How to Get Younger Girls as an Older Man

0:00 Welcome to the Unapologetic Man Podcast. The only podcast that's all about self-improvement, confidence, success, women, and being a man without making any apologies for it. What is up, guys? Thank you for tuning in to another episode of the UMP. I really do appreciate you joining me. If this is your first time listening, welcome. What I try to do is give the best information in the most succinct way possible, and if you've been listening for a long time, you know what to do, brother. Smack yourself on the ass so hard when the concussion hits, it blows the pants right off your legs because you are a goddamn champion of the highest degree.

0:43 So you're an old fart, much like me, 44 years old over here. I get a lot of 50-year-olds, 60-year-olds, a lot of guys in their 40s, 30s, and of course, you young bucks out there who probably aren't listening to this, but a lot of 20-year-olds, but I get a lot of messages from guys who are older who ask me how to attract a younger woman, how to deal with the fact that they feel old and creepy because they want to go get younger women. And I'm with you, man.

1:10 You know, I'm 44 years old. I think the youngest girlfriend I had, I was 40 at the time, and she was 23. Now, that isn't to say that I haven't hooked up with girls who were over 20 years younger than me. She was 17 years younger than me, but that was the only girlfriend I ever had who was 17 years younger than me. Usually, it's like 10 years, sometimes 15, because as you guys know, the mentality of a really, really young girl, they're hot as hell, man, and you know it just as well as I do, but the mentality sometimes, whew, sometimes it's a little bit hard to deal with, man.

1:45 You know, it's like babysitting sometimes. So, I personally think the sweet spot is about 25 to 28. You know, it's interesting because your brain doesn't even finish developing until you're 25. Your prefrontal cortex doesn't finish developing until then. So, you know, it makes sense that not only are women sometimes socially unintelligent, but it seems like the most socially unintelligent emails I get and things that happen in my business are usually from dudes who are quite a bit younger. And, hey, nothing against you guys. I think back to some of the shit that I did when I was under 25, and, dude, trust me, I've done all the stupid shit.

2:24 I was completely fucking clueless, like completely, and that is because my brain wasn't finished developing yet. So, in this podcast, we are going to talk about how to get those girls, but more importantly, how you need to reframe the fact that you're a, quote, unquote, old fart in your brain. Because if you feel like an old fart, if you feel creepy for being attracted to younger women, which is completely fine, I understand, because I get a lot of clients who do feel creepy, I want to help you kind of reprogram that and re-look at it in a more positive way.

2:56 Before I jump into the content, I want to go ahead and give two shout-outs. One of them is to my boy, Aaron. Aaron is a client of mine who's in week three of the program, and he just got laid. Aaron, congratulations. Big round of applause. And in the coaching calls, every time a client gets laid, we always clap for them and we celebrate. And it's funny because we were all laughing about it last week because a lot of my coaching clients, they're super humble. They're like, yeah.

3:21 And then she came over and it was great. And I'm like, whoa, whoa, whoa. It was great? What do you mean, bro? Like, give me specifics. I'm not working my ass off giving you my blood, sweat, and tears just to have the, it went great. I want goddamn specifics. So they're like, yeah, we had sex. And we're always like, yeah, dude, congratulations. And all the boys clap. And it's a big community. And that's why we call it the brotherhood. But check this out. So Aaron just joins the brotherhood, right?

3:47 And I'm like, this guy is going to fucking crush it. He hadn't had a date, hadn't gotten laid in two years, two years. But I saw the entrance into his subconscious mind and I knew exactly what he needed. So I was like, brother, you need to come join. Sure enough, man, in week three, the guy gets laid. Week three. Two years, three weeks. That's the kind of results my guys get. I also want to give a shout out to my boy, Shane. You guys, the guy just hired me named Shane.

4:14 Shane, he's blind, B-L-I-N-D, cannot see. Now, a lot of you guys out there are making excuses. You're like, oh, I'm not good enough. I'm fat. I'm unmotivated. I don't have enough money. Bro, Shane is blind and he's still fucking doing this. What a champion. That guy is my fucking hero. I have a lot of guys who hire me who I tell them, I'm like, brother, you're my hero. Adam, if you're listening, you're one of them. Guys who have problems that are way worse than any of ours, yet they do this anyway.

4:43 And I teach them how to leverage that problem to actually make themselves more attractive to women. Shane just started. He's going to crush it. We're working on his online dating profile, telling him how to speak to women. And we're going to teach him to get laid just like Aaron did, hopefully within three weeks, just like Aaron. So Aaron, Shane, you are my boys. You're my brothers fighting shoulder to shoulder in the trenches. And the rest of you guys, if you want to get on a free breakthrough session with me, go to my website.

5:09 You can click the link in the description below. It literally says grab a free session with Mark. Click on that link. Click the red button. Fill out the form. Slap in the biscuit. You and I will get on the phone together and talk about whether or not I can help you. Talk about your issues and talk about if we can get you laid, just like Aaron did, within three weeks of starting the program. All right, so let's go ahead and jump into it. We've got lots of really good content to get through.

5:32 So without further ado, let's get started. All right, so the first thing you need to know, my dude, my older brother, is that your sexual marketplace value in the eyes of women peaks at age 40. That's right, 40. So a lot of guys have this idea that younger men are more attractive than they are simply because they're younger. It's probably a product of our society that really values younger age, values youth, values vitality. But the truth of the matter is, is that the majority of women actually find men in their 40s the most sexy.

6:09 And even in their 50s, 60s, shit, I've even had clients who were over 70 and we got those dudes laid. So attraction doesn't change with age. And I'll tell you, those younger girls, when I got older, they became more attracted to me. In fact, when I turned 40, I was like, all right, bro, like, I think it's probably time you stop hitting on those 21-year-olds at the bar. And I quickly caught myself and I'm like, no way, dude, that is a bullshit belief system. That is somebody else's metaprogram, somebody else's bullshit, some society-created BS that we've bought into that us older men are less attractive to younger women.

6:47 The opposite is actually true. When I became 40, I became more attractive to these women. And anytime they would call me out on it, anytime my age would come up, I'm going to tell you guys what to say, how to reframe it. But I want to let you know to begin with that you being older, you guys who are in your 40s, 50s, and I even have some guys who are like 33. They're like, bro, I just feel so old, man. I can't do this. I'm like, what, dude?

7:10 I'm 44, man, relax. Even when I'm 54, I'm still going to be talking to these 20-year-olds. Because let's be honest, 20-year-olds are the hottest. They haven't gotten fat yet. They're still sexy. They're still soft skin. You know, they haven't gone over their sexual peak, which, by the way, is at about 25 different studies, different things. But mid-20s is about it. So I get it, bro. Like, you want that younger woman and so do I. I love those young girls. When you can find one that has, like, a good head on her shoulders, which is hard to find.

7:41 Hot as hell with a good head on her shoulders, not easy, but they are out there. So women love older men. So the first step is to feel good about being older. Okay? This is a complete reframe. I want you, instead of thinking, oh, I'm creepy. I shouldn't be looking at that girl. And we all do it. We all do it. Even you guys in your 50s who are checking out a girl who's, like, younger than your daughter. Bro, if she's over 18, you know, obviously she's legal.

8:07 You can check her out. It's natural. I mean, Jesus, we're men. Like, we look for sexual vitality. Why do we look for sexual vitality? Because it's just signs that she can have a healthy baby. So you're attracted to that. And actually, you get a shot of dopamine when you look at a beautiful girl. So don't kick yourself for it. Take a look. I mean, don't be creepy. Don't leer. Don't look at her like a piece of steak. But appreciate her. And that's the difference, too. Whenever I check out a girl, and I do it all the time, I appreciate her like she's a piece of art.

8:37 I don't leer at her like she's a piece of meat. There's a big difference there. It's the difference between appreciation and just wanting to use her, giving her something of value or being a fucking taker. So if you look at a woman who's younger, don't beat yourself up about it. Just appreciate her. And I would literally say, and this is, by the way, a really strong way to invoke the law of attraction, which is the universal law that draws to you more of what you appreciate, I will literally say in my own head, I will be like, bless you.

9:07 You are beautiful. God, thank you for this woman. Thank you for her. And when you do that, not only can they feel your vibe, but also via the law of attraction, more hot girls are going to come into your life. So rather than feeling bad about it, I want you to feel good about it. And secondly, I want you to know that if you are over 40, which I'm sure a lot of you guys listening are, it's actually a good thing, not a bad thing. And you guys approaching 40, get excited because you're about to become even sexier.

9:35 All right. So let's talk about some traits that older men like us have. First of all, you know yourself, right? I didn't know myself until I was about, I don't know, 35, maybe even 40. And of course, this is an ongoing process, but I didn't become completely comfortable in my skin until probably my mid to late 30s, maybe even my 40s. But now that I'm 44, I am so unbelievably comfortable in my skin. And most older gentlemen are more confident than they were in their 20s and 30s. Now, I know a lot of you guys suffer with self-esteem issues.

10:09 I get it. That's part of what I do. I do neuro-linguistic programming to remap your self-esteem. And, you know, if you need that help, again, you can sign up for that free session. But most of the time, us older gentlemen are more comfortable in our skin. We also have standards. We know what we want and we know what we don't want. And naturally, we're going to screen girls. Now, screening means we feel that she's the one submitting the application. So when a young girl comes up to me, I'm screening her.

10:38 I'm screening her to see if she's intelligent. Can this chick carry on a conversation? Or do we have to talk about baby Einstein and Elmo and puppy dogs and ice cream? I want a girl who obviously is intelligent. And that one super hot blonde that was 23 that I made my girlfriend for like nine months. Oh, my God. She was hot. Fuck. Anyway, she was really mature. She was really mature. So I decided to do a couple laps with her around the track. Of course, eventually, her immaturity made it so I couldn't stay with her.

11:07 But it was a good couple months. I'll tell you what. All right. He has his life. Therefore, he's independent. So most guys our age, I'm just going to say our age. I'll assume you guys are around my age. We have our lives pretty well set up. We know what we want. We know what we don't want. We know our likes and dislikes. We have our routines. And it's really sexy to know who you are, what you want, and to be independent. Now, this is the number one thing that I believe makes us guys more attractive is that we have a stronger frame.

11:36 Because we know what we want, because we know who we are, because we're more secure in our skin, we have what's called a frame. A frame is basically your interpretation of reality and your ability to control the conversation, your ability to lead her to where she wants to be led. So being it that we're a little bit older, we've had more life experience. We feel more secure with ourselves. So we have a stronger frame. And a little girl, like a little, you know, 25 year old, who's even though she's hot, we're like established, right?

12:07 We're men. We're fucking elders. So when she kind of comes to us with some shit, we are not going to break as easily as a guy would who's her age, because we have what's called a strong frame. Now, for those of you who haven't been listening to my podcast, I'm assuming some of you will land on this for the first time when searching how to get younger girls as an older man. I would strongly suggest listening to all my episodes, of course. But if you want to sift through the best ones, frame control is something I strongly suggest.

12:36 Look for something called the 80-100 rule, qualifying, push-pull is really good. These kind of basic concepts that I teach in this podcast and more in-depth in my coaching program is something you want to check out. All right. The next one is most older men have resources. And what that means, not doesn't, doesn't mean money now. Everybody relax. I know a lot of you guys get hung up on this money thing. That's a freaking entire five episode podcast in itself. I'm just going to say this one statement, money doesn't fucking matter.

13:06 Okay. Resources not only means things like cars and trips and houses. That's not what it means. It means you're resourceful. You know how to get through life. You're effective. And in a way, the fact that you're older shows that you have survivability. What is the thing that women are most attracted to in a man? It's simply this, survivability. So the fact that you've made it to this age shows that you're a survivor and that in itself is attractive. And the reason you're a survivor is because you are resourceful.

13:38 All right. So some methods to attract women. This too could be a 250 episode journey, which I've already taken. So go listen to my other 250 episodes. But I mean, it's funny to me when people ask me like, bro, like, how do I get girls? Like when they first hire me, right? I'm like, yeah, that's what I'm going to teach you over the 12 weeks. And it does take me that long to teach you this. It's kind of like, how do I score a goal in the NHL playoffs?

14:04 Well, first, bro, you got to learn to skate. Then you need to learn some stick handling. Then you need this. Then you need that. It's like not just one answer. But I'm going to give you a couple 10,000 foot tips. And if you want to get more in depth on it, I suggest you do a search of my podcast for these topics. First of all, as I mentioned, is having a super strong frame. You want to control it. If she tests you, you flip it on her in a way that I'm about to explain.

14:29 Secondly, you want to leverage that which is attractive in you as an older man. So you are mature. You are worldly. You're sophisticated. And most importantly, you are confident. Okay, so you have to be 100% confident that you are older. In fact, you need to think of it as an asset, not a liability. You need to think of it as a plus, not a minus. Because you're older, you're more attractive. If you have an inkling of insecurity about you being older, and especially if she takes a jab at you and you let it affect you, she's fucking gone, bro.

15:03 She's going to lose all attraction for you. So you need to own it. You need to be proud of it. And if she says shit to you, again, I'm going to show you how to flip that in just a minute. Obviously, as an older man, hopefully you've developed some of your humor. Being funny is really, really important. Haven't told this joke in a while, so I'll go ahead and tell it for you. So you say to a girl, so hey, I got a joke for you.

15:24 She's like, okay, ready. You say, what's a pirate's favorite letter of the alphabet? They always say, arrr. And then you say back to her, you'd think so, but it's the C, right? Makes them laugh every time. That's funny. Teaching humor is kind of difficult. I've been thinking about doing a podcast on it, but admittedly, I'm procrastinating because it is a difficult thing to teach. But in my coaching program, I give tons of lines to say to women. And by the way, if you leave me a review, I will send you 150 such lines in the conversation sniper.

15:58 Leave me a review. Email me at coachmarksing at gmail.com, and I will send those to you. All right. The next one is you want to be charismatic. That should be pretty self-explanatory. But charisma means leaving other people feeling better from having met you. You want to be charming. That's a whole different thing that I talk about. So look that up if you haven't. And you want to employ the 80-100 rule, which basically means this. You give her 80% of what she wants, and you want to be slightly out of her grasp.

16:28 So if she wants to hang out with you five times a week, you hang out with her four. If she gives you 10 compliments, you give her eight. So you're just kind of out of her grasp. And a lot of you guys get really needy, as have I. And I've learned this the hard way many times. But you want to be just that out of her grasp. So give her about 80%. This works into what I call the 80-100 rule. Once again, listen to that podcast. There's a 10,000-foot perspective, boys, most importantly of which is to feel good about being older.

16:56 Next one is to be the sanctuary. So when she's with you, you want to make that time with you some of the best moments of her life. And then remember, make her go away before she's ready. So she's having a great time with you. She's living it up. And just before you can tell she's satiated, you want to push her away. So every time she's with you, you're like that older man who's like sexy and confident, sophisticated. You take her on these adventures. She feels like you're worldly.

17:24 She feels like you've made it through life, and you would be a great caretaker to maybe her baby she's thinking about. So then when you bring her into that sanctuary, this is going to make her really fall in love with you. And I'll tell you, when it comes to women, the only way to make a woman loyal to you, the only way to make her stay with you is to make her fall in love with you. All these bullshit agreements, handshakes, marriages, rings on the fingers don't mean shit if she's not emotionally into you.

17:53 All right, so let's get into some frame control reversals. I am an absolute ninja at this because women test me on this all the damn time. I mean, it's rare that you get a 44-year-old full-grown man going into the nightclubs and bars and talking to essentially college girls and those who just graduated from college and then, of course, those more in their mid-20s. But I've been tested a lot on this because they will ask me my age. Now, one of the things that goes in my benefit is I do look about 10 years younger.

18:22 So people can't believe I'm 44. They usually think I'm about 33 is the usual guess that I get. So that works to my advantage a little bit because I can also flip it in different ways because they won't believe I'm actually 44. But let's get into some reversals. So there's a frame control reversal called agree and amplify. And what this means is you agree with what she says and then you amplify it. So when I tell her I'm 44, go through my whole spiel where I prove it to her, I usually show on my driver's license after this whole like skit kind of thing that I do.

18:55 And then she's like, I cannot believe you're 44. You are so goddamn old. And I'm like, I know, man, I'm so old. I got this like really bad hip. And it's amazing that I'm actually walking right now because usually I'm on a walker. And I have one of those chairs that goes up and down my stairs. And it's going to go like really slow on my stairs. And you can sit on my lap. And I'm going to whisper sweet nothings in your ear as we go up.

19:15 And then when we get to the top, I'm going to be like, wait, why were we going up here? And I'm going to completely forget. Then we get to the top of the stairs. You're going to change my diaper. And then you and I are going to get into bed and I'm going to fall asleep. And that always cracks them up. All right. So that's agree and amplify. Somebody tells you you're gay. You obviously, yep, I am gay. I sucked 200 dicks yesterday. My jaw is so sore.

19:36 This is something I teach in my three-month coaching program, how to reverse these frame control tests that women are going to do to you to test you because women need to test your boundaries. All right. Reframing, which is my favorite thing. She's going to ask me how old I am. Obviously, I'm going to say I'm 44 and she's going to be surprised. Like she might say something like, oh my God, you're like way too old for me. Then what I'll say is I'll say like, listen, I know you're young, but you seem mature for your age.

20:04 So don't feel insecure about it. I'm sure you're really mature for how old you are, right? So I'll flip it on her. And instead of making it about me, I make it about her and how I assume this is reframing. I'm interpreting that she's feeling insecure about it, but I'll like tell her, hey, it's cool. It's okay that you're young. I'm sure, you know, you're really mature. And actually that girlfriend that I had who was 23, she did that exact same thing to me. I mean, this chick was the hottest girl in the club and all the guys wanted her.

20:33 And then I rolled up on her and she immediately started testing me on my age. So I agreed and amplified, told the joke about the walker, said my hip is going to go out, say I'm so old, I fart dust. I think during that conversation, I was like, sometimes I lose my train of, wait, what was I saying? I think I said that. It's a joke I often say. And then when she said like, dude, you're too old for me. I was like, listen, you're really mature.

20:55 Like talking to you right now, you seem good to go. And I'm sure, you know what time you're going to get even more mature. So don't worry about it. It's all good. And then even if she's like, no, no, no, no, like you're too old for me. And I'd be like, don't you think age is just a number? If two people relate, wouldn't you agree that age doesn't matter? Who would argue with that? Right? So she's like, yeah, that's fine. And then like I yanked her number and she became my girlfriend.

21:18 So this is the way to own it. You just like, it's no big deal. I don't give a shit about it. So if you give a shit about it, that's your issue. It's all about you. It's all about the other, which is another frame control podcast I recorded a few months ago. All right. And lastly, guys, the biggest point of all is what's called mentoring. So mentoring means you're basically teaching the girl something. So a lot of times when I would be hanging out with these girls, I would mentor them.

21:45 Now, there's a difference between mentoring and being the hero, Captain Save-A-Ho, or as we call in the industry, a white knight. That's not what I'm talking about. You're not her wall to bitch at. You're not going to rescue her. What I'm saying is you teach her things. So I would teach them how to surf sometimes. I teach them how to ride those like longboard skateboards. I've taught a lot of girls how to shoot a bow and arrow. And I've taught a lot of girls how to reframe their mind in order to be more positive.

22:14 And this is a huge one. So one of the reasons I've been so successful with women is because I'm extremely passionate, as I'm sure you are. You wouldn't be listening by now if you weren't, about this self-development thing. So what I do is when the woman comes into my life, usually younger girls are still pretty negative. They're still locked into ego. So what I do is I systematically present them with this new philosophy on life. And it's very positive. It's very love-based. I talk to them about the law of attraction.

22:43 I do this thing called messages in water, which basically says that water changes depending on your thoughts. So what are your thoughts doing to your body? These kinds of metaphysical type things, I'll teach them all this philosophy like Buddhism, Taoism, all these like spiritual truths that I've discovered over my own journey of developing myself. And in so doing, they become ridiculously attracted. Because why is that? Why is that? Because when they buy into your frame, then they get more attracted to you. What's stronger than buying into a frame of life philosophy, buying into a frame of positivity, things are good.

23:21 Like the universe is benevolent is what I always tell them. And I teach them about the ego. I teach them why they're negative, why it feels good, neuropathic pathways in their brain, the pain body, which is a podcast I just released on Monday. Teach them about all this stuff. Then they just get so bought into my reality, they fall in love so damn quickly. Because I mean, dude, what's more worldly, sophisticated, masculine, confident, and older gentlemen than that is having a good philosophy on life, bettering yourself.

23:52 So that's one of the most powerful ways I would always get girls to fall for me. Having a little bit of a beer gut, looking like a chicken McNugget with tits, having crow's feet, all that shit doesn't matter when you're able to pull her into your strong reality and make her feel good from having been around you. So you guys, the most important thing, if you take one damn thing away from this is this, you being an older man is actually more attractive. So you need to fucking own it.

24:18 If you have any doubt whatsoever, if you show insecurity, if you're like, well, so like, is it okay that I'm like 40 and you're 25, you do that shit, she's fucking gone. No, it's not okay. And it had nothing to do with your age. It had everything to do with your insecurity about your age. That's the only issue. So own the shit out of it. I'll tell you what, like, if my current girlfriend left me, I'd be back in the bars and the night clubs yanking 21 year olds all day long.

24:44 So it really is a non-issue because I completely own it. And frankly, I feel more attractive the older I get. Every experience I have, every podcast I drop, every new client I get, every coaching call I do, every NLP technique that I'm able to do on my clients, I grow. And furthermore, challenges make me grow. So I'm only becoming more and more attractive. And this is the way you need to reframe it in your brain. So if you feel that you're creepy because you're old, if you feel like, oh, those good times are behind me, man, it's all fucking in your head.

25:15 And the reason you're not getting results is because it's in your head. You've convinced yourself that now that you're 30 years old, you're unattractive. So what happens? That's reflected in your body language, your mannerisms, your tonality. And yeah, you are unattractive because you believe it. But if you could reframe it in your head, and if you want to work with me and get intrusive on it, literally remove that fucking belief like a splinter from your brain. Hit me up. But if you can just reframe it in your head and just believe that you're a champion because you're older, everything changes.

25:46 Girls will be super attracted to you. Yes, even the young ones. And no, you're not creepy for it. I've hooked up with girls who had dads that were younger than me, like many times. I don't consider it an issue. I'm like, hey, I'll teach that little fellow, your dad, that little guy, my little brother, tons of stuff. I have no problem with that. It's only a problem if you make it a problem. This is what you guys need to realize about women. Anything about you. And back to Shane, right?

26:10 The blind guy. If he just owns the fact that he's blind and says, yo, I'm blind, but I'm still kicking ass in this life anyway. If he fully embodies it, is confident about it and says, dude, I don't give a fuck. This is awesome. I'm killing it in life. Despite being blind, he's going to get more girls than even I could because I'm not blind. And I know that's hard to believe. But when you have a limitation, quote unquote, and you own it, it becomes an asset.

26:36 See how that works? If you have a limitation being short, fat, bald, look like a chicken McNugget with tits, have a penis so small that you ask girls to tickle your pickle. You're so bad at baseball. You couldn't hit water if you fell out of a boat. Any of these perceived limitations that you have, bro, that's all on you, man. It's your fucking issue. It has nothing to do with how attractive you are. I'm just unattractive, Mark. I just, I can't. I can't. Stop it right now.

27:02 Come over here, you motherfucker. Let me smack you upside the head. Get confident with who you are. Own it. You're older. Good. Good. You're wise. You're worldly. You're sophisticated. You have resources. You're a survivor. You're a fucking champion. And girls are attracted to that. So if you take nothing else from this, take that. But if you want to get on a free one-on-one consultation with me and have me go into that brain of yours and remove those BS belief systems that have been holding you back, probably for years, because you've been telling yourself this bullshit, even when you weren't old, you're like, oh, older guys are gross.

27:38 And you bought into it. And now you are an older guy. And now you're like, oh, shit, I'm gross because I'm an older guy. It's bullshit, bro. It's bullshit. It's somebody else's belief system. Belief system. BS. Belief system. Because that's exactly what they are. They're fucking BS. They're illusions. So don't buy into them. All right, gentlemen, that's it for me in this podcast. I do appreciate you listening. As I said in the previous podcast, I have some big, big things. Big, big news dropping on Friday.

28:04 So I want you guys to tune in for that. I'm going to reveal this gigantic secret. And if you miss it, you're going to miss everything, man. You'll never get women again. You'll never be confident again. So please show up on Friday. Check out what I have to say. It's a really big announcement. And I look forward to sharing it with you guys. But in the meantime, remember, man, no matter what your limitation is, as long as you own it, as long as you're comfortable with it, as long as you accept it, girls will accept it too.

28:31 And in fact, they'll become more attracted to you because of it. All right, gentlemen, I want to thank you again for listening. And I will see you in the next episode. I'll see you in the next episode. I'll see you in the next episode. Thank you.

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