Online Dating God #4 - Land the first date & pull her home!

0:00 Welcome to the Unapologetic Man Podcast. The only podcast that's all about self-improvement, confidence, success, women, and being a man without making any apologies for it. What's up guys, Mark Sing here. Thank you so much for tuning in to another episode. And today we are going to talk about how to land the first date and how to pull a girl home. This is applicable both during the coronavirus, which I'm going to give you specific information for, as well as after the coronavirus has completed. And I'm going to give you one of my most effective ways to close a date with a girl over texting.

0:44 Before we get started, I want to share this kind of funny thing that happened today with a potential client who contacted me and said, Yo, Mark, I want to get coaching with you, but I kind of want to wait until this COVID thing is over, until the quarantine is lifted, and then I can deploy. You're coaching as well as all the tactics you teach to get girls after this has happened. And I was like, bro, are you wild? Are you wild and crazy? What are you thinking?

1:09 Now that we are in quarantine, now that we have nothing better to do, is the time to get coaching. It's like you go into training, and then when you emerge, when this is all over, you have the skill set, the internal thinking, the tactics, and the techniques to be able to get girls. Do you guys understand that when this quarantine is lifted, it's literally going to be like when World War II ended? The partying, the fucking, the socializing, the happiness is going to be off the hook.

1:39 So you have to ask yourself, am I prepared for that when it happens? Well, right now is to get the training. You should think of it as you're like in solitary confinement. You're doing push-ups and sit-ups and shadow boxing and getting yourself ready for this momentous occasion that's inevitably going to happen in the next few months. You should look at it like your Rocky Balboa in Rocky IV, you ever see that movie where he goes to Russia and he grows a beard, and he's like training in the snow, and he's working out in a barn, and he's doing an overhead press with like this cart with like his wife and his trainer sitting in it, and then he's pulling a plow through the snow, doing sit-ups off the second story in the barn.

2:16 That's what you should be like, man, is getting yourself prepared. I mean, that's what I'm doing. I'm really taking this time to focus on some specific things that I want to improve with myself, and that's what you should be doing. So I talked to him. I'm like, dude, now's the time. So he's like, yeah, you're right. Let's go ahead and get started. So he signed up. What's up, Scott? Looking forward to working with you. So I just want to give you guys kind of a perspective shift.

2:37 Don't wait until this is over to start training. Now is the time that you need to be bettering yourself, and I'm sure a lot of you guys share that philosophy. That's why you're listening to this podcast. So online dating god number four, this is the way to pull the first date off of texting as well as to potentially yank her home. If you guys have enough rapport and attraction going on, you could probably get her to come over to your house. I have some really good ideas with this.

3:05 And then the next one, I'm going to do online dating god number five. I'm going to tell you some black op methods that work ridiculously well to get girls to engage with you off both the dating sites as well as Instagram and other things like that. So hopefully this has been a valuable series from you guys. Hopefully you're benefiting. So let's jump into the content. All right. As I've discussed many times before, it's important to have a good vibe going and to always escalate on a high note.

3:35 Many times when we ask girls for the date, we do it when it's on a low note. We think we're losing her. We're worried about her falling off. So we like try to reach out real quick and say, well, do you want to hang out? That's not a good thing because she's not an emotional low. Preferably, and I know it doesn't always happen, but preferably you want to get her laughing. You want to get all those ha-ha-has. And then once you get those, you ask for the date and here's how to do it.

4:01 All right. So this method that I'm going to share with you now has been proven time and time again, thousands of times by myself, my clients, my coaches. So what I want you guys to do is I want you to copy this verbatim and follow the script word for word. Okay. So on a high note, right? You get her laughing. And how do you get her laughing? We'll go back to my other texting seminar about messaging and texting with girls on the online dating platforms. You get her laughing by leading her to an inevitable conclusion that you set up quite purposely like a chess player.

4:35 You think five steps ahead. You use some of the tactics that I teach. You can also use the tactics in the conversation sniper, which by the way, I will give to you if you leave me a review or tell your friends about this podcast and then email me at coachmarksing at gmail.com. Once again, that's the conversation sniper. I'll send that to you. And what you do is you use these tactics to walk her into the inevitable. Ha ha ha. Okay. You got on a high note and you want to ask women to do things on an emotional high note.

5:05 Why? Because as we've talked about extensively in this podcast as well, women act on their emotions and then justify it later. So you want her to act on her emotions. I want to see this guy. I want to meet him. Even if COVID is going on, I still want to hang out with him. We're going to talk about that too in a moment. And then boom, you ask for the hangout. So here it goes. Okay. On a high note, dude, write this down. Okay. I want you to write this down, tattoo it on your face.

5:30 This fucking works. This is the way to ask for the hangout on a high note. Hey, Kelly, you seem pretty cool. I think we owe it to ourselves to hang out sometime. Do you agree with this brilliant conclusion? Okay. So there's a lot of elements in there that pertain to the fundamental teachings of attraction. Okay. Hey, Kelly, you seem pretty cool. That's you giving her a compliment that comes from a higher frame. You seem pretty cool. Has the underlying meaning of I'm not 100% sure about you, but you seem cool.

6:04 I think we owe it to ourselves to hang out sometime. It's just a well-said, eloquent way to say, hey, let's hang out. And then do you agree with this brilliant conclusion is a little cap at the end that's going to make her laugh. She's going to write back. Ha, ha, ha. Then you say, cool, what's your week looking like? Or cool, what does your schedule look like over the next week? Now, this is some Jedi mind trick kind of shit because, one, guys will always say, well, what are you doing on Thursday?

6:36 What are you doing on Friday? What are you doing on Saturday? Now, if I go to a girl and I say, hey, what are you doing on Thursday? And she says, oh, sorry, I'm busy. Then suddenly I'm in the jackass position where I have to offer her another option. But if I say, what's your week looking like or what's your schedule looking like over the next week, then she has to throw out the days that she has available. And then I jump in and say, oh, I happen to have that day available, too.

7:03 So it puts you in the power position. You never want to set yourself up so that if she says no, you're in a corner. You always want to set it up so that you have the power, so that you're in the negotiation power chair, and you can make the moves off of what she says. So once again, what's your week looking like? She says, oh, I have Thursday and Saturday free. Then what you say is cool. On Thursdays, I like to do X, Y, Z anyway.

7:29 If you promise to behave yourself, you can come with me. Or if you promise not to get drunk and start a riot like you did at that other bar, you can come with me. So what I would always do is she'd say, oh, I'm free on Thursday. And I'd say, perfect. I like to go to this happy hour at this sushi place on Thursdays. If you promise not to get drunk and start a riot, you should come with me. That's verbatim what I'd say. I mean, it would work every single time.

7:55 Because here you're saying that you're doing this thing anyway, and that's really important. We need her to understand that you're doing this anyway. If she comes with you, that's cool. If she doesn't, that's cool, too. You don't care either way. You're doing this thing. This is what you're doing. You really enjoy it. Hey, you can come with me. Now, once again, we're getting a little chuckle out of her. If you get drunk and start a riot, you got to promise not to do that. You can come with me.

8:21 So she responds to that. And she says, yeah, that sounds great. Looking forward to it. Now, we're going to throw in a little bit of chivalry. Depending on your situation, and this depends on you, but if you drive a car, then you'll say this. Would you be comfortable with me picking you up? Or would you rather meet there? Now, this shows that you're cognizant of her feelings. This shows that you can be trusted. This shows that you're just not assuming to come pick her up because, hey, she may be uncomfortable with that.

8:51 And as we talked about a few episodes ago in the T&C rule, you want to build that trust and connection with her. And this is one little way to do that to show her that you can be trusted. Okay. So she says, oh, no, I'm totally fine with you picking me up. Now, here's another Jedi mind trick kind of thing. You say to her, cool, I'll text you the day of, meaning the day of the hangout, for your address so I can come pick you up.

9:15 Now, why do we do that? The reason is, as many of you guys know, women are apt to flake on dates. The reason they flake is because they're just not into it that day. They don't feel pretty. They feel fat. A myriad of different emotions can come over them. So the possibility of flaking is decently high, even with these techniques. But what's most important about whether or not she's going to flake is whether or not you built up enough attraction, both during the texting part, the messaging part, and if you met her outside of the dating apps, like let's say you met her in person, how much attraction you built up originally.

9:55 A lot of the times we get flakes because there's just not enough attraction there. So the attraction techniques that I teach and that you deploy both during the first conversation as well as when you're messaging with her online is extremely unbelievably important. That's why I don't suggest just going for the hangout right off the bat. Hey, you're hot. Want to hang out sometime? Horrible. As I talked about in previous episodes in this series, you need to build the vibe. You need to build the attraction. Then on a high note, you go for this.

10:25 And as I talked about in the last episode, about 15 texts in, different situations for different girls, but that's about average. Now, if she says, well, I'd rather meet there, it's the same principle. Okay, cool. I'll text you the day of with the address of the venue so we can meet there. Now, as mentioned, the reason we do this is because on the day of, we text her with the address or we text her for her address as a non-needy reminder that you and her have plans.

10:54 Okay, so let's say it's Monday. You guys agree to meet Thursday. Then at Thursday at 12 p.m., you text her, hey, what's up, April? What's your address so I can come pick you up? She's like, oh, you know, it's 38 Elmwood, whatever. Then you say, cool, I'll see you at 6. So it's a really non-needy reminder. You don't want to text her and say, hey, make sure not to flake. Like, we have a date tonight. By the way, guys, never call it a date. I always call it a hangout.

11:21 And one little side note here, if she asks what she should wear, just say dress casual. And that's what I do too is between the time of the hangout and the time that I set up the hangout, there's usually two to three days. What I'll do somewhere in there is I'll do little touches. Like, I'll text with her, hey, how was your day? Did COVID-19 get you today or did you avoid it? How's the social distancing? La, la, la, whatever you want to talk about. And then if you say, hey, regarding Thursday, just dress casual.

11:51 Now, when she hears casual, that's going to be her equivalent of you wearing jeans, a cool t-shirt, maybe a nice leather jacket, boots, a nice watch, and you have your hair did. Then she's going to dress equivalent to that. Okay, so that's the sequence. Let me repeat it real quick so that you have it right in front of you. Step one. Hey, Kelly, you seem pretty cool. I think we owe it to ourselves to hang out sometime. Do you agree with this brilliant conclusion? Ha, ha, ha.

12:18 Yes, definitely. Cool. What's your schedule looking like this week? Oh, I'm free Thursday and Saturday. Perfect. Thursday, I like to go to the sushi bar. They have happy hour. So if you promise not to get drunk and burn down the place, you should come with me. Ha, ha, ha. Sounds good. Cool. Are you comfortable with me picking you up or would you rather meet there? Oh, I think I'd prefer to meet there. Yeah, no problem. I'll text you the day of with the address so we can meet there.

12:45 Couple days goes by. You do a couple touches. Then when Thursday comes at 12 p.m., you text her. Hey, what's up, Kelly? Here's the address of the sushi bar. See you there tonight at 6. I'll be the guy dressed as a homeless man. Ha, ha, ha. Okay, see you then. Boom, boom, boom. Perfect. You've closed it. All right. So what if it's happening during COVID? Okay, obviously you guys can't go out to dinner. You can't meet somewhere. So I suggest a very similar thing. But what I suggest for the COVID situation is you guys first meet over FaceTime or you have a telephone call before you go for the hangout.

13:19 So what I would do is say, hey, Kelly, you seem pretty cool. I think we owe it to ourselves to FaceTime sometime, have a Skype call, have a phone call. Do you agree with this brilliant conclusion? Ha, ha, ha. Yes, definitely. Cool. What's your schedule looking like this week to do it? Oh, I'm free this day and that day. Perfect. Let's set it up for Thursday at 6. See you then. I'll be the guy dressed like a homeless man. So it's kind of a similar thing. Now, why do we want to do the Skype call first is because for her to meet during this time when we're supposed to have a quarantine, I feel you need to build a little bit more rapport and show her that you respect what's going on in society.

13:57 You're not just trying to get it in. You're not being irresponsible with this whole COVID thing, but instead you're cognizant of it. So you meet her over the phone, you guys banter, you guys get along, you throw in some trust and connection, you use all the techniques that I talk to you about in my podcast, or if you really want to get good at it, you can hire me as a coach. Use all those things. And then at the end of the call, you do something like this.

14:23 Okay. You say, you know, Kelly, it seems like we're getting along pretty good. Would you agree with that? And she'll be like, yeah, definitely. And be like, well, look, we're really not supposed to hang out with other people. No, but I've been in quarantine for several weeks. I know I don't have COVID. Do you have COVID? Should be like, no, you know, I've been in quarantine too. And be like, okay, now I know we're not supposed to do this, but I think, and you got to let me know if you agree that we could probably hang out.

14:50 However, if we hang out, we got to keep six feet distance. I want you in a hazmat suit and we're both going to take hand sanitizer showers after we meet and we have to speak in a language that COVID-19 doesn't understand. Okay. She laughs. Ha ha ha. Yeah. Sounds good. Okay. So this is an opportunity for you to pull her to your house. You could be like, well, my house has been disinfected by level one hazmat security team alpha, which works out of Detroit, Michigan. I flew them in.

15:20 It was $20,000. They disinfected my whole house. You may not believe it, but it is the safest house in all of Colorado. She'll laugh. Ha ha ha. Then you'd be like, listen, how about this? You come over. We'll watch a quick movie. We'll keep six feet distance. We're not going to violate the terms of the agreement set forth by the American society organization. Whatever. I'm just pulling shit out of my house right now. Um, and we definitely, definitely cannot touch hands. We can't even maintain eye contact for more than three seconds at a time because I read an article that COVID-19 can jump from eye to eye if you remain eye contact for too long, even from across six feet.

16:01 She's going to laugh. Okay. So what I'm doing here is I'm leveraging people's inevitable desire to break the rules. If you tell a child, Hey, don't do that. What is the child inevitably want to do? She wants to do that. Right? So what we do is we say, Hey, we really shouldn't be doing this, but I'm bored. You're bored. I feel safe. You feel safe. How would you feel about breaking the rules and doing this with me? She's going to be into it, especially if you guys hit it off well over the Skype call.

16:32 Okay. So that's how to pull her to your house. Now, if you feel to yourself, ah, she may not be into that, then you guys can meet at a park or another idea that I had is you guys can meet in a parking lot, right? Like there's all these empty parking lots specifically, um, like church parking lots, maybe a mall parking lot, a high school parking lot, whatever's in your area. Then what you guys do is you pull in your cars backwards, you open the trunk and you guys have your car six feet from one another.

17:01 And then you have like a little picnic or a little dinner that you guys set up right there in the parking lot. And you're like sitting in your trunk. This works really well for someone like me as a Toyota four runner, where I can pop open the trunk and just sit there, right, right there in my four runner. If she has something similar that she could be comfortable and you can do that, or you guys can even sit on the trunks of your cars and have like a little picnic right there.

17:24 Now, during the picnic thing, you could be like, you know, Sarah, we're getting along pretty well. And I gotta be honest with you, kind of want to come over there and shake your hand and meet you for real. But I know I'm not supposed to do that. But what if, what if we just broke the rules and I came over and I just touched your arm and then got the hell out of there? How would that be? And she'll laugh. She'll be like, I don't know.

17:45 That could be risky. Be like, I don't know. I'm thinking about doing it. And then you start walking over and she's like, stay away. You'd be like, nah, I can't. It's magnetic. And then like you touch her and like you run back to your car and she cracks up. Then you guys are bantering. And then you're like, you know, I'm a hug dealer. Something you don't know about me, but I'm a professional hug dealer. I really think that I want to hug you right now, but I know we shouldn't do it.

18:09 I know we shouldn't do it. And then you do the same kind of thing. You like give her a hug, run back. And then, and you can be like, you know, another thing about me you don't know. And this is something I would use all the time, guys, is I was really into swing dancing, country swing dancing. And oh my God, what an amazing thing to deploy on the first date. I'd be like, Hey, something you don't know about me. I'm a professional swing dancer, won the swing dancing championships in 2003.

18:34 And then my title was stolen by mean Bob Henderson. That asshole stole the title right out from under me, but I can rock a pretty mean dip right now. And she's like, you can, you'd be like, yeah, let me show you. And then you guys can like dance or something like that. Or there's ways to leverage the fact that you shouldn't be touching to make her want to touch. See how that works. So that's the way that I would suggest doing it. Even if you pull her back to your house, you guys are like sitting far apart on the couch.

19:02 You can do this exact same thing to get closer. Suddenly you guys are making out. I mean, COVID, you know, it's serious, right? But let's be honest. They've now determined that 1% of people pass away from it. Almost always elderly and those with medical conditions. Look, I know it's serious. I'm not trying to downplay it, but it's like, she's a young, horny girl. She's attracted to you. If you guys both determine that you don't have it, I mean, really, how much resistance is there going to be there?

19:31 And in fact, in my opinion, the resistance is good. Like we shouldn't do this. It's just like why people cheat on each other because there's so much shouldn't behind it. It motivates them to do it more. So that's my opinion on how to do that. That's my opinion on how you can yank a girl back to your place. There's so many different ways to do it. You can say, you know, I'm a world-class chef and Thursday night is my semi-famous spaghetti night. It's semi-famous because it only turns out good half the time.

20:01 You are invited to experience my culinary half genius, but we have to dress you up in a hazmat suit and lather you down with hand sanitizer. Ha ha. No, just kidding. You know what? I feel cool about it. If you wanted to roll over, you're totally invited. If not, I'm still cooking in any way. What do you think? She'll be like, yeah, you know, I think I'm down to do that. And then what I would always do, like when I would be pulling girls back to my place, is I would say, well, I have to get up early tomorrow in order to go to work or have a long day tomorrow.

20:31 I got to, I got to get up early so we can probably only hang out for like an hour, an hour and a half. Is that still cool? Now, the reason you're doing this is to give her an excuse that you guys aren't going to like have sex. If she comes over and there's no definition as to when it's going to end, she may resist coming over because then she doesn't know she can get out of there. But if you yourself put the resistance in place and say, hey, I got to get up early tomorrow, but why don't you floss over for like an hour?

21:00 We'll have some spaghetti. We'll watch some of the office or watch some friends or whatever on Netflix. And then we can see, you know, how it goes. And then you got to get going. She'll be much more likely to do it. And then once she's there, you can blame the chemistry, right? If you guys start like making out and it goes like awesome. And then she's there for like five hours, you can blame the chemistry on the fact that she stayed there for so much longer.

21:25 But with women, you always want to tend to their slut defense. Give her a reason to leave. Give her a knowing that she can get out of there in an hour if it doesn't work out well and she feels safe. So there's so many more things to say about this as far as like what to do to get a girl back to your house. But this is a really good introduction on how to yank a girl off the online dating platforms, how to use that template that I've built for how to close the date, how to adjust it slightly in order to do a FaceTime date first and then pivot it into a real date, get her over to your house and get laid.

22:02 I mean, honestly, like I said, I feel like you guys should be getting laid probably even more now than when there wasn't the quarantine. And then when the quarantine is lifted, like I said, it's going to be a goddamn fuck fest. So if you're not training, if you're not getting your inner shit together and getting your inner problems worked out so that you can go attract that girl when the quarantine is lifted, I have to question that a little bit. I don't want you guys to think in the scarcity mindset.

22:30 I want you to think in an abundance mindset. How can I leverage this? How can I pivot in order to make this benefit me? And there are amazing ways this is going to benefit you, especially when the quarantine is lifted. I mean, you'll be able to get more ass than a toilet seat. So think about this, guys. Deploy it. In the next episode, I'm going to give you some black op methods that work ridiculously well to add on to all this stuff. But that's the basic sequence.

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