The Magic of Thinking BIG!!!

0:00 Welcome to the Unapologetic Man Podcast, the only podcast that's all about self-improvement, confidence, success, women, and being a man without making any apologies for it. What is up, guys? Thank you for tuning in to another episode of the UMP. I really do appreciate you. Tonight is election night here in the United States. President Trump versus Joe Biden, both of whom slept in a special vat of formaldehyde to prepare themselves for today's very special event. Results are still not in, but by this time tomorrow, probably by the time you're listening to this, I think we will have a new president or the same president.

0:36 We'll see what happens there. Also, I have no internet tonight. In fact, our entire city has no internet. So I'm just going to show you right now how damn committed I am to dropping these podcasts on Monday, Wednesday, Friday that I'm recording this right now on my computer. I'm going to go drive 30 minutes to my buddy's house, go sit in his goddamn driveway, and from my car, I'm going to upload this by hopping onto his Wi-Fi and doing it that way. And if that doesn't work, then I got to back up to go drive another half an hour to Marissa's mom's house and do it in her driveway.

1:19 So that shows how damn committed I am, and soon I want to record a podcast called All Your Excuses Are Lies, which is a thing that Jocko always says, and it's absolutely true. Do whatever the fuck it takes to accomplish your goals. I made you guys a promise. I am a man of my word. I have more honor than a Spartan phalanx. So I am going to back up what I said, and I'm going to do whatever it takes to drop this podcast. And this podcast is on an extremely important topic, which is a success hack numero uno, why you should think big.

1:53 So tonight I'm going to talk about what it means to think big, how you can change your mindset around those things that are holding you back due to your limiting belief systems, and how to think in a way that successful people think so that you can get the life you truly want and you don't have to settle. Before we jump into the content, I want to thank you guys again for the amazing, awesome, fantastic, put-the-pop-in-my-giddy-up reviews. Those things are absolutely amazing. They come in every single day, and I just want to thank all you guys who have written them.

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3:21 After I was broken up with when I was 21 years old by my first love, my first girlfriend, I asked myself, what the hell did I do wrong? I treated her like gold. I did everything for her. I was the best boyfriend a girl could ever hope for. Yet she blew me out completely to the point where she cheated on me with another guy in her dorm room. And I heard them having sex. And I went home that day and I thought to myself, man, what the fuck am I doing wrong?

3:47 What is it about me that made this happen? Why wasn't I able to keep this girl's attraction? Why wasn't I able to be successful? And it occurred to me, I was like, listen, if I don't get this part of my life settled, if I don't become the very best version of myself that I can be, if I don't think bigger and better and try to become a better version than I am now, then I'm going to die with regrets. I am going to be on my deathbed and I'm going to be sitting there looking back at the fact that I didn't have the courage to improve my life in the way that I knew I could.

4:19 I'm going to look over at my fat wife, who's mean, cruel, and has a foul disposition. And I'm going to say to myself, dude, what the fuck was I doing? Why didn't I improve myself? And it was at that moment that I decided to get this part of my life settled once and for all the whole dating thing. And throughout the years, I found that when you increase yourself in the way that makes you more attractive to women, you also increase yourself in ways that make you more money, get you more happiness, allow you to achieve more peace.

4:51 Because everything that makes you attractive to women is basically everything that betters you as a man. And in my journey, I found that thinking big was one of the most life-changing realizations and perspective shifts that I've ever made. And I want to share with you guys what I came to during that journey. So a lot of us think that we can't have it all, right? We go through life and we have lots of failures. We go through life and we realize that it's difficult to quote unquote have it all.

5:18 But I want to tell you that you can have it all or better said, you can have everything you want. And a lot of us have an either or kind of mentality, right? So we think, well, I could either have money or happiness. But I want to ask you, why can't you have both? You can have sex with lots of girls and you can have an amazing relationship. Of course, they can't happen simultaneously, but you can certainly have both. And in fact, to find a girl who is up to snuff, a girl who you would like to be with for the rest of your life, I personally believe you have to go through a lot of girls in order to find that woman.

5:52 And in so doing, you're going to have sex with tons and tons of beautiful girls. So why can't you have both? Discipline or indulgence? Both. 90% of the time I'm disciplined. 10% of the time I indulge. So I can't have both. Freedom or money? Both. Can you be peaceful? Can you be a loving, compassionate fella who helps others? Or can you be an aggressive alpha who isn't to be fucked with? That's right. Both. And finally, when you went to the doctor and you couldn't tell if he said you were obese or a beast, you could be both, bro.

6:27 You could be both. You could be obese and a beast. But the point here is that there is not an either or dynamic when it comes to life. You can have everything and you can have it all and you can have both. The problem is, is a lot of us think we can't. And when you think certain things, that becomes your reality. I actually talked about this in the last episode. Your programming is just an illusion. Whether you think good things or you think bad things, the truth is going to be in the results that those produce.

6:55 Both of them are illusions. There is no empirical evidence to prove that I'm a champion. But because I believe I'm a champion, then I act like I'm a champion and I get the results of a champion. Because I believe that I can make fantastic money while at the same time still helping people and being selfless and doing whatever it takes to help you guys. I can have both. I can both be helpful, compassionate, give charity to certain people when I want to, give bums money, and still have a shit ton of money and be a good person.

7:26 You can have the best of both worlds. That whole, can have your cake or eat it too, is bullshit. Yes, you can have your cake and eat it too. And this is the magic of thinking big. So let me ask you, what do you really want? Are you living a life that is up to the standards that you have set up for yourself? For example, with women, you guys are probably settling for girls who are 7s or 8s. The vast majority of you are dating 6s, 7s, and 8s.

7:53 Why can't you get a 9? Why can't you get a 10? That's right, that last girl that you saw on your favorite porn. Perfect ass, perfect tits, flat stomach, beautiful face, perfect teeth, perfect eyes. You can have her. The whole reason you're not getting her is because you think you can't. You think she's out of your league. Now, what's the way to get harder and harder women? I'm actually going to do a podcast episode on this. But for now, I'll tell you, you build up to it. First, you get that 7.

8:19 Then you get goods with 7s. Then you get the 8. Then you get good with 8s. Then you get 9s. And you get good with 9s. And it's a slow progression. But you can have it all even despite what physical limitations you might have or what failures you've had in the past. The past failures are a result of your past thinking, your past belief systems. You were thinking too small, so you got small. Stop relegating yourself to these bad results and start thinking bigger. Now you're saying to me, but how?

8:49 For example, how am I going to do that? How am I going to build up to hotter girls? Well, by increasing your game, by working on your inner bullshit, for example, working with me, and I can help you change your programming in your brain into alpha silverback programming, what happens is you start talking to hotter girls. You feel that social pressure. Then you get used to talking to hotter girls like an 8. Then you go start talking to 9s. You feel the social pressure of talking to 9s.

9:16 You get used to that. Then you start talking to 10s and getting involved with 10s, getting into their little social spheres, and then that becomes normal to you. So being around a 10 is no big deal. And when you're around 9s and 10s and you show them it's no big deal to you, that's when they get attracted to you. Why can't you have that? When it comes to money, a lot of you guys think that like $10,000 a month is a lot. And you know what? For some people it is, especially for those who are listening to this in poorer countries.

9:43 In the United States, we are very, very fortunate. We have so many opportunities in front of us. It's not even fucking funny. So if you think $10,000 sounds like a lot, or better yet, if you've labeled yourself a $4,000 a month kind of guy, let me encourage you to try on a higher salary. So if you're at 4k now, just see what it feels like to try on 6k. Just see what it feels like to try on 8k, 10k. Let's pop that up to 20k, 25k. Why can't you make 50k a month?

10:15 Hell, you're making 10k a month. Why not 50? Why not 100k a month? Why not a million a month? Why not fill in the blank? It's all perception. And I'll tell you, the way you think, particularly about money, particularly about women, and actually all things, that's where you're going to land. A lot of financially successful gurus talk about having a thermostat. If your thermostat is set at $10,000 a month, that's what you're going to continuously land on over and over again. And even if you don't land on that, there'll be something in the future that will either bring you back to it or take you up to it.

10:49 That's why, and I've found this time and time again in my own life, no matter how many businesses I change, I would always get back to making the same amount of money. And now what I'm doing is I'm purposely increasing my thermometer so that I make more and more money. And I'm thinking bigger. Why can't I make a million a month? Why can't I affect the lives of a million men? Why can't this podcast be one of the biggest podcasts that ever hit? When you think about it, when you focus on it, and you get comfortable with the fact that your life can be just that good, you can have it all.

11:22 I can have this podcast, I can work with champions like you, and I can still have the freedom to go hunting with my friends, to take hunting trips, to have this life that is everything I ever wanted. I mean, I'm doing right now exactly what I wanted, and that's because I started thinking bigger. How many guys can I help? How much can I give to charity? How awesome can my daughter be? How great can my relationship be? How much better can the sex be? How much more game can I have, even when I'm in a relationship?

11:50 Everything is all limited by your own perceptions, so think big perceptions. And then what happens is the space of your reality opens, and that which you experience gets better and better and better, if you allow it to do so. And the magic of it is to simply allow yourself to want to think big. You don't have to think about the how. You don't have to figure out all the steps to get there. You just have to know, this is where I want to be, and the how will be delivered to me if I constantly focus on that thing that I want to arrive to.

12:23 I was talking to a client today who wants to go into the bars with like three or four nines on his arms and have all the girls attracted to him and be the dude. And I told him, I said, bro, it's totally possible for you. Why do I know that? Because I was that guy. I was the guy who couldn't get laid if he was in a Tijuana brothel with $100 bills strapped to his penis to the point where I walk into bars and like, I'm the dude, the number one alpha, everything like that.

12:49 And it's not bragging. It's just showing that when you think big and you allow yourself to want that, you allow yourself to feel like what it would be to step into it, then it will be delivered to you if you just get out of the way and trust that you have enough capacity to handle it. And that leads me into my next point is that a lot of you guys have a big, gigantic problem with receiving. That's right, receiving. You think that receiving is a sin.

13:18 You think that receiving is being a taker. You think that getting things from others, whether it's compliments, money, or anything like that, is something bad. And it takes away from others in some kind of way. It's that age-old idiom. It's better to give than to receive. Really? Is it really? Well, let me ask you this. When you refuse to receive, aren't you neglecting the giver the opportunity to give? Because we all know how great it feels to give. I love to give. But I also love to receive because I'm giving that person the opportunity to give.

13:50 Now, what I want you to do the next time someone compliments you, instead of feeling socially obligated to compliment them back, just say thank you. Just receive it. And send a message to the universe. Right now, I want all you guys to do this. Whatever anybody else is not willing to take, whether it's money, whether it's beautiful women, whether it's happiness, send it to me. I will receive it with open arms. Furthermore, a lot of you think that, well, if I get a lot of money, then I'm going to take it from others.

14:17 If I'm the guy at the nightclub who's getting all kinds of hot girls, then I'm neglecting others from getting those hot girls and I should feel guilty because of that. But here's my counter argument to that. Can you help poor people out more by being rich or by being poor? You don't help poor people by being one of them. You help poor people by being rich and then contributing to them, giving donations to them, and lifting them up with this new think big mentality. If you were to get really good with women, does it really take away from other guys?

14:48 Or can you be like me where you share the love and you show them how you got to your level? I am giving way more back to humanity by being a girl magnet than by not being a girl magnet because I've learned how to do it and now I'm sharing it with you guys. Tens of thousands of guys are going to hear this. Hopefully with time, millions of guys will hear this. Was it better for me to become the best version of myself or was it better for me to cower and say, no, I don't want to receive the affections of women because receiving is bad and I just want to be a beta cuck and not make any waves in this world because who the fuck knows what my rational would be for that.

15:25 It's totally illogical. No, it's your duty to become a girl magnet. It's your duty to become rich so that you can help others and more importantly, so you can step into the best version of yourself. Whatever created you, whether it's God, source energy, or you think we just manifested out of dirt or whatever your belief is, you have ambition in your heart. So whatever that energy was that created you, it's your duty to make yourself the best you can be. Why do I know that? It's because all of us have ambition in our hearts.

15:58 We want more. We want to strive. It's the nature of the world. Trees don't simply grow to half level and then stop growing and then they die. No, they grow as big as they possibly can. They keep striving. The grasses grow. Animals grow. Everything in nature shows us that abundance is who you are and who you were meant to be. So by you settling, by you not receiving, by you thinking small, you're actually doing a disservice to your creator, whatever that creator is. So your duty to whatever it is that created you is to make yourself and your life the very best it can be.

16:34 It's your duty. It's your responsibility. It's your purpose to think big and get everything you can in this life. Then when you get that, you help others get it too. Adding value to this world is your purpose. You are here to add value. Are you thinking big enough to add value? Are you giving yourself the opportunity to attract those great things into your life so that you can add value? Are you helping others by settling? Are you helping others by being small and thinking small? Or are you ready to shift from that, think big and become the very best version of yourself, not only for yourself, but for your creator, as well as those who you are going to help in the future?

17:15 Adding value can only be done when you think big, kick ass, take names, and take the cards you were dealt in this life and make the meanest hand possible. So I want each of you to think, man, am I thinking big enough? Am I thinking big enough as far as what kind of girls I can get? Am I thinking big enough in what kind of man I can become? Am I thinking big enough in the kind of money that I can attract into my life? Am I allowing myself to truly desire what I desire?

17:41 Or am I stifling myself because I'm afraid I'm going to fail? Well, I'll tell you this, failure cannot cope with persistence, which means when you have a vision in front of you, when you shoot for the stars, and you keep trying and you keep pushing and you keep going no matter how many times you fail, failure cannot cope with that persistence. Eventually and inevitably, you are going to succeed. I have been trying to get into this position of being a dating coach for years and years and years and only when I went through the travails that I had to go through so that I could become an adequate coach for you, an adequate coach for you so that I could empathize with your anxiety, so that I could empathize with your fear, so I could empathize with your reluctance to approach girls.

18:24 Only when I went through all that was I allowed to be a dating coach and because of that, I thank it and I also look back with pride on my own perseverance, my never fucking quit attitude and you have that in your heart too. How do I know you have that in your heart? Because you're listening to this podcast, I know you're resonating it, otherwise you would have clicked away by now. You have that warrior heart inside of you. So don't be afraid of what it's going to take to get what you truly want.

18:51 Focus on it. Go for it. It's your fucking duty. You owe it to yourself, you owe it to me and you owe it to your creator and you owe it to all the people who you're going to add value to as you go through your life. You have one chance. Are you going to get to the end of your life with regrets? Looking back and saying, what if? What if I wasn't a coward? What if I had the courage? No. You are going to start today and you're going to think at a level that justifies you as the fucking silverback unapologetic man that you are.

19:20 All right guys, that's my rant for today. I'm going to go load this up, edit it out and do whatever the fuck it takes to get it uploaded. First, I'll go to my buddy's house. If that doesn't work, then I'll go to Marissa's mom's house and if that doesn't work, who knows what the hell I'll do. But if you're listening to this, that shows that I thought big and I did whatever the hell it took without excuses to get this podcast uploaded. And I want you to think too because I'm telling you, it's one of the secrets to success.

19:47 It's one of the secrets of happiness. Allow yourself to think bigger and you'll be amazed at what manifests out of that. All right, my dudes, thank you so much for listening. Once again, if you find value in my podcast, I very much would appreciate one of those reviews. When you do that, email me at CoachMarkSingh at gmail.com. I also offer one-on-one coaching. You can follow me on Instagram. I have a free program I'm giving away on my website. Just click in the links below, whatever you want to do, however you want to interact with me.

20:15 I love hearing from you guys and obviously, I love getting those reviews, five-star reviews preferably with some writing behind that. And if you email me, I'll send you a bunch of cool shit. Get your name tattooed on my butt. Get an image of you plastered on my face. Get a picture of you put on the side of my car with Le Champion underneath it. And finally, I will give you my business when I am slain in battle. All right, my dudes. Thank you so much for listening.

20:37 I got a great one coming up on Friday, so please stay tuned and I will see you in the next episode. We'll see you next time.

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