How to Get 9s and 10s (FIVE STEPS to Find & Attract the Hottest Girls Out Thurr)

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0:48 I'm going to teach you how to pull nines and tens. That's right, bro. Nines and tens in your bed. That is the ultimate objective of today's podcast. Before I jump into the content, I want to let you guys know that I just added a bunch of testimonials to my sales page. Yes, I already had more testimonials on there than one could possibly believe, but I've added even more so that by the time you scroll to the bottom of them, your finger will be in the hurt locker.

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3:32 You know it. I know it. Hell, even I know it. That's how certain I am about it. All right. So how to pull nines and tens. All right. Let's go ahead and jump into the content. All right. So first of all, boys, let's go ahead and cool your jets a little bit about what you're giving nines and tens to. I see this all the time. My clients are like, bro, I met a bonafide 10 and they sent me a picture and it's some sea donkey with a muffin top and a camel toe and hair so thin.

3:58 It looks like that of a flowing Chinese man. Relax, guys, with what you're giving tens to. Jesus. A nine is a girl who's basically in Playboy magazine, Maxim magazine. Okay. That's about nine. And then tens is like you see one maybe every six months. Okay. So let's go easy on it. Most of the chicks you guys are sending me are seven and eights. I'm not trying to brag and say I've been with tens. Although I have, I'm just saying like, let's go ahead and ease off a little bit.

4:26 Get the foot off the gas when you guys are fucking congratulating yourself about these girls that you're pulling. So when it comes to nines and tens, here's my opinion about it. Okay. So nines are basically getting paid for their beauty. If you're that hot, why in the hell would you do anything else rather than just sitting around and getting paid for being hot? So typically these are the girls that are promotional models, runway models, chicks you see in the magazines, fashion models, chicks like this. Okay.

4:51 And, and sometimes occasionally you'll meet a nine who is, you know, a dental hygienist or in my case, my girlfriend's super fucking hot, but she's in the corporate world. Very, very rare. And the reason she did that, she did a lot of modeling and promotional stuff, you know, throughout her life, but now she's in her career because she's a go getter. So usually these chicks are getting paid for their hotness. And in my opinion, a 10 is a girl that when you see her, you puke, you literally, you, you can't hold it in, man.

5:20 It just gets, it just gets you. That's when you know, it's a 10. And what I personally feel, if we're going to go ahead and carry on this nine and 10 debate, a 10 is basically a nine who's just your type. So it kind of gets a little weird. It gets a little nebulous. Like what I think is a 10 definitely isn't what a lot of you think your 10s, because for some reason, a lot of you boys like those chicks that are thick. Oh, I hate that, man. I like a nice tight ass, a thigh gap, a nice flat tummy.

5:49 I like them thin, man. I guess I was just raised in the nineties or something. Cause that's the way I like them. In fact, it was funny tonight. I walked into the kitchen and Marissa was wearing some black tights and I was like, dude, I love how you have that little tight ass and the thigh gap. So she leans over and she sticks her head between her legs and she's like, surprise. And it was, it was pretty funny. So what you think, like those thick chicks, Oh God, like you want a big fat ass.

6:12 I have clients tell me they're like, bro, I just want some thick fat ass. And I'm like, why dude? I don't get that. It's just like when you're fucking her, it's just like you hit one cheek and then the wave goes across to the other cheek and you can grab your surfboard and surf that shit. If she wears a Malcolm X shirt, helicopters are going to land on her back. No, thank you. Not my style. I like them thin. A girl should be fragile, small, feminine, just my opinion.

6:36 But once again, you see a 10, you should be puking automatically. That's how we define them. So how are you going to pull this girl? First of all, don't puke in front of her. That's rule number one. Second of all, and I need to say this, you guys, nines and tens are not going to be found on the online dating platforms. Okay. So one thing I want to really warn you about all the nines and tens, those super hot girls that you're seeing on the dating platforms, those profiles are fucking fake.

7:03 And if they are real, they're just there for attention. Ask yourself, why the hell would a bonafide nine or 10? I'm talking a real nine or 10 have to be on the online dating platforms. I mean, I've met a couple. Okay. I'm not going to say they don't exist. I've met a couple. One was in dental school. She had absolutely no time to do anything else. So she put up a profile like, dude, so many guys hit her up and I happened to be one of them. I slipped through, got a date with her and then made her my girlfriend for a while.

7:32 But I'm telling you guys, if you want to get nines and tens, you are not going to find them on the dating sites. They have better things to do. They're getting paid for their hotness. So I want you to kind of let go of the dating sites a little bit. What the dating sites are good for is practice. When you guys first start, I get you on all the dating sites. I tell you what to text these chicks, how to talk with them to give you practice running your game, understanding how texting works, understanding gambits, understanding how to build attraction, qualify, how to get them on dates.

8:01 That's all important. But ultimately, it's a lifestyle thing in order to get nines and tens. Okay, even me, as much game as I have, can I go up to a solid nine or a 10 who I happen to see at the mall and pull her? Yes, but it's a lot more difficult than the way I'm going to explain to you. In order to get nines and tens, you have to have a certain amount of things in place in order to pull them. Unless you're spitting just mean game, you hit it off really well with her, you just do a flawless execution, communicating all those high value things that I talk about ad nauseam in this podcast, maybe you can pull her number.

8:37 But I'm telling you, when you have these other things in place that I'm going to talk about, there's a much higher chance to pull her. And all the tens that I've gotten, and once again, a 10 is a nine who I've deemed a 10 because she's just so ridiculously my type, they've come from social circle game, from me being in the alpha position, which I'm going to talk about here. Okay, so before I do, I want to get to number two. You have to believe, and this is so huge, bro.

9:01 I want you to shut the hell up. Stop what you're doing. You there on the Stairmaster. Get off the, bro, Stairmaster? Really? You're on the Stairmaster? Come on, bro, that's for girls. Go jack some weights, motherfucker. Go bench press. Go do some squats. Come on, get off of there, you little butt cheek going back and forth. Please. Get off the Stairmaster and listen to what I'm about to tell you. You guys, get this through your thick fucking skull. You have to believe you're a 10 before you can pull a 10.

9:28 You have to believe you are the catch of the century, that you are a champion, that you are a legend, immortalized in the flesh of you who is walking this earth. Literally, you have to believe you're a 10. Why? Because if you believe that you're less than she is, and you're idolizing her in your mind, and you still know all the techniques, all the premise not to idolize her to her personally, you're still going to sub-communicate it. She's still going to be able to tell. Here's one of the biggest epiphanies I ever had when it comes to nines and tens.

10:01 If you could just be normal, as normal as you are right now, maybe you're on the couch with a bag of chips. Maybe you're walking down the street and you're not threatened. Maybe you're fill in the blank, whatever it is, driving, and you're completely relaxed listening to me. That way you are right now. If you could just act that way in front of a 10, you'll probably pull her. Not only because it communicates that you too believe you're on her level, but also because so many guys, 99% of them, can't hold their shit together when they're talking to a super hot girl.

10:34 They get these little insecure mannerisms, these little movements, this little giggle in their voice. They have a supplicatory tone in their voice that communicates, I don't think I'm enough for you. And because of that, she's not going to get attracted to you. So a lot of people hire me and they're like, bro, I want nines and tens. I just want, I just want girls, man. I just want girls, nines and tens. And I'm like, okay, how much do you want to grow? And they're like, yeah, I want to grow, but bro, I want those nines and tens.

10:59 I'm like, dude, you have to make gross your prime directive in order to pull a girl like that. Because if you want a girl like that, you have to build yourself up to be able to be and have and keep. Don't forget keeping a girl like that. And how do you keep a girl like that? You need to be on a level telling you relationships where one person feels they're superior to the other, whether it be through looks or through game or whatever it is, never work out.

11:25 You guys need to be pretty much on the same level, even if just mentally. So meaning your own belief in your own level of game, like Marissa thing, she's a 10. I think I'm a 10. So we, we've hit it off, right? I do. I think I'm a 10 and I want you to think that too. Am I perfect looking? Fuck no, dude. I got a schnoz that's so big. I could smell the coffee of my neighbor's house early in the morning. I'm not good looking by any means.

11:50 I'm all right. I'm all right. I guess I'm probably like on look scale, maybe an eight, but I believe I'm a 10 because of how much I've worked on myself, my personality, my game, my ambition, my masculinity. And you can think you're a 10 too. It doesn't have to do with looks. It has to do with you as a man. And listen, you can start feeling like a 10 right now. Just start telling yourself I'm a 10. Yeah. At first it'll feel like a lie, but eventually you'll begin to believe it.

12:16 And when you do watch what happens, this is the only way to get her a nine or a 10 is you have to believe that you're a nine or a 10. All right. Number three is what I call the alpha role. And it also has to do with something that I teach in my coaching program is filling the top of your pipeline with tons of girls. And you're in the alpha position. When you come join my three month coaching program, it's not a bunch of theory. It's not only NLP and fixing your brain.

12:43 The premise is to get girls into your life now and a shit ton of them because from quantity comes quality. I want you guys dating a lot of girls, getting a lot of experience, fill in the top of your pipeline with plenty of chicks so that the good ones come out the bottom. And as I've said in previous podcasts, when you're dating four girls, you behave perfectly with all four girls because you don't give a shit what happens. If you have one night is, which means getting stuck on one girl, being obsessed with her.

13:10 She's going to feel that from you. So when you're trying to get nines and tens, I'm telling you, you have to be in a position where you're in the alpha role compared to these nines and tens. Okay. This is why every time you see a guy who's really good at a sport, his girlfriend is super fucking hot. I'm really into supercross. And if you're not into supercross, you should punch yourself in the face so hard you fly upward through a skylight. Supercross is dirt bike racing in stadiums.

13:36 It's the sickest fucking thing I've ever seen in my life. The best sport ever. Songs will be written about this sport that will be sung around campfires for generations to come. If you're not into it, you have to fucking YouTube supercross S U P E R C R O S S and behold the majesty that is about to unfold on your screen. The sickest shit ever. Well, there's this one guy. He's a two 50 rider, 250 CC motorcycle. His name is Austin Forkner. Okay. This guy has acne all over his face.

14:05 He's a skinny little Kansas kid who couldn't pull a girl if he was in a Tijuana whorehouse with a hundred dollar bill strapped to his penis, but he's an awesome dirt bike rider. And he looks so sick when he's out on the track, he just fucking kills it. So he pulls this girl, right? This monster energy model, solid nine, this fucking blonde. You can even look him up on Google. Austin Forkner girlfriend, solid nine. Why did he pull her? Because he's in the alpha position and he's the super cross star where he has tons of value.

14:35 And then she just fell into his lap. Well, it's funny. He was interviewed. Oh my God, bro. This made me laugh so hard. He's interviewed and this dude's asking him questions and the interviewer is like a cool guy. Like we are. He's like, Hey, your girlfriend, man, how'd you pull that? And he looks at the guy. He's like, I don't know. I was laughing so hard, bro. I showed all my clients that I was fucking on the ground laughing because like, he doesn't know how he pulled it.

15:00 And I'm telling you how he pulled it is he had so much retardedly high value. And because he had high value, by the way, he holds himself in a certain way. And guys who are superstars, I see this with elite athletes, actors, they have that vibe about them that you can get when you get lots of experience with girls. There's a certain it factor that guys who are attractive to women get when they've had lots of experience with girls. I dare say I have that myself so that when I walk into a restaurant, I'm like, yeah, table for two.

15:31 The chicks at the hostess bar are checking me out because it's that vibe. Well, to get that vibe, you got to put yourself in the alpha position. Okay. I cannot stress this enough. Yes, you can go up to a nine or a 10 in the mall, spit some game and get her. But the chances of you doing that pale in comparison when you put yourself in an alpha position. What is an alpha position? You ask bartender, DJ. I was a bouncer being in a rock band, being an athlete, being even a professor, a teacher, a scuba instructor, a yoga instructor.

16:04 Those guys get more asked than a toilet seat. So when you put yourself in that alpha position, that means that you're the leader and women are attracted to the leader. This goes back to tribal mentality. Women are attracted to the leader of the tribe because the leader of the tribe has a high survivability rate, doesn't he? He takes care of the tribe. He's able to survive. He ascended to the top of his station because he's socially savvy. He's a good communicator. He's decisive. He's ambitious. He's confident.

16:35 All the attributes that women are attracted to allow you to ascend into these alpha positions. Well, the reason why we're attracted to 10s is because 10s have signals that they can have a healthy baby. That's literally all it is. Beautiful hair, beautiful face, beautiful skin, nice hip to breast ratio, right? All the things that communicate health. So she's going to have a healthy baby. So to get a girl who's that hot, who has all those health signs, you need to prove to her that you have the equal status to her by being the leader of men.

17:08 Now, you can also do this in social circle by having hot friends with you, by being the dude, by being the leader. And this is something I teach to some clients who are interested in doing it. If you're interested in being that guy, we could take you down that road. If you're just a Joe Schmo, just trying to live your life, there's other roads to go down. Okay. Me, for example, I was a bouncer. Is bouncer really a high status thing in society? No, it's a low status thing.

17:35 But to girls, it's a high status thing because you're the protector of the club, the environment that she likes to go to, to have fun. You're like the leader of it. You're like the bodyguard. And that's extremely attractive. I was literally at the time I was a bouncer getting paid 11 bucks an hour, wearing a dirty red shirt that's at staff on the back. And bro, I would get nines and tens all the time because I had status. And because I had status in that environment, I was technically in her eyes up to her level.

18:03 I also believed that I was a 10. I also spat mean game. I wasn't intimidated by her because I was already talking to five other chicks. So all those things lined up in order for me to get her. When you guys hire me and ask me, Mark, what are the four magic words that'll make a girl jump in the air and jump on my dick? And by the way, she has to be a solid 10. How can I just get tens? What do I say? What do I do?

18:25 I don't know how to talk to them, bro. It goes deeper than that. It's working on yourself and creating a social situation. Where you are in the alpha role. I cannot tell you how important that is. You have to be the leader of men. When you're the leader of men, women will follow. Now, this also includes being in groups where there's hot girls. Because when you're in a group where there's hot girls, you're kind of in the in crowd. You see, I've dealt with a lot of hot girls.

18:54 My girlfriend happens to be one. And their reality is completely different than yours and mine is. Basically, their reality is everybody's trying to get something from them. Everybody treats them differently because of how they look. Everybody feels disingenuous to them. Everybody is having a second motive when it comes to them. It's like being rich. You don't know if these people are really your friends. You don't know if these people are being nice to you because you're rich or because they really like you. It's like the life of Kim Jong-un, right?

19:23 He doesn't know if he has any true friends. He really doesn't. It's the same exact reality when you have a really hot chick. So what does a hot chick do? She hangs out with other hot chicks who are in her reality. And when you have a guy who's already been accepted by a hot chick, she knows that that guy is pre-selected to be socially savvy enough to hang out with that girl. Therefore, he's on her level. So being in groups with these hot girls is a prerequisite to getting them.

19:53 And this goes into my next point, pre-selection. When you have hot girls with you, you're going to have hot girls. Now, my final point, step five, how do you get hot girls around you? How do you get into these situations? Okay, well, as I explained, you can simply get a job like I did. Learn game. You got to fix the bullshit in your head. I mean, that's an absolute prerequisite. Like, guys, seriously, if you want to get her a nine or a 10 and you're just listening to podcasts and trying to get all this information for free, not to hate on you or anything, but bro, I mean, come on.

20:22 Maybe after 10 years of working on yourself and like searching YouTube over and listening to every self-help video and getting all the free stuff you possibly can will get you there. But in my opinion, bro, you need to get intrusive with that shit. NLP is what I do, Neuro Linguistic Programming. I go in there and I give you the beliefs of a 10 so that you can believe you are a 10 so you can pull a 10. A lot of guys are just like, dude, I just want to get 10.

20:47 Just tell me what to do, bro. You're delusional. I hate to fucking tell you, but you're delusional. And you know what? If your coaches are going to be up front with you, then who the hell will be? It's my job to tell you how it really is. Bro, you need to do a lot of work on yourself. You need to put yourself in those situations. You need to become socially savvy, a good communicator, a fucking closer, a closer. Are you a closer? Do you believe you're a 10?

21:12 Do you know how to get into situations where there's hot girls all around you? This is what the coaching program will give you. And this is why I offer it to champions like you. Let's get on the phone together, bro. Let's talk about this dream of yours to have a solid 10 on her back in your bed with her leg spread, begging you to put it inside of her. I know that's what you want, man. I know that's what you want. Are you willing to do what it takes to get her?

21:34 If not, hey, fine. I understand. But to you guys who are like, bro, I want a 10. How bad do you want that 10? Are you willing to do everything I just explained? Now that begs the question, how do I build up to that? Exactly those words, build up to it. First, you get good with sevens. Then you get good with eights. Then you get good with nines. Then you get good with tens. Just like anything else, man. You want to get to the major leagues? Because a 10 is the major leagues.

22:00 Tens are major leagues. They're paid for their hotness. Just like a major leaguer has played for his skill on the baseball field. A 10 is a major leaguer. So you got to go through the minors. You got to go through AAA. You got to get so many at-bats, so many reps in that it just becomes second nature. Going back to Supercross, Ricky Carmichael is a five-time champion. He said he'd go to the track on the weekends with a five-gallon jug of gas and burn through the entire thing before he let himself go home.

22:29 Do you know how little gas motorcycles use? He must have been there for 16 hours, man. Practicing lap after lap after lap. That's what it takes. That's what it takes to get that good to pull a 10. But I'll tell you this, when you reprogram your brain, you fucking do a black hole shortcut to get there even quicker. In my course, I have you doing reps in a very safe way. And I'll tell you this, all those reps I've done, all the openings I've done, all the work I've done, NLP, all the communication skills I have, the sales skills I have, everything that I've developed in myself in order to get 10s has paid off in every other way of my life.

23:10 I am happier, I'm a better communicator, I have a great relationship, I'm making the money I want to make, it is worth it, bro. And if you need to be motivated by a 10 to get there, it's fine with me. That's absolutely fine with me. It's part of the big reason I do this niche is because I know those 10s are super motivating because a man's sexuality is one of the most motivating factors in his life. That's fuel for the fire. So I'm going to use that fuel and get you to a place where you can become the best version of yourself, where you look in the mirror and you're like, bro, I don't even need girls because I love myself.

23:43 I'm growth oriented. All I want to do is grow. And you look at yourself and you're like, yeah, dude, I am a 10. I'm a champion. I love you, bro. I love you. How many times have you said that to yourself? That's what a 10 does. And when you feel like you're a 10, you love yourself, you're happy with yourself. That's where happiness is. That's where peace lies in accepting you. And if you have to be motivated by nines and tens to get there, I'm cool with that. I'm fine with that.

24:08 But all the empty promises of simply spitting game in a certain way and getting these girls is an illusion. It just doesn't work that way. You have to improve the mechanism. You have to fix yourself. You have to feel like a 10 and really believe it. Really believe it. So that's the way to get it, boys. The first thing is you're not going to find them on the dating apps. Sorry for the bad news. The next time you see a super hot girl and she doesn't reply to you, it's a fake account.

24:32 Don't take it personally. It's not even real. Second one, you have to believe that you're a 10. Three, put yourself in situations where you're in the alpha role. Four, you have to build up to get there. And five is pre-selection. When you're in the group, you get to be in the group. And remember, people want what people want. It's a very basic psychological principle. When girls want you, more girls will want you. So what do you do? You show up with hot girls. This is the way you get 9s and 10s.

25:00 I'm not going to bullshit you. It takes a lot of work. But you know what? Getting the 7s and the 8s on the way there. 8s are pretty hot, man. You know, 8s are a damn hot girl. And getting 8s is easier. It is easier. And it's fun. And you build up to get the 9s and the 10s. But I'll tell you what, boy. When you got a fucking 9 or a 10 in your bed, there's just nothing better than that feeling. There's nothing better than she's just so sexy and she's into you.

25:26 I mean, you guys all watch a lot of porn. You know what that's like, at least virtually. Just imagine that for real. Can you get that? Yes. Yes, you can get that. It's going to take work. It's going to take commitment. It's going to take sacrifice. It's going to take courage. Do you have the courage to do it? Or are you going to end up on your deathbed saying, man, I never had a 9 or a 10? Why? Because I don't know. I was too scared. I didn't have the balls to do it.

25:49 I don't know about you, bro. But I refuse to get to the end of my life and experience that reality. And that's why I did what I did, which was to become the very best version of myself I could be. I did it so you can do it too. Trust me. If I did it, you guys could do it too. Guaranteed all day long and twice on Sunday. Now, after this, your job is to go look up Supercross on YouTube. Behold the majesty of the epicness.

26:13 A couple of facts about Supercross. These guys are literally the most fit athletes of any sport. Yes, even soccer. These guys are the fittest. You use every muscle group. It is the most physically taxing. These guys are also the most mentally strong. I respect them so much, man. I just absolutely love Supercross. And I think you guys will enjoy it too. If you want to get on that one-on-one free consultation with me, where I can give you the no BS truth about what I believe it'll take for you.

26:40 That's right. You, bro. To get the results that you want, sign up at my website, CoachMarkSingh.com. Click on coaching and blah, you and I will meet. In the meantime, boys, keep trying to improve yourself. You can get those nines and tens. You can literally have any girl you want. It's just about what you're willing to do to make it happen. Don't get to the end of your life and ask yourself, what if, to me, that there is hell incarnate. All right, gentlemen, I got another awesome one dropping on Friday.

27:09 So stay tuned for that. And I will see you in the next episode. I'll see you in the next episode. I'll see you in the next episode.

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