Attraction Mega Weapon: Why You Should Friend Zone Women

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0:54 This is preemptive friend zoning of chicks and why it works so well to get them attracted to you, why it works so well to change their minds, where they're going to want to be with you when they do put you in the friend zone. Before I get into the content, I have something huge that I can't wait to talk to you guys about, I'm so freaking fired up about this. The time I took off away from the podcast, I've been working on this, had my designers, my team, everybody helping me out with this and I finally launched it.

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6:57 So it goes from six to seven to eight. It could drop back down to six again. It could go to four. It could go to zero. It could go to ten, and it's kind of constantly always changing depending on how you're behaving and depending on how well you're quote-unquote gaming her. So, while the attraction solidifies over time, certainly a lot of you guys experience what I call fence sitters. These are girls who you meet. They're kind of on the fence about you. You can just tell, dude.

7:24 They're kind of like trying to friend zone you. They're giving you ho-hum replies when they're texting with you, and it just doesn't seem like they're that interested. Well, there's different ways to skin a cat, and this is one way that I would use often that always worked really well for me. Now, of course, this isn't going to work on 100% of girls. It has to be the right kind of situation. But look, if she's on the fence about you, if you feel like she's going to friend zone you anyway, then, dude, friend zone her ass.

7:49 Like, put her in there. It's kind of like preemptive expectation setting or doing something that you know is going to happen anyway. It's like if you know you're going to be fired from your job, you're probably just going to quit. You're going to be like, fuck you. I'm just going to quit. I'm going to beat you to the punch. Well, what's interesting is when you friend zone women, oftentimes that creates a lot of traction in them. This is a psychological phenomenon most generally known as you want what you can't have.

8:14 Now, also, when you friend zone a girl, you have to put in your own mind that, listen, I'm not going to get her. I'm over it. I don't care anymore. I'm outcome independent. It doesn't matter. She's my friend. Now, there are two good reasons to do this. The first reason is she's probably going to get more attracted to you when you friend zone her because, again, she wants what she can't have. And we're going to do a lot of different methods that I'm going to discuss in a moment to ameliorate the fact that you friend zone her.

8:43 Now, the second thing is I can give you a fish or I can give you a fishing pole. And I'm going to explain what that means in a second. But the second thing is, is that you're going to get more girls because you friend zone her. So you're actually using her as a pivot. Okay, so let's get into why this is going to get her more attracted to you. So once again, the age-old idiom, we want what we can't have. So you pull away from her.

9:06 And the way you do that is you start using the word friend. You know what? You're a really cool friend. I think it's better if we just stay friends. You know, obviously, I was attracted to you. And look at that word. I was attracted to you. But based on how well we get along and based on everything, I think we should just be friends. So you preemptively do that. It's kind of like you blow her out before she can blow you out because you can feel that blowout coming.

9:32 Now, you can either say that straight up. I think we should just be friends. I want to keep you as a friend. I was attracted to you. I don't want to ruin it. Or you can just kind of do what I would typically do, which was just infer it, insinuate it, meaning calling her a friend, treating her like a friend, giving her noogies, punching her in the arm, pushing her away. Talking about other girls to her is a hugely powerful thing that I would do all the time.

10:00 Okay. So I meet a new girl. And usually this would happen when I meet a chick in my social circle, not so much with online dating. Because online dating, it's very much implied that you're trying to get her and it's very much implied that you guys are like trying each other out with dating. But even in that situation, like if you go on a date with her, it goes ho-hum. You don't think she's really into you. You could be like, hey, I want to be your friend.

10:22 And I really mean it. Like, I want to be friends. What are you up to this weekend? We're going to the club. Why don't you come bring some of your friends? And then you friend zone her that way. Okay. But going back to the general situation where I do this is I would meet them in my social circle. I meet this girl and I could tell like she's hot, obviously. She's got a lot of guys interested in her, but I would be very aloof. And I did a podcast on being aloof a couple podcasts ago.

10:46 So check that out if you haven't. But I'd be very kind of aloof towards her. And I would start using the word friend. You know, like you're a cool friend. I think you would be great to hang out with. What are you up to? I need more girlfriends like you. Kind of things like that. And as I do that, I would still hang out with her and I would show her the best time. Now, this begs the question, do you still use attraction building techniques on her?

11:10 Oh, hell yes. Hell yeah. But you don't use the techniques where you're like flirting so much and showing her you're interested. You use the techniques to build attraction like storytelling, mentoring, push pull, cold reading, the human body's lie detector, the cube, all the things that I teach. But you don't so much do the pushy, I'm completely attracted to you kinds of methods. So you do all the attraction building techniques. And in fact, man, I would lay them on thick, but I pretend I wasn't into her and I'd friend zone her.

11:44 Now, what's interesting, and you guys see this all the time, what happens when you're hanging out with a girl you're not attracted to? She gets attracted to you, right? Right. The reason that is, is because you're doing this exact thing. Maybe you're not at the skill level to use all the attraction building techniques I just listed, but still unconsciously, you're not caring about what's happening is making her attracted to you. And you guys, this is such a huge, important concept. I want you to tattoo that shit right onto your face is that when you don't give a shit what happens, when you are completely outcome independent, everything changes.

12:20 So even in your own mind, you're kind of gaming yourself by preemptively friend zoning a girl who you would have been attracted to, but you're telling yourself, no, it's not going to happen. She's my friend. I catch more fish with the fishing pole than I do if I were just handed a fish to eat. I'm going to get into that in a second. So you friend zone her, you commit to it and you say, dude, she's in the friend zone until she fucking throws herself at me, which she's going to do.

12:46 So you put her in the friend zone, you, you hang out with her, you show her a great time, use all the attraction building techniques. You're out of her grasp. You give her 80% of you, what she wants. You do all that stuff. Now at the same time, and this is so powerful, you ask her advice about other girls. I would do this all the time now that I'm thinking about it. And dude, I have girlfriends right now. Hopefully they're not listening because I'll get some angry texts that I'm doing this to.

13:14 And they're attracted to me because I like, you know, just like you, bro. I like to be wanted. I like, I like it when girls are attracted to me. I like attention from women. So I'm going to get them attracted to me. I'm going to use all the techniques. Now that may sound manipulative, but when you become really good, it just becomes who you are. So it's like, sorry, bro, I can't help it. I'm just naturally attractive. This is just how I am. Sorry, you got attracted to me.

13:39 But what you do is you ask her advice about other women. So typically how to frame this is you're dating a new girl who's really hot and you're not that into her, but she's really into you. She's texting you at 2 a.m. She's trying to come over all the time. How do I get this girl to lay off me? How do I get this girl to settle down? Right now? This is bullshit. You know, you know how to get a girl lay off you. How do you get a girl lay off you?

14:05 Let me ask you guys. You do all the shit that blows you out, right? Be super interested. Text her all the time. Try to hang out. Be needy. That's the way to get a girl to not like you. The way to get a girl to like you is to not care. That's the juxtaposition. The less you care, the more into you they get. And that's exactly why we're friend zoning them. So you ask her like, hey, you know, could I ask you could ask you some advice?

14:29 And she's like, yeah, for sure. And you'd be like, well, I'm dating this new girl and she's really hot. She's she's a model and she's really pretty. But God, dude, she's like stalker, Texas Ranger up in this piece. She's texting me all the time. She always wants to come over. Like, how could I get this girl? Because she's really pretty and we get along. But how can I get this girl to relax? Because slowly she's kind of blowing herself out. Now, one key element to this, guys, is you have to pretend that you're not that into this girl.

14:58 Because remember, we want the friend, quote unquote, let's call her Sarah just so we can keep everything ordered in our mind. OK, so Sarah is the friend that you've preemptively friend zoned. You're talking about dating Amber. OK, so if you tell Sarah that you're super into Amber, Sarah is going to blow you out and say, OK, well, you're super into this girl. Now I can't have him. But if you tell Sarah that Amber is kind of like ho-hum, you're on the fence about her, then what Sarah is going to do is try to convince you to be with her because it's called a jealousy plot line.

15:34 Jealousy works really well to get people attracted to you. It works really well with women. But if you try to lay it on too thick, if you say you're really into this girl and you like go overboard with it, it could get you blown out. So you need to kind of you need to be subtle. You can't be like, oh, my gosh, she's so hot, bang and rack, perfect ass, a goddess. Like just looking at this girl gets me so horny. I'd fuck a snake if I could hold it straight.

15:59 OK, obviously, you don't want to get to that extreme. You want to be like, ah, she's hot. She's really attractive. And yeah, I understand she's a model and all that. But like, ah, dude, stalker, text stranger. That's kind of how you want to put it. All right. So friend zoning a girl, you put her in the friend zone. You call her my friend. That's a huge thing. You say you and my other friends, you're my friend. You're like the best friend I've ever had, blah, blah, blah.

16:23 But you still leave the door open, right? You don't want to tell her, which I often do. And you guys may have heard this, that she reminds you of your sister or she reminds you of your cousin because that's a full blowout. And that's what I'll do to the freaking ham planet fatties when they try to cock block me in the club. A freaking canyon buzzard comes along and tries to blow me out as I'm talking to her friend. The swamp mule, I'll tell her, you remind me of my cousin.

16:47 I can't believe it. My cousin's here. Give me a hug. And I'll win her over that way in order to put her in the friend zone. That's different because I don't want her getting attracted to me. I don't want her thinking that there's any possibility. Why? Because she looks like a mountain troll. Obviously, I don't want anything to do with that. So that's how you friends on the mountain trolls. But the hot ones, you don't tell them they look like your cousin. You basically become best friends with them while pushing them away, but still leaving the door open, leaving that possibility.

17:14 And you want her thinking, God, we're so good together. God, why is he not attracted to me? Then she's going to work harder and harder. We value what we work for. Cognitive dissonance. When she starts chasing you, she's going to get more attracted to you. And then when you're ready, you say, you know what? I'm attracted to you again. I think we need to do this. She's already attracted to you because you've ramped it up by all the preemptive friend zoning setting that you've done. Boom, you're in like Flynn.

17:43 Now, there is a good reason to keep girls in the friend zone. And that is, as I said previously, you can catch more fish with the fishing pole than you can with the fish. So if you just hook up with a girl who you recently meet, once again, typically through group settings, a girl at work, maybe social circle type game, a person who you've met through mutual friends. If you hook up with her, you just get to dip in that one time. And honestly, many times that can blow you out for the future because she's friends with your friends.

18:13 So a great reason to friend zone a hot girl is because she's going to help you get other girls. Are you kidding me? This is pre-selection. Another podcast I did probably like six months ago. You can search it pre-selection, Mark Singh. But pre-selection basically means that girls will become attracted to you when you have other girls with you. So I would rather go in with one really hot girl into a bar than like three ugly girls and definitely three guys. Like I would choose a hot girl to go to the clubs with any day of the week and twice on Sunday.

18:49 As a matter of fact, Marissa and I just had our date night last night. We went out and had a really nice dinner. We do that once a month. And Marissa is obviously very attractive. And all the chicks were checking me out. We were walking along in Denver. We did some shopping. I was getting jocked left and right as I always do when I have Marissa with me. When I'm alone, meh, I get jocked a little bit. But with her, dude, it's like over, man. Because she's really attractive.

19:14 So if you can friend zone a really hot girl, take her with you when you do things, particularly when you go to nightclubs and bars. But even if you're just going to the supermarket, even if you're just going to a little shopping in Denver like Marissa and I did yesterday, other girls are going to get attracted to you. And it's funny, quick story. Marissa and I were shopping and we were in some shop and there was this lady there. She wasn't working there. She was just shopping.

19:40 But she had a shirt on that had the logo of the shop that we were in. So Marissa's like, hey, where do you guys keep the purses? And she's like, oh, I don't work here. And that reminded me of a really great opening that I teach my clients, which is go up to a girl and ask her a question as if she works there. And then when she says, oh, I don't work here, boom, it's open. You can start talking to her and be like, oh, sorry, you know, you had this look about you, da, da, da.

20:02 And then you can continue to stack from there. So that's one really good opener that I'll typically teach. So anyway, when you are out with a hot girl, that's a fishing pole because you're going to catch more fish when you have that hot girl with you. So if you meet a hot girl, particularly once again through mutual friends, and you're like, eh, I don't really think she's into me. I don't think I could get her. And you're kind of like trying to get her. You're trying to get her attracted, but you just don't feel it.

20:28 Then boom, friends own her ass. Call her friend. Do all the things I talked about. Keep building attraction now. Keep working all the attraction building techniques. But call her your friend and treat her like a friend and ask her for advice about other girls. You can even tell her about this pre-selection thing, which I've done many times, and told her, you know, girls get more attracted to guys when they have a cute girl with them. Did you know that? And she'll be like, no, I didn't know that.

20:54 And you'd be like, yeah, the reason is. And then you explain the anthropological phenomenon, which is it's a cognitive shortcut. Because if you're standing at a stoplight, and you're looking down at your phone, and the stoplight turns green, and everybody starts driving, you're just going to start driving too. It's a cognitive shortcut. So when other girls are attracted to you, that means other girls are going to be attracted to you. So if you're with hot girls, it's basically a social statement that says he's an attractive guy, he's socially savvy, he's in the know, so I'm attracted to him too.

21:26 You explain this to her, and then you can actually use her as what I call a pivot to open up other girls at the nightclubs. So again, it's a fishing pole or a fish. Fishing poles are better. Dude, I've had hot friends get me laid so much, dude, that I would take them being my friend over having sex with them every day of the week. So this is the reason, guys, that you should friend zone girls. In fact, it may behoove you to consider friend zoning the first amount of girls that you start getting into your life as you're getting into this.

21:57 Or if you're working on a girl right now who you think that you could friend zone, maybe a wise decision. Because again, pre-selection means that women are attracted to you when you have women with you, and you're going to get a lot more women than the one you'd get if you just dipped into that. And especially if she's on the fence about you, man, just friend zone her ass. Be like, yo, you're my buddy now. You're my wingman. You're my Robin to my Batman. That's the kind of dynamic that you guys want to have.

22:23 All right, guys, that's it for me in this episode. I really do appreciate you listening. Once again, if you want to jump on the phone with me, talk about your struggles, talk about what you're trying to do, your goals. We are going to create a roadmap to show you how to get there in the fastest, easiest way possible. And I'm going to be straight up with you. Even if I feel I'm not a good fit for you, I'll probably refer you to somebody else. I do that all the time.

22:46 But if you do feel like we're boys, if you jive with how I am, my teaching style, and you think that I could help you, honestly, bro, I can't help you. I'm really fucking good at what I do. I always get results from my clients. Every single guy who goes through the three-month coaching program, I've never had one guy ask for his money back. I've never had a guy regret it. Every single guy gets the results he's after. And what I often say is that this is a black hole shortcut, a two-prong approach.

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23:44 And you don't have to change who you are. You just become more yourself than you ever have been before because you get back to your natural self-esteem before other people came and ruined it by giving you bullshit, toxic, poisonous programs before you could defend yourself from them. So once again, if you're interested, click the link in the description below or go to CoachMarkSingh.com. Click on coaching, check it out. And you know what? Even if you're on the fence about it, go ahead and check it out.

24:10 See what you think. And maybe I'll friendzone your ass and use you to get more clients. But no, in all honesty, just check it out, man. You know, if you're interested in what I do, kind of see what the components entail. See some screenshots of it. I think it's pretty interesting. Read through the frequently asked questions and see what you think. Once again, I really feel like this is going to fill up fast. So if you want to get on my schedule sooner rather than later, I suggest you pull the trigger now.

24:34 Besides, there's never going to be the perfect time to do this. Everybody always thinks like, oh, just wait a little longer and then there'll be the perfect time. There's never the perfect time. Just like there's never the perfect time to have a kid. There's never a perfect time to get married. There's never a perfect time to buy a house. You just got to fucking pull the trigger. And what I like to see from my clients is commitment. Being super committed to this. Fuck it. Let's get it done.

24:56 I'm going to commit the next three months and I'm going to go into this with a full heart. Do what Mark asks me and get the results I've always wanted with women. I want to tell you something. That last girl who you were beating off to on Pornhub, thinking to yourself, man, if I could just get a girl like that. If I could just have the skills and mindset required to attract a woman like that, you could get her. You could literally have that girl in your bed.

25:23 And all my guys who go through the program, they get those girls in their bed. So that's the difference is do you have the courage? Do you have the commitment? Do you have the willingness to invest in yourself in this way? Get this part of your life fixed and once and for all. If you do, I'm the guy who could take you. I'm very good at what I do. I'm very confident in what I do. I've seen it work time and time again and I know if you're a good fit, if you're committed, if you're fired up, it'll work for you too.

25:47 Check me out, CoachMarkSingh.com. Click on coaching, apply. You and I will jump on the phone and see what we can do for you, my bro, because I want to get that girl into your bed. My purpose here is to turn champions like you into the best versions of yourself you can be or more accurately, get you back to the inherent self-esteem you were born with. All right, boys, that's it for me in this episode. I do appreciate you listening. I got another one dropping on Wednesday and, of course, another one dropping on Friday, so please show back up for those and I will see you in the next episode.

26:40 We'll see you next time.

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