5 Secrets to Keep a Girl Loyal (Jealousy & Cheating with Women and Dating)

0:00 Welcome to the Unapologetic Man Podcast, the only podcast that's all about self-improvement, confidence, success, women, and being a man without making any apologies for it. What is up, guys? Thank you for tuning in to another episode of the UMP, and today is my 250th episode, and I appreciate everything that you guys have done for me. I appreciate you guys showing up, supporting the podcast. I think we ended with 500 reviews, 500 reviews worldwide. I think on iTunes alone, there are 400, and we ended with a five out of five, brother, a five out of five, and I owe it all to you guys.

0:43 Now, you're probably sitting there wondering, what do you mean ended? What is he saying here? That's right, boys. I'm buttoning up shop, man. I ran across another marketing avenue that is a lot easier than doing this podcast. It's a lot less time restrictive. I don't have to come down here into my office and record these podcasts. So this is it, man. This is my final episode, and I appreciate everything that you guys have done. I can't even express enough just how much I appreciate you guys, all the reviews, all the love, the emails that I get, all the clients that I've gotten off this podcast, but my coaching program will still continue.

1:18 Just the UMP is all done, guys. This is it. This is the end, and I do sincerely appreciate every single one of you listening. I got you, bro. Fuck no, I'm not ending this podcast, motherfucker. This beast is going to roll on, bro. I'm not giving up now. Are you kidding me? I would be an idiot if I were to give up on this thing, dude. Do you know how many clients I get out of this guy? Bro, I'm guarding this podcast like walking through a bear infested forest with my one and a half year old daughter, dude.

1:51 I got a gun on each hip, a knife in my hand, and anybody tries to take this away from me. I'm going to go postal on their ass. So hell no, I'm not giving it up. But what I am doing is I'm going to drop down to two episodes per week, two episodes per week. The reason that is, is because I am getting so many goddamn clients from this thing, getting so many scheduled breakthrough sessions, which by the way, is a free one-on-one consultation with me, your uncle Mark Singh, that honestly, I need to slow down a little bit.

2:23 I need to catch up and give my clients more of my attention. But I'm still dropping two a week. And I'm going to be honest, that's still quite a bit compared to other podcasters who drop one a week. That's still twice as much. So I'm going to drop down to Mondays and Thursdays. And I remember back in the day, I told you guys I would be doing three a week until December, I believe it was. Well, it's May. I've over delivered as I am apt to do.

2:42 I'm going to drop down for a couple months, kind of feel how it goes. And that's what you have to do in business. And that's what you have to do in life. You can't be afraid to make changes. You can't be afraid to experiment. I mean, a lot of you guys know, even before I was doing one-on-one NLP consultations for a hundred bucks an hour. And then I changed that to free consultations to get them into my three months coaching program. It was a complete business change.

3:07 And it's scary to do that. You know, I admit it forthright. I was pretty scared. I'm not that scared about dropping down to two episodes a week, but every time something's working in your business and you make a change, it's a little scary. It's a little scary, but it'll be fine. I'm going to go on other podcasts and get more listeners. That's one of the things I'm going to do. I feel like I've developed quite a catalog of podcast episodes, 250 episodes. I feel it's a pretty good base.

3:31 And now I'm going to go get other listeners to come over. I'm going to invest in some marketing, some advertising. I'm going to do what's called mid roles, which is having an advertisement about my podcast on other people's podcasts. So that's what I'm going to really focus on. But dude, I'm still delivering twice a week, bro. Mondays and Thursdays. I want y'all to show up. So now I'm not quitting. I wonder if any of you guys were truly bombed or if you're like, meh, whatever this fucking jackass.

3:57 I'll just go find some other jackass to entertain me. Yeah, we both know that's what you said. So what do I do here, boys? The point of what I do is to find you a girl who can fit into a canoe without capsizing it. A girl who you can ride in a hang glider with and her sheer weight doesn't make the hang glider lose altitude and crash into the side of a mountain. A girl who you can introduce to your parents without having to tell her, hey, listen, Lisa, we have to tell my parents you're a mute because you're an idiot and I don't want you talking to them.

4:28 A girl who is up to the standards of a man who has a self-esteem that's so powerful, so strong, where before his self-esteem was so limited, he could smuggle it across the border in a contact lens. This is the kind of woman that we are here to get you. And a lot of you guys write me, you're like, bro, I'm getting girls now, but Mark, other guys want my girl. Other guys are hitting on her. Other guys are attracted to her. They're trying to yank her away from me and I'm insecure.

4:55 I don't want to lose her. Well, that's the problem, bro, is you're insecure. Honestly, every time a guy hits on my girl, I take it as a compliment. I take it as a compliment. I love hearing about it. Why? What is the fundamental difference between a guy who's jealous and not jealous? It's just this, a guy who's not jealous like myself, who takes it as a compliment, who actually likes it when dudes hit on my girl. And I actually have a funny story to tell you about something that happened a couple months ago with my girl.

5:23 But guys who want my girls, I'm like, yeah, dude, what happened? Oh my God, this guy came over. He started flashing his money. He says he flies to Dubai every two months on his private jet. I hear all these stories and I'm like, yeah, bro, like smack yourself on the back, Mark. You're fucking pulling girls who these Arabian princes want. What a legend. And you guys were over there like, oh God, Scott's going to steal my girl, Mark. What do I do? What do you do?

5:47 Never under any circumstance show jealousy. That's what you do, my friend. Who was it that wrote me? It was a guy who writes me often. Was it Nolan? No, I don't remember who the fuck you were, but you wrote me. And usually, you know, when you guys ask for free advice, I just simply don't have the time because I'm getting hundreds and hundreds of emails and Daisy, my assistant replies. But this one, it was one of my boys has been listening for a long time. So I was like, meh, fuck it.

6:14 I'll write them back myself. And I was like, bro, you cannot show jealousy. In fact, celebrate the fact that other dudes want your girl. When she tells you about it, which by the way, she's trying to get you more attracted to her. And that's why she's doing it. She's playing her little games. You have to be unaffected, completely unaffected, imperturbable, like whatever. Like you have to laugh and take it as a compliment. I would do this all the time. Girls would be like, oh yeah, I was fucking hearing, hearing this.

6:42 And this guy was like hitting on me. He had all this money at a Ferrari and he like owns this thing and he's a finance guy. And I'm like, yeah, awesome. You should go out with him. You should go out with that guy. He sounds like a legend. What's his number? Let me text him for you. Here, give me your phone. No, give me your phone. Come here. Give it to me. What's his name? Did you get his number? No. God damn it, Jessica. Why didn't you get his number?

7:02 I was totally going to get you a date with him. By the way, you and my grandma should totally pick up guys together because you obviously like to prowl the field. This is the way you handle it is you are unaffected. You take it as a compliment. You don't give a shit. Why? Why does a guy not give a shit if his girl gets hit on by somebody else? Because he's completely secure in himself and he's completely convinced himself that he's the best guy for her.

7:28 I literally think, now there's just between you and me. Let's keep it down. I literally think Marissa could not find a better guy than me. I literally believe that. Now, it's kind of arrogant. It's kind of assumptive. But as I talk about a lot in this podcast, in some ways you have to be kind of socially unintelligent and a little bit delusional. I don't really like that word, but it's for lack of a better word where you think you are such a catch that this girl probably cannot find a guy who's better than you.

7:55 Probably not. And I mean, it's not just better, like I'm better looking, I'm stronger, I'm better in bed. I know how to tickle her pickle. It's not only that. It's also how I relate to her. I just don't think that she's going to meet another dude in this lifetime who she relates to like me. I don't think she's going to find another guy who can make her laugh the way I can. Like she laughs all the time when we're together because I'm a funny guy sometimes.

8:21 And she loves that shit. So when she's like, yeah, some guy was hitting on me, I'm like, dude, this dude has no chance, bro. It's Mark Singh up in this motherfucker. What's your name? What's your first and last name? Say it right now. Yeah, it's XX up in this motherfucker, right? You need to be like David Goggins. One of my clients mentioned this. I think it was Matt. What is up, Matt? He's like, you know, I like about David Goggins is when he's in state, when he's in the field, he's not David Goggins.

8:45 He calls himself Goggins. Goggins up in this motherfucker. I'm going to lift the boats, right? You guys follow him. Fuck, I love that guy. So my name, when I'm up in the motherfucker, I'm Aristodemus, the Spartan. That's my Spartan name. What's your name? What are you going to call yourself? That's you, bro. You're the fucking warrior. You're the fucking hero. And if she's going to leave you, she's an idiot. She's an idiot of the highest degree. And you're like, oh my hell, you are literally the stupidest person ever if you break it off with me, right?

9:17 That's kind of the way you need to think. You never say it. You guys don't take what I'm saying the wrong way. You don't say it. That's just communicated. And how is it communicated? When she's like, oh, Adam was hitting on me. He fucking asked for my phone number, blah, blah, blah. You're like, yeah, that's awesome. That's sweet, dude. So what happened? And you're like happy about it. She's like, what? She's like scratching her head. Why would he do that? Hmm. Let me deduce. Because he's secure.

9:39 Because he's confident. Because he feels like he's the prize. Because he believes I cannot get better than him. So I'm going to stay with him. I'm going to stay with him. You guys, I would push girls on other guys. I'd be like, yeah, go, go. Go on a date with him. I'm totally fine with that. I'm going to date another girl though, just so you know if you do, but go ahead. And she's like, no, no, I don't want to. I'm just telling you. He was hitting on me.

10:04 I'm like, relax. It's chill. I actually take it as a compliment. But listen, if you want to, it's cool. It's totally cool. Go for it. And this is the interesting thing is it's like trying to possess the wind. Okay. When you try to grab the wind, like the wind's blowing across your hand and you try to grab it, what happens? It goes around your hand. It eludes you. You chase it away. But when you leave your hand open and not try to possess the wind as it is with females, you get to keep them.

10:32 You get to feel the wind entirely. So it's kind of like, yeah, beat it. I don't fucking care. If that's a deal breaker for you, beat it. Something I say all the time. Hey, it's no big deal. Now there is a balance, you guys, with all things, I don't want you to put too much push into your game. But always when it comes to jealousy, you fuckers, you are never under any circumstance allowed to show jealousy. Girls want you to be jealous because they're attracted to you and they think it's going to make you more attracted to them.

11:00 But trust me, aside from very, very few circumstances where it will benefit you because it looks cute or whatever, and she has to be super fucking in love with you for it to work. Besides those small circumstances, it doesn't work. It just chases her away. It looks super unattractive. Why does it look unattractive? Question, why does it look unattractive? Answer me right now. That's right. That's right. You're a smart motherfucker. Smack yourself on the ass. You are a champion because it makes you look insecure. You see how that works?

11:33 So from here forward, bro, she says, oh, another guy wants me. You say, cool. That's awesome. You smile. You say, yes. You give her a high five. Okay. So my story about Marissa the other day, she was walking down the street, bro, and she caused a car accident. Yeah, she caused a car accident, my dudes. She's walking down the street. Some legend noticed the epicness that he beheld before him. Fucking rubber necked it, right? Looking over his shoulder. Boom! Hit the back of the car in front of him.

12:04 And Marissa kind of saw it because she saw this dude checking him out. She was like, oh shit. Boom! The dude hit the car and she just kept walking. And I was like, yeah, that's awesome. You should have grabbed his number. And she's like, no, I don't want to. Why do you say that? I don't want to do that. And I'm like, eh, eh, in my own head. I'm like, the reason I say it is honestly because I'm not threatened. I don't give a shit who wants you.

12:25 I love it when guys want her. I love it. I love it. And a lot of you guys also asked me, by the way, why don't I ever show Marissa? Why aren't there pictures of her on my Instagram? Why don't I have her like on my YouTube videos, the few that I have? I do have her on the podcast. It's because a couple years ago, I did show her and there was a client who got kind of weird. You know, I don't want to get too deep into specifics.

12:52 Stalker, Texas Ranger. I'll just leave it at that. So we've agreed that she's no longer allowed to be on my media. Cause I mean, most of you guys are fucking champions, but there's some weird ones out there, bro. Like I get some weird motherfuckers that come through the door. Definitely not you, especially if you relate to this, but every once in a while, you know, someone will find me through some weird way and just, oh man. And I think sometimes, you know, it's so obvious why this dude doesn't get girls, right?

13:19 It's just socially unintelligent. Now, as I said in my previous podcast about being older, I was socially unintelligent too. I've made so many mistakes, social mistakes before I was about 25. When your prefrontal cortex finishes developing and you actually become socially savvy. I've made lots of mistakes too. So I'm not holding it against you. If you've made some mistakes, it's cool, bro. You're going to grow out of it. You're going to learn. Don't kick yourself for it. It's all good. I understand. But you know, there's a lot of creepy dudes out there.

13:50 So that's why I don't introduce her to my fans. My final point is this. Don't try to make girls jealous, guys. It just looks insecure because if you're trying to make her jealous, like obviously trying to do that, like, oh, like this girl was hitting on me today and I'll do that. But I do it in a very subtle way. And this goes back to social intelligence. I do it in a very subtle way where she's not really able to tell that I'm trying to make her jealous.

14:11 And to be honest, I'm not trying to make her jealous. I'm really trying to show pre-selection that other girls want me. So there's a difference there. And she can tell when you're trying to get her jealous. And two wrongs don't make her right. So if she's always trying to get you jealous, don't fucking do it back to her. Just be a fucking pimp. Walk off like a boss. Laugh. Let it roll right off your back. Take it as a compliment. And then it'll stop. Because if it's not getting her the reaction that she wants, she's going to drop it.

14:40 She's going to drop it. So any behavior that you want to curtail or create in a woman, you need to base it off reward and punishment. So if she's constantly trying to get you jealous and you don't reward it by acting in the way which she wants you to, which is to be jealous, then she's going to drop it because it's ineffective. So again, guys, take it as a compliment. You're a fucking champion. You need to feel like a 10. You need to feel like you are the best dude this girl's ever going to get.

15:07 Another guy wants her. Good. Fucking awesome. High five, man. Yeah, I'm a legend because I have her, right? I'm the one who has her. When you're like that, you look way more attractive than this guy ever will. She's not going to leave you. She's not going to leave you. Let it go like the hand in the wind and she stays. Try to grab onto her. Try to pull her into you. Try to put rules in place. Try to do all this possessive bullshit that jealous guys do.

15:35 You're going to lose her. You're going to lose her. It happens every single time. So this is the way with not only women, but also money. When you get really needy for money, what are you doing? You're putting out a signal to the universe, I need money. And what is the universe? It's a big mirror. It tells back to you exactly what you say. I need money. Universe says, yep, you need money. And then you don't get it. But if you're like, dude, I am money.

15:54 I'm a money magnet. Money comes easily. I don't have to stress about money. It's coming. It's coming. Then it does come. Same with women. Jealousy is part of that scarcity mindset. You don't feel there's enough. You don't feel there's enough women. You don't feel like you're enough. There's just not enough. It's a scarcity mindset. And then it's insecure and it turns women off. So that's my answer to what do I do when another guy wants my girl? Smile, bro. You smile and you celebrate. That is the answer.

16:22 All right, gentlemen, that's it for me in this podcast. As a reminder, I am dropping podcasts on Mondays and Thursdays. Going to try it for probably the next two months, see how it goes. And then I might ramp up again to three a week or I might drop down to one a week. Who knows? I'm always flexible. I'm always confident that things are going to work out in this podcast and you have to try things, man. You get stagnant. You get comfortable. You say, well, this is working.

16:49 I'm just going to keep doing this. That's when things start falling apart. You're either growing or you're dying. There is no in between. And I intend to keep growing. And to do that, I'm going to drop down to give more attention to my clients, give more attention to you guys who want that free breakthrough session. And then also reach out to other podcasts to market this podcast and grow it by getting it more exposure. All right, gentlemen, once again, thank you so much for listening and I will see you in the next episode.

17:23 I'll see you in the next episode.

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