What to Do When a Girl is Boring Over Text or Takes FOREVER to Reply

0:00 Welcome to the Unapologetic Man Podcast, the only podcast that's all about self-improvement, confidence, success, women, and being a man without making any apologies for it. What is up, gentlemen? Thank you for tuning in to another episode of the UMP. Happy Thursday. I hope the weekend's been treating you well. And today, we're going to talk about what to do when a girl's ho-hum isn't really responding to your texts or taking forever to reply. And I have a couple good responses to this, but really it's about the philosophy and how to avoid just chicks wasting your goddamn time.

0:41 So we're going to delve into that today. Told you guys over the last few months that I've been training for a triathlon. Well, I actually did it today. I did my triathlon today. And I did what's called an aqua bike. Now, for those of you who aren't interested at all in these triathlons, just bear with me. Let me flex up a little bit, bro. I've been training for this shit for like five months, I think, because I was a freaking chicken McNugget with tits. I was so out of shape.

1:05 I looked like a cow standing vertically. When you put a bathing suit on me, I basically looked like a potato with a bathing suit on it. Not really true. I'm just joking. But cardiovascularly speaking, my capillary beds weren't really up to speed, bro. Wasn't really that fit when it came to my cardiovascular health. So I've been riding my bike a lot and swimming a lot. And I was like, yo, why don't I do a triathlon? Well, the reason I don't want to do a triathlon is because running is hell.

1:31 And I was like, come on, man, you tell your listeners all the time to man the fuck up, do what's hard. So I was like, all right, let's go for a run. Well, I don't want to get too deep into it, but I went for a mild run and I was freaking decimated, bro. It ruined me, most of which because I have a sciatica in my left hip, which I'm doing Pilates now regularly to try to solve. But it was recommended to me by several chiropractors as well as my Pilates instructor and doctors that I don't run on it just yet because there's some issues in my nerve endings over there.

2:03 So I did what's called an aqua bike. An aqua bike is the run. Excuse me, not the run, you idiot. The aqua bike is the swim and the bike. That's why it's called aqua bike. It's interesting, you know, if you guys ever want to try to do a triathlon, there's just the swim and the bike. There, of course, is the swim, the bike, and the run. And then there's just the run and the bike. And you can kind of mix and match and do what you want to do.

2:27 So did my triathlon today. It was short. Don't give me too much credit now. I'm not that much of a beast. But it was an experiment to see if it's something I want to do again. And I definitely want to do it again. It was awesome. And it was crazy because I've talked to super hot girls in the nightclubs. I've done crazy, like, podcast interviews where there's going to be, like, millions of listeners. I've been on radio shows. I've been on stage. I was more nervous for this damn triathlon than I've been in freaking years.

2:54 I did not sleep at all last night, which is crazy. I actually just got up from a two-hour nap, but totally lost a bunch of sleep. So we get ready to start. And there was 35 people in my group because they launch them in waves. And it was a 750-meter swim, which is roughly half a mile. And it was a 10-mile bike. So nothing too crazy. But I wanted to smash it, you know? Like I told you guys a few weeks ago, I wanted to do good.

3:17 So I got third place, bro. Out of 35 people, got third place. Yeah, I'm giving myself a round of applause. It's a little awkward. Got third place. But it was funny because last weekend I was talking to some girls, these really hot girls in the nightclub. And I was like, yeah, I'm doing a triathlon on Sunday. And they're like, why would you do that? I would never do that. Why would anybody ever do that? And I was like, oh, my hell. I'm like, what? You're not into self-development?

3:44 And I kind of turned it around on her as I'm going to teach you to do today. You know, maybe you're a mathlete, bro. You don't really want to do physical exercise, but you like to do intellectual exercise. That's cool. But it just boggles my mind, people who don't want to challenge themselves, right? I think you guys are with me where you want to grow, you want to develop. And that's challenging yourself. And literally, when I crossed the finish line and I was sitting there like eating my salad or whatever, waiting for the medal ceremony, I was like, what's my next thing?

4:12 What's the next challenge? So that's what I'm going to be thinking about over the next several days. But I wanted to share that with you guys because I know I have a lot of triathlon athletes that listen. You guys are legends, dude. There were some fucking champions out there with like tri helmets and shit, which is like this helmet that makes you really fast. And they're all in their aero bars, like leaning forward on these bikes that look like little potato chips. They're all carbon fiber with the sick wheels.

4:36 This dude passed me and he had like a big Iron Man tattoo on his arm. And I was like, damn, dude, these people are serious right now. But it was pretty cool to get third place on my first showing. So probably something I want to continue doing. So today, boys, you're texting with the girl. She's ho-hum. She's boring. Watching paint dry is more interesting than talking to this chick. Why do girls do this? Okay, for several reasons. So first of all, let's back up and go to the initial conversation.

5:03 I like to compare attraction to a spectrum. Okay, so let's look at the spectrum from one to a hundred. Okay, your left hand is one and your right hand is a hundred and you're holding them kind of out in front of you and next to each other. You see that? They're like a foot apart. Okay, one to a hundred. Now, the left hand represents first meeting the girl and the right hand, for just sake of example, represents having sex with her because we can say that's the ultimate attraction.

5:28 When she's willing to jump in the sack with you, you've pretty much hit a home run. She's super attracted to you. She's ready to go. Now, I want you to take your right hand. You don't need to do this, but if you want to, to make the analogy more realistic for you, you can take your right hand and move it to about 40% of the distance you had before. Okay, about 40% is where you get a phone number. Now, after you get a phone number, you need about 50% to get a text back.

5:54 You need about, I'd say 65% to get an actual date. You need about 75% to make out with her, do some physical things. And then you need, let's say 100% for her to actually have sex with you. So, many times we'll get a phone number, but they're not going to really text you back or they're going to be super disinterested when texting with you simply because you're kind of like a plan B to them. And this is the way chicks think. And I was actually talking to my girlfriends about this this weekend.

6:22 I was like, why do you bastards give us your phone number and then don't fucking want to hang out with us? Because just like what we do to chicks, there's always a plan B, isn't there? This is why I tell you guys to have a roster, to have a lineup, to have a pipeline so that if your choice A falls through, you got a choice B. Okay. So if they're not very invested in the conversation to begin with, the amount of attraction that you got with them in the first conversation, or yes, even on the dating apps, wasn't that great.

6:51 It was like a meh, 40%, 47%, 50%, kind of not really there, but kind of there still. Now, I don't want you to feel bad about this because getting a phone number is something, right? Like you got her somewhat attracted to you to get the phone number, to be in a conversation with her. So whether it was over the dating apps, but certainly preferably in person, you should feel pretty good that at least you yanked a number. But what you need to know is that you need to get more attraction to get more engagement, to get more interaction with her.

7:22 So it's not just that chicks are stupid or boring or anything, not at all, man. Like chicks can be super fun to text with when they're into you. So we have to back up and start with the initial conversation, or perhaps your pictures aren't good enough on the dating apps. Perhaps you're texting too much and your profiles aren't interesting enough. Perhaps you're not getting enough attraction before going for the phone number, which of course is its own episode. But these are things to consider. So when this happens, I don't want you to hold it against the girl.

7:51 I want you to think, okay, there simply isn't enough attraction. From here forward, brother, you have to realize that attraction is the answer to all things. Attraction is the answer to getting her phone number. Attraction is the answer to her being more engaging when you're texting with her. Attraction is the answer for her to actually not flake on you, show up and come hang out with you. Attraction is the answer to get physical with her. And of course, attraction is the answer to have sex with her.

8:18 Attraction almost fixes anything. So you have to work on your initial attraction. You have to leverage that shit as much as you possibly can. Well, Mark Singh, how do I leverage that shit? Listen to my fucking episodes, you idiot. There's so many goddamn techniques, okay? Are you using, for example, the five-finger death punch? Have you used the cube? Are you storytelling? Are you push-pulling? Are you cold reading? Are you qualifying her to make her sell herself to you? Many times when a girl's being boring over texting or worse, not texting you back at all, it's because you didn't qualify her.

8:51 So go type in Mark Singh qualifying, listen to that. Or if you want to become an absolute assassin at this shit, join my coaching program and I will teach you how to give her so much attraction for you that all the bullshit you've been dealing with before is freaking gone. Out the door, out the window, goodbye. Don't let the door hit you where the good Lord split you, you fucking sea bass, because attraction answers all things. So now we understand why she's being ho-hum, but you're texting with her and she's still being ho-hum.

9:20 So let me ask you this. Do you think the best thing to do is to chase her, follow up with her, say, hey, did you see my text? Or double text? You're goddamn right. And if you do that, I want you to fly out to Colorado, email me at coachmarksing at gmail.com. I will personally drive down. I will drive an hour to Denver airport. And then what I want you to do is see me. We're going to be like, what's up, man? We're going to shake hands.

9:43 Then I want you to face away from me, okay? Because I'm going to come up behind you and choke you the fuck out if you do that shit. Never follow up with the girl when it comes to texting. Here's what you do. One for one. Well, what if she doesn't text me back? She's done, bro. Drop her, professor. What are you doing out there, bro-tator cuff? Don't be an idiot and drop that chick. Don't follow up with her. Don't try so hard. Don't be thirsty. Okay, but then what?

10:09 Like, she's not texting with me. If I'm not thirsty, then it's just going to get lost. Yeah, it is going to get lost because you didn't build enough attraction. But here's two things you can do. Okay, so when we're dealing with girls, sometimes we have to gamble. And I'm willing to gamble big and call them out on their shit. And this is going to work about half the time, maybe 40%. But you're losing her anyway. So what I'm about to tell you, it's a little bit confrontational.

10:35 It's a little bit like, hey, get your shit together, girl. And or shit or get off the pot, you damn mountain troll. Or you're freaking done. Okay, so this is what I like to say. So, hey, Sarah, I found an awesome new way to fall asleep, dot, dot, dot. Okay, this is what you're texting her. So you're texting with her. She's being boring, ho-hum, LOL, ha-ha-ha. Like boring replies back to you, not really participating. You could even say this. So, Sarah, dot, dot, dot. She says, yes, Kevin, dot, dot, dot.

11:01 You say, I found an awesome new way to fall asleep. And she says, what's that? And you say, texting with you with an explanation point. Okay, now, this may piss her off. And sometimes she will ghost you. But brother, she was going to ghost you anyway. It was headed in a bad direction. Why? Because you didn't build enough attraction. So by your willingness to kind of call her out on her shit, it shows her that you're high value. You have options. Because what kind of guy would drop a chick?

11:30 Like I said in a previous episode called the drop rule. A guy with options, right? So it's a little bit funny. She kind of gets smacked in the face a little bit. It's like cold water hitting her in the face. And she has two decisions. She could either get pissed, which make no mistake. Some chicks do. So prepare yourself mentally. Don't get butter and be like, oh, that damn Mark Singh. He got me blown out. Now I'm going to go look like a chicken McNugget with tits because I can't get over it.

11:54 And I'm just going to go eat ho-hos, ding-dongs, and zip-zips because I can't emotionally deal with it. No, man, you have to think, fuck her. I'm going to go meet other girls. The next bus is coming. Okay, so she's either going to get pissed and blow you out or she's going to say this. Oh my God, I'm so sorry. I'm really bad at texting. I'm so sorry. I do apologize. Then you say, cool, I understand. You can even say, I understand. I was just messing with you.

12:17 But hey, since you're so bad at texting, what do you say we cut to the chase and hang out? Okay, if she gives you any kind of ho-hum reply, like, I don't know, I'm busy this week. Like maybe next month, you're out. Don't let her waste your time. Now you may be sitting there thinking, well, why would a girl want to waste my time? Like, what's in it for her? Well, she's holding you as a backup. You're in the dugout. And in case the lead hitter, like, twists his ankle, you could come out there and have an at-bat.

12:42 Or she just wants the attention from you. She likes the way it feels for you to be entertaining her because a lot of you guys are trying to entertain her. So this is telling her, look, shit or get off the pot. I found an awesome new way to fall asleep. Want to know what it is? Hey, hey, hey, what? Texting with you. Okay? And I like to do an explanation point. And don't use emojis, boys, like a heart, a starfish, a rainbow, a unicorn, and a fart.

13:07 Don't do that shit. Emojis are out the door. Just be like texting with you, period. Okay? See what she does, dude. Like, sometimes you'll get ghosted, but screw it. You are going to be ghosted anyway. Okay? The next thing, and this actually was created by a client of mine. Forgive me, brother, for forgetting exactly which one of my champions it was. I have an idea. I think it was Nick. But forgive me if it was somebody else. I think it was Nick, though. So Nick, big salute to you, man.

13:31 He said this. And he said it in the Facebook group. He said, so, hey, my back is really killing me. Want to know why? And she's like, why? From carrying this conversation. Okay? So that also calls her out that you're carrying the conversation. You're doing all the work. She ain't doing shit. And it's time for her to start participating. Or you're out. Right? You're out like sauerkraut. You're off like a prom dress. Don't let the door hit you where the Lord split you. Kick rocks with your head down, you damn douche copter.

13:57 Okay? Because you ain't going to participate in this boring-ass conversation, Theodore Roosevelt. Remember that. All right. The last thing I like to do is, so, hey, it's pretty clear to me that texting isn't something you're interested in. And I think you'll agree getting to know someone over text is a pretty limited way to do it. So what do you say? We cut to the chase and hang out sometime. So in that context as well, you're pointing out that she's not really participating in the text conversation.

14:23 This is super boring. She's taking like two days to reply or giving you LOLs and ha-ha-has. And you say to her, text is a limited way to get to know somebody. So what do you say? We hang out sometime. Okay? And if she says, I don't know, I'm really busy, you're done, bro. You do not text her back. You don't even say, okay. You just don't reply. Then what you can do is what I call the black hole template. Is you wait two weeks, yes, two weeks, to text her this.

14:52 So, hey, I was texting with this pretty cool girl, but I think she got sucked into a black hole. Hope she's okay, dot, dot, dot. Now, there are some NLP embedded commands in that text, but it's not the black hole text that makes them come back. And they do come back very often, boys. Make no mistake. Why do they come back? It's the two weeks that you waited, showing that you're not thirsty. So many other dudes are super thirsty, trying to follow up with her. That just pushes her away.

15:19 So what you say is, hey, let's hang out. Or we're done. And she says, and you say, okay, you're out, dude. You're out. And you wait two weeks. And you don't text back and say, you're out, bro. No. The whole point is to not text. So you don't text for, yes, bro, two weeks. You're going to have to pull up that Pornhub and masturbate, but better, bro, just go open girls and have a pipeline. You won't even remember this chick. See, here's the thing. When you have abundance, you act this way naturally.

15:45 You do what's completely natural, which is if a girl's ho-humming you, you're done because you're talking to 20 other girls that aren't ho-humming you. So you would wait two weeks. And then you'll say something akin to, I was texting with this cool girl, but I think she got sucked into a black hole. Hope she's okay. Dot, dot, dot. And most of the time, boys, I'd say probably about 75% of the time they do text back and the attraction is now higher because you pulled away. So let's go over the three strategies.

16:11 The first one is, I found an awesome new way to fall asleep. Want to know what it is? She says, yes. And you say, texting with you. The next one is, so, hey, my back is really killing me. Want to know why? She says, yes. And you say, from carrying this conversation. And the third one is, I think you'll agree that texting is a pretty limited way to get to know somebody. So what do you say? We cut to the chase and hang out sometime. Or you could say, so it doesn't seem like you're very into texting.

16:33 So what do you say? We cut to the chase and hang out sometime. Like there's a myriad of different ways you could do this. But the point is, is to call her out on her shit. Stop jumping through her hoops, trying to play games, trying to bring up gambits that I've taught you where she's giving you LOLs and ha ha ha. And you're like, hey, have you ever heard of the cube before? Let me just run it through you. Do you want to hop on a phone call real quick so I can run you through it?

16:56 You don't want to look like you're chasing her. So I love to do this. And yeah, many times I've pissed off chicks. Who cares though? Better they filter themselves out than me continue wasting my time. And I'm sitting there laughing. Like when I send this shit, it just cracks me up, man. Because I know on the other side, this is going to be a text that's actually going to give her a shot of something rather than a shot of nothing. If it makes her eyes go wide and her get a little bit like fired up, good.

17:22 At least I'm engaging her emotionally as opposed to the rest of these schleps who are like having boring conversations, trying to get her to come out, just like being super pushy and following up. It's horrible. You don't want to be that guy. Separate yourself from the rest of the schleps by showing her you're not to be fucked with and you're going to call her out on her shit or she's out and you don't even care if she's out because you have options. Gentlemen, I do appreciate you listening.

17:47 I hope this was helpful for you. Make sure to stay tuned for next week's podcast. I have some really awesome ones to drop, a couple special surprises in there. So stay tuned for that. Once again, guys, if you want to meet with me on a free one-on-one breakthrough session, go to my website, CoachMarxine.com. Click on coaching, fill in the Jesus, slap in the goddamn and you and I will get on a free one-on-one breakthrough session together. You guys are champions for listening. Songs will be written about you.

18:11 That will be sung around campfires for generations to come and I will see you in the next episode. Bye-bye.

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