3 Mind Hacks to Get Girls to CHASE YOU

0:00 Welcome to the Unapologetic Man Podcast. The only podcast that's all about self-improvement, confidence, success, money, women, and being a fucking man without making any apologies for it. I'm your host, John Anthony. And I'm Mark Sing. And today we're going to be talking about how to get women to chase you. So there's a few things that you can do to basically subconsciously almost hypnotize her into getting to chase you. But before we talk about those techniques that we're going to share, if you could, please subscribe to the YouTube channel.

0:36 And I have a product as well that will help you get better with women. You can go to get7strategies.com if you want to check it out. And Mark? Yes? You have other things too? I do. I do. So I offer NLP coaching. NLP is Neuro Linguistic Programming. So if you're trying to get women and you keep running into the same sticking point, it could be something deep in your subconscious mind, bro. It could be something holding you back from actually getting the results that you want to get with women.

1:05 And it might be you have a guy who looks just like you, has the same attributes, is just like you, and he's pulling girls and you're not. And you're like, what the hell is wrong with me? Well, you could be hitting the gas and hitting the brake at the same time. And that's what NLP coaching does. It goes in there, reprograms some of your meta programs that were constructed when you were a kid. And it allows you to act with much more confidence and success when it comes to women.

1:30 You can find that at coachmarksing.com, M-A-R-K-S-I-N-G.com. Yes, I know how to spell my own last name. And that's at coachmarksing.com. Check it out. So let's go ahead and jump right into it, John. So what this podcast is also about is how to get girls to qualify themselves to you. And this is often a part of seduction that many guys forget to do. And it's really important to get the girl to work for you, get the girl to chase you, get the girl to put in effort.

2:01 Because if you're just a dancing monkey the whole time and she's just watching your show and you say, so why don't you toss me your phone number? She's going to be thinking to herself, well, why does he like me? Oh, it must just be because of my looks. I'm not going to call him. So it's really important to get the girl to chase you, to get the girl to qualify herself to you. And in fact, if you can make the majority of the interaction her working for you in this way, she'll get that much more attracted to you because it's cognitive dissonance.

2:29 Cognitive dissonance is when you do something, you have to justify to yourself why you did it. So if she's working hard for you, she's going to think to herself, why am I working so hard for this guy? It must be because I like him. Yes, I'm attracted to him. Completely on a subconscious level. So we're going to go over some strategies to get her to work for you. And we have some good lines and techniques to go ahead and do that. Yeah, and I think the most important thing to say, guys, is that a lot of these techniques and things that we teach, they're good to get started.

3:01 But ultimately, if you just integrate the right mindsets and beliefs into who you are as a man, these things come naturally. So there's different techniques to get women qualifying themselves to you. But first, why don't we, I guess, define qualifications? So qualification is basically any time a girl tries to prove that she's good enough for you. And this can range from – I've had girls literally brag about how good they are at giving blowjobs. Like that's the extreme end where she's like desperate and she's like, you know, I can give great blowjobs.

3:33 Like please fuck me basically. And then the other end is a little bit more subtle, which is what you'll get most of the time unless you're John Anthony. No, I'm just kidding. And what that is is basically it's subtle things she does that shows you that she's trying to fit into your frame, right? So maybe she just kind of agrees with you. Maybe she, you know, laughs at everything you say because she's trying to get you to like her. Maybe she's, you know, talking about how she has this job or something.

4:02 But the fundamental thing to realize, again, is qualification is more of a feeling than it is an actual activity, right? So when you're with a girl, you'll know that she's qualifying herself to you when it feels like she's trying to prove herself to you. And that – developing that intuition takes some time and developing that social skill takes time, but it can be done. Yeah, and to get started, typically what I tell my clients, when you're first starting out, you know, you don't know. You don't have that intuition to when to qualify her or how to qualify her or if she's even qualifying herself to you in the present moment.

4:40 So typically the way mastery works is first you understand the fundamentals, then you go and practice them, and then it becomes unconscious mastery. You just do it. And it all becomes kind of ingrained like this where you have your attraction building techniques, you have your qualification techniques, and they all kind of mesh like this. But in the beginning, you start out with mostly attraction building techniques. And then once you see that she's attracted to you and how do you know she's attracted to you, she's playing with her hair, she's smiling a lot, she's leaning in, she's laughing at your jokes that aren't even funny, she's got a general googly eyes going on, she's trying to flex her muscles for you the way John Anthony is right now for me.

5:21 And I'm getting very attracted to me, and I'm getting very attracted to that, and so she's giving you IOIs, indicators of interest, right? So once you get two to three IOIs, you can do these qualifying questions. So here's a couple qualifying questions you can ask a woman. There's so many to choose from. What should I start with? You can say, so what's good about you beyond your looks? Like, if she's really pretty. Here's a whole sequence that I do pretty often, is I'll say... It's almost like a neg, too.

5:52 Yeah, yeah. And a lot of these kind of have a lot of push to them, like that I'll say. I'll say, what was the one I was just saying? And real quick, that's what's key to you guys, is like, because they have push to them, don't use them up front. Like, you can sometimes if you have really good game and initial attraction, but like, if you just go up and like, to a hot girl, she doesn't know you at all. Oh, yeah. And you're like, hey, prove yourself to me, bitch.

6:13 Like, she's not going to fucking like you. No. So you got to wait, like you said, until you get eye-washed. Yeah, if she was sweating you before, like from across the room, you have a green light, I'll go over, I'll be like, hey, who are you? Like that, which is kind of a qualifying question. But, okay, so let's say I opened a girl, got her attraction. I might be like, you know, Kelly, you seem pretty cool. Is that true? She'd be like, yes, of course that's true.

6:33 I'd be like, cool. So what would your best friend say is the coolest thing about you? And she'll be like, well, I'm really loyal and I'm like a great friend. And you'd be like, dude, that's fucking awesome. High five. You just went up 10 points in my book. You are now at negative 25. Congratulations. Reward her for qualifying too. That's a big thing. Exactly. Is, you know, guys, guys don't get this. Like you want to reward a girl when she does something good and quote unquote punish her when she does something bad.

7:01 So one of the best ways that you can quote unquote, you know, punish a girl, your girlfriend, your, you know, whatever, your spouse, whatever, is like when someone does something to disrespect you or to just like, you know, whatever. Just especially with girls, just ignore them. Don't give them your attention because to a woman, male attention is the most important, precious fucking currency on planet Earth and especially high value attention. And when she senses that that's going away, she's going to feel that vacuum and going to kind of want to jump back in and try to prove herself.

7:33 Yeah. You know, so sorry. Yeah. So, so another one kind of on that point is I could be like, Kelly, do you know why you're awesome? And she'll be like, no, why? And I'll be like, it was a question like that. And it'll, and you let it drop and she'll fill in that vacuum, right? She'll be like, oh, because, and it's kind of a joke. Do you know why you're awesome, Kelly? Do you know what's so awesome about you? No, what? You'd be like, dude, it was a question, dum-dum.

7:58 What's awesome about you? So basically what you're doing is you're trying to get her to explain herself to you. The more you can get a woman to explain herself to you, like I'm great because of this. I'm great because of that. I give good blowjobs. I got awesome muscles like John Anthony. Then the more she's getting attracted to you. And this is actually a classic sales technique, qualification. Why are you good enough to be my client? And, and oftentimes when I sell my coaching packages, for example, it's legitimate.

8:27 I legitimately want to know, are you going to do the work? Are you going to put the commitment in? Are you committed to this? Do you trust me enough to go through the NLP processes with me to, you know, eradicate those negative belief systems? And while I do that naturally, it's also effective sales technique because when you're explaining yourself to someone, which by the way, guys, you never want to do this with a woman. You never want to explain yourself to a girl. I'm good because I make a lot of money.

8:55 I got a big dick. No, no, no, no, no, never do that. But when you do do that, you are unconsciously convincing yourself that you want what it is you're explaining yourself to more than you might actually really want it. And that's how a qualification works with women. Yeah. And so if she does try to get you to qualify yourself to her, which will happen, especially with like really pretty girls, uh, basically just treat it like a shit test. So ignore it. Just don't let it into your frame.

9:22 Like, uh, if a girl asked me like, so why, like, you know, why should I be interested in you? It's almost like, like, I don't even process it because it's like so far out of my reality that it just like, it's like her words come at me and it's like, and it just like goes around my head and just like, doesn't even like go in my head. So I would just probably flat out ignore it and say, who are you? Or just something like that. Right.

9:43 Um, or, or you can agree and amplify. So she's like, yeah, for example, I actually had a girl say this. She'd be a chode and be like, cause I make millions of dollars and I'm really cool and I have a big dick. Yeah, yeah, yeah. So a girl the other day asked me, she's like, you don't have a small dick, do you? I only date guys with big dicks. And I'm like, I'm like, actually, yeah, I do. I have the angry inch. It's an inch, but it's angry.

10:06 And I went at her and I was like, it's going to get you the angry inch. So, so basically like that shows you agree with it and you amplify it. She says, you're not, you're not like a player, are you? Oh yeah. I'm the, I'm the biggest player in this town. Like my dick is so sore because I've had so much sex with so many skanks. It's about to fall off. So when a girl tries to get you to qualify yourself to her, don't do it.

10:28 Either ignore it. Like John said, agree and amplify. You can also flip the tables, agree and reframe, flip the tables. So oftentimes I'll ask girls, I'll be like, why don't you have a girl? Why don't you have a boyfriend? It's probably cause you're a bad kisser, huh? And she's like, no, I'm a great kisser. Why don't you have a girlfriend? I'm like, cause I'm a bad kisser. I do the jackhammer tongue maneuver and I just jackhammer their mouth. And I always get broken up with for some reason.

10:51 I'm the worst kisser in all of Colorado. So you see, I say, why don't you have a boyfriend? It's cause you're a bad kisser, huh? She qualifies herself to me. No, I'm a great kisser. She kind of chases me. Then she challenges me with a frame check, which is a qualification check. And I agree with it and amplify. So you see, there's two different, two different things you need to do. You need to get her to qualify herself to you. If she tries to get you to qualify yourself to her, you flip it, agree and amplify.

11:21 And, uh, you know, one exercise you guys can do too is literally just figure out what kind of girl you want. Like so many guys, when you ask them, what kind of girl do you want? They'll say, you know, Oh, a hot girl or whatever, but they don't, they don't even know. Like you should have a very vivid picture in your head of her height, her body type, her skin color, her hair color, what characteristics she should have, like in terms of personality. Uh, you know, is she loyal?

11:45 Is she fun? Is she introverted, afterverted? Like once you start knowing what you want, girls will naturally sense that. And they'll sense that you're a high value man and they'll naturally begin qualifying themselves to you. Right. So one of the things, again, you can do is if you know what girls attracted to you, um, you know, just don't give her that much attention. And that sounds manipulative, but really what you should be doing is just focusing on your own life and putting your own shit first.

12:11 Because if you do that, then, you know, you're not going to be able to text her every day, right? Like, um, or not every, you know, like every second of every day, right? Cause some girls, you know, they'll, uh, they'll have guys that literally text them, you know, they're at their phone every five fucking minutes. And it's like, you, you will not go five minutes without texting them. And women and other guys intuitively know that if you're literally at your phone every second of the day, you're just not a high value person because you're not, you're not doing important things.

12:40 Right. Do you think that Jeff Bezos, like, is that his phone? Like all the, no, like he's like, he's probably answers it maybe twice a day, two, three times a day. You set aside a time and you just answer it, right? So like actually making these underlying personality changes in who you are is really what you need to do. But the techniques obviously work well as a start. And so, you know, again, things you can ask them are, uh, anything where you try to get them to prove themselves.

13:03 Right. So, or another thing too, is if you ask them an opinion question and they give you an answer that you don't like, just kind of jokingly say, oh, you know, or like, for example, one exercise is, uh, go up to someone and ask them where they're from. Right. And it doesn't matter where they're from. Just say, oh, I fucking hate that place. Right. Say with a smile on your face, that's a good thing to do to get over the nice guy syndrome where you can't disagree with people.

13:26 Um, you know, but that also what it does too, is it, it gets her qualifying. Right. Um, you know, so I'll say, oh, I fucking hate that place. And then I'll go into a story about why I hate it. And I'll tell some bullshit story. So if you spin in qualification with, you know, storytelling and all these other things, it works really well, but fundamentally you need to change your personality. And then a lot of these things will just happen naturally. Right. And, and what you were talking about is oftentimes called false disqualifiers.

13:52 So I'll often say to a girl, I'll be like, you know, it's too bad. You're not my type. Cause you're really cute. So it's too bad. You're not my type is a push. And then a pull is you're really cute. And then I'll say, you know, you know, we're really hitting it off right now. We're hitting it off pretty well right now. But unfortunately I can't, I can't date girls who wear black pants and yellow sweaters. It's just, it's just totally against my, my criteria and my religion.

14:17 My religion, we're not allowed to date girls like you. So unfortunately that can't happen. So it's like a, it's like a push thing. And she'll just be, anytime a girl hits you on the arm and it's like, fuck you. That's like, that's a good thing. A hundred points of attraction. Yeah. I mean, she wants to fuck you. Yeah, exactly. So yeah. Another one I just used on a girl from a Tinder last night is, uh, I saw that she had like a phenomenal body, like a great ass and she really knew how to show it off in every picture.

14:42 And if you guys bought my Tinder, uh, cheat sheet, you'll know this, these different openers. But what I said, I think it was something like, uh, you, like I said, you look like trouble, which is like a great opener that I like to do. And she was like, why? And I was like, because you know how to show your ass off very well in every picture. And that means you're bad fucking news, right? So it's like a poll cause it's like, she's attractive, but it's like, you're way too good at this and you're going to fucking ruin my life if I let you into my life.

15:08 So it's like that push pull is basically just the bread and butter of game and it makes it fun to you. So, so many guys put way too much pull. And if you just put like a few little pushes in there, it's so much better at creating attraction. Yeah. She'll chase you too. I'm just thinking of this one off the top of my head. I would have been like, Hey, um, it, you and I can't be friends because as America's number one ass model, uh, I feel you would probably be too much competition for me and probably be threatened by my ass game or something like that.

15:40 Like my ass game is so much stronger than yours. So unfortunately we're just not going to get along, but that's really too bad because you're kind of cute. So it's kind of a push pull kind of thing and pushing them away in that way and disqualifying them falsely with a joke is really effective, really effective, like black pants, yellow sweater. I say that stuff all the time. And then I always like to say when they do qualify themselves to me, I always say, you just went up 20 points in my book.

16:07 You are now at negative 15. And then they always laugh, hit you on the arm. Anytime you get hit on the arm, it's very good news. So, uh, there's another, there's another technique I really like to teach. It's called RCR and it's called reverse cold reading. So this is an awesome way to get girls to qualify themselves to you and to chase you. And what you do is you, you pick out something that's very obvious about them. So Mr. John Anthony over there is, uh, into working out quite obviously cause he's ripped.

16:39 So what you say is you say you don't like the opposite of what she is. So let's say it's very clear. She works out like she's just got a banging body. She's in super shape. She's got her midriff showing and she's got like almost a six pack and she's just banging. So you can say, you know, and I've actually said this, I said, you know, I just, I just moved to Colorado from Hawaii and, you know, statistically speaking, they say that Colorado and Hawaii are the two healthiest States, but I have to be honest with you.

17:08 There's kind of a lot of fat people in Colorado to my surprise. And it's like, you know, I just, I just don't, I just can't get down with that. Like just not treating yourself like, you know, taking care of yourself and then you let it drop. And clearly she's into working out. So she's going to be like, well, well, I take care of myself. You'd be like, oh really? Like what you got, what you do? How many pushups can you do? And then you make her and she's like, well, I can do, you know, I can do 50 pushups in a row and I run six miles a day and dah, dah, dah, dah.

17:36 And little does she know she's sitting there qualifying herself to you and you did it by reverse cold reading. So again, you see something about it. You're pretty sure it's true. You say you don't like the opposite. You let it drop. You're man enough to let it drop and wait. And then she's like, well, well, I'm not like that. I'm like this before you, before she knows it, she's explaining herself to you. That's a very, that's a very high risk, high reward one too, because she could just get offended because she's very high self-esteem.

18:03 She'll, she'll like, she'll be like, wow, fuck you. Like if so, if you know, if someone came up to me and they're like, like, I don't know if you're jacked enough for me or something, I'd be like, oh yeah, like just, just kind of like let it off. But going off that point, you can also do the opposite too, which is like exaggerate the trait that she has and say that she doesn't have enough of it. So like if a girl like has, and like, like a huge fucking, like if she's like triple D, just say like, I don't know if we'd ever get along, like, I don't think your tits are big enough.

18:28 And she's like, what? I'm a triple D. And you're just like, yeah, but like, I, I like, I like to have them be able to like crush watermelons for me or something stupid like that. Right. Um, any, anytime you just, those two concepts of like agreeing and reframing it or agreeing and amplifying, those are like golden to get girls qualifying. And, um, again, the big thing too, is like, you don't want to just start off the bat. You want to kind of wait until you've got a few IOIs and you can kind of like do it at first a little bit, but like, as you, as you build it more, you can do the more extreme things that like Mark and I are talking about.

18:58 Yeah. Well, that's what you, that's what you have to do initially is you go in, you open, you get indicators of interest and you know, our other podcasts explain how to do that. Then once you do get those indicators of interest, then you qualify once she's, you don't have to have her qualifying for, you know, a long time. Usually one or two will do it. And then if you're so inclined, you could go for the number of clothes. So that's a very, that's a very structured 10,000 foot perspective of way to do it.

19:23 Now, like I said earlier, once your game is integrated into who you are, you're going to find that you're qualifying pretty early on and it's mixed in with your, um, with your attraction building techniques. So, so oftentimes in the beginning when I can tell, you know, she probably doesn't have a boyfriend because she's pretty attracted to me. I'll say, why don't you have a boyfriend? It's probably because you're a bad kisser, huh? So you see that that's kind of a, it's an attraction building statement that also has qualifying in it.

19:51 So it's good to mix the two up together and your conversations are going to be very nebulous where you can't always predict what she's going to say. You can't always plan where your conversations are going to go because there's another human being interacting with you and she's dictating the course of the conversation. So one of the best things you can do is just be able to talk about shit off the cuff. Like if I mentioned Buddha, which I see sitting back behind John Anthony over there, can you just talk about Buddha in an interesting way?

20:20 Can you talk about Leonidas, the Spartan in an interesting way? Can you talk about microphones? Can you talk about, um, blinds, computers? Like if I said to you piano, could you just tell a story to me about a piano and talk about an interesting way? Because my, my students always want to like have this blueprint. Okay. If she's going to say this, I'm going to say this. If she's going to say that, I'm going to say this. And they like literally map it out, right? This like, this like tree blueprint, like it's a DNA thing where they're trying to map it out, but it just doesn't work that way.

20:48 You got to be able to like talk off the cuff about things. Like when, when she was showing her ass in all the pictures, I immediately like thought, Oh, I'm an ass model. I'm going to tell her I'm an ass model and I'm competing with her. Boom. That creates the right dynamic. That's a good one too is, is like model, anything model. Like you can use that a lot. And I've noticed that's kind of a common theme in like our, our lines is like, I'm a this model.

21:09 I'm a that model. Um, but yeah, like guys, guys want like a framework because it's, uh, you know, it's, it's like, it appeals to our logical brain, but you know, socializing game relating to a woman, it's emotional and it can be scary sometimes if you don't have a fucking, like set plan. Um, but you just need to like toughen up and suck it up and just learn to, to get witty. And what you'll find is that girls in a lot of ways, obviously everyone's a different person, but in a lot of ways, like you'll pretty much get most of the same shit tests and most of the same, like kind of lines from girls.

21:45 So like, you know, you'll, you'll notice that they'll all ask you like, are you a player or like, what's your notch count? And you'll like get these lines kind of stacked up in your head for like each different situation because you get the same questions so much. Yeah. Um, yeah. All right. How many, how many numbers have you got tonight? I get that all the time. And I say, I got eight numbers tonight, one more and I would have had a full phone number. Get it?

22:10 Yeah. Or they, yeah. They ask, uh, you know, how many, how many girls have you said that to and just say, uh, or, you know, how many girls have you, you've done this to, done that to what oftentimes what I'll say is, uh, you know, either again, a green amplify or a green reframe, right? A green amplifies like, you know, 7,582, just a few more and I'll have every girl in this town or something, or, uh, you know, uh, agree and reframe, right? So it's like, how many girls have you slept with?

22:35 And you just ask them today or in my entire lifetime, right? Just like different, different things like that. Uh, you know, you just, you just, you knock them out and you get them stuck in your head because you've used them so many times. Yeah. We should have a product like that, by the way, Mark, we should like launch something where it's like 107 like shit tests and like exactly what to say or something. What's a, girls always say to me, is this what, is this what they would say?

22:59 They always say, is this what you say to all the girls? And I, I haven't also, is that your line? Is that what you say to every girl? Oh, I have the best, I have the best way to flip it on them. I say only girls that seem adventurous. You're not boring. Are you? Yeah. And she's like, no, I'm fun. Qualification. No, I'm fun. And then I say, is that what you say to all the guys? Yeah. Oh shit. Oh. Plot twist. Inception. They're like, oh.

23:23 Yeah. You smoked me. I'm like, yeah, because I've had that hundreds of times. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. That line, is that what you say to every girl? You'll get that like every fucking time you go out. You know? So use that. It's always like, is that what you say? Yeah, use that. Say, okay, here's what you say. You say, only the girls that seem adventurous. You're not boring, are you? No, I'm fun. Is that what you say to all the guys? Boom. Every time I say that and they're like fucked up.

23:45 They're like, uh, uh, uh, uh. It's like reality is like shifting in their head. Attraction, yeah. Too much game. Cannot compute. That's what me and my coaches, we always go out Thursday nights and we have this thing, TMG. We're always like. Too much game. Too much game. I think I text you. I text you that sometimes on Thursday nights. Probably, yeah. You'll text me when you're like on fire. Yeah, but I'm just killing it and I just go to my friend and I'm like, TMG and they're like, TMG, bro, go get some.

24:11 Hashtag TMG. Yeah. Too much game. I'm going to get on my neck. I'm going to get on my neck. Yeah, I really want to get a fucking teardrop. So when I go out, I can test it and see if it's a good peacocking. Dude, tattoos are good peacocking moves, man, by the way. Dude, you should get a fake teardrop, dude. A fake one. That'd be legit. I think fucking I was talking to my girlfriend the other night. I'm like, I want to get the neck tattoo.

24:38 I think it looks kind of dope. She's like, you have to kill someone first though. It looks trashy. I'm like, okay, so this is okay. You like this, but not on the neck. She's like, yeah, not on the neck. And I was like, people say this one's trashy too. The one on my hands. Do they say that? Yeah. I've heard it a couple of times. I like that. Yeah. It's kind of funny. Like as a social experiment, guys, like you can try just like being as trashy as possible.

25:01 So like if girls ask you, maybe not trashy, but like it, if girls ask you like, oh, you know, how many girls like if they, I don't know, have you slept with or whatever? Just like exaggerate. Like I have all these STDs. Like I have seven baby mamas and like hold the frame and like don't back down and you'll be really surprised as like how, how would the social experiment plays out? Right. That's literally just do that guys. Just like social experiment, social experiment. Don't treat it as something where you like, you have to like, oh, like I'm doing game tonight.

25:28 I have to fucking like do like, no, it's just like, like experiment. It's a test. It's a test in business and life and everything. It's all a test. You know, quantity equals quality. Quantity equals quality. So go out and like he said, test. Don't be dependent on outcome. Just, just screw around. And sometimes you're going to get bad reactions, but who cares when you have the frame in your mind, I'm just testing shit. Then it doesn't matter what happens and you can qualify it. Like oftentimes in a night, I'll just do, I'll just go up and just like test one thing.

25:59 It could be, who are you? I'll go up and be like, who are you? Who are you? Who are you? And suddenly girls are qualifying themselves to me. The other night I was going up and I was telling a joke. Do you want to hear it, John? Yes. Okay. What's a pirate's favorite letter of the alphabet? Well, I know what to say. So it's too obvious. R. Okay. The girls always say R and then I say, you think so, but it's the C and they crack up, dude.

26:23 That's funny. Do you get it, John? It seems like you're a little confused there, buddy. I lost it for a second and I got it. This one girl didn't get it and I was like, I had said it, it's like 20 girls and like 19 got it and they just cracked up and this one girl didn't get it and I'm like, oh my God, this girl's an idiot. I'm like, see, it's the C, C. She's like, oh, I get it. I'm like, okay, have a good night. You're dumb.

26:48 I don't want to talk to you. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Just treat it as a test. Like literally I'll go out and test different things just to like see what happens, like have fun with it. And, uh, if you're in a small town, I got an email the other day and some guy was like, John, like I have a, I live in a town where it's like 7,500 people. How do I learn game? And I just emailed him and I was like, dude, you don't like get the fuck out of your town and get to like a town with like more people.

27:14 So you can actually fucking test and learn. I would have said open up. I would say go talk to 7,499 of them. Just treat the, treat the client's email as a shit test and then just reframe it back to gaming all my clients. Um, yeah. I mean like you don't, you don't like, you don't learn game. Like you can't, you can't test this in a small town. So in order to actually test, you got to get into a big city where you don't meet the same people every single night and you can learn, you know?

27:41 Yeah. Part of the reason about meeting the same people though, like I go to the same bar on Thursday nights and there's a, there's a good game. That's good. Okay. Okay. Good point. Cause there's like 10 girls or so that are like my regulars. And so when I initially go in, I start talking to them that builds social value in the club and then I can use them to pivot into the hotter girls. So, um, that's effective way to do it, but let's get, I want to talk about a few other, um, ways to get girls to chase you.

28:07 You can say you, you do this one thing that's so cute, but I don't want to tell you what it is. Cause then you'll stop doing it. And you do this one thing that's so cute, but I don't want to tell you this. Cause then you'll stop doing it. She's like, what is it? What is it? You could say, you know, there's, I always say it is funny. There are so many good things about you and just one bad. And she's like, what's the bad. And then I always say the same line, which is from my book, the conversation sniper.

28:32 Don't I'm like, why do you want to only know the bad? Don't you know that nine out of 10 African children die every two minutes? Why are you being so negative? You're like focusing on the negative stuff. And she's like, no, I just want to know what the bad thing is. Dude, you can get girls to chase you the whole night. Exactly. Get them qualifying. So I'll tell you if you do, if, if this, if that, like, yeah, that's a good idea. I never did that. I just get them chasing me.

28:52 Like, tell me what it is. Tell me what it is. I'm like, don't you want to know the good things and you know, stuff like that. So that's one really good way to get them to chase you. And I always build intrigue. So I'm like, I'm like, Kelly, yeah, I just, I have to ask you such an important question. She's like, what? And I'm like, I don't think you can handle it. She's like, yes, I can. I'm like, no, no, I'm not going to ask you.

29:13 And then she's chasing you. She's like, what is it? What is it? What is it? And then you can be like, you know, ask her the question. Well, you know, you seem like a really cool girl. Is that cool? Is that true? She'll be like, yeah. You'd be like, well, what would your best friend say is the coolest thing about you? The top three things. But tell me the first one. I'm loyal. I'm great. I'm great. Okay. Awesome. High five. I always high five chicks. Like, dude, that's awesome.

29:33 Respect. High five. You just went up 10 points in my book. You're now at negative 60. What would you do if, like, just out of curiosity, because a lot of these things only work if she's sufficiently attracted enough. Like, if you look at attraction on a scale from, like, 1 to 10, a lot of these things might not work if she's not at a 2 yet. Or, like, a 5 yet. You have to have a 7 yet. Exactly. So, that's, I mean, what do you do if you miscalibrate and then you do it too early?

30:08 I would just change the subject, probably. Change the subject, yeah. That's, like, my go-to is just, like, ignore and just change it to something else. Like, just don't stop engaging. If you say what's good about you beyond your looks, she's like, I don't want to tell you that. You'd be like, cool. Did you see the fight that happened outside? That's, like, the classic mystery. It is. Like, the fight outside. I use it all the time. Yeah, yeah. And I use it too. And oftentimes, there are fights outside.

30:32 Did you hear the one about the mystery method, how it's, like, the National Geographic boob that came out? No. These two girls were fighting outside and a boob came out and it was, like, a National Geographic boob. I use that one all the time. So, you just change subjects. Like, if a girl, if you try to qualify a girl and she throws it back in your face, you don't have enough attraction yet. That's all there is to it. But treat it like a good thing, though, because it means she's interested.

30:57 And if you can pass it and reframe, then she'll become more attracted. Yeah. Dude, if you're unaffected, because being affected, being emotional is a feminine quality. And women are not attracted to feminine men. So, you always want to be unaffected. If she shit tests you, if she doesn't agree with something you said, if she throws back in your face one of the qualifying questions you ask, unaffected. Whatever. Oh, okay, cool. Did you see this? Have you heard of this? If you could have a million dollars, $90 million, what would you do with your life?

31:29 You know, my friend was just asking me. It's kind of interesting. He was like, dude, what would you do with $90 million? And I was thinking, hmm, I'd probably go save the poor and give all my money to everybody. Fuck that, dude. I'd go travel the world, right? She laughs. You'd be like, what would you do? Then she does it. You'd be like, you know, that's pretty cool. What would your best friend say is the coolest thing about you? You seem like you're a pretty giving person.

31:49 Then she qualifies herself to you. You just passed, like, six tests in a row. Yes, there's different qualification ways you can do it. You can go broad or you can go deep. So, like, with, like, all the things that you just listed, Mark, like, you can, like, do this qualification thing, that qualification thing, that qualification thing, which is good. But I prefer to, like, find one qualification thing and then go deep on it and see how far I can push it. So, like, with the million dollars thing, like, I'd really go and, like, the key is, like, obviously the way you do it, too.

32:19 So, like, silence is your friend and just looking at her and strong eye contact while she's talking and expecting her to talk more as your friend, right? You know, so a lot of it's just how you do it, too. Like, if you're, like, super new to this, you want to also get body language, too. Because if your body language isn't congruent with your lines, they'll still work because they're still emotionally charged, but it's not going to work as well, right? You know what another qualifier is, is kind of what you just said, which is to let the conversation purposely drop and look at her like this and be, like, talk.

32:53 And then she'll, so what do you do for a living? Oh, I'm a famous ass model. What do you do? You're an ice cream man, aren't you? I can tell. I can tell. You sell that ice cream. You're slaying an ice cream. Look, I only talk to girls who have 20s on their car. You have to have 20-inch rims. So do you have 20s or not? Because if you don't, we're not talking to each other. I Ubered here. Oh, my God. What's a car? I know.

33:17 We're at 20. Yeah. Cool, man. I think developing wit is, like, super key, too. You know, like, when – and it changes a lot, guys. What you'll find, too, is, like, right now I've been working all day. I'm, like, tired. But, like, once you – the person that you are when you're in the zone is different than the person that you are when you're not in the zone. And if you notice that, Mark, like, when I'm really in the zone, like, the shit that comes out of my mouth, it's, like, unreal.

33:46 It's, like – it's almost like you unlock, like, you know, 50% more of your brain power and you're just, like, you know, just, like, line, line, line after line. And it just – it's, like, so crazy. So a lot of it is, like, memorizing them can be good, too, and building the social momentum to basically get up to that point where you get that extra boost in brain power and status, so to speak. And then just it comes naturally, you know. But, yeah. Do you have anything to add?

34:11 We should – let's do a recap at some point before we end, too. Yeah. Well, the only way to get to that social momentum is to practice. And like I always tell my clients, just open and abort. Even if you just have to ask for directions on the way to the bar, just open, abort, open, abort, abort, abort, abort, abort, abort mission. You can say that as you leave too. Open yourself as Mark Sandoval and then just, if that makes you more confident, and then just abort.

34:34 Where's Starbucks around here? Oh, it's around the corner. Okay, abort, abort, abort, and walk away. No, but seriously, that's a good way to build the social momentum. And then what I tell my students to do is block it, like have your opener, and then put another block on top of it, which might be one of the conversational topics I'll give them. And then if that goes well, you put another block on top of it. You don't have to, I know a lot of you guys, like you're like, okay, I'm going to go out tonight.

34:57 I'm going to talk to girls. And it's like a terrifying prospect to do that. I just saw your text, John. Thanks. Very, very subtle there, buddy. No, it was something else. Oh, was it? I'll tell you after. Yeah. Oh, all right. So, um, sorry to drop that, but yeah. Yeah. Well, what was I saying? So, but dude, you don't have to think of it as that. Just think of it as it doesn't have to be a big deal. You're talking, you're just talking to people. Hey man, how's your night going?

35:24 Cool, bro. Well, have a good night. Hey, I love your shoes. Those are awesome. I wish more girls had style like you do. High five, have a great night. And you're just giving value around the club. You don't have to, you don't have to go out thinking like, I got to go get myself a nine. I have to open and block and qualify and get the phone number and then text her the next day and fuck her. No, dude, like the first times you go out, I even tell my clients, I don't want you to get numbers.

35:45 I don't want you to get anything. All you're doing is going and giving, giving, giving good stuff. And you could like that stupid joke. I said the pirate joke, that was my opening line a couple of weeks ago and it killed because I thought it was funny. And a lot of the girls, they would laugh and I'll say, have a good night. And they're like, ah, I want to talk to this guy. Maybe I'll talk to you later. We'll see what happens. So don't put yourself under so much pressure.

36:08 Just go out, have fun. Test like John said, don't think that you have to get anything out of this girl. Just give and you'll get in return when you've completely let go of trying to get. When you just give, give, give, don't give a shit what happens. You'll get, you'll get some in return. It'll happen. But the first, the first like whatever, six to dozen or so times you're first going out, if you're like a hard case noob, don't worry about it, man. Just go out and talk to people.

36:35 That's your only homework. Just have fun. Like that's honestly, it sounds so cliche because like, but it's the truth. It's cliche for a reason. Like if you just focus on having fun, really having fun. Yeah. Like shit just happens so much more naturally and so much better. And so there's kind of this intersection where like you get really good at having fun, but you also have the technical know-how to close and to escalate that at us. So obviously it's kind of like a, a little bit of a, you know, a struggle to balance those things and to get there.

37:08 But you know, like, like Mark and I've been saying, just like go out, make it fun. Um, you know, it's supposed to be fun, right? So the one, one way that I think of it is socializing is a fun activity. If you're high status, which by the way, is almost entirely just your own belief. If you believe you're high status than you are. So socializing is fun if you're high status, but it's stressful if you're low status. So yeah. So when you go out and you think you're low status, it's horrible because you're going to be looking for approval for validation.

37:35 People are going to reject you. It's this self-fulfilling prophecy, this feedback loop. But if you just go out and you ask, how can I have fun? How can I spike people's emotions? How can I just like be present and feel good in my own body so that it blasts other people when I'm feeling good too? And, uh, you'll have such better results, you know, like it's crazy. Do you ever like listen to a song that used to play back in the day when you didn't have game, when you were low status, and then it brings back those feelings and memories?

38:07 Yeah, dude. Associations. Yeah, man. Uh, that happened to me the other day, like Tupac came on. It's like, come with me. Hail Maranilla, run quick. See, and then like, I remember being in the bar, like all insecure and like, and I'm like, it's such a different feeling now that I have game. And it's like the, the real differentiating difference is differentiating difference. Yes. I coined that word. Um, is that there was so much fear and outcome dependence and I took it so seriously back and now today I don't take it seriously at all.

38:38 It's just a big joke. It's just a big game. So if you can have one takeaway from this, it's just a big game, man. And it doesn't freaking matter what happens. Just entertain yourself, have fun and go be a go giver. And you know, qualifying is, is all part of it. And when you are, when you are a go giver and you're just having a good time, girls are going to green light you. They're going to be looking at you. They're going to be closing closer to you.

39:02 They're going to have their backs to you. And their friends are like looking at you. You can tap them on the shoulder and be like, Hey, who are you? And she's qualifying herself to you immediately because you have that green light. So yeah, they'll, they'll put yourself, they'll put themselves in your proximity. Um, cause they want you to open them. So yeah, they turn their backs to you. They come, they're like inch closer. I've had girls like standing right here with their back to me and you just, you can like blow on them, dude.

39:21 Like, or they'll like bump into you accidentally or something. Sorry. Like slap a boob on your elbow. I've been whipped by girl's hair. Like dancing so close. And it's like, dude, you just whipped me with your hair. Are you kidding me? That's her version of like an approach is like whipping you with her hair. It's like approach me fucking bitch. Hey, you guys will talk to me. You guys will do the same thing too. By the way, when you're attracted to a girl, you'll go stand by her with your back to her.

39:49 And it's a very low value thing to do, low status thing to do. So if you find a girl, you want her to open you. That's why. And opening somebody is masculine. Do you really want a girl to open you? Because the masculine is, is that which goes and hunts. That's what that, which goes and gets. Do you really want to be a fucking flower or this, this fucking motherfucker right here? And if you're listening, I'm pointing at Leonidas, like, like, which do you want to be, you know?

40:13 So just get that masculine energy. A real Spartan shield right there. Spartan shield. Look at that. You should go out with a Spartan shield as a joke, like not on Halloween. Look at that. Just like take it out as a joke and like introduce yourself as Leonidas. Dude, when I was, uh, when I was Leonidas for Halloween, ancient Greek pickup lines. Yeah. It was, did you use pickup lines specific to that? I should. No, what I did is it was Halloween when I was Leonidas. It was right after 300 came out and I have the, let me show you guys this bastard.

40:41 I got the Spartan helmet. Oh shit. So I was Leonidas and, uh, I would literally use my shield to like move people out of the way. Get out of the way fucker. Cause it was so busy in Hawaii. Yeah. Like on in Waikiki, but it was cool, man. So yeah, be Leonidas. Be the goddamn man. Don't be a pussy. Go get the girl who you're attracted to. And man, being rejected is all part of being a man. If you can get rejected and walk it off and be like, Hey, that happens.

41:06 It makes me stronger. It just makes you stronger. It just makes you more of a man. So don't take it so seriously, bro. And what's funny too, is like, I always like to say that rejections aren't even rejections because like half the time, like when a girl just like, doesn't want to talk to me and I just leave and I'm not affected. I'll see her like looking at me throughout the next like 10, 20 minutes. Cause she's like, who is this guy that like, didn't get unaffected? Like did I make a mistake?

41:34 And like, you know, in the way that I treated him, like, so, you know, like rejection, like rejection, huh? You said, didn't get unaffected. It, it, you were not affected. Oh, it didn't get affected. I didn't get affected by it. Yeah. Yeah. Um, yeah. Like she, she'll make, she'll question herself. You know, if your frame is so strong, she'll question. She's like, did I make a mistake? Like, fuck, like, what did I do? Um, so rejection, like it doesn't even exist, you know, like if you just get that in your head, rejection isn't real.

42:01 Like what the, what the fuck is rejection anyways? Like she rejected your approach, your words, not you. But what did she even, there's no rejection. She said something and then you interpreted it a certain way and then you got hurt by it and you're like, she rejected me. And then you walk away. But really it's like, you said something, you wanted to fuck her. You want to talk to her. She said something that wasn't what you wanted. Like, okay. Like what you don't, don't, you don't have to put this label on it and like make it this giant thing.

42:27 Like, it's just like a test. It's like, okay, that didn't work. My approach didn't work. This didn't work. That didn't work. Or it could be something's wrong with her, dude. I've had girls that like, they, they were really into me and then I waited too long and then like they were dating some other guy. And so like, it didn't work. And it's like half the time, it's not even you. It's just like the situation that she's in, you know? Yeah. Yeah, man. Yeah. Well said brother.

42:48 Well said. All right. So you want to wrap this jank up? Yeah, let's do it. All right. So the recap, qualify girls. Very important. Make sure you have indicators of interest first. If she's attracted to you, you can go straight into qualification. And the reason we qualify is because we want her to work for us. We want her to chase us because what we chase, we unconsciously value more and we need girls to do that. Plus, if you're just a dancing monkey for her and you get her phone number, she's going to go home and think, well, why is he interested in me?

43:20 Oh, only because of my looks. No, you want her to show some of her personality. And besides, you really want to qualify her because you're a high status dude. You want to see if she makes the cut. Like if she's a, if she's a sea donkey, you don't want to get her phone number just because she's a sea donkey. So, so a qualification should literally be part of what you're doing because you have standards. It's just a result of having standards. So that's my sum up.

43:47 Yeah. Yeah. Um, and if you just work on internalizing what you want as a man, then you'll naturally begin to qualify, you know, ask yourself, like, what's your ideal girl? Like, how tall is she? Like, how does she act? Is she introverted, extroverted? Like, what do you want? Like know what you want, because then if a girl comes up to you and she doesn't have what you want, you'll naturally like not give her as much validation and attention and she'll feel it. And then she'll chase you and it just happens naturally.

44:10 So, um, you know, use some of the lines we gave you guys, uh, you know, don't use too many upfront, you know, you have to gauge it. It's kind of like starting a spark to a fire and then you have to like give it space and fan it. Silence is, uh, your best friend just looking at her. Um, yeah. So with that in mind, um, I have several products you guys can purchase. If you like my work, I have get seven strategies, which is, uh, the best way to get your masculine energy in check.

44:35 And you can get that at get seven strategies.com. It'll teach you the underlying frame and energy that attracts women. I have body of an alpha, which is how to get a jacked physique that turns women on. And you can get that's at get the perfect body.com and go to my blog, masculine development.com. There's hundreds of free articles and yeah, do it. Yeah. And once again, uh, you can learn more about me from coach, mark sing.com M A R K S I N G.com.

45:05 I use NLP, which is neuro linguistic programming to reprogram some of those, um, ineffective, um, meta programs that are going on inside your brain that interestingly enough were created in the first seven years of your life. And, um, oftentimes we're working with outdated software that doesn't work for us, especially when it comes to women. So if you're having some, uh, recurring sticking point that you can't seem to get over, uh, we can work together. So go ahead and check that out. My schedule is actually pretty booked, but I might be able to open it up, especially if you mentioned you found me on the unapologetic man podcast.

45:37 So we thank you guys so much for listening. Um, if you have any questions, hit us up. You can find John through his website, me through mine, and we will see you next week. Yeah, we will. Thanks guys.

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