrong. There's some. But it's way less than you think it is. And those videos, those YouTube videos, Facebook videos, Instagram, they're bullshit. I've been in this niche for a very long time. I can tell what's real and what isn't. A guy goes up to a girl, gets rejected by her. And then he's like, all right, we'll see you later. And she just happens to look back. And by the way, she happens to be wearing clothes that make her look unbelievably sexy, like she's going to go out to a nightclub.

8:50 But no, it's two o'clock on a Monday afternoon in like Compton. This is seriously where they film this shit. She turns around and she's like, oh, is this your car? Do you think I could go for a ride in it? Bullshit. Those things are fucking staged. I used to do in-field footage where I would approach women, grab their phone number, and I put it up on YouTube. I would get those women to give me permission to use the videos that we just took. Like I'd approach a girl, chat her up, get her attracted, yank her phone number.

9:17 Then I'd be like, hey, I got to be honest with you. We're filming a YouTube video. I'm actually a dating coach. Would it be okay if we use this footage on YouTube? Now, because they were under social pressure, they would always say yes. So, dude, I fucking uploaded these to YouTube. I got sued by a girl who on video, I got permission of her saying I could use her in the video, and she fucking sued me. She found who I was. She sent me a cease and desist letter, and I had to take down my entire YouTube account.

9:43 So you really think that these gold diggers, quote unquote, going up to these dudes and saying, oh, that's your Lamborghini? You really think they're going to give those guys permission when they just made a fool of them on YouTube? I don't think so. Those are goddamn fake. And they give women a bad image of being gold diggers, and they make guys like you, genuine, many of you blue-collar guys or guys who haven't quite gotten your financial situation up to speed yet, a bad idea about what women actually want.

10:11 I'm going to tell you another story. My best friend, Ira, when I was a kid, when we were in our early 20s, I was horrible with women. This guy was an absolute girl magnet. He's what I base a lot of my coaching program on. He had the strongest fucking frame you would ever see in a human being. I've never met one other guy who had a frame stronger than him, although I'm still trying to create a frame that was as strong as Ira's because his is like the tippity-top frame, the, like, creme de la creme of frames.

10:39 I haven't gotten there yet, but this guy was absolutely amazing. Okay, he would get on the phone with tens, my friend, tens. And I'm not talking about no ten that a lot of you guys say, I met a ten on the dating apps. That never happens. That's impossible. What I'm talking about is a goddamn ten, a girl you're going to see in Maxim, and probably even hotter than that. Just the hottest of the hot. These girls used to come in and out of our apartment, and I would just be like, Jesus Christ, man.

11:05 Are you running, like, a fucking modeling house in here? Like, what's going on? He would just bang them, and they'd leave. Okay, I'd literally hear him say this to girls, and I've said this to girls myself. He'd be like, hey, listen, I just lost my job. I really don't have any money right now, so if we're going to hang out, would you mind taking care of all the checks and basically buying everything? I'd hear tens on the other side of the phone saying, oh, yeah, no problem.

11:26 Then he would be like, hey, so my car was repossessed. I don't have a car right now. Would you mind picking me up? She'd be like, no, for sure. I'll come pick you up. Boom. These goddamn tens would take this dude out, pay for everything, drive everywhere. He used them, and then he brought them home and have sex with them. So if money is so important to women, how could that have happened? How could it happen that I get clients time after time who live in their mom's basement, who make minimum wage working at McDonald's, living in a shitty-ass apartment with a busted-ass car and horrible style?

11:58 These dudes are pulling fucking nines and tens. How does that happen? How does it happen that I, too, was poor at one time, and I was getting more ass than the toilet seat? Girl after girl after girl, and I had no fucking money. I would take them out to the cheapest sushi restaurant, spend $10 on them on a first date at the most. I would go to happy hour at the sushi place or tapas or wherever I could get the best deal. And I'd be having sex with them most of the time by the second date, sometimes even the first date.

12:24 How'd that happen? How did it happen that I've been stalked by a girl who was literally a millionaire, and I had no money, and she was totally in love with me? Because it doesn't matter. It's who you are as a man that matters. And again, money is simply an indicator. When a woman looks at you and you have a lot of money, it's going to work to your advantage. But if you approach her and start talking to her and you're low value, you have bad tonality, you can't control the frame, you supplicate to her, you platonic vibe with her, you do everything wrong that I talk about in this podcast, and more specifically in my three-month coaching program, you're going to get blown out so hard your pants are going to fly off when the concussion hits.

13:01 Okay? It doesn't matter. If you have looks, for example, you're a super good-looking guy, and you approach a girl, and she's like, oh, shit, he's hot, and then it turns out you're a beta cuck with a high voice, and you supplicate to her, you're going to get blown out so hard the goddamn quaff on your head is going to fly off when the concussion hits. So, guys, make no mistake. Don't get it twisted. Money does not fucking matter. It's what money points to that matters, and if you don't have that, you ain't getting girls.

13:27 But if you do have that, you don't need the money on top of it to get girls. You don't need it because you have ambition and your chances of succeeding when you have a strong frame, when you're dominant, when you're masculine, when you're not afraid to be disagreeable, when you're able to break rapport with her, only give her 80% of what she wants, show her a good time, get her into her emotions, lead her to where she wants to be led, she is going to get irresistibly attracted to you, and it doesn't matter if you don't even have $1 in your goddamn pocket.

13:59 Okay? So, that's the big point here, and I want to get it through your thick skulls because a lot of you guys have this deep-seated belief that is really holding you back with women, which is, I need more money. No. You need more frame. You need more skill set. You need a better belief system in yourself. You need NLP reprogramming. So, when you walk out of the house, even looking like a goddamn homeless man, as we all do sometimes, you can still pull a goddamn tent.

14:24 And that's exactly what I did with Marissa, my current girlfriend. She was in the supermarket looking at goddamn peaches. I walk in, literally, wearing pajama pants, wearing my house slippers, my hair all fucked up, looking like a goddamn homeless man that sleeps in front of Pizza Hut in a cardboard box, and I go dumpster diving, getting the extra pizza at the end of the night. I literally look like that, and I pulled her because I had the confidence. I had the frame. I showed her a good time.

14:49 I showed her a good conversation, cracked her up, yanked her phone arm with utmost confidence. My texting game was absolutely pinned. We had a great time texting, and the first date was one of the best first dates I ever had. We just fucking clicked. So, again, I didn't show that I had any money, and frankly, at that time when I met her, I really didn't have much. Now that I do have money, and if I were single again, I'd probably hide it to make sure that she wasn't just a gold digger pretending to be into me because I have money.

15:16 But I know. I can see attraction from a million miles away. You can't fake it with me. You can't fake it with me. And if I did run into a gold digger, she'd get blown out so fast, her fucking weave would blow off her head when the concussion hits. I'll tell you that much for sure. So that's it, boys. Does money matter? No, but it's an indicator of things that do matter, and the most important thing women look for is ambition. If you're ambitious, even if you're an artist who makes nothing, but you just have this dream to make this amazing art piece or to open up a gallery and you're passionate about it, you will get them attracted to you.

15:49 Be passionate. Be driven. Be going for something bigger than you are right now. And even if you're working at McDonald's, if you have a big dream to be a musician, a hip pop artist, a professional athlete, an amazing stockbroker, a doctor, a lawyer, whatever it is that you're going into, talk about that. Don't talk about your current job. Talk about where you're going. Talk about the future. Be passionate, optimistic, and ambitious. That's the most important thing. All right, gentlemen, I hope this has eased your mind, particularly you guys who get hung up on this money thing.

16:21 I know I was hung up on it for a while too, so I can only relate to what you're going through, but drop that shit, man. It doesn't matter. Instead, work on you just as you're doing now. Listen to this podcast. Go listen to a bunch more of my podcast, other people's podcasts. Really improve yourself. Work on yourself. I strongly suggest getting a coach, a mentor to help you in whatever you're trying to master. And honestly, if you're trying to master getting good with women, I'm your dude.

16:46 I know I can help you. I'm very fucking good at what I do. And I include NLP, Neuro Linguistic Programming, to take out the belief systems like I don't have enough money to be attractive to women and install new belief systems. I am a goddamn fucking 10. Because if you take out the belief system that money matters and you don't have enough and you're not good enough for girls and replace it with, dude, I'm a 10 and a woman would be lucky to be with me. Watch what happens.

17:11 Watch what happens. You will be like my buddy Ira, who's like, hey, listen, I don't really have any money. So can you go ahead and pick me up, take me out and show me a good time? She's gonna be like, oh, hell yeah. And there's a myriad of different reasons why that worked. Cognitive dissonance being one of them. Women value and are attracted to the guy who they have to work for. So that's why it worked for him in a different way. But ultimately, it was because he was unapologetic about it and he had all those other attributes.

17:37 And yeah, he was ambitious. He was trying to start a mortgage company. He had big dreams. He was a go-getter in a lot of different ways. The money just hadn't come yet and girls didn't fucking care because they didn't want his money. They wanted his dick. They wanted his frame. They wanted his alpha presence. Lead her to where she wants to be led. And that's exactly what he did. Goddamn champion that guy, dude. Fucking champion. Anyway, boys, I do appreciate you listening. I got another awesome one dropping on Thursday.

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