Why 99.99% of Men NEVER Get The Happiness, Money, and Women They Really Want

0:00 Welcome to the Unapologetic Man Podcast. The only podcast that's all about self-improvement, confidence, success, women, and being a man without making any apologies for it. What is up guys? Thank you for joining me on another episode of the UMP. If you've been listening for a long time, you know what to do. That's right. Smack yourself on the ass so hard when the concussion hits, your balls fly up and hit the tip of your hat. Ricky, that one was for you. If this is your first time listening, welcome to the show.

0:35 What I try to do here is give the best information in the most succinct way possible, and I intend to do that today by sharing what I feel is the number one reason most people fail with happiness, peace, and women. Before I jump into the content, I want to let you guys know that what I predicted in Monday's podcast, where I introduced my free consultation, one-on-one consultation with me, that breakthrough session, where you and I hammer out your goals, what you're trying to achieve, your limiting belief systems, and why it feels like you have one foot on the brake and one foot on the gas, and what it is that's going on inside your head.

1:11 And then seeing if you're a good fit for my exclusive three-month coaching program, what I predicted was applications would come flowing in, people would be lined up around the corner like Thursday night free blowjobs at the Tijuana Horror House. Indeed has happened. So getting a lot of applications, but I want to let you know that there's still room. I'm still having open spots in my schedule to get you in within the next few weeks where you and I jump on the phone, talk about if you're a good fit.

1:40 If you're interested in that, check out my coaching offer on my website, CoachMarkSingh.com, and then you can just go ahead and click on the coaching link in the upper nav bar on the upper right-hand corner. That'll tell you everything you need to know. And if you're interested, if you want to talk to me about it personally, see if you're a good fit, go ahead and apply for that one-on-one phone consultation and we'll see if you're a good fit and we'll take it from there. Once again, I did just release this offer.

2:06 This is brand spanking new, right out of the oven. So my waiting list isn't too crazy at this point. We can get you in the door sooner rather than later. All right, let's go ahead and jump right into the content. So to start off this episode, I want to talk a little bit about lottery winners. That's right, lottery winners. Have you guys heard this phenomenon where people will win the lottery and then just a few short years later, they'll lose all their money? Like you can literally win $25 million and within just a couple of years, you'll go back to the same exact amount of money that you were making previously.

2:40 Or guys with women, a guy will hook up with a really hot girl. It'll be totally out of character for him. And then I'll have like a three-year dry spell after that where he's relegated back to the canyon donkeys that he was sleeping with before and not able to really raise his game back up to the level where he was getting those kinds of girls. Well, there's a very realistic truth as to why this happens. It's because each of us is set to a certain barometer based on our programming.

3:08 So if you think that you're not enough, which a lot of you guys do have that belief in which NLP, which is part of what I do is specifically designed to erase, if you think you're not enough, you are going to unconsciously manifest both by your actions as well as the law of attraction, those kinds of results. So if you think that you're a $3,000 a month kind of guy, things are going to happen that are going to make you a $3,000 a month kind of guy. So even if you do win that $25 million, you're going to blow it all on bad decisions, bad investments.

3:41 People are going to take advantage of you. You're probably going to lose friends. In fact, many lottery winners say that winning the lottery was one of the worst things that ever happened to them is because they were a $3,000 a month kind of guy. That's what they were programmed to. That's literally the programming that's written into their brain. So it's like trying to dump a complex mathematical equation into a basic programming, into a basic computer. It's just going to spit out the same results. But when you expand yourself, and as T.

4:07 Harv Eckert says, when you expand your wealth zone, then you're able to accommodate for more money, more happiness, and harder women. So if you think that you're a six, and you ask me, why do I get so nervous when I talk to nines, it's because you think you're a six, and you think she's a nine, so you think she's out of your league. The key, of course, is to expand yourself to thinking that you're a 10, to expand yourself to feel like a millionaire, to expand yourself to deserve all the great things that life has to offer, to be a wide, open, receiving bucket that takes in all the abundance that life has to give you.

4:43 But the problem is, is that most people don't see themselves that way. Their identity is locked in a place where they see themselves as a six. They see themselves as a $3,000 a month earner. They see themselves as an unhappy, doomed to failure, scarcity provoked individual who can't get better than what he has right now. Now, they also have a belief that if they could just have the success with women, if they could just have the money come into them, then they can do what they want, then they can be who they want to be.

5:16 A lot of you guys want to be a girl magnet. So you think to yourself, if I could just start getting girls, then I'll be a girl magnet. But here's the key, and I hope you can predict what I'm about to say. That's not how it works. That's the opposite. You may think that first you have, I have the money, I have the women, then I can do what I want, do lots of girls, do things that millionaires do, and then I can be that guy who I finally want to be.

5:42 So, so many people work on this backwards because the truth of the matter is, is first you have to be, then you do, then you have. So first you have to be a girl magnet before you could have those hot girls. First you have to be a millionaire in your own mind before you can attract the money of a millionaire. First you have to be peaceful before you can attract the life that creates peace and further substantiates it. So the big problem with people who are in a poor, scarcity, victim mentality is they have it all backwards.

6:17 First they think they have, then they think they do, then they think they be. But the truth of the matter is you have to work on yourself, reprogram that shit that's going on inside your head so you can be that girl magnet, so you can be that millionaire in your own mind, so you can be a person who deserves abundance, deserves happiness, deserves peace. Then you start doing those things, such as doing a really hot girl, and then you start having abundance. So the key here, once again, is to first be that person by, there's no other way to do it, reprogramming the bullshit in your head, continuing to listen to podcasts like this one, continuing to work on yourself, do the self-work, so you can just be it, and then what happens is the universe, or God, or whatever you want to call it, starts giving you, attracting to you, those things that make you do the things that someone who is that way is, and then you can have the lifestyle that will bring you happiness.

7:16 So there is no three magic words to get that girl to jump in the air and slide onto your dick. The only three magic words that exist for that is, here's my card, meaning here's my credit card, when you're at the Tijuana whorehouse on the Thursday night free blowjobs, and complimentary chlamydia check. If you want that to manifest for you right now in your life, brother, you have to change who you are. Now, I'm not telling you to change into anything that you don't want to be.

7:42 In fact, what I'm telling you to do is change into the natural self-esteem you were born with, because right now, I'm going to be straight up with you. If you're not attracting nines and tens, it's because you have bullshit programming, you have belief systems, you have traumas, you have negativity locked inside of you, given to you by somebody else before you can defend yourself, that's preventing the true you from shining through, prevents the true masculinity from being exposed to these women, and that's why they don't get attracted to you.

8:10 If you're making anything less than you want to make, it's because you have belief systems that that's the kind of guy you are, and these belief systems are illusions given to you before you can fucking defend yourself from them. Maybe they're your dad's illusions, maybe they're your mom's illusions. It doesn't matter where they came from, but children absorb things like a sponge. The first seven years of your life, your brain is literally in a mild state of hypnosis. Everything that comes in, even belief systems that your mom, dad, brothers, uncles, grandpas, siblings of any nature whatsoever, even babysitters, whatever the programs they have, they're unconsciously giving to you.

8:50 And sometimes we'll even take on programming just to get into rapport with somebody. For example, you really want your dad and your mom to love you. So you will take on their same belief systems to get in rapport with them so that you can guarantee yourself their love moving forward. Because getting love from your parents is more important than getting success in the future. So you take on all these bullshit belief systems. You're probably making the same amount of money your parents did unless you've consciously reprogrammed this.

9:20 You're probably getting the same level of girls that your mom and your dad did unless you consciously reprogram this and you're getting the same results. So look at your life right now. What is lacking? Okay, maybe it's money. Maybe it's women. Maybe it's happiness, success, peace. Or maybe it's all those things. Maybe it's your fitness. Maybe you're fat. Maybe you're really angry. Maybe you're suicidal. All of that is based on your programming and nothing more. You have a program inside your head that's continuously running, spitting out the same results.

9:50 It's like you're hitting print on a printing machine and wondering why the same damn page comes out over and over again. That's the way your brain works is the programming which is in there is going to give you and manifest the life that you have in front of you. So what's the key? I'm going to tell you this. All programs are illusions, even the good ones. I have a belief that I am a fucking champion. I am a girl magnet. Girls are lucky to be talking to me.

10:15 Is that empirically true? Is there scientific evidence to prove that I'm a champion, that I'm a girl magnet, that girls are lucky to talk to me? No, it's just an illusionary belief that I created. Why? Because the result is true. The result that manifests the reality that when I go to the bars, when I go to the supermarket, girls are attracted to me. That manifests because of my belief system. But that's the only thing that's real. The belief systems is bullshit. Even the good ones, they're all illusions.

10:46 They're all opinions. They're all phantoms. Why are you allowing a poisonous, toxic belief system to exist in your head? It makes no sense to me. Every single person you see out there who doesn't have the money they want, doesn't have the girls they want, doesn't have the body they want, you can guarantee yourself that they have programming given to them by somebody else. They don't know that they can choose this. They think, first, I'll have the experience. First, I'll have the money given to me by the lottery.

11:15 Then I can do what I want. Then I'll be a millionaire. But it doesn't work that way because you're going to be exactly who you are today unless you change your belief systems. And this is why people who get into money quickly, they lose it just as quickly. It's because you're going back to your set barometer over and over again. This is law. And this leads me to my next point. The goal of becoming a girl magnet. The goal of becoming a millionaire. The goal of becoming this amazing guy that I know you want to become is to simply grow yourself as a person, not to become a millionaire, not to become a girl magnet, not to have that super hot naked girl in your bed with her leg spread, her perfect titties, her perfect face, her angelic eyes, her beautiful skin and perfect hair.

12:00 She smells like a goddess and all you want to do is devour her. Brother, that is a side benefit of you transforming yourself into the natural self-esteem you were born with. If you had the same self-esteem you were born with, you would have that girl. If you had the same self-esteem you were born with, you would have that money. You would have the happiness. But see, life isn't designed that way. We don't just get to get through life unscathed. Here's how it's designed. You're born perfect self-esteem.

12:28 Bunch of bullshit happens to you where that's covered up. Like a golden Buddha being covered up with mud. Then if you leave it that way, you're going to continue to manifest the results you're getting over and over again until the day you die. Nothing will change. Guaranteed, it is law. It works every single time that way. But you, listening to podcasts like this one, perhaps jumping into my three-month coaching program where it's a black hole shortcut to get you 10 years of development in three months. When you do that, when you have the courage to invest in yourself, when you have the courage to listen to podcasts like this one, you are taking the shortcut.

13:06 You are cleaning the mud off that Buddha. And now the Buddha is gold again. You guys ever hear this story that in Burma, long time ago, a Buddhist camp was attacked. Well, they had a gold Buddha that was worth millions of dollars. So what the monks did is they covered it up with mud. Then years later, everybody forgot that the mud Buddha actually had gold under it. Everybody who knew it died. The wisdom wasn't passed on. I guess it was a big secret. They didn't want to tell because secrets get out.

13:36 Years later, a monk was cleaning that Buddha and a piece of the clay popped off and he saw the gold underneath. Well, all the other monks came out. They cleaned all the mud off this Buddha and boom, right in front of them was this golden Buddha they didn't even know was there. This is a perfect analogy for you. You have that girl magnet inside of you. You have that millionaire inside of you. You have that happy, peaceful champion inside of you who you look in the mirror every day and say, bro, I'm proud of you.

14:02 Let me ask you a question. Can you look in the mirror and say, dude, I'm proud of you. Can you look in your eyes and say, I love you, brother. I love you. You went and did that surgery with a full heart knowing that you were going to be scared, but you did it anyway. You followed your fears because you know that self-development is the only way to become that golden Buddha to get back to your natural self-esteem, to enter your fears, to do which is scary, to have a courageous heart and feel the fear and do it anyway.

14:29 You do not have first and then you be. That is an illusion sold to you by marketing companies, sold to you by the American dream, quote unquote. Oh, I'm going to get all the riches and have the house and the family and the dog and the white picket fence and then I'll be happy. Bullshit. First, you're happy. Then you get that situation. And you can be happy now. You can be at peace now. You can reprogram your brain now with a simple decision. I'm going to drop those bullshit programs.

15:00 I am not going to seep myself in this negativity. I am going to let go of the bullshit, poison, toxicity that some other motherfucker gave me before I could defend myself. And you know what? If your dad gave you that bullshit belief, which makes you making $4,000 a month and $4,000 a month isn't enough to you and you really want to double it, but you don't know how. And you finally figure out, oh my God, Mark Singh is so right. I got my dad's freaking money blueprint and my dad got it from my grandpa and my grandpa got it from his grandpa and he got it from his grandpa back to freaking 1720 when they had a recession in New England and he decided that money is evil.

15:36 He decided money creates stress. So I gave it to him and I gave it to him and I gave it to him all the way down to you and now you're working with that bullshit programming. And it's an illusion, bro. It's a fucking illusion. So what do you do? First, you be the man you want to be. How does the man you want to be think? He thinks money is abundant. There's plenty of it. When I have more money, I can help more people. I don't help poor people by becoming one of them.

16:01 I help poor people by becoming a millionaire. It is your duty to live in abundance. That's what God, Source Energy, or whoever you believe in, or even if you're an atheist, you can't deny this. This world is abundant. The oak tree doesn't grow to six feet and they say, okay, I'm done. I'm good here. He keeps going. Life keeps thriving. It keeps producing. And that's your job as a man. So as a responsibility to your creator, you have to get back to the natural self-esteem you were born with.

16:30 Then you were covered up with that mud. It's your job now to clean off that mud and be that man who you want to be first. Once again, how do you do that? Two ways. First of all, by deciding, I will no longer believe in these toxic belief systems. Now that has diminishing returns. Why? Because those programs are deeply embedded. I believe, and which has worked for me personally as well for my clients, is you have to get intrusive on a lot of these belief systems.

16:57 How do you do that? You know what I'm going to say. NLP. And if it's not with me, it could be with some other coach. Maybe you work with a psychiatrist, a psychologist. You can identify belief systems and rationalize them down and say, why do I think this? This is my dad's. This is bullshit. And you can try to drop it that way. That does have some remedial amount of success. But in my opinion, now this is just me, it's when you get intrusive with this on NLP, when you hammer on these over and over again, brother, you will not fucking believe the results that it creates for you.

17:30 I used to be insecure, suicidal, anxious, depressed, agoraphobic, panic attacks. Now I don't even feel a lick of anxiety. Almost never, except for when I had that surgery. I had a little bit of anxiety then, I'm not going to lie, but that's because my health was under immediate threat. But my day-to-day life, brother, I am a completely different person. Why? Because I went to that Buddha who was covered in mud. I had the courage to clean them off, to tackle my belief systems, my traumas, my schemas, my metaprograms, my archetypes, one-on-one individually, knock them out, reprogram them back to the inherent self-esteem I was born with.

18:07 And now I feel more like myself than I ever have in my life. So to round out this podcast, my friend, first you have to be the man who you want to be. You want to be happy? You have to be happy first. The circumstances aren't going to give you happiness because even if you have those circumstances, that you think are going to make you happy, you're going to go back to being miserable because that's how you're set. You can be happy right now. You can feel like a millionaire right now.

18:32 You can feel like a girl magnet right now. I am a girl magnet. Say that to yourself over and over again. You can also hire me. Join my three-month intensive coaching program where I design for you a 12-week custom NLP protocol to go after all your limiting beliefs, all your traumas, all your schemas, all your archetypes, everything and reprogram you back to your natural self-esteem. On top of that, teaching you the tactical aspects of attracting women from A to Z. You think my podcast is good?

19:03 Wait until you see this shit. On top of that, you join a brotherhood of like-minded champions who are going after the same goal, who will keep you accountable, motivated, will help you along every step of the way. This is a black hole shortcut to getting 10 years of progress within three months. Every single virgin who has ever entered the program has lost his virginity. Every single guy who has entered the program has emailed me, thanking me profusely. You've changed my life. I'm happy now. I feel more like myself than I ever have.

19:32 It's because we reprogram you so you can be, then you can do, then you can have. That's the only way to do it. It's law. It's how it works. It will never change. So you will never change unless you start changing who you are and how you be by changing your inner belief systems. Once again, whether that's through me or some other coach, honestly, brother, it doesn't matter. I live in abundance. I am a man who attracts luck. I am a man who attracts awesome clients just like you.

20:03 I attract best friend after best friend. I have brothers with me. And when I went into that surgery, I imagined every single one of you around me dressed as Spartans shield to shield protecting me. And that's what gave me courage to get through this was you guys. And I want to thank all you guys for that. But if you're interested in getting a one-on-one personal breakthrough session with me, a free one, by the way, where we work on your goals, where we see where you want to go and we create a roadmap for you to get there in the easiest, quickest way possible, go to my website, coachmarksing.com, click on coaching, apply.

20:37 To have that breakthrough session with me. And if it fits, if you and I jive, if everything fits like a round peg into a round hole or a sailor on furlough going to that Tijuana whorehouse who fits his round peg into her round hole, then I will invite you to the three-month coaching program. I guarantee this will be one of the most life-changing experiences you ever have. The question is, do you have the courage to do it? The question is, are you ready to invest in yourself?

21:02 And the question is, are you a 10 out of 10 commitment to getting this part of your life settled? Or are you still just kicking tires? And if you are, whose programming is that? Is that your programming? Are you a tire kicker? Or was your dad a tire kicker? Are you a procrastinator? Or is that your mom's programming? Are you a guy who doesn't invest in himself because you're afraid of what you could lose? Or are you a guy who invests in himself because you're eager for what you can gain?

21:26 That's programming running inside your head. And you have to ask yourself, do I have the right programming to get me the life that I want to get? If you're listening to this this far, if you're anything like I am, the answer to that is fuck no. It's your job as a fucking man to reprogram yourself so that you can be, you can do, you can have, and you can get that happiness that you not only deserve, but that you desperately want. And don't try to fucking lie to me.

21:51 I know you want that. So go fucking get it, man. Grab your balls and get it. If I'm the right coach for you, apply. Let's talk. Let's do this. I'm going to drag your ass across the finish line even if you're kicking and screaming. All right, guys, that's my rant for the day. It gets me pretty pumped up to see people who are miserable because they don't have the courage or even knowledge to know that all you have to do is change that programming. It is that simple.

22:14 It's all illusions. So choose the illusion that's going to get you the results. It's so simple. It's so easy. Be, do, have. That's the formula. All right, boys, I got another awesome one dropping on Friday. I'm going to keep it a little bit lighter. I'm actually going to talk to you about the amazing story of Aristodemus the Spartan. This is the sickest story ever and actually something happened to me in high school that I'm going to talk about that pertains to this story. Really gets me fired up.

22:40 I want you guys to listen. It's going to get you highly motivated. Thank you for listening to this one. I really do appreciate it and I will see you in the next episode. I'm going to talk to you in the next episode.

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