NLP Process to Get The Beliefs of an Alpha

0:00 Welcome to the Unapologetic Man Podcast. The only podcast that's all about self-improvement, confidence, success, women, and being a man without making any apologies for it. What's up guys, Mark Sing here. Thank you for joining me on another episode. And today we are going to embed some new belief systems into that noggin of yours. You should know by now that women are quite unconsciously designed to pick up on what's going on inside your head. So when you get the inner right, the outer will take care of itself.

0:28 And what I mean by that is, is your belief systems are reflected in your body language, in your tonality, in your inflections, your behaviors, your mannerisms, the things that you say, and that's all starting inside your head. If you have negative belief systems such as, I'm an idiot, I'm no good with women, why would you ever want to be with a guy like me? I'm not good enough to get a girl like that. These things are reflected and they're quite subconsciously communicated to her and she's not going to get attracted to you because of it.

1:13 So part of the reason I'm an NLP coach is because NLP goes to work directly on these belief systems. They change your belief systems from the inside so that on the outside you start doing subtle things that are changes in your behavior that will make women more attracted to you. And yes, it can work extremely quickly. With that being said, I do offer NLP coaching. You can check that out at CoachMarkSingh.com. And I also wanted to let you guys know that I did start an Instagram page.

1:43 I decided to go ahead and do it because I talk a lot about things that could use pictures to back it up like stories that I tell, things about my life. There's pictures of lots of different things that I've talked about on this podcast, on my Instagram page. So you can check that out. Go sign up now, please. I'm trying to sign up. Shows you how little I know about it. Please follow me now. It's CoachMarkSingh on Instagram. And it's the same picture. You'll recognize it immediately.

2:13 The same picture that I have on my podcast page. So please follow me. Trying to get followers. I don't think I'm going to get that many. But still, it's kind of cool to get an insight into me and my life and some of the things that I do. Please give that a go. All right. So let's jump into the content, you guys. What we're going to do here is we're going to do a slight NLP visualization. So I'm going to put you in a very mild state of hypnosis.

2:42 Then I'm going to guide you through these new belief systems that we're going to install. And as we do this, I suggest that you do it preferably before bed when you're just relaxing. I'm going to put some music behind it. So it'll kind of be like subconscious suggestions to embed new belief systems into your mind. But you can also listen to this right now when you're doing whatever you're doing. I know a lot of you guys listen to podcasts while you multitask. Maybe you're working out, something like that.

3:08 So you can check it out and then maybe come back to it and then rock these preferably before you go to sleep. Or even after you meditate is really good. That's when your brain is in a very suggestible state. So I'm going to do kind of like some music behind it, give you some embedded commands. And it's important to know that when you try to install new belief systems into your brain, the most powerful statement you can use is I am. So I am has been scientifically proven to go deep into your subconscious mind and replace the belief systems faster than other types of phrases.

3:46 So where possible, I want you to phrase these in I am statements. Now, before we get into the visualization, I want to give you guys three really quick tips about switching negative thinking to positive thinking. All right. So first and foremost, your goal here, my brother, is to drop negative thinking completely. Anytime you have a negative thought, be it about yourself, be it about others, be it about your ability with money, your ability with women, your ability with anything. Anytime a negative thought comes up, you need to know that it's just a phantom.

4:24 It's just an illusion. And there might even be a part of you that wants you to be unhappy. When you can recognize that and say, whoa, whoa, whoa, wait a minute. This part of me wants me to be unhappy. And that's why it's saying this thing. Why am I buying into this? As I always say, belief systems are chosen anyway. So you might as well choose the belief system that works best for you. And I'm telling you, any negative belief system, any at all, particularly those that are against yourself, such as I'm an idiot.

4:54 I'm no good. I suck with chicks. I'm too short. I'm too fat. Whatever it is, you need to freaking drop that shit. If you do anything, this is the most important part of becoming attractive to women. I can teach you frame control. I can teach you techniques and opening and how to get the phone number, what to text, how to get girls online. But bro, if you're talking negatively to yourself, you're not going to be able to keep the girls anyway because it's so unbelievably unattractive.

5:22 Why is it unattractive? It's because it communicates to the girl immediately that you're failing in life. You're not a successful guy. So why would she want to line up with you? She simply wouldn't. And again, this is reflected very much in your body language. Okay, so first and foremost, if you say something to yourself, let's take, I'm an idiot as an example. If you say, I'm an idiot, the first thing I want you to do is be like, ah, I want you to catch it. And I want you to say, no, no, no, no, erase that.

5:50 Like literally say those words, erase that. And then replace it with a thought that you can get behind. Now, if you say, I'm an idiot and you're trying to replace it with the thought, I am a genius. And that's like too far of a stretch. You don't want to say that. You can say something more akin to, I'm working on myself every day and I'm getting smarter every single day. That might be something good. Okay, and the next thing you can do is when you say, I'm an idiot, say, ah, erase that.

6:19 And then you say, I was an idiot. So in NLP, when you put things in the past tense, it says to your subconscious mind that that was the old you. And now there's new possibility for the new you. So you say, I was an idiot. Now, the third strategy is to say it in a goofy voice. So you say, I'm an idiot. And then you say it back to yourself, like in a Donald Duck voice or a Mickey Mouse voice. I'm not going to do it for you because I sound ridiculous when I do it.

6:47 But that's exactly the point. When you sound ridiculous, your mind says, wait, wait, wait, this belief is ridiculous. So I'm not going to buy into it. So you say, I'm an idiot. Erase that and then say it again to yourself in a stupid voice. It's going to make it less believable. So you need to be militant with this. Okay, you need to watch your thoughts very carefully. Now, as an NLP coach, I'm going to say this. I'm going to give you some affirmations here in a minute.

7:18 But the important thing to understand is that your brain is a lot like a computer. And in that computer are programs. So if you're speaking negatively to yourself, you literally have a program that's working in the background that's telling you to speak negatively to yourself. So if I give you affirmations and you do this religiously, you're going to overwrite that program with a new program. But the fastest way to do it is to delete the first program and then install a new program. Overwriting it works.

7:54 Like what I'm going to show you works. But it takes a lot longer than getting a coach like myself to go into your brain specifically and remove the belief system that you yourself are struggling with. So I do this every day, day in and day out. I have a shit ton of clients. Most of the time, you guys have the following beliefs. I'm not good enough. Other people's opinions matter more to me than my opinion of myself. I'm shameful for wanting to approach women. She's too good for me.

8:23 I don't want to inconvenience her with my approach and on and on and on. So those are programs in your brain that are literally making you act a certain way. If you have a belief that you're not good enough for her, like deep down inside you and you approach her, bro, you're going to like unconsciously botch it. Not even because you want to, but because it's a self-fulfilling prophecy. You want to prove to yourself you're not good enough. So you're going to botch it. You're going to not think of what to say.

8:50 The screensaver mode, as I always call it. My brain went into screensaver mode. I didn't know what to say. That's because there's something inside you that wants you to fail because it believes that you're a certain way and it has to prove to itself you're that certain way. So it's going to make you do that. But what happens when we delete that and we replace it with, I am good enough for a hot girl. Then suddenly when you go up, you can think straight. You can act correctly.

9:15 Your mannerisms are good. Your tonality is good. Your inflection is correct. And she gets attracted to you. So the belief systems that we're going to install now, in order for this to successfully take, you have to do it over and over again. I'm talking 30 days, 60 days, 90 days. In fact, these belief systems should be said to yourself over and over again and just become part of your daily routine. I still even do it. I tell myself, I'm a champion. I'm a girl magnet. I'm a money magnet.

9:45 I'm a fucking legend. Like I say this shit to myself all the time. Now it sounds arrogant, but arrogance is having to prove to others that you're superior. Confidence is knowing that you are a good man inside yourself. Okay, so arrogance is having to prove it to others, lord it over other people. But if you're saying these affirmations to yourself, I am a champion, I'm a girl magnet, that's okay. And frankly, that's what it takes to get to the level that I know all you guys want to get to, which is being a girl magnet.

10:15 Is it not? Of course it is. So when you repeat these statements to yourself enough times, or even if you listen to this track enough times, your subconscious mind will start to change the way that you think. And it will start to change the way that you think about yourself. Then you'll naturally be going to take on these higher value body language, this higher value tonality. And the best part is women are going to respond to you like never before. All right, so the most important thing about this is to start where you are.

10:45 If saying something like I'm a girl magnet to yourself is too far of a stretch, then you can start with something like I am a good person, or I'm a guy who can offer a girl a lot. So you want to start at a believable level and then ramp up as we go. But the ones that I'm going to list out for you here, these are kind of like the most pungent ones that I'd like you guys to get to. So we're going to go ahead and step into a meditative state.

11:10 And then I'm going to get you into what's called a disassociated state while you're watching yourself and saying this to yourself so that they get embedded that much more powerfully. Needless to say, don't be driving a car or doing anything else while you're listening to these and closing your eyes. I mean, it goes without saying, but I have to say it. And you want to do these over and over again. So I suggest once again, after you meditate, before you go to bed, go ahead and turn on this track and just let the embedded commands come into your subconscious mind.

11:42 And then throughout the day, you have to watch yourself. If that negative thought comes in, I want you to say, ah, erase that and then replace it with a positive thought or do one of the three things that I said to erase it and then put a positive thought on top of it. Once again, you have to be relentless with this. This is one of the most potent ways to get good with women really fast is to replace your belief systems, get yourself good programming that's conducive to attracting women, start thinking like a natural thinks, and then women will become attracted to you like you are a natural because you really, you are.

12:18 You're just waiting to blossom into the natural. That's all it really is. All right. So to get started, let's kind of just step back a little bit here and I want you to close your eyes. And I want you to feel the bottom of your feet. If you concentrate on the bottom of your feet, you can feel that there's energy in your feet. And as that energy pulses and tingles and vibrates, you can bring your attention up your legs, into your pelvis, into your chest, into your head, and you'll feel that that energy is connected throughout your entire body.

12:58 Going down your arms and into your hands, you can feel that in your palms, there's a tingling sensation. And if we were to imagine that we had a dial and we can dial up the energy within ourselves, dial it all the way up to 10, you can feel your palms actually getting hotter and you can feel them tingling. Now, wherever you are, I want you to imagine that the soul part of you, or what I like to call the NLP self, floats out of your body and floats up to about the height of the ceiling.

13:31 And there you go. You float up and you turn around and you look down on yourself wherever you are. Notice what you're wearing. Notice how you're sitting or laying down. Notice everything about you in that moment and be observing yourself. Now, as I say the following statements, I want you to be looking at yourself as you say them. And I want it to be a statement about the guy who's down there about eight feet below, a statement about who he is. But it's you. So we're going to put them in that all important phrase, I am.

14:08 So let's get started. And if you want to, you can repeat these after me and doing so will make them stick that much faster. I am confident. I am independent. I know what I want and I know how to get it. I am a champion. I show that I'm a champion. I don't verbalize it. I am okay with whatever happens. I am not outcome dependent. I am independent. I am happy with who I am. I am calm and composed at all times. I am ambitious. I am a go-getter.

15:01 I am passionate about my life. I am appreciative for all that I have. I am socially skilled. I am a man with standards. I am a man whose respect must be earned. I am a man whose time is very valuable. I am strong enough to step outside my comfort zone and approach women. There are opportunities to meet women everywhere. I deserve a high-quality, attractive woman. I am someone who a girl would want to be with. Women want to meet a champion like me. I am a man she would be happy with.

15:54 I would enrich her life. I can show her and teach her things that no other guy can. I don't know what this girl is attracted to. I may just be her type. There are plenty of fish in the sea. If I miss this bus, I'll just take the next one. I am a girl magnet. I am a ladies' man. I am the target. I am the selector. She's submitting the application. I am not to be trifled with. I know my limits and I'll make them known without anger.

16:39 I am the one being pursued. She's trying to have sex with me. I know women's bodies better than they know themselves. She's going to have sex with someone. Why can't that be me? I can please a woman mentally, emotionally, and physically. My life and my passions are first. She is second. I make no apologies for who I am. What you think of me is none of my business. I am sincere and genuine. I let my true personality shine and I am safe to do so. People are basically good.

17:31 If you're kind to them, they will almost always be kind back. I am responsible for the way that I feel. No one can make me feel a certain way without my permission. I am at cause for the circumstances that surround me. I get the life I choose. My self-esteem is not contingent on circumstances. It's from within. I am disciplined and will follow through with learning to attract women. I will act on my deeper motives, learning to attract women, not my lesser motives, the fear to do so.

18:14 As we finish these affirmations, I want you to look down at yourself, either laying in your bed, sitting down, or wherever you happen to be. And I want you to affirm that you were born with perfect self-esteem, perfect self-confidence, perfect self-love, and passion for who you are as a man. But through life circumstances, that self-esteem has been covered up. It hasn't been erased. It hasn't been extinguished. It's simply been covered up, like a golden Buddha who's covered with mud. Now, look down at yourself and know that underneath all those problems, all those issues, all the things that happen to you in your life, is a man with perfect self-esteem, an alpha, a girl magnet.

19:06 And as long as you do these affirmations on a daily basis and make them a daily part of your existence and get obsessed with saying them to yourself over and over and over again and listen to this track over and over and over again, eventually, that old programming, that programming that isn't working for you anymore, will be rewritten. New thoughts, new beliefs, new attitudes, and new behaviors will start to become part of your being. Your tonality will change. Your inflection will change. Everything about you will change just a little bit.

19:44 And girls will start getting attracted to you like never before. Now, as you float down, float down back into your body and get absorbed back into yourself and feel what it would be like to be that girl magnet. What would it be like to walk into a room and have all the girls' heads turned towards you and you can just see, you can just tell that they're attracted to you. They flip eyes at you when you think you're not looking. They whisper to each other. Then they make excuses to come closer to you.

20:16 They want to get near you and talk to you. And when you talk to them, they pay attention to you. They lean in, smile, play with their hair, lick their lips, flip their eyes at you, and giggle at jokes that aren't even funny. That reality is waiting for you when you have the discipline and when you have the courage to enter and face those negative programs that have been plaguing you for years. This is the first step to doing that. And when you make this a daily practice, when you get religious with this, when you get fanatical about it, that reality that I just explained to you will be yours.

20:56 How do I know this is true? Because I myself have experienced it. I've been the worst of the worst. The guy that was invisible. The guy that no girl would ever see. And if I talked to her, she would be like, uh-uh, get away from me. To the guy where girls are literally lined up to talk to him, pushing him against a wall, yelling at him because he won't give her his phone number. That is possible when you change the bullshit that's going in inside your head because all it is is an illusion.

21:24 All it is is programming that was given to you through life's travails. And that can be removed. It can be replaced. And when it is, everything changes. All right, guys. I thank you so much for listening to this episode. I really do appreciate it. Once again, I really would appreciate if you followed me on Instagram. That's CoachMarkSingh. And you can also check out my coaching website, CoachMarkSingh.com. So stay in the fight, guys. Keep going. Make this a daily part of your practice. Never give up.

21:53 And I promise you, if you do this for long enough, if you do it with enough conviction, and if you know that you can change from a beta to an alpha, you can become a girl magnet. All right, thank you so much for listening. And I'll see you in the next episode. I'll see you in the next episode.

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