NLP Process — Approach Anxiety Destroyer!

0:00 Welcome to the Unapologetic Man Podcast, the only podcast that's all about self-improvement, confidence, success, money, women, and being a fucking man without making any apologies for it. I'm your host, Mark Sing, and today we are going to do something a little bit different. John Anthony is not here this week, so I said to myself, you know what, let's go ahead and give these guys one of my awesome, powerful, amazing NLP processes. So what we're going to do is we are going to have a little technical issue there, but I just solved it.

0:27 What we're going to do is we're going to do an NLP visualization. Needless to say, you shouldn't be doing this while you're driving, operating heavy machinery, shooting a bow and arrow, going out for lacrosse practice, shooting bird pigeons, clay pigeons with a rifle, and or having sex with a woman. And although the latter, I strongly suggest, just don't listen to this podcast while doing it. All right. So what I want you to do is get into a comfortable place where there'll be no distractions, preferably your room, maybe even laying down in your bed when the lights are off, someplace real comfortable, good temperature.

1:09 You can even sit down in a comfortable chair with your back straight because this is in essence a meditation. So you need to be in a somewhat meditative state while doing it. And what I'm going to do is walk you through a visualization. You're going to be put into a mild state of hypnosis. And this is absolutely safe. And it's specifically designed to get rid of your approach anxiety. So a lot of guys I talked to are afraid of approaching women. And I was too, at one point and through NLP, as well as the experience of approaching probably thousands of women.

1:40 I've overcome that. But even me, sometimes I get a little bit nervous still before approaching a woman, but you just kind of grab your balls and do it anyway. But this really, really, really helps. Now, your participation here is really important to me because if I get enough views on this, if I get enough comments, even if I get some email saying, yo, Mark, we love the NLP processes, keep them coming, then I will keep them coming. But if this gets lackluster results, then we'll probably just stick to the information aspect of our podcast.

2:13 Now, regarding John, he's just tied up this week. The guy is extremely busy. Me, on the other hand, all I do is coaching clients. And I'm busy with coaching clients, but I don't stack my schedule too crazy. I do have a lot of free time. And frankly, I love doing these podcasts. So I'm going to keep them coming for you. I'm going to try to do once a week. We'll see how it goes. Life does tend to get in the way. But I want to keep good information coming to you guys.

2:39 I am getting a shit ton of clients from this, surprisingly. We're not even getting that many views yet. And I'm already getting like one or two clients per episode. So selfishly, I do want to keep doing this because I'm getting great results. Now, to work with me one-on-one, which I will say is way more effective because then we go for your sticking points specifically, you can go to CoachMarkSing.com. That's M-A-R-K-S-I-N-G.com. I do have guys write me often just with questions before they want to sign up.

3:07 My email is on there if you want to reach out to me, so feel free to do so. But let's go ahead and get into this thing. It's called the Approach Anxiety Destroyer. So there's a common saying in NLP, and that is awareness alone is curative. That means when you're aware of why your problem exists, you're more likely to solve it. So let's first look at why you're probably experiencing Approach Anxiety. Then once we understand what it is and where it comes from, we'll get into the visualizations and NLP processes to remove it.

3:36 First off, I want to let you know that Approach Anxiety is actually a really healthy thing. Back when we lived in tribal communities, if you approached the wrong girl, it could have cost you your life. It could have been the alpha male's girl, a friend of the alpha male's girl. And if your approach made anyone upset, you literally could have been smashed over the head with a rock. Or if your reputation in the community was compromised by a bad rejection, you could have been ostracized from the tribe.

4:00 So it's really a real thing. And you shouldn't be too hard on yourself if you're experiencing it. And this, by the way, guys, is why most people are afraid of what other people are thinking when they approach a girl, because it's the tribal mentality. What is the tribe going to think of me? So the first thing to know is that your approach anxiety is healthy. It's normal. Almost all guys experience it. But here's the good news. In modern society, this fear no longer applies. Why? Because you can get rejected by many girls and the vast majority instances, it makes no difference to your safety, reputation, or security.

4:32 You go out and dude, this happens to me still. I can still get rejected. I go out, get rejected. I come home that night and I'm like touching my body and being like, well, I have no holes in it. Hmm. I didn't get hit over the head with the rock. Seems like I'm okay. Shit. This is amazing. I have the power to literally talk to any girl I want. How fucking awesome is that. Plus when you know that 99% of other dudes are being held back by it kind of gets you motivated.

4:59 I've been rejected hundreds of times over the 15 years I've been doing this and never once did I get hurt, ostracized. Maybe I've been laughed at a couple of times, but it's like, who gives a fuck, dude? Like the way I think of it is, dude, you're a fucking idiot. If you don't want to talk to me. I mean, I was going to make you laugh, give you so much fucking value and be like the most attractive guy you've spoken to all month that you're an idiot if you weren't into it.

5:23 So fuck you. So anyway, I look at the rejections as a good thing because it teaches you also how to endure social pressure, like a sword going into the fire. Each strike of the iron only strengthens my frame. So really I look at it as a good thing and you should too. So now that you know why you're afraid of rejection, let's go ahead and jump into the NLP process. Now, ideally speaking, you should be in a comfortable, safe spot with no distractions. You should be ready to get into a somewhat meditative state.

5:54 So let's just kind of relax and slow down a little bit together and just kind of take a few deep breaths. What I want you to do is I want you to feel the bottom of your feet. So as you're sitting there and laying there, you kind of feel that there's a vibration in your body. And even if you focus on the bottom of your feet, you can feel it there vibrating. And as you focus on the bottom of your feet, then you can focus on your knees, bring it up into your pelvis and your tummy.

6:23 You can feel the air going in and out of your lungs, your tummy raising and falling as you breathe. You're just kind of sitting here listening to NLP coach Mark saying, everything's fine. There's no distractions. You're concentrating exclusively on my words and where I'm going to lead you. I want you to imagine the last attractive girl you saw, but didn't approach picture that situation in your head is clearly as you can right now. Remember exactly what she looked like. Remember what she was doing. Remember the way you felt when you saw her.

6:55 Now in this visualization, unlike what happened in real life, you're actually going to approach her. You've decided to do it. There's no turning back. It's on and it's on right now. Imagine the moment when you start walking over to her and feel the approach anxiety well up inside of you. As you're walking towards her, the feeling grows exponentially. You can feel that approach anxiety welling right inside you. What if she rejects you? What if other people hear it? What if you have to run away with your tail between your legs and you'll never be the same man again?

7:33 What if she completely destroys your confidence? The last statement, of course, is a false belief, but almost all guys think that way. So it's an accurate statement to effectively call upon your approach anxiety. Feel that feeling as clearly as you can for a few moments. Sit with it and become keenly aware of where you feel it in your body. Now that you know where it is and have a clear grasp on it, give it a certain color. Take a few moments to see the color and feel the bad sensation that it produces.

8:00 Don't be afraid of it. Just feel it. Now with your creative mind, pretend to reach into your body, pull that feeling out, pull it out of your body and place it about two feet in front of your face. All right. Now that you've placed it in front of your face, I want you to imagine that you have a holographic box. So it's a box that's floating there. Also too free in front of you. I want you to go ahead and put all that feeling into the box.

8:31 There you go. Just put it in there. Now put the top back on the box and there's the box. It's holding that feeling. The box is floating there in front of you and all the feelings of approach anxiety are now trapped within it. You also notice if you look really closely, and I want you to look closely now, use your imagination that the box is spinning. Which way is it spinning? Is it spinning fast, slow? Is it making a sound as it hums along? Now with your imagination, I want you to slow the spin down, slow it down, slow it down, all the way down until it stops.

9:14 Now take your hand and spin it in the opposite direction, almost like spinning a basketball on your finger. You're taking your hand and hitting the side of the box so that it spins faster and faster The box is now spinning so fast it's starting to get blurry. And almost like a helicopter blade, you can see it almost stop because it's spinning so fast. Now on the count of three, you're going to hit the box one more time as hard as you possibly can. And when you do, the box is going to spin so fast, it's going to break up into a million tiny pieces that shoot upward and outward like an exploding bomb.

9:52 All right, you ready? Three, two, one, hit it! The box explodes and thousands of pieces shoot into the sky. The pieces are flying so fast they leave the Earth's atmosphere and go into outer space. They keep going and going and going until they're about to leave our solar system. There they go. See them go. They're exploding outward. Now with your intention, I want you to make all the pieces stop exactly where they are and float in perfect suspension. There they are floating in space and each tiny piece is a magnet.

10:23 That's right. It's a magnet. With your decision, I want each of those little magnets, all thousands of them to attract to itself, all the positive things you fail to learn because if you're approaching anxiety, things like joy, peace, bliss, adventure, excitement, fun, becoming a better man, learning how to take social pressure, becoming a fucking champion, all those things are getting attracted to these tiny pieces like magnets. And you don't have to know what all the positive learnings are because there are literally thousands of them. You just need to know that like a magnet, all these little pieces are attracting to themselves positive learnings.

11:09 There are thousands of positive learnings to be drawn to these pieces and they are all for you. And now they are yours. Once all the pieces have attracted the positive learnings, I want you to visualize that they're starting to come back to Earth. There they come moving faster and faster towards Earth. Imagine it now. They're flying towards Earth. At first, they're far off, but they're moving so fast, they're already entering the Earth's atmosphere. They're coming towards you in an astonishing speed. And now on the count of three, they are going to arrive before you and create a new object that represents something positive.

11:45 Now, this is important. I want you to let your mind decide what the object is once I count down and hit zero. Don't decide what the object is now. Only decide once I hit zero. It's important to know the object represents the transmutation of that initial negative energy into positive energy. It represents all the best feelings in life, including love, peace, excitement, enthusiasm and unsurpassed motivation. It feels as good as kissing a really hot girl for the first time or the moment when you can tell a girl is getting attracted to you.

12:20 All right, you ready for the countdown? Okay, here we go. Three, two, one, zero. Imagine the object now. What is it? What color is it? What does it look like? Does it have a sound, a smell, or maybe even a feel to it? Now take that object and slowly absorb it into your body in the same place you grab the anxious feeling to begin with. Feel the good feelings into your body. Now move the object throughout your body. First, it goes into your toes, then into your legs, throughout your abdomen, into your head, and down your arms.

12:57 Feel your body tingle with the sensation of this cleansing positive energy. Let every cell absorb the purifying color, vibe, and life-giving intentions of that object. Take it into every cell, feel it, and let the new feeling vibrate through you like the wave of cleansing energy that it is. Sit with that feeling for a few moments. All right, great work. All right, I want you to come back to me and I want you to try to feel the approach anxiety. Try to feel it. All right, even if you weren't able to clearly visualize everything that I was explaining, a lot of the processes take place behind the curtain.

13:50 So what I want you to do now, your homework, is to go out, approach girls, and see how you feel about it. Look, I'm going to even let you tell you, even though I kind of think it's a cop-out, I'm going to tell you, you don't even have to approach girls. Just pretend like you're going to approach girls and feel how much anxiety you have within you. Now, like I said at the beginning of the session, I want to see how many likes I get. I want to see how many views I get for this process.

14:17 If it pops off like I think it should, when people see NLP, they bite on it. I think they really like it. If it pops like I think it should, I have two other processes that I'll be putting onto the podcast. I have dozens of processes, but I'm only choosing the ones that I can do without doing it with you personally. Obviously, it's more powerful when I can work with you directly. There's something called modality of operation, and that's basically how you perceive the world. Do you perceive it through sight, hearing, feeling, tasting?

14:48 There's certain modalities of operation. What I do when I coach guys is I figure out what works best for you, and I customize the coaching based on what you need, but this is a good overall kind of like hit everybody kind of NLP process. So see how it works for you. So the next one we'll do is called reverse throw. And then I also want to teach you guys transmutation through attention, which is one of my favorite NLP processes. And I have a lot of tricks in my bag.

15:20 So if that worked for you, if you like the process, if you want to learn more about me, hit me up, coachmarksing.com. I am running a pretty insane waiting list right now. And as I said earlier, I don't like to take too many clients because I like to really focus on the clients that I have. But if you hit me up, if you sign up with me, I will make room in my schedule for at least one appointment. And if we click, if things work out, then potentially we can do ongoing coaching to really fucking clear up that shit inside your head.

15:49 Because listen, this is personally what I think. Okay. I personally think everybody should be getting coaching. Every fucking person in the world has walked through the rainstorm of problems of life, particularly in early childhood. We've all been hit with those drops of problems and challenges and dysfunction, and it injured us. And most people are walking around fucked up in the head. You know it. I know it. Hell, even I know it. So look, if you want to get your shit solved, it's going to take coaching, and I can help you do that.

16:22 Let's get that shit cleared up out of your head. Let's get you fucking flying at your goals like an arrow. That's what I do for my clients. So hit me up. Hope this was good for you. Let me know what you think, dude. And listen, on YouTube, if you can like, comment, and subscribe, I'd really appreciate it. That kind of stuff really helps us out. John will be back. He's just taking a temporary leave of absence. I'm going to come swinging with my own podcast. So I hope you liked it.

16:47 Let me know. All right, guys. Thanks for so much for listening. I will see you in the next podcast.

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