Here's a MASSIVE SHOT OF SELF CONFIDENCE to Make You More Attractive to Girls

0:00 Welcome to the Unapologetic Man Podcast, the only podcast that's all about self-improvement, confidence, success, women, and being a man without making any apologies for it. What is up, gentlemen? Thank you for tuning in to another episode of the UMP. Happy Thursday. I hope this week has treated you well so far. And going into the weekend, I want to give you a massive shot of confidence. In fact, we are going to overemphasize confidence and give you a massive shot of arrogance just to get you better calibrated because a lot of you guys fall too far left of that calibration where you're not confident enough.

0:44 Don't love yourself. Don't feel like you are your own hero. So I'm going to smack you upside the head today, make you feel like a goddamn champion that any girl would be privileged to be with. Before I jump into the content, I want to read yet another review of my coaching program. This is from a dude named Nick. What is up, Nick? Just graduated my program, and here's what Nick has to say. Signing up for Mark's coaching program made me wish I had done it seven years ago.

1:10 As someone who grew up dangerously antisocial and always relied on the internet to meet women, the coaching program helped me become the social man I never knew I could be and opened the door for the quality of women I've always wanted to attract into my life. Going through Mark's program, the NLP and the steps he outlines for the 12 weeks has literally changed my brain to the point where I genuinely enjoy the thrill of approaching women regardless of the outcome. I used to dread missing opportunities to meet girls because of my lack of social skills, but now I have the confidence and social skills to shoot my shot in any situation and to know that I gave my best effort despite whatever fear I used to have.

1:50 When I hopped on the phone with Mark, I told him, bro, I want 10s. And I remember that, Nick. You're like, I want that dime piece, that absolute perfect 10. And caring for, Nick says, and he kept his promise in showing me exactly what it would take to get them, and the hard work is paying off. And I know, guys, from my conversations with Nick, the fella is absolutely pulling those dime pieces, bro. I'm so proud of you. Like, he had nothing before, and now the dude is a 10-magnet.

2:19 We should make that his nickname. 10-magnet Nick continues on. My struggles with women used to keep me up at night, and now thanks to Mark's program, I know I have what it takes to find my queen because I've put in the work thanks to his guidance. Nick, you're our goddamn champion. I'm so proud of you for having the courage, for having the intestinal fortitude to step into your fear and realize that fear is false evidence appearing real, just like you and I spoke about. And now you are pulling those 10s because you believe in yourself, you have the confidence, which I'm going to give to you guys, you listening today.

2:54 So first and foremost, a lot of you champions are way too hard on yourself, man. And usually this comes from your parents, right? Usually your parents were critical of you. They maybe insulted you. Some of you were abused, both verbally as well as physically. And what happens is in childhood, we actually take on the belief systems about ourselves, oftentimes from our parents. And we do this in order to get into rapport with them. So let's say, for example, your mom was super critical of you, right?

3:24 Like you couldn't do anything right. Or your dad would tell you you were stupid. Or your brother even, which happened to me, would continuously tell you you're selfish, you're a piece of shit, you're no good to society, which is what happened to me. What happens is we literally have a survival mechanism inside of us that makes us want to get into rapport with our parents, our relatives, our siblings, as well as society as a whole. So we take on their belief systems about ourselves in order to be in rapport with them so they won't essentially leave us, so that our love is guaranteed.

3:59 And what's interesting is you can actually have a program that you got from your mom, which happened to me, by the way. No fault of her. She's an amazing woman, totally inadvertent. But I got a program which was I'm not lovable. So what happened is I continued to get into relationships where I wasn't being loved. I continued to talk myself out of getting the kind of girl I really wanted to get until I was able to remove that belief system with NLP. And that's partially what we do in my three-month coaching program to realize, like, I am lovable.

4:30 I am a great person and I basically dropped that meta program that my mom inadvertently gave me, my brother purposely gave me, my dad died when I was 10, and that played into it as well. So all of us, including you, bro, like, you've had a tumultuous past. There's literally nobody out there that has basically walked through the rainstorm of life and hasn't been hit by at least several droplets. The problem is most people don't work on that stuff. They push it away or think that the results they're getting is some kind of destiny or some kind of fate.

5:04 But really, the results they're getting is based on their own internal programming because you are going to manifest what's going on inside your head. So initially, you have to question those things that you say about yourself and listen to your voice inside your head very clearly. It's usually the voice of, like I said, your relatives, your parents, your siblings, coaches, teachers, anybody from your youth, even asshole friends in your youth who had an ego and who were probably just trying to cut you down because they were peanut butter and jealous of you or they were threatened by you.

5:36 But the problem is, is that these poor kids, including you, including myself, including all of us, go through life just getting hammered, especially when we're in our childhood. And then for the rest of our lives, we're just hitting print on a printer and getting the same results over and over again. And that's why a lot of you guys feel stuck in your rut. You're like, I'm not confident. I literally give myself like a seven maybe. Why would that girl be with me when she could be with that better guy?

6:03 I'm not tall enough. I'm too fat. I'm not interesting enough. I don't know what to say if I approach her. All these things are belief systems that are derived of your experience and your experience will create the belief systems and then the belief systems will further create more experiences. So the first step to get your confidence up with women is to simply question those things that you believe. Like literally, you have the power to reframe anything. And reframing is one of the central tenets of my teaching, which is choose what you want to believe because your beliefs are illusions anyway.

6:38 What you believe about yourself is an illusion. Whether it's a positive illusion or a negative illusion, it's all just an illusion. But the reality is what's produced out of those belief systems. So wouldn't you agree that it's wise to choose belief systems that are conducive, helpful, supportive to getting the results that you want to get? Since the belief systems create the reality, change them. Question them. Why do I believe that? Like the next time you insult yourself, which I know a lot of you guys do, listen to your language.

7:10 As an NLP coach, I listen very carefully to my client's language and I create NLP protocols to remove those belief systems, remove traumas, remove metaprograms and schemas in order to bring them into a healthier type of mindset, which again is just an illusion. Belief system, BS, bullshit. It's an illusion. But again, the result is what's real and the result is what you want to create by having a largely positive belief system about yourself. Okay, so the first step is to simply watch your thoughts and question them.

7:44 And the second step is when a negative thought comes in, say, no, no, no, no, erase that. Okay, this is from NLP, again, Neuro Linguistic Programming, where if a thought comes in and you say the quote, erase that, the subconscious mind will not buy into it and it will choose a better belief system. Okay, so you're working on a project, you make a mistake, right? And you're like, God, I'm an idiot. No, no, no, no, erase that. I'm working on myself. I'm getting better. I have a lot of talents and I'm going to get better.

8:13 Okay, so you erase the previous belief system, replace it with the better one. And you got to watch yourself like a hawk, man, because those meta programs that, as I said, other people gave you in your childhood are extremely insidious, which means they have a sticking power. And while the work of catching those belief systems and erasing them in the moment is very powerful, the most powerful way is to get intrusive and literally remove them with NLP protocols, which is why I'm such a big proponent of NLP, specifically when it comes to dating.

8:46 Because when it comes to dating girls, her attraction for you is based on what's going on inside your head. Now you may ask, well, how could that be? The reason it is is because your voice, your tonality, your body language, the way you hold yourself, the simple way you walk communicates what's going on inside your head. Women are programmed to pick up on the belief systems of an alpha male and an alpha male always has very positive belief systems. So when you have negative belief systems, it's going to be reflected in how you behave, how you speak to her, how you walk, the very way you carry yourself, and she's going to lose attraction for you.

9:23 And this is why in my coaching program, when we start rewriting those belief systems, my guys come up to me and they're like, bro, I've never had this many girls react to me this way before. And I'm like, yeah, it makes sense because you're changing what's going on inside your head. Okay, so going back, first of all, we watch our belief systems. Secondly, we don't buy into them. And thirdly, we reframe them, reframe them. So I can reframe anything. In fact, I do it all the time in this podcast.

9:50 If you listen closely, you'll hear me do it. The other day I was talking about how I'm getting older. I'm 45, going to be 50 one day, 60, 70, 80, 90. And my goal is to be a centurion. Is that a centurion or is that a Roman gladiator? Well, whatever. I'm going to hit over 100 years old. And it's because my belief system is about age that I'm going to hit 100 years old. I said in a previous podcast, I'm like, bro, I'm only going to get stronger because I'm continuing to work on myself.

10:17 I'm going to be that dude on the front of men's health who's 100 years old and fucking shredded. Freaking gills going down each side of my body because I'm goddamn about ripped, bro. Because I'm ripped right now. I'm going to continue to be ripped. And it's all about reframing. Believe what you want to believe. Here's the nature of reality. Your thoughts create your reality. You have no idea what a powerful creator you are. So don't create bullshit. Don't create negativity towards yourself. Choose a better path. Can you choose a better path?

10:47 Yes. Belief systems are decisions. Belief systems are illusions. Self-talk is in your control. Just like the Bible says, as well as many other religions, your word is creative. Your word creates reality. And Jesus, who I believe was a master, an enlightened master, just like Buddha, just like Lao Tzu, as well as the leaders of all religions around the world, including Ja from the religion that created Reggae and Rastafari. By the way, check this out. Real quick side note. All names for God include A in them.

11:21 Isn't that a trip? God, Allah, Krishna, Ja, Buddha. All of them include that because the frequency of A is a high vibrating frequency. And that's why oftentimes I'll meditate to that sound. Awww. Right? You'll hear people meditate to that. All names for God have the sound awe in it. And that points to the power of the word. That points to the power that you have. You are a very powerful creator. And I don't want you to underemphasize or misunderstand that. That everything around you right now in your life, you created it first with a thought.

11:58 Look at anything you have in your life. Your car, your bicycle, your clothing, the girl you may be seeing. Whatever it is, it first started as a thought. And then you think about it enough, thoughts cross over and stack upon each other to finally create reality, solid reality. So again, thoughts are just BS, belief systems. It's just an illusion. So choose the best one for you. Okay, repeating once again, catch your bad belief systems. When they come in, say erase that. Choose a better way. The next thing I want you to realize is that you have come very far, my brother.

12:32 Smack yourself on the ass. You are a goddamn champion. I want you to look in the mirror every night before you go to bed and every morning when you wake up. Look yourself in the eyes and tell yourself, you are my hero. You have come through so much pain. You have persevered through so much struggle. You have grown so much since you started this life that I'm proud of you, bro. Uncle Mark Singh, your big brother, is proud of you. And if I could see you right now, I'd give you a big hug.

13:01 But I don't need to do that because I want you to give yourself a hug. Smack yourself on the ass so hard when the concussion hits, your balls fly up and hit the brim of your hat. Because you are a goddamn legend and you need to be proud of yourself. Look how far you've come. How do I know you've come far, by the way? Am I just saying this to anybody? Fuck no, dude. You're listening to this podcast. So I know you're into self-development. I know you want to improve.

13:24 And because you want to improve, I know you've improved already. And it's not just to get your dick wet, is it? You want a better life. You want to make more money. You want to be the best version of yourself. And that's why you resonate with me just like I resonate with you. And by the way, if you haven't signed up yet for a free one-on-one breakthrough session with me, kind of hurt me, bro. You kind of stabbed me in the heart, dog. Like, I feel like there's blood swooshing in and out of my heart right now.

13:50 Kind of got past the goalie, man. I'm shedding a tear in my non-shooting eye. And tonight, because you haven't signed up, I'm going to cry on the corner of my bed in the cannonball position for two weeks because you've cut me so deep. But real talk, man. Like, if you relate to me, I relate to you. You can get on a free call with me. And we will talk about the bullshit you have in your head that other people gave you before you could defend yourself from it and talk about how long it would take you to rectify those belief systems just like we did for Nick.

14:19 And you, too, will be pulling tens just like Nick is. He's dating his dream woman. And you could do that, too, if you just have the intestinal fortitude to go into pain willingly and realize that, again, fear is false evidence appearing real. For most of my guys, they're like, man, I don't even know what I was afraid of. I don't even know why I procrastinated on this. I don't know why I didn't do this sooner, just like Nick said. He wished he did it seven years ago.

14:44 So the point here is to look how far you've come. Look how far you've come. And when you're climbing a mountain, it's always good to be aware of how far the peak is. But you also have to look back and congratulate yourself on how far you've climbed already. And for each of you guys, I know you've climbed far. And some of you guys have been through hell. And yet you still don't give yourself the credit. You still don't give yourself that pat on the back. You dwell on what went wrong.

15:11 You dwell on the mistakes you made. Tell you what, brother, the mistakes you made taught you something. And the whole purpose of life is to come into this incarnation and make mistakes so that we learn or more accurately remember what we really are and wake up to that. So your path to mastery includes making mistakes. Shit, I've made tons of mistakes, man. Just today, it's kind of funny. I was putting the bike rack onto my car and the lug nut wouldn't go in. So I kept trying to push it in one direction, but it was just making it tighter.

15:41 And I was like trying to loosen it. And I kept pushing and pushing and pushing like a fucking knuckle dragging idiot that I was at that time. And I was like, oh, I should probably pull this out. And the second I did, the holes lined up and I was able to put the lug nut in. But, dude, we all do stupid shit. We all do. We're fallible. We're human. The real question is, can you forgive yourself and reframe those things which you say are negative about you and look down the mountain rather than up and see how far you've come?

16:09 The next thing I want you to realize is that 99.99% of guys are not listening to this podcast right now. You know what they're doing? They're masturbating. They're eating shitty food. They're watching Netflix. They're damn well scrolling through Instagram, Facebook, and not doing shit with their life. Just by the very nature of you listening to this podcast, and better yet, you legends who have been through my coaching program or who are in it right now, dude, you have such a leg up on every other dude out there, I cannot even explain it to you.

16:45 Very few men are working on themselves. So while you say to yourself, oh, she'd probably be more interested in another dude, like I'm not good enough for her. Are you serious right now, bro, Tendo? Can you honestly look me in the face and tell me that other dudes are better for her while you're sitting here listening to this, improving yourself, and probably listening to a bunch of my other shit, maybe even investing in yourself in different ways, and are considering joining my program? Don't bullshit me, Theodore Roosevelt.

17:13 I know the fucking heart that beats in your chest, and I'm proud of you, and I want you to be proud of yourself, because girls dream of a dude like you who's ambitious enough to invest in himself in this way. And yes, you are investing in yourself already. Even if you're not joining my coaching program, you're investing time into this. And I can almost guarantee for 99% of you guys, this isn't the first episode you've listened to. This isn't the first self-help or self-development thing that you've done.

17:41 You're into this shit. You probably work out. You probably want to treat her well. You've probably read books about how to go down on a girl to give her smashing orgasms, how to maintain a healthy relationship, how to be more attractive to women so that you can give them an experience that they've dreamed of having since they were a little girl. I have my clients tell me all the time, and I've heard from women thousands of times, they literally say, Thank you for that romantic experience.

18:08 Thank you for seducing me the way you did. You have no idea how unbelievably insecure and clueless most dudes are when it comes to women. And sure, you may be a little bit clueless yourself, and that's why you're listening to this podcast. But the fact that you're trying to improve yourself and show ambition, ambition is the most attractive thing to a woman. So congratulate yourself on the fact that you are working on yourself. You're trying to be better because that is the most attractive thing in the eyes of women.

18:38 The most attractive thing. Ambition. Trying to become better. Not just accepting the hand you were dealt, accepting the programs that your relatives, parents, and siblings gave you and saying, Well, this is just what I'm supposed to be. 55 pounds overweight, working a shit job, and eating ho-hos, ding-dongs, and dip-dips, and looking like a chicken McNugget with tits. Oh, well, that's just my destiny. You're like, Hell no, man. I'm going to improve myself. I'm going to make myself into the best man I can be. And that is extremely attractive to women.

19:10 So the next time you're like, Oh, she'd probably want to be with a guy who's better. You're the better option, bro J. Simpson. You're the champion who every single girl is looking for. And here's your shot of arrogance. Because I need to get you calibrated. Because a lot of you guys are way too far left. And I need to get you way far right so that after a few days, you land in the middle. Which is confidence with humility. And I'm going to drop a podcast on humility on Monday.

19:37 So stay tuned for that. But here's the counterbalance. When you walk into the gym. When you walk into the supermarket. When you walk into Starbucks. When you walk into the nightclubs and bars. Wherever you happen to be, you are the fucking shit. You are the champion. You are the legend. You are the girl magnet. Every single girl wants you. And think about all the reasons every single girl should want you. You will lick her down there like no other dude can. You will treat her like gold.

20:07 You will show her the best experience. You will make her laugh. Even if you have to steal some of my content. Go ahead, bro. It's all for you, dog. Take it and make that girl laugh. Make her have that experience. And you're going to be like all my clients are. Where girls literally thank you. Thank you for giving me that experience. It was so romantic. It was so amazing. She wants to be taken through that rollercoaster of emotions. And when I say rollercoaster, I'm not saying like make them bad.

20:34 What I'm saying is like ups and downs. Intrigue, curiosity, slight frustration. This rollercoaster, quote unquote, that we do in my program. And what I teach you guys to do in this podcast. Bro, there's like 300 and what? 340 episodes, something like that. No, 370 I think this is. 370 episodes of stuff you could go learn. And for God's sakes, if you join my program, there's accountability there. There's NLP transformation there. It's not just information, which a lot of you guys are good at doing. You're great at getting the information.

21:04 It's not information. It's transformation. The transformation comes because I get my hands on you. And I change you into that alpha that you always knew you were. That dude is inside of you. And yes, you can show that to a woman even without having to go deep into your NLP right now by just deciding to show that to a woman and feel that way. Wake up in the morning and say, bro, you're my hero. Good job, man. I'm proud of you. The hell you've been through.

21:31 The perseverance you've shown. Your never quit attitude. I'm so proud of you, brother. And I love you. And you say that to yourself every single day. I love you, man. I'm proud of you, brother. Keep going, man. And at the same time, you don't bitch out. When a challenge comes, when something you want to accomplish lands at your feet, you say, I will die before I quit. I will never give up. I am never out of the fight. And that's the heart that you have inside of you that any woman would be lucky to be with.

22:00 You are the guy that there's a girl out there right now dreaming of you, brother. Your future wife is out there right now. And if you don't want to get married, your future soulmate is out there right now. What are you doing to become the man that she deserves? I think you're doing a lot and I'm proud of you and you should be proud of yourself. So that when you walk around the corner and see that girl, I want you to feel that, dude, I'm the prize.

22:25 This girl is going to be lucky to speak to me. Do you guys think when a girl rejects me, which by the way, it still happens to me. Make no mistake. I still get rejected. Do you think when a girl rejects me, I scamper off with my tail between my legs like a little punk and feel bad for myself and say, oh, I'm not good looking. My nose is too big. My wrists are too skinny. I have some varicose veins in my right leg. No. I'm like, dude, her loss.

22:50 She just had the opportunity to meet a goddamn legend, a living champion of the highest degree and she blew it. Her filtration system is broken. She didn't see what was standing before her. And I guarantee you, she missed having the best conversation of her life with the dude. Her fault does nothing to do with me. Next, please. Because I am the champion. And brother, you are the champion. Think about all your great qualities. Think about all the amazing things you've been through. All the things you've learned.

23:21 Think about your good heart, which I know 99% of you guys have. You have a good fucking heart. You will defend that girl. You will protect that girl. You will treat her like gold. If you have a family, you will die for your kids at the drop of a hat. I know you would. You wouldn't be listening, whatever, 22 minutes in unless you would. So feel confident. Feel arrogant about that. I'm the best motherfucker in this place. And when you walk in that nightclub or bar, I want you to feel like it's your house.

23:49 You are the emcee. You are responsible for everybody's fun. You are the alpha. Because alpha males, especially in today's age, are so goddamn rare. The mass pussification of the American, Canadian, English, and Australian male is saddening and extremely depressing. But we, the unapologetic man army, have the opportunity to go against that trend and be that one dude in a thousand who takes it to the next level, who any girl would be pumped to be with. That's your shot of arrogance for today, bro. I want you to feel like you're the shit.

24:26 I want you to look at all your awesome qualities and just dwell on them for the rest of the day, for the rest of the weekend. Just be like, yeah, man, I am a good dude. I am a legend. I am smart. I am hardworking. I am trying to better myself. I am ambitious. I'm willing to invest in myself. I'm willing to do the work. I don't have fear that prevents me from doing this shit. I have the heart of a warrior. Because you do have that heart, brother, and I want you to love yourself and respect yourself and be your own hero, that unapologetic alpha silverback that you and I both know who you are.

24:58 I'm proud of you, man. Be proud of yourself. One thing I want to say at the end of this is there's a lot of people suffering. So here's what I've been doing. I've been choosing a person every day and sending them unconditional love, not by walking up and telling them, hey, I love you, man, which I suppose you could do, but just privately. And I did it today. I went mountain biking and there was a guy, he was a trash man. He was changing out the trash at one of the parks that I crossed through when I was mountain biking.

25:26 And I sat there looking at him and you could tell, you know, the dude's struggling, man. He's overweight. Doesn't seem very happy. Doesn't seem like he's making a lot of money. He just seemed kind of like he was dragging. And I just touched my heart, man, with my right hand. And I said, I wish you the best, brother. I love you, man. And I wish you nothing but the best. I hope you have a great day, man. Much love. And you don't have to say it to anybody, but just do that.

25:48 Because when you start sending that out, when you start giving that positivity to other people, it's going to be much easier to give that to yourself. Because remember, man, you're a soul too. And you deserve respect. You deserve appreciation. You deserve your own love. And so many of you dudes don't even love yourself. You don't even respect who you are. You treat yourself worse than your worst enemy would treat you. What would you do if somebody treated you the way you treat yourself? You'd get rid of them.

26:15 So get rid of them right now. And forgive yourself for not knowing that you were just echoing the voice of your brother, sister, mom, dad, relatives, uncles, whoever, teacher, coach. It doesn't matter. You're echoing somebody else's bullshit. Stop doing that to yourself. And start feeling like the champion that you are. It's a decision. It's a reframe. You have the ability to choose your beliefs. And your beliefs will always create your reality. So see what happens now, brother. Give that love to one person today. Be compassionate.

26:47 And remember that you are a soul too. And you deserve your love. I love you, man. I wish you nothing but the best. Thank you for taking the time to listen to my words. Thank you to those of you who have left me a review. Please email me at coachmarksing at gmail.com. And I'll send you a bunch of cool shit. And thank you for signing up to my coaching program, my current clients, as well as previous clients. Absolutely love you guys. And I think the world of you guys, man.

27:11 You know how much I admire you. I'm in awe of you guys. I tell my girlfriend, Marissa, every night, like, I love these guys, dude. Like, I want to do anything for these boys. I would die for these guys, man, because they're my soldiers, dude. They're warriors. And every guy in my program just has that heart. And I tear up sometimes, man, just thinking about them and seeing them almost seemingly going through puberty. The change is so quick and immediate. And they become this alpha girl magnet.

27:38 And the second I meet a guy in the breakthrough session, I see him how he could be, not how he is. And every single guy turns into that guy. And that's my purpose here. And I send all y'all love. Even those guys I'll never meet, I love you, man. I wish you nothing but the best. Keep pushing. You are a champion. You are a warrior. Choose what life you want to have. You get the life you choose. And I want you to choose now. I drop podcasts on Mondays and Thursdays.

28:02 I got another awesome one dropping on Mondays. So stay tuned for that. And I will see you in the next episode. I'll see you in the next episode.

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