How to Build SEXual Tension With Girls in The 1st Conversation!

0:00 Welcome to the Unapologetic Man Podcast. The only podcast that's all about self-improvement, confidence, success, women, and being a man without making any apologies for it. What is up, gentlemen? Thank you for tuning in to another episode of the UMP. I really do appreciate you. Today is Monday, and I hope to add a little pop in your giddy-up, a little twinkle in your eye, and a little glimmer to your smile by talking about one of the most important things I can think of to getting girls super, ridiculously, uncontrollably attracted to you, and that is sexual tension, tension, tension, tension.

0:43 This shit is so unbelievably powerful. I want to get into the content pretty quickly, but guys, I just got the most epic review ever that landed in my inbox about 12 hours ago. This is from Paul. Paul, what is up, my friend? I'm going to read it real quick, guys, and then we're going to go ahead and jump into the content, all right? Let me flex up a little bit, bro. This is how I put food on the table, is by getting, guys, ridiculously amazing results like I did for Paul in my three-month total solution, NLP-based coaching program.

1:13 So let's get into it. Paul says, Hey, Mark, it's been a little over a month since I've graduated from the program, and I just had to give you a little update because it's been such a 180 for me since I joined. No joke. As you already know, just over four months ago, I thought I was hopeless with women and couldn't even approach Helen Keller with a bag over my head. Since putting in work with your program, it's been a complete mental transformation, and I have so much more confidence now to go up to basically whoever I want and just start talking without any care of the outcome.

1:45 That's right, Paul. That's what I'm talking about. I can now fully trust my instincts on how to attract women, and the more I practice it, it just becomes even more effortless. A month post-program, and I can honestly say I've got some kind of aura that I can't explain, and some women even just talk to me on their own. Last weekend, some girl at the bar just randomly pulled me over and asked if I wanted to make out. I had to oblige. The same weekend, I got another girl's number at the beach by mentioning a comment, and she stopped me mid-walk to talk.

2:15 I'm getting laid weekly, and my mindset is a total transformation to where my buddies notice as well. It's no longer negative thanks to NLP. I can't thank you enough, Mark. I'd be lying if I said I wasn't at least slightly skeptical at first, but I can wholeheartedly say that your program is 100% legit and completely worth it. I recommend it to any guy struggling with girls slash mindset like I was just a few short months ago. Let me know if you're ever in LA, and we'll hook up.

2:43 Paul, that's honestly one of my favorite testimonials I ever get because you actually talked about the results you got. You talked about what you were like before and tangibles that guys can actually benefit from and the NLP and everything like that. Brother, I really appreciate that, and guys, I can do it for you too. You may think you're a hopeless case, or even for some of you, you think you're just fine the way you are, but I want to ask you, are you getting the kinds of results with women that you really want?

3:10 If you're not, let's get on a free one-on-one breakthrough session. We're going to talk about you. We're going to talk about your problems. I may even do a little coaching in there as I can't help it, and this is basically to see if you want to join my three-month coaching program, and if I think I can help you. And I will only take guys who I'm 100% sure I can help. That's why I have the reputation I do. That's why I get the results I do. So let's check it out, man.

3:34 Let's see if I can help you get to those ultimate goals with women, just nines and tens all day long and twice on Sunday like Paul is doing. And he's like, I'm getting laid so much. My penis looks like a shriveled burn victim hiding in the corner of my underwear, and he's not banging canyon mules ever. He's getting bonafide dime pieces. So once again, guys, if you want to get on that call, just go to my website, click on coaching, fill in the quick application, and you and I will get on that call together.

4:01 So sexual tension. All right. In my coaching program, I teach this thing called the four pillars of attraction. Now, we do a super ridiculously deep dive on each of the pillars, and I've covered some of them a little bit in this podcast, just the tip of the iceberg, if I'm being honest. But we do super deep dives on them, and the four pillars are first pillar is frame control, second pillar is value, third pillar is sexual tension, and the fourth pillar is qualifying. Now, sexual tension, I have spoken about a little bit before on this podcast, but it's been at least a year, probably two.

4:38 Since I've done it, so it definitely warrants a revisit. So if you're talking to a girl, and you get three of the four pillars in, or even two of the four pillars in, you'll probably be able to yank a phone number. But the way the best phone numbers come is when you're able to get this sexual tension in. Now, before I jump into how to develop sexual tension with a woman, I have to communicate to you guys that you only do this when she's pretty damn attracted to you.

5:07 Now, you get her attracted to you with the first two pillars of attraction, which is frame control and value. And value is basically saying funny shit, doing what I call gambits, doing pre-can techniques that I teach my clients to get her attracted to you. And then once you can tell she's pretty damn attracted to you, you can do the other two pillars, which again is sexual tension and qualifying. Today, we're talking about the third pillar, sexual tension. So I cannot stress this enough, guys. You will blow yourself out so hard, your pants will fly off when the concussion hits if you try to use this stuff on a girl who is not attracted to you.

5:43 So you need to get those signs of attraction first. Let's review them real quick. You guys should know these. Playing with her hair, leaning in, licking her lips, general deer in the headlights look in her eyes, which means dilated pupils, flush temples, touching your face, touching you, laughing at jokes that aren't funny, asking your personal attentions, jumping in the air and trying to slide onto your penis. These are all signs that she's super attracted to you. Once I get two, three, four of those signs, I prefer about four.

6:14 I want to know with certainty that she's attracted to me. So I'll get like four of those signs. Then I'm going to do some sexual tension. Now, to further preface what I'm going to introduce to you in this episode, I have to say that while it may sound cheesy in certain aspects, while it may sound like I'm going way overboard in certain aspects, you have to understand that she is attracted. An attracted woman wants to get into the space with you. She wants to be playful.

6:41 She wants to pretend. She wants to talk about sex, but only with the dude who she's attracted to. A lot of guys get mad at women because they say, like, why do women always shut down when we talk about sex? And why do women say that they want to be handled, that they want to be, I've heard girls say this. I'm not saying it. Girls said it. They said, I want to be thrown up against the wall and made out with and just fucked right there on the spot.

7:04 But that's what due to they're attracted to. So guys get mad because they're like, Mark, I threw this girl against the wall and I made out with her and tried to fuck her and she slapped me. What happened? She wasn't attracted to you, bro-tendo. Try to have some social intelligence bro-tator cuff. You got to read the woman, Theodore Roosevelt. Otherwise, she's not going to be into this bro-teen shake. So you got to understand when she's attracted and I'm actually dropping a podcast on Thursday about what I call with it-ness, how to read people, how to see if they are into you, if you're doing a good job in the conversation.

7:37 Definitely stay tuned for that one. So to reiterate, you have to have them attracted to you, then you can deploy this shit. Okay, so I'm going to give you four really good strategies to introduce the sexual tension in conversation. There's definitely more techniques that I teach based on this, but this is a good introduction. Okay, first one is Kissing University. I absolutely love to do this. This really gets the sexual momentum going and it's about something slightly innocent such as kissing and I can usually kiss the girl right off the bat when I introduce this.

8:08 So as I'm talking to her, I got those signs of attraction. She's definitely into it. I'll be like, so hey, I got to be honest with you about something before we continue this conversation. Now, the way I say that, boys, is basically throwing bait out there to intrigue her so she wants to hear more. Okay, so I'm like, hey, there's really something you should know about me before we continue this conversation. And she's like, what? What is it? And you'd be like, well, you sure you can handle it?

8:33 It's pretty crazy. She'll be like, yeah, I can handle it. Be like, well, you should know that in 2008, I was the chancellor of Kissing University. I was head of admissions, so we only let in the absolute best students. So my question for you is this, Kelly, and if you say, no, I'm afraid we can't talk anymore, do you think you have what it takes to get into such a prestigious university? Okay, now she's cracking up. She's like, oh, my God, this is fucking awesome. She's going to say yes.

9:00 Now you're getting her to jump through your hoops. You're getting her to comply with you. You're getting her to qualify herself to you. And you say, oh, yeah, so like what's so good about your kissing? Now, many times, boys, what do you think a lot of girls will do? She's going to fucking kiss you right there and then. And or she's going to explain how she's such a good kisser. Now, if a girl is attracted to you, she's going to be excited for this opportunity to seduce you, to talk sexually to you, to help you imagine how awesome it would be to kiss her.

9:32 And, guys, this absolutely explodes attraction. One side point I want to make is a lot of guys come to me and say, yo, I get phone numbers, but they don't text me back. The reason they don't text you back is because you're not building enough attraction. And sexual tension is like gasoline on a fire when it comes to attraction. You got to get the attraction first. You got to get that fire lit. It's going pretty good. But then you do this kind of shit. It's like throwing a gallon of napalm on the thing, bro.

9:59 It just explodes. Like girls will lose their shooter marble. They'll lose their precarious sense of their own composure when you do this shit. OK, so back to my point number one, kissing university. OK, I was the chancellor of kissing university in 2008. We only took the absolute best students. Do you think you have what it takes to get into such a prestigious university? Now, if she's not attracted to you, she's going to say, hell no, I would never get in. And then you kind of made a mistake because you used it at the wrong time.

10:26 So again, she's got to be like really into it. She's down to pound. OK, so you say, do you think you have what it takes? She says yes. Then you could kiss her right there and or she's going to explain to you. Then I'll challenge her even more. I'll say, no way. I can tell by looking at you. You do the helicopter tongue maneuver. You do the jackhammer tongue maneuver. You have so much saliva kissing you as akin to drowning in a pool. And she's like, no, I definitely don't.

10:52 And then you get her to explain what she does. Now, some girls won't do it. Some girls are shy, but a lot of them will, man. A lot of them absolutely will. And like I'll have her whisper in my ear or I'll tell her how I'd kiss her. Like I'll explain certain things. Like I'm just going to slightly just caress your tongue with my tongue and I'm going to hold you right here and then I'll put my hand up kind of behind her hair and I'll hold her hair and I'll whisper in her ear and I may even kiss her ear a little bit.

11:19 And then what I'll do is I'll slide down her cheek and then just brush her lips with mine and then go back up to her ear. See, this is the way to build that sexual tension. First, you want to kind of bring it up in conversation and then you kind of want to get closer. You guys are really close together and now you're whispering in her ear and she's getting goosebumps down her arm, may even kiss her neck a little bit. And then maybe you don't even kiss her, which I've done many times.

11:44 Like I'll get super close to their lips. I'll whisper in their ear and like I'll rub my lips on her neck and things like that. And then I don't kiss her. Are you kidding me? Do you think I'm going to get a text back when I've done that? Okay, another cool thing about kissing university is I'll tell her about it maybe during that first conversation or even during the first date, then we will kiss. And then my first text back to her will be like, hey, Kelly, I got some good news for you.

12:10 She's like, what's that? And you say you're kissing university grade has been tallied and it's in and she'll be like, oh, what did I get? And then you can break it up into three sections, sexiness, skill set and passion or whatever you want to talk about. And then lead her on, get her chasing, really get her into it. And then finally say, you got a grade of a B plus. And I suggest rigorous, dedicated practice to bring it up to an A. Okay. You see how gangster that is?

12:39 So kissing university, that's one really good way. The next way to do it is with what I call commonalities. These are things that you and her have in common. Okay. Say for example, you're talking and you guys are both into yoga. I know you like that yoga, bro. You rock those yoga pants where it looks like you're packing a hot dog and two grapes in your yoga pants. I know you love that downward dog, bro. Don't try to lie to me. Okay. So you're both into yoga.

13:03 When you discover that she's into yoga, what you want to do is pretend you're bummed about it. Be like, oh no, you're seriously not into yoga. Are you? She'll be like, yeah. Why do you like hate people who do yoga or something? You'd be like, no, I do yoga too. And I would be so much better than you, Kelly, that if we ever did yoga together, you get pissed off because my son's salutation is so much better than yours is. You get all butt hurt. You'd fucking hit me in the head with the yoga brick.

13:31 And then my nose would whistle for two weeks when I breathe. We definitely can't be friends. Okay. So you create a play fight and I'll tell you boys, play fighting is one of the best ways to create not only sexual tension, but tension generally and tension equals attraction. But in this way, we're going to turn it into sexual tension. Okay. So we have that play fight. It's pretend it's fun. Remember boys, girls just want to have fun and she's attracted when she's attracted. She's going to be way more likely to role play with you.

14:02 And this is why we use it when she's already attraction. Remember three to four signs of attraction. Okay. So I do the whole thing where she hits me in the head with a yoga brick and now my nose whistles when I breathe. Then I say, but you know what the good thing about fighting is, right? And she's like, what? And then I say, afterwards you get to make up. Okay. Now I have not said makeup sex, but I'm implying makeup sex and it's her job to either bite onto my lure or to ignore it and not engage with it, which means she's not ready to do so.

14:33 99% of the time she's going to say this. What? Like makeup sex? Boom. You're in boys. You're in there like a tick on a hound, dude. It's time to go into sexual tension. She's like, oh, you mean like makeup sex? And you'd be like, yeah, you know, after you get in a fight with somebody, makeup sex is usually the best sex. Like I'd probably reach up right behind here. And I love doing this guys. As I'm speaking about this, I'm like, man, I really do this all the damn time.

15:00 Reach up kind of behind their neck and the nape of their hair and kind of grab it. Now, of course, based on the conversation, based on the social permission to do so by her, where you guys are super flirty, she's super into it, she wants you to touch her, you can kind of get her hair in your hand and kind of pretend like you're grabbing onto her and then bring her close and explain how the sex is. Just be like, and we're staring at each other's eyes and it's kind of angry, but it's kind of sexy at the same time and we're just grinding on each other and we're just kind of making out and our tongues are looking at each other.

15:33 And then I just kind of bite your ear just like this and I may bite her ear, boys. So I'm explaining how the sexual tension is while we're right there in the nightclub. I've done it in bookstores. I've done it in supermarkets, man. Like talking to chicks and getting them so into it that they get really, really turned on this way. And this, by the way, is not only the way to definitely get a text back, but to have a one night stand. I like to generate as much attraction sexually as I can in the nightclub.

16:03 And I don't kiss her, by the way, because as I've talked about in other episodes, I don't like the shit where I eat and I like her to kind of have that tension that hasn't been fulfilled. And then you can yank her home and probably have sex with her. But the chances of you doing that without these sexual tension techniques is very, very low. Okay, so now you're explaining the sex and that goes on to my third point. Another way to get into what I just explained is to ask her what her sign is.

16:31 This is so goddamn cheesy, but it's so effective. So just listen to me, bro. Don't judge until you try it yourself. You ask her the same old question that everybody asks. What's your sign? Okay, she says she's a Pisces, an Aquarius, a supernova, whatever the hell she says. I don't know much about signs, but whatever. Pisces, okay? And you're like, ah, shit. And she's like, what? And you say, well, I'm an Aquarius. And Pisces and Aquariuses, there's a big issue there. And she's like, what's the issue?

16:56 You'd be like, well, they get along. Like, we get along really well, just like we are now. But apparently, like, the sex is really, really, really fucking intense. Like, so intense that people have been known to die, Kelly, when they have sex with one another. Now she knows you're kind of joking. And now, boom, you're talking about sex. Like, literally, one question, you're talking about sex. Now she's into it, hopefully, okay? And she's like, oh, yeah, it's really intense. Be like, yeah, apparently, I read this in the paper.

17:25 Apparently, Pisces and Aquarius were having sex back in Los Angeles. I guess it was like 2008, right? And they freaking blew up half the city, right? Like, fireworks, explosions. It was just really intense. So now you're talking about how, because of her science. This is so stupid, now that I'm saying it to you guys on this podcast. But when you're in set, you'll see how powerful it is. And I get emails all the time of guys who are like, yo, some of your techniques, I think, are a little cheesy.

17:51 But once I tried them, it's like magic. And I'm like, yeah, man, you know, women dictate what works on women. So don't judge the messenger here, boys. Just take it from your Uncle Mark saying this shit works, okay? So you say that them two having sex is super dangerous, but it's like really good. And I guess the orgasms are so explosive, it's going to blow a rainbow out of your ass when the concussion hits. Or however you want to go with it, just have fun with it.

18:17 Because remember, girls just want to have fun. So once again, okay, you guys are a sign where the sex is really intense. Or I'll do something similar to my yoga example, which is our signs don't get along, but the sex is really good, okay? So it's kind of a different variation of that. Like, oh, you're a Pisces? Shit, we totally can't get along. Like if we ever went out to dinner, it would be an immediate food fight. You'd be launching pickles at my face. I'd be spraying ketchup and mustard in your hair.

18:46 And I'd have to walk home with the pickle stuck to my forehead. Too much drama. And she laughs, okay? And then you say, but you know what the good thing about fighting is, right? Then boom, she says what? And you say, afterwards, you get to make up. She suggests the make up sex thing. Boom. Now you're talking about sex. All right. The next one, guys, is you have to stop that. And there's so many. I was like, which ones should I do here? I'm going to give you guys four, maybe five.

19:12 But if you want the real creme de la creme, you got to come join my program. Once again, get on that free call with me. Go to my website. Click on coaching. Fill in the click application. The next one is you got to stop doing that. You absolutely have to stop doing that because there's a little issue happening down below. Now, once again, guys, I can't stress enough. She's into it. You guys are super flirting. You just need to turn up the sexual tension a little bit.

19:36 Basically, you tell her that what she's doing is kind of giving you a little bit of a boner and she needs to stop immediately because if you get a boner that's the size of the Statue of Liberty, you may just rip the crotch out of your pants and or have to walk around like you got a damn tree trunk in your crotch. And that is super embarrassing. Okay. So not only will I do that while I'm speaking to them, but I'll also do it to get nudes.

20:01 That's right, boys. And I'll explain that in a second. Okay. So you're talking to her and you'll be like, you know what? This is getting pretty intense. I'm attracted to you, obviously. And clearly you're attracted to me, but we have a little issue going on down below. So let's just talk about politics. Who's your favorite politician? Okay. Now, obviously, boys, she's going to get excited because she's turning you on. So what is she going to do? She's going to start talking sexy to you. She's going to start touching you.

20:26 She's going to start seducing you, dancing on you, trying to turn the conversation into a sexual conversation. And then as she's doing that, you can start explaining to her what you want to do to her. One of the best things to do when you're speaking to a woman is tell her how you're going to lick her down below, how you're going to slide your tongue up the inside of her thigh and just gently cross over from the left side to the right and go all the way down to her right knee, come all the way back up.

20:56 And just once, Kelly, just once, I'm going to lick your clit so slowly and seductively, just like this. And I'll like imitate licking her clit, like even on her finger. Have you ever had a girl pretend to give you a blowjob on your index finger? It fucks you up. Well, it's the same thing when you do it to a woman. Like, I'm just going to take your thumb, like pretend there's your clit right here. I'm just going to lick it just like that. And she's like, oh my God.

21:22 And she's going to start dancing on your leg and leave a snail trail on your leg because you're such a goddamn champion. So once again, you tell her that if she doesn't stop doing what she's doing, you're going to get a boner the size of the Sears Tower and you don't want to have to walk around the venue with a tent in your pants. So you kindly request that she stop her behavior. Then what's she going to do? She's going to do it even more. Now, here's how you get nudes is you do something similar to this, but over texting.

21:49 And I really should do a dedicated podcast episode on this, and I certainly will. So I'm just going to keep it to the basics on this one and save the good stuff for that episode. But you basically tell her that as you're texting with her, you're in a public environment and she better stop doing what she's doing because it's giving you a boner the size of the Statue of Liberty. I'm currently at Starbucks. I'm sitting at a table and the table is lifting and spilling my coffee because you're giving me a boner right now with what you're talking about.

22:18 What's she going to do, boys? She's going to send you nude pictures of herself. I've gotten girls to do this so many times by telling somebody, no, don't do that. You better stop because it's creating an embarrassing situation for me. Can you see why that would motivate them to want to further exacerbate the situation? And she's going to send you nudes in order to do that. And you can hint at it too. I mean, it may look a little obvious, but you could be like, yo, you got, we got to stop talking like this.

22:46 I'm getting a boner. The goddamn table is about to tip over. This is super embarrassing. So if you keep talking like this, or for God's sakes, if you sent me a picture or something like that, it would be absolutely over. Then what happens? Bing! The picture comes in every fucking time. See, this is human psychology. Sometimes you got to use that reverse psychology by telling a girl, no, don't do that. And then she's going to do it. That works really well to nudes. All right. This episode is getting a little long.

23:13 So I'm going to go ahead and wrap it up with one of my first kiss techniques. You tell a girl, you do this one thing that's so cute, but I don't want to tell you what it is because then you'll stop doing it. God, that's gangster. I don't even know where I came up with that shit, but it's so gangster. You do this one thing that's so cute, but I don't want to tell you what it is because then you'll stop doing it. She's like, come on, come on.

23:34 You have to tell me. And you say, all right, I'll tell you. But you have to pinky swear that after I tell you, you don't stop doing this thing because it's so fucking cute, Kelly. She's like, I pinky swear. So you lock up the pinkies as you pinky swear. Then you go ahead and pull her in, rotate her cuff. And there she is right in next to you. And you can whisper in her ear. Then what you do is you give her a non-typical compliment. By saying something that nobody else says to her.

24:01 What I say is so fucking stupid. I say this to every single girl. Ah, it's really bad. And no girl's ever really caught me. The reason why I use the same one is because I have a bad memory. And I frankly don't want to come up with a new compliment for every single girl because I'm lazy. So I just use the same compliment. I tell her after she laughs, she gets the cutest little wink in her left eye. I've said that to 64,363 girls and never been caught by saying that she doesn't do it because she's sexual.

24:30 She wants to get into it. So I'm like, after you smile, you get the cutest little wink in your left eye. And every time you do that, my knee just want to go out and I want to fall on the ground. And then she's going to be like, hey. And then what you do is the old slide and kiss, boys, from her ear, you slide your lips down and you kiss her. After you kiss her, she's going to smile. And then you say, oh, you just did the wink again.

24:55 You kept your promise. You didn't stop doing it. Gangster level shit, dude. Oh my God. Man, the genius that comes out of this podcast sometimes. So once again, boys, four different ways. Commonality into a play fight. Your signs mean you are compatible sexually or you aren't compatible into a play fight there. Next one is tell her not to do that thing because it's giving you a boner the size of the Eiffel Tower. And then the fourth one is the slide and kiss. You do this one thing that's so cute, Kelly, but I don't want to tell you what it is because then you'll stop doing it.

25:27 She's going to be like, tell me, tell me. Pinky swear you won't stop. I pinky swear. Pull her in. Whisper the non-typical compliment in her ear. The one about she blinks her left eye a little bit and it's so cute. Then slide and kiss, boys. That's what the fuck I'm talking about. All right, gentlemen, if you enjoyed this content, I'd very much appreciate a review, preferably a five-star review with some writing behind it. If you'd like to get on a free one-on-one breakthrough session with me, one, two, you know what to do.

25:56 Go to my website, fill in the quick application, press submit, and you and I will get on that one-on-one call together. Brothers, I salute you for listening. I really do appreciate it. I know how valuable your time is. The fact that you spent almost 30 minutes with me today does not go unnoticed. I really, really appreciate it. If you leave me a review, I'm going to send you a bunch of cool shit. If you come join my program, you are going to get a result just like Paul did because I give my blood, sweat, and tears to my clients.

26:27 I am wholeheartedly committed to getting every single one of you guys the results that you strongly desire with women. If you just reach out to me, I would love nothing more than to show you what I can do for your dating life. I got another awesome episode about with-it-ness dropping on Thursday, boys, so please stay tuned for that one and I will see you in the next episode.

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